Category: marriage

Posted on

People Who Had Short Marriages Talk About How They Realized They’d Made a Mistake

I’ve always believed that it has to be pretty devastating to get married and then to have it all fall apart very quickly.

What happened? Did you just ignore the warning signs? Or maybe a deep, dark secret emerged right after you tied the knot?

Whatever the case, I’m sure it’s a very difficult thing to go through.

Let’s take a look at these stories about short marriages from folks on AskReddit.

1. Only 40 days.

“My sister’s marriage lasted about 40 days.

She found out he was a p*dophile when my other sister came forward that he’d been r*ping her for the last 4 months. When he was arrested, police found a video of me getting dressed on his phone.

I thank God every day that she came forward when she did, because he was grooming me to be his next victim. He was sentenced to 12 years in prison and has no contact orders with everyone in my immediate family. This event was the end of my childhood.”

2. I’m outta here.

“When I came home from the honeymoon and there was a Foreclosure notice posted on the house door.

His response: “Now it’s your problem too.””

3. Abusive.

“Four months in he dislocated my jaw.

But really what I want to share is the signs were there and people should be aware of them. First it was just grabbing my arm kind of hard. Then grabbing my arm hard enough to bruise it. Then pushing. Then slapping.

It took years so escalate. I heard it gets worse. I didn’t think too much of it. I thought “I’m not a wimp and it isn’t like he’s beating the sh*t out of me every day” I thought thats what domestic abuse looked like. Then I married him.

Well, let me tell you. If they’re grabbing, pushing, or hitting you they will eventually hurt you worse.”

4. Downhill quickly.

“His brother asked to move in with us and I said no.

His brother ended up moving in anyway. During the subsequent argument he said “no wonder people get divorced all the time”.

We had been married for about 6 months at that point. Went very downhill from there.”

5. Wow.

“He casually invited his parents along on our honeymoon, and told them we’d pay for it. AND they not only accepted, they were SO EXCITED and immediately wanted to take over planning it.

Obviously that wasn’t the only sh*tty thing he did. Eventually found out he was cheating on me and I fast tracked divorce before there were any kids or assets involved.”

6. Sounds like a real gem.

“Two months in he told me I was too fat and he will no longer be having s*x with me.

I lost 75 lbs in three months (by doing it the wrong way) and he told me he was already seeing someone else.

He seemed surprised my parents would no longer pay his bills, and was kicked off their property 30 days later (per laws of my state).”

7. Let’s be honest.

“To be honest I didn’t really want to be married to her.

However she was determined to get married by age 24 regardless, and at the time I had significant difficulties saying “No”, I was working 60+ odd hours a week in a kitchen to help pay for everything and I was struggling with my mental health at the time and we grew further and further apart emotionally.

I found out less than 5 months into the marriage that she had been unfaithful to me for at least a year – so 6/7 months before the wedding, whilst she had been planning it she had been sleeping with other people. Whilst she had been putting serious pressure on me to provide £££ for her dream wedding she had also had an abortion because she didn’t know whether I would have been the father or not.

When I found this all out I basically had a breakdown and tried taking my own life, I also spent a few years after this blaming myself for the breakdown of my marriage and her behavior.”

8. Third time’s a charm.

“When she cheated on me for the third time in 10 months.

Because for some reason the first two didn’t convince me….”

9. Started right away.

“On our honeymoon she didn’t want to do anything but fight, so I left 2 days early to be with my dog.

Then she stopped wearing her ring and refused to tell people she was married, referring to me as her boyfriend instead. The final straw was when my grandpa was dying and she said “I wish he’d just hurry up and die already. I’m tired of this apartment being so depressing all the time”.

Made it 4 months in all before filing for divorce.”

10. Not good.

“He would somehow piss away his money (and mine), and I realized I couldn’t trust him to be a real partner with me.

We were also pressured into marriage by religious family when I already saw the writing on the wall, but there was just one bad thing after another happening so I always felt like I’d be an *sshole for leaving.

