People Talk About Negative Mentalities and Mindsets That Need to End

The world is full of people who don’t want to listen to reason and who think they know everything…even when they’re dead wrong.

All we can do is try our best to educate people and to do the right thing, but it can be very frustrating to deal with people who have awful mindsets and mentalities.

Here’s what AskReddit users had to say about things that just need to go away.

1. No love.

“That we should have unconditional love for our relatives.

Bitch, if you hurt me enough, why should I even like you?”

2. Take it down a notch.

“Broadcasting everything on social media.

I have cut way back on my social media presence.

There is absolutely no reason why everyone that I have ever met throughout my life needs to I know every detail of everything that is going on in my life.”

3. Everybody take a deep breath…

“That if a person doesn’t immediately text you back then they don’t love you.

I’ve seen people cry over “well I texted him after 20 mins of him texting me and it’s been 21 minutes and he hasn’t texted me back yet!!! We’re breaking up!”

I’ve even had fallouts with friends because I had to stop texting to drive or go to class. I understand it’s from anxiety, I have clinical anxiety and I understand to a point.

But, it is EXTREMELY anxiety-causing to have to monitor all your text-back times and frequency so the other person doesn’t throw your entire relationship away over not texting back fast enough. It’s ridiculous and I’m so tired of it.

Let people have a life outside of you, their life doesn’t have to be 10000% dedicated to you for them to truly love you. Sometimes the best thing you can have in a relationship, any relationship, is a mutual respect of privacy and time.”

4. It takes time.

“That anything but perfection is a failure.

Progress is often incremental and takes time.”

5. Maybe you’re toxic?

“Everybody that doesn’t get along with you or agree with you is “toxic.”

People are starting to expect being around nobody but people that agree with them, like a constant feedback bubble on social media, but in real life.”

6. Don’t need to hear this one again.

““If you can’t handle me at my worst then you don’t deserve me at my best.”

Sometimes someone’s worst is an absolute deal-breaker and needing to cut ties and move on doesn’t mean that that person doesn’t deserve the good things that come from a better relationship.”

7. Not for everyone.

“A life without children is empty and worthless.

I am confident that I would be a terrible parent, and no it wont change, and no my life will not suffer because of it.

It is better to have that insight and avoid parenthood that have kids you resent, mistreat , or are unprepared for.”

8. Not a good outlook.

“Nobody is interested in having a relationship with me and that definitely means there’s a problem with the sex/sexes I’m interested in as a whole.”

9. Not a chance.

“The customer is always right.

Infuriating for those in retail, food service, etc.”

10. Sad.

“If we do not agree politically then you are an enemy that needs to be destroyed.

Politicians are supposed to be serving the people.

People should be holding the politicians collectively accountable and taking them to task.

Instead, people are fighting each other over politicians at the cost of public interests.”

11. Just existing.

“That being gay or trans is a political statement.

We just exist.”

12. Canceled.

“Cancel culture.

Yes, if someone has raped and assaulted people, I don’t really want to hear from them again (though it seems some get a pass and others don’t, see all of Hollywood applauding Polanski and then banging on about metoo.)

But if someone said “gaaaay” as an insult 20 years ago or tweeted that they voted for someone you dislike, no, I don’t think their entire career and life needs to be destroyed.

I am very left wing, socially liberal, but my God, am I sick of hearing about how awful someone is because they used the wrong pronoun or didn’t use the right word to describe a group of people.”

13. Interesting.

“The anti-nuclear bullshit.

It’s the cleanest, safest power source in the world. It’s reliable and with the proper reactor designs, scalable and portable.

And before anyone says solar, the panels are made with some fairly toxic materials that are very difficult to recycle and will be a massive issue in the next 20-30 years when the current panels need replacement.”

14. You must be a doctor!

“”Vaccines are dangerous, I know what’s best for my child.”

Yeah that 10 minute google search you did to confirm your bias trumps decades of medical research.”

15. This is very common.

“This mentality of older people in industries refusing to train or teach younger people then complaining when younger people don’t know what they’re doing. I deal with this constantly at work. I’m a young guy in my industry and I am the exception to the norm. Most fire investigators are older guys.

They constantly ask me why there aren’t more young fire investigators and I always tell them the same thing. Because you guys made it so difficult to get into the industry by requiring certifications that require five years experience to get, require two court testimonies to get, and so on that no one can get into the industry.

And then if someone does manage to break in, you guys treat them like crap, refuse to help them, and refuse to teach them what they need to know.

There are a ton of critical industries in the United States that are going to have issues because the barriers to getting into the industry are so high and those already in it are so elitist that there’s going to be no one who knows what they are doing left to continue the work. It’s a major problem.

Teach young people. Bring them in. Show them the ways. Don’t be a fucking dick.”

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People Talk About the Bad Mindsets and Mentalities That They’d Like to See Go Away Forever

Even though I think (I hope?) we are evolving and becoming more accepting and more kind to each other, there are A LOT of problems in this world right now.

And a lot of them come from deeply-entrenched ideas and beliefs that people can’t see to get rid of no matter what.

What stupid and backward mindsets would you like to see go away?

Let’s see what folks on AskReddit had to say.

1. This one right here.

“Alcoholism being romanticized.

No, it’s pretty terrible to be honest. I feel like shit today.

I want to stop drinking but I know I’m gonna drink more today.”

2. It’s okay to change your mind.

“That if I change my mind or opinion about something I’m being fake or phony.”

3. Let it go.

“That you need to stay in contact with all of your family members even though some of them are incredibly toxic.”

4. Get this shit outta here.

“My opinion is as good as your evidence.

This, or that everyone’s opinions are equally valid.

