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People Share the First Thing They Worked Hard for to Save Money to Buy

It’s always a big deal when you’re young and you work hard and save that cash to buy something that you’ve been wanting for a long time.

I remember when I bought my first really nice, flat-screen TV that I’d been saving up for. It was great!

And I still have it…I think it might be time for an upgrade…

Do you remember the first thing you worked hard for to save money to buy?

Here’s how folks on AskReddit responded.

1. Gotta have it!

“A TV for my bedroom.

I wanted one when I was 13, and my parents said that was fine as long as I paid for it myself, so I got a job picking strawberries at a local farm.

Yes, I got my TV, but I was so sick of the sight and smell of strawberries that it was at least a year before I could even think about eating them again.”

2. Sounds cool.

“This huge animal encyclopedia. My mother was very poor but she still let me earn a bit of money by doing extra chores around the house. There was this big animal encyclopedia at a local book store.

It was $150, way too much for even a present so I saved up all my chore money for a very long time. I believe around a year. I still came up short. (I would still buy candy here and there) in the end my mom paid the rest of it.

I spent days reading that thing. I kept it for years in the end I gave it to my younger brother. I don’t know where it’s at now.”

3. You should be proud.

“My first car. I’ve been working since I was 17, minimum wage, and I just bought mine at 19 years old. It cost me $5000, and I was able to pay for it all at once.

I was super happy and proud of myself. It’s a 2012 Ford Focus Sel Hatchback, and I love it a lot.”

4. A great accomplishment.

“My education.

I worked CRAZY hours (60+ hrs/wk, 6 days a week) every Summer while I was in college to cover housing and food while I studied.

It was effort well-spent.”

5. Freedom!

“70 years old here …

A $25 J.C.Higgins 24-inch bike.

It was the embodiment of freedom.”

6. A night to remember.

“My prom dress.

I got a part time job as a sign spinner in the the weekends in high school to pay for my homecoming and prom dresses because I knew my mom couldn’t afford them.”

7. You do you.

“Breast augmentation.

I was pancake flat chested, and was bullied as a child and young adult. I was even made fun of by my own mother, frequently. That really messes with a kids head. So in my 20’s, I left my home state and moved 500 miles away.

I worked 2 jobs for 6 months straight, with 1 day off in 6 months. I scrimped and saved up enough money for surgery, and a week off for recovery.

My self esteem has improved so much, that I am literally a different person That was 25 years ago, and I haven’t regretted it for one moment”

8. Wow.

“My dad told me to earn $3k for my first car and he would match it.

I did. He got me a $6,000 car and told me to keep the money.

He just wanted to see me earn and save it.”

9. All yours.

“A pair of Doc Martens.

My Indo-Canadian parents would never have bought their daughter a pair of combat-esque boots so I saved up from my tutoring job and bought my own.

No regrets!”

10. That’s cool.

“Our French class in high school was going on a field trip to Quebec, It was about $800 or so. I didn’t wanna do any of the fund raising and was 17 at the time delivering pizzas after school.

So every day I’d come in with my previous night’s worth of tips which was about $30-$70 dollars and gave it to my French teacher until I had enough.”

11. A wicked axe.

“In 1998, I bought a B.C. Rich Warlock from a pawn shop on layaway.

I’ll never get rid of it for this reason alone.”

12. A good life lesson.

“A 700 dollar camera. I cleaned and organized garages and sheds for months and months. Totally worth it.

Iwas about 13 or so and I’m very proud I achieved that. I will carry that mindset for the rest of my life.”

13. Sounds amazing.

“A trip to space camp. I saw a commercial for it, copied the address, wrote to them to ask for a brochure.

Told the mailman to hold it for me until I came home from school and to not let my parents see it. Got a job at 14 and worked as many hours as they would let me. Opened a passbook savings account and saved my paychecks, my allowance from chores, my babysitting money, birthday and Christmas money for an entire year.

I even had a jar of change that I had found on the sidewalk. I saved over $1,000 and then asked my parents if I could go. They said no, it was too expensive. I handed them the passbook that said I had more than enough. They couldn’t say no and I went to space camp!

My grandmother even chipped in an extra $200 for spending money. Best 10 days of my young life! I am SUCH a nerd! “

How about you?

Do you remember the first thing you worked really hard to be able to buy?

Tell us your stories in the comments. Thanks!

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People Share Free/Low-Cost Resources That College Students Need to Know About

Were your college days filled with scraping by, eating ramen, and drinking Hamm’s because you were always low on money?

Well, you’re not alone, my friends, because that’s the way it goes for countless numbers of young kids out there just trying to get an education.