I left during a calm period.”

11. A bad situation.

“Mine lasted less than a year.

He was an incredibly abusive f*ckhead that burdened me with tons of sh*t we couldn’t afford then refused to work himself.

So I used to pull 16 hr days back to back to back. Turns out instead of working and helping me take care of the house he was out cheating.

In all reality, he was the one who left me but once I got out of the situation I realized how awful it was and didn’t go back.”

12. Living in sin.

“Sitting across from the court house waiting to go in. I thought “you are going to look back on this moment and remember that you KNEW it was the wrong thing to do”.

I certainly did. We only got married because I was living with him and my whole family wouldn’t speak to us as we were “living in sin”.

Well we showed them.”

13. That was quick.

“I had some friends that got married and divorced within a year.

It turns out she had major doubts but went through with it anyway, then cried for the whole honeymoon and told him she had made a huge mistake.

They posted all these normal pictures of them looking happy in Hawaii, but it came out later what a miserable nightmare the trip was.”

14. My older sister.

“Not myself but my oldest sister. She has been married 5 times.

The first one was at 19, they divorced because they were young and not ready to be married. The second marriage she wasn’t sure if she wanted to be married and despite my mom advising her to walk away, got married anyway. He cheated, she left.

3rd Marriage lasted 10 years, but they fought a lot (he was a Dr, she’s a nurse, 2 intelligent people who couldn’t talk to each other about their problems). The 4th Husband was my favourite, he was kind hearted, and the most loving and supportive spouse you could ever hope for.

I think she got bored and met someone while she was on a work trip and met another Dr. She sent us an email saying that her and 4th spouse were starting to feel like they were just “friends” and she was moving to New Zealand to start a new life (she wasn’t fooling us, we knew there was a new dude). About 6 months later she announced she had a new boyfriend and a year after that we saw that they had been married.

The kicker in all of this is, during my wedding, my very sweet English grandmother said to her “Oh, i do hope that your marriage to (4th) works out”.

She got upset by this, but I dont blame my grandma for pointing out her revolving door of husbands. I wish I could invite 4th Husband back into our family, we really miss him and his family.”

How about you?

Have you ever had a short marriage?

If so, what happened and why did it end?

Talk to us in the comments!

The post People Who Had Short Marriages Talk About How They Realized They’d Made a Mistake appeared first on UberFacts.

Posted on

Relationship Memes That Are Really Too Sweet

Are you ready for some real cute relationship memes? Yeah you are. You’re a total sucker for that stuff. And that’s fine. We all are. No layers of irony here. Just heartfelt expressions of how cool and weird it is to be in love. Yanno, in meme form.

Enjoy these ten cute memes about the person of your dreams.

10. Miss you already

To this I can only say: boo.

9. Catch a flick

You’re about to find our real quick if you truly have the same tastes or not.

8. Your just desserts

Don’t get greedy – you gotta time that stuff out.

7. Over the air waves

What does sleep have that I don’t got?

6. Shifting dynamics

When the darkness meets the light.

5. Don’t let the bed hugs bite

The tightest sleep you’re likely to find anywhere.

4. Chicks, man

Madness? THIS. IS. A CONVERSAAAATTTTION!

3. Time frames

Stupid work and its stupid face.

2. Sweet dreams

And then you gotta mumble all about it to your pillow until you fall asleep.

1. Change your tuna

This is wedded bliss and you can’t let anybody tell you otherwise.

That’s the good, cute stuff. Maybe send this list to your love to test their limits for how much sweetness they’re willing to put up with. I’m sure they’ll appreciate it.

If you could pass on just one piece of relationship advice, what would it be?

Tell us in the comments.

The post Relationship Memes That Are Really Too Sweet appeared first on UberFacts.

Posted on

People Share Stories About When They Caught Their Significant Others Cheating

Getting cheated on is one of life’s ultimate betrayals.

