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These People Are Living Their Best Married Lives

Audrey Hepburn once said “If I get married, I want to be very married.”

She was married and divorced twice in her life, so it seems like maybe she accomplished the goal of being very married, and good for her.

A lot of other people who fit that description seem to be mostly hanging out on Twitter, complaining/venting/joking about it to the rest of us.

Just take these very married tweets for example.

13. Special delivery

Ya gotta keep things fresh, yanno.

12. Flavor of love

Kinda sounds like you’re both childish but ok.

11. Folding in

Pay attention, because this is going to be extremely important, apparently.

10. Not ok

These are the signs that you are officially slipping into old age.

9. Play the fool

You gotta pay attention.

8. Very alarming

If this were me we’d be sleeping in separate bedrooms. Maybe separate houses.

7. Sleepy time

You set a new record!

6. I scream, you scream

How else am I to enjoy a cool Summer treat in the winter?

5. You’ve been replaced

Your one function on this earth has now been eliminated.

4. A toast to you!

Look don’t make me say it again.

3. A special meeting

Now, if you’ll all open up your binders…

2. The reason for the season

He’s gonna be real confused when those fifty boxes turned out to be one tie, somehow.

1. Must see TV

You know that you can’t look away.

Welp, it doesn’t get much more married than that.

What’s your best bit of marriage/relationship advice?

Tell us in the comments.

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Are Quiet Guys or Outgoing Ones More Attractive? Here’s What People Said.

If you’re a man, this is a question that you’ve thought about before.

How do I get people to be attracted to me?

Do I try to play the strong, silent type? Or do I present myself as an outgoing, fun person who is the life of the party?

Well, we’re about to find out what people prefer, aren’t we?

Here’s what folks on AskReddit had to say about this.

1. The same level.

“Guys who aren’t as good looking but are charismatic and outgoing are on the same level as a shy, introvert, good looking guys.

It’s like yin yang or something.”

2. True.

“I’d like to posit that there are a lot of things “unattractive” people can do to make themselves attractive.

People really don’t realize what dressing well and grooming can do for a person. And dress doesn’t have to be fancy clothing, just wear clothing that somewhat matches and fits your body.

Very few guys are actually ugly. Maybe not good looking, but compared to women, average is very achievable for a lot of men.”

3. Well, there’s this…

“Quiet guys are only attractive if they themselves are attractive.

If an ugly guy is quiet, you’d consider them weird or creepy.”

4. This guy knows from experience.

“Being the “quiet guy” for the majority of my life and now being the “loud, semi obnoxious guy”, I have gotten much more female attention lately being the latter.

Just my two cents.”

5. Interesting…

“I had times where I was loud and times when I was quiet.

Being loud got me laid, being quiet made me mysterious but never led to anything physical, despite there being a clear understanding that we liked each other.”

6. Gotta get noticed.

“I can imagine that there’s a market for quiet guys, but there’s still the first hurdle of them getting noticed in the first place.

A girl can’t fall for a quiet guy if she never even heard of him before.”

7. Confidence is key.

“As a heteros*xual woman I can say it’s not about being loud or quiet but rather about having confidence.

Typically someone with confidence isn’t shy and quiet, and confidence is attractive. I am much more attracted to a guy with confidence who knows how to express themselves and hold up a conversation, rather than a guy who acts timid and isn’t willing to open up.

It screams insecurity”

8. There’s a difference.

“There’s also a difference between extroverted and talkative.

Most of the guys I like never shut up and have no filter, but in a nerdy “okay now that I’ve started talking about this I can’t stop” way. None of them liked parties, big social outings, etc.

They are just very excited about whatever it is they happen to be excited about at that moment, and you never know what they going to say.”

9. Not a fan of the loudness.

“I am a quiet person so I prefer guys who are also quiet.

I don’t really like when guys are super loud, I find that if I am trying to talk it always gets overshadowed.”

10. Being outgoing helps.

“Everyone has a type, though as an ambivert I’ve found it way easier to get to know and date girls when I’m outgoing than when in more reserved.

I think the sweet spot is being outgoing enough to get people to notice you and want to be with you and be reserved enough so you’re not annoying and people get interested in getting to know you.”

11. You can do both.

“The best is a combination between quiet and outgoing. Usually if there are a lot of outgoing people in a group, I’ll be quiet.

If people are a bit awkward and the ice isn’t broken, I’ll be the first to try and make conversation.”

12. Good luck out there…

“As an older guy, i will just throw this out. Guys, you MUST learn to approach women.

