People Dish on the Best Way to Start a Conversation With Your Crush

Having a crush on someone is delightfully painful in all of the best possible ways. It usually doesn’t end that well, but as you get older, you realize that’s okay – sometimes it’s better to have the illusion of something than the reality, after all.

If you’re wanting to shoot your shot with your crush but aren’t sure how to start the conversation, here are 16 suggestions from people who have been there.

15. Learning more about them is always a great way to start.

Ask them about their hobbies/passions/interests.

Not only will you learn more about them but it will make them happy and enjoy your company more.

People like talking about things they love.

I could talk about sewing and beekeeping all day.

14. If you’re looking for a certain type of person.

Who was your favorite figure that contributed to the fall of the Byzantine Empire?

13. That’s how you know whether to walk away.

Ask 3 questions

Ask them what they have done today

Ask a follow up question or relate it back to something if you can before asking a follow up (Did it take long? I use to do insert what crush did here. Was it difficult?)

If they gave an answer longer than a sentence, then ask them a question about themselves but have this set up beforehand depending on how long you have known this individual.

If they give a sentence answer, try another follow up question.

If they give one to two word answers, it means they’re either busy or not interested so you’re shit out of luck.

12. I can actually see how this could lead to a fairly hilarious conversation.

I don’t like sand.

11. To be fair, that’s an interesting topic.

A few years ago I ran into my crush and the only thing I could think to ask him about was to ask how much he knew about squatters rights law.

We’re married now. 10/10 would recommend this channel of discussion.

10. Anyone who can’t sympathize isn’t worth your time.

You heard about Pluto? It’s messed up, right?

9. Not enough people get asked this question as adults.

What is your favorite dinosaur?

8. You need to know right away what sort of person you’re dealing with.

Do you like cheese?

7. Listen – what a novel idea!

Compliment them on something they’ve accomplished not a physical trait they were born with. For example, don’t compliment their eyes but rather their running ability or singing etc. Then say you wanted to get to know them better. And then ask questions and listen. Good luck!

6. Things are classics for a reason.

How u doin’.

5. …so maybe we could watch the show together sometime?

“i wish they taught us more about vikings”

4. Go with what we all have in common.

Idk, I matched with a girl on Tinder and simply opened up with “How’s the apocalypse going?” and we had an amazing conversation.

3. Only use this if you’re a Psycho… ?

Do you like Phil Collins? I’ve been a big Genesis fan ever since the release of their 1980 album, Duke. Before that, I really didn’t understand any of their work. Too artsy, too intellectual. It was on Duke where Phil Collins’ presence became more apparent. I think Invisible Touch was the group’s undisputed masterpiece. It’s an epic meditation on intangibility. At the same time, it deepens and enriches the meaning of the preceding three albums. Christy, take off your robe. Listen to the brilliant ensemble playing of Banks, Collins and Rutherford. You can practically hear every nuance of every instrument. Sabrina, remove your dress. In terms of lyrical craftsmanship, the sheer songwriting, this album hits a new peak of professionalism. Sabrina, why don’t you, uh, dance a little. Take the lyrics to Land of Confusion. In this song, Phil Collins addresses the problems of abusive political authority. In Too Deep is the most moving pop song of the 1980s, about monogamy and commitment. The song is extremely uplifting. Their lyrics are as positive and affirmative as anything I’ve heard in rock. Christy, get down on your knees so Sabrina can see your asshole. Phil Collins’ solo career seems to be more commercial and therefore more satisfying, in a narrower way. Especially songs like In the Air Tonight and Against All Odds. Sabrina, don’t just stare at it, eat it. But I also think Phil Collins works best within the confines of the group, than as a solo artist, and I stress the word artist. This is Sussudio, a great, great song, a personal favorite.

2. If this works just go ahead and propose.

Wanna see my Gundam collection?

1. It’s tried and true for a reason.

What music do you listen to?

If you can establish some common ground, you have an excuse for conversation whenever a new album you both like is released.

Ah, these take me back to the exciting/terrifying days of being single!

Do you think any of these would work? Do you have any tried-and-true approaches that do? Share with us in the comments!

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Have You Ever Been Dumped For a Dumb Reason? These People Have!

Breaking up is hard…and I guess having an actual reason to do it is also hard to find, for some people.

I refuse to believe these 14 reasons are real and not just something people made up to avoid talking about the real, actual reasons they needed to get away from their current partner.

14. He obviously hasn’t spent much time with actual ladies.

Actually had a guy dump me because I’m a carpenter, and according to him, it’s just not lady like

13. So…was it too late?

I was dating a guy whose parents didn’t like me. It was a long distance relationship, and so we mostly chatted online but also made occasional phone calls. So we were talking on the phone, and at one point I said, “You shouldn’t have to choose between me and your parents…” The conversation continued, we decided to break up. We stayed friends. Something like 10 years later, we were talking online when the subject of our breakup came up. Turns out he thought I had said, “You should have to choose between me and your parents…” and decided that he wasn’t going to do that. I would never give someone that kind of ultimatum, that would be ridiculous. It blew my mind that a single misheard word caused us to break up, and we didn’t realize it for 10 years.

12. I think this is a perfectly good reason tbh.

When I was 12 we played spin the bottle and i made a kissy “mwah” sound before we kissed. An hour later she sent her best friend to my soccer game to break up with me.

11. Another misunderstanding!

I was dating a girl in college. After a month or so I told her that I loved hanging out. We were out somewhere and she looked at me funny but smiled and we carried on with the date. Not long after she suddenly has issues meeting up and I eventually hear through a friend of hers she doesn’t think it’ll work out. I decide not to pursue the issue even though I thought things were going great.

Roll on 6 odd years later, bump into each other. Long conversation later it turns out she thought I had said I loved her and she thought it was all too soon and panicked etc. So could of all be averted if we had a conversation about it but nevermind.

10. Wow what have you done to anger God, my friend?

“God told me not to date you. I’m sorry.”

And guess what: this happened TWICE.

(With two different girls)

9. I’m not sure exactly what to make of any of this.

Not dumped, but shut down.

I asked her out and she sort of freaked. “Like…on a date? A date-date?! Oh shit…I want to say yes, but I can’t. Every time I’ve dated a guy I liked we ended up hating each other. But I want to, but I can’t. So….I know! You’re my gay friend! I can’t date you, because you’re gay! Awesome! I have a gay friend now! Oh shit, I’m late for class! Bye!”.

I was like “What…..what the fuck just happened?”. The other people of our social group were similarly confused.

8. Monster.

I said love you, she got mad I forgot the I.

7. Imagine breaking up over dinosaurs.

Starting dating this girl. She’s like 29 with a Master’s degree, really sweet and cute, so I’m excited about the potential. On our 3rd date we were driving to a late night event at a science museum and she asked what I was most excited about seeing and I said I’ve always enjoyed the dinosaur fossils and she said “…..oh.” and got real quiet.

After 5 seconds of silence I asked if she didn’t like dinosaurs or something and she said “It’s not that. It’s more than….well…..I’m not sure how I feel about dinosaurs.” Which led me to ask “Um…by feel….you mean, you…?” And she said “Well, I’m just not sure if they are real.” (*Beat* I look over quizzically.) She continues “Like, they’re not mentioned in the Bible, so I don’t know if they existed.” I tried to get through the night and to be fair there were some decent jokes. When we walked into the natural sciences wing there was a picture of Darwin on the wall and she said “Hey look, there’s your best friend,” and later we were standing in front of a a skeleton of a raccoon and I said “So just to be clear. Your position on raccoons is….yes….no…….maybe?”

