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People Talk About What Needs to Stop Being Romanticized

Things always look better through rose-colored glasses.

You know that’s the truth!

Some things just seem to get better with time…even if they really don’t deserve it. And we’re about to get an earful about what people think about this!

AskReddit users talked about things they think should stop being romanticized. Let’s take a look.

1. In reality…

“Depression.

There’s nothing romantic about not showering for three days and forgetting what it’s like to be able to feel things.”

2. Don’t be a creep.

“Stalkers.

When a person says they are not interested in you, walk away. They are not playing hard to get. They are not pretending. They are not sending mixed-messages.

Don’t follow them around. Don’t call/message/email them. Don’t “accidently” run into them at different places. Don’t make them socialize with you.

No matter how hard Hollywood tries to sell it, there is nothing romantic about a guy who can’t take rejection or understand and accept the word “no”.”

3. Too much work.

“Overworking.

The people at my job seem to make it a contest of who sacrifices more for their job. Who works the most overtime? Who does things off the clock for work more? Etc.

It’s bullsh*t.

I have a life and a family I want to prioritize.”

4. It’s not real life.

“Many romance stories focus on a male character who is ‘broken’ and is ‘fixed’ by the female protagonist.

Women craft a relationship standard from this – a man cannot be for her if he is not damaged.”

5. Not fun for everyone.

“High school.

There is so much more bullsh*t in high school but the media decides to romanticize one TEENSY part of it.

Take it from a high schooler, romance is such a tiny part of it that it’s barely even recognized anymore.”

6. So true.

“Alcoholism.

I am thankful I never made it such a habit that it ever became a problem, but between the commercials urging you to buy beer and liquor, the movies and television that treat binges as always fun and always s*x-filled, and the general cultural passivity with it (the fact I can drink with my parents no problem but will likely never, EVER smoke weed with them) is just painfully misleading.

I think of the people who truly struggle with alcoholism and how much it must pain them to watch TV or even just be out anywhere it is served. Maybe someone with that sort of perspective here can correct or enlighten me, but it just seems like a very difficult world to recover from alcohol dependency.

To clarify, I’m not anti-drinking. I used to drink on a weekly basis, whereas now it’s on special occasions only. Idk, so many things about it just don’t appeal to me anymore.

The emotional and relational problems…the trauma drunk behavior can bring, the wake-up headaches that make your head feel split in half, the vast amount of car accidents and fatalities inebriation causes, the numbing of your emotions (for better or worse), the amount of weight it makes you gain, the number of people who feel they cannot have fun without it.

To me it’s legitimately tragic just how much society encourages us, whether culturally or economically, to drink. I would argue cigarettes in the same vain, however I think society has generally embraced the anti-cigarettes mantra much more in recent years, though it’s still bad.”

7. Toxic.

“”Struggle love” or whatever you wanna call toxic relationships that slowly suck the life out of you and ruin your mental health. Relationships are not the misery olympics where you get a gold medal in the end if you put up with the most bullsh*t.

Your partner should make you happy at least 95% of the time, if it’s the opposite then you need to get the hell out of there instead of endlessly trying to ‘make it work’.

There’s nothing romantic or glamorous about wasting the only life you have with a loser who lies, cheats, uses, and abuses you.”

8. Not a good life.

“The Mafia.

Media makes them out to be bad*sses who are making money hand over fist.

Go watch Donnie Brasco and Al Pachino’s character. A life-long mafioso who drives a sh*tty car, has an average at-best apartment, and is constantly wondering if he’s going to get killed every day he wakes up.

Who the hell would want that life? But, a lot of these guys are Neanderthal morons who only know crime.”

9. Bad boys.

“The whole concept of “bad boys”.

Why is manipulative and abusive portrayed as hot? If anyone abuses you in any way, it’s not hot, it’s a serious problem.

For some reason, many movie/book plots overly romanticize the concept and it’s sick. Same thing goes for Stockholm Syndrome.”

10. Enough of this.

“The tortured artist.

I hate the idea of “only those that suffer can make great art”. Yes, there are people who have a rough life and make amazing things but that is a small percentage of people who actually get noticed. You can be smart, passionate, sincere, dedicated, or creative and make amazing art.

If we promote the idea that true art only comes from people who have suffered then that promotes the idea of self inflicting suffering while detracting from those who have made really amazing art but haven’t “truly suffered” for it.”

11. Yikes.

“Public marriage proposals, where the other party is basically shamed into accepting.

I heard someone on a podcast years ago telling their story about being proposed to on a cruise ship in front of hundreds. She said she leaned in, kissed the man, whispered in his ear “no but keep smiling”.”

12. Stay home.

“Working while sick.

JUST STOP! It’s not tough of you. You’re not taking one for the team. You’re probably about to take the whole team out.

I get it. Some workplaces have punitive policies for taking sick days (scary sidenote: like every single hospital I’ve ever worked). Some of us can’t afford not to work that shift.

But those are policy questions we should be pushing back on as soon as this administration is in the history books and we can finally get back to boring policy making again.”

13. Glamour and glitz.

“Celebrities. Fake people living fake, manufactured lives, yet the media insists that we care what they think, what they wear, who they’re voting for, who they’re f*cking.

All because they were born with some genetic gift, or born into the right family, or some other twist of fate thrust them into the limelight. It used to just be Hollywood types.

Now we have this whole generation of insta models, reality stars, and other “influencers” whose only contribution to society is their shameless self promoting bullsh*t. And people eat it up.

Meanwhile we have skyrocketing rates of teen depression and suicide because kids are bombarded with these impossible standards of beauty and popularity in their formative years.”

Now we’d like to get your thoughts.

In your opinion, what do people need to stop romanticizing?

Tell us what you think in the comments!