If that sounds dramatic, it’s because that’s what goes down when this sort of thing happens: it’s full of drama, crying, fighting, etc. DRAMA.

And it’s also very hurtful to the person who is the one that gets left in the dark.

People were asked to open up about how they caught their partners cheating and how it made them feel…

Here are some tales of heartbreak from people on AskReddit.

1. The nanny…and some weed.

“My ex husband and his family smoked a lot of pot, still do.

His sister, kids, and nanny were visiting from out of state for a few weeks. When it was time to fly home they left their stash at my ex MILs house because they didn’t want to take it on the plane. My ex asked if I would pick it up because I was nearby. Stupidly I agree.

I don’t smoke and I was willing to carry it in my car for him. To my surprise I found a note from the nanny to my ex saying she was in love with him and she was so happy for the time they had together. Obviously she thought he would get the weed instead of me.

While it was incredibly painful at the time I am definitely living my best life 15 years later.”

2. She confessed.

“My best friend was friends with my gf and her roommates. Word got to my friend about her bringing some dude home after a party and my friend eventually spilled to me.

She said “I really don’t want to tell you this and I know this will crush you, but I can’t keep this from you.” After she dropped the bomb I was like “Hell no! That would never happen!” and then I confronted by gf about it that night who broke down and confessed everything.

I stayed with that girl for another 7 months and God bless my friend for sticking by my side and supporting the whole way. When I finally ended things, my best friend was still there to support me and care for me.

Also haven’t dated anyone for longer than 6 months since that happened 7 years ago…”

3. A broken heart.

“I walked in the door to her coworker on the couch, obviously uncomfortable and clothes messy and her locked in the bathroom.

I wanted to pummel him then and there, but he was a trained MMA fighter, and I would’ve left the house that night with more than a broken heart. I just left.

They started dating the next day.

Sucks. It took a while for me to get trust back in relationships.”

4. I’m not dumb.

“Wife was acting unusual for a few weeks.

She would want to spend time by herself on the weekends and when she came home at night from work she would often sit in the driveway for 20 minutes on the phone.

I’m not dumb.

I bought a voice activated digital recorder and stuck it in her car. I knew what I needed to know in less than 24 hours.”

5. Round and round it goes.

“She confessed to her mom… Then mother in law called her other daughter and told her…

Sister in law then called me and told me, she let me listen in on a three way call to her mom and tried to convince mom to tell me but she refused which basically confirmed it.”

6. The last to know.

“June 1, 2018. Normal day. A Friday.

My husband had kissed me goodbye and gone to work. I was cleaning the house for company who was coming to stay the weekend. The doorbell rang. There was a man at my door who introduced himself as the husband of a woman who my husband worked with.

He was there to tell me that my husband and his wife were having an affair. He had busted them about six months prior and had told his wife that she had to end the affair. He thinks that she did end it…for about three months, but then they started up again.

When he found out they were at it again, he called my husband (because he knew if he confronted him in person, he’d be in a jail cell for what he’d have done).

On the phone, he told my husband to leave his wife alone or else he would come and tell me everything that was happening. Apparently, my husband thought that he was bluffing.

So I was literally the last to know. My husband never came home again. He got an air b’n’b and a lawyer. The divorce was December 21, 2018.

We had been together for 24 years. Still hurts.”

7. Where could he be?

“I owned a house with my fiancé.

I woke up in the middle of the night and he wasn’t in bed. I went searching. His truck and another vehicle were in the driveway. Then, I went upstairs and found the guest bedroom was locked. After barging my way in… I found him with another woman in bed.

That bed happened to be my childhood bed. He forced me out of the room… literally grabbed me by the neck and pushed me out and closed the door back. I knew I couldn’t do anything at that point, so I called his parents who lived a few blocks away.

His dad showed up and another fight broke out. I ended up leaving and staying at his parents until dawn. I moved out that weekend and let the house foreclose. 9 years later.. it’s finally off my credit report.

I’m happily married to an amazing man and we own a beautiful home together.”

