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Homeless People Share What They Mean By “Anything Helps”

Seeing homeless people on the street is hard. They have different signs-some are funny, others are sad, but it’s hard to know what to give when you see that very common sign: anything helps.

So here’s some advice from people who have been there.

#15. When you have nothing.

“Anything to help get clean when showering is not available, like cleansing wipes and deodorant especially. Chapstick, especially in the winter. Women usually need pads or tampons, they are so expensive when you have nothing.”

#14. My last handout.

“Deodorant, water, healthy snacks, razor/shaving cream, couple bucks for food/gift card to taco Bell… I was once given a gift card to the Dollar store that I felt changed my life. They had given me $20 and I was able to buy toiletries, laundry detergent and food. It was my last handout before I got my life together.”

#13. A few impractical things.

“When I was homeless food was the least of my problems. ANyone can afford a couple Mcdick Mcdoubles to keep themselves alive. You know what woulda helped? Loonies for laundry and detergant to keep my clothes from smelling like piss, Batteries for my cd walkman so i could listen to Watch out by Alexisonfire (some of the tracks helped me turn sadness into anger, which helped motivate me to get my shit together), A bible (if your not religious i get it, but motivational reading material for lonely nights is what im getting at here), a monthly bus pass, day passes to the YMCA so i can take a shower and maybe use their plus rooms for a good steam room sesh, Let me put your phone number on my resume (I didnt have a home or a phone so when i applied places i had nothing for them to get ahold of me so i had to tell them i could be found on the waterfront by the picnic tables). Maybe none of this is practical, but i needed a few impractical things to get my foot in the door….which i did…and im fine now.”

#12. That personal touch.

“I used to work with homeless people. For women, you can do up little hygiene packs with pads, tampons, feminine wipes and a little roll-on deodorant. Pads are expensive as fuck and pretty much all women need them.

For a more generic approach, little care packs are doable too. A bottle of water, a snack, a pair of clean socks, bars of soap, a toothbrush and a little toothpaste will go a long way. Grocery gift cards are better than money too. A handwritten note slipped inside the pack too can give it that personal touch.”

#11. Quite cold.

“Not homeless, but a great idea I thought worth sharing: A young kid and his parent in my area recently started a charity drive that’s become quite popular. Donors and volunteers wrap warm winter coats around trees with “Take me, I’m free!” signs. It gets quite cold here and it’s a way to get coats to homeless people on their own terms. It’s been pretty successful from what I’ve heard.”

#10. My wife and kids.

“Homeless guy approached my uncle 15 years back asking for food outside a hotel. Uncle offered to pay his bill.

He said “Can I pack it and take it home, my wife and kids are hungry too?”

Uncle asked the cashier to pack 4 plates of Biryani (costly food with meat), the homeless guy said, “buy me rice and curry for the same amount we’ll get more food for the same price”

He was genuinely homeless.

And also, the amount of money my uncle spent for buying him food was like almost half the price, he and his friends had spent there before the homeless guy came.

We eat junk food and drink coffees throughout the day without giving it a thought. When in the same amount of money these homeless guys can spend almost a week with food.

#9. During the cold nights.

“I’ve never been homeless nor personally known anyone who was homeless. But one time I passed blankets around downtown Chicago and the most common requests were gloves and hand warmers, ESPECIALLY hand warmers. They may be temporary, but they really help out during the cold nights.”

#8. When you’re still stuck in it.

“Being talked to like a normal person is really, really awesome.

Money is good. But it only goes so far. And some people are scammers or after drugs. And even if not money just buys you some food and supplies you need.

What you really need is an address. And clean clothes. And a way to put together a resume and clean clothes to wear to interviews. And work to do in the meantime.

If there are good services in your area helping someone to them can help them. Resistance doesn’t mean they are one of the bad ones either. It could also mean they have been burned enough that they don’t really trust people anymore.

In the end I say support housing first policies and then point homeless people to where they can get involved in it. If you want to spend money then donate to organizations that help homeless people get in to a home and then help them get back in to the workforce. Or a meal. There are homeless that will take the meal. Food and things like tampons help when you’re still stuck in it.”

#7. Much-needed.

“For a female homeless person, I suggest tampons or pads, and feminine wipes. Having her period, living on the streets with no means to take care of herself or keep clean, is difficult and humiliating. It’s a basic human requirement, and those items are kind of expensive, but very much-needed.”

#6. Clean off.

“I was homeless for about 2 years. The most helpful is food. Next is clean clothing of any kind. When you’re homeless you don’t get to wash clothes or have clean ones to put on. Shoes! I’d walk the soles clean off in several months.”