I don’t mean you have to be the life of the party. I don’t mean you have to be Vic Ferrari. (Andy Kaufmann character) But, unless you are good looking, especially in the slim willowy poet, or nerdy genius with curly hair and a big schnozz that some women find attractive sort of way, forget it. Women will not spy you across the room and want to meet you.

Now, loud boisterous jocks are not every woman’s cup of tea. But that does not mean they do not expect a man to have the balls to approach her.

For lack of a better venue, I will throw this out. Learn to meet women on the street and in bars. You would not believe how easy it is. In the street, walk up to a woman and say, hi, I saw you and wanted to say hi. She will either blow you off or stop and chat. After a few minutes, invite her for coffee.

In bars, take your drink and walk around a crowded bar and say cheers, what are we toasting? when they ask you what you are toasting, say, I just met some awesome people. Cheers. people love that. Sooner or later, a nice woman will be intrigued and want to talk to you.

If you are shy, I know it sounds hard. Start with baby steps. Just way hi to women in the street. Rejection will not kill you. Sooner or later it will work.

If anyone wants a little encouragement, feel free to message me. Am I a master seducer? No. But I know how to actually converse with real live women. And, trust me, women these days can barely believe a guy talked to them on the street. I once met a woman in a bar.

She heard my name and said , I met a guy a while back with that name., with this romantic haze look in her eye. It was me, having met her last month for a minute on the street. She still remembered because most guys do not do that. I didn’t follow up the first time because she was too young. But it as pretty sweet to be remembered like that.

Not even sure why I am writing this. Believe me, it is not to brag. I was a flop with women most of my life, then I realized how easy it was to walk up to women on the street. They actually are more responsive on the street than in bars because it is more unusual. it is like a movie to them.

Anyway, too much wine. But, to all the quiet guys, it is not helping. You do not have to be a macho jock studs. Most of them have no nerve, especially without alcohol . Just learn to walk up to a woman and say hi. Even if she is not interested, she will usually be nice about it, so don’t worry.

Good luck. Every good man and good woman deserves a good partner to marry and have a nice family. Cheers.”

13. Let’s end on this note.

“Girlfriend of an introvert here!! I like to joke that we’re only together because I talked for the first 3 hours of our first date (I was nervous – it was like word vomit).

In reality it’s because while he’s quiet in big spaces, when it’s just the two of us he makes me laugh until I cry, he’s sweet, sensitive, and absolutely the best person I’ve ever met.”

Now we want to hear from all the readers out there.

Which do you find more attractive: quiet men or outspoken fellas?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments. Thanks!

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Men Talk About the Instant They Knew They Were Going to Marry Their Wives

Ready to get sappy?

How about all lovey-dovey?

Well, you’re in the right place, my friends!

Because we’re about to get a heaping helping of true love stories.

Here are some romantic stories from guys on AskReddit about when they just knew they were gonna marry “The One.”

1. That’s good!

“I was on a date with this girl I really wanted to impress, and not only did I bungle the night by forgetting my wallet at an expensive dinner, but then I lost my car in the parking garage!

I was embarrassed and mortified, and after 20 minutes of running around this parking garage level by level, I could feel her glare and irritation on the back of my neck. I just knew she was thinking that it was the worst date she had ever gone on…

So I turned around to apologize, and there she was, smiling. Then she started to laugh — not at me, but almost inviting me to laugh with her about this poor bastard’s luck.

A large wave of relief washed over the dreadful evening, and we stood there on level 2 of the parking garage…just laughing. I knew at that precise moment that I wanted to marry her.”

2. Studying abroad.

“”I met her while I was studying abroad, and after I came home, we Skyped every day for hours.

Well, she came to visit for three months while I was finishing school, and then we reluctantly decided to break up because we knew it would never work long-term.

But after we said goodbye at the security checkpoint, I sat in my car in the airport parking lot, bawling like a baby.

So I dried my eyes, walked back into the airport, booked a one-way ticket, and sat down in the seat next to her.

It’s the best decision I’ve ever made.”

3. Look into my eyes.

“When I realized this was the first woman I could look in the eyes of and not feel an awkward silence.

We just stared at each other like it was the last thing we’d ever see.”

4. Perfect match.

“We were playing Trivial Pursuit against some friends, and the question we drew was, ‘Who was the 26th president of the United States?’ I figured it was my chance to impress her by listing all the US presidents in order.

But she jumped right in with me and got to Teddy Roosevelt faster than I did! It was the perfect realization that her nerdiness matched up perfectly with my own.

