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People Share Three Words of Advice They’d Give to Their 18-Year-Old Selves

To be young again…

When a lot of us are 18-years-old, we think we know everything and we believe we know how the future is going to work out for us.

Of course, the older you get, the more you realize you didn’t really have much of a clue at all. So what would you say to your 18-year-old self if you could go back in time and give three words of advice?

This is the tweet that got the ball rolling.

Let’s see how people responded!

1. Oh, Jason…

Young love…jeez…

2. You can do it!

This is coming from Bill James, a great writer!

3. It’s a good thing.

And everyone can use it at one point or another.

4. That would have been nice.

If you could just do it over again…

5. It’ll all work out the way it’s supposed to.

So don’t sweat the small stuff.

6. Put the bottle down.

It’ll catch up with you at some point.

7. Don’t EVER give up.

Always keep moving forward.

8. It’s not for everyone.

But it is a good idea for other people…

9. Get out of that house!

Sometimes, you just gotta go.

10. Just say NO.

It’s usually a pretty bad idea for most folks.

11. If it’s a bad situation, get out of it.

And don’t look back.

12. Don’t get involved in online drama.

It’s not worth it.

13. You have certain gifts for a reason.

Use them wisely!

Now we want to hear from you.

If you could go back in time and give your 18-year-old self only three words of advice, what would they be?

Tell us what you think in the comments. Thanks!

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What Three Words of Advice Would You Give to Your 18-Year-Old Self? Here’s How People Responded.

Do you remember what you were like when you were 18?

I was pretty sure things would flow very smoothly and I’d be well on my way to…well, I don’t know what exactly, but I was sure I’d be on the fast track to something.

But, as you know, life has a funny way of working out and, for me, it’s taken many turns and detours that I couldn’t have seen coming.

It’s all good, but I still wish I could go back in time and give my 18-year-old self some advice to make things a little bit easier, which I’m sure a lot of you do, too.

This tweet was thrown out to folks and it got them thinking…

So let’s see how they responded!

1. It doesn’t always work out.

Sad, but true.

2. This is great advice.

We could all use a little bit more cash in the bank.

3. You got this!

And don’t let anyone tell you any differently.

4. Get out of bad relationships as soon as possible.

They’ll just get worse.

5. Make the move.

It’ll be good for you.

6. Definitely not for everyone.

If you know it’s true for you, just don’t do it.

7. It ruins many lives.

And it costs a fortune.

8. Things will look up.

So keep moving forward.

9. Get that degree!

And get out into the world!

10. This is very important.

Help each other out.

11. Always trust your gut.

Believe in yourself.

12. You don’t always have to be in a huge hurry.

Good things come to those who wait.

How about you?

What would you tell your 18-year-old self if you could go back in time?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments. Thanks!

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People Share What Items They Didn’t Realize Were Expensive Until They Became Adults

When you’re growing up, you don’t really pay a whole lot of attention to how much things cost.

And you really don’t figure out the cost of things or the value of a dollar until you get your first real job and you learn about how much hard work that life can really be.

Let’s check out these amusing stories from folks on AskReddit who admitted they didn’t know what things REALLY cost until they became adults.

1. They are pricey.

“Lots of things but recently I bought a rug and I had no idea rugs would be that expensive.

I have wood floors for the first time so I’ve never needed to buy one before.”

2. Very true.

“Pets.

I always had dogs and cats growing up. Well, a few years ago I decided to get my own dog. Large breed dogs are expensive. My dog now has health issues. He is allergic to chicken and has sensitive skin.

I spend $100 monthly on special dog food for him. Plus he needs vitamins, monthly groomer visits, yearly physical, toys, etc.

Animals are expensive.

I was watching Homeward Bound a few days ago. All I could think about is “How can these people afford to fly 3 pets from San Fransico to Canada?””

3. Sleep tight.

“Bed sheets, blankets, pillows, at least the good sets.

I just want a nice comfy bedroom, but my blankets don’t match the decoration.”

4. On second thought…

“Legos. Buying them for the nieces and nephews.

Thought I was going to be the cool uncle by buying them huge sets.

That strategy got changed quite quick.”

5. Hit the lights!

“Utilities.

There’s a reason my parents used to walk around flipping switches saying, “What, do you have stock in Edison?!” or that my Mom would throw a sweater at us when we’d complain about being cold but were wearing t-shirts and shorts, bare foot.

Now I am my Mom.

Here’s a blanket, put on some socks, quit complaining.”

6. It sure is.

“Rent.

My parents have owned their home since I was 3, and paid off their mortgage while I was still a kid, so I never realised how expensive it could be just to have somewhere to live.”

7. SO EXPENSIVE.

“Fresh fruit.

I used to eat entire containers of raspberries immediately upon finding them in the fridge and I could never figure out why my mom would be upset I went through them so quickly.

They’re like $5-7 for like 20 raspberries at most! I just bought kiwi berries because I was curious and hadn’t seen them in stores before. $4 for a dozen of them. They’re approximately grape sized, if you aren’t familiar.

Aldi is the only reason I can afford fresh fruit on any sort of regular basis.”

8. The good stuff!

“Decent cheese.

The first time I ever went shopping I realized why my mum used to go mental when myself and my dad would sit and eat cubes of mature cheddar.”

9. Pretty steep.

“Omg tampons!

When my local grocery stores was remodeling last year, they marked down tampons by like 70%.

I was able to get U by Kotex compact tampons for $3 a box (y’all ladies know those are expensive and usually run $8-$10 a box).

You best believe I bought them out. I still have tampons left.”

10. You need ’em.

“Agree with all answers here but the thing i discovered first was car tires.

Usually a car is a young adults first major purchase.”

11. Draining your bank account.

“Groceries.

Meat. Cheese. Fresh vegetables.