#5. A genuine smile and…

“A genuine smile and food. If you have the time take them to a McDonald’s and talk to them. It was about 6 years ago someone did that for me and it helped me out so much more than I can express.”

#4. Hygiene.

“Probably a small hygiene pack, water and a snack.”

#3. The basics.

“Not homeless but as someone who has made kits the last 4 years to hand out (I keep a stack of totes in my car at all times) I give these things:

Each package has:

BPA free reusable water bottle

Peanut butter crackers

Cheese crackers
Lemon cookies
Dried fruit (Bananas, blueberries, cranberries)
Gum

Almonds and Cashews
Wet wipes

Sport Deodorant
Comb

SPF 30 sport sunscreen
Razor

Toothbrush & holder
Toothpaste
Pack of tissues

Sewing kit
First Aid kit

Lip balm

Tylenol
LED light w/batteries (120 hour tealight)
Ink pen
Stamped envelope
Blank card

Personal note from my family

Winter gets socks, hand warmers, gloves, hats, and those little silver space blankets

I never know everyone’s circumstances so I try to cover the basics and figure they can hopefully trade if they don’t need something.”

#2. Ibuprofen.

“a pass to a $10 gym so they have access to a hot shower everyday, socks, a bottle of ibuprofen…”

#1. Socks.

“I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Socks. SOCKS SOCKS SOCKS. I didn’t care if they were too big, at least they were on and protecting my feet. Women, give hygiene products. Those never get donated unless it’s small bursts during awareness things.

If you want to take it a step further, make little packs with underwear/boxers (again, best to be too big than too small), socks, toothbrushes and paste (my teeth are permanently damaged and I’m looking at implants/dentures at 24), small snacks, a reusable water bottle, and little Mio water squirts, just because sometimes I liked being able to slap a few drops in my water and “treat myself”.

If you live in a bus-laden city, bus passes are good, too! Bus passes were always a pain! If a shelter had them, they metered them and only gave you one use only tickets.. once got stranded on the edge of town that way.”

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15 Men Reveal the Reason Why They Didn’t Ask Women on a Second Date

Dating is a strange thing. You don’t want to come on too strong if you are interested, but you also don’t want to offend the other person if you aren’t. The time between the first and second date has to be the most stressful, for sure.

Men on AskReddit shared why decided NOT to ask women out for a second time after that very important first date.

1. That’s odd

“I drove her home because she didn’t have a car at that time, and she asked we stop for an errand… to pickup matching T-Shirts she had designed for her and her ex.”

2. She was right

“I once went to a movie as a first date with a girl. She got there late and the movie had already started. She then wanted to talk during the movie in the middle of the crowded theater. I didn’t shush her or anything, but everything was a one-word answer, trying to end the conversation. She got up halfway through and said I was obviously not interested in her. She was right.”

3. Snoozefest

“I went on a date with a lady I met online. She talked about three things on this date and little else.

Her pets.

Her ex.

The last time she had gastro.

There was no second date.”

4. The worst

“Went to dinner; she was on her phone the entire time texting. Even when we were talking. Figured she was just in it for a free dinner cause really what’s the point of agreeing to date if you’re not going to try to get to know the person.”

5. Red flag

“She had a 1 yr old and told me about a recent nasty divorce, No problem until she told me that the divorce was due to the baby not being his…”

6. That’s not happening

” “You’d have to get rid of your cat”

And that was the end of that. Actually had 2 women tell me I’d have to get rid of my cat, pretty much immediately. F*** you, a cat is a life commitment.”

7. Complainer

“She rolled her eyes when I said she looked nice. Criticized where I chose to eat. Complained about the music we went to see. I spent the whole date anxious, assuming that she was hating every moment – because, you know, she didn’t have anything positive to say about anything. Then I get:

“I had a good time! Let’s do this again.”

Nah I’m good. I’ve got enough negativity and mixed signals coming from my own brain. I don’t need that coming from the outside too.”

8. Reading along

“When we saw “Fury” in theater she read the subtitles out loud. I’m not sure if she thought I couldn’t read them or if she needed to sound them out, but I knew at that moment no follow up was necessary.”

9. Get me outta here

“I arrived at her place and she told me to hop in her car as she just needed to drop something off at a friends house real quick. It wasn’t a friend, it was someone she had an appointment to sell those hot oil infusers and their millions of scented inserts to. I sat in a stranger’s home for 90 minutes while they smelled them all. She wanted to go to dinner afterwards and I asked her to please drop me off at the car so I could go home.

“She had a business to run.” Guess it didn’t even make it a whole first date.”