When we got married, we had a picture of Teddy Roosevelt on our table at the reception.”

5. Nerds in love.

“On the fourth date, when she invited me up to her apartment and I saw that her Star Wars Lego collection was even bigger than mine.

I knew right then and there.”

6. Through thick and thin.

“I was at work when I found out my best friend, John, died in a car wreck, and I went home to my girlfriend and cried on her shoulder for an hour.

Well, not only did she go to his funeral with me, but she walked beside me as I performed pallbearer duties.

I knew right there that if she was willing to literally walk beside me through one of the most difficult times in my life, I wanted her beside me for the rest of my life.

If we have another child and it’s a boy, we’re going to give him the middle name John.”

7. Character matters.

“My parents are immigrants and work minimum-wage jobs, and her parents are well-off and own their own business.

I was ashamed to tell her what my dad did, so when she asked about my parents, I dodged the question.

But she knew what I was doing and said, ‘You should never be ashamed of your parents.

They’ve worked so hard to get you where you are; I’m so proud of them.’ I couldn’t help but break down, and I knew right then and there that I would marry her.

I know it sounds kind of small, but to me, it defined her character. And I have no regrets.”

8. That’s all it took.

“My husband says it’s when he asked me what time it was and I responded, ‘It’s Howdy Doody time.’

All of his other dates gave him the actual time.”

9. Put a ring on it.

“I had just come home from my first real grad school final, and I got absolutely worked by it.

Well, when I got back to my apartment, she was sitting at my front door with two tickets to see The Force Awakens and two Chewbacca onesies for us to wear together.

At that moment, I realized she was willing to do anything to cheer me up, even going out in public in a costume that made her look ridiculous. I put a ring on it a few months later.”

10. Smiles for days.

“When her boss messaged me to tell me she always knew when my then-girlfriend was texting with me as opposed to anyone else, because she would always be smiling.

And then her mother said the same thing a few days later.”

11. That’s a keeper.

“I was working on commercial fishing vessels and couldn’t watch the NHL playoffs, so she watched the games and texted me updates.

That was the moment — when she was willing to learn the rules of hockey for me.”

12. I’ll go anywhere.

“When she asked if I would move to Boise, Idaho, with her and I thought, ‘I’d move to hell to be with her.’”

Okay, now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us what always ruins a movie.

Please and thank you!

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Men Talk About the Instant They Knew They Were Going to Marry Their Wives

Ready to get sappy?

How about all lovey-dovey?

Well, you’re in the right place, my friends!

Because we’re about to get a heaping helping of true love stories.

Here are some romantic stories from guys on AskReddit about when they just knew they were gonna marry “The One.”

1. That’s good!

“I was on a date with this girl I really wanted to impress, and not only did I bungle the night by forgetting my wallet at an expensive dinner, but then I lost my car in the parking garage!

I was embarrassed and mortified, and after 20 minutes of running around this parking garage level by level, I could feel her glare and irritation on the back of my neck. I just knew she was thinking that it was the worst date she had ever gone on…

So I turned around to apologize, and there she was, smiling. Then she started to laugh — not at me, but almost inviting me to laugh with her about this poor bastard’s luck.

A large wave of relief washed over the dreadful evening, and we stood there on level 2 of the parking garage…just laughing. I knew at that precise moment that I wanted to marry her.”

2. Studying abroad.

“”I met her while I was studying abroad, and after I came home, we Skyped every day for hours.

Well, she came to visit for three months while I was finishing school, and then we reluctantly decided to break up because we knew it would never work long-term.

But after we said goodbye at the security checkpoint, I sat in my car in the airport parking lot, bawling like a baby.

So I dried my eyes, walked back into the airport, booked a one-way ticket, and sat down in the seat next to her.

It’s the best decision I’ve ever made.”

3. Look into my eyes.

“When I realized this was the first woman I could look in the eyes of and not feel an awkward silence.

We just stared at each other like it was the last thing we’d ever see.”

4. Perfect match.

“We were playing Trivial Pursuit against some friends, and the question we drew was, ‘Who was the 26th president of the United States?’ I figured it was my chance to impress her by listing all the US presidents in order.

But she jumped right in with me and got to Teddy Roosevelt faster than I did! It was the perfect realization that her nerdiness matched up perfectly with my own.

When we got married, we had a picture of Teddy Roosevelt on our table at the reception.”

