Was It Bad to Tell My Wife Not to Encourage Our Teenage Daughter to Expect Her Boyfriend to Pay for Everything? People Responded.

Do you think chivalry is dead?

Well, maybe that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but based on what you’re about to read, chivalry could be on the ropes.

Or at least what some folks think of as chivalry, aka “the guy always pays for everything.”

Hey, to each their own, I guess…

But this father clearly has some issues with the whole thing.

Here’s what the guy shared on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” page.

AITA for telling my wife it’s not ‘cute’ for her to encourage our teenage daughter to expect her boyfriend to pay for EVERYTHING in their relationship?

“Wife and I have been married 18 years, we have our 16 year old daughter who has been dating a slightly shy/ awkward young man for around 3-4 months now.

He seems very nervous around my daughter and has admitted in a passing comment here and there to my wife and I that he can’t believe she agreed to date him and he thinks she’s way out of his league. He seems very respectful, just shy.

My wife is usually an independent, awesome woman and her ideals align closely with mine particularly in term of feminism and equality. We have both striven to raise our daughter to be as independent and capable as possible.

Since my daughter has been dating this kid my wife has changed considerably and has given our daughter advice that has left me with raised brows more than once.

Some of the advice I’ve heard my wife give is ‘oh it’s cute for boys to pay for everything, especially in your first relationship!’ Or ‘oh honey don’t worry about that, he can pay for you, if he really liked you he would’ and similar.

I’ve tried to balance this out by telling my daughter straight away ‘two people in a partnership should be contributing equally’ and my personal favorite ‘if someone asks if they can take you out to dinner, it’s reasonable to expect them to pay, but if someone asks you to grab dinner with them, it’s reasonable to split the payment’. I figured that would be an easy way for a young person to understand the difference.

However I’ve noticed my daughter becoming more and more entitled with her boyfriends money. They haven’t been anywhere obviously since we’re home but the way she talks about him ‘oh I’ll just ask him to pay for x’ etc leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

She has also flippantly bragged/ mentioned that she gets him to buy gift cards for her etc by mentioning her mother’s advice, i.e. ‘if you really liked me you’d pay for x’

I spoke to my wife privately and told her my concerns, she insists it’s a rite of passage for girls and it’s cute that she should feel a guy is completely spoiling her.

I told her that it’s not cute for her to be thinking it’s acceptable to view relationships as personal ATMS, and my wife became very angry with me and is now calling me an *sshole with a lot of hostility.”

Here’s how people on Reddit responded to his story.

This person was as clear as day: it’s not cute and the man’s wife is to blame.

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A woman weighed in with her own opinion and she made a very good point about the overall attitude toward paying for dates.

Photo Credit: Reddit

And then another person made a good point about thinking about if the shoe was on the other foot.

Maybe this whole thing is a little bit outdated…?

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This person was short and blunt with their thoughts.

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But another Reddit user made a good point about how times have changed and maybe the mother in this story is just feeling nostalgic for the old days.

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And, finally, someone talked about how the mentality that men should spoil women all the time is still out there and that a big part of it comes from immaturity.

Photo Credit: Reddit

Okay, readers, now we want to get your opinion?

What do you think of this situation?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments. We look forward to hearing from you!

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Women Talk About When They Knew They Wanted to Marry Their Husbands

Hey, there!

Today I met the boy I’m gonna marry…

Remember that song? It’s a good one! A golden oldie, if I do say so myself…

And we love it because it reminds folks about when they first knew that The One was really gonna be THE ONE.

Women on Buzzfeed talked about when they knew they were gonna marry their husbands.

Let’s take a look!

1. Comforting.

“A week after our first date, I got knocked over in a bike accident and ended up at the hospital with a broken neck and a fractured spine.

While visiting me in the hospital, he wasn’t allowed anywhere near my head, so since he couldn’t reach my hand, he held my foot the whole time instead.”

2. That’s nice.

“We were at brunch when a disabled vet came over and started a conversation with him about his motorcycle jacket.

My man had just gotten laid off, but he looked at his budget and bank app right there at the table to figure out where he could cut a corner to pay for that vet and his wife’s meals.

I almost cried.”

3. No walk of shame.

“I thought I was going to have to do the ‘walk of shame’ from his place at 6 a.m. one morning after we’d been out.

I was putting my dress back on when he got out of bed and put on jeans and a dress shirt to walk me home instead.”

4. First date.

“My (now) husband and I were on our first date, and we wandered into a café with a live band that was so loud we couldn’t hear each other at all.

Well, the music was really good, so rather than ignore me or suggest that we leave, he started texting me questions about my dreams, fears, and hopes for the future.”