TV always be like, “Eat healthy!” but the grocery store always be like, “The only thing on sale is refined sugar!””

12. They cost a fortune.

“Avocados.

Had them in patents backyard and ate them all the time. Moved out of parents house and oh my God.

I had no idea how expensive avocados are. I had to reduce my intake of guac from daily to once a month.”

13. Costs a pretty penny.

“This is going to sound so dumb, but furniture. Growing up, I knew furniture wasn’t cheap. But, I thought “a really nice coffee table can’t cost more than like $200.”

Then I started buying my own furniture and was still blissfully in the dark, because I never cared about having brand new stuff, I’d just get furniture secondhand or at thrift shops.

Then I moved in with my girlfriend, who likes to get new things and realized my conceptions were WAY off. That’s like bottom line for a coffee table that won’t fall apart within a year.

Certain things like couches I understand, but every little thing you could put something else on is stupid expensive and it still doesn’t make sense to me even after I’ve come to accept it.”

14. You need a good one.

“Mattresses.

And you don’t realize how important a good one is until you really have to think about it.

Your sleep is so important and affects everything so it’s important to get a good mattress but holy hell they are expensive.”

How about you?

What things did you not realize were expensive until you became older?

Talk to us in the comments!

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What Was the Worst Birthday Gift You Ever Received? Here’s What People Said.

What are you supposed to do when you get a really, really bad birthday present?

Do you grin and bear it? Do you cry? Do you throw a hissy fit because you didn’t get what you wanted?

I think the best thing to do when you get an awful gift is just to smile, say “thank you!”, and then throw that item in the dumpster as soon as that person leaves your house.

It’s as easy as that!

AskReddit users open up about the worst birthday gifts people ever gave them.

1. Do you like it?

“My own scarf.

Yes, that’s right, my mother went into my room took my only scarf, wrapped it and gave it to me like it was a new scarf.”

2. I think it was used…

“My grandma got me a hairbrush with a plastic horse head handle.

The horse head was all chipped up and there was hair in the brush.”

3. Hmmm…

“A pair of homemade custom pajamas.

Only problem was that they weren’t made yet. It was just the fabric and a promise to make them for me.

I had to give the fabric back and I never got the pajamas.”

4. This again?

“My grandparents have been gifting me (and my brother) the same set of three vice grips for almost 10 years.

Collectively we have 60 vice grips. I don’t know if they bought a pallet of them, or where they are coming from.

GET A GRIP GRANDMA!”

5. This is awful.

“Thought I was getting a bike for my 15th birthday but my foster parents announced that they were sending me to a group home after living with them for 11 years.

Devastation!”

6. What am I supposed to do with this?

“An ex-boyfriend hyped up my birthday gift for days, so I was pumped.

On my birthday, he presented me with a small, flat box. Inside was a passport. His passport. That’s it. Just his passport.

No tickets for a trip, no promises of a trip once we saved up together.

He literally just gifted me his passport.

I’m still baffled.”

7. Uh oh.

“My dad accidentally revealing that him and my mom were separating.

He was on a bender and didnt realize he was texting me and not my mom.

Happy 18th to me.”

8. Not a good sign.

“My ex celebrated my first birthday that we were together by completely ignoring it altogether the day after going all out for her friend’s birthday the day before.

She offered me a leftover piece of the birthday cake she got for her friend, but still never said “happy birthday”. That should have been my signal to run because it never got any better.”

9. OH MY GOD.

“I got a credit card for my 18th birthday and told not to use it because it wasn’t “active yet”.

When I landed my first real corporate job at 2 years old the company ran a credit report on me and found out I had $350K line opened.

Turns out my father had tricked me into signing a co-mortgage, and not credit card paperwork on my 18th bday.

I received Debt on my 18th bday.”

10. Total disaster.

“Husband forgot my birthday, took the day off when he remembered (I was working from home), went to buy something and took maybe ten minutes tops in the store.

Bought roses from the grocery store while he was there buying himself cigarettes. He came home with a DVD box set he’d been dying to watch, and the new CD from a band I’d not only lost interest in but had been saying I’d lost interest in for ages. Not that he let me listen to CDs anyway, since he hated my taste in music.

Then he spent the rest of the day celebrating the birthday of his online friend while I was working from home. They’re married now.”

11. Here you go!

“A used DVD of The Notebook after I explicitly told the person that I had no intention of watching it.

Bonus: it was my step mom who gave it to me. From her and my dad’s DVD collection…that was in our living room and I could have grabbed at anytime to watch.”

12. Thanks?

“One year my husband got me a bag with stuff from the $1 store. Not even stuff I would want.

Like a notebook and a coupon organizer and a few other things. Maybe $5 of junk.

We had no money troubles that would prevent him from getting me a present.”

13. You must have been thrilled.

“This year my mother in law went through the effort of intricately wrapping a box of Ziploc bags for my birthday…. For Christmas it was a box of trash bags.

I’m so confused how I ended up as the guy who gets small boxes of bags as gifts. It almost feels offensive.”

14. You want to do this NOW?

“My mother in law showed up and said “get ready, I booked you for glamour shots in an hour.”

A few weeks after having a baby. I declined. I think she always hated me after that but felt like she hated me at the time.”

15. I don’t want this!

“In high school I got really into learning guitar.

All I had at the time was a beat-up acoustic. My birthday came around, and a wrapped present – a fairly large box – appeared in my parent’s living room. For some reason I became convinced: it was an amp! My parents must’ve gotten me an electric guitar!

They didn’t. It was a blender.”

Now we want to hear from you.

What’s the absolute WORST birthday gift you’ve ever received?

Tell us all about it in the comments!

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People Who Broke Free From Cults Share Their Stories

I can’t even begin to imagine what people who get involved in cults or were even raised in cults have gone through.

And the ones who have managed to escape definitely have some very interesting stories to tell. So let’s take a peek into a world that most of us will never experience in our entire lives.