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What’s Your Happiest Memory? Here’s How People Responded.

Life sure is beautiful…

Yes, there is a lot of pain and many peaks and valleys, but there is so much to be thankful for and so many great memories that it really is a gift.

And most of us have a lot of great memories from years gone by.

Let’s get happy with people on AskReddit.

1. Family is everything.

“The day I met every one of my baby siblings. I’m the oldest male of 11. Life was a b*tch.

I was the only abused child but we all had it rough. The only thing that ever kept me going was my siblings.

Each and everyone of them changed my life the first day they were born and I held them.”

2. School days.

“I always loved elementary school.

Specifically after school, my mom and I would walk across the street from my school to go to the cafe near by. I would do my homework or she would read to my brothers and I, it was just a nice way to wind down after school.”

3. The last night.

“The last night before me and my childhood friend group parted ways.

It was the night before most of us left our country to go to school
on different continents.

We all went our separate ways within the next few days and we still try our best to keep in touch but it’s heartbreaking.

But we spent that entire night reminiscing and laughing so hard. I swear I haven’t laughed or been as happy since that night.”

4. A lot of fun.

“Band trips to football games and on trips for contests.

It was so much fun.”

5. Pure joy.

“I have a memory of chasing my little sister around the house, she was like 2 and we were laughing so hard.

Pure joy!

I do like to think that the happiest is yet to come, and that is merely the happiest so far.”

6. Up in the air.

“Jumping into my grandfather’s arms and he threw me into the air.

He died when I was young, so this is my only memory of him, but it makes me so happy I have it.”

7. Missing Mom.

“I think my happiest memory was when I was in 6th grade. My mom was very sick from cancer, but she put up a good fight for 2 years.

She told me one night when I was having a fit, that we could go to Disney world in Florida. And while she was doing that, she was also calming me down by patting my back and rubbing my head.

That was probably the happiest memory of her, because shortly after that her cancer went really downhill, and she ended up passing away about 7 months later.

I miss her every day, and i know she can see the man that I’ve become today. Miss you mom.”

8. A great concert.

“My dad, who sadly passed away a few year back, took me to see Fleetwood Mac in DC.

It was an obstructed view of the stage but I could actually see backstage, and watching Christine McVie and Stevie Nicks running around was so cool.

So yeah, eating a Mr. Goodbar with my dad seeing Lindsay Buckingham rock out is something I’ll cherish forever!”

9. Weekend trip.

“When I studied abroad in South Korea, my new friends and I went on a weekend trip to Busan.

We drank a lot, ate delicious food, danced and sang, got lost walking to temples, even jumped off a waterfall.

But best of all, we laughed a lot together.”

10. The world made sense.

“When I held my niece for the first time, the world finally seemed to make sense.

I know that sounds a bit dramatic, but these past couple years have been really, indescribably difficult.

She kept me going though despite having just been born and being about 1,000 miles away.”

11. A huge meeting.

“Meeting my biological parents they showed me what a mothers hug really feels like and how stupid a dad joke really is.

These are things my adoptive parents never did glad to say I don’t miss them because I now live with my real mom and dad.”

12. Lessons from Dad.

“My Dad teaching me how to maintain and fix my car.

I miss doing stuff like that with him so much, sadly he now has Alzheimer’s and only recognizes me on good days.”

13. Great times.

“I remember being very young and my Grandfather teaching me to play Go Fish and Old Maid card games on the back porch.

He was a really kind soul.

I also remember catching waves with my Dad and naming them all sorts of crazy things on the Jersey shore.”

What’s your happiest memory?

Share your stories with us in the comments!

We can’t wait to hear from you!

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People Discuss the Businesses They’ll Never Buy From Again

I’ve been wracking my brain trying to think of a business that I felt was so terrible that I’d never go back or spend money on again and I just can’t really think of any.

There are definitely tons of places where I would never spend my money in the first place, but I don’t think I’ve had such a bad experience somewhere that I vowed “never again”…

But these folks sure have…

AskReddit users opened up and revealed the brands, stores, and restaurants that they’ll never spend money on again.

1. Not gonna do that again.

“Greyhound.

I will NEVER step foot on one of their buses again. Every single time I’ve rode with them, something catastrophic happens.

From buses breaking down to felons getting arrested mid-trip, I think it’s safe to say I’ve had enough.”

2. Sketchy.

“Wells Fargo.

Fake Accounts scandal

Auto Loan insurance scandal

Mortgage Loan scandal #1 (changing customer terms)

Mortgage Loan scandal #2 (2008)

PPP Loan scandal.”

3. Not satisfied.

“Never again restaurant was Jamie Oliver’s Italian.

Bloody awful menu, completely pretentious trite.

I think they all closed down.”

4. The friendly skies.

“Spirit Airlines.

The one time my family has flown Spirit there was a crushed taco salad in the pull-down desk, and the whole plane smelled vaguely like baby powder.”

5. Waste of money.

“Smokey Bones.

I ordered a “loaded nachos” from them recently. It arrived. It was basically a pile of plain corn chips with maybe a tablespoon of cheese sauce.

It included several tiny tablespoon portions of salsa, tomatoes, jalapeños, and sour cream. This was $13.00! Total waste of money.

I will never order from them again!”

6. Avoid at all costs.

“American buffets.

Ryan’s, Golden Corral, Old Country Buffet, etc…

I worked at one. Trust me. Do not.”

7. Brilliant!

“Soon after she left me in 1998, my ex wife wanted to meet for a post mortem conversation. I suggested we meet at Pizzeria Uno.

About 20 minutes into our agonizing conversation, she looked around and said: “Wait. You hate Pizzeria Uno.” I replied: “I sure do. I’m not going to ruin a place that I like with terrible memories. I’m never entering a Pizzeria Uno again.”