8. What a creep.

“The husband of one of the women he was cheating on me with called me at work.

At first I didn’t believe him and hung up. How could the man i spent the past 8 years with, had 2 beautiful babies with, suffered together the loss of one of those children do something so hurtful?? Still a part of me had doubt. He had affairs in other relationships and we had a rocky patch early in the beginning where I suspected an affair but didn’t have proof.

I told my boss I felt sick and had to leave early and I called this guy back and found out that my ex and his wife along with one of their friends were all sleeping together for about a year. He had confronted my ex and told him that he was going to tell me but my ex convinced him to wait a month since my mother had just died.

I took my time coming home and confronted him and told him to pack and leave. Since I’ve pieced together a lot of what happened and all the lies he told me where if I was in a different headspace I might have caught on to the affairs earlier.

I also found videos hidden on one of our computers and found out he was having booty calls in our apartment while I was at work and he was watching our daughter.

At that point it put the headstone on any possibility of reconciliation.”

9. Unhealthy.

“Very unhealthy relationship. He was emotionally very abusive and I was in a terrible place with my mental health.

I found out at the ultrasound to determine the gender of our child. He was late and I was noodling on Facebook waiting to be called.

He was tagged in some photos in my news feed from a gig he’d been at on the previous weekend. Random lass was in all the photos of him and they were all over each other. Also they were making out in the background of one photo.

He turned up after I was called in. While the technician was printing the images I told him I knew. He went off and on about how I was making it up, he’d never do that, obviously I was lying to compensate for cheating on him and so on. When I pointed out there were photos he stormed out and left me there.

My Dad had turned up during the appointment (anticipating that he’d react badly if we were having a girl, which he did, that was scattered through the cheating denials) and took me home.

I considered us broken up at that point and stopped all contact except texts related to the pregnancy.

Mostly I was relieved. I had concrete evidence that it wasn’t in my head and I finally managed to escape that relationship.”

10. Business trip.

“He went to Hawaii for a business trip without his wife and kids. Like a good wife, I packed his clothes before he left and unpacked his dirty laundry when he returned home.

I found a tiny pair of white cotton panties (no lace) in his suitcase. He had recently dropped a lot of weight (>100 lbs) and played it off that he had bought them for himself …. they had no label and were simple bikinis so theoretically could have been men’s as well.

It did sort of explain the pretty brunette that followed him off the plane at the airport and kept looking at my kids and I at the luggage carousel (what an *ss to make his side piece come face to face with his wife and kids).

I made sure he wore those panties at least once a week for the remaining few months we were together (I set out his clothes everyday and he couldn’t protest).”

11. A sad story.

“I was married.

Out of the blue while at work I get an email that says (husbands name) ‘s wife.

When I open the email it lists off a name and says (husbands name) married to her. Check on Facebook

(English was not the first language, this was overseas)

So I do and what do I see? Tons and tons and tons and tons of pictures of a woman with my husband. The woman and her kids with my husband. The woman and her family with my husband.

I was stunned to say the least. It was October 6th 2017, 7 months after I almost died from an ectopic pregnancy. Yep we were trying at that point to have kids.

After work I went home and started throwing all of his stuff in the dumpster. He was out of town at the time so I had plenty of time to do it. Spent all of Saturday and Sunday throwing EVERYTHING he owned in the dumpster.

A month later I moved to a new apartment and waited until then to tell him I was divorcing him.

He then killed himself a few months later.”

12. An eye-opening experience.

“I was 8 months pregnant with our second child at the time and he wanted to go visit his brother for the weekend. I asked my doctor if it was safe for me to travel and she said it would be fine.

I told my husband I could go but he said he was really hoping to just have some time with his brother, I understood because a new baby really makes it hard to spend quality time but I asked if he could take our older son (3yo at the time) so he could see his grandma and cousins.