And that’s why these resources that folks shared are so helpful for students trying to get by.

AskReddit users offered up free and low-cost resources that college students might want to take advantage of.

1. Cheap software.

“A lot of times your university will have stupid cheap software licenses for students/faculty.

At my university we got Adobe Creative-Cloud licenses for $10/year and free Microsoft Office licences (this was before office 365, so it wasn’t a subscription).

Sometimes the cheap software is only for certain departments/majors but at mine they had several deeply discounted software packages any student could buy.”

2. Good one.

“Find the previous editions of your textbooks. Frequently they will be as cheap as $0.05.

If your professor pulls homework questions out of the current edition go to the library and use their reference copy just for the questions.

Although with a lot of the access codes needed these days it might not be possible.”

3. Worth a shot.

“Check with your grocery store to see if they have a student discount day.

15% off can go a long way.”

4. Give it a shot.

“To help organize notes and sources for papers and assignments, I highly recommend Zotero to help keep organized.

It also makes writing citations super easy.”

5. For the smart folks.

“For science/ stem people: Khan Academy videos.

They saved me several times.”

6. This right here.

“Please use your school’s on-campus mental health professionals.

They are easy to access, usually free, certified, and acutely aware of the stresses and issues with college life.”

7. All kinds of discounts.

“Student discounts. I’m sure someone else has already put this but I benefitted from it greatly.

As a music major, I had to buy a lot of different DAWs and equipment along my journey. Big corporations want you to buy their product, but are aware that you’re already digging yourself into a huge hole of debt so they often times will drop the price of a product by half or more to sell it to you.

For example, as a student you can get an Adobe membership for about $20 a month. I got a copy of Studio One 4 for $250 as opposed to $500 because I was a student. This also works if you’re not a student but want to make a large purchase.

Most sites don’t actually check to see if you’re a student so just jump thru some hoops and see where it gets you!”

8. Doing the Lord’s work.

“Church pantries.

Free groceries every week/every other week.

Just being proof you live in the area.”

9. Drink up!

“The grad student bar usually has cheap booze.

Art shows often have free booze.”

10. Very helpful.

“Mendeley.

Its a citation manager geared towards peer reviewed literature. It has a browser extension that downloads the pdf/ citation, and integrates with word. As you’re typing, you can add in text citations by searching for the author.

Then when you’re done, click add bibliography. Boom.. Done. Its made by elsevier. Once you use it, you’ll wonder why you ever added citation by hand/ one at a time.”

11. Might as well try.

“Fafsa, even if you don’t qualify, it’s still worth trying to get financial aid.

I only have to pay about $45 per class as opposed to $250.

Might look confusing and tedious initially, but after the first time the website usually saves your info and it only takes a few clicks to apply for the next year.”

12. Yes!

“LIBRARY CARD. This cannot be overstated enough.

Libraries are one of the only remaining establishments in which you are not compelled to spend money. It is FREE material. Free books, movies, magazines and periodicals, games, sometimes even technology!

Libraries are amazing. Some library cards even provide you access to online only materials.”

13. Get on it!

“Coursera!

Basically college classes of various types taught online for free (you can pay for a certificate if you like, but you can access all the resources for free if you just want the knowledge).

The fun thing is the variety is huge and beyond the usual intro level stuff- for example, if you are past intro programming and like astronomy, there’s an excellent astronomy data science class I recommend to a lot of people.”

How about you?

Do you know of any good free or cheap resources that college students should know about?

If so, please share them with us in the comments. Thanks a lot!

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A Waitress Asked if She Was a Jerk for Refusing to Return a Tip to a Customer

Waiters and waitresses really have to put up with a lot of bullsh*t, don’t they?

The folks who work in the back of the house in restaurants have their own sets of problems, but those who are out front and center have to deal with all the drama from customers…and you better believe that there is plenty of it.

A waitress shared a story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page about dealing with certain customers that frankly sounds like kind of a nightmare.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for refusing to return a tip AND telling a couple that I don’t have time to play mediator?

“I’m a 22 year old, female waitress at Texas Roadhouse. This is one of my two jobs to put myself through college. Most days are fine but other days are a living hell.

Yesterday I was assigned a table that had a husband, wife and what appeared to be a teenage daughter (maybe 17). Everything was going smooth at first and the wife ordered a margarita. The husband then tried ordering a beer. The wife instantly lost her noodles and said “Uh, no. He will not have a beer. He will have a water.”

She then turned to him and said something along the lines of him not needing to drink because he was driving. He said no, the daughter could drive. It was childish.