And I haven’t.”

8. Best Buy.

“Best Buy. I bought a washer and dryer there, and I paid for installation.

The guy came out, installed them, turned them on, and left. The washer started flooding my laundry room within minutes. I called them back, and they said they couldn’t come back to fix it. They’re just bring me a new washer in a few days.

New washer comes, gets installed, and again the guy leaves (even though I asked him not to). Again, it floods my laundry room. Again, they won’t come back even though it’s just a few minutes later. They said they’d bring a new one in a few days, but I said f*ck it.

I told them to take the washer and dryer back, and I’d purchase them elsewhere. It took them a whole week to come back and get them, and even then only after I threatened to put them outside.

When they finally took them back, I got a refund….of one cent. One. F*cking. Cent. I had to spend hours on the phone with them to get the full refund amount. Then, they didn’t refund me for the hoses (which they took back) and the installation (you know, that flooded my laundry room twice). It was another few hours on the phone to get them to give me that money back too.

Bought a new washer and dryer at Costco later. Came the next day, installed in minutes (for free), and worked great. Was even cheaper than Best Buy.

Seriously, f*ck Best Buy.”

9. Bad experience.

“Long Horn Steak House.

Reason: all but 2 people in our party (of 15 people) got horrid food poisoning. Mine was so bad that I threw out my back from vomiting and retching, and couldn’t take pain medicine without throwing it up.

So I couldn’t sleep because of having intense stomach and back pain that lasted a week.”

10. Not good.

“Skullcandy headphones.

Bought a pair once, they broke, got them replaced, they broke, got them replaced, they broke, gave up.

Didn’t do anything out of the ordinary with them, I’d pull them apart a bit to place them.over my head and SNAP, two pieces…”

11. Stranded.

“Yellow Cab. The driver ran out of gas on Hwy 59 in Houston at 3:00 in the morning which is a major road in a not so good area.

He left my friend and I on the side of the road for an hour while he walked to get gas twice since it still am didn’t start after the first trip. In the midst of all this I called Yellow Cab multiple times asking for another vehicle to pick us up only to be hung up on.

After we finally got to my apartment he requested full payment. I said f*ck you and offered $20 and that was all he was getting. Ended up getting into a massive cussing argument with this guy before he finally took the money and left.

I haven’t, nor will I ever use them again.”

12. Haven’t forgotten.

“Pottery Barn.

My wife was pregnant with our first child, so full nesting mode engaged. We ordered a chair for the kids room/nursery/whatever the f*ck it’s called, a nice glider with an ottoman, perfect, in theory, for 3am feedings. We ordered it at around 5 months out.

Everything was on track until 3 weeks from delivery date. We had called many times to confirm since shipping was delayed, but still on track for the due date. They told us it was now back-ordered for 6 months. These things happen, but there’s no way they found out about a 6 month delay 3 weeks from delivery on a 9 month lead.

It was a sh*t show! My wife, now fully in the grasp of preggers-crazy went ballistic. We got in cancelled and found another one from some similar place (restoration hardware?) it came in time.

Ok, then Pottery Barn’s ottoman shows up! What else came was a charge for the ottoman. Now we start fight 2 so they would refund our money and retrieve the ottoman. Kid turned 2 months old before it got cleared up.

My wife still flips the store off every time we drive by. This was 8 years ago.”

13. That’s pretty gross.

“I ordered a different type of gravy at Cracker Barrel, and they brought it out to me still in a plastic pouch with microwaving instructions on it.

I know things are prepackaged and reheated in a lot of places, but to not even bother dishing it up?”

14. Dude, you’re NOT getting a Dell.

“Dell, for laptops anyway. They have this devious little feature: the charging cable has a thin data wire inside that tells the computer the charger is from Dell.

If you plug in a charger that does not have this, even if the voltage is correct, the computer will throttle the CPU way down by sending false overheating signals, and will only increase the battery charge if the machine is off. To make this way worse, that data pin wears out and breaks very easily, and even if your charger still works, which it often does, it is borderline unusable. Since you can only get a replacement from dell, replacement chargers are unusually expensive.

This “feature” cannot be turned off in any intended way. There is a program you can use to bypass it by disabling the specific type of thermal cpu throttling they use, but that only works on intel cpus.

If you have an amd, tough luck, and even if you dont you shouldn’t have to disable hardware safety features using 3rd party software just to use hardware that is perfectly functional except for one unnecessary part that is designed to break.”

Alright, friends, now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us about the brands, stories, and other things that you’ve vowed to never spend money on again.

We look forward to hearing your stories!

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People Share Their Opinions About What Never Stopped Being Cool

Some things are cool and they always have been.

Bruce Springsteen. The Ramones. Martin Scorsese. Converse All-Stars. Also a whole lot of little things in life, too!

It’s just the way it is!

So let’s learn about some more eternally cool stuff.

AskReddit users talked about what was, is, and always shall be cool.

1. Nice and wholesome.

“Being the guy out of the group that waits for you when you have to stop and tie your shoe.

I LOVE that guy!”

2. Kindness.

“Being the type of person who is kind without trying to get recognized for it.

My whole family tries to be this way. As a kid, there were always strange people by the house……I asked my parents when I got a little older why they had a bunch of whacky friends.

They were nice to everyone unless you gave them a reason not to be. That lead to all the strangers and outcasts that were always dumped on by *ssholes feeling like they had a home and a friend.

I try to live by the same code because “normal” is nothing more than a setting on the dryer.”

3. That’s right.

“Sticking up for people in need.

I went to school with a mentally challenged girl from preschool through high school. She always said hi to me and I would ask her how she was, almost every single day.