Take a look at these disturbing stories from AskReddit users who escaped cults.

1. Doomsday.

“I was in a doomsday cult for 23 years from my age 13 to 36 (1995-2018). Based on its “knowledge” , this world should have “transformed” by now, into the so called “heaven”, and only a bunch of the cult followers should have remained in harmony.

I totally believed everything I heard without questioning ( probably because I was young and naive) and followed their ” Rules and regulations ” to the dot. Like celibacy, food habits, keeping a distance from everyone outside the cult ( even close family members) .. etc.

Finally, when some obvious questions started arising in my mind I felt like fool, and totally lost and betrayed. It took a lot to break free and am still in the process.”

2. Only notice when you’re out.

“I think the funniest thing about living in a cult isn’t what you notice living in it. It’s what you notice once you’re out.

There were some pretty strange things that when you’re long removed from it all you’re like, “Holy sh*t that IS messed up.” When you’re in it it just seems normal. That’s the weirdest part. When you ask what it was like, my first response is to go, “Like any other childhood really…”

And then I think about it and go…hmmmm okay, not quite. It’s funny how accepting minds can be when it’s all you know.”

3. Sucked in.

“I broke away from a cult. I had gotten sucked in during college.

They prey on college kids who are away from home, searching for an identity and desperate for a sense of belonging. At first it was fun. Nonstop activities. People who genuinely wanted me around. Help. Support. It felt good. But it quickly took over. Then the pressure started. Subtle at first.

Give up all other people and activities because they weren’t good for me. Spend all my time and energy with the church. They assigned someone to watch me. To report to. To confess to. At the same time I befriended the cult leader’s wife and spent a lot of time with her. I felt privileged. But I started to see things.

I went to catholic school 13 years and I think that was the best inoculation! Then the whole women’s role thing really got me steamed. I started arguing with the cult leader’s wife about women being equal and I suspect something I said got to her.

Because the cult leader hauled me in to a meeting and talked to me for an hour and by the end he could see I wasn’t going to fall in line and I could finally see him for what he was – a fraud. So he kicked me out. I was banned hard! He was afraid I would infect others.

My good friend had to flee in the dead of night and hide in another state. They hunted him. But me- they never even spoke to me again!”

4. Hard to process.

“It was difficult. 25 years of not knowing how to think for yourself and suddenly having to, is hard to process. Everything was very routine and once I got out of that routine, I didn’t know what to do.

Forced myself to meet new people and figure out what “truth” is. Very happy with who I am now after three years but still learning more about being independent and being open to new ideas and beliefs.

Plus, holidays are AMAZING! I love Halloween and Christmas.”

5. A very hard thing.

“Leaving was one of the hardest things I have done in my life. It took me years to realize the pain I caused my family was actually not my fault.

Also, I felt so alien in the world. I missed the general background that people have, because the world I had lived in was so different. I was trying to fit in, without knowing how to set boundaries to protect myself.”

6. A different perspective.

“I left AA in 2011, after ten years of lies, coercive deception, and being intimidated by extreme fear.

Although many may laugh at AA being considered a cult, It has all ten of the ‘Sam & Tanner’ indicators, that would describe it as such. As Scientology hides behind it being a religion, AA hides behind its structure of anonymity (at all levels).

I was pursued and threatened if I didn’t go back, and other members visited my family, at home, and at their places of work, to tell them I was going to drink, and soon die if I didn’t resume meetings. As AA promotes the image of an ‘altruistic fellowship’ the Police are very wary of getting involved.

It took me over six years to de-program, and even today, I have troubling thoughts from the incidents I witnessed while a member.”

7. Relearning the basics.

“Having to re-learn basic words, definitions, and thought processes.

Oh, Practical Prayer doesn’t take up hours of your time? Circular logic is bullsh*t? Idle hands are NOT the Devil’s playground?

Being a passive-minded, obsessively-clean, hardworking, frugal SHEEP that gives your blood, sweat, tears, time, and MONEY all to the Church DOESN’T make you a contributing member of society?”

8. Mennonite.

“Ex-Mennonite here, from a rather extreme branch of it.

I hate how people idolize Amish and Mennonites and have no idea how f*cked up it all is. The physical, s*xual, and spiritual abuse that is carried out behind walls. The sickening way they treat animals. How they force victims to forgive, and cover up the crimes of their own.

People were so surprised and admiring when those Amish whose school had been shot up “forgave” the sicko who did it. Missing from the commentary was that we are told from when we are very young that the only way to enter heaven is to forgive everyone everything.

And to be doormats for all the violent men in our lives. Whether in or outside the community.”

9. In a bubble.

“Being so completely ignorant of how the world really works was the worst for me.

I lived in a bubble just thinking everything outside the religion didn’t matter, because soon everything will be destroyed and almost everyone would be dead because they were not Jehova’s Witnesses. I had to educate myself when I finally woke up. I read more than 20 books in one year.

Trying to comprehend how the outside world really works. But my life has been full of failures because is not the same in theory than in practice. Maybe one day I’ll get the hang of it and start succeeding.”

10. Eye-opening.

“It was pretty bad. I was 7 when we left, and my childhood was filled with terror, daily beatings, hunger and exhaustion.

When we re-entered the real world, I was like a fish out of water. Straight from a cult into the projects, that was an eye opener.”

11. Was in multiple ones.

“I was in multiple different cults growing up. Evangelical brand, doomsday cults, all extorting money from their members.

One kept me socially isolated for years, exorcised me, designated me to be a surrogate mother to carry the children of everyone in the church who was infertile, despite the fact that pregnancy would kill me, said I was unfit to be married because I’d been r*ped as a child but I still had to give birth as that’s what God demands of women to free them of their sin.