5. Nerds in love.

“On the fourth date, when she invited me up to her apartment and I saw that her Star Wars Lego collection was even bigger than mine.

I knew right then and there.”

6. Through thick and thin.

“I was at work when I found out my best friend, John, died in a car wreck, and I went home to my girlfriend and cried on her shoulder for an hour.

Well, not only did she go to his funeral with me, but she walked beside me as I performed pallbearer duties.

I knew right there that if she was willing to literally walk beside me through one of the most difficult times in my life, I wanted her beside me for the rest of my life.

If we have another child and it’s a boy, we’re going to give him the middle name John.”

7. Character matters.

“My parents are immigrants and work minimum-wage jobs, and her parents are well-off and own their own business.

I was ashamed to tell her what my dad did, so when she asked about my parents, I dodged the question.

But she knew what I was doing and said, ‘You should never be ashamed of your parents.

They’ve worked so hard to get you where you are; I’m so proud of them.’ I couldn’t help but break down, and I knew right then and there that I would marry her.

I know it sounds kind of small, but to me, it defined her character. And I have no regrets.”

8. That’s all it took.

“My husband says it’s when he asked me what time it was and I responded, ‘It’s Howdy Doody time.’

All of his other dates gave him the actual time.”

9. Put a ring on it.

“I had just come home from my first real grad school final, and I got absolutely worked by it.

Well, when I got back to my apartment, she was sitting at my front door with two tickets to see The Force Awakens and two Chewbacca onesies for us to wear together.

At that moment, I realized she was willing to do anything to cheer me up, even going out in public in a costume that made her look ridiculous. I put a ring on it a few months later.”

10. Smiles for days.

“When her boss messaged me to tell me she always knew when my then-girlfriend was texting with me as opposed to anyone else, because she would always be smiling.

And then her mother said the same thing a few days later.”

11. That’s a keeper.

“I was working on commercial fishing vessels and couldn’t watch the NHL playoffs, so she watched the games and texted me updates.

That was the moment — when she was willing to learn the rules of hockey for me.”

12. I’ll go anywhere.

“When she asked if I would move to Boise, Idaho, with her and I thought, ‘I’d move to hell to be with her.’”

Okay, now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us what always ruins a movie.

Please and thank you!

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Men Who Don’t Share Their Emotions Opened up and Talked About What’s on Their Minds

If there’s one stereotype in this world that is based in reality, it’s that men are not great at expressing their emotions

Heck, some of us don’t even open up at all. EVER.

But today, we’re gonna get real with some fellas who want to let the emotions flow. And that’s a good thing.

Guys on AskReddit opened up and spilled their guts.

1. We all need this.

“I really want a hug.

I haven’t been hugged in so long.

It would be nice, I think.”

2. It’s difficult.

“I don’t know how I feel half the time. I find other people’s emotions relatable and I feel like I can empathize with them, but when it comes to mine it seems difficult to define.

I hate that I lie about myself to make myself seem more interesting. It’s so hindering; I feel so f*cking stupid after it and just start cringing.

I don’t know if I’m stupid or intelligent – I’m definitely lazy, I know that much.

I don’t feel wanted or needed in my life but I know that logically it’s not true, I just associate being wanted or loved with physical affection (not s*x) and those interactions are few and far between.

I’m not scared of dying, but I’m scared of risking things. Sometimes I even think that death would be a good option, because I feel there is no pre designated point to living. We have to create a point, and I don’t know what I want my point to be.”

3. Emotional affair.

“My wife is currently having an emotional affair with a coworker, and shows no remorse. Her family and friends seem to support her.

I had some serious anxiety about a year ago for a handful of months, and my wife found someone else during that time.

My whole world is destroyed. I feel like a loser, I’m too embarrassed to admit it to my friends, and I don’t know how I can continue on.

She starts individual counseling tomorrow, and all I can hope is that she at least realizes how hurtful she has been.

I can’t imagine being with anyone else, but having your wife tell you that she thinks she may be happier with another man just sucks all of your self worth out of you.”

4. Keep your distance.

“I distance myself from everyone in my life emotionally because the feeling of being vulnerable and truly opening up to people scares the sh*t out of me.

It always seems to come back to bite me in the *ss when I leak a little bit too much information because I just want to be alone and forget about everything.

I wish I could live alone and have very little interactions with everyone, it’s always so draining to be around people day in day out with little alone time.”

5. Lonely.

“Only one of my friends ever contacts me unprompted, wether it is via text or a quick drop by.

I would never hear from the others again if I didn’t message or call them first.