She was a pretty nice girl and we had fun on the first two dates, so I tried to tough it out, but the dinosaur thing just ate at me for days. Like a week later I called her from the office and this was our conversation:

Me: “Look, we gotta talk. I don’t think this is going to work for me.”
(10 seconds of silence)
Her: “……..it’s the dinosaur thing, isn’t it?”
Me: “Yeah. Yeah……it’s the dinosaur thing.”

6. What a psychopath.

“Dumped” might be extreme, but on a first date, girl asked me to go buy her popcorn literally as the movie started, so I did, whispered as I was getting up, “you want butter on that?”.

Brought it back and she says, “Is there butter on this?” I said, “yes, I asked and you said ‘yeah’” and she said, “no, I specifically said, ‘nah’”…

I thought she was joking or something, it was like a Seinfeld bit. So I said, “Well, maybe this just isn’t going to work out.”

And she said, “I think you’re right. Thanks for nothing.”

And fucking left.

But she took my popcorn. She should have thanked me for fucking that.

Uggg.

5. That’s…something.

I wish I still had the text … Long story short. She was mad I DIDN’T grab her ass … In public.. On our first date.

4. No good deed goes unpunished.

Apparently I gave her too much anxiety when I bought her a coffee that one morning and she broke up with me the same week

Edit: I gave her the drink in front of my locker in high school before class started. but I didn’t buy her a coffee it was a hot chocolate. Where I’m from in Canada getting someone a “coffee” can mean just any drink. I got her a hot chocolate cuz she was a picky eater and didn’t like coffee or tea. But I liked her and wanted to surprise her with a warm drink on that cold day.

3. High school boys. Smdh.

Not me but one of my friends who’s a senior in high school got dumped by her boyfriend who she dated for almost 2 years. He dumped her because he didn’t want to go to the school dance. A few days later he texted her to tell her that he wanted to get back together but she declined. He could have just told her that he didn’t want to go and still be her with her or just go to the stupid dance.

2. Talk about bad timing…

“I’m not ready for a relationship”. I thought it was a bad time to bring that up since we were engaged and had been together for almost 2 years.

1. Bamboozled is like the only word for that.

Same, was talking to this girl, I (f) tell her that I’m a Gemini bc she asked me my sign, she then asked me my moon and rising signs which are also geminis, she blocked me on the spot after like 4 months of going out and talking, bamboozled to this day

I mean, come on – grow some balls and tell them the real reason…but if these are the real reasons, maybe grow a brain instead.

What’s the dumbest or strangest reason someone broke up with you? Share it with us in the comments!

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People Give Advice on How to Strike up a Conversation With Your Crush

It can be difficult to approach someone you like, whether it’s a crush you’ve had for a while or someone you’ve spotted from across the room. Pickup lines are great…if they work.

If you don’t have a good one of your own and don’t want to fall back on cliches, check out these 14 pieces of advice (of varying degrees of seriousness, of course – this is Reddit!).

14. It’s a Sith legend, let me tell you about it.

Have you ever heard the tragedy of Darth Plagueis, the Wise?

13. Definitely avoid yes or no questions.

Presumably you already run in some circles with and/or know something of the interests of your crush.

When asking about your crush’s interests, avoid yes/no questions or list requests; instead, ask for explanations, insights or stories.

For example, rather than ask what your crush’s favorite movies or musicians are, ask how your crush became interested in a certain kind of music or the movies of a certain director or actor.

12. Definitely a good one right now.

What TV shows are you watching right now?

11. I’m pretty sure this is the premise of a Seinfeld episode.

capitalism or communism?. So you know what you’re dealing with

10. Like a job interview, but worse.

Step 1: Ask him/her what their biggest flaw is

Step 2: Interrupt him/her with something you think is lackluster.

Step 3: Offer several recommendations to fix said flaw

9. The question is fun, and the answer could actually tell you a lot about a person!

I do questions similar to a voight kompff test.

You receive a windfall of money, and can go on any trip anywhere in the world for a month. Where do you go and what do you do?

8. If you want to date someone who can bullshit like mad.

Take any object and debate on whether it’s a salad, a soup, or a sandwich

7. Do you like jazz?

Depending on the response you know everything you need to know. If they like jazz and/or if they like the Bee Movie. What more do you need to know.

6. This sounds…kinda douchey.

I’d always jokingly ask if she missed me. This annoys her so much she asks me something in return.

Cue a nice, old casual conversation between the two of us that usually lasts half an hour as that’s the time it takes for the next student to arrive and, depending on who it is, either joins the conversation, doesn’t care, or drags one of us away.

5. It must be a match made in heaven.

So we both got buckets of chicken…

4. This is such a hard question to answer.

Top 4 favorite movies of all time, it’s the best when it’s a movie you wouldn’t really expect from them or haven’t heard of.

3. All valid questions if you ask me.

What is your name?

What is your quest?

What is the air speed velocity of an unladen swallow?

2. I feel like this could go either way.

If she/he is quite attractive, during a conversation that involves a bit of more in-depth talk, like aspirations and what not, find a good way to segue into “What do you feel are 3 amazing things about you that have nothing to do with your looks”.

It’s a good one. Leaves a solid impression if you actually genuinely wish to know her/his feelings on themselves. They’ll remember it and that’s a good thing.

1. Bahahaha make them laugh.

Do you work at the zoo?

Because you look like a keeper.

We cannot be held responsible for what does or doesn’t happen if you pull any of these out of your pocket!

What’s your most effective pickup line? Funniest? Share it with us in the comments!

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People Discuss Reasons Why They “Ghosted” Someone in Their Life

It’s a sad fact of life that sometimes you just have to cut people off.

People who are toxic, who make you feel bad about yourself, or who are trying to drag you down with them. The term for this is “ghosting” someone and, while it may seem harsh, occasionally it must be done.

Let’s see what AskReddit users had to say about their experiences.

1. That gets really old.

“When I realized she liked hating things more than liking them. I hate beer, hate EDM, hate Marvel, hate Channing Tatum, hate football; these are all things she’s said.

It’s ok that we don’t enjoy the same things, but she’d go out of her way to let me know she hated something and rarely talked about what she liked.”

2. Not very supportive.

“Whenever I would talk about feeling stressed and my mental health not being in an optimal condition, she would say something along the lines of “Oh come on, you dont have actual problems, there are people out there that actually have depression, anxiety, etc”.

She always downplayed the struggles I would be going through just because it wasn’t the worst possible thing that could happen.”

3. That’s so gross.

“She shit-stirred between everyone, it was just a game to her to ruin friendships, people that she wasn’t even close friends with.

Nearly 10 years later and I’m told she still tries it on with her wider circle (or rather, her husbands circles, as she no longer has any friends of her own any more) but they all treat it like a joke and ignore her, going so far as to warn others in a jokey manner.”

4. We’re done.

“Her two year old was violent towards my two year old.

She thought it was normal and refused to correct his behavior.”

5. Done it a few times…

“I’ve ghosted a couple of friends. It was after years of friendship and I realized that everything was about them. The friendship was one sided and I felt undervalued.

It got to the point that even though we were “best friends”, they had no idea what was happening in my life.

A lot more happened that I don’t care explaining, but I stopped talking to them after 11 years.”

6. That’s bad.

“I was disinvited from his wedding, in which I was a groomsman, because he found out I wasn’t a Christian.

We’d been friends for a decade up until that point.”

7. Do what’s best for you.

“She had negative experiences with a lot of things to the point that talking to her was like walking on eggshells.

I hope she’s doing alright and I feel bad I stopped talking to her but I had to choose what was better for me.”