10. Family tree

“She said “Haha can’t wait for you to meet my older brother, he just got out of jail for selling heroin. ” Me: “didn’t you tell me your younger brother was addicted to heroin?” Her: “oh ya, wonder how that happened” “

11. And stuck her with the bill

“When she said “I’m so glad my fiance is still deployed…”

Nope out and left her with the bill for that dinner.”

12. Super taster

“I met a girl from my university for dinner one time and she started the date off by saying she only ate with her hands and didn’t use utensils because she’s a “super taster” and can taste the metals they’re made of. This wouldn’t have been a problem if we were eating finger foods of course, but it was a problem as I watched her eat a salmon filet.”

13. No time

“Teeth as black as the night. She didn’t have any diseases or syndromes but simply no “time” to brush her teeth.

For the record. Her photos didn’t show her teeth.”

14. Fiancé?!?

“Met her at a hospital (I was an ER patient for a hand wound, she was a phlebotomist). Asked her out to a movie and then dinner, had a really excellent talk about comics and movies. We were getting to know each other and flirting, it was clearly a date. At the end when I told her I’d like to do it again she said her fiancé probably wouldn’t be cool with it a second time.”

15. Insane in the brain

“She asked if I had any love interests still in existence. When I said no she didn’t believe me. She told me she wanted to travel the world and see old friends (who were guys) and thought that I, as a lawyer should work and pay for her travels. She was insane. She also offered to screw in her car in the first five minutes of meeting. No second date for you!”

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15 People Reveal the Last Straw That Ended Their Relationship After Moving in Together

Moving in with your significant other is a major milestone. So, it only makes sense that it would be a crossroads for many couples. Some find out that they are meant to spend the rest of their lives with this person, while others decide to pack up and part ways.

AskReddit users went on the record and shared the dealbreakers that ended their relationships after they moved in with someone.

1. Not sorry

“She couldn’t say “sorry.” Dated for years and she could never admit she made a mistake. Like one time she got something out of my car at night and somehow left the passenger door open. It rained and the passenger seat got soaked; car smelled like mildew after that for as long as I owned it. I was really upset when it happened because the car was literally a week old, but the best she could do was make a joke about how a deer must have broken into my car and then not talk to me for a whole day.”

2. Dirty dirty

“He doesn’t mind dirt. I’m not obsessed with a spotless house, but poo on the toilet bowl? Dust so thick you can’t read the buttons on the TV? He was fine with that. He couldn’t stand a single messy pile of clutter but didn’t care much about filth. It was so odd for me, his house was always spotless when I came to visit. When we moved in together I realized he only bothered with that if someone he wasn’t comfortable with was coming over.

I knew it was probably bad when I picked up one of his two pairs of work pants and made a comment about how I was washing them because they were rather rank, to which he replied “oh. That’s because I haven’t washed them since I bought them”

He gets uniform allowance in July. It was December.”

3. This guy sounds like a keeper

“A female friend of mine moved in with a guy who seemed totally normal. Then a large delivery of adult sized nappies/ diapers arrived. She stuck with it. Then he insisted on wearing them, and she stuck with it. He insisted on pissing in them and getting her to change it. Dear readers, she stuck with it. She had a hip operation and couldn’t get upstairs quickly enough to meet his demands and the whole thing fell down. What some people will put up with.”

4. Alone time

“I kinda knew it beforehand, as he needed time to himself all the time and we only saw each other on weekends. But only after we moved in together I realized how much time he really needed to himself. I basically never saw him and it felt more like we were roommates.

I get how you need alone-time and time to unwind after work (I mean, so do I), but never really seeing your partner wasn’t the kind of relationship I wanted.”

5. Weirdo

“We dated for a year before moving in together but I didn’t know just how weird this guy was until I was with him 24/7. He was always doing really strange things, rearranging furniture while I was out, moving my stuff and not telling me where he put it, pissing in beer bottles and leaving them by the TV… one time he used foam sealant to seal the front door shut and we could only use the back door until we finally got it back open.

He never made an effort to get to know my family and lied about his own father dying. I eventually was like, okay, I’m outtie and moved back home and the next day he totaled the car that was in my name and immediately went out and bought a new one. When I was living with him he said he was broke and living off of credit cards, but he had apparently had a stash of money he didn’t want to tell me about. Weird dude.”

6. Attention

“She NEEDS male attention at all time which means whenever I leave the apartment she is flirting with some guy online.”

7. Definitely a dealbreaker

“He was seeing someone else at the same time as me.”

8. Crack?!?

“He used to be into drugs. No big deal, I can’t smoke because of my job, but it’s not my place to judge if someone else does.