He said they were planning on drinking and whatnot and wasn’t sure it would be a good idea. (They’re country boys so think shooting, drinking and whatnot) I agreed and he left for the weekend. After he left I get a call from his best friend telling me that he’ll be in town for the weekend and he wanted to meet up, not weird he called me because my husband was terrible at answering his phone.

I told him unfortunately my husband was visiting back home, bad timing. His best friend then said ok, I’m going to call you back. And hung up very abruptly. Turns out my husband and his wife had been caught by him a few months previously and he gave them a chance to make it right…I don’t know why.

He didn’t tell me but threatened to if they didn’t stop. Well, they didn’t stop and he told me. I think the worst part was that my husband’s family knew and never once thought to tell me. These people were my family for 5 years and nothing.

It’s been almost 10 years now and I’m so much happier but it was definitely an eye opening experience.”

13. A strange look on her face…

“My ex was a big drinker and I wasn’t.

She would frequent this bar close to our place pretty often with friends. I rarely went because I just wasn’t a fan of bars or her drinking friends. One night she went out with a couple that I didn’t mind that much. I was bored at home so I decided to head over for a little bit.

As I walk in I see my ex sitting at the bar with the couple. The bar was packed and as soon as I made eye contact my ex she had this strange look on her face. She turns to this guy sitting next to her, and he immediately gets up and leaves.

I felt something strange right away, but I brushed it off as me being irrational. I stayed for like an hour and headed home. I couldn’t shake the feeling I had though so I checked one of her friend’s Facebook page to see if there was any connection that existed between my ex and this random dude. Sure enough he was friends with one of my ex’s friends.

I knew his name now and that I wasn’t as crazy as I thought. I sat on the information though. The next weekend she goes out drinking again and still had not returned home at 4 am.

I tried contacting her multiple times and I got no response. I woke up to her coming home at 7 am and jumping in the shower immediately. I decided to check her phone while she was in the shower, and she kept all of the messages with this same guy. Some pretty telling information in the text thread.

While she was still showering I grabbed a fresh pair of clothes and headed to my best friends house. 20 minutes later I get a phone call with her going ape sh*t about me leaving and not saying anything. I laughed at the projection, told her that if she wasn’t moved out by Monday the police would be there to force her out.

She wasn’t on the lease and her parents lived 10 minutes away from me. That was that.”

Have you ever had a partner cheat on you before?

What happened? How did the whole thing go down?

Tell us all about it in the comments.

We look forward to hearing from you!

The post People Share Stories About When They Caught Their Significant Others Cheating appeared first on UberFacts.

Posted on

Cute Compliment Memes You Can Send To Your Special Someone

Valentine’s Day is far off, but that’s no excuse not to send Valentines to the people you love. Or at the very least a sort of off-brand version where you just text them cute meme compliments about how much you like their butt or whatever.

Any day of the year is the right day for those kinds of adorable shenanigans.

In that spirit, here are ten cute compliment memes for the special someone in your life.

10. Sweets for the sweet

You absolutely knock me out.

9. Stark realities

I may not be a billionaire, but I’ll scare off danger with my mighty growls.

8. Happy little me’s

Just take those feelings of loneliness and beat the devil out of ’em.

7. Snack attack

How does this dog look so smooth and why can’t I deal with it?

6. Crash into me

Gonna crush so hard they call me the super nova.

5. Needed contributions

Together, we can reach these goals. Not me, us.

4. Let’s get this bread

Garlic may not be easy on the breath but it’s still pretty great for the mouth.

3. Lizard licks

When your man saves you fifteen percent or more on car insurance.

2. Pretty potassium

“Why is any of this?” – dog, probably

1. Reporting for booty

Your future looks very bright.

If you want to brighten somebody’s day, just send them one of these. Or the whole list. You can’t lose, really.

What’s your favorite thing about being in love?

Share it in the comments.

The post Cute Compliment Memes You Can Send To Your Special Someone appeared first on UberFacts.

Posted on

11 Times Infidelity in a Marriage Caused Problems, Even When the Partners Don’t Know

Marriage is hard. At least it can be if you don’t put in the work.