This isn’t as bad as some of the others here but it has been bothering me for a long while.”

6. Don’t care.

“I honestly can’t. That’s basically the problem.

I just don’t care.

At all.

And it’s really hard to express that.”

7. In a tough spot.

“I’m tired of pretending everything is going well.

I lost all motivation and drive to do well in life. I keep telling myself it will get better, but nothing is going right.

I just want a hug from someone who really cares about me and tell me everything will be okay.

I want to drop out of school so badly to recover but that’s not possible.”

8. Need some contact.

“I actually sat and thought about it yesterday and I haven’t had physical contact with another human (other than perhaps brushing a hand from someone handing me change or rubbing shoulders in the street) for around 3 years.”

9. Good luck to you.

“I’ll probably be moving across country, by myself, for a job with subpar pay, during a global pandemic.

Wish me luck!”

10. You have to face it.

“I don’t want to accept the fact that I’m depressed because if I do then it’ll be harder for me to overcome it.”

11. Shut down.

“Every time I trust someone with all my heart and soul, they break my trust.

So I’ve started to keep things to myself, I’m done with trusting and opening up to people.”

12. Family problems.

“I’m the oldest of 4 brothers. My younger brothers are far more successful than me.

When we were growing up, I always felt like my parents never gave a sh*t about me as soon as my brothers showed up. All through life, I had to listen to my parents comparing me, the oldest, to my younger brothers. It was always humiliating. I struggled with learning in school and my parents jus thought I was stupid or lazy.

They never really put in the time or effort to work with me or to understand my struggles, and I was just a kid so I didn’t know how to express myself. They didn’t understand that I was bullied throughout most of my academic life and that it caused me to suffer from social anxiety disorder.

As a kid, I always saw my parents providing opportunities for my brothers that they never did for me. Even things like taking my brothers to the dentist to get braces so their teeth are nice, or helping them get into good universities, or allowing them to gain some work experience in the family business. My one brother, the youngest, is now the owner of the successful family business, but I wasn’t even invited to work there to help out the family keep it running.

Instead, I aimlessly drifted from one crappy retail job to another for many years, never really earning anything, always living in debt, and barely making ends meet. I never could afford nice cars or clothes or vacations that may parents and my siblings could, because I had to work hard to survive, because no one gave me any kind of support. Now that I’m an adult, I’m married, and have kids of my own.

I live far away from my family, but I’m still jealous of people who have family members that they can get advice from, or who they can talk to about their problems. I don’t have anyone on my side of the family for any of that. My parents basically don’t give a crap about me. They send me some facebook messages from time to time or make a like or a comment on one of my posts, but it’s always surface level small talk.

This is something that my wife and I discuss quite often because she’s noticed too that my family are very distant from me. She doesn’t understand why I don’t have a family that supports me, and I’m not even talking about financially supporting me. I don’t want or need that, but it’d be nice to be able to talk to mom and just get advice about something, instead of feeling like I’m the only one in the world.

It’s pretty bad because where I live, I have ZERO family members around me. The only family I do have are my wife’s family who have been very supportive. Her brothers are like my best friends, and I see and talk to her parents all the time but sometimes I feel like they only keep me around because of her. At the end of the day, I’m not one of them, you know?

Anyway, I just kind of wish I had one of those tv-family relationships with my parents. Where dad will show up and be like, “Hey son, what say we go out back and play catch and have a talk?” but I’ve accepted that that’s not me and never will be. I’ve managed to keep myself in check by writing in a journal for many years.

All things considered, I’m doing OK but just know that alot of guys do have their problems even if they don’t talk about them. We bleed and show pain just like everyone else does.”

We want more of that!

In the comments, tell us what’s on your mind.

Please and thank you.

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Men Who Don’t Usually Open Up Share What’s on Their Minds

I’m probably not telling you something you don’t already know, but a lot of men out there aren’t exactly good at letting their emotions out.

Well, we’re about to change that right now, even if it is anonymously.

Men on AskReddit were nice enough to open up about their emotions. Let’s take a look.

1. Terrified.

“I act indifferent and have things under control but in reality I’m terrified of the future. I think about 100 what-if scenario a day.

I don’t like to talk about myself because I feel like I’m not interesting or people don’t care about what I have to say about my life.

Thank God I have good friends but those things not even them I can share with.”

2. Tough times.

“I don’t want to exist anymore, honestly.

I dont want to die, I just want the memory of me and who I am to be wiped away from EVERYONE so I don’t disappoint anyone anymore.