Anyways, he keeps telling me he wants a beer. She keeps telling me no. In this industry, situations like this are a lose/lose for waitresses. If I get him the beer, wife wont tip. If I dont get him the beer, he wont tip. D*mned if I do, d*mned if I dont. So while they were arguing AT me, I said “Listen, I really dont have time to play mediator here.”

They went silent. I went and got both of them their alcohol. Daughter gives me an apologetic look upon my return, presumably because her mother was acting batsh*t crazy upon seeing me bring a beer in tow.

Flash forward to after their meals. Husband has had 2 beers at this point. Wife has stopped drinking and glares at me everytime I return. Wife and daughter go to the car while husband pays. Husband drops me a $40 tip on a $68 tab. I told him I couldnt accept it. He insisted. Eventually I pocketed it.

Wife comes in an hour or so later demanding that I give her the $40 her husband gave me, stating that I was a terrible host and went against her and I dknt deserve a tip.

She got my manager involved who said “She is not obligated to give you her tip. You left the restaurant and the tip has already been processed. Have a nice night.” She was fuming, screaming at me about how much of an AH I was for supplying her husband alcohol after she said no.

Other guests started chiming in saying that she was being ignorant and that I was doing my job, which is to provide guests with what they want and said that it wasnt MY fault that she was a controlling wife. She storms out.

Given the fact that I was put on the spot like that, I feel insanely guilty. AITA?”

And here’s what people had to say about her story.

One person brought up how bad they feel for the couple’s child.

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Another person said the woman did the exact right thing in this strange situation.

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This individual said there is absolutely no way the woman was wrong in this situation.

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And this person pointed out that she was just doing her job and that she didn’t do anything wrong.

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Finally, this Reddit user said that they also feel sorry for the husband in this situation.

The wife sounds like a real treat, huh…?

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Now we want to hear from all the readers out there.

Tell us what you think about this situation in the comments.

We look forward to it!

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Am I a Jerk for Being Mad at My Husband Who Was Going to Give $10,000 to His Sister Without Asking Me? Here’s What People Said.

When money gets involved in any situation, things can go off the rails in a hurry.

And this story is a doozy.

A woman shared her story on the “Am I the *sshole” forum on Reddit to ask the readers there if she was wrong for getting mad at her husband for going behind her back to give a family member A LOT of money.

Here’s how it all went down…

AITA For being mad at my husband who was going to give away $10,000 to his sister without even asking me about it?

“On Saturday morning, I noticed my husband was sending a lot of text messages back and forth. He is usually not much of a texter. He left the phone next to me to charge while he as in the other room.

The phone kept lighting up with text messages when I decided to open it up to see what the big discussion was about.

I know some couples view it as big breach of trust to read through a significant other’s phone, but my husband and I do it regularly so this was not a huge invasion of privacy on my end. We both have nothing to hide and it has never been an issue before.

Anyway, of course I saw something on the phone that I shouldn’t have that got me upset. For background, my husband is 34, I am 32, and his sister is 31 (she’s in this story). Husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for the last four years.

We are all college educated with jobs now. My husband and I each make good salaries around $150k each. We own our house. I still have about $60,000 in student loans I am working to pay off (luckily low interest rates so I just pay the minimum).

We have about $40k liquid in savings. So we are doing good financially but still need to build up more savings as we will probably try to start a family in the next 1-2 years and want to be prepared for an emergency and have a rainy day fund. Anyway, my husband’s sister is trying to buy a 1 bedroom apartment in NYC.

I saw in the text messages that my husband offered to give her $10,000 for her down payment. The money is our savings is OUR money. Our bank accounts are 100% combined. My husband manages 99% of the finances because I prefer not to deal with it. However, it is understood we consult each other regularly on major purchases.

He did not ask me if I was OK with him giving this money to his sister. She didn’t ask, he offered. I immediately confronted him (calmly) and was like, “Hey – Did you tell your sister you would give her $10,000?” He said yes. I asked him when he was going to tell me.

He said, he probably wasn’t. He figured I wouldn’t notice and said he didn’t think I would care about “the details”. I said, “Um, do you think $10,000 is a detail?” He said, “No, that is lot of money. I should have told you about it. Are you OK with it?” I said, “No, I don’t think I am.”

Anyway we decided in that moment not to give the money. He said he would tell his sister and she would understand. He wanted the issue to go away after that.

But I am still mad. I said this was a big breach of trust. I let him control all finances because I trust him to never, ever take advantage of my ignorance. Shouldn’t you be able to trust your husband?