8. Negative and entitled.

“A girl I met in one of my biology labs came off really nice. I didn’t really know anyone in the small lab and she invited me to be study partners which I gladly accepted.

The first study session was at a coffee shop off campus. She complained about her “best friend” for 3 hours. She was the most negative, entitled person I’ve ever met.

After that semester, I deleted her number and never talk to her again.”

9. My friend’s wife.

“His wife she scared quite a few of his friends away. Made it so obvious she did not want his friends around.

Any time the attention wasn’t on her it was a problem for everyone.”

10. You have no other options.

“When I realized I was only their friend because they had no other friends who would put up with their bullshit. Addicted to blow, “afflicted” because they were gay (nobody had any problem with this), and constantly said they were going to kill themselves.

I was patient for longer than anyone else, and even said how I was feeling. They would get coked out and text me about 20 times throughout the night almost every night. I blocked them three days later.”

11. Not your closest mate anymore…

“My closest mate for over fifteen years. He had no initiative, slept all the time, never initiated anything. Never lived out of home, and slept in his own filth, grew obese, hoarded crappy Japanese toys which filled up his dads house.

And became more and more annoying as a person until I couldn’t bear him. Constant one-upmanship or little put downs, or bragging over embarrassing stuff. I moved cities. When he came to visit, he annoyed and offended my friends so much they never forgot.

I cut all contact. I always ask for news but he has alienated all his old friends. The only news is that he is somehow eve ln fatter, now has diabetes, has taken up cigars and dresses up in a cowboy hat and boots he ordered from Nashville, USA.”

12. My “best friend”.

“I was bullied in school – but my worst bully was my “best friend” I used to come home and cry to my mom. I would be heartbroken over how my “best friend” was treating me.

Honestly – I don’t remember what my mom would tell me, but I wish she would have told me that I was worth way more than the treatment than I received from her, that she was a bad friend and I should drop her, that I had friends who treated me with respect and that I should spend my time with them, that she would have forbade me from hanging out with her – anything. anything.

I wasted something like 15 years with that girl in that abusive friendship.”

13. Double-crossed.

“She pocket called me.

Overheard her talking shit about my personal issues that I had confided in her.”

14. Out with the old, in with the new.

“The quickest way to lose (and make) great friends is to do something to fix your mental health.

I found out a lot about my friends when I stopped drinking, and before that when I left school for a mental breakdown. People just don’t even pretend to make the effort anymore.”

It’s always a tough thing to do, but sometimes you just need to cut ties with certain people in your life for good.

Have you ever had to do this to a friend?

If so, tell us about your experience in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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People Open up About Why They Had to “Ghost” a Friend

Have you ever “ghosted” a friend before?

As someone who has, let me tell you it is not very pleasant.

But, some people are totally toxic and the time comes when you have to cut them out of your life even if it’s going to hurt their feelings.

AskReddit users shared their stories about how they ghosted their friends.

1. Get rid of that one.

“When I came home to find the power off. Bill hadn’t been paid.

We were friends from work. He had split up from his ex and I needed to be closer to work. We went 50 50 on a rental, he has three kids from the previous relationship.

With me being the nerd I agreed to pay the tech bills. Internet, phone, cable TV. He agreed to pay the power as he burnt more because his kids were over on access visits.

Came home. Dark house. Hmmmm. Investigate. He hadn’t paid the power for AGES because his new girlfriend wanted the money. Then I discovered he wasn’t paying his rent either, same reason.

Down $5k, power, rent, we were evicted. Ghosted.”

2. Don’t mess with my cat.

“We had been friends for years. Like long term sisterhood kind of shit. I did soooo much for her over the years and didn’t even bat an eyelash. I asked her to watch my cat while I went on a 10 day vacation (a cat that she also “loved” because it belonged to her family before me)

She agreed to watch the cat. I even called her about 4 days into my vacation to ask her again to go and check on my cat to make sure it had food/water and a few scritches. When I came home my cat’s water and food bowl were bone dry and she let out the most tormenting “meows” I have ever heard.

My “friend” didn’t check on her once in the 10 days that I was gone. She played stupid when I confronted her about it and said “oh! I completely forgot!” That was the beginning of the end.”

3. The friend cycle.

“She started hanging out with a new friend, that’s fine, I’m not her only friend. Then while we were hanging out, as pre-planned she would leave to go hang out with her new friend, then she’d break plans with me to hang out with her, all while tagging her on Facebook so none of it was being hidden.

Three years later she reaches out to me and apologizes, it’s genuine as she mentioned insightful things she would have no way of knowing unless she had grown and been very honest with herself.

We are friends for another two years when she starts to hang out with another new friend…repeat.”

4. Talkin’ trash.

“Started talking shit about me to my GF and best mate. His dad had a history of drinking problems and he was starting to exhibit the same behaviour, so i suggested we should both take a break from drinking for awhile and try to focus on some healthier shit.

He apparently took that as i’m not the same person and my GF was the person who changed me.”

5. The flavor of the month.

“Getting ditched every time there’s a new guy on the scene but then expected to be there the second it all breaks down.”

6. Always taking.

“I had a relationship that was really great for awhile, but over time I realized they just didn’t care much for me anymore.

It was always them needing something.”

7. Addicts don’t always mix.

“I loved this girl. She was so clutch for me when my life was in ruins. The issue was that she and I were both addicts at the same time and both came from the same types of affluent families, but for whatever reason – I got clean and I turned my life around while she got worse.

She and I were both addicts with eating disorders, alcoholism, and both addicted to Xanax.

I got clean and only recently (7 years later) have started experimenting with maybe one or two beers per month if I’m out with my husband. She ended up with this awful guy who she will not give up who got her hooked on meth. I was there for her for a long time. After rehab and a few arrests, she stayed at my house for a bit on two different occasions.

But the last time she did, she tore my house apart looking for alcohol (which we didn’t have), stole my ID so she could get postmates to deliver vodka to my house, and nearly got us both killed by grabbing and yanking my steering wheel while I was going 80mph up I-95.

I’ve tried so many times to help her get and stay clean, but she keeps going back to that guy and her triggers are my triggers. I had to distance myself because she was making me relapse.”

8. No regrets.

“She burned the bridge. For most of the year and a half that she and I started working at the same place, she bullied me, micromanaged me, made me feel left out, and gaslighted me whenever I tried to confront her behavior.

It was almost always my fault, nothing I ever did was right, and she refused to believe that she has control issues or that she was using me as a punching bag. She started doing this thing where she wouldn’t text me unless I texted her first, and then get mad if I didn’t text her. So, once she quit the job, I stopped texting her.

I haven’t spoken to her at all since August 2019 and I don’t regret it.”

9. Back to me…

“Every conversation was about them and their lives. They rarely asked or were interested in what I had going on.

The selfishness was just too much after a while.”

10. A long time coming…

“I have a friend who I probably should have stopped talking to long before I did but his escapades include:

– Slept with my ex of 3 years a week or so after we broke up

– Got really handsy with my sister (against her will) at my 21st

– Just being a general creep to girls for a long time.”

11. Haven’t spoken to him since…

“He knocked on my door one night and said ‘Lets go for a drive”. This wasn’t that odd since I love driving to cool my head. So we start driving and maybe 10 minutes in, he starts directing me on where to go.

He asks me if I mind making a quick stop. I’m annoyed but say sure. We end up at this sketchy house in the middle of nowhere and my buddy goes inside, but tells me to wait in the car.

Almost 45 minutes later he comes back out and says we gotta go to the bar. It takes me about 10 seconds to realize this POS went in there to get coke and was already high.