I just want to be a ghost and not exist anymore.

Sorry just going through some sh*t right now with depression, heartbreak, insomnia, and a slew of other things that I have to hide so to not hurt or disappoint anyone.”

3. We all need that sometimes.

“Give us a pat on the back and ask us how we’re doing every now and then, as small as it may seem it can mean the world to some.”

4. That’s sad.

“I kinda wish my close friends remembered my birthday today.

They usually remember down to the exact minute, but this year, none of them did (at least so far).

I know they’re all busy and have bigger things to be worrying about, but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t make me feel a bit lonely.”

5. Bottled up.

“I’m afraid that I have bottled up my feelings for so long that if I’m ever lucky enough to find a person I want to open up to, it will either be impossible or everything will come out at once and scare them off.”

6. Scary.

“My ex wife, who mentally abused me for years and physically abused me on separate occasions, who I’ve been separated with for 2.5 years and in the process of getting a divorce from, still harasses to this day, as well as the woman I’ve been dating.

I’ve asked for help on several occasions from the police and the court system. I basically get mocked and laughed at by our judicial system because, “what, is this woman going to beat you up?”

I’m going to end up with a knife in my chest before anyone listens or takes a step in ending her terror.”

7. Eating disorder.

“My eating disorder has gotten bad again. I’m extremely lonely and isolated. I’ve lost friends just by being “independent and confident” and not texting and call first so now I’m nearly alone.

I’m petrified about the future with a million paths and no direction, and I’m so stressed that I can’t get a good pathway started. I’m terrified of dating because I still feel extremely insecure about my body.

Tonight my first day off in while I woke up jerked off, binge ate junk food threw it up and started drinking and now I’m on reddit so yeah. I’m so depressed and anxious I don’t know why.”

8. Broken.

“I am still broken on the inside. That my “soul” is like f*cking coventry after the Germans raided it during the second world war.

That I am afraid to sink into depression for the sixth time in my life because it got worse and longer with every single time. Because the only thing that kept me alive was my back then gf who left me.

That I consider myself a massive disappointment, the failure of my family and that my family would be better off without me. That my family, especially my parents were a major reason for these five depressions. That all it will take to push me over the edge and into suicide is just a little push because I do not want to struggle for the sixth time.

That I am still not over my break up, despite it being something that happened over 2 years ago. That I still cry from time to time whenever I think about the past.”

9. A hard situation.

“So my mom is chronically ill, her brain is deteriorating fast.

My dad is understandably very stressed due to all of this and how many years it has lasted, he’s the only other person in this household I really can talk to (a conversation with my mom isn’t really a real conversation) and he’s too stressed to have the energy or time to do so meaning I’m really isolated.

I just finished high school in spring and moved back home after living with my best friend for 9 months, before living there I was doing the same thing as now with taking care of my mom to help with my dad’s stress all while doing IB with 5 higher levels.

I’m currently spending my sabbatical taking care of my sick vegetative mom instead of getting a job and saving up and getting some good experiences, I’m 20 years old and I am in no way living life for myself in any way.

My only real escape is going to the gym to work out, the sweet release of dopamine is probably the only thing keeping me from falling down into the deep dark hole of despair and depression; well that and being a nerd in the kitchen which has gone from a hobby to a daily chore.

I imagined my sabbatical would involve saving up, maybe getting a girlfriend, traveling with my best friend and not just living for the sake of taking care of my parents. Honestly it sometimes takes weeks to have a real conversation with people, I feel so alone and granted it’s necessary the quarantine isn’t doing anything to help my situation.”

10. Into the void.

“I want to be free. I want to be free from nations, systems, norms, and ages.

I hate feeling and thinking.

This is a really beautiful planet but a really sad world.

I really wish i can go back to the void and nonexistence.”

11. Expectations.

“I hate it when expectations are placed on me, next year I am going to college. My parents have expectations of me passing and successfully getting in.

So as of now, she wants me to retain or get higher grades than usual, and the thing is I don’t want stress, I wanna live my life peacefully and stress-free as much as possible. My parents aren’t bad, I know they just want the best for me, it’s just that I am afraid that I cannot meet their expectations and disappoint them.

To try and get rid of the stress and pressure temporarily I usually play games, watch shows, or read books. I will admit that I do put a lot of my time into those things, but the reason why is because it helps me temporarily forget about my problems in the world, while doing those things I can feel at ease, but sometimes my parents condemn me a bit for spending too much time on those things.