So now, I don’t have that full amount of trust I had before and I want to open my own bank account (which frankly, I should have anyway). But AITA for being totally upset and feeling betrayed about this?

I grew up poor and $10,000 is a ton of money to me (I mean, to most people right?!). I am horrified he would consider gifting it away and not even telling me.

Wow…let’s see what folks on Reddit said about this.

This person didn’t think the woman was wrong at all for being angry at her husband.

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Another person made a good point: what else has her husband done with their money…?

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Another reader called the husband’s actions “a lie by omission”, and I think they’re right about that.

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This Reddit user called it “financial infidelity.” I’ve never heard that one before…

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And finally, this reader said that $10,000 is a huge chunk of money and that the woman and her husband might want to think about getting separate accounts after this incident because there are clearly some trust issues here…

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Now we want to get your take on the situation.

Do you think this woman was justified in her anger or did she overreact?

Tell us what you think in the comments.

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What Did You Not Realize Was Expensive Until You Were Older? People Shared Their Thoughts.

Depending on how you grew up, you probably thought some things were luxuries and others were not.

And, for pretty much all of us, it’s kind of hard to understand the value of a dollar until you start paying your own bills.

But there are some things that really blow your mind when you pay for them yourself for the first time…

AskReddit users talked about what they didn’t realize was expensive until they grew up.

1. Pricey stuff.

“Custom framing.

Hundreds of dollars for a nice frame with mat.

I still don’t understand how it gets up so high.”

2. Getting more expensive.

“Fast food.

I’ve started to think…”I could make this at home for cheaper”.

I have reached peak adulthood, or I’m just trying to save better.

I still win with cheaper, homemade food that lasts for several meals.”

3. Your choppers.

“Cavities, or more specifically dental fillings.

If I had known how much it cost as an adult to fix your teeth, I would have taken way better care of mine!”

4. It adds up.

“Owning a car.

I knew buying one was expensive, even second hand, but just owning one?

Car insurance, road taxes, gasoline, yearly maintenance… even it just sitting in the parking lot during the pandemic it’s costing me quite a bit.”

5. They ain’t cheap!

“Batteries.

As a kid I would always need batteries for my remote control cars or any battery operated toy.

Man, do I regret wasting them as a kid”

6. Feels like a fortune.

“Taking the whole family out to dinner.

Man, that really adds up.”

7. More sponges?

“All the general household supplies your parents used to buy.

Never fun to have to spend your hard earned money on TP, sponges, shampoo, windex, paper towel, etc…”

8. Sad, but true…

“Gravestones.

Most of my family members were cremated (those who died) except for my grandma. It’s a nice memorial that she chose completely and it’s pretty basic. $30,000 Canadian dollars roughly.

Blows my f*ckin mind ! Cremate the sh*t out of me.”

9. I said NO!

“Paint!

No wonder my mom said no every time I asked to paint my room black with hot pink splatters.”

10. So expensive.

“Tires.

I always imagined they were like $50 a piece and the installation was part of the sales price.

First time I saw a $700 bill for 4 new tires I about cried.”

11. You gotta be able to see.

“Glasses and contacts.

Even if you have vision insurance, you often have to pay extra to get something decent quality.

Why do I have to pay to see?!?!”

12. Pretty much everything.

“Literally everything.

I wanted for nothing as a child and thought that was how it went. What a blessed upbringing.

I didn’t have a concept how much money you needed to live like I grew up until I was almost through college. Man, if I knew that I would have made some different education decisions.”

13. Liquid gold.

“Printer ink, that sh*t’s like liquid gold.

The bloody printer is usually cheaper then the replacement ink cartridges, that’s how they get you.

It’s an endless loop of buying cheap printers just to replace the ink.”

14. The healthy stuff.

“Fresh fruits and high quality ingredients to make meals are expensive, and I didn’t realize how lucky I was until I left home.

Now I love visiting the parents because the meals are healthy and have great ingredients.”

What do you think?

What did you not realize was pretty expensive until you got older?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments. Thanks!

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People Discuss What They Didn’t Realize Was Expensive Until They Became Adults

I remember the when I had to replace the timing belt and the water pump in my car…let’s just say I was on the verge of tears…because that ain’t a cheap fix…

My point in telling that story is that you don’t have any idea how expensive some things are until you really start “adulting…”.

And here’s what AskReddit users had to say about this.

1. Ugh.

“Interest.

I didn’t realize how much paying interest on debt can actually cost you when you add it up.

It’s like a f*cking punch in the gut.”

2. For the ladies.

“Bras.