One day in middle school she started walking across the street without looking and got hit by a car. She wasnt badly injured, just a few scrapes and bruises. Well a couple weeks after that she was trying to cross the street to get to school but the traffic was bad and she was scared to try to cross.

I had just parked my car and started walking to the school. I heard her yell my name from across the street and start waving. I yelled back and asked if she was ok. She asked if I would help her cross the street. I didn’t think anything of it and just kinda started walking across the street and stopped traffic.

I got to the side she was on and took her hand and I helped her across the street. She said thank you many times and we went about our day. I never thought it was a big deal but it must have been to her because throughout the rest of our school years she would randomly tell me thank you for helping her across the street.”

4. The best.

“Tony Hawk.

I’m not even into skateboarding and I think he’s cool.”

5. I agree.

“Finding money.

On the ground, in a pair of pants.

Doesn’t matter. Finding money is always cool.”

6. All ages.

“For me it’d be LEGO.

It sparks a joy in most/all people, no matter the age.”

7. Better with age.

“Bob Ross and Mister Rogers get cooler with age.

Both MUCH cooler now than when I was a kid.

They are never going to hit maximum coolness.

They’ll just keep expanding.”

8. Be gentle about it.

“A gentle but witty comeback.”

9. The good stuff.

“A cold beer after a long day of work.

Pizza and beer after helping someone move.

Makes an average beer, average pizza, taste Godly.”

10. Lookin’ sharp.

“Leather jackets.

I wouldn’t mind having one if I could pull it off.”

11. A classic look.

“Jeans, a white t-shirt and some black boots.”

12. Darn right!

“Willie Nelson, Johnny Cash, and Dolly Parton.”

13. American icon.

“Converse will be cool until the end of time.

This is the hill I will die on.”

14. Skate or die!

“Skateboarding.

It’s still absolutely awesome to watch and super fun to practice.”

15. Pretty awesome.

“Electric guitar.

The Les Paul is like 60 years old and still cool.”

What do you think has never gone out of style and will always be cool?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments.

Please and thank you!

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People Share the One Thing They Think Could Make Them Truly Happy

True happiness sure is elusive. Is it about personal satisfaction? Security? Relationships? All three?

It can mean so many things, and different stuff to different people, which is why – even though people over the centuries have certainly tried – there’s no recipe to make it happen across the board.

These 20 people are giving it the old college try, though, and some of them even seem to be on the right track.

20. Godspeed.

I literally just need to have balance. Meaning I have depression and anxiety.

I used to take medicine for that and it helped a lot but so much crap has happened this year to where I don’t have it right now.

I really feel that once I am back on that sh%t, my life would be a hell of a lot better.

19. Fake it ’til you make it?

I have it. I AM happy.

18. Getting old is a bear.

A good way to fix a herniated disk, to be able to walk without a limp would be a blessing (‘: hopefully a couple more months of therapy helps!

17. I mean.

Big ol bag of weed.

Money cant buy happiness, but it can buy weed and that’s pretty close.

16. Some people are simple creatures.

Some gogo squeezes, a computer with fl studio on it, and a comfy chair.

15. A catch 22.

I am pretty happy with my life, but I’d love to have my mental health back without meds….I’m sure they’re why I’m happy though.

Oh, and world peace.

14. It’s a good start.

Losing the weight and getting my career job would be a big start.

I wouldn’t say I’m not happy though, just not fulfilled.

13. Oof that’s rough.

Enough money not to worry about my parents’ retirement.

12. “Only.”

only an extra 40k a year.

11. Sometimes that’s all you need.

Right now, some days in a camp near a beach, would be perfect.

10. Family is everything.

Before, I would have said a lot of money, and would have been fine if that arrived in years down the road. Now, I still say a lot of money, but more immediately, because this really hinges on the lives of me and my siblings.

9. Is time travel a thing?

i’d be a lot warmer and a lot happier with a belly full of mead.

8. The internet connection is a must.

I often consider myself a simple guy.

The things I wish for is a reasonable income to cover my expenses and some savings for future, a good furnished place to live in a calm neighborhood and a fast internet connection to get my entertainment and information.

7. I’d say this could go either way.

A girlfriend.

6. Hopefully a good one.

Definitely a job at this point.

I’ve been out of work save for some freelancing since I got my Masters, and the freelance work dried up in March (turns out there’s not a lot of call for transporting and hanging artwork for corporate and institutional clients during a pandemic)

5. There’s always another rung on the ladder.

Little more money in my salary and a woman that genuinely loves me.

I’m sure once I get those I’ll start to want something else though.

4. Mowing is the worst.

If I could get my house completely paid off and turn my front lawn into something I don’t have to mow, that’d be it.

3. That sounds lovely.

Music, nice cup of hot chocolate and my family.

2. Not too much to ask.

I’m already happy. What would I need to feel comfortable?

Universal healthcare.

My child’s health / happiness. Which is tied in with universal healthcare.

And a job I really enjoyed.

1. If you want to get technical.

A decent mix of serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins would help.

I’m not saying money would do the trick, but enough money could certainly relieve a lot of depression and anxiety in the world.

What would your answer be? Share it with us in the comments!

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Check out These Suggestions on How to Cheer Yourself Up When You’re Sad

Everyone gets sad –  it’s totally normal, whether it’s due to hormones, the weather, or just the natural ebb and flow of life.

If you’re afraid it’s depression, you should definitely seek professional help, but if not, these 15 tips could help pull you out of your funk!

15. Very creative.

I wrote a letter to my future self when I was at a happy point in my life to read when I’m sad. You’re obviously the only one who knows what you’re going through, so it’s nice to get advice from the happy version of yourself.

like: dear me/ future me, i hope that you’ll be happier wherever you are blah blah. it can be anything!

