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13 Petty Reasons Why Marriage Counselors Have Seen New Clients

If you have ever been married, you know that the littlest things, over time, can fester into much bigger problems. It’s also true that it’s easy enough to lose perspective when you’re inside a world of your own making for quite some time.

Those are both reasons that people seek out therapists, but listen….these 13 reasons for making appointments are still seriously petty.

13. Some things you can’t forget.

My mum still talks about the Christmas where my dad didn’t help her peel and prepare a bag of sprouts.

They were divorced and he’s dead and it still comes up from time to time.

12. How is this a thing people care about?

My ex-coworker once told me about an argument he and his girlfriend regularly have. Apparently, when you make a sandwich, some people care about whether the bread remains facing the same way it did in the original loaf or if one piece gets turned around relative to the other.

I don’t just mean top of the loaf remains facing the same way, I mean the cut sides of the slices remain facing the slice they were originally cut from. I told my fiance about this ridiculousness and he said “no, I see her point” and now I have to regularly have conservations about which way bread is facing.

11. To be fair, this might mean he’s a pod person.

There was a couple who fought because the husband stopped liking cheese for some reason

10. Why never bring it up?

My ex wife suggested we go to marriage counseling because she felt we needed to work on communication. I was slightly confused since we never really fought about anything and I didn’t know that much was amiss.

So I went with her and we had several sessions and it basically turned into just parenting classes since we didn’t seem to have any issues to work on.

Then one day she tells me she’s bi and is going to go sleep with a married couple she’s been friends with for a week because that’s the only thing that’s going to make her happy.

Would have been nice to know in marriage counseling that that was the real issue she was wanting to work on since I had no idea she was struggling with her sexuality. Guess there really was a communication issue.

9. “But not usually.”

There is no “stupid” reason to seek out counseling. What may seem trivial to one person can completely consume another person. What may seem insignificant to you might just be the last straw for a client. It’s our job to figure out why that “stupid” reason caused them to land in your care.

Sometimes it’s a lot of minor things that built up because they don’t have any good coping mechanisms. Sometimes it’s a major problem that they don’t want to talk about, so they start small. Sometimes it’s something they don’t even realise is a problem, but is causing them distress regardless.

There’s a lot of reasons why clients might present you with something that seems completely insignificant, but the fact is, they are in front of you, paying you money, so that you can help them improve their mental health. 99% of the time, that means that they believe getting help is worth their time and money.

He then proceeded to tell us a story about a woman who believed that Ashton Kutcher was her baby’s daddy, and she wanted a psychiatric professional to verify her mental health so she could file for child support and reconnect with him. As far as he could tell, she had never met Ashton Kutcher, or even seen him in person. So like. Sometimes people are crazy. But not usually.

8. Dodged a bullet there.

Because naps.

On weekends, I take a nap in the afternoon. Boyfriend was not ok with that and insisted I stop.

I’ll never forget the surreal feeling of his roommates watching me leave his house while he yelled at me.

7. That is a legit reason for counseling. And also divorce.

Vaccinate their child.

Dad say Go, mom says no.

6. Wow. Cold.

Nothing is really stupid in making the decision to come in for a couples session.

But the most startling session I’ve had was when the couple had barely sat down and one of them informed the other that the relationship was over, turned to me and said “thank you for supporting (partner) through this” and left the office.

5. Sh%t happens.

Not me but my buddy’s wife demanded counseling after he refused to “fix” his habit of leaving the seat up.

Apparently the straw that broke the camel’s back was he didn’t realize his poo ‘came back up’ and she fell into the toilet on his old, waterlogged shit.

4. That is definitely bizarre.

I had a woman come in for couples counseling. Over the phone she reported that her boyfriend (with the same last name- very confusing) was distant and was refusing to listening. When the session started it was just her that showed up. She went on and on about how absent he was and how he refused to see the progress she had been making in her life.

It turns out the “boyfriend” was an ex who had a restraining order against her and lived halfway across the country from her. She was delusional and was receiving treatment for her mental health issues. She just could not get her thinking away from him and legally changed her last name to his because it would mean they would be together.

She figured couples counseling was the way to work our their relationship issues.

3. It’s never about the spoon.

Not a counselor. But me and my ex had the biggest fight known later as the “spoon incident”.

We were both working over 60 hours a week and we’re stressed. Nonetheless we had one night off together so I made sure that I had cleaned the house and everything before she came home. She came back while I was unpacking the dishwasher and put the last cutlery in the drawers.

When I finally put a spoon in the drawer she said “that’s not where it’s supposed to go”. I asked her whether this is the way you want to treat me after I’ve cleaned the house and stuff? Never been so pissed at a GF, while it was actually fairly meaningless.

2. That poor therapist.

My ex made an appt for us when he got his side girl pregnant.

I was 26 and in grad school, lonely, stressed, and horribly gaslit, and went along.

At the time the therapist would say “if he hasn’t changed by now he’s not going to…..usually I’m trying to keep people together but I’m not sure I can now” and I would get mad.

Now I look back and things come on girl, run

1. Toxic masculinity comes from women, too.

I had a guy friend whose now ex-wife dragged him to couples counseling because he was “too nurturing” and she wanted him to be “more of a real man”. She actually complained about how when her female friends sat around complaining about their husbands, she couldn’t join in, cuz my friend wasn’t an emotionally stunted man-child.

Halfway through their first session, he told her he wanted a divorce and walked out, lol. That was right after she’d been telling the therapist about how she’d known he wasn’t an archetypal “man’s man” when they got together, but that she’d always thought she could change him into “a real man”. CHRIST, she was insufferable.