Sometimes I just wanna say that I do these things to help me calm down about life, but I don’t know how to say it or even if they would understand it.

Lastly, I feel like there’s no purpose in my life, I just wake up every day, go to online classes, listen to the teachers, do my requirements, sleep, rinse and repeat. I just don’t know what to do in life, I feel like an empty husk that has no purpose.

I’m not suicidal at all or anything but sometimes I just wonder what would it be like if I just never existed at all. I just don’t know what to do with life, I have no goals, no dreams, I barely feel happiness left, I don’t know what to make me happy. I just feel completely lost, I don’t know what to do.”

12. Lovelorn.

“I met an incredibly beautiful, smart, loving girl but I work abroad and I have to go away after Christmas.

After 3 failed relationships which only lasted months, this is the first person I can see myself having a stable and happy relationship with.

The thought of having a long distance relationship breaks me, because I know I can’t do it, I don’t like texting or video calling, and they rarely work.

She also gets a lot of attention from other men and I feel like I would lose her quickly.

I’m sad, trying not to fall in love. I’ve always felt that I wouldn’t find anyone for me, and now that I have I can’t be with her.”

13. About to crack.

“My wife needs me to be mentally and emotionally strong, capable, confident, able to make decisions, able to lead and manage. I cannot show weakness, anxiety, indecision or exhaustion in front of her. I cannot make mistakes.

But I am weak, anxious, indecisive and exhausted – because I am only human. 2020 has been a tough year for everyone, but in addition to Covid I have started a new job, in a new country, and borne the brunt of all the administrative, logistical and financial management of moving us. I have decision fatigue. I wake up with a sense of dread. All I really want to do is hibernate.

But I can’t show it. She ‘loses faith in me’ if I don’t keep a stiff upper lip and just ‘handle it like a man’. She supports in lots of practical ways – shopping, cooking, cleaning, childcare – but what I need now is a friend, someone I can be myself with, and can share my fears and vulnerabilities with, can have the liberty to be less than perfect with.

She won’t let me do that, because it scares her too much. She needs a strong man to cling to, and if her man turns out not to be strong she lashes out in fear.

So I have to kind of bottle it up. I used to have a group of male friends – I couldn’t really discuss these things, but at least we could go out for a drink once in a while and unwind – but Covid and moving have put an end to that. I now feel that I have no-one, really, who is close enough with whom to share this crushing burden of responsibility.

It is affecting our marriage – because it doesn’t feel like a partnership. A husband and wife should first and foremost be friends, but she says she can’t be my friend because friends don’t have to rely on each other financially. It’s like being married to a housekeeper / secretary.

We have s*x from time to time, but without the emotional support of a friend I feel like that, too, is a performance – that I have to put on a persona of a super-masculine, hyper-dominant ‘real man’; anything less she says is ‘disgusting’. She doesn’t even like cuddling afterwards because she thinks it’s ‘pathetic’ and ‘real men don’t cuddle, they f*ck and leave’.

I’m deeply, deeply unhappy. But the only people who know are random internet strangers.

One day I swear I’m going to crack. The only reason I don’t is because we have a kid.”

Now we want to hear from you.

What’s on YOUR mind that you’d like to get off your chest?

Talk to us in the comments!

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15 Times Men Got Female Biology Very, Very Wrong

I have some excellent AND terrible news for you.

There is a full subreddit dedicated to men (and occasionally others) just being horrifyingly wrong about how female anatomy and biology works. It’s amazing. It’s horrifying. It’s something you won’t be able to look away from.

Here are just a few examples.

15. Padding the question

I…refuse to comment on this one.

14. Common knowledge

Only women have genitals, men have penises, you should know this by now.

13. Full stop

Not sure that’s how it works.

12. Spilling ink

I hope you thought this when you were like 3, otherwise I’m concerned.

11. Push it to the limit

“Can you not?”

10. Know where I’m coming from?

When the stupidity meets the audacity.

9. Trickle down effects

Was this written by a 12th century monk?

8. Rub one out

I once rubbed some water with a towel and it like…disappeared into the floor.

7. BDE

The very smallest, in fact.

6. Only the insides

Trust me, I’m a doctor probably.

5. My number one problem

It’s amazing when they get corrected and still insist they know more about a body they don’t have than people who have it.

4. Water you talking about?

Your mouth takes in liquid and it’s still alive, for some reason.

3. Stop being gross

Sounds like you’ve got some deeper issues to work through, my dude.

2. F*** the system

Um, isn’t she sleeping with you, man?