14. This is all very true.

I read a book, that always takes my mind off things: way better for your mental health than social media.

Just cut off the toxic social media for some weeks. Just browse through Reddit. You’ll feel much better.

13. Emotions are your friend.

Cry.

Identify my emotions. Is it angerr? Disappointment? Despair?

Accept them. Allow myself to feel them.

Figure out why I felt them and soon they just go away.

I find that distractions or suppressing them only makes them fester and get worse or come out in the form of anger and end up hurting someone else.

12. Endorphins are great.

I exercise. That makes me so much more miserable that my previous state of misery appears cheerful.

11. Just breathe in it.

I allow myself to be sad, understand why I am sad and just continue to do whatever I have planned to do.

Eventually it goes away the sadness and I don’t even notice.

10. I shall try it immediately.

Yelling Michael Jackson sounds.

You gotta try it. It really helps.

9. Solid advice from an old soul.

My coping mechanisms are shit, so I asked my 4 year old niece. She said you scream the sad out, then sat on the floor and shouted “AHHHH!” Then smiled and went about her day.

Scream the sad out.

8. I love everything about this.

Some motherf*cker said you can literally smile and trick your brain into being happier. I hate how it actually works sometimes.

7. Take a walk.

I just sit there continuing to feel sad until I just get over it. Sometimes I go outside for a bit of a walk too.

6. Dance it out.

I put on my dance gear and dance my ass of to some super corny hyped inspirational lyrical crazy beats songs with the lights either dimmed or off, if in the dark I put on the flashlight so I can see my silhouette on the mirror, the walls and roof.

It looks so beautiful and graceful and I feel like I’m on stage that it gets to me end up genuinely smiling.

5. It can really help.

Listen to music, it’s not a lot but it makes me so much better.

4. I feel like we could make a whole list of these.

Watch the YouTube video “If Animals Were Round”

3. Give yourself permission to veg.

This also worked for me when I needed to chill after a big test in college: order or make some food you like and watch your favorite shows or movies. I could recommend some if you like.

Mostly comedies: 30 Rock, Arrested Development, Chuck, Psych, Happy Endings, The Mighty Boosh, The IT Crowd, Parks and Recreation, Community.

2. Take a rest.

If I can, I take a nap or just go to sleep for the night. My doctor told me an analogy for mental health that I always find helpful.

Mental health is like a table. The more legs you have under the table (good sleep hygiene, nutritious diet, exercise, social contact, therapy etc…) the more stable the table is. It’s rarely one thing but we can do a lot of little things throughout the day that can cumulatively make a difference.

I have a toddler so I’m always exhausted and sleep deprived so that’s usually the table leg I’m missing, so any rest helps.

If you need to talk to someone, many people have offered in this thread. I’d probably be most helpful to other parents, if you want to vent there feel free.

Others have mentioned some fantastic points about finding a balance, and how no matter how stable your table is, sometimes the ground is uneven. I hear that, and they’re great points.

1. Fake it ’til you make it.

Pretend to be happy until I am. Fake it till you make it.

This was motto for 2 years while I was going through some serious sh%t in life. It worked out pretty well but, I think I bottled up too much emotions and lied to myself too much that I was happy that it got to the point where I can’t pretend anymore and just cry especially when I’m alone with my thoughts.

I don’t know how we do it but, I think as some of us age we pretty much just learn to suck it up though deep inside we’re all wounded to the core.

I’m definitely going to put a few of these in my back pocket.

What’s your go-to way to cheer up? Share your tips in the comments!

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People Share the Fastest Way They’ve Seen a New Coworker Get Fired

Once you’re happily ensconced at a job that you like, no longer the newbie feeling your way along, it can be interesting to watch those who come after you. You’re probably able to tell pretty easily which will sink and which will swim, right?

If you’re these 16 people, that’s definitely true, because they had a front row seat to the whole thing.

16. You gotta have boundaries.

Guy got hired, while going through orientation realized that his ex gf worked there too.

Turned around and walked right out the front door.

15. On CAMERA.

During their onboarding training, they stole my bosses wallet on camera….

1 hour in..

14. He had no idea where the line was.

This was a while ago at my old job. New guy gets hired as a bus boy. He was super annoying and tried to insert himself into everyone’s conversation whether they wanted him there or not. It only took a couple of hours for the whole restaurant to hate him. I was working the bar and he kept eating the bar fruit.

I personally didn’t care but the manager did. Manager comes over and tells him to stop eating the fruit. He looks the manager in the eye and eats another piece of fruit. Manager says “Really?” followed by “Come with me to the office”.

New guy promptly replies with “Alright man, calm down. I can tell you got that big dick energy for a good reason” followed with cliche wink and nudge from his elbow. In front of me and like 4 other employees. I wanted to slam my face into the ice bin, it was so cringe to witness.

He promptly walked out the front door 10 minutes later without his uniform on anymore. The worst thing about it was the manager was an insanely laid back guy. Hell, the whole restaurant was insanely laid back. You really had to try hard to get fired from this place. Had he not thrown in that big dick line, I’m almost positive he would have just gotten a slap on the wrist and kept the job.

13. This is pretty funny.

My boss was out of town and I managed a tea shop near a Starbucks years ago. This kid came in (foreign) and said he was supposed to start today.

We were hiring and I trained him etc. My boss came back two days later and had no idea.

The kid was in the wrong place but he stayed with us. Hired on the spot without even applying.

12. That’s something.

Not sure if it counts as being fired, but a guy in our basic training threatened a drill sergeant with a bayonet.

No idea what happened after he went to the hospital, but I didn’t see him again.

11. Good luck ol’ chap.

New guy drove a forklift into a fire hydrant, in front of a safety rep for the company. His supervisor was called over, and he immediately tells the supervisor that he won’t pass a piss test, as he used his only bottle of clean piss earlier that day when he hired in.