He’s now with an absolute Amazon of a woman, whom we all adore. They couldn’t possibly be more perfect for one another ?

I recommend marriage counseling to literally every couple, because if you feel like you want to go, it can’t hurt – no matter your gripe.

Why did you first make that appointment? Tell us in the comments!

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What Are Very Comforting Facts? Here’s How People Replied.

We all know social media sure can be a bit of a cesspool.

It seems like it’s REALLY bad right now, too, with the country divided and people yelling at each other about their beliefs. It’s enough to beat any person down. And frankly, I’m a bit sick of it.

That’s why we’re headed to the other end of the spectrum today, the one where positivity and wholesomeness rule the day and where we can all leave with big smiles on our faces.

What are some facts that bring you comfort?

Here’s what folks on AskReddit had to say.

1. Wow!

“During the Second World War, a Muslim man owned a mosque in Paris. After France got captured by the Germans, the french Jews were being killed.

The Muslim man offered every Jew he could find shelter in his mosque and handed out fake Muslim certificates so they wouldn’t be questioned. He saved over 400 lives.

No one’s your enemy, except for the ones you make yourself believe are.”

2. Can’t have just one.

“In Switzerland, it is Illegal to own just one guinea pig because they are very social animals.

Its considered animal abuse to only have one.”

3. Isn’t that cute!

“Elephants think you’re cute just like humans think dogs and cats are cute.”

4. Boom!

“America had a black President longer than the Confederacy existed.”

5. Perseverance.

“Malala Yousafzai, the girl who was shot in the head by the Taliban for insisting on going to school, recently completed her final exams in the University of Oxford.”

6. Saving lives!

“Swedish blood donors receive a text whenever their blood is used to help someone.”

7. Never too late.

“Van Gogh didn’t start painting until his late twenties.

JK Rowling didn’t publish Harry Potter until her late
thirties.

Samuel L Jackson didn’t get his first big role until his forties.

It’s never too late to get started.”

8. We all make mistakes.

“Don’t feel bad next time you mess something up.

Every single living thing is an accident! Evolution was just a series of some cell messing up.

It’s literally nature to make mistakes!”

9. It’s amazing.

“Every cell in our body contains molecules that were something else in the past.

Maybe they were in your parents cells, maybe in the food you ate, in the cultivated land, and so on. And you can do the same reasoning also in terms of time.

Maybe your cells contains molecules form an ancient Roman spear of a simple soldier. I find this amazing.”

10. Beautiful.

“The VAST majority of people are actually decent.

Also, we don’t need to find meaning, we literally create it ourselves.

Everything that matters matters to someone, everything that is beautiful is beautiful in the eyes of someone.

The universe does care: we’re the part doing the caring.”

11. Pure freedom.

“There is no inherent purpose in life. That seems awful, but think about it for a minute.

Any goal, any purpose, any achievement, any victory, any lesson, they are all yours. They are entirely yours. No one is handing you a half completed work of art and telling you to finish it.

When you face the end, you know that your fate and your victories belong to you and no one else.

You’re free.”

12. Miracles!

“You are a miracle.

The sperm that was first to your mother’s egg was one in a more than million!”

13. Respect the Earth.

“No matter how badly we mess up the Earth with climate change, and politics and nuclear warfare, etc., once human beings don’t exist, the Earth will repair itself, and life will carry on.”

14. Your pets love you.

“My boyfriend has a panic and anxiety disorder.

Whenever he gets a panic attack, one of our cats will sit on him and purr loudly. It always comforts him and calms him down. We always joke that she is our little support animal.

She is very attuned to our emotions and feelings. When my grandmother passed away and I was very sad, she would not leave me alone. She would just sit next to me in silence or occasionally let out a small meow to inform me she was still there.

So, as conclusion, even if you are having a s**t day, your pet still loves you.”

Now it’s your turn.

In the comments, share some wholesome facts that you think all of us will like.

Let’s see what you got!

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People Fess up to Pretty Disgusting Secrets

When someone posed this question to Reddit, I wonder if they thought they would get literal or metaphorical answers. They probably believed most people would confess morally gross secrets, but listen…there are a lot more people out there with actual nasty secrets than any of us probably realized.

Here are 14 of the best on the thread, of both sorts, so put down your snack and give them a read.

14. What a horrible way to live.

That there is someone on my Facebook who is lying about her dad passing of cancer whilst her eldest daughter (8 years old) is fighting a brain tumour.

It is all lies. Her dad is alive and well. Her daughter is completely healthy (one of the pictures she used as “proof” is her daughter lying on a hospital bed, from what I know she was just in for observation after a small fall).

She has 2 Facebook profiles. One for all her family and friends of the family. And the second one (that I’m friends with) is for old school friends, general acquaintances and anyone she dates etc.

There’s so much more lies but those 2 ones are the ones I know 100000% to be false.

13. That’s a doozy.

When I was 8, my 19 year old cousin tried to make out with me. I remember him rubbing my leg & kissing me in the kitchen whilst my mum was in the living room.

I didn’t understand what was really happening at the time, but I knew I didn’t like it. I kept nervous giggling and pushing him away. After a couple of minutes he looked disappointed and walked away. I don’t remember if he ever tried anything else.

He was killed in an accident 3 years later & I chose never to tell anybody as I didn’t want to add to my Aunt’s grief.