I’ve given up and buy the $100 ones that properly fit me, because I’m a larger size. I buy 3-4 at a time, probably once a year or once every two years. I only stop wearing bras if they break or are really the wrong size (due to weight fluctuations).

I keep the bras that don’t fit if they are still in good condition, hoping they’ll fit again one day.

Throwing down $300 CAD for bras isn’t something I’ll ever get used to but I’ve resigned myself to it.”

3. Very expensive.

“Taking your family to Disney.

When you’re a kid you’re like man what’s the big deal but when you’re an adult, it’s literally almost like the cost of a vacation in itself just to go to the park for a day.”

4. Never-ending taxes.

“Property taxes, especially in some states.

Our $200k house is paid off, but I still have to pay $7,500 a year in property tax to keep it.

Rural Upstate New York. Over 4 hours from NYC.”

5. An unfortunate one.

“Having an illness.

I thought sick people were just taken care of.

Now I know, depending on what country you live in, it can cost you somewhere between most of your disposable income, to your entire house and all your possessions.”

6. Kids are pricey.

“Baby formula.

That sh*t is like, $20 a can, and there was a period where our daughter was demolishing a can a day. There was a point in time where my kid’s formula was costing us $600 a month, which was 1/3rd of our combined income at the time.

I found myself in the position of having to skip 2 meals a day just to afford to feed the rest of my family.”

7. Home ownership blues.

“House ownership.

It’s one thing to see a mortgage bill and think, okay I got that covered and still have money to eat and maybe go skiing next weekend.

It’s a while other thing when you discover you have rats in the attic, the A/C leaks, the weeds in the yard are giving the neighbor an aneurism, electricity is 3X more expensive than you every imagined it could be, and then the dishwasher breaks and the stovetop fan collapses one night.

And that wallpaper in the master bath really needs to go, oh and that fan over the shower is squeaking, so we stopped using it and now we have mold everywhere.

And then we had kids…”

8. You gotta eat…

“Food, to be honest.

I had no idea it would cost ~25% of my salary just to not starve.

I could bring that down to around 20% but had no idea how time consuming cooking is.”

9. BS.

“Pillows. Any pillow.

Throw pillows are like $25 minimum. If you get a $25 sleeping pillow it’s sh*t and you’re replacing it several times per year so you have to “invest” in a good pillow for a task that you literally do nothing to perform but if you don’t perform it well, you’re gonna have a bad time.

It’s bullsh*t.”

10. It’s worth it.

“A good pair of shoes.

We had bought bargain shoes growing up, and I continued that practice for a good portion of my adult life. I never thought paying an extra $40-$100 would be worth it.

But I remember the first time I tried on a paid or $120 hiking boots. My feet were in heaven. It was shockingly so much better. I bought them on the spot and they lasted like 5 years. I wouldn’t spent the same, if not more, in sh*tty shoes over the same timeframe.

Since then, I find I spend more on shoes that are comfortable and they last longer.”

11. Isn’t that ironic?

“Ironically, having a job.

Between transportation (car, gas, insurance, parking, bus/subway fare) work clothing, haircuts and razors if you have to shave, and depending on the job other equipment, that can get expensive fast.

And a lot of it can’t be written off on taxes.”

12. Ouch.

“Health insurance.

It actually cost me less to fly to the Philippines, get amazing dental work done and have a two week vacation for half the price of the procedure here.

Healthcare is a f*cking joke here, yet people swear this is the greatest county on earth.”

13. Bills, bills, bills.

“Household utilities.

Growing up, I didn’t understand why Grandma yelled at us for “Running up her light bill”, or my mom telling us to stop wasting water (I once forgot the hose was on while filling the horse trough and it ran for hours. Thought my mom was going to sell me to pay the water bill.) or leave the thermostat alone.

Now that I’m an adult and paying the bills, I find myself policing the family on their utility usage. I go around turning off lights, telling them to get a blanket cuz I’m not turning up the heat, and demanding shorter showers.

Why does a 10 year need a 45 minute shower? What exactly is she doing in there that is so time-consuming? She says she’s enjoying the hot water. That’s great. You get Ramen for dinner this week.

No one told me that becoming a responsible adult turned you into a penny-pinching worrywart.”

Oh, boy…adulting…

And now we want to hear from you!

Tell us what you didn’t think was expensive until you became an adult.

Do it in the comments, por favor!

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Was It Bad to Tell My Wife Not to Encourage Our Teenage Daughter to Expect Her Boyfriend to Pay for Everything? People Responded.

Do you think chivalry is dead?

Well, maybe that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but based on what you’re about to read, chivalry could be on the ropes.