He conveniently left out the part where he lost custody of his kids (less than a week before we started dating) for smoking crack.”

9. Classy

“That he was a totally self-absorbed. Oh, and that he peed in bottles when be was too lazy to go pee and then left them around the bedroom. F*cking heinous.”

10. Liar!

“He lied about everything. We started out long distance as pen pals (mid 90s before everyone was online). After a lot of phone calls, letters, etc. We finally met IRL when he came to visit me.

First lie, he looked nothing like he described. Fine I can forgive that. We ended up getting our own place and he just kept piling up lies. He talked me into going out to CA where his family was from. Here are some things he lied about.

His real name. His brother being a half brother. His past relationships. His family’s living conditions.

And he got away with all this lying because English was his families 2nd language and they never spoke it at home. I was always in the dark. Even if one of them wanted to say something to me, they’d say it to him and he’d tell me. They could all speak English, but they wouldn’t talk to me. It was a hard lesson. But luckily I learned it as a teenager and it taught me a lot about what red flags to look watch out for.”

11. Leave the tuna out of this

“His penchant for throwing tuna cans when angry.

Had to pay for the dent he left in the metal closet door when our lease was up. Was happy to pay, though, because that can missed my head by millimeters.”

12. You didn’t stick around?

“Gay and wanted to regularly have sex with my father. This one was held in till we got married. Noped the f*ck out.”

13. GTFO

“I didn’t know he was moving in. He was a friend’s roommate when we met but one night he came over and just didn’t leave. I asked my friend about it and they had kicked him out for being an alcoholic, screaming at like 2 a.m. and urinating in the neighbors yard. When he came back from work, I had his bag packed and told him to GTFO.”

14. Sounds like a blast

“We dated off and on for 5 months. We spent most of the time out, home time was Netflix tv series we both liked. Great times and thought I found the one.

Once she moved in it was 14 hours a day of political “news” and opinion shows which would leak into every conversation we had about any subject. The entire DVR was filled within 2 weeks with the CNN and MSNBC 6 hours of evening politics shows. Delete one to make room for something and she knew within a few hours. It was creepy obsessive, she kept a notebook with tv schedules of those shows, with tightly planned viewing times and recordings to maximize being able to watch and record it all.

There was no hint of this when I asked her to move in. We agreed on most political issues to, but it’s not something I want to discuss often. So glad when she moved out. It was so frustrating to have to cringe every time you speak a sentence because you know her next words are, “I know you don’t like politics but…” “

15. Clean it up

“Never putting clothes away. Clean, dirty, it all goes on the floor!”

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15 Employees Reveal Why Corporate Culture Made Them Leave Their Jobs

Corporate work environments can be their own little world. There’s a different language and attitude that just isn’t the right fit for some people.

These people shared their personal stories about when they decided to quit a job because the corporate culture became too much for them to deal with.

1. Okay….

“Lush, when we couldn’t say “bathroom” on the shop floor and instead had to ask a manager for “serenity.” “

2. Wall of crazy

“Had a “wall of crazy” where the CEO wanted to spend 20k on cool and edgy stuff for the office. Staff could make suggestions (Slides, beanbags, napping pods, etc)

Project was scrapped when the top suggestions ended up being:

Desks
Chairs
Working Heating
Working WiFi
Health Insurance”

3. Time to leave

“I’m in management and we just got the message that bonuses for the last financial year were severely cut across the business, probably going to receive 30% of our usual – at best. Then I attended our financial end of year results meeting the next day to be told that net profits were 18% up (nearly 1 billion total) and the best performance in years, all thanks to us.

So even though our profits were way up, the bonuses were cut? Employees who were not upper management would never have that information. Planning on leaving now.”

4. Then why are they there?

“Not my company but a company from a neighboring building. They had an entire area devoted to foosball, pinball, billiards, console gaming, and videoke booths on the ground floor and it was clearly visible because of the glass windows on street level. Oddly enough, nobody ever used them, and the place was almost always empty save for a few people who use the internet kiosks.

When I learned a friend worked there, I asked why nobody would want to take the opportunity to use the awesome-looking recreational facility, he told me that people who do use the facility often found it used against them during performance evaluations, even when their use wasn’t excessive at all. After a while word got around and they started avoiding the place altogether.

The irony is that their recruitment ads always touts a culture of “work hard play hard”.”

5. Like a criminal

“A co-worker was forced to work while her mother was dying in hospice. Mom dies, she quits, they escort her off the premises like a criminal.”