12. Time to get out.

I don’t trust my partner with money, I’ve been tracking how much he spends on weed per month and its a lot- i don’t know how to bring it up because we are saving for a house but 95% of everything we have so far, is from me, while he spends 500 a month on weed

11. Sisters are devious.

During lockdown my sister had a meltdown because she thought I had stolen a pair of nailclippers shaped like a foot that she owned. I told her (truthfully) that I also had a pair and that she had stolen mine. They actually WERE hers.

I found mine an hour later. Rather than tell her, I gave back hers and said “If they mean so much to you you can have them”. I then hid mine in her bag when she went back home after lockdown. She got there and found the two nail clippers and now believes that she was wrong and that the nail clippers she had a meltdown over were actually mine.

10. All of that is extremely gross.

A buddy of mine had a wife that used to be a stripper. She ended up leaving him for one of her patrons. Before she left him, she was impregnated by him (my buddy). She ended up marrying the guy she left him for and the newish dad is basically raising his kid.

I’m still friends with both of them on Facebook since I was cool with both of them and her son definitely looks like him. This was maybe 7-8 years ago. I just shut the fuck up about the whole situation.

9. I thought everyone did this.

I used to lie. Like a lot. I used to make up stories to tell people, just for the sake of it. I don’t do it anymore, although this leads me to telling the same stories over and over

8. I don’t know whether to be grossed out or give her a (distanced) high five.

My senior prom was in 2010. After prom I had a party at my parents cabin just outside of town. Later that night I found my boyfriend having sex in my car with my volleyball co-captain.

I didn’t confront them but instead went to his car (which was only 2 or 3 weeks old) and took a shit in the passenger seat. I wiped with some napkins he had in the glove box and put them in his cup holders. I went back inside and kept drinking.

7. This is so weird.

My one friend has no idea that I’ve known that he doesn’t have kids for months, also that I know he’s been saying this and lying to everyone for attention.

He tells a very convincing story. He goes into vague details, has a photo of the girl, says that she’s been showing him fake paperwork as proof for the children. If what he says is true would be literally extortion. Everything. Little does he know that I’ve been watching closely and also researching to find this woman. I know she isn’t real and that he’s lying and been lying this whole time for almost a year. Nothing he says makes sense and it just keeps escalating which also doesn’t make sense. I literally couldn’t help myself but investigate.

If everyone finds out that he’s been lying this whole time it will spread like wildfire. He doesn’t have many friends and the friends he did have stopped talking to him because of his compulsive lying.

6. How dare. That poor bun.

I dropped a bun in the self-service area of a convenience store. I didn’t pay for it. I just kicked it under the shelf and left.

5. That poor janitor.

In biology class we were dissecting a pigs eyeball and my hand slipped and the eyeball fell on the floor and me being extremely lazy I kicked it under a cabinet and it lay there for 2 years until someone finally found it.

4. The kids are not okay.

My friend’s kid eats PB+J with ranch.

I’m thinking of calling CPS

3. Oh man, this is ugly.

I secretly broke a 2500 euros printer, that is rare and precious, I just fixed it just enough that the second person using it got blamed for thousand almost expelled from school.

2. They’ll never figure it out.

I dropped a human brain once in prep class and put it back like nothing happened and everyone was wondering what kind of head trauma that person died of.

I was a TA (teaching assistant)to the professor for human anatomy and preparatory class. Part of my job (I studied biology and am a trained preparator turned mortician and am specialized in reconstruction) was to prepare donor bodies for upcoming classes.

I would receive specific orders from the professor, what kind of grossing tables, which body part, what kind of class etc. I am not a MD or even thought about being one. I’m just a basement dweller, that makes a living of off death and I am grateful to do so.

1. It’s a part of the school, now.

I drew a massive penis on the ceiling in my art classroom probably a metre long and its been there for years, i asked friends who have brothers and sisters there and they say its still there. Its been like 8years now

Humans are just too weird for words sometimes, right?

If you’ve got a secret like these, we’re all ears!

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People Talk About What Their Pets Have Conditioned Them to Do

Do we know who’s in charge here?

It’s supposed to be the humans, right?

Well, maybe you won’t think that’s necessarily the case after you read through these responses…because it seems like our pets have been training us all these years, after all.

Believe it or not, our dogs and cats condition us to do things just like we condition them.

Let’s take a look at the evidence!

Let’s see what AskReddit users had to say.

1. Do it NOW!

“Change the water in her bowl.

It can be all the way to the top and she’ll stand there staring at it until I take the bowl, dump it, and refill it with fresh water.”

2. Be very quiet.

“I open the tinfoil as quietly as possible.

My cat loves tin foil balls, and whenever he hears it he runs over and looks at it longingly (despite him having at least 24 tin foil balls already).

You can’t call him with a treat bag or tin, he only comes for the foil.”

3. Go get it!

“Check the mail every day…he’s so excited to walk to the mailbox with me it reminds me to actually do it.”

4. Let’s share.

“Before I run in the morning I usually eat a banana.

Ever since we got my sweet dog, I scarf down about two thirds of my banana and he gets the last part.

It’s become our little thing, an unspoken agreement.”

5. It must be done.

“Weaving his name into any song I can for no reason whatsoever.

Also, I was riding around with my dog the other day and motley crue’s ‘girl girls girls’ came on the radio but he likes it better if I sing it as ‘squirrels squirrels squirrels’.”

6. Good energy.

“Calm down when I start to lose my temper or get frustrated.

Whenever he hears me sigh or swear, he runs to me, rests his chin on my arm or leg and looks up at me with concern. This has made me so aware of how my energy can impact those around me and I have really gotten my anger under control since he started doing this.