The town I lived in was controlled by the main cult I was in- I couldn’t escape it. Everyone everywhere knew that I wasn’t a good enough believer. They were always feeding information back to my parents and the cult leaders to use against me. Everyone knew everything about me at all times.

In another, I was psychologically tortured, forced to consume rotten food and if I threw up I had to eat the vomit, forced to commit racist acts, and allow the leaders of the cult to s*xually harass me, a child. In the last one, I thought, finally this one is normal, until they tried to kill me.

I’ve been “out” for a year and moved hours away, but one of them managed to find me again. Periodically, they’ll send people I used to know to my town who are just “happening to run into me” when they’re “on outreach”, just so they know I know they’ve still got an iron grip on me.

My older brother used to be being groomed to be a leader in one of them and responsible for facilitating a lot of the abuse because he didn’t have a choice, and me and him are struggling to reconcile and be civil due to this fact.

The trauma is intense and I can barely leave my house a lot of the time, and my memories of my entire life are fragmented because I can’t handle them. The worst part is trying to function.”

12. Had to get away.

“I accepted a job as a traveling salesman once upon a time when I was desperate for income. Had no idea that it was a front for a cult.

We sold waterbeds. But anytime someone would tried to leave the company, management would gaslight you, become mentally abusive and manipulative, and try to use your personal life against you. All the other coworkers were honestly like creepy as f*ck. They all behaved like subservient loyal robots literally.

The cult itself, was centered around the owner. They had subtle wording in their company core values and policies that basically referenced that they were a God, if not the God of humanity. It was weird as f*ck. I was subjected to some really sh*tty situations, and trying to tell my family and friends about it they wouldn’t believe me.

Thought I was a lunatic, it was just a sh*tty job etc. But no, there were death threats, other forms of threats, all sorts of just mind-blowing crap from management, including attempted blackmailing, framing etc. Company meetings consisted of people getting hazed, but they called it “trust building exercises”.

There was also some kind of weird double love triangle going on between some of the coworkers and management. Im pretty sure the coworkers all f*cked each other too. Like you know the movie, whats it called…West World or something, where all the cyborg robot humans were obviously preprogrammed to act and behave a certain way without fault? Thats exactly how my coworkers were.

In the end I realized I had to move across country without warning to get away from them.”

13. Creepy stuff.

“Long long ago when I was a preteen I had to stay with some relatives for a while. These relatives were in a ‘church’ that was run by an openly admitted, formerly imprisoned con man.

I was told I had to go to this ‘church’ too, 3 times a week, or be thrown out of the house with nowhere else to go. Things started off more or less normal-ish and only gradually did it become a fanatical cult.

For the time I was there, I was as sucked in as everyone else and couldn’t see that things were messed up. One Wednesday evening I had a bad tummy flu and was left with the neighbors while everyone else went to the church. Friday night rolls around and I’m still too sick and weak to go.

Sunday morning comes and I’m perfectly healthy, but no longer want to go. Once again I was left at the house, but with instructions to be gone before they returned. I left and have never regretted it.

What made this ‘church’ a cult:

I know of at least one young woman in the congregation that had quietly asked around for help because the ‘leader’ was hitting on her and not taking no for an answer. She soon disappeared and was never heard from or mentioned again. I have no idea if something happened to her, or she just ran but either way it was bad.

At any given time in the last year I was there, at least 3 of the most attractive mid-teen girls lived with the ‘leader’, an unmarried man, with no supervision, and their parents seemed to think this was wonderful.

The ‘leader’ would frequently say one thing and then contradict himself in the next sentence, and no one ever noticed or commented on it.

The ‘leader’ put a great deal of effort into separating his ‘flock’ from friends, family and the community at large. All holidays became ‘satanic’ and the congregation was forbidden to practice anything considered normal for holidays.

Years later when I was grown and married, a friend from childhood contacted me to tell me the cult was being investigated by, I don’t remember now which alphabet agency. I immediately called the number for that agency that was in the phone book, and told them everything I knew. I never heard anything after that, and have no idea what happened.”

How about you?

Have you ever had any experiences with a cult or any kind of extreme religious organization?

If so, please share your stories with us in the comments.

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What Would You Still Refuse to Buy if You Were Filthy Rich? Here’s What People Said.

This should be interesting…

A lot of us daydream about what we’d do and what we’d buy if we had unlimited funds. But on the flip side, it’s also fun to think about what we would definitely NOT buy if we had a boatload of cash.

For me, I’d have to say it would be fancy cars. I just don’t think it’s something I could ever get into…but that’s just me.

What would you still refuse to buy if you were rich?

Let’s see what AskReddit users had to say about this.

1. Don’t even bother.

“Expensive cat toys.

My cat will continue to play with my phone charger.”

2. You don’t need it.

“A big house.

Though I’d probably build a really luxurious small one.”

3. Not gonna happen.

“Stadium foods like $10 bags of popcorn.

It’s just the principle.”

4. Terrible idea.

“Heroin

Easiest way to stop being filthy rich and become lifeless in the process..”

5. No thank you!

“Diamond-encrusted anything.

I don’t like glittery things and it just looks uncomfortable and heavy.”

6. Nope.

“Water in bottles.

In my country the tap water is 100% safe to drink. So buying water in bottles would be a waste of money, time and resources.

Change my mind…”

7. Enough of that.

“Anything from Walmart.

I’d love to be so rich that I wouldn’t have to step into a Walmart again.”

8. Smart.

“Bags for bathroom trash cans.

That’s what plastic grocery bags are for.

Even in CA, where we’re not supposed to have plastic grocery bags, they have made a comeback during COVID.”

9. The high seas.

“You will never see me booking a cruise no matter how much money I have.

There are endless other places I’d rather spend my vacations.”

10. Doesn’t need to be new.

“A new car.

I would just let other rich people buy theirs new and drive it for a year before they get bored of it and buy a new one.