6. Cultish

“When I went to firm drinks in a public bar and the firm’s “fun committee” handed out song sheets and a choir of employees lead by a bad guitarist sang a song about how great the firm was to the tune of ‘Cause I’m Happy. We were expected to sing along. It was at that moment I realized I was in a cult.”

7. MONEY

“We (management team) spent months working with a business coach trying to collectively come up with meaningful core values. We devoted a ton of time to it and really tried to decide which direction we wanted to take the company culture. Everybody agreed on teamwork, reliability, a couple others that I can’t remember now, and then one day the owner came in and called a meeting.

He sat us down in the boardroom and told us he spent all weekend brainstorming and had decided on the core values. They were:

Meaningful Ownership Neighbourhood Engagement You

Does anybody see what that spells? He literally wanted it to be money and just came up with words that sort of worked the way you do in elementary school writing your name poem.

He rebranded the entire company from t shirts with giant first letters and smaller letters for the rest of the word straight down the arms, to plagues, wraps on the cars, everyfuckinthing.

And that’s when we all knew it was going to get bad.

Money is great, but it was mortifying walking/driving around with that plastered everywhere.”

8. That’s a little fishy

“They changed the title of the receptionist to “Director of First Impressions.””

9. Not an upgrade

“When I took a 40% pay cut (with no change in workload) by being moved to salary.”

10. Tears

“I worked for Apple back in their heyday and it was always constant and terrible. But one guy who was an assistant manager (or something like that) took time out during a store meeting to evangelize to us (his words) about how Apple was going to change each of our lives so drastically that we wouldn’t recognize ourselves any more. About five minutes in to his proselytizing, the tears began to flow and he openly sobbed about how Apple was the greatest thing on the planet.

He was ultimately let go for being late too many times and had to be escorted from the store out the back door because he was crying and refused to leave his “home.” “

11. The blame game

“We had a problem with the client and the boss dumped all of the blame on a 24 year old woman who was basically his most loyal employee. He made her cry in front of the client, as if that would somehow help save the relationship.”

12. Time to cheer!

“When I went to my first corporate managers rally, I thought this will be cool, free catered lunch and it counted as a work day. Then they started the rally with the company cheer. I’m like wtf, we’re adults, why are we cheering? Looked around and way too many people were into this cheer. I realized that job wasn’t going to be for me. EDIT: for all those asking I was working as a GM for Dominos pizza at the time. I believe they have a few videos on youtube of the cheer but I’m on mobile and can’t every get links to work.”

13. Priorities

“Not me, but my husband worked for two weeks for a “family owned and operated” business that touted how important “family” was and that they were all one happy “family.” My husband was on his way to drop our at the time 2 year old son off at daycare before work when son threw up all over himself. Husband called his employer to tell them what happened and that he needed to take son home and clean him up but he’d be in asap.

His manager told him he needed to get his priorities straight. He responded with “You know what? You’re right, I won’t be back in at all.” He was still working part time at his previous job where they had been sad that he was leaving, so he called them and told them to put him back on the schedule full-time. The “family” business is currently in the process of liquidating assets before going out of business and I cackle every time I drive past it.”

14. Just like family

“”We treat our employees like family!”

Ignores harassment claims, hires from outside the company, refuses to give out decent pay, will write you up for doing overtime, but the CEO just bought himself a new BMW.

I hate that place.”

15. Union busters

“When i was told that if i heard any talk about unionizing i was to report it immediately. <– G.E. “

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These Infographics Reveal How Many Years of Your Life Different Addictions Cost

A series of infographics was recently released by an online recovery resource directory called Treatment 4 Addiction. They show how many years of a person’s life addictions to various substances can cost.

These are extremely eye-opening and even terrifying charts filled with important information. Take a look for yourself.

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15 Traditionally Female Things That Men Would Love to Try Without Feeling Judged

Sexism is a two-way street. While it tends to primarily affect women, men still feel the sting of misogyny and sexism when they try to step outside of things that are traditionally masculine.

Like these 15 guys, who feel as if they can’t even try an activity or product they’d like to because someone would think it’s too girly.

Do what you want, I say.

#15. Leggings.

“Leggings. I really want to try leggings.”

#14. Got a lot of looks.

“Fruity drinks absolutely. Had an appletini once and got a lot of looks. Fuck you I want fabulous fruity flavor you fucking fuck.”

#13. My dad never let me.

“I really wanted to do ballet as a child,
my dad never let me.”

#12. Love it.

“It’s less that I don’t do it, but more that I don’t talk about it with most folk I know.

But I fucking LOVE to cook and bake. Main dishes, side dishes, desserts (I REALLY like making desserts,) breads, muffins- fuck, I’ve even made my own home-made donuts using an old-ass recipe that called for LARD. I love cooking and baking. Love it.”