So I tell him that I’m not feeling it tonight and drop him off at his place. Spoke to him once after that when he wanted to hang and I told him I’m nobody’s errand boy. Never gave a shit if he got the message because I haven’t spoken to him since.”

12. Not one of the “cool” kids.

“My “best friend” growing up was a kid I lived next door to from the age of 9 until 18. At school, he would pretend not to know me so he could seem cool to the popular kids. He would invite me places then ditch me. He would break plans so he could free up time to hang with his cooler friends.

That shit got real old, real fast. When I was 18 I moved to the other side of town. We were growing apart more and more but I would still try to hang out with him when I could. Well one day he asked me to come over to his house and play Tony Hawk’s ProSkater when it first came out.

I was so pumped that I walked 3 miles to his house only to be told that he was going to go hang out at his other friend’s house instead but could I babysit his brothers and sisters. Needless to say, things weren’t the same after that. I stopped answering his calls. He would stop by and I would leave just to avoid him.

He would make plans to hang out and I never bothered going. I just gave up on trying to be friends with that guy. I tried so hard for almost 10 years just to be a good friend to him and he just pushed me to the wayside.

Maybe I’m an asshole for stooping to his level but I don’t care anymore.”

13. Blame games.

“Too much drama.

Told a sob story in order to garner sympathy points – story didn’t check out and no one believed her so she got even more angry about it. Decided to book it because her stories and blame-games were getting too much for me.”

14. So creepy.

“Her fiancee was arrested and did jail time for possession of child pornography.

When he got out, she married him and talked about how excited she was to have children with him.”

15. Cringeworthy.

“Every time when there is a girl involved, this dude turns into the cringiest being there is. Trying so much to get laid. In a group chat, when 2 girls were talking about what to wear for their girls night out, he started bringing up panties, bras and what not.

I left that group, started a new one with everyone from the old group except him.”

Hey, you gotta do what you gotta do sometimes.

Have you ever had to ghost a friend for one reason or another?

If so, please tell us about it in the comments!

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People Share Stories About the Awful “Karens” in Their Lives

You know those entitled,  rude people who seem to make everything extremely difficult?

Well, there’s a name for them: KARENS.

And they are EVERYWHERE.

Those folks demanding to speak to a manager? KARENS.

AskReddit users opened up about these folks who seem like a real nightmare to deal with.

1. Mother is very unpleasant.

“Not married to one but my mom is absolutely one. I spend most of my time with her in public apologizing to people after she’s walked away.

The one and only time it comes in handy is when I’ve bought cars and had her come in during the price negotiation phase – she’s knocked off thousands purely due to how unpleasant she is and how much people want her to just get the hell out of the door.”

2. Males can be Karens, too.

“My dad was the Karen. He always acted high and mighty. Still does.

Last year ai went to visit him. Im an adult btw. And he picked me up from the airport but insisted we stop by walmart first to get something he ordered online. They had exactly what he ordered but it was a two pack.

They were giving him two of what he wanted for the same price as what he paid for one. He did not understand this and argued with the manager for 30 minutes that he “only wanted to pay for one!”

My wife never understood what I meant by my dad is stuck up until that day.”

3. Yikes. Not cool.

“My sister is a Karen.

Everyone feels so sorry for her husband. Everything is his fault. He is treated like a slave. She only addresses him by yelling. She constantly insults him. We have no idea why he hasn’t divorced her or flipped out and attacked her.

We have all told her to cool it and her response is that he’s just so stupid. I could go on and on but my sister really is a horrible person.”

4. Mommy Dearest.

“My mom is a Karen. she thinks the world is supposed to cater to her, serve her and everyone else is wrong.

Once we went to Carl’s Jr. she ordered 4 burgers, for the four of us. She pulls one out of the bag while the guy is getting our drinks and hides it. She complains that he forgot a burger. She pulls them out one by one and counts it in front of him.

It’s obviously missing because she hid it and he’s swearing up and down he put them all in the bag. I’m stunned speechless and it happened so fast. She got a free burger, and laughed as we drive off. Im just staring at her and she opens it up to eat it on the drive home. And she ate her actual burger like the 5th one never existed.

I can’t even explain how she is when she’s in the hospital. she treats it like a luxury stay in a hotel.”

5. Did eight years with that guy.

“Dated a Male Karen for eight years.

He was a semi successful business owner who was twice my age and I was young and dumb for a lack of a better word. The gist of our relationship was him trying to take over every part of my life. For instance he would order for me at restaurants and would dissuade me if I wanted to try something new.

If I had a problem with something it would be brushed off but if he had a problem then he had to talk to a manager. Not knowing any better I just thought he was very particular and even started copying some of his tendencies like speaking up when I felt I wasn’t getting the right service when I was out on my own.

I realized who he was when we were flying back from Vegas and our luggage was heavier than when we flew in. Obviously we’d bought extra things which made up for the weight difference so as he demanded to know an explanation from the check in clerk as to why if it was the same luggage would it somehow weigh more, I innocently answered that it must have been the extra shoes and clothes. He was quiet and paid up.

Later he told me to not to do that again as he knew the reason why the luggage was heavier he was just trying to get away with not paying. At that moment a bulb went off in my head. This man who’d spent $1500 on a stripper for his friend was making an already stressful job more stressful for the clerk in order to avoid paying $60!

We broke up soon after and I checked myself on the Karen tendencies he’d rubbed off on me.”

6. That’s really bad.

“Divorced an abusive “Karen” who was convicted of domestic violence (that’s a misdemeanor folks), so she got half of everything. Totally worth it. My life before was a nightmare.

Escape was priceless.”

7. Time to speak to the manager…again.

“Not the married to one, but my moms a Karen. Literally overreacts to everything.

Whenever something doesn’t go her way- you guessed it: gotta speak to the manager or whoever is in charge. Sometimes really embarrassing to go out in public with her because she’ll just yell at the service workers for the smallest of things. Also she has a bob cut.”

8. Sister in law…from Hell…

“Married someone with a Karen for a sister. SIL is the freaking worst. I hate more than anything going out to dinner with her, listening to her order food and talk to the servers. Holidays are also terrible, she sends out long lists of expected gifts list. She celebrates every holiday and birthday specifically for presents even when it not appropriate.

Funny thing is one time I was away from the dinner table when the bill came and SIL waited for me to return to pay the bill by actually handing it to me. She didn’t give it to her sibling/my SO or pay her half, but expressly handed it to me to pay.

Btw, her husband is an idiot and they are a match made in heaven.”

9. A double whammy.

“My sister AND SIL are both Karens. I will show up to restaurants 15 min early to warn them. I tell them if it’s not done to their liking they WILL hear about it and they will make your shift hell. I’m just there as a warning.

I used to work in restaurants and those people made life hell. I do what I can to help. Generally my drinks are better and we get a free appetizer as soon as those two tornados walk in all hell breaks loose. Not enough ice, table is too cold, it’s too loud, etc. I also tip really big b/c I DON’T want to associated with the two tornados.

I live overseas so I only see them 2 weeks out of the year. So it’s manageable.”

10. Causing a lot of damage.

“My mom is a Karen. Not fun.

I think she was part of the reason the girl I loved left because whenever she was around my mom behaved much better and put on a nice face. We argued frequently about my relationship with my mom. Hurts a lot. Don’t think I can fully let this one go.”

11. Don’t even go there.

“My mother is a Karen.

If something minor inconveniences her, she blows it up into a huge done, constantly complains, belittles me and has a slight superiority complex.”

12. I’m seeing a pattern here…

“My mom is a Karen. She literally can not help herself but to tell other her opinion. She genuinely sees it as doing everyone a favor. It destroys her relationships with my siblings. None of my other siblings will talk to her.