5. The One.

“I found out I had cancer on our third date, and I found out a few months later that I probably couldn’t have kids.

I was crying during our car ride home when he took my hand and said, ‘We can always adopt.’”

6. A stand-up guy.

“We were supposed to have a fourth date when I called to tell him I couldn’t make it because my dad had just gone to the ER with metastatic colon cancer.

Well, he could tell in my voice how stressed I was about it, so he drove two hours to be with me at the hospital. And we had that fourth date in the hospital’s cafeteria.

We’ve been married for six years and have been through hell and back together. But we find new ways to love each other all the time.”

7. Animal lover.

“When I saw him chasing a random stray cat because he wanted to pet it.”

8. That came later.

“When we were chatting about amusement parks and he said, ‘I love…Universal Studios,’ and I realized that I thought he was going to say, ‘I love you,’ and that I wished he did.”

9. All about the soup.

“Neither of us likes soup. But we attend a lot of events that have soup courses.

So without a word, he’ll eat all his soup and quietly switch his finished bowl with my full bowl then eat mine, too.

Then he’ll whisper sweetly, ‘Good job eating your soup, hun!’”

10. Huey for the win!

“We had just moved in together, and I wanted to blast some Huey Lewis while washing my car, but my ex always made me feel silly for liking ’80s music, so I was embarrassed…

Well, I finally decided to just do it — and he looked at me and said, ‘Oh my god, I LOVE Huey! Are you playing ‘Hip to Be Square’?!’ I knew then that we were meant to be together.”

11. No problem.

“We were visiting his parents in the Bay Area, and just as we were leaving, his mom — who was very ill — asked him to cut her toenails.

Most men wouldn’t do that in front of a new girlfriend, but he just went into her bathroom, got the clippers, and cut her nails.

I knew that if he took care of her like that, he’d take great care of me. And he did.”

12. Authentic.

“My husband won my heart when he jokingly called me an *sshole on our first date.

I had been internet dating for a while, and first dates were usually stiff and felt like job interviews. So it was refreshing for someone to be authentic.

I felt like I knew him well as soon as I met him.”

13. That’s the good stuff!

“The first day I met him I noticed that the way he talked about the things he was passionate about was so moving.

His eyes lit up, and he smiled the whole time in a way that made my heart melt.”

14. Part of the family.

“My dad died a month ago at a routine hospital visit, and we had just signed the DNR when my husband walked into the waiting room and immediately took my mom into his arms.

That’s when I realized it isn’t just me he loves and cares for.”

Alright, folks, now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us about when you knew that your partner was THE ONE.

Let’s get all lovey dovey!

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Romantic Comedy Tropes That Are Creepy in Real Life

I’ve never been a huge fan of romantic comedies…

The fact that I (typical straight dude) am not the target audience probably goes a long way toward explaining this, but even beyond that, there’s just something…troubling about them.

Someone on Reddit seems to agree with me:

What’s something that is romantic in movies but creepy in real life? from AskReddit

So, what’s going on in these flicks that you definitely wouldn’t want to encounter in real life?

Let’s break it down.

1. Why you gotta fight?

Having scream-fighting matches with your partner constantly because you’re both so “passionate” like in the notebook…like, nah bro.

You’re just incompatible.

That sh*t ain’t cute

– sloth_warlock85

2. Stay away from me.

Casually stalking who they’re pursuing.

– oatli

3. Breaking and entering.

Breaking into your crushes house and laying on their bed.

Movies: “aww he misses her that’s sweet.”

Real life: “You going to jail.”

– November_15th

4. Don’t make a scene.

An overdramatic proposal in front of a bunch of strangers.

– jackiea40

5. No means no.

Chasing someone who already said no, multiple times.

If someone is already in a relationship trying to break them up.

“Love” at first sight, no, that’s just lust and desire.

– vemisfire

6. Have a little professionalism.

Therapists dating or having sex with their patients. “Oh but they have such a deep connection!”

No, that’s a malpractice lawsuit in the making.

– against_underscores

7. Lotta hate for The Notebook out there.

In the notebook, Ryan gosling’s character literally builds a house for his ex girlfriend a decade after they split, who is now married to somebody else.

Imagine if that was real life. Imagine your teenage boyfriend out of the blue just built a house and expected you to move in with him.

Creepy af.

– jamagical12

8. Don’t be a homewrecker.

Pursuing someone who is already in a relationship

– Mango_Soda

9. They take these things seriously.

Breaking through airport security to profess your love.

Have fun getting tased and sent to prison jack*ss.