Or at least what some folks think of as chivalry, aka “the guy always pays for everything.”

Hey, to each their own, I guess…

But this father clearly has some issues with the whole thing.

Here’s what the guy shared on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” page.

AITA for telling my wife it’s not ‘cute’ for her to encourage our teenage daughter to expect her boyfriend to pay for EVERYTHING in their relationship?

“Wife and I have been married 18 years, we have our 16 year old daughter who has been dating a slightly shy/ awkward young man for around 3-4 months now.

He seems very nervous around my daughter and has admitted in a passing comment here and there to my wife and I that he can’t believe she agreed to date him and he thinks she’s way out of his league. He seems very respectful, just shy.

My wife is usually an independent, awesome woman and her ideals align closely with mine particularly in term of feminism and equality. We have both striven to raise our daughter to be as independent and capable as possible.

Since my daughter has been dating this kid my wife has changed considerably and has given our daughter advice that has left me with raised brows more than once.

Some of the advice I’ve heard my wife give is ‘oh it’s cute for boys to pay for everything, especially in your first relationship!’ Or ‘oh honey don’t worry about that, he can pay for you, if he really liked you he would’ and similar.

I’ve tried to balance this out by telling my daughter straight away ‘two people in a partnership should be contributing equally’ and my personal favorite ‘if someone asks if they can take you out to dinner, it’s reasonable to expect them to pay, but if someone asks you to grab dinner with them, it’s reasonable to split the payment’. I figured that would be an easy way for a young person to understand the difference.

However I’ve noticed my daughter becoming more and more entitled with her boyfriends money. They haven’t been anywhere obviously since we’re home but the way she talks about him ‘oh I’ll just ask him to pay for x’ etc leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

She has also flippantly bragged/ mentioned that she gets him to buy gift cards for her etc by mentioning her mother’s advice, i.e. ‘if you really liked me you’d pay for x’

I spoke to my wife privately and told her my concerns, she insists it’s a rite of passage for girls and it’s cute that she should feel a guy is completely spoiling her.

I told her that it’s not cute for her to be thinking it’s acceptable to view relationships as personal ATMS, and my wife became very angry with me and is now calling me an *sshole with a lot of hostility.”

Here’s how people on Reddit responded to his story.

This person was as clear as day: it’s not cute and the man’s wife is to blame.

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A woman weighed in with her own opinion and she made a very good point about the overall attitude toward paying for dates.

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And then another person made a good point about thinking about if the shoe was on the other foot.

Maybe this whole thing is a little bit outdated…?

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This person was short and blunt with their thoughts.

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But another Reddit user made a good point about how times have changed and maybe the mother in this story is just feeling nostalgic for the old days.

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And, finally, someone talked about how the mentality that men should spoil women all the time is still out there and that a big part of it comes from immaturity.

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Okay, readers, now we want to get your opinion?

What do you think of this situation?

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People Who Grew Up Poor Discuss the Unwritten Rules They Had To Live By

If you grow up with no money, you are instilled with a different set of codes and rules than people who were more fortunate.

Some things that relatively comfortable folks took for granted seem totally foreign to them and there were certain things that they just had to deal with because of their situations.

People who grew up poor talked about the expectations and unwritten rules they had on AskReddit. Let’s take a look.

1. Hide it away.

“Hide money or it will be “borrowed.”

Also, don’t get attached to anything because if it’s any good it’ll be sold in a yard sale, and if it has any value it will be pawned.

I got the same CD player for three Christmases and birthdays in a row…out of pawn for birthday, pawned again a month later, out of pawn for Christmas, pawned again by March, etc.”

2. Hmmm…

“I am the second of 8 kids of high school dropout parents.

“It doesn’t matter of you don’t like the (food, clothes, shoes, toys etc) take it, say thank you and be appreciative.”

“You can do anything you want, as long as it’s free.”

“You will survive. If someone needs it more, let it go.”

“Never tell anyone you are hungry or need something, it makes you seem weak and needy.”

“The second you become working age, 10+. You will help with bills. You have no choice. Your money is everyone’s money.” Which is fine, until you realize the new tattoo mom has and dads new tv.”

3. On the down low.

“Keep your aspirations to yourself.

Telling anyone in your household/social strata about your plans to get out and do better may be met with bitterness and downright ridicule. People will call you uppity for wanting to go to school or stupid for having a career goal that isn’t modest and local and vaguely dead-end.

People will tell you that you have no common sense simply because you refuse to see the world in terms of pure survival.”

4. Be proud of yourself.

“Stand up straight and speak with confidence.