There are plenty of great vehicles on the market simply because some people can afford to view their transportation as a status symbol.”

11. Art stuff.

“Overpriced paintings.

Like yeah, spending a few grand to get an incredible landscape by an artist makes sense.

Spending 2 million on some modern art bullsh*t or splatter painting does not. Sh*t’s just stupid. I will never understand this.

Now I’m sure some of this is money laundering but it can’t all be money laundering, right?”

12. Flashy.

“Personalized license plates.

Might as well wear a t-shirt saying “I’m a pr*ck”.”

13. Do it yourself.

“An oil change, basic service on my car including brakes.

I’ve always done it myself and that wouldn’t change.”

14. Imagine that.

“One of those brides that you order.

I know that they do it out of free will, but I just don’t want that.

I want to actually, like, meet my wife, and get to know her.”

15. Really?

“Meals outside.

At any fast food joint, any restaurant, any bar, etc.

Just no.”

16. Here’s the list.

“Apple products (there are superior products for cheaper).

Extremely overpriced food items like “gold hamburger” where theres gold flakes on it, adds nothing to the taste and is a waste of money and gold.

I would never buy diamonds, they’re only expensive due to limits on export and importing.”

17. Not flashy.

“Overpriced cars and clothes.

I wanna be rich but not in a in your face way. I wanna be rich but you don’t think I’m rich. A nice-ish house? Yes. A decent car? Yes. Designer and Tesla? Nah.

I just wanna take care of me, my girlfriend, and any potential children I have or adopt.”

How about you?

If you were flush with cash, what would you STILL refuse to buy?

Tell us what you think in the comments!

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14 Things That People Consider a Fate Worse Than Death

We don’t like to spend much time thinking about the stuff that would literally make us wish we were dead, but it can be an interesting exercise, if nothing else.

You could also start a list of things to put in your advanced directive, to ensure none of this ever happens to you.

I’m just saying.

14. You have to try to do something worthwhile.

Probably life in prison, just a completely pointless existence.

13. Humans aren’t meant to be alone.

Prolonged solitary confinement.

12. I would have to agree.

I think Metallica summed it up pretty well in One:

Darkness imprisoning me
All that I see
Absolute horror
I cannot live
I cannot die
Trapped in myself
Body my holding cell

Landmine has taken my sight
Taken my speech
Taken my hearing
Taken my arms
Taken my legs
Taken my soul
Left me with life in hell

That’s certainly worse than death.

11. It’s so permanent, though.

Wishing to die but not being allowed to.

10. Coffee won’t fix that.

Severe chronic fatigue to the point where you can’t live your life and barely recognize yourself anymore. You can barely get up to go to the bathroom. You lose all of your friends. Being alive is miserable because even trying to watch a TV show is too hard due to the severe brain fog you’re experiencing. Nothing is enjoyable.

But you’re not going to die. No, you’ll live a long life of being unable to function and dismissed by doctors who tell you graded exercise is the only answer despite that being from one flawed clinical study that was later disproven. You constantly question your sanity because your condition is typically blamed on your mental health. You grieve the loss of yourself. You decide maybe you are to blame, somehow? But you’re so tired you can barely finish a sentence, so therapy is also a struggle.

(Mine finally got better when they found out I had a very large aneurysm in my renal artery and surgically fixed it. They told me it wouldn’t help my fatigue but they were incorrect. The year I spent in bed was terrible. I have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome as well, so I’m always dealing with various issues and I’m hyper aware this could happen again and my functioning is not a guarantee. Many folks are not as lucky and never make progress.)

9. Most people just want to be remembered.

Rome used to erase people from history as a punishment worse than death. It was called “damnatio memoriae.”

I think I would be horrified to be condemned to this sentence but I think the worst is probably to live a life of misery by being enslaved and tortured.

8. Yeah that could be awful.

Being eaten alive by an animal.

7. Not the best superpower.

True Immortality

Hear me out. If you were truly immortal, (that is, you could never die under any circumstances), you’d outlive everyone. Even if you got close to someone, they’d be dead in what, to you, would feel like the blink of an eye. Given enough time, I think this has a good, if not 100% chance of driving you insane.

Eventually, you’d outlive the human species. When humans went extinct, you‘d have no one to talk to, forever. Now you would certainly go insane.

Oh, and the worst part is still ahead. In trillions and trillion of years, the universe’s stars will all have exhausted their supply of nuclear fuel, and the universe will reach heat death. Now there is nothing but you on a cold, inert, dead sphere. Now you get to endure this for all eternity.

Sorry for the abject depression.

6. A lot of burn victims say that.

There is a story about a fireman (which I admit, I cannot verify) who received 3rd degree burns over pretty much his entire body.

After almost a decade of pain and skin grafts and looking like something out of a horror film, his doctors asked him if it was worth it.

He replied that he wished he had died that day

5. No one wants to die alone.

Now with Covid going around, old people who are suffering from it and fighting for their lives for 2 or 3 weeks in the hospital, knowing they aren’t getting better, dying slowly without having contact with family or friends because they don’t have a cellphone or etc.

Suffering for weeks and eventually dying seems horrible, not only from Covid but also from cancer,..

4. I really hope this is hypothetical.

Being suicidally depressed for well over a decade, making an amazing recovery and turning your life around, getting a very few good years, then developing early-onset Alzheimers/dementia that makes you believe you’re back in your depressed years for the rest of your life.

3. The world is cruel.

DIPG.

It’s a cancer of the brain stem that mainly affects children. The brain stem controls the most basic functions of life: breathing, heartbeat, etc. (Mike the headless chicken lived on because he still had a brain stem.) As the cancer progresses it takes more and more of the kids’ abilities while keeping their personality and intelligence in tact. Imagine being seven or eight and one day you can walk and the next you can’t.

Or one day you can swallow and the next you can’t. All the while you’re still “all there” in your head so you know everything that’s going on.