And once our eyes go wandering… perhaps they land on somebody that catches our interest. It’s a pretty common occurrence, and some stats suggest that 25% of marriages have at least ONCE incident of infidelity in it.

If you’re not good at math, that means 1 out of every 4 marriages has one person cheating at least once.

Yeah, people are getting it on outside of their marriages and they have to get that off their chests. And so we have these Whispers…

1. Priorities…

I mean, would you break it off just to be with somebody you cheated with?

Photo Credit: Whisper

2. Hey, if that’s your thing…

Maybe it keeps the marriage sane?

Photo Credit: Whisper

3. Well, that didn’t work out.

You should have been honest, bub!

Photo Credit: Whisper

4. I don’t know Karen, will there?!?

Doesn’t sound like it should be up to you.

Photo Credit: Whisper

5. That’ll teach him!

Or maybe it won’t.

Photo Credit: Whisper

6. All the emotions!

All the time!

Photo Credit: Whisper

7. How is that working out for you?

I’m guessing she just wanted revenge.

Photo Credit: Whisper

8. Sometimes marriage is just a placeholder.

Not everybody should get marriage because somebody forces the issue.

Photo Credit: Whisper

9. Don’t brag about it!

Jeezus… what an a$$hole!

Photo Credit: Whisper

10. So does that make you a horrible person?

Seems like you’re a horrible person, actually.

Photo Credit: Whisper

11. Is that sad or is it telling you something?

You should probably break it off.

Photo Credit: Whisper

Well, that was pretty revealing, right? Who knew there was that much cheating out there.

Have you ever cheated? Feel guilty about it? Or could you care less?

Let us know in the comments… if you dare!

The post 11 Times Infidelity in a Marriage Caused Problems, Even When the Partners Don’t Know appeared first on UberFacts.

Posted on

Symptoms of “Good Relationship” Syndrome

Are you happy with your significant other? Do you experience bouts of joy, trust, and unafraid intimacy? Do you have symptoms of confidence, stability, and connection?

Then you may suffer from a condition known as “good relationship.” Good Relationship is a chronic condition that can last a very long time. To know whether you have it or are at risk of contracting it, you should be on the lookout for “green flags.”

What are some little known relationship GREEN flags? from AskReddit

These “green flag” symptoms have here been enumerated by a panel of dating doctors (aka Reddit users). Have a look for yourself, and consider this a self-administered test.

1. What should we look for?

Willingness to forgive you when you make a mistake/speak in anger/etc rather than hold a grudge or try to punish you. (Doesn’t mean they won’t be still be upset of course.)

Willingness to admit fault and take responsibility when they make a mistake/speak in anger/etc and work on their own negative behaviors. Related: taking you seriously when something upsets you even if it doesn’t seem like a big deal from their perspective.

Not losing their temper when things don’t go their way. Example: do you want to be with someone who blows up when the car breaks down on a road trip and makes everyone else miserable or the person who calmly calls the repair service and tries to make the best of it?

Not making personal attacks during arguments. Focusing more on how they are feeling and fixing the problem at hand, and then reconciling afterward, rather than lashing out with a list of perceived character flaws. Example: “I feel disrespected when…” rather than “You’re such a disrespectful [expletive of choice]!”

Genuine care for you and others; a lack of self-centeredness. Being open to hear the perspectives of others, even when they don’t agree. An understanding that they are not the center of the universe, they are not always right, and there is always something to learn.

In short: emotional maturity.

– xxrachinwonderlandxx

2. Watch for reduced noise perception.

The ability to co exist in very companionable silence.

– kmm91162

3. Ask your doctor if your health is more important than a car’s.

It’s a pretty convoluted story, but I was dating a guy, had to drive his car to get him from a situation, and wrecked his car due to mechanical failure, and called my mama to come get me so we could go get him.

“Rescued” him. Then had to tell him I’d wrecked his car.