It was so easy for people to look down on the poor kids, so we made it just a bit harder for them.”

5. How sick are you?

“Going to the doctor isn’t an option until your fever is sustained at 104, a bone is broken, or the tooth rotted and won’t fall out on it’s own.

I am in my late 30’s with full insurance and still have a hangup about going for medical care.”

6. It’s all a secret.

“Never tell your friends that you couldn’t afford food or give them any clue about what it’s like at home.

My mother used to ask me if I told anyone how we live and that’s when I started questioning our situation.”

7. Hunger.

“Not eating lunch because it you either “just ate breakfast” or “dinners only a few hours away you’ll be fine”.”

8. Don’t waste anything.

“Nothing wasted!

Mum had a dish called mixed-up stew which was basically a little mince beef, mashed potatoes and any leftovers from the fridge.

Good menu planning – she never called it that but one meal led to the next with last’s night leftovers included. Failing that, she always had a soup on the go using bones from chicken, dried barley and, yet again, leftovers.

Thing is they were all delicious, but that could be me just remembering her fondly.”

9. That sucks.

“We weren’t allowed to do any kind of extra curricular activities.

So, no instruments, no joining any kind of sports or Girl Scouts or anything that required an upfront investment for uniforms or the season.”

10. Embarrassed.

“We were very poor growing up.

You never ate the last of anything without asking first. Portions were small and limited. When I was 11 I was invited over to a then friend’s house. I was floored by their house and furnishings. Very opulent compared to mine. Lunch time came. Her mom had set the table for sandwiches. Everything laid out, 3 different breads, all sorts of meats, condiments and fruit.

At my house lunch was a sandwich with white day old bread with peanut butter and jelly. Sometimes we would have those land o frost thin sliced meats. We were only allowed 2 slices of the meat per sandwich. So, at this friends house, I make my sandwich with one slice of ham because it was way thicker then the stuff at home. The mom kinda freaks out…”what kind of sandwich is that? You need to put more on it, thats not enough.”

I explain that’s what we do at home. They were horrified. Ended up sending me home with a “care package” of food. My parents never let me go to her house again because they were embarrassed I told them we were poor.”

11. A tough one.

“You never brought the field trip permission slips home because you knew better than to make your mom feel guilty.

She couldn’t pay the $5-20 fee to let you go.”

12. Sounds miserable.

“A/C was only for company.

I lived in South Florida and didn’t know I could use the air conditioner without having someone over until I moved out of my parents’ home.”

13. Advice from Dad.

“My father was constantly driving these two things into my head since I was old enough to remember: 1). Hard Work will set you free 2). You WILL NOT get anyone pregnant.

He never meant that hard work would make you rich. He meant that if you’re willing to work hard, you can always work some sh*t job that puts food on the table, and you’ll be so exhausted by days end, you can rest. In my father’s eyes food on the table and a good night’s rest was all a person really needed.

The pregnancy thing was totally about shame. He grew up in the deep south with a Baptist preacher father. My father was around 6-7 in the early 1950’s when his oldest brother (15) got a girl (18) in the church preggo. The resulting shame and shunning from the community that ensued drove my father’s mother to suicide.

I’m sure to some degree he blames his current life on the pregnancy that he had nothing to do with.”

Did you grow up poor?

If so, what were the unspoken rules that you understood and that were expected of you?

Please share your stories with us in the comments. Thanks!

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What Was the Worst Financial Advice You Ever Got? Here’s How People Responded.

Hearing stories about people making really bad decisions with finances and then suffering because of it always really bums me out.

That’s why the stories we’re about to read are ones that you should remember because they’re things you DO NOT want to do.

Are we clear on that? Good!

AskReddit users talked about the worst financial advice they ever received.

Let’s take a look.

1. It adds up.

“”Just get it at Rent A Center.”

I had a coworker that got pretty much everything there.

“It’s only $20/week, and they’ll replace it if it breaks.”

$20/week for how long? Oh cool, so you’re paying more than double for it? Got it.”

2. Bad idea.

“So when I was 24, I was financially struggling. I had a job that worked me a LOT of hours, but only paid me $10 an hour.

My parents talked me into buying a BRAND NEW 2004 4-Door Honda Civic, the pre-interest price tag on it was about $25,000. A few weeks after getting it, my hours got regulated and it took one entire paycheck to make the monthly note on it – I could NOT afford the insurance on it.

I very quickly realized my parents were bad at money.”

3. You gotta save.

“My FIL when I mention our retirement plan “I never contribute to my retirement account. Money now is always better than money later”.