– CTHeinz

10. How did you get here?

Turning up on someone’s doorstep when they haven’t given you their address

– Toot_My_Own_Horn

11. Communication is key.

Never saying goodbye at the end of a phone call and just putting the phone down.

– Marcmmmmm

12. It’s not the Middle Ages.

Any kind of combat. Sword fights, fisticuffs, or any other kind of violence on behalf of the person you’re trying to woo.

And even if violence is called for – if you do end up being the person who physically saves a woman from harm?

That is not the time for flirting.

– PreferredSelection

13. This one is – hey wait, a minute…

Trying to get your mum and dad to fall in love at the enchantment under the sea dance but your mother ends up with the hots for you, all while trying to generate 1.21 gigawatts while driving at 88 miles per hour!

– Talonqr

14. Guys, take this seriously.

Stealing their baby brother and taking them to the castle at the center of the labyrinth to eventually turn them into a goblin.

– veegasmo

15. Ok, we’re done here.

Every male in the entire village always hitting on the one single blue female.

– MassGootz

So, maybe romantic comedies just aren’t for me. Or maybe, more and more, they really aren’t for anybody.

What would you add to this list?

Tell us in the comments.

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This is How You Can Apply the Five Love Languages to Yourself

Writer Jessicah Pierre brought a lot of joy to people recently with her Twitter thread on the “love languages” and how we can apply them to ourselves.

The concept of the five basic love languages was first pioneered in the early 90’s by author and minister Gary Chapman. In his book The Five Love Languages, he outlined different ways that people prefer to show and receive affection.

It’s a framework that has dug its way into the culture as a helpful guide to recognize each others’ needs, but can it be applied to our day to day, even when we’re alone? Jessicah thinks so:

Here’s her rundown of each language and how you can apply them to yourself to improve your mental health.

1. Words of Affirmation

Talking to yourself isn’t crazy. It’s a totally normal way to process thoughts.

2. Acts of Service

You’d be surprised how much you might appreciate it if you help you out.

3. Quality Time

Don’t just rush around constantly.

4. Physical Touch

There’s an obvious NSFW answer here but this is good too.

5. Gifts

Treat yoself.

Basically:

When you lay it all out like that, it seems so simple. And yet, how often have any of us thought in these terms?

A very helpful reminder that we’ve already got a lot of the tools that we need to stay hearty and happy. Just gotta get ourselves to use them once in a while!

How do you take care of yourself?

Tell us in the comments.

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Hilarious Posts for People in a Love/Hate Relationship with Marriage

The Greek philosopher Socrates once said “By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.”

It seems that a lot of people on Twitter are caught somewhere between good and bad with their spouses and have thus turned into tongue-in-cheek-happy philosophers.

If you don’t understand what I mean, have a look for yourself.

13. If wishing made it so…

Ah, I see what you did there.

12. You’re toast

Why are these things still the most fickle pieces of technology?

11. Work, work, work

We’re all learning brand new things about each other.

10. Sock it to ’em

It’s called the clothes pile and it’s a sacred place.

9. Standard definition

Oh cool so we’re getting a divorce then?

8. The great outdoors

Wow, you’re practically an explorer.

7. On a roll

But did he put it overhand or underhand? Because there is a correct answer.

6. The cold shoulder

Is this dude famous on Twitter JUST for having an annoying marriage?

5. In the mood

We gotta set real expectations for those coming of age.

4. Seek and ye shall find

Solid medical burn right there. Gotta get you to the burn unit.

3. Birds of a feather

I guess we all gotta have a hobby.

2. Shower power

I mean it’s either that or talking about things that bother you.

1. Yes man

Good thing ya’ll are married then, I guess?

I wish you all happy marriages, and happy philosophizing.

What’s your best bit of marriage/relationship advice?

Tell us in the comments.

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Men Talk About the Instant They Knew They Were Going to Marry Their Wives

Ready to get sappy?

How about all lovey-dovey?

Well, you’re in the right place, my friends!

Because we’re about to get a heaping helping of true love stories.

Here are some romantic stories from guys on AskReddit about when they just knew they were gonna marry “The One.”

1. That’s good!

“I was on a date with this girl I really wanted to impress, and not only did I bungle the night by forgetting my wallet at an expensive dinner, but then I lost my car in the parking garage!

I was embarrassed and mortified, and after 20 minutes of running around this parking garage level by level, I could feel her glare and irritation on the back of my neck. I just knew she was thinking that it was the worst date she had ever gone on…

So I turned around to apologize, and there she was, smiling. Then she started to laugh — not at me, but almost inviting me to laugh with her about this poor bastard’s luck.

A large wave of relief washed over the dreadful evening, and we stood there on level 2 of the parking garage…just laughing. I knew at that precise moment that I wanted to marry her.”