His first question: “Are you okay?”

My mom overheard. “That one’s a keeper.”

– 50EffingCabbages

4. Look out for irritability-resistant cooperation.

I remember the time I was pissed at my SO and then she accidentally spilled some sauce on her lap and I angrily helped her clean it up with my hanky

– [user deleted]

5. Do you need dietary assistance?

When you’re on a road trip and your partner feeds you fries and helps you drink your soda or whatever.

I think that’s such a nice simple gesture of kindness.

– Kekitron

6. Note any increased mobility.

Genuine support in your life goals, even if that means you two will have to go long distance for a while or will have to have conflicting work schedule or it will make your relationship harder in some way. If they love you and want you to be happy, they will be genuinely interested in what you want to do and will try to support you to do that in whatever way they can. They won’t hold you back in anyway.

This is something me and my SO have been facing something similar to this recently, he’s just graduated and is looking for a job. As much as I want him to stay close by so we don’t have to do long distance for any more time than we have to (I’m going home for the summer). But if he gets a job the other side of the country I won’t stop him and as long as I’m around I’ll help him pack up.

– averagehonesthuman

7. Quick recovery periods are frequent.

Being able to emotionally connect even after an argument

– liamfaganmusic

8. Close examination of common experiences may be necessary.

Telling the little details about your day. There’s something really precious about that, and you feel in-tune with the other person.

– archived_idli

9. Note any increased memory function.

Your partner does things for you without asking and remembers little details. For example I like eating with a fruit fork (the smaller version of the dinner fork) I actually googled that since our family calls them the little forks lol.

Anyway, my partner remembers this and will grab it for me when we’re dishing up food. Another good one is they make you feel appreciated.

– SerenityFate

10. Watch what you eat.

They respect your food issues, whether preferences, allergies, etc.

Bonus Points: They defend you to their blood relatives.

– EPresage

11. Note a strong appetite for thing-doing.

If she shows equal interest in hanging out with you. If it feels like you’re dragging them into going on a date, they’re really not into you, no matter what they may say.

Besides, let’s be honest. Wouldn’t you rather date someone who is as excited and interested in seeing you and you are in seeing them?

– Crappyfanchandelier

12. Empathetic response may be above normal parameters.

You want your partner to be happy and not the other way around. Oftentimes people want to be in a relationship to solely make themselves happy

– Some-Specie

13. Take note of reading comprehension.

You recommend them a book or movie and they actually take the time to check it out.

– -eDgAR-

14. There may be a general reduction in stress.

It feels “easy”.

Effortless. Unforced. Natural.

This is a good sign of a real connection. Compromise feels like second nature. You both breath thoughtfulness and consideration towards each other.

You figure things out, together. You see each other, respect each other, and appreciate each other.

– Manateaze

15. In summary:

I feel like there’s a lot of detailed examples that largely boil down to two things: empathy and emotional maturity.

– LegendaryGary74

If you think that you or someone you know may suffer from Good Relationship, ask your doctor how their day went, cause you got nothing to fix. Congratulations.

What would you add to this list of symptoms?

Tell us in the comments.

The post Symptoms of “Good Relationship” Syndrome appeared first on UberFacts.

Posted on

“Green Flags” That are Signs of a Good Relationship

We’re all know the term “red flags”  when it comes to relationships. The little (or huge) warning signs that we’d prefer to ignore so we can just keep things going with someone whom we know deep down isn’t good for us. And while it’s doubtlessly important to keep an eye out for such things, we shouldn’t dwell on them all the time. Let’s look at something a little happier today. Like, say, green flags:

What are some little known relationship GREEN flags? from AskReddit

This post in r/AskReddit garnered over 10,000 responses. Here are some of the highlights:

1. Love is unhurried.

You don’t feel like you’re competing for their time. You’re just loved. Even when they are busy, you don’t have to worry.

People think you need to spend all your time with someone. You don’t. But the feeling of being loved removes any jealousy or insecurities.