1. All in time

I had to fully stop and walk away from the computer for a minute.

I don’t know what to conclude from any of that except that our sex ed system is CLEARLY in desperate need of repair.

Has anyone said this kind of thing to you before?

Tell us in the comments.

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Confessions From Very Attached Couples Who Might Just Love Each Other Too Much

Is it healthy for couples to spend all of their time together? Probably not… and for most couples there’s usually limit to that desire.

But these couples really could care less. Because when they fell in love, all they wanted to do is spend time with their significant other and, when they don’t, they miss them like crazy.

Yes, the love of these 11 couples knows no bounds. From bathroom conversations to sharing everything and anything, find out the lengths they will go to make sure they’re never apart.

Let’s find out more!

1. Well, if it makes you happy…

It can’t be that bad, right?

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2. You all need to stop.

Because that is GROSS.

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3. Do you wipe each other’s butts too?

Come on you two!!!

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4. This is sweet, but… you need your own life.

Don’t you?

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5. True love sounds beautiful?

But is this true love or obsession?

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6. This is not an uncommon setup.

And if it’s been going on for a few years… it just might last.

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7. Sounds like codependency to me…

Time to go see a therapist!

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8. That sounds healthy.

Heh… sure. Yeah.

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9. Oh… so you found yourself a life!

Good for you two. More of these relationships exist than you might think.

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10. So because you do everything together you fight?

Or you fight because you do everything together? Hmmm…

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So now that you’ve read about these confessions… would you be joined at the hip? Or do you need your space?

Let us know in the comments!

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10 First Date Stories That Might Just Make Your Jaw Drop

Have you ever heard of a site called Whisper? It’s got ALL the secrets. And some of them are truly shocking.

The following 10 secrets from the site are all about those first dates that went… nuts. Some in a good way, some in a bad way.

But they’re all gonna make you go, “Well well well… I did not expect that.”

Actually, who knows… maybe you’ve seen it all before. But just in case you haven’t…

1. Oh, what a rebel you are.

That’s never happened in the history of first dates. Shocking!

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2. Here’s a girl who knows what she likes.

Or she knows how to trap a guy with that good good. Either way, she won!

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3. Do you know what those guys have to deal with?

You’re both awful people. Yuck.

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4. Those mushrooms lasted 8 months?

Jeezus! Got to the f**king hospital already!

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5. Yeah, that’ll make somebody not notice vomit.

Laughter might be the best medicine, but it’s a horrible vomit remover.

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6. So you’re boring now?

Got it. Don’t date this b**ch.

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7. Do you not have an apartment?

What’s wrong with you?

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8. Why do you hate people who value themselves?

Discounts are nature’s way of saying that you’re not worth the price of admission.

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9. Wait… how does one get violently high?

I bet they had s*x. That weird, high kind of s*x.

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10. You sound like a f**king a$$hole.

I hope this guy gets arrested one day.

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Wasn’t that fun? Peeking into people’s private lives like that? I mean, I had a blast. What’s more fun than getting balls deep into somebody else’s business?

Nothing! That’s what!

Okay, time for YOU to share, if you want. Do that in the comments.

Thanks fam!

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Couples Share the Sweetest Confessions About Getting Married Young

You know the song…

Love and marriage. Goes together like a horse and carriage… right?

It certainly can be… but sometimes when you get married young things don’t turn out that for the best.

But that is NOT this post. This post is all about the sweetest things that happened when people said “I do!” at a very young age.

Get ready to smile! Because these 13 stories are the best!

1. Exploring the world sounds amazing!

Especially with your best friend!

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2. What do they know anyway?

You do you, kids!

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3.  Some people just wanna be married!

And that’s not a bad thing.

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4. Knowing what you’re going to do with your life is helpful.

Everybody needs a plan.

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5. Come on people… stop being so judgey!

I mean, what are you doing with your life anyway?

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6. Getting more years with your beloved!

Sounds great to me!

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7. More life with more support!

Fantastic point!

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8. Best. Decision. Ever.

Yeah? Yeah. Yeah!

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9. BFFs for real.

Always got your back!

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10. Keep on keeping on!

I’m sure it’s not always fun, though.

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11. Now that’s a love that sounds like it’ll last.

Craziness!

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12. Hey, at least they took some time.

Young love doesn’t have to be dumb love.

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13. Deeper and deeper…

Being in love is a great feeling, especially if it can last.

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I’m sure this has happened to a lot of people out there, so we want to hear your stories!

Let us know in the comments!

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