#11. I do limit myself.

“I’m not sure if this considered stereotypically feminine, but id love to give people more hugs. I still do, but I do limit myself more than id like to cause I’m worried people will think I’m weird.”

#10. Someday.

“I want to knit a sweater or something someday.”

#9. I want to be a…

“I’m a straight guy. I wanna be a wedding planner.

Edit: Wow! So much support! The ironic thing is that I’ve never been married and if I were to, I’d probably ditch the ceremony and go straight to the honeymoon. But still…

Edit 2: Whoever gave me that gold, you da real MVP!”

#8. Like a guy.

“I cross my legs sometimes when I sit. It’s just more comfortable to me until I have to switch but it’s pretty rare if I ever see any other guy sit in the same position. Usually it’s the skinnier guys who are more likely to do it.

Sometimes I’ll sit properly with both feet on the ground or cross my legs like a guy when I get conscious of other people around me even though it’s less comfortable.”

#7. WAY better than any washcloth.

“Those fluffy shower loofa-things are WAY better than any washcloth! ALL THE SUDS.”

#6. Captain Jack.

“Wear mascara/eye liner. I wanna look like captain jack sparrow.”

#5. Because I care about them!

“If it would be okay for me to be more affectionate to people without them thinking that I’m either gay or into them, coz I say I love you a lot to my friends (because I care about them!) but some of them get uncomfortable so I don’t.”

#4. I’m just really interested.

“Reading books such as Gossip Girl. Idk why I’m just really interested in reading about high school teenage drama.”

#3. So floofy.

“When I was 15-16 and I had long hair I was messing around with the 30 different hair things my mom had

I did something right cus I looked like fucking Naruto for a week

So floofy

So ploofy

I’m pretty sure I looked like a paintbrush but the Combs couldn’t comb it down at all.”

#2. Fresh air!

“First thing that springs to mind is that in hot weather I’d love be be able to wear a skirt.

Y’know … fresh air!”

#1. Social anxiety.

“Mani-pedi. I could really use one, but I’d have to go with someone, preferably a woman, because I just cannot handle that particular brand of social anxiety alone.”

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10 Creepy Facts About Spooky Stuff

If you’re like me, you love a good scare.

Enjoy these facts about random, weird, haunting things.

1. Spooked

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2. Cursed

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3. That’s what that noise is

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4. Horns

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5. Folklore

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6. I bet that’s a first

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7. Deliberate

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8. Abe’s ghost

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9. A sign

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10. Perfect for hunting ghosts

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These Deep, Dark Family Secrets from Twitter Need to Be Turned into Movies

Most people use Twitter to make jokes or keep up with the news, but when lovelyjessij asked Twitter users to share their deep, dark, family secrets, people really jumped on the thread.

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And when I say jumped, I mean in an all-out, honest, really disturbing way.

I can’t wait until some movie or television producer finds this thread and starts making offers because, dang, I need more details than 140 characters (or however many we get now) can provide.

Since she knew most people would be more apt to share anonymously, she encouraged DMs (private messages), which is where the responses came from.

#12. While Grandpa was away…

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#11. There has never been a more appropriate use of the vomit emoji.

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#10. This was common back in the day, or so I understand. Still…

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#9. Detestable.

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#8. When literally no one cares.

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#7. It can be hard to learn where you come from.

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#6. Wow.

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#5. Freaking yikes.

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#4. Family kidnapping?

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#3. I mean, not illegal but still totally weird.

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#2. When you find out your parents had rules for a horrible reason.

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#1. I wonder what he did though…

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12 People Share How Their Best Friend Became Their Ex-Best Friend

While some friendships last a lifetime, the truth is that most of them fall apart in one way or another. Perhaps you moved too far away from each other, or maybe someone did something wrong. Whatever the reason, it’s never easy to lose a best friend.

These 12 people remember the exact moment it happened…

#12. We haven’t spoken since.

“We were both in the military when we were younger. I still to this day owe this guy a debt of gratitude. I was a pretty shy kid growing up but this guy, I’ll call him A, would always pump me up by quoting the movie Swingers and telling me: “You’re so money. You’re so money and you don’t even know it.” Maybe he was paraphrasing. We got into our squabbles as young guys in the military will do, but for the most part he was an absolute standup guy.

The years progressed and he visited me at my next duty assignment on the west coast; we were originally on the east coast. We didn’t see each other as much but when I deployed to Iraq or Afghanistan he’d always let me stay the night with him in his apartment, taking me out on the town and just being a really good dude.