A few years ago we went out to eat. The restaurant served bread and butter before the meal. The butter was whipped. My mom, the former dairy farmers daughter, insisted they bring her “real” butter. The waitress went back to the kitchen and came back and told her what she had was butter. How dare she!

My mom, who apparently is infallible in her ability to detect butter, started acting like a complete asshole to the waitress about it. “She knows what real butter tastes like.”

I go to this restaurant often and my kids are there so my first instinct was to apologize to the waitress. That was a bad idea. As soon as I did my mom went into a rage about respecting your elders and walked out of the restaurant. To this day she still won’t admit she was unkind to the waitress.”

13. This is messed up.

“My mom was a Karen in name and behavior.

My dad had a massive heart attack, oxygen deprived brain, we weren’t sure if he was going to make it or how intact his mind would be. Intubated, sedated, the whole works for days.

My toddler nephew visited the hospital. He was dad’s special buddy. Dad somehow roused from his critically ill state to wave his fingers and say a few words to him. A miracle!

Mom tried to get dad to talk to her and then slapped him–pretty hard– on the chest because he wouldn’t say anything to her. Jealous of a two year old. Abusing a man in intensive care. The look on the nurse’s face was absolute horror.”

14. “An exhausting nightmare.”

“My mom is a Karen whose name is actually Karen. Simply put, I haven’t seen her in over a year because I couldn’t take it anymore. Living with her was just an exhausting nightmare.

Karen’s world revolves around Karen. Nobody else’s issues matter. If you tell her that you had a bad day, she’ll give you 20 reasons why her day was worse. You worked 60 hours this week? Well, when she was your age, she would work 80.

You’re in the hospital after having major surgery? She has a pinched nerve in her arm, which is somehow worse. Your boyfriend cheated on you? She couldn’t even begin to tell you about all the heartbreak she’s experienced in her life.

She complains left and right about anything and everything. If you’re taking a week break after just getting back from college, she’ll ask why you haven’t gotten a job yet and claim you’re lazy. If you’re out to eat at a restaurant the food is always too cold or too burnt or too salty.

You can only ever go to the places SHE wants to go to, because everything else is crap. My entire graduation dinner she complained about how cold the food was.

She THRIVES in getting attention and constantly seeks it, but she has very few ACTUAL friends. Facebook is her lifeblood and she’s always looking to start something on there. She’s the queen of sharing uninformed, misguided, conservative propaganda, which always starts fights in her comments.

Also, if a tragedy happens in the family (like the passing of my teenage cousin), she’ll make a big scene on Facebook and expect condolences from anyone and everyone, and makes note of the people who don’t give her what she wants.

Don’t even get me started on the blatant racism. I’ve heard everything from, “watch out for black people on the subway. They’ll try to take your purse” to “It should be illegal for those Muslims to cover their faces. You should be able to see someone’s face.” One of my best friends is black and she once told me, “He’s one of the good ones. They should all be like him.”

Minor, but the house ALWAYS has to be spotless. You have a shirt on your bedroom floor? Pick up! You kids are all slobs! We have people coming over (no we don’t and even if we do why would they be going in my bedroom?)

Her house is HER house, and she’ll let you know. Any object she has spent money on doesn’t belong to you, it belongs to HER. She also spends way too much money on home decor like oriental rugs, furniture, etc. but then complains about how she has no money.”

Yikes. I’m glad I don’t have any Karens in my life…at least not right now…

How about you?

Do you have any Karens that you have to deal with and who make everything way more difficult than it needs to be?

If so, please tell us about it in the comments!

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People Talk About Red Flags That Are Warning Signs in Friendships

Paying attention to red flags is not just limited to romance.

You need to look for them in your regular friendships as well. Trust me on this one, a terrible friend can make your life just as miserable as someone you’re sleeping with.

So remember to keep your eyes open with your friends as well because a bad friend can be a major bummer and they can be really hard to get rid of.

Here’s what AskReddit users had to say.

1. Don’t bring the bad vibes.

““Good vibes only” friends. That mentality is fine to have with yourself. But you can’t force that on others.

My best friend adopted this attitude and from then on, whenever I would come to her for support or advice on an issue I was having, she’d cut me off and say, “Ah ah ah! Good vibes only, remember?” Because I was bringing her down.

I put up with it for a long time because I thought she was right, that I was burdening her. But then I finally realized that that’s not how real friends act. They’re supposed to support and help each other.”

2. I’m over here!

“Having their damn phone in their face the whole time. If they do that, they don’t want a friend, they want company. It’s not the same.”

3. This drives me insane.

“Friends who constantly call you for advice but, never take it and continue to involve you in their drama.

If you’re not going to make moves to improve your situation stop asking me for help.”

4. Pay attention to these.

“When they pressure you to do things for them (or a certain way) and act like you were on board the whole time. (coercion)

They say they are “holding you accountable” to something you never wanted in the first place. (gaslighting)

They take the “high road” when you get angry because they won’t respect your boundaries. (play the victim).”

5. Insensitive.

“They never say anything supportive of you. But they will point of your flaws, and can’t wait to burn you, because its funny, to them.

And then the follow up of “you’re too sensitive” “It’s just joking”.”

6. This is frustrating.

“Friends that are a one way street. I was always the one to message, call, or make plans with them. I was always the one to check up on them to see if they were okay. I always offered a helping hand and be there for them.

I decided to stop to see if they would reach out to me, but we never spoke to me again. Oh, well.”

7. “Emotional vampires.”

“Friends that aren’t happy for your success and happiness, but are very close when you’re sad.”

8. Look out for this one.

“This is subtle and a bit counterintuitive but beware of the rescuer-martyr. The person that’s always rushing out to help and give everyone else their all whether or not it’s needed or whether the recipient is comfortable with it. They are good people, very well intentioned and saintly in their generosity with their time and energy.

However, sometimes it goes to the extreme and then it’s more a symptom of a toxic cycle where they only get meaning and self-worth when they are saving someone; or maybe they keep swooping into other people’s lives to fix things in hopes that someone will do the same for them.

They may have good intentions but they tend not to have good boundaries; they get overinvolved in your life; take on way too much and make everyone’s problems their own. They end up overwhelmed, mired in drama, and resentful. And then they become the martyr.

The problem with being friends with this type of person is that you’re not in an equal friendship where you like each other, enjoy spending time with each other; and when there happen to be downs, you support each other through them.

It’s more like you’re a project, everyone’s a project; and once you stop being a project you’re now support – not just for them and their own problems, but part of the fire brigade for their other projects (which they’ve internalized as their own problems and drama).”

9. That gets pretty old.

“If you have had a friend for a long time, but you only seem to be able to talk about memories in the past.

Each time you get together or exchange messages, it’s “Remember in high school….” or “Remember that time when….”

Could be a sign that you both have grown apart and do not have much in common today that you can connect on.”

10. All about them.

“Friends who are always happy to talk about themselves but never once ask you how you’re doing or anything engaging you to talk about yourself.”

11. Best friends!

“Personally I’ve always had bad experiences with people who say everyone is their “best friend.”

When my best friend in high school started calling 10 different people including me her best friend, that was when I knew I was just an accessory, and she was trying to surround herself with people to love her.”

12. This happens ALL THE TIME.

“When they ditch you the moment they start dating someone.”

13. Bullying is bad.

“They try to correct your personal preferences for you. Bully you out of liking certain clothing/music/foods/art, etc. They’ll often frame it as if they’re doing you a favor.

It’s a sign of emotional immaturity when people treat others like play objects rather than human beings.”

14. Don’t be a flake.

“Being flaky.