DIPG is considered terminal at diagnosis. Neil Armstrong’s young daughter died of it before he went to the moon.

2. Another vote for this one.

Immortality.

I would dig immortality if you couldn’t die from natural causes, but inability to die at all would be unimaginably brutal.

You would outlast all humanity and remain alone for 5-7 billion years until the sun explodes, then you would spend untold billions of years floating through space…. conscious the whole time.

That’s if you don’t get trapped inside some inescapable construct like a canyon, or volcano, or the middle of the ocean, or underground. And you’re stuck there forever while every inch of your body is writhing in pain and is unable to move.

Thats my only fear during immortality. So be smart and not too reckless.

1. Someone has thought about this a lot.

There’s like an infinite amount worse fates. For example, a trickster god just turns you into a sentient rock and drops you off in a wasteland. That’s it forever, your still you you can think and have senses but you cant move because your trapped as a rock.

You just sit there forever staring in to the wastes and try to occupy your self. You cant die, you cant sleep, all you can really do is think. Eventually you’ll be buried and wont be able to tell what time it is.

“Eventually” you would hope to yourself, “the sun will explode and my stony form will be destroyed by the solar fire and end my miserable excuse for an existence.”

Yeah, time to update that will!

I’d like to die with dignity, thanks.

What would you add to this list? Tell us in the comments!

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People Who Had Short Marriages Talk About How They Realized They’d Made a Mistake

I’ve always believed that it has to be pretty devastating to get married and then to have it all fall apart very quickly.

What happened? Did you just ignore the warning signs? Or maybe a deep, dark secret emerged right after you tied the knot?

Whatever the case, I’m sure it’s a very difficult thing to go through.

Let’s take a look at these stories about short marriages from folks on AskReddit.

1. Only 40 days.

“My sister’s marriage lasted about 40 days.

She found out he was a p*dophile when my other sister came forward that he’d been r*ping her for the last 4 months. When he was arrested, police found a video of me getting dressed on his phone.

I thank God every day that she came forward when she did, because he was grooming me to be his next victim. He was sentenced to 12 years in prison and has no contact orders with everyone in my immediate family. This event was the end of my childhood.”

2. I’m outta here.

“When I came home from the honeymoon and there was a Foreclosure notice posted on the house door.

His response: “Now it’s your problem too.””

3. Abusive.

“Four months in he dislocated my jaw.

But really what I want to share is the signs were there and people should be aware of them. First it was just grabbing my arm kind of hard. Then grabbing my arm hard enough to bruise it. Then pushing. Then slapping.

It took years so escalate. I heard it gets worse. I didn’t think too much of it. I thought “I’m not a wimp and it isn’t like he’s beating the sh*t out of me every day” I thought thats what domestic abuse looked like. Then I married him.

Well, let me tell you. If they’re grabbing, pushing, or hitting you they will eventually hurt you worse.”

4. Downhill quickly.

“His brother asked to move in with us and I said no.

His brother ended up moving in anyway. During the subsequent argument he said “no wonder people get divorced all the time”.

We had been married for about 6 months at that point. Went very downhill from there.”

5. Wow.

“He casually invited his parents along on our honeymoon, and told them we’d pay for it. AND they not only accepted, they were SO EXCITED and immediately wanted to take over planning it.

Obviously that wasn’t the only sh*tty thing he did. Eventually found out he was cheating on me and I fast tracked divorce before there were any kids or assets involved.”

6. Sounds like a real gem.

“Two months in he told me I was too fat and he will no longer be having s*x with me.

I lost 75 lbs in three months (by doing it the wrong way) and he told me he was already seeing someone else.

He seemed surprised my parents would no longer pay his bills, and was kicked off their property 30 days later (per laws of my state).”

7. Let’s be honest.

“To be honest I didn’t really want to be married to her.

However she was determined to get married by age 24 regardless, and at the time I had significant difficulties saying “No”, I was working 60+ odd hours a week in a kitchen to help pay for everything and I was struggling with my mental health at the time and we grew further and further apart emotionally.

I found out less than 5 months into the marriage that she had been unfaithful to me for at least a year – so 6/7 months before the wedding, whilst she had been planning it she had been sleeping with other people. Whilst she had been putting serious pressure on me to provide £££ for her dream wedding she had also had an abortion because she didn’t know whether I would have been the father or not.

When I found this all out I basically had a breakdown and tried taking my own life, I also spent a few years after this blaming myself for the breakdown of my marriage and her behavior.”

8. Third time’s a charm.

“When she cheated on me for the third time in 10 months.

Because for some reason the first two didn’t convince me….”

9. Started right away.

“On our honeymoon she didn’t want to do anything but fight, so I left 2 days early to be with my dog.

Then she stopped wearing her ring and refused to tell people she was married, referring to me as her boyfriend instead. The final straw was when my grandpa was dying and she said “I wish he’d just hurry up and die already. I’m tired of this apartment being so depressing all the time”.

Made it 4 months in all before filing for divorce.”

10. Not good.

“He would somehow piss away his money (and mine), and I realized I couldn’t trust him to be a real partner with me.

We were also pressured into marriage by religious family when I already saw the writing on the wall, but there was just one bad thing after another happening so I always felt like I’d be an *sshole for leaving.

I left during a calm period.”

11. A bad situation.

“Mine lasted less than a year.

He was an incredibly abusive f*ckhead that burdened me with tons of sh*t we couldn’t afford then refused to work himself.

So I used to pull 16 hr days back to back to back. Turns out instead of working and helping me take care of the house he was out cheating.

In all reality, he was the one who left me but once I got out of the situation I realized how awful it was and didn’t go back.”

12. Living in sin.

“Sitting across from the court house waiting to go in. I thought “you are going to look back on this moment and remember that you KNEW it was the wrong thing to do”.