He’s one of the goodest boys and I am grateful for him every day.”

7. Pick me up.

“My girlfriend’s older cat makes me pick her up to drink running tap water from her bathroom sink.

I also gotta pick her up to get on the dryer to eat, even though she can easily make the jump.”

8. Fetch!

“I have a cat that plays fetch, very insistently.

She brings me her toy mouse, and if I don’t throw it for her, she sits on my laptop keyboard.

Of course this all started when I would throw the mouse to keep her from sitting on my laptop.”

9. This is awesome.

“My mother’s dog tells her when it’s time for her evening meal. As in my mother’s evening meal. The dog knows she eats after my mother, so when she starts to get peckish she goes and bugs her to start cooking.

When I go back to visit, we’ll be sitting chatting and the dog will sidle in and become A Presence In The Room for maybe 30 seconds until my mother casually looks at her watch and says “I suppose we better think about eating”. She’s completely unaware of what triggers her decision.”

10. I hope you’re hungry.

“Yell “floor food!” whenever I’m cooking and I drop something.

Or go “cronch cronch cronch” when I’m chopping veggies, so my dog knows I have extras for her.”

11. Shuffle your feet.

“Shuffle my feet instead of walking when it’s dark so I don’t step on my small, black cat.”

12. Come on in!

“When I get up to go to the bathroom I stand in the door and wait for my elderly cat to come in before I close the door. He likes to keep me company.

If he doesnt come in right away I’ll call for him and if still nothing I’ll start walking around the house looking for him.”

13. Different barks.

“One of my dogs has several barks: a play bark and a squirrel bark and other dog things that are normal dog barks.

He also had what we call his “emergency bark”. The emergency bark is what he does when he thinks there is serious danger. It is EXTREMELY loud and makes us jump every time. He usually reserves it for things like the time I fell down the stairs and he scream barked for my husband to help, or when someone is in our front yard, or when he cornered a possum in the backyard.

However, since my husband started working from home this dog barks his emergency bark at my husband if he tries working past 4pm. My husband now has learned to stop working at about 3:50 every day to avoid that jarring sound.”

Has this happened to you with your dogs or cats (or maybe your other pets)?

If so, please tell us all about it in the comments.

We can’t wait to hear from you! Thanks in advance!

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People Share Facts That We Think Will Make You Happy

We can all agree that this has been a very crazy year with way more DOWNS than UPS and the continuous bad news has even bordered on the ridiculous and unbelievable.

But it’s all true, people…unfortunately…

But that doesn’t mean there isn’t time to turn things around and end 2020 on a positive note, know what I’m saying?

We still have some time to fix this mess!

So are you ready…?

Wanna get happy?

Then let’s take a look at these facts that AskReddit users shared.

1. Thank goodness.

“All those embarrassing/cringy memories that come flooding into your mind when you least expect it?

Nobody else remembers them.

Every last one of us has them, it’s part of this complicated process called living. While you’re busy remembering yours’, everyone else is remembering their own.

Its in the past, nothing you can do right now can make it any better; chalk it up as a lesson.”

2. That’s progress.

“About 65 % of America’s aluminum is currently recycled. Every minute an average of 123,097 aluminum cans are recycled. On average, Americans recycle 2 out of every 3 aluminum cans they use. The average aluminum can contains more than 50% post-consumer recycled aluminum.”

Its just aluminum but it shows that we CAN as a society recycle over half of the stuff we use and we can start keeping the world clean. That and a push to renewable energy would be nice.”

3. You’re far from useless.

“Your body is home to its own unique ecosystem, the human gut.

Sounds gross, but billions of little creatures living inside you are helping you digest things, dispose of waste, and survive natural toxins in the food you consume.

If you ever feel like you’re useless, or that your existence means nothing, that’s not true. You literally mean the world to your gut flora.”

4. Naps are good.

“Bees take naps in flowers!

So yeah, it’s okay to need a nap, even busy bees do.”

5. The great Mr. Lee!

“Stan Lee started creating the Fantastic 4, Spider-Man, Iron Man, etc.at around 40.

So even if you think that you can’t get anything out of life, you still can push yourself creatively and leave a lasting impact on the world at an older age.”

6. Yes!

“Pillow fighting is a real, recognized sport in Canada.

It was founded in Toronto in 2004 by the Pillow Fighting League.”

7. Three good ones.

“A penguin was once knighted in Norway.

Blind people can smile even though they have never seen one. It is human nature. ?

The voice actors of Mickey Mouse and Minnie Mouse got married in real life.”

8. Live to fight another day.

“Think of all the worst days of your life.

You’ve made it through every single one of them and are still going strong.

There’s always another day on the other side.”

9. Use it wisely!

“It is estimated every 10 years, the cells in your body will have been replaced with new ones.

Therefore, you get a new body every 10 years making it so you do get a fresh start.”

10. We’re lucky.

“Despite the fact that the universe is roughly 13.8 billion years old , you managed to exist around the same time as Bob Ross and Mister Rogers.”

11. That’s nice.

“If only 1% of the world population liked you, that would still mean 70 million people like you.”

12. The chain of life.

“If you’ve lost someone, and you feel like that are completely gone from you life, think about the impact they have had on you, on your loved ones, on others, and think of how that impact continues to live on throughout all of life, that impact won’t die with them either.

The chain of life goes on.”

13. Animal affection.

“Since animals have evolved next to human for thousands of years, they have learned to show their feeling towards us.