Everybody standing there immediately burst into laughter, which continued as security (also laughing) escorted him off site. Even the supervisor was all smiles…just gave him a pat on the back and wished him the best of luck. It was wild.

10. One heck of a story.

Worked in a grocery store for awhile: new guy took a lobster out of the tank and removed the elastic bands on its claws, then proceeded to put it back in the tank.

The thing murdered all the other lobsters in the tank.

9. This is all icky.

A week. I worked in a bar and a new girl started. At work, she seemed a little rough but was fine.

One day she finished a shift, sat at the bar and ordered a red wine with lemonade and ice in it (not really relevant to the story; just shows she is clearly insane). Her boyfriend came in, they had a huge domestic in front of my manager and several customers and she threw her drink over her bf and dramatically stormed out.

8. You can’t always fake it ’til you make it.

I got hired as a long-term temp with one other person to do some basic data entry work at a major brand pretty much everyone has heard of. And it was at their corporate headquarters so pretty prestigious.

Anyway, we went through all of this onboarding stuff in the morning that required us to get photo IDs and figure out parking and all that stuff. Then after 2 or 3 hours we were introduced to one of the employees in our new department who began going over what we were going to be doing.

None of it seemed overly difficult and I figured that while it was new system I had never used before I’d be able to work it out in a few days as long as I asked questions and took notes. And that was the thing that made me realize that the other person who got hired with me probably lied on her resume and was completely out of her depth.

She didn’t take any notes and didn’t ask any questions. And whenever I glanced at her I could see flashes of panic on her face. Well, lunchtime came and when we came back she said that another company had called her and offered her a permanent position and she couldn’t work with us ay longer.

Both me and the person training us knew what was going on but I’ll give the other lady credit for finding a way out without losing face too badly.

7. I’m guessing some kind of substance was involved.

There was this one kid who didn’t show up for work. He ditched work often, so the manager called around, couldn’t get anyone to fill in his shift, so she had to fill it for him.

A few hours into his shift, the dude ditching SHOWS UP, with his friends, and orders food from that manager. She fired him on the spot.

6. Lying makes people angry.

New guy started on Monday and was gone by Friday.

The guy hit some racking in the warehouse with the forklift, boss saw him do it, and the guy decided to lie about it when asked if he knew what happened.

5. Equal parts sad and funny.

I’ll never forget Jeremy.

Jeremy was 18, did not apply for colleges, so his parents made him get a job. He was hired as a mover, as is everyone. He shows up the first day to roll-call in a full suit and tie asking where his desk is. This was a group full of former convicts, high school dropouts, and generally rough dudes trying to make a living.

We laughed so hard. Jeremy went right back home.

Next day, Jeremy’s mom shows up to give the manager a piece of her mind. We laughed even harder.

4. That’s determination.

A 19 year old kid got hired to work the seafood counter. See him twice and then never again. Asked a coworker what happened.

He had closed seafood one night and was walking out of the store and the 5 pounds of crab legs he’d stuffed down the back of his pants fell out in front of the closing manager.

3. Well that’s unfortunate.

First day of work, he walks in, says “what the f*ck is up dumbaSs” to the guy that parked next to (didn’t touch) his new Camaro he bought since he got hired.

The guy was the CEO of the company I used to work for, on visit to our branch.

Literally ten minutes into his shift he was signing release papers.

2. I need details.

This was a pizza place I worked at in college. New guy was started on Thursday. Fine worker we showed him the ropes. He was on subs which is the easiest job. The instructions are right in front of your face.

Friday he no call no shows (it’s Friday. The busiest night of the week. And he and I were the only kitchen workers that weren’t also drivers). Monday a police officer shows up at the restaurant looking for him.

No idea what happened as he wasn’t there. Tuesday the owner informed me he was let go.

1. They sound brilliant.

I work construction. We had 2 new hires that were friends starting the same day.

Boss told one take a coffee order and come back.

Took everyone’s money and said he needed his friend to go with him cause it was a big order.

They never came back.

Man, these are definitely like car accidents you just can’t look away from, right?

If you’ve got a similar story from your work, please regale us with it in the comments!

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Things That People Did Once and Then Said “Never Again”

Trying new things is usually regarded to be a good thing for humans to do now and again – or as often as you can. Hopefully, those instances pleasantly surprise you, but even when they don’t, you can usually learn something.

If you’re these 19 people, what you learned is that you’re definitely never going to do that again.

19. Trust your gut.

My ex.

We were giving long distance a shot, it was an on and off relationship for like 3 years.

I traveled 18hrs to see him only to find out he had been cheating on me and no one from his circle even knew I existed.

I cried for a straight 18hr bus ride back home.

18. I’m sure the dog feels the same way.

Attempting to catch my dogs shit in the bag rather than picking it up from the ground. Seemed like a good idea.

Dog sharted up my arm. Had a long walk back home through my neighborhood covered in shit.

Never again.

17. Food poisoning is the worst.

When I was like, 11 I had some friends (the kids that lived next door) over and we were just hanging out, playing video games all night. My mom ordered Papa John’s for us. We tore the pizza up like the ravenous savages we were and continued gaming. That night the boy stayed over while his sisters and little brother went back home.

We go to bed that night and at some point one of us (cant remember who) began to throw up, which woke the other one up. My mom rushes in and helps clean up the mess. Once the vomiting stops we go back to bed. But then before long itd start again. Just like before, sometimes I was first, sometimes it was him. Sometimes we could get to the bathroom on time, sometimes we couldn’t. My mother, the saint of a woman she is, cleaned up all of that vomit. Apparently things were no better at their house.