I certainly did. We only got married because I was living with him and my whole family wouldn’t speak to us as we were “living in sin”.

Well we showed them.”

13. That was quick.

“I had some friends that got married and divorced within a year.

It turns out she had major doubts but went through with it anyway, then cried for the whole honeymoon and told him she had made a huge mistake.

They posted all these normal pictures of them looking happy in Hawaii, but it came out later what a miserable nightmare the trip was.”

14. My older sister.

“Not myself but my oldest sister. She has been married 5 times.

The first one was at 19, they divorced because they were young and not ready to be married. The second marriage she wasn’t sure if she wanted to be married and despite my mom advising her to walk away, got married anyway. He cheated, she left.

3rd Marriage lasted 10 years, but they fought a lot (he was a Dr, she’s a nurse, 2 intelligent people who couldn’t talk to each other about their problems). The 4th Husband was my favourite, he was kind hearted, and the most loving and supportive spouse you could ever hope for.

I think she got bored and met someone while she was on a work trip and met another Dr. She sent us an email saying that her and 4th spouse were starting to feel like they were just “friends” and she was moving to New Zealand to start a new life (she wasn’t fooling us, we knew there was a new dude). About 6 months later she announced she had a new boyfriend and a year after that we saw that they had been married.

The kicker in all of this is, during my wedding, my very sweet English grandmother said to her “Oh, i do hope that your marriage to (4th) works out”.

She got upset by this, but I dont blame my grandma for pointing out her revolving door of husbands. I wish I could invite 4th Husband back into our family, we really miss him and his family.”

How about you?

Have you ever had a short marriage?

If so, what happened and why did it end?

Talk to us in the comments!

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People Talk About the Worst Pain They’ve Ever Felt

The older I get, the more I hope I don’t suffer any major injuries.

It’s one thing to get hurt when you’re a kid because you know you’ll bounce right back but when you start getting up there in years, it can get pretty dicey and recovery takes much longer.

I think the worst pain I’ve ever felt in my life was when I broke my hand when I was 12…and I hope it stays that way…

What’s the worst pain you’ve ever felt?

Here’s what folks had to say on AskReddit.

1. Ugh.

“I rolled my foot in a hole (like it made a loud snap) in my driveway and tore my Achilles.

I did a front flip tumble onto the ground, and couldn’t get up. 10/10 worst pain.”

2. It’s not you, it’s me.

“A cluster headache I had once after s*x, like right after.

Put a real dampener on the whole thing and it’s hard to convince a person that the reason you’re up out of bed straight after, groaning in pain and vomiting into the sink, isn’t some kind of personal judgement on them.”

3. Yeah, those hurt.

“I’ve broken a fair amount of bones, including my jaw.

But a kidney stone is the worst pain I’ve ever felt.”

4. Ouch!

“I dislocated my elbow when I was 16 and I wasn’t allowed to have any water or painkillers before they put me under to re set it.

Unfortunately for me, the had to do x rays before hand. This meant moving the dislocated joint into multiple positions for different x rays, none of which were natural.”

5. Those are bad.

“Dry socket after wisdom teeth removal.

Painkillers didn’t help, couldn’t sleep, couldn’t eat.

Absolutely agonizing.

Hurt worse than breaking my kneecap (which definitely comes in second).”

6. Like a knife.

“Pinched nerves from a broken back

. The best description I can come up with is it was like having a white hot knife blade pulled straight from the forge and plunged into my back.

Pain meds did absolutely nothing to stop it.”

7. Rough stuff.

“UTIs are so awful.

From the first twinge, you know you’re in for hours and hours of pain. Primarily a constant, burning need to urinate. Instead, when you go, it actually going doesn’t bring relief and instead feels like you’re trying to pass razor blades.

I also get very sweaty and tend to vomit.”

8. Painful.

“An abdominal infection from a surgery complications

Had a narcissist stepdad who refused to take me to the doctor. Said I wasn’t taking enough pain medication even though I was bedridden for nearly 8 days and I was supposed to be more or less better by the 3rd. It wasn’t until it was just in unimaginable pain and a high grade fever. So I decided to just start howling and crying so he’d have to take me to the ER.

I had to have a second surgery and a drainage bulb put in because the infection had created a wicked abscess.”

9. Treatment.

“Cancer treatment.

I’ve had needles shoved into my spinal column that made my balls feel like they were in a vice, I’ve had severe vomiting, I’ve had severe mouth rot from mucositis caused by methotrexate that was so painful I couldn’t swallow anything even when taking maximum recommended dosage of oxycodone to the point I hadn’t drank water in 2 days.

I’ve had a fissure in my intestines that made me pass out from the pain while using the bathroom, I had such severe chemo brain I couldn’t comprehend the news, so I had to watch kids cartoons, I forgot how to walk properly for a month.

I had forceful intubation that damaged my vocal chords so severely I wasn’t able to talk for 2 months, and I still have coughing fits from some scar tissue moving around, which is hella inconvenient when you’re out in public and have to explain you ain’t sick, your throat’s just f*cked up.”

10. No way!

“One time I was running my hand along a rough wooden railing on a bridge and turned it at just the wrong angle to catch a massive splinter under my fingernail.

It broke off so the entire thing was lodged underneath all the way back to the nail bed, and there was no part sticking out to grab with tweezers.

I ended up going to the ER and getting surgery to cut my nail open and remove it.”

11. Needles.

“Having blood taken from a vein in my foot

Worse than childbirth.”

12. Ear problems.

“Very severe ear infection.

Felt like my head was gonna explode! My ear had swelled up so bad I couldn’t hear, and the medicine drops wouldn’t go down, had to get the fluid sucked out of my ear and a wick put in. Instantly felt better after.

I’ve been prone since a child to get ear infections but interestingly enough I haven’t had an ear infection since that really bad one.”