Dogs will wag their tag, lick you, step on your feet, press their body against your legs, lay on you, etc, all in effort to show affection and be as close as physically possible to you.

Cats make eye contact and slowly blink at you to say ‘i am comfortable, I am pleased’, they headbutt you as their form of a hug, they groom you as they would a kitten to care for you, they rub their scent on you to say ‘this is my human, all mine’ and it reassures them of your bond.

Cows will also groom you, and enjoy being pet as it is relexing and they truly trust you.

Also elephants get excited and happy looking at humans because we are to them as dogs are to us- they think we’re cute, and want to play and pet us.”

Now we want to hear from you!

In the comments, share some facts with us that bring YOU comfort.

Please and thank you!

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People Discuss Very Uplifting Facts That Should Make Us Feel Better About the World

If you turn on the news these days, no matter what channel it is, you’re going to see a whole lot of doom and gloom, and blood and guts.

And it’s easy to get sucked into that negativity, which is why we’re going to do exactly THE OPPOSITE today!

We’re only gonna focus on the good stuff that should bring all of us at least a small amount of comfort.

So, what do you say?

Let’s check out some uplifting facts from AskReddit users.

1. True!

“The world is more literate, healthier and well fed than at any time in human history.

The percentage of people starving to death has been on a downward trajectory for years.

You are less likely to be assaulted or robbed than your parents were.”

2. It could be worse.

“There’s probably an infinite amount of different timelines in parallel universes where you’re doing worse than you are right now, so be proud of yourself.”

3. This is so true.

“EVERYONE IS WINGING IT.

I’ve worked in multiple industries and no matter which, barely anyone above management level has a clue what they’re doing and the ones that do are too afraid to poke their heads above the trenches.

Everyone is winging it, every job is a bodge and your best to learn on the job.”

4. True love.

“Male penguins search for the most beautiful boulder to give to their fiance as a gift and sign of love.”

5. Don’t even worry about it.

“The chance of a plane crash is 1 in 5,400,000, and 95% of the time they aren’t fatal.

Also know most accident happen while taking off or landing.

Once you are in the air, you have basically nothing to worry about.”

6. You look great!

“If only 1% of the world’s population finds you attractive that’s 78,000,000 people.”

7. The best therapy.

“The ocean remains the same.

You can sit on the beach, listen to the waves and forget about the world’s troubles.”

8. Getting better.

“Things in the world are actually getting better, not worse.

Check out “Factfulness” by Hans Rosling. Right now things are in the sh*tter, but we’ll get past it.”

9. Another day.

“No matter what happens- good, bad or otherwise- remember one consistent fact: the sun rises in the East and sets in the West. The sun rises and sets every day, and this won’t change for several million years.

The motivational part of this is usually, just as the sun rises and sets everyday, every day can be a new day for you.”

10. Part of the team.

“Cats like to sit on your laptop, computer, paper work to feel included. They see you’re doing something important and want to help too in their own way.

If you are doing something on a laptop and have a separate old one just for her, she feels important and would not bother you on the one you’re using.”

11. Time well spent.

“Time that you enjoyed wasting, was not wasted.”

12. Children of the stars.

“You have iron and other elements in your body that can ONLY occur in a supernova. Which means a star died so you could exist.

You are the child of stars.”

13. Do your best.

“Dont worry about death. Just be the best version of yourself.

Either God exists and you’re in heaven chilling or you are just gone and you never had have think or worry again.

The sooner you can get your head round this, the sooner you’ll make the most of life and enjoy the moments you can.”

14. Put it into perspective.

“Life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% how you perceive it. If you’re going through some hard times, try putting things in perspective and thinking from a different angle ? !”

15. Your brain loves you.

“Your brain has your back!

No one truly understands the phenomena of your life flashing before your eyes when near death but the best guess is that it’s your brain trying to save you.

Experiences in your life are stored by your brain as lessons on what to do next time. When you start learning to walk your brain is learning how to shift weight around to keep you upright.

If you stumble as an adult, your brain immediately and subconsciously scans your experiences, finds the relevant data, and puts that into action to make your legs move the right way to keep you from falling. This happens hundreds of times a day for various things and you never realize it.

When you are near death, you brain does this same process, trying to find a relevant piece of data to inform your actions to get out of the situation. Obviously, in a fatal scenario, it can’t, but it continues to rapidly run through memories, dedicating more and more energy to the task.

This causes the normally subconscious process to be detected in parts of the brain that normally deal with conscious thought and so you become aware of it.

So even at the very last moments of your life, your brain is still at full-tilt trying to save you.”

How about you?

What are your go-to facts that really bring you comfort?

Tell us about them in the comments, please!

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People Share Their Favorite “Poverty Meals” They Love No Matter How Much Money They Have

Do you have a favorite “poverty meal” that has stuck with you regardless of how much cash you had in your pocket?

Maybe it’s peanut butter and jelly, maybe it’s plain tuna fish out of the can, or maybe it’s good old fashioned SPAM.

Whatever your preference, most of us do indeed have these culinary delights that stick with us through the bad times and the good ones.

AskReddit users shared their favorite poverty meals.

1. Some good ones.

“Lentil stew

Boiled potatoes with salt and a couple of slices of herring

Cabbage soup and crackers

Tea and toast

Steamed rice with furikake.”

2. Do it the old way.

“Pizza in Italy was originally only eaten by poor people who couldn’t afford proper meals, and so they used the basics of flour, tomatoes and other cheap items to come up with pizza.