I needed to have a conversation with my husband how we would NOT be supporting his mom and dad and their insane spending when they have no retirement plan and make huge financial mistakes on a weekly basis (good news is they both make good money).”

4. Terrible advice.

““Spend it quickly or it’ll get stolen.”

Coming from someone with a history of losing and blowing their money.”

5. Pyramid scheme.

“A relative tried to recruit me into Amway. He wound up stuck with a garage full of their products.

My mom joined and ended up having to buy their junk continuously. They also promised to pay her, she never saw a dime from them.”

6. Scammer.

“One of my uncles once told me that I never really had to pay my phone bill.

He suggested that I simply jump to another carrier and let the first company cut you off.

His life has turned out exactly as you’d imagine.”

7. Is that how it works?

“”Once you cut up the credit card, you don’t have to pay it.”

My cousin is not doing so hot.

I’m pretty sure there are warrants out for his arrest in several states.”

8. Get in early if you can.

“1976 San Franciso.

“Keep renting, no one will ever pay $35,000 for a 2 bedroom house and garage with a sweeping view of the East Bay.”

I went back to vist the old neighborhood a few years ago, those $35,000 stucco homes up many flights of steps perched on the top of Potrero Hill were now all gentrified, remodeled, gated, and asking $1M+ and that was 5 years ago.”

9. Hmmmm…

“Don’t take a raise if it puts you into the next tax bracket.

And pay the minimum on your credit card to establish good credit.”

10. Good thing you didn’t listen.

“”Don’t major in computer science. Computer scientists are a dime a dozen.”

I did not take that advice.”

11. But you get an iPad!

“About 5 years ago, I had a friend who was trying to convince me to study through a private college because they “gave her a free iPad”.

She never finished the course, but kept the iPad (you only got to keep it once you pay your fees and graduate. Mind you, the price of the course included the iPad so it wasn’t free).

So last year, four years later, I get a call from the college asking for her contact info. She put me down as a reference and they were chasing her down because she still owed her fees and wasn’t entitled to keep the iPad.”

12. Not smart.

“My cousin bought a camper, went camping once, and then decided camping wasn’t for them.

Rather than selling it they decided to just stop making the payments and “let the bank come and get it.”

Which, eventually, they did.”

13. They’ll go away, right?

“Just ignore the collection call and eventually they will leave you alone….

I didn’t follow this advice.

I had a parking ticket I didn’t know about that ended up on my credit and the guy I mentioned it to gave me that bit of wisdom.”

14. High roller.

“Not me, but my dad’s friend makes a decent more money than him.

He owns boats, takes luxurious trips, buys top of the line clothes and goes to the best restaurant where he orders the most expensive wine he can get. He always tells my dad to live more in the moment, telling him to invest in himself and enjoy his life.

My dad is happily planning his retirement with my mom.

This guy doesn’t have a dime saved. He will work to the day he dies.”

What’s the worst financial advice someone ever gave YOU?

Tell us your stories in the comments.

Thanks in advance!

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Are These Things “Cheap” or Just “Illegal?” People Describe Their Cheapest Achievements.

Twitter user Rubba Band Grant caused a stir on Twitter when he mused out loud about the “cheapest” thing he’d ever done:

As a lot of people were eager to point out, that’s not so much “being cheap” as it is just “stealing tires.” Not that we’re snitches here. We’re gonna give Grant the benefit of the doubt and assume this was made up for entertainment purposes only. And we’ll extend that benefit toward all the Twitter replies that followed which had…dubious legality.

Here’s a few ways people apparently skirt the system to save some cash.

10. Water, water everywhere

This is a perfect example of how you can be clearly deceitful without technically lying.

9. Up close and personal

If you’ve got those kinds of photoshop skills *on a phone* then I’ve got mad respect.

8. Pole vaulting

Oh my God…I’m so tempted…

7. Inspired / expired

You’d think their barcode scanners would be smarter than that.

6. The switch

Well done.

5. What a tool

Walmart will pretty much take anything back, they don’t care.

4. Book ’em

Pretty hard to feel sympathy for either Amazon or the textbook industry.

3. Signed, sealed, delivered

You gotta wonder how often people do this.

2. Free means free!

Seems kind of sad and ridiculous that they wouldn’t just give their employees a free sandwich on their lunch break anyway.

1. Since delivert

Didn’t they have some way to like, check your order though?

We’re not saying we endorse any of these methods. We’re not saying we don’t, either. WE AIN’T SAYIN’ NOTHIN’, YA HEAR?

Do you have a method like this?

Tell us in the comments. We won’t judge.

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