No, the guy who has a PhD and 10 years of experience in the field’s opinion is more valid than your 10 min google search.”

5. All about me.

“People who oppose good things because ‘I struggled through it and so should you!’ instead of thinking ‘good, nobody should go through that if possible.’”

6. We all need a break.

““No days off”. Sometimes you need a mental health day or a break, and people make it sound  like if you don’t work yourself into the ground you won’t be successful.

Successful people know when to recharge.

It’s an annoying mindset 🤷🏻‍♀️.”

7. A little patience.

“Expecting everything instantly.

Patience is a virtue.

You’re not going to die if you have to wait in line.”

8. Not a hoax.

“Climate change is not weather.

Just because it’s -10 degrees doesn’t mean it’s a hoax.”

9. A bunch of BS.

“If you don’t post about a tragedy or support something on social media, you are ok with it or dont support/care about said something.”

10. Sometimes, you have to let it go.

“Quitting is only for losers.

If you try something and don’t like it, why keep doing it? Why not allow yourself to switch to a better major or try a different sport or get a new job?

I mean, don’t quit everything once it gets hard, but why stay miserable for a “quitters never win” mentality? Get a job you LIKE. Do an activity you LIKE.”

11. Work/life balance.

“There is this whole work culture expectation now of always being reachable by email or text for whatever happens. A lot of places expect, and at times demand, that you be pretty much on call even when you’re not at the office anymore.

I worked at an ad agency where days off sometimes didn’t even feel like that, because I would still be getting emails about things and was expected to be checking them. I hated it.

There should be some level of balance between work and personal life and I feel like that is fading because so many places are adapting this type of culture and mentality, especially start-ups.”

12. Not a competition.

“Stop comparing traumas.

It’s not a fucking competition. Learn to have empathy and take care of each others’ mental health.”

13. People change.

“Assuming that people are not allowed to change their opinions or values over time, and judging people, famous or not, for comments made decades ago.

Yes, some people have patterns of problematic comments and behavior and should not be ignored. But it also makes sense that, for example, a politician may have learned more about abortion or healthcare or what have you and be able to change their stance.

We are not the same people at 25 and 50.”

14. Gimme my sleep!

“Just because I’m young doesn’t mean I don’t need sufficient sleep.

Just because I’m young doesn’t mean I spend all of my money recklessly and need to work overtime every weekend.

Just because I’m young doesn’t mean I don’t want to relax at home on my time off.

I hear a lot of shit at work because I work with mostly older people. I budget my money wisely and in a sense I also budget my time.

Apparently those concepts are hard to understand.”

Okay, now we want to hear from you.

Tell us about the mindsets and mentalities that you think need to end.

Talk to us in the comments!

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Restaurant Owner Calls Cops on Black Woman Sitting In Her Own Neighborhood

Sitting on a bench in your own neighborhood isn’t as peaceful as it used to be. At least that’s what Jana’e Brown learned recently.

The African American woman encountered Svitlana Flom in the Upper West Side of Manhattan, and let’s just say the interaction didn’t go well.

Brown posted a video on Instagram of the incident between her and the co-owner of Maison Vivienne, a high-end restaurant in the Hamptons.

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From 6:15pm – 7:31pm this woman, Svitlana Flom, artdefete felt the need to not only approach me but call the cops MULTIPLE TIMES ON ME!! She was too “Alarmed” that I was sitting “comfortably” in “her neighborhood!” The first call was because she THOUGHT I was smoking in public.. but by the 3rd call, it was bcuz I was “threatening her & her children !!” While giving my description, she exaggerated her story & made it seem like I was the aggressor. “THIS AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMAN IS ATTACKING ME AND MY CHILDREN!” She had tears that were off & on & she stated things like “She’s pulling the black card!” Then wanted me to walk to the boys w/ her 🤦🏾‍♀️🤡 I probably could have just walked away!! I probably should have kept my mouth shut right ?! NAHHH!! I couldn’t understand why she was so mad ! Like ummmm first of alllll I pay alllll mine over here Miss Lady !! 🙄 How you come over here just feeling sooooo privileged & soooo comfortable enough to tell me I should leave ?! You’re buggin !! NOT THIS ONE!! She wanted to be a victim soooo bad!! NOT ONE PERSON CAME TO HER AID!! MULTIPLE PPL witnessed the ordeal & just wanted to make sure I was ok! SHARE THESE VIDEOS AS MANY TIMES AS POSSIBLE !! #SvitlanaFlom @maisonvivinyc @huffpost @ariannahuff

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In the video, Flom can be seen calling the police on the healthcare worker. The New York socialite accused Brown of smoking marijuana and proceeded to call 911 multiple times.

Incredibly, Flom told police over the phone that Brown was “playing the Black card.”

That wasn’t even the worst part. On her third 911 call, Flom reported Brown for “threatening her and her children.” That couldn’t have been further from the truth.

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Flom then claimed to be pregnant and shaking with fear. Yet, a man who supposedly is her husband can be seen walking away from her in the video.

That certainly caught Brown’s attention, who commented that the husband never even approached his wife to see if she was okay.

Stunningly, Flom then asked Brown if she would walk with her to the officers. Of course, Brown had no intention of following.

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Police eventually arrived at the dramatic scene. And when they did, it’s safe to say it didn’t go quite as Flom expected.

Police didn’t arrest anyone. Brown even offered to let an officer search her.

“If you want to search me, you can.

Because I don’t have anything.

Some people think they’re more privileged because of the color of their skin or their economic status or whatever.

But that’s not how I am.”

Have you ever been in a situation where someone was falsely accusing you of a crime?

How did you handle it? Tell us your story in the comments below!

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