However, instead of the meat and other things on modern pizza, the basic vegetables make the pizza just as tasty and I always enjoy eating it.”

3. An Indian dish.

“There’s a south indian dish called Kanji, which is pretty much just rice put in water and cooked for a really long time.

Sort of like rice porridge.Then you put different food items and curries inside for flavor.

I still make it all the time, especially when I’m sick.”

4. Give them a shot.

“Lentils! Great cheap protein and can be used so many ways. Lentils with curry and whatever cheap veg is around, usually spinach or cauliflower.

Also a baked plantain for a super cheap and filling snack.”

5. Nice and easy.

“Fried egg with rice and beans.

I was a missionary in Brazil for a few years and when I would eat at peoples homes they would apologize for that being the only thing they could afford.

I could not convince them that it was one of my favorite meals.”

6. Really cheap.

“Yellow pea soup.

500g yellow peas. Soak over night

1 onion. Halve.

Boil together until peas start to fall apart.

Add salt, thyme and marjoram.

Enjoy with mustard.

About 1 buck will give you ten servings. And gas.

But it’s one of my all-time favorite meals.”

7. I love these!

“English muffin pizza.

A jar of pasta sauce, English muffins, mozzarella and toppings of your choice. Fresh produce is dirt cheap.

The pasta sauce is the most expensive part, and if you make it, and the English muffins at home, each mini pizza is like 30 cents.”

8. Sign of the times.

“Velveeta.

Made a huge comeback in my house at the beginning of pandemic when we were scared, unemployed, and feeling sorry for ourselves.”

9. Listen to this person.

“I’m a chef. I own a restaurant.

I’ve eaten some of the finest foods on this planet.

Very few things taste better than box Mac and cheese with cut up hot dogs.”

10. A classic.

“Cuban style rice and black beans.

Sure, I’ll toss in some avocado now I can afford to, but the base dish stays the same.”

11. A delight.

“Peanut butter and honey sandwiches. Containers of both last forever.

Last year, we lost power for 13 days in the rural area I was living in and lost all food. I lived off those sandwiches on rye bread for those two weeks and bottled water. Never got sick of them at all lol.

I lost 12 pounds.”

12. Yum!

“In Ireland (specifically Dublin) we have a dish called coddle. It’s a salty white stew from the days of the poor tenements.

It’s made with leftover sausages, bacon, potatoes and variable other veggies and grain such as barley.

It is an ugly dish to look at but it is so tasty, wholesome and filling.”

13. The good stuff.

“Buttered Noodles!

Any pasta, a scoop of butter, and a dash of salt.”

14. Good idea!

“A gas station slushie mixed with gas station wine.

Poor man’s daiquiri.”

Now we want to hear from you.

What are some of your favorite cheap meals that you enjoy?

Tell us all about them in the comments!

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People Discuss the Habit They Wished They’d Picked up Sooner

Everyone has regrets about how they spent their youth. It’s normal, but listen – if you can learn to take advice from those older than you, really hear them out, you can avoid making at least all of the mistakes we have.

If you’re still young, here are 12 things older people say you won’t regret starting today – not tomorrow.

12. Not all parents are good parents.

Ignore my parents.

Turns out narcissistic parents that raise you under a rock to believe they have the best intentions for you. Is a complete lie.

If I had ignored them, I would have started saving up money at 14yrs old (latest) and moved out at 18.

11. It’s never too early.

INVESTING. Put 10 percent of every paycheck into stocks, bonds, ROTH IRA, etc… I never did and ended up getting a military retirement instead.

I would have been so much better off if I had invested right out of high school and just kept doing it.

10. What a sad person.

Cutting of my narcissistic father earlier.

He is 92 years old and in hospice and treats the entire family like his own personal emotional punching bag.

No one will miss him when he is dead.

9. Refocusing your mind is a helpful trick.

Meditating.

8. You can turn it around.

Eating healthy and exercising.

I’m 40 and have all sorts of issues due to an extremely poor diet as a child.

Don’t be like me, start now. It’s easier than you realize.

7. Don’t take your grandparents for granted.

Painting and building miniatures, my Grandad used to build trains and railway miniatures.

Wish I managed to show him some of my miniatures I have painted and learned from him.

6. Drink more water.

For me the one I could have started earlier is drinking enough water! I cut out soda in my first year of high school, but I didn’t really replace it with anything. All throughout high school & up until I actually graduated from undergrad, I would proudly say “I’m like a cactus! I just don’t need that much water!”

Well, I finally started drinking the proper amount of water just to try it. I felt amazing! My chronic headaches were basically gone. I had energy. My skin looked great. It’s been maybe 3 years since then, and I’ve been drinking tons of water ever since. I can’t believe how many terrible headaches I could have avoided by just drinking more water.

My siblings roll their eyes at me, but they get “chronic” headaches too! So I always tell them to drink more water. They don’t listen at all though. Only time will tell, so I hope they figure it out like I did.

5. Take your health seriously, no matter how you go about it.

Brazilian JuJitsu I have rolled with kids 20 years younger than me and get absolutely destroyed.

No matter what age or body weight you are, BJJ is an excellent skill to have.

You basically will dominate 90% of new comers with just a little practice.

4. Money is important.

Learning how to manage my finances. Through my twenties, I wasn’t a mindful spender, and racked up some debt (~$20k)…

I wasn’t able to pay it off because I was at a low paying apprenticeship, but I finally paid off my last credit card last week! Now I’m planning on saving for the real estate market correction and pick up some properties.