Nobody is that busy for a 2 second text to cancel plans or to not even agree to them at all.”

Beware of these kinds of people!

It’ll probably help you out a lot in the long run.

What are the red flags you look for in your friendships?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments!

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People Talk About What Their Parents Threw out That Would Be Worth a Lot of Money These Days

My dad always says that if he would’ve kept his baseball card collection from the 1950s he’d be a millionaire.

Well, it didn’t exactly work out that way…

I don’t know if he threw those cards out or his parents did, but they’re LONG GONE.

And you know this is a pretty common story.

A lot of us had collections of all kinds of stuff when we were kids that suddenly disappeared for one reason or another.

In this AskReddit article, people talk about the things they had as kids that would be worth a lot of money…if their parents hadn’t thrown it all away.

1. Dammit, Mom!

“My brother had a bunch of first edition Pokémon cards, that he spent over a year collecting.

Mom took them away for getting in trouble at school, and they were never seen again.”

2. Oh, those…

“I had the complete collection of teenage mutant ninja turtles figures.

I packed them into a box and put them away then later when looking for them i couldn’t find them… asked my mother.. “oh those, i threw them out.. you weren’t playing with them anymore””

3. It’s not “junk”.

“About 40 Indian Arrow heads collected on my grandparents farm for years by myself and my grandfather and full sets of baseball cards from 1969-1980, my mom decided to toss out all that “junk” when I moved out for military.”

4. That is not cool.

“After my mom died, my dad met this crazy, Jehovah’s Witness woman and one thing led to another. About a month before my high school graduation we got into a HUGE fight over something  and she burned my collection of old Dungeons and Dragons
books and magic cards.

Complete collections…Every 1st edition book in good condition
signed by Gary Gygax. I guess my brother knew him at some point.

The real kicker? I rode the wave of the original magic the gathering launches back in the day, complete sets of the original series through…homelands? All burnt to a crisp. Every once in a while when i want to be depressed about never being able to retire i look up the card values.”

5. Comic books.

“Nearly all of the first 24 editions of virtually every Marvel series, from The Fantastic Four to Spiderman (including the Amazing Tales in which he was introduced) to Iron Man, the Hulk, Thor, Sgt. Fury and His Howling Commandos. Basically all of them.

At a comic book store I was once looking at some collectors editions of those comics priced at about $1,500 to $,2400. I said to the clerk “Man, I used to have all of these.”

The clerk, whom I’m sure was Matt Groening’s model for Comic Book Man, without even looking up said in a bored voice, “Do you know how many times a day I hear that?””

6. Evil devil music!

“My mom had a collection of signed Beatles records that she threw away after she converted to Christianity because played backwards they summoned the devil or something.

For years I was hoping to inherit it when I grew up.

All I think it summoned was poverty. :/ “

7. Stamp collectors.

“Stamps.

When I was around 7 I used to stay at this friend of my parents house. She was older, and sort of a substitute grandmother. Her mother lived with her, she used to collect stamps. When she passed away the subbie gran gave me the collection.

My oldest brother had them in his room, I can’t remember why. My parents used to make a big pile in the middle of our rooms of what was messy and we had a couple of hours to put it all away. My brother faffed about and didn’t do it. So the remaining pile was thrown out. In that pile was the collection of stamps.

To this day I believe that there would have been valuable stamps in that collection considering the age of the collection, but I’ll never know.”

8. That’s kind of weird.

“I had mined 8 bitcoins at age 16. Kept them in a hard disk. When they grew in value I searched for and hard disk to know that my mom sold it to a 19 yr old for $50. I still curse my mom for doing that.”

9. Those very popular dolls.

“Barbies.

My family wasn’t super well-off growing up, but for some reason they allowed my sibling and I to amass dozens of Barbies, hundreds of clothes, two doll houses, three cars, one RV, a plane, and so fucking much else besides. When I was 12 and had outgrown it all, my dad decided it was time to pass them onto younger cousins or otherwise get rid of them.

Looking back, we should’ve held onto most of it. I had celebrity Barbies, anniversary Barbies, Barbies that came with horses, or were ballerinas, or were otherwise novel in the Barbie world. I literally spent 10 years collecting Barbies and now don’t even have a single shoe to show for it.”

10. I bet you’d like to have those right about now.

“The original Transformers in boxes. Had all main characters and nearly all of the smaller bots. Got em when I was 11, 12 or so in the mid 80s.

Left for the military and mom had a huge garage sale…”

11. That’s interesting.

“Lynyrd Skynyrd had released an album where the album cover had the band members standing in a fire. Not long after the release of this album, some of the members died in a plane crash and they recalled the albums so they could give it a more appropriate cover.

My grandpa had one of the originals and he probably could have made a lot off it… if his mom didn’t throw it away not knowing what it was…”

12. Long gone.

“A bunch of World War I coins that was thrown away because I never looked at them, I knew they were gonna be worth a fortune so I tried to not go near them because I was extremely paranoid.”

13. That’s a rough one.

“Not thrown away, but sold. I had a baseball card collection with over 200,000 cards when I was a teenager. Many HOF autographs, memorabilia cards, signed gloves and balls, a game worn jersey from the Padres 98 World Series run.

Needless to say, it was already worth a decent amount at that time. I have looked up some of the larger items in today’s retail markets, and those alone would’ve fetched around $20-25,000 USD. My mom took them when I moved to my dad’s house because she was abusive. Sold it all for a few thousand on Craigslist and kept the money.”

14. Remember those?

“My collection of Polly Pockets.

I’ve literally seen some of the ones I had worth thousands of dollars now.”

15. The vintage stuff.

“Robots, lots of robots from the 60’s, and 70’s, some were the tin type, some were plastic, some I haven’t even seen on the internet although I keep thinking someone has to have at least one left somewhere.

All in total about 25+ kinds of robots from my childhood, that my dad threw out because apparently when you turn 12, you don’t need toys. This is probably why my wife makes fun of all the junk I keep, because I never got the choice to part with them so now I horde all remaining childhood possessions.”

16. Had to do it.

“I remember when state quarters first came out, my father sent me a collection of every first edition state quarter and one time I went to show my friends awhile later and couldn’t find them, I asked my mother and she said she had to use them for laundry.

We were very poor at the time so I understand, but I was a little sad by it as well because it was one of the only things my father ever sent me.”

Ouch!

It hurts to read some of those stories, huh?

Now we want to hear from you!

Did your parents ever get rid of some items that became valuable a lot later? Or maybe you lost them or threw them away yourself?

Tell us all about it in the comments!

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Psychological Tests That Yielded Fascinating Results

Psychology experiments and tests can yield some interesting insights into human and animal minds. Like any other search for scientific answers, these experiments start out with a hypothesis to try to understand something.

An AskReddit thread asked commenters to share whatever they knew about psychology exams and the types of results they had. Here are some of their best answers.

15. Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

“I’m late but nobody has said it yet. The self-fulfilling prophecy studies are very important to social psychology and their findings have many real world applications.

Basically they brought together a group of kids and formed a class with a real teacher. They gave the kids a test for overall academic skill at the start of the course, but didnt really use the scores. Instead they told the teachers that a few students, picked at random, were very brilliant and scores very highly. They then observed the class for a long period of time and noticed that the teachers gave the kids they thought were brilliant much more attention. At the end of the study the kids took the test again, and they found that the kids who were randomly named brilliant at the start actually scores higher than the rest of the class. The kids, again, at the start didn’t score any different from the rest of the class, but through the self fulfilling prophecy they became the best in their class.

This obviously has tons of application in the world and especially education.”

ehbacon23

14. The Monster Experiment

TW: childhood trauma

“The monster experiment! Although it is horrible how they left the children with mental health issues at the end, this experiment gave very good insight to how to parent a child.