The years continued to go by and he even came out to stand as one of the groomsmen in my wedding, giving me a great toast and telling me how proud he was of how much I’d changed since we first met.

But when I got stationed overseas back in 2011 we really lost contact. We talked off and on for the 3 years I was away but when I got back I heard from his sister what happened.

He got out of the military and took a job as a civilian contractor. He was doing well but had to take a lifestyle polygraph test in order to get a better job. He failed miserably. He lied about soliciting prostitutes and smoking weed after he got out of the military. The polygrapher knew was lying and then he admitted to it, thus screwing himself even more. Not only did he not get the clearance but he lost his existing clearance.

He left the east and moved down south, trying to finish his masters degree. But he couldn’t. Strike number two. He failed out of that program. He was still able to get a decent job working at an IT company but he got fired from that after it was found that he was behaving inappropriately with a few of his female co-workers. He was always a lothario but apparently had gone too far in this case.

This all ended up with him getting super depressed and threatening to kill himself, pointing a gun at his head while the cops stood him down. He was involuntarily committed to a mental institution and was just never really the same.

I was flabbergasted when I heard all of this and immediately tried to make contact. A kept avoiding my calls but I was finally able to get a hold of him. He just sounded so different and distant on the phone. I told him I was here for him and would do whatever he needed, but he told me in an ice cold voice something that still kind of haunts. “I’m not the same person that you used to know.”

And he was right.

I kept trying to engage with him over the next couple of months but he’d never pick up or answer my calls. Finally I was able to get a hold of him when he was able to get in work in Texas but he was gone by this point. But I told A how much he meant to me and still means to me, how he brought me out of my shell and was a big part of becoming the person I was today. He didn’t really care one way or the other and after that day (which was around 3-4 years ago now) we haven’t spoken since.”

#11. I never heard from either one again.

“I had 2 best friends through grade school, middle school and the start of high school, they didnt know each other, two unrelated friendships, but basically when i was doing something i was with one of them or one of them were at my house. My parents had pointed out a few times that I was always the one to call them (this was before mobile phones and texting), and why did they never contact me to play over (or hang out as we got older). It started gnawing at me and at one point I decided to see if these guys who called me their best friend cared enough to contact me.

So one day I stopped calling them to hang out. Weeks went by and then months. I never heard from either one again. I guess we weren’t that good friends or there would have been some contact.”

#10. What bothers me.

“I let him stay with me for a week while he was in between apartments. 3 days in, he loses his headphones but doesn’t tell me, and 2 days later he looks through my stuff and finds my pair of headphones of the same brand, takes them, and claims they’re his. I ask for them back and he says I can borrow them. The next day he marches into my room at 1AM and yells at me for 10 minutes about how I’m an asshole for stealing his headphones and I’m a terrible friend and I’m an idiot, etc. He leaves for 2 hours and then comes back like nothing happened. I give him the headphones (they were only like $30, I just bought another and didn’t care too much) and politely tell him that our friendship means more to me than headphones, so he can take them but can no longer stay with me due to his behavior, even though he only had a couple more days. Haven’t talked to him since, but several mutual friends are pissed at me because he told everyone I stole his headphones, yelled at him, and then kicked him out for no reason. Fun.”

#9. As long as she’s happy.

“We’d been best friends for 20 years+ years. Knew everything about each other. Our fears, our hopes, our dreams, our kinks. About the only thing we didn’t know is what the other looked like naked.

We were always there for each other. Every time she met a guy, dated him, and ended up dumping him or getting dumped i was there for her.

Then she hooked up with her current guy. He’s someone we’ve known since high school. They dated for about 6 months, then got married back in March.

She hasn’t spoken to me since. I’ve tried calling her a couple of times, but she won’t answer her phone. I’ve texted her a few times, no response.

I miss my best friend, but as long as she’s happy I won’t press the issue.”

#8. She didn’t believe me.

“She never believed I was sexually assaulted as there was no video proof of it happening, and she has continued being friends with my assaulter, even after the assaulter is now stalking me.”

#7. It’s none of my business.

“I knew my best friend since middle school. Went to the same college and graduate school. We both moved across the continent to Silicon Valley. We’d go out biking every weekend and sometimes even during the work week in the early morning or afternoon.

After his girlfriend cheated on him (baby included) he decided to stay with her. No problem for me: it’s not my woman… We’d still hang out once per week for a couple more years, though I never once saw her or the new kid. It was as if he was leading two completely separate lives.

We could finish each others sentences.

And then, 4 years ago, they got married and she decreed that he couldn’t see me anymore. She’s so insecure about her earlier cheating that she thinks everyone of his friend judges her for it. I’m truly indifferent about it. It’s none of my business. Whatever makes them happy.