3. Really open your mind.

Learning about other cultures and other languages.

It opens your perspective exponentially.

2. You’re worth it.

Standing up for myself.

It would have made my home life a lot more tolerable.

1. How I wish I’d accomplished this in my 20s.

Not giving a f%ck.

I still need to work on some of these, but it’s a great list.

If there’s anything you would add to it, tell us in the comments!

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What “Cool” Things You Did as a Kid Now Make You Cringe? Here’s What People Had to Say.

We all have those experiences where coming of age can be…awkward…

You think you’re cool when you’re about 16 and then you look back on that time when you’re 25 and you cringe…

And then you look back on 25 when you’re 40 and you cringe even more…

I guess what I’m trying to say is that life is a non-stop cringe-fest.

What are things you did as a kid you thought were cool but now make you cringe?

Let’s see what these folks had to say on AskReddit.

1. What’s wrong with you?

“I thought raising my eyebrow at every little thing made me look cool.

Looking back, it looked like I had problems.”

2. Liar!

“Grade 1 I took one of those chocolate coins in gold foil, put a hole in it and ran a string through, and tied er around my neck

Went to school bragging I won a medal in a hockey tournament…SMH…”

3. A big “UGH.”

“I used to wear padlocks on my belt loops.

For extra stupid, they were padlocks I’d busted off the lockers in PE class with a shoe.

So there I was walking around with four or so padlocks dangling from the belt loops of my JNCOs.

Ugh.”

4. Karate kid.

“I remember signing up for a martial arts class and wearing a black and red gi and a red belt on my first day thinking I would look totally bad *ss.

My instructor made me take off the belt and gi top and told me to never do that again.”

5. Breakin’.

“I would breakdance in front of my large family at every event I could.

Unfortunately my father likes to film things for memory so every so often I am reminded of my god awful dance moves as a 10 year old when we watch old home videos.

I would also do finger guns at the camera afterwards like I was the best dancer ever filmed.”

6. Very stylish.

“Wore a brown suede jacket with a Hawaiian shirt to my senior picture day.

By jacket, I mean blazer, and it was too big with a very 90s cut to it – nothing remotely “cool leather jacket” about it. Also, dug out the old yearbook. It’s worse than I remember: it was not suede, it was microfiber faux suede.

But I very much appreciate the approval of the concept.”

7. That’s impressive.

“I thought I’d look so cool and bad*ss drinking orange juice while eating mints at the same time without flinching or gagging.

I did this at school and at various events.

Thanks to that, I can now handle doing that no problem but it’s bad knowing why it doesn’t bother me.”

8. What’s wrong with you?

“I remember watching some kind of anime where this dude would smack a tree with a stick for hours to train. So that’s what I did.

In my free time I would go in my backyard and whack my tree for hours with a stick.

I thought I was bad*ss, my parents probably thought I was crazy.”

9. Rock star.

“Apparently bandanas looked cool (was into guns and roses as young teen)…

But it wasn’t a proper one, it was my granny’s neck scarf LOL.”

10. It’s okay, you were bored.

“I lived in an apartment growing up. I thought it was hilarious to stand in the entry way of the apartment building as still as possible facing a wall, wearing an oversized t-shirt that covered the pair of shorts I had on, and then wear pants around my ankles…

I was a bored kid…”

11. Getting dark.

“One of my senior photos is actually me in leather with a sword in the middle of a cemetery.

It’s still a cool photo but it’s like “yeah… No”.”

12. Dumb move!

“While Mom was busy at the bank teller’s window, I spotted a long row of light switches in a remote area of the lobby.

As a bad*ss kid, I reached up and turned off the entire row, plunging the bank in darkness.

That, in turn, called the cops because bank staff thought the place was being robbed!”

13. Ouch!

“At around 8-9y/o, I decided I wanted vampire fangs. Best way to accomplish this? Grind my canine teeth with rocks.

Literally cringe as an adult, because they still occasionally sear with pain from a mistake made in a single afternoon.”

14. Major poppin’ going on.

“I used to wear two Hollister shirts with both collars popped up all the time.

I hate looking at those pictures in my moms house.”

Okay, now it’s time to embarrass yourself.

In the comments, tell us about the things you did as a kid that now make you cringe.

We can’t wait to hear from you!

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Many People Don’t Realize These Things Are Anti-Poor

People who have never been poor in their lives sometimes don’t realize how people who are poor live in a whole different world from the rest of us. It can be easy to close your eyes to it, ignore it, think the government is taking care of people, when you and the people you love aren’t living inside the experience day-to-day.

When you start to delve into the truth, though, it can make your head (and heart) hurt – so if you’re ready to educate yourself on the reality of being poor in the developed world, here are 13 things you might not realize hurt more than they help.

13. Amen and preach.

The inability to bankrupt student loan debt.

The bankruptcy system was created to encourage economic innovation and growth by providing a safety net to entrepreneurs who take a risk and fail.

So why is higher education — a calculated risk that you’ll become a more productive higher-earning taxpaying citizen — not considered as honorable a pursuit as entrepreneurship?

Today we also have ‘consumer bankruptcy’ that goes beyond helping risk-takers, and allows people to spend indiscriminately and get a bailout.

If we permit consumer bankruptcy (there are valid reasons for it) then loan debt deserves to be even higher on the list of priorities for a society. Instead, we take young adults at the peak of their working career and imprison them at the bottom of the economy, mired in debt. From a purely business/economic standpoint it’s foolish that we allow this; never mind the moral problems with it.