2. Studying abroad.

“”I met her while I was studying abroad, and after I came home, we Skyped every day for hours.

Well, she came to visit for three months while I was finishing school, and then we reluctantly decided to break up because we knew it would never work long-term.

But after we said goodbye at the security checkpoint, I sat in my car in the airport parking lot, bawling like a baby.

So I dried my eyes, walked back into the airport, booked a one-way ticket, and sat down in the seat next to her.

It’s the best decision I’ve ever made.”

3. Look into my eyes.

“When I realized this was the first woman I could look in the eyes of and not feel an awkward silence.

We just stared at each other like it was the last thing we’d ever see.”

4. Perfect match.

“We were playing Trivial Pursuit against some friends, and the question we drew was, ‘Who was the 26th president of the United States?’ I figured it was my chance to impress her by listing all the US presidents in order.

But she jumped right in with me and got to Teddy Roosevelt faster than I did! It was the perfect realization that her nerdiness matched up perfectly with my own.

When we got married, we had a picture of Teddy Roosevelt on our table at the reception.”

5. Nerds in love.

“On the fourth date, when she invited me up to her apartment and I saw that her Star Wars Lego collection was even bigger than mine.

I knew right then and there.”

6. Through thick and thin.

“I was at work when I found out my best friend, John, died in a car wreck, and I went home to my girlfriend and cried on her shoulder for an hour.

Well, not only did she go to his funeral with me, but she walked beside me as I performed pallbearer duties.

I knew right there that if she was willing to literally walk beside me through one of the most difficult times in my life, I wanted her beside me for the rest of my life.

If we have another child and it’s a boy, we’re going to give him the middle name John.”

7. Character matters.

“My parents are immigrants and work minimum-wage jobs, and her parents are well-off and own their own business.

I was ashamed to tell her what my dad did, so when she asked about my parents, I dodged the question.

But she knew what I was doing and said, ‘You should never be ashamed of your parents.

They’ve worked so hard to get you where you are; I’m so proud of them.’ I couldn’t help but break down, and I knew right then and there that I would marry her.

I know it sounds kind of small, but to me, it defined her character. And I have no regrets.”

8. That’s all it took.

“My husband says it’s when he asked me what time it was and I responded, ‘It’s Howdy Doody time.’

All of his other dates gave him the actual time.”

9. Put a ring on it.

“I had just come home from my first real grad school final, and I got absolutely worked by it.

Well, when I got back to my apartment, she was sitting at my front door with two tickets to see The Force Awakens and two Chewbacca onesies for us to wear together.

At that moment, I realized she was willing to do anything to cheer me up, even going out in public in a costume that made her look ridiculous. I put a ring on it a few months later.”

10. Smiles for days.

“When her boss messaged me to tell me she always knew when my then-girlfriend was texting with me as opposed to anyone else, because she would always be smiling.

And then her mother said the same thing a few days later.”

11. That’s a keeper.

“I was working on commercial fishing vessels and couldn’t watch the NHL playoffs, so she watched the games and texted me updates.

That was the moment — when she was willing to learn the rules of hockey for me.”

12. I’ll go anywhere.

“When she asked if I would move to Boise, Idaho, with her and I thought, ‘I’d move to hell to be with her.’”

Okay, now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us what always ruins a movie.

Please and thank you!

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Men Talk About the Instant They Knew They Were Going to Marry Their Wives

Ready to get sappy?

How about all lovey-dovey?

Well, you’re in the right place, my friends!

Because we’re about to get a heaping helping of true love stories.

Here are some romantic stories from guys on AskReddit about when they just knew they were gonna marry “The One.”

1. That’s good!

“I was on a date with this girl I really wanted to impress, and not only did I bungle the night by forgetting my wallet at an expensive dinner, but then I lost my car in the parking garage!

I was embarrassed and mortified, and after 20 minutes of running around this parking garage level by level, I could feel her glare and irritation on the back of my neck. I just knew she was thinking that it was the worst date she had ever gone on…

So I turned around to apologize, and there she was, smiling. Then she started to laugh — not at me, but almost inviting me to laugh with her about this poor bastard’s luck.

A large wave of relief washed over the dreadful evening, and we stood there on level 2 of the parking garage…just laughing. I knew at that precise moment that I wanted to marry her.”

2. Studying abroad.

“”I met her while I was studying abroad, and after I came home, we Skyped every day for hours.

Well, she came to visit for three months while I was finishing school, and then we reluctantly decided to break up because we knew it would never work long-term.

But after we said goodbye at the security checkpoint, I sat in my car in the airport parking lot, bawling like a baby.