To this day some 15 years later I refuse to eat Papa John’s. I’m sure it was just a one time thing but once was enough

16. If you don’t love it, don’t do it.

Law school.

I applied and got in because my parents thought I would be a good fit. I stuck out the first year because I was heavily influenced into thinking my career paths only included law, engineering or medicine.

After the first year I was miserable and depressed, dropped out and now I’m doing something that I’m passionate about and is less saturated than law. My dad is still trying to convince me to pursue a JD.

15. I’d laugh, but…

Peppermint essential oil.

Why? My darling spouse read online you could use it on lady bits to provide a tingling sensation. Decided to do so to me. DIDN’T read the bit about majorly diluting it first.

The result? The sensation of 1,000 fire ants biting my most intimate parts while simultaneously being submerged in lava. And since it’s an oil, washing it off did jack shit.

I sobbed in a half full bath tub whilst rubbing my cooch with a towel doused in vegetable oil (the remedy, according to the Internet).

0/10 do not recommend

Never again

14. A great story for dinner parties.

Purchased a bag of 150 mint mentos as a study snack. Got stuck into an assignment and somehow ate the entire bag over a twelve hour period. Next day my partner and I walked our dogs down to a cafe. Stomach becomes sore while we drink our coffee. I look to the toilet but it’s a busy cafe with a single toilet. Figure I’ll just wait to do my business back home (about a half hour walk away).

As we start walking back I begin to sweat. Cramps become unbearable. Give my partner the dog lead and tell her I need to run. She doesn’t know what’s going on. I start sprinting. Which then makes the stomach cramps so much worse. Realize I’m not going to make it. Almost crying from the stomach cramps. See a Bush. Can’t hold it. Pull pants down. Don’t quite succeed. Shit EVERYWHERE! Bush isn’t concealed.

Other dog walkers walk past and dog runs up. Mortified. Still can’t stop shitting. Partner sees me. My pug happy to see me. Runs straight up and into my mentos diarrhea.

Haven’t eaten mentos ever again. It’s a fun story now but god did that day suck. Partner loves to bring it up at dinner parties.

13. Fastest way to get dumped.

When I was about 17 I had a boyfriend who was a bit older but also a complete idiot. One day he offers me a full body massage and I’m like “sweet!”.

As he’s doing it he tells me he’s going to use tiger balm instead of oil. I asked what that was and he told me it’s what they use for massage in his culture (he’s Chinese, I’m NZ European). I was like “ok whatever”.

Next minute, I had a sensation over my entire body, including my lady parts. Had an hour long shower and I was still suffering. Chinese people do NOT put tiger balm all over their bodies. This guy used to say and do all sorts of dumb sh%t and then would pretend it was Chinese culture to avoid looking like an idiot.

12. Take your time.

Yesterday I was in a hurry and not being very safe and put a 1/4″ drill bit through my hand.

Could have been 100% avoided by taking even the slightest of safety precautions but I was frustrated and rushing to finish.

Never again will I not take the simple moment to do it correctly.

11. Yeah, not okay.

Amniocentesis.

Having a giant needle stuck through my pregnant belly and being dug around to get a sample triggered my fight/flight and I was sweating so much from the intensity.

I didn’t watch while they did it but my mother in law was there and started crying while they were digging around.

She held my hand, looked at me with tears in her eyes and tried to calmly say “it’s okay, you’re okay”.

I still have nightmares about it 10 years later.

10. Always be suspicious.

Trusting voicemails.

Back in the mid 2000’s, I got one of those scam calls saying that I owed a lot of money and needed to call them to get an account squared. I was scared and didn’t want police coming after me (I was torrenting a buttload of movies and TV shows at the time and didn’t want them seizing my computer). I called them up and asked them how to get this figured out, assuming that a couple grand would be worth the fines and jail time.

I kept asking questions. I kept imploring for more information. I wanted to know exactly what account I was giving to, the name of my contact there, and exactly which Walmart their “payment partner” was distributing their “money cards.” I was legitimately terrified, but I think my constant questions spooked them. They said “good luck in court, we’re sending the police now,” and hung up. That was the moment I started to realize this might not be a legitimate thing. I tried calling them back, got somebody to pick up, and when I read them back my case number and contact name, they said to stop wasting their time and hung up again.

I did a bit of research, and by “a bit,” I mean “literally two seconds on Google” and discovered that police and banks won’t call you to resolve outstanding debts, and they certainly won’t give you just one hour to fix it. I felt really dumb falling for a scam, but also felt really lucky that the scammers couldn’t answer my deluge of questions.

Nowadays, I independently verify every singe thing. Voicemail, Email, text…if you put a phone number or URL in that thing, I’m going to skip it and take the scenic route instead. I’ll call my bank’s branch directly using the number listed on their official website. I’ll contact a company using their official customer service line. I’ll sign in to my own account using my own bookmark or search result, and not use the “login” button in the email.

Since then, I’ve had very good luck avoiding scams and blocking these overseas criminals. They almost got me once, but afterwards, never f*cking again.

9. This sounds awkward.

Living with a couple.

Roommates suck in general but a 3 times in my life I split an apartment with a couple and it was awkward at best, and truly miserable when they fought.

8. Amen.

Getting an endometrial biopsy.

Worst pain of my life.

If I ever get cancer they can just take the whole damn uterus out, I’m not going through that again without anesthesia.

7. It never hurts to take a second look.

Driving through an intersection immediately upon my light changing to green. Some asshole ran a red one day and almost t-boned me on the driver’s side.

Never again. I always wait for a few seconds before I start driving through an intersection, longer if there is a blind corner.

6. Too many lessons learned the hard way.

Alcohol and Cocaine. Almost ruined my life. Started drinking at 16, started doing coke at 26, and took till I was damn near 41 to quit.