13. Sounds absolutely awful.

“Shoulder surgery.

The nerve block they gave me lasted nearly 12 hours after surgery was done. I woke up in the middle of the night drenched in my own tears and felt the most intense, stabbing pain where the anaesthetic had worn off.

Felt like there was a fire in my shoulder.”

14. Terrible.

“Randomly assaulted 8 years ago, got kicked and stomped in the head 6-7 times (rest of the body got worked on as well), massive concussion, three damaged vertebrae (two in the neck one in the back), pinched/jammed nerves and blood vessels all over the back/spine region.

Busted teeth, eyes knocked out, off synch, left arm down to approximately 40% functionality. Lots of stitches.

Took me two years to just be able to sit and have dinner with my parents and not feel like keeling over from nausea due to pain and discomfort.

I’d say I’m 85-90% or so recovered now, concussion is still active, I wouldn’t wish that long never ending pain on anyone.”

How about you?

What’s the worst pain you’ve ever felt in your life?

Tell us all about it in the comments!

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People Talk About Fates Worse Than Death

We’ve all heard the saying that something is “a fate worse than death,” but have you ever spent any real time thinking about what that might mean for you?

I mean, maybe not, because it’s not all that comforting of a thought, those things that would make dying seem appealing.

These 16 people are thinking about it, though, so I guess we might as well go along for the ride.

16. I never want to find out.

Outliving your child is horrific.

I used to work in a senior center and one of our residents was an old Baptist pastor with the kindest demeanor.

He had three sons and one daughter. The daughter died in her 50s of cancer. All three sons served in Vietnam – one died in combat, another took his life, and another died of cancer due to Agent Orange.

After he told me all this, I (an agnostic myself) asked him how he has been so faithful. He just said “if I didn’t have a reason to believe this would all make sense someday, I would just fall apart”.

That just straight ripped me into pieces.

15. Dying without dignity.

Everything leading up to dying in the ICU.

Families of 85+ year olds with multiple co-morbidities force us to keep “doing everything” to keep people alive far beyond any chance of recovering with any quality of life or dignity.

Ever done CPR on a frail old body that weighs 95 lbs? The feeling of the cartilage and ribs crushing under your hands is something we never forget.

After a few rounds of compressions, you can see a very obvious cavity in the chest that we have smashed into oblivion. And all for what? So the person can die in misery?

Often, these people have written Do Not Resuscitate and Do Not Intubate requests, but the family can override these once the patient is unable to participate in the conversation.

Then we get people 85+ years old with catastrophic strokes. Family decides to “do everything,” so the patient ends up with a trach (hole in the neck) on a ventilator (breathing machine), a PEG tube in the stomach for liquid tube feeding, and resigned to bedrest for the remaining miserable months of their life. They will probably ultimately die of a steady but slow weight loss, horrible infected wounds from prolonged immobility (I have seen bed sores down to the bone and large enough to fit my fist in to), or infection (like pneumonia). All for what?

Then you get the younger ones, but the ones who are far past any sense of recovery. Some of the worst to watch are people with liver failure from alcohol abuse. They go through severe and difficult to manage alcohol withdrawal, in which they are confused, combative, and hallucinating. They are often sedated to the best of our ability and restrained for their own safety. Then come the bleeding problems associated with liver failure. I’ve seen someone go from talking to me and laughing to dying by vomiting all of the blood from their body due to esophageal varices (bleeding arteries in the throat/stomach). It looked like a murder scene, and the the patient was awake and aware she was dying as she bled out in front of us.

So if you talk to anybody who works in critical care, they will often have many examples of things worse than death. We essentially torture people every day. We see that slow, inevitable spiral down. We try our best to be realistic with patients and families, but it often doesn’t work.

14. Too awful to contemplate.

If you kill your child but don’t mean to, like fall asleep while them in the bed and roll on them, or accidentally tripping and… splat.

Or like I recently saw on house where a lady went fucking crazy or some shit and strangled her child because of the voices in her head but when she was cured and found out the baby died she was bawling and shit.

13. That sounds like a living nightmare.

Locked-in syndrome. I’m a healthcare worker (RN) and have seen it a handful of times.

The patient looks at you, and you can tell that they’re in there… but they’re unable to walk, talk, eat, scratch their own a$s, nothing.

12. Survivor’s guilt is real.

Being the only survivor, you carry the guilt of not being able to save everyone

11. Definitely never want to experience this.

Being burned alive.

I saw a guy that was playing with gasoline get burned alive.

The smell and sounds that he made were something I will never forget.

Luckily it only lasted him a few minutes before he passed out. But the next 10 years and hundreds of surgeries were terrible. He said many times we should have let him die.

10. Sleeping is one of my favorite things.

Fatal Familial Insomnia.

9. Make your wishes known now.

Being forced to live in a vegetive state on life support because your friends/family won’t let you go.

8. And wonder why you haven’t.

Seeing everyone close to you die. It makes you wish you died with them.

7. Can’t even imagine.

Being the child in a child sex trafficking situation.

6. Plenty of people survived this. Thank goodness.

Torture or slavery for about 80 years.

5. Being any part of this tbh.

Being the “Middle Piece” in The Human Centipede.

4. That would not be fun.

Being in an Infinite Death loop and no way of escaping.

3. Make it stop.

Separating you from all the living things and putting you into a confined room with a giant mirror and the lights on full brightness 24/7.

2. That would get old.

Locked in a room and forced to watch The View.

At high volume.

All day.

Every day.

1. It definitely would be the worst.

I think that having a child disappear and never knowing what happened is likely the worst thing in the world.

Holding out hope.

Never knowing when it is appropriate to stop looking.

Even when your despair seems too much to bear for even one more day, you know that killing yourself would end any possibility of being reunited.

I need a drink.

That was not at all uplifting! But go ahead and add your answers if you’ve got a different one…

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