So I dried my eyes, walked back into the airport, booked a one-way ticket, and sat down in the seat next to her.

It’s the best decision I’ve ever made.”

3. Look into my eyes.

“When I realized this was the first woman I could look in the eyes of and not feel an awkward silence.

We just stared at each other like it was the last thing we’d ever see.”

4. Perfect match.

“We were playing Trivial Pursuit against some friends, and the question we drew was, ‘Who was the 26th president of the United States?’ I figured it was my chance to impress her by listing all the US presidents in order.

But she jumped right in with me and got to Teddy Roosevelt faster than I did! It was the perfect realization that her nerdiness matched up perfectly with my own.

When we got married, we had a picture of Teddy Roosevelt on our table at the reception.”

5. Nerds in love.

“On the fourth date, when she invited me up to her apartment and I saw that her Star Wars Lego collection was even bigger than mine.

I knew right then and there.”

6. Through thick and thin.

“I was at work when I found out my best friend, John, died in a car wreck, and I went home to my girlfriend and cried on her shoulder for an hour.

Well, not only did she go to his funeral with me, but she walked beside me as I performed pallbearer duties.

I knew right there that if she was willing to literally walk beside me through one of the most difficult times in my life, I wanted her beside me for the rest of my life.

If we have another child and it’s a boy, we’re going to give him the middle name John.”

7. Character matters.

“My parents are immigrants and work minimum-wage jobs, and her parents are well-off and own their own business.

I was ashamed to tell her what my dad did, so when she asked about my parents, I dodged the question.

But she knew what I was doing and said, ‘You should never be ashamed of your parents.

They’ve worked so hard to get you where you are; I’m so proud of them.’ I couldn’t help but break down, and I knew right then and there that I would marry her.

I know it sounds kind of small, but to me, it defined her character. And I have no regrets.”

8. That’s all it took.

“My husband says it’s when he asked me what time it was and I responded, ‘It’s Howdy Doody time.’

All of his other dates gave him the actual time.”

9. Put a ring on it.

“I had just come home from my first real grad school final, and I got absolutely worked by it.

Well, when I got back to my apartment, she was sitting at my front door with two tickets to see The Force Awakens and two Chewbacca onesies for us to wear together.

At that moment, I realized she was willing to do anything to cheer me up, even going out in public in a costume that made her look ridiculous. I put a ring on it a few months later.”

10. Smiles for days.

“When her boss messaged me to tell me she always knew when my then-girlfriend was texting with me as opposed to anyone else, because she would always be smiling.

And then her mother said the same thing a few days later.”

11. That’s a keeper.

“I was working on commercial fishing vessels and couldn’t watch the NHL playoffs, so she watched the games and texted me updates.

That was the moment — when she was willing to learn the rules of hockey for me.”

12. I’ll go anywhere.

“When she asked if I would move to Boise, Idaho, with her and I thought, ‘I’d move to hell to be with her.’”

Okay, now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us what always ruins a movie.

Please and thank you!

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Memes to Illustrate the Hilarious Realities of Marriage

Are you married? I am not.

Someday maybe, but not right now. For now my only window into the world of marriage is memes, and they’ve taught me a lot.

Here’s what the land of matrimony looks like, according to marriage memes.

14. Sign me up

Psh, we’re all stay at home now anyway.

Via: Someecards

13. You snooze you lose

That’s cool, I didn’t want to sleep anyway.

Via: Someecards

12. Whine and dine

It’s got all the nutrients that a body needs.

Via: Someecards

11. Picture perfect

I don’t know why this is true but it is.

Via: Someecards

10. Table manners

Oh you know it’s about to get real now.

Via: Someecards

9. Lock and load

If you keep doing it wrong, eventually you’ll stop being asked to do it.

Via: Someecards

8. Hush puppies

Just be cool man, be cool. We don’t want another incident.

Via: Someecards

7. The lion king

One of them is about to die I’m just not sure which.

Via: Someecards

6. A spoonful of sugar

Follow me for more lazy life hacks.

Via: Someecards

5. Stay in your lane

Subtly grabbing onto things for dear life.

Via: Someecards

4. The eternal cycle

Can the two of ya’ll just get on the same page please, I got stuff to do.

Via: Someecards

3. Mr. Right

Sounds like you’re in a highly dysfunctional relationship but ok.

Via: Someecards

2. Flush with pride

Soon I will be king and take my rightful seat on the throne.

Via: Someecards

1. Winner winner

I’m one of those generic ribbons you get for showing up.

Via: Someecards

If that’s marriage, sign me up? I guess? I feel very conflicted.

What’s marriage like to you?

Tell us your experience in the comments.

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