On this experiment, they took groups of orphaned children and separated them into 3 groups. One was the control, the second were told they has a lips and were doing bad, and the third was told that their speech was perfect.

As the experiment went on, group 2 began developing lisps after being berated constantly. They became shy and reserved. They were scared to speak because they didn’t want to get in trouble because of their poor speaking skills. Group 3, however, had the opposite happen. They talked better, they were more willing to improve. They were encouraged to keep speaking and told that their speech was amazing and perfect.

By the end of the experiment, they had one group with no change, one group with now mentally ill children with a speech impediment, and one group with great speaking skills.

It truly shows that encouraging children is the way to go and that verbal abuse can be just as, if not more, harmful as physical abuse.”

Buniny

13. The Monopoly Study

“The Monopoly Study by Paul Piff.

He basically brought two strangers into the lab together and had them play a game of Monopoly together. He randomly assigned one participant to start the game with twice as much money than the other and that participant also got to roll both dice to get around the board (i.e., the other participant started with half the money and could only roll one dice). At the end of the game when he asked the participants who started with more money why he won the game, they would chock it up to their excellent strategy and gamesmanship rather than the fact that they had started the game with way more resources.

It says a lot about how we deal with being born into a privileged state.”

respectfullydissent

12. The Three Christs Experiment

“The Three Christs of Ypsilanti

Psychologist forces three people who believe that they are Jesus Christ to live together.

It does not go well.

The psychologist, Milton Rokeach, had heard of a case where two women who believed that they were Mary, mother of Christ, were forced to live together and one of them broke free from their delusion.

So he figured, three Christs…what would happen.

They were angry at each other. Often had physical fights. They eventually started getting along by avoiding the topic. He would ask them about the others and each would say that the others were crazy. That they, of course, were the real Jesus.

No cures. Some unethical stuff. Interesting though.”

hateboresme

11. Milgram’s Small World Experiment

“I’m a huge fan of Milgram’s Small World Experiment. It is more sociology than psychology, but I still think it is really cool.

Milgram sends out 160 letters containing the name and address of a stockbroker in Boston to people in Omaha, Nebraska. They had to send it to someone they thought would get the letter closer, but they couldn’t mail it directly to the stockbroker. Interestingly, most people that sent on the letter sent it on to the same group of people on the 5th degree. It only took 6 people (hence the six degrees of separation) to arrive, on average.

It shows how interconnected our world is, even before the internet, which is happy to think about.”

MegosAlpha

10. This Candle Trick

“If you stare into a dimly lit (i.e. candle-lit) mirror for 10+ minutes you start to see hallucinations. What individuals see tends to vary, but they’ve used this as a test to simulate schizophrenia before because some see monsters / deformities / general weird shit.

I did a variation of it for a mate at uni and completely wimped out of it. After my face started not looking like my face anymore (I had a complete dissociation) I stopped looking and just waited out the time.

Edit: I can’t find the exact study as I don’t have journal access anymore but here’s a decent summary of it in laymans terms

Edit2: This is a weird visual trick that your brain can play on you, but the effects can seem super real so maybe don’t do this if you are susceptible to hallucinations / are a wimp with this kinda shit like me

Edit3: Thanks for the gold! and yes it is basically a scientific bloody Mary.”

mitzimitzi

9. Red is Influential!

The influence of the colour red in sports: Judges were shown a video of a Tae Kwon Do match and awarded more points to the red competitor (versus the blue competitor). When the colours were digitally reversed, judges awarded more points to the other, now red, competitor.

Since there’s a lot more interest than I expected, here’s some more info: Red may be a signal of dominance as reddened skin is associated with higher testosterone (or possibly higher fertility in women). Wearing red may induce intrinsic psychological effects which increase dominance in addition to altering the perception of others. Researchers found that putting red leg bands on birds increased dominant behaviour, as they took the “lion’s share” of the food.

For my psychology degree dissertation, I presented photos of men to be rated on a scale of Friendly (0) to Threatening (10). Men received a higher threat score if I photoshopped their t-shirt to be red :).

8. The Negativity Bias Experiment

“There have been some experiments conducted, but the negativity effect/negativity bias is really sad to me: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Negativity_bias

It basically says that negative things have a greater emotional and psychological toll on our health than positive/neutral things. So you got an A on a test, that’s great. But you totally fail a test, and the world crumbles and it’s a total disaster. A hundred things can go right and work perfectly throughout the day, but it goes totally undetected in our minds. Then someone cuts us off in traffic and we fume and rage. I learned about this theory almost three years ago and think about it all the time. Reminds me to appreciate and notice the many little things in my day that do go right.”

omgyoucunt

7. Mice Have Empathy

“Mice were put on two sides of a wall with a door in. Only the right mouse could open the door. Slowly, they filled the left mouse’s room with water and eventually when right mouse saw them in danger, they opened the door. However, mice that had previously been on he left side and were now on the right (mice who had previously been “wetted”) opened the door considerably faster because they knew how unpleasant it was to be in the other scenario. Basically mice have empathy

Link here: http://www.bbc.com/earth/story/20150514-rats-save-mates-from-drowning.”

6. The Car Crash Experiment

“The Car Crash Experiment.

It demonstrated that the way investigators word a question has an immediate effect on the subject’s memory of an event. It was part of a suite of studies by Elizabeth Loftus (with various other co-researchers) that began to call in to question the veracity of eyewitness accounts.

https://www.simplypsychology.org/loftus-palmer.html.”

5. This “Drunk” Experiment

“One time I participated in a paid research experiment. I was basically tricked into thinking I was drunk.

I was placed in a room with 2 other people and we were instructed to drink vodka with cranberry juice over a period of time while we socialized. After we drank I was placed in a room where I had to read some flashing words on a computer. I felt pretty drunk at this point. When the researcher came back into the room he gave me my car keys and said I was never actually given alcohol. He briefly told me that because I was anticipating drinking for this experiment that my brain had tricked me into feeling the effects of being intoxicated.

I immediately snapped out of it and was completely amazed at how I felt.”

Extrasherman

4. This Conformity Experiment

“Solomon Asch’s experiment on conformity. He set up a test wherein he would show 3 lines of different lengths to 5 or 6 individuals (I forgot the exact number) who had to state which line was the longest of the 3. The thing is, only the last individual is the participant and the others are actors paid to answer in a specific manner. For the first few questions, they choose the correct answer, but later on they start choosing the wrong one. The participants are conflicted as to whether they will say the correct answer or conform to the wrong answer as to not be judged by others or due to self-doubt of their own answers. In the end, most do conform.

It’s really interesting since it shows how powerful conformity is in the face of doubt, up to a point that some even question their own sanity during the test.

Another variation of the experiment also had interesting results. It had the same set up with 5 individuals with the last person being the participant. However, this time some of the actors say the wrong answer while 1 actor says the correct one. There was an increase in participants who would choose the correct answer and avoid conformity. It shows how much doubt one can have on oneself when alone, but be brought back to self-confidence when they find outside support.

Edit: Conformity in participants might be caused by either being afraid others’ judgement or due to self-doubt.”

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3. Misattribution of Arousals

“Aron and Dutton (1974) – Misattribution of arousal.

Men who had just walked across bridge (either steady or unsteady) were approached by a female psychology student, posing to do a project on the effects of exposure to scenic attractions on creative expression. The men had to complete a questionnaire and write a short dramatic story about a picture she provided and she gave them her phone number if they had more questions. Men who walked across the shaky bridge were more likely to call her up because they misattributed the arousal from the bridge to the woman.