You just know it’s good

– mewashere1

2. You can be you.

When you like the person that you become when you’re with them.

Everyone projects a different version of themselves around different people and if you don’t like who you become when you’re with someone, it’s probably not going to be the healthiest relationship.

Your SO should bring out the best in you.

– crasher35

3. Burdens are cut in half.

If it’s a chore you both hate, you do it together.

My late husband and I both HATED folding laundry, but it had to be done. So we always did it together. Made the chore less of a pain.

– AlfalfaFloozy

4. You can love through anger.

No matter how angry you are at one another. You will still go out of your way or they go out of their way to help.

I’ll be wicked pissed, but I’ll angrily make my wife her favorite dinner even though I don’t want to eat. No matter how angry we are at one another (usually only last a short period of time) we will never sabotage or try to teach them a lesson. Many times, it ends up being both apologizing to one another.

Arguing and getting angry is just part of a relationship and unavoidable. It is how you deal with it that’s sets it apart from a healthy relationship versus a bad one.

– kamikaziboarder

5. Surprise each other.

Came home from working a 12 hour shift one night to a full dinner with my favorite dessert.

Never had a girlfriend just decide to cook me a full meal for me to come home to like that.

– trgoldfox

6. Forgiveness is key.

Able to forgive mistakes.

Early in our relationship I accidentally backed my car into my Fiance’s car while coming out of the driveway. I definitely did damage. I immediately started freaking out and crying and he just calmly got out of his car, came up to mine and asked if I was okay.

He got me to calm down and said it was fine it was just an accident. He never made me feel bad about it. He called it our little bump to my friends to minimize my embarrassment.

We laugh about it to this day. – KinickieNoodle

7. Don’t be a tease.

My ex would tease me a lot and would tease me in front of his family. He would say things like “Oh she changed her outfit 3 times because she thought you guys would judge her.” Or “She didn’t really want to come over but I convinced her.” He would be laughing and joking but these things would be the truth!

When I was going to meet my current boyfriend’s family I was really nervous! In the car I said “Please don’t tell them how nervous I am, it’s so embarrassing!” He looked at me in shock and said “I’m on YOUR side! Why would I tell them that?” And it was like a freaking lightbulb! Love this guy ?

– chapter2at30

8. Nobody’s perfect.

When your SO takes criticism from you seriously without immediately trying to turn it back on you.

If the converse is also true, you two stand a great chance of going the distance.

– SqueakyCleanNoseDown

9. Have a good thing to say.

Non-sexual compliments

– ipakookapi

10. Remember the best medicine.

Laughter.

And also: I’ve been with my partner for 40 years (this month!) and I still smile when I see him across a room.

He still makes me laugh and my heart soars when I think of him.

– the_real_grinningdog

11. Love is in the details.

Listening to you and remembering the things you’ve said.

Back when me and my boyfriend started dating, he’d sometimes bring up things that I’ve said before (ex: my favorite foods, candies, etc.).

Made me super happy and could tell he genuinely cared.

– isahellarad

12. Talk to each other.

They communicate if they will be delayed and how long they will be.

Talk things through BEFORE it becomes a screaming match. Not after.

Asks about boundaries/traumas and doesn’t judge you for them, but instead respects them.

– KhajitCaravan

13. Stay in touch.

Calling/texting just to see how you’re doing, even if they don’t need anything.

– Frankfertt

14. Take it point by point.

• honesty
• genuine interest in each other’s hobbies (don’t have to do them, but at least support it)
• strong communication
• you feel like you’re hanging out with your best friend…except you wanna smash.

– Iamdaisylion

15. And of course, the ultimate test of character:

Putting the shopping cart back

– bendedsleaze

We should remember to recognize and celebrate the good in our lives and the good in each other. It’s what makes this whole crazy thing worthwhile!

What are some other things you would add to this list?

Tell us in the comments.

The post “Green Flags” That are Signs of a Good Relationship appeared first on UberFacts.