A few times per year, we do a short lunch bike ride. She doesn’t know about those. (Those are his only rides on Strava that he marks as private so she can’t see them.)

But I’m essentially out of his life. He hasn’t been to the new house that we bought 3 years ago. I haven’t even seen his new kid yet. (He’s 2 now.) My request to visit them due to the new baby was rejected. (“Maybe later…”)

I still bike multiple times per week, often the same trails as the ones we did together. It still bothers me that this was taken away from me.

(When I’m in a really bitter mood, I wish she’d cheat again. I’d be a bad Nelson Mandela.)”

#6. Of course, word spread.

“We were best friends from preschool to 8th grade. One night while her parents were at a wedding, her older cousin was staying the night with. Her cousin was downstairs all night and my friend invited her friend (boy) who was two years older than us over. I was already a little uncomfortable because my friend lied to her cousin saying this boy was the same age as us. While we were upstairs in her room, we were listening to music and reading magazines. Out of no where my friend took her shirt off and was dancing around in her bra. This boy told her to dance in her underwear too so she did. He asked me to and I said no. My friend started making fun of me and calling me a prude. He then held me down and kept trying to yank my pants off, I kept kicking him, so my Friend started helping him. He got my pants half way down and he kept reaching in my underwear and under my bra. So I started yelling for him to stop and I kicked him hard in the face. He stopped and went home. when he left I got in a fist fight with my friend. Her cousin (who was asleep the whole time) never found out. I walked home and I was too embarrassed to tell my mom. The next day I felt like I needed to talk to Someone so when I went for a walk with another friend, I told her what happened. She told her mom, her mom called my mom, and we went to the police station (bc my other friend told the boy my mom called her mom and told her what happened, so his mom ran to the police station to press charges on us for making up lies about her son). Of course, word spread around school and I was completely embarrassed and depressed. My friend lied to everyone saying that I was the one who was taking my clothes off and trying to get him to have sex with me, and he didn’t want to so I made up lies about him. Ended our friendship and it made it hard for me to become close to any other friend again.”

#5. Drugs.

“Drugs. Promised we wouldn’t let that ever come between us. We did. But now we’re both trying to put it back together again. This time without drugs.”

#4. Money.

“Money. As we got older money borrowed didn’t get paid back and the person started treating me like a second income. Forgiving past debt didn’t do it, but cutting them off from using me as secondary income did.”

#3. No regrets.

“My best friend of almost 20 years told my 13 year-old child that she’d need plastic surgery, to diet, and an entire new wardrobe to fit in at her new school. He also tried to convince me that I wasn’t an addict, I had 2 months clean at the time and was fresh out of treatment. Multiple times offered me numerous substances trying to get me to break. He had agreed to let us move in to escape the unsafe home we were in but he went maniacally insane. The last straw was him making some off the cuff remarks to me about “not wanting to associate with anyone who didn’t fit his image of celebrity”.

I wrote a Dear John note, packed my shit and took my kid while he was at work. Blocked him on every conceivable social media and haven’t spoken to him since. No regrets.”

#2. He cut me off.

“He came up to me at lunch one day and asked me if I knew a girl. I said no and he said that he thought she was super hot but had no classes with her, no friends in common, nothing to talk to her but he found out that she goes to the church his mom goes to so he asked if I wanted to go to church so he could get at her. Go to church to pick up girls? My sixteen year old mind thought that was fucking genius. So Sunday rolls around he picks me up and we go.

He was a good looking guy, super athletic but socially awkward. I’m okay at best looking, pudgy, but pretty outgoing so pretty solid combo when it comes to spitting game, he brings them in I keep them entertained. So we spot her and we join the group get to talking and making friends and it was actually really cool so we went back the next week and the week after that. All of a sudden it’s been six months and we’re heavily invested in this church youth group. That girl turned out to have a boyfriend but we liked all the other people anyway.

I’m an atheist so I was just there to kick it with my boy and other people my age but he got super invested in the religion aspect. Decided he wanted to be a pastor and started cutting off all our friends besides me since they were in his mind the cause of sin in his life. He then would only ever talk to me about God not our actual shared interests so eventually I told him I wasn’t going to attend the youth group anymore. He got furious and cut me off too. I kept being friends with a few of the girls there but not him. The friends that he all cut out and I got even closer after Highschool and now he’s in the navy.

Tldr: Went to church for the pussy, he stayed for the religion. I left.”

#1. New friends.

“We went to college, and she found newer “cooler” friends and froze me out. Sucked since we had been friends since kindergarten and lived together in our first dorm freshman year.”

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