TLDR: watch a horror movie on the first date.

Edit: grammar. Sorry about the confusion.”

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2. The Phantom Limb Experiment

“The phantom limb experiment is pretty fascinating.

Basically, you can be tricked into feeling something that’s not there.

Here’s an article about the experiment.”

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1. Why We Expect Good or Bad Things to Happen To People

“Not just one experiment, but a whole thesis and series of works supporting it:

According to the Just world Fallacy we expect good or bad things to happen to people for a reason and go to pretty interesting length to make up for the lack of justice. Like someone winning the lottery and us thinking they deserve it.”

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These psychological experiments showed us some interesting facets of animal and human behavior.

Have you heard of other experiments that prove we’re a little weirder than we thought?

Chime in with this insight in the comments!

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People Share Their Dumbest Ideas That Actually Worked

Sometimes, dumb ideas really do the trick!

I can’t say it’s ever really happened to me, but it definitely does for some folks out there.

And you’re about to read about them!

Here are some very entertaining stories from AskReddit users.

1. Wow! That’s crazy!

“In my freshman year of college, my grades were really not great. And my parents were really strict about getting good grades. When my dad asked to see my grades, I panicked and did the inspect command on the computer where you can change type faces on the screen to read different words and letters.

I changed all of my shitty grades to good grades. My dad was so happy that I did “good” my first year of school. He asked me to print my results. I did, and turns out he had to send them to our car insurance company for a “good student discount”. Ultimately, I committed insurance fraud by accident. But I got the discount.”

2. You look weird, but it works.

“Wearing a motorcycle helmet while snowblowing.

I did it because i missed riding, it kept my face warm and when snow would fly back at me the visor would protect me.”

3. A dangerous idea.

“A storm broke a limb on a tree hanging over my house in my back yard, but it was still hanging on by a few splinters. I didn’t want it to fall, and it wasn’t in a place where I could use my ladder to get to it.

So I found some rope, tied a brick to it, threw the brick and rope over the limb, made a crude rope swing, and swung and pulled at the branch until it finished breaking.

It wasn’t until I was using the chainsaw to cut it up that I realized how many times during my stupid idea I could have easily hurt or even killed myself.”

4. That’s pretty good!

“Our power was out due to a storm. I had a campstove to use for boiling water to make a coffee pour-thru, but I couldn’t use my electric grinder for the coffee beans. I tried fashioning a mortal and pestle but it was taking too long.

So, I put the coffee beans in a couple of ziplock bags, placed the bag right behind a car tire, then ran over it back and forth a couple of times to crush the beans. Worked like a charm.”

5. V.I.P.

“A friend and I once snuck 15 people into the Warped Tour by giving them some bracelets from a party supply store and clipboards full of paper.

Walked up to the side gate and said we were with Rock The Vote. The security guard waved us right in.”

6. You’re hired!

“I forgot to bring a resume to a job interview, but I had an index card in my bag. I cut the index card in half and wrote my name, my contact info, and “creative problem solver” in my best handwriting, and gave a copy of my “business card” to both the interviewers.

I got the job.”

7. This is great.

“When I was young and broke I bought a sofa from a used furniture store. I had no way to take the sofa home.

I went to a used car lot a couple of blocks away and took a truck for a test drive…”

8. Just like on TV!

“I’m stuck on a cliff, but if I jump at a really sharp angle at that gravel field, I could just slide down there and be fine, just like in TV!“

Every time I think about this I am amazed I’m not either flattened by a rock, or impact against something.

Childhood really is just the tutorial level sometimes.”

9. Congratulations!

“In college I was taking a class that required me to purchase an online textbook and workbook that was registered under your name, basically ensuring that each student would have to buy a new online copy each semester instead of buying used textbooks.

I had a friend who took this class a semester before me so we came up with the idea to message customer service and explain that I had recently gotten married (so my last name had changed) and I legally changed my first name from [my friend’s first name] to [my first name] and I would need them to change it in their system.

It totally worked and the rep even congratulated my on my marriage.”

10. This is smart.

“Real estate told me I had to have the carpets professionally cleaned (wasn’t in the contract) or I’d lose my $800 bond.

I did some research and found out I could become an accredited carpet cleaner as there are no official licencing boards in my state.

So, I did what any sane person would do. I paid the $85, did the online course and got my certificate. Registered a business name, ABN etc etc. (all free)

Handed the property management a copy of my accreditation and an invoice for services.

I became a professional carpet cleaner and launched a vacate cleaning business that is still going 6 months later.

I did clean the carpets. They claimed I didn’t and required a professional cleaners invoice as proof. So I gave them the proof.

I did not charge the real estate agency, it was a copy of the invoice they claimed to require.

I do professional house keeping and cleaning for vacating a property at the end of lease to enure you get maximum bond back.

I help people who are being unfairly treated by their property management and advise them on what steps to take in regards to cleaning, repairs etc

-With the return of the bond, and some smart shopping, I was able to purchase my own equipment to continue the job, I then claimed those costs back on tax.”

11. Blind luck.

“This idea could’ve easily gotten me fired if it went wrong.

I was working as art-director at an animation studio, making videos for clients. One client was especially pesky about the use of yellow in the background. They wanted it to be that of their logo, which was this horrible neon-piss yellow.

We advised against it, but after numerous calls we had to cave and gave a version with that colour. They hated it, and asked for a change. What followed were 12 versions with numerous calls in between tweaking the colour over and over.

Eventually I got tired of it and just sent the original version again, I didn’t even bother to rename the file. The client said “this looks exactly the way I wanted, thank you”!

How that ever went right I still have no idea.”

12. When in Rome…

“Dressing like a redneck to pick up chicks. Went to college in the south but the guys there were all very preppy. I thought because a lot of the girls grew up in the south, they would be drawn to more of a redneck vibe that not many people on campus had. so I bought a camo fishing hat.

Literally had three girls start conversations with me that day.”

13. Very satisfying.

“There was a swarm of hornets that had made a nest under the front of our porch with only one specific narrow entry in or out.

Spray wouldn’t work and it was right under our front door, so had no way to keep exterminating them.

Then I realized “why not whirring blades of metal?”. We DID have an old 50s metal fan and I could maybe blow them away from the entrance so they had no way to get in.

The unanticipated effect was that it worked, though after a few hours had created a Civil War battlefield of dead or dying hornets piling up like a zombie tower in World War Z. Every few moments you’d hear “thunk” as another hornet fell into the trap.

So satisfying.”

14. Fakin’ it.

“Was really REALLY desperate to leave past employer after 15 years. Had been applying and interviewing and striking out. Finally got an interview at a place where (at the time) I felt, “meh, I am not really sure this is right for me, but anything is better than where I am at.”

Instead of prepping for the interview, rehearsing answers, etc…I pulled an “office space.” I was cocky, brash, unconcerned, made it seem like I was happy where I was at and didn’t really care if I got the job or not.

They called me back the next week and I waited a week to return their call. Same deal with the second interview. When they offered me the job, I hemmed and hawed, said I needed to think about it really hard, and that it was a “big move” for me, etc., etc. I came back and demanded well over $15,000 above what they were offering in salary. They accepted.”

15. Just like Costanza.

“It probably wouldn’t work in this day and age but back when I was young I was tired of retail and wanted an office job. I just lied my ass off and pulled a total George Costanza what with friends coached to answer their phones as a business and such.

Got hired as an admin assistance and been steadily moving up since.”

Color me impressed!

I guess I’ll have to give more dumb ideas a chance once in a while.

How about you? Have you had any dumb ideas that actually ended up working out?

If so, please tell us about them in the comments!

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