12. This should not be a thing.

When, and IF, you find a REAL grocery store (not some bodega) try and figure out how easy it is to get to that store without a car.

This right here! I grew up in one of these areas, the nearest real grocery store was a 30 min freeway drive or nearly an hour or more on the bus.

These Carnecias (butcher shop) and Bodegas were all over the neighborhoods. A lot of what they sold was either from Costco or other grocery stores and at a high price no less.

It sucked going to them since we didn’t have a car and they were the only option. There were lots of liquor stores as well, it was a food desert and the last time I drove through my old neighborhood it hasn’t gotten any better.

11. All opportunities are not created equal.

The GRE and other standardized tests.

The GRE is like 130-150$ to take… I had to borrow money from my folks to take it.

10. That’s not so good.

‘Charity’ clothes bins.

Contents get sold in bulk to poor countries for a very low price so they can be sold locally.

Things is, local traders that make clothes can’t compete with the volume and low price and get wiped out.

9. Our justice system is nothing of the sort.

The greatest injustice isn’t that the rich have access to good legal representation. It is that the poor do not.

The Common Law legal system is adversarial by design. If you show up under-equipped, then you are going to have a bad time.

In theory, the duty of the prosecution is to merely present evidence that supports each and element of the offense(s) laid out against the accused. This also includes providing evidence that does not support any element of the offense(s) laid out against the accused.

The criminal justice system, again by design, is meant to give the benefit of the doubt and the advantage to the defendant. Because the power of a state is so overwhelming against any private individual (even people like Jeff Bezos can instantly be brought down by the sheer might of the SEC), and the consequences of loss of liberty so dire, the system is designed that each and every element of an offense must be proven beyond a reasonable doubt; that, is, a fact finder must be sure. A defendant rarely has the burden of proof and it will almost be to a lower standard of balance of probabilities (or preponderance of the evidence), meaning more likely than not.

The problem with the American criminal justice system is that your prosecution authority is elected. In theory, it sounds great to have the prosecution represent the concerns of the people and be accountable to them. In practice it means you have a prosecution service whose entire mandate is based on convictions to satisfy the public, not justice. Justice isn’t about public opinion.

8. A great injustice.

Requiring references and experience for every entry level job. essentially you need to have had enough money to do an unpaid internship at some point for connections etc.

This is one of the greatest injustices. You could be the “model” poor kid, working hard and getting good grades trying to work your way up. Only to hit this barrier. Heck, I had those internships and the entry level jobs still wanted “5 years of experience”. I was 21, so they expected me to be working in a corporate environment when I was 16?

Also, the obsession with college degrees. Convinced an old co-worker of mine to interview a kid for tier 1 tech support. She wasn’t going to, even though his tech knowledge seemed solid on his resume. Just because he didn’t have a college degree. I pointed out we weren’t paying well enough for a college degree anyway.

He ended up nailing the interview and was hired. To this day one of the best guys I have ever worked with. Getting the job at our company allowed him to afford Junior College and then get a degree from our local state university. So now he has the degree that was originally going to hold him back.

7. And also the bail bond system.

what’s really sad is how it used to make convictions. You spend 30 days in jail unable to make bail and waiting for a trial, then the prosecutor offers you a guilty plea for 30 days of time already served. Whether or not you’ve committed the crime, it’s a no-brainer to take the deal and go home, rather than stay in jail fighting and risking a much heavier sentence.

So you take the deal, and now you have a conviction on your record. Well, what happens the next time you have a run-in with the law? Now you’re treated as someone with priors.

It’s all self reinforcing in a way that enables constant harassment and incarceration of poor/minority communities.

6. That should not be a thing.

Requiring full time availability, but only offering part time hours.

5. Thank goodness for libraries.

Having everything online at a click of a button is a wonderful convenience for many of us, myself included. For others, it’s an insurmountable barrier. The is a huge, huge population out there slipping through the gaps of the system simply because they don’t have regular access to internet and mobile phones.

Public libraries have been holding it together by a thread for years as the only point of online contact for millions, and now they’re been cut way back. Budgets are slashed, libraries closed, equipment outdated – and even if they are able to access a computer, a lot of people don’t have the first idea how to use one.

It’s not just “clueless old fogies” either, it’s including impoverished people of literally all ages and backgrounds, especially in rural areas. Book online, apply online, register online, learn more online, contact us online – so many businesses, services, utilities, news sources, job opportunities, etc are now 100% digital, and it’s simply not accessible.

It’s also one of the many, many reasons it’s an astonishingly a$sholish and tone-deaf thing to judge people living in poverty who have “fancy” smartphones. It’s almost impossible in this day and age to live without some kind of internet connection unless you’re already established/comfortable.

4. They’re not for teenagers, that’s why.

Saying that minimum wage jobs are for students. If they’re for students then why do they hire adults in the first place?

3. That’s awful.

Well a lot of benches in cities are designed to stop homeless people sleeping on them so they are forced to sleep on the floor.

Also there’s a lot more anti homeless architecture just look around your city and you’ll see some of it.

2. It’s getting harder and harder.

The push to be cash-less.

1. They should be free.

Anything that’s required by the government and entails a fee. Things like IDs should be free to get, then a small fee if you lose it before it’s time to renew it or you need rush processing.

Along those lines, laws that aim to eliminate something by making it more expensive. Sin taxes and “Saturday night special” laws are a good example.

Learn something new every day – and when you know better, do better.

Tell me what you’re doing these days to broaden your educational horizon. I want to hear about it in the comments!

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