Dumped my last baggie of blow out beside my garage 23 years ago and haven’t touched the shit since.

5. The worst.

Working retail.

I think it’s something every young person should do…once.

People suck, especially with our bullshit culture of “the customer is alway right”

4. No thank you.

I had my gallbladder removed after a gallstone.

I thought I was having a heart attack and called an ambulance. While I waited I started arrange all of my finances for my wife. The hospital ran a zillion tests, told me it was a gallstone, and the only real solution was to remove the whole gallbladder if it came back.

If it came back?

Yup.

3. Just say no.

Meth. I was a hardcore amphetamine pill addict and said “fuck it” one night and smoked a shitload of meth. I was up for two or three days, by the last day I was well into psychosis and left town.

Stayed in a hotel room for a few days to make sure I didn’t become a meth addict and to evaluate what the fuck I was doing with my life. I didn’t stop the pills immediately but I’m never fucking doing meth again.

2. Not good for anyone.

Making friends with people because you feel bad for them.

Be nice but no more than that is required.

Pity is no reason to start a friendship and it never turns out well, neither for them nor for you.

1. Good travel buddies are hard to find.

Go on an overseas tour with a close friend. Always do a mini trip or spend a weekend with them exploring a new place to test the waters.

I went on an overseas trip with someone who was constantly late, couldn’t pay for anything, didn’t want to do any of the activities we had planned, sulked around…the list goes on. We had completely different travel styles.

She wanted to sleep in…I wanted to organise things, be on time and plan ahead. Basically our travel styles just did not mesh. I ended up having such a bad time I booked a flight home. Would never again go on a holiday with her again or any friend with a similar personality. never again.

I have to agree – these were all terrible ideas!

What would you add to this list? Tell us in the comments!

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14 Jobs That Are Great, Despite the Low Pay

Not every job that pays well is worth it, and sometimes jobs that pay little are terrible, too.

If you can find the absolute sweet spot of a great job that’s also awesome, that’s the best.

If you can’t, though, a low paying job you love might be the next best thing – as long as you can afford it.

14. Not bad if you can get it.

Immediately after getting out of the Army, I took a job as a security guard at a large factory as a “filler” until I could find something better. I was there about six months.

My job was to patrol the parking lots during the night shift, making sure no cars were being broken into, etc. Which is just another way of saying “ride around in a golf cart smoking weed all night.” The pay was shit, but I loved that job.

13. A good manager is everything.

I’ve waitressed in way too many restaurants and I hated all of them, except for one sushi spot. It was in a hipster part of town so my co-workers and the customer base were cool as hell. It truly never felt like “work” because I was essentially just socializing my entire shift.

Enough time has passed where we all moved on or literally moved out of the city but they felt like family and I really miss it.

Oddly relevant, my old manager texted me yesterday (haven’t talked to him since I left in 2016) just to say he was thinking about me and wished me well.

12. Not bad pay for the work.

As a student in university, one of the departments hired me to copy VHS tapes for some training course.

The idea was, I got paid only like $5 a tape and each tape took like 40minutes, but all I had to do was rewind the two tapes, swap out the one I just copied for a fresh one, put a label on and put it in a box. Then put an empty tape in and press play on one and record on the other.

They paid me peanuts cause I was supposed to just do it in the background as I worked on my studies or whatever. No problem.

Thing was, it was end of live for VHS, everyone had the machines but no one ever fucking used them, so everyone and their brother lent me their machines, and I just managed to split the f*ck out of that cord and I wanna say, rig it up to go 20:1?

In the end, I had a job where I just sat surrounded by machines, did whatever I would normally do and once an hour pressed some buttons and pulled down something like 100$ an hour for my work.

I just sat on the tapes till the semester was over and then delivered them all at once.

11. There’s always something to see.

Runner at an architecture firm.

$7hr (in the 90s), but basically a delivery driver who got to hang out in a plush office around cool people and cool projects when I wasn’t driving around a few hours a day.

10. And now she’s a vegetarian.

Working on my Aunty and Uncles farm when I was in high school. Pay was shit to say the least, but I got to look after all of these beautiful animals that all acted like pets because they were treated as such.

It was so awesome seeing how all these farms animals would come up to cuddle and just hang out whenever I would be working around them. I also got to drive their truck around the farm which was unreal to someone barely a teenager!

9. Good coworkers go a long way.

I got paid like $10.50 an hour so it wasn’t super low income

But I worked at a vitamin warehouse with a bunch of other dudes. We basically talked shit and laughed a lot while packing boxes together in a room all day. I think about that job A LOT. I was at a shitty place in my life and going to work wasn’t all that bad for once.

8. Everybody wins!

I worked at Legoland when it first opened here in the UK. I started off on rides, but soon moved to a restaurant as the lunch breaks there were better.

The restaurants back then were really decent – we used to make everything from scratch. I worked in an Italian place, we used to make pasta, pizza dough, all the sauces, chop up whole legs of ham and every single vegetable by hand.

Started when I was 15, learnt all I could from the professional chefs who ran the kitchens and by the time I left at 18 I got a job while I was at Uni in a kitchen of a family-owned Italian place who couldn’t believe I’d learnt all I knew from working at Legoland.

Also, when I left, I hadn’t realized over the near 4 years I worked there – weekends and holidays – I had been accruing holiday pay, and never taken a day’s paid holiday. When I left they gave me a sizable cheque which became the basis of a savings account that eventually became a decent house deposit.

7. Low stress is worth something.

I worked in France as a Saunier. I harvested salt from salt marshes on an Island in the Atlantic ocean. Worked hours under the blistering sun, with my bare feet in contact with the hot cracked earth underneath, and the salt burning my skin.

I was paid very little but I loved every moment of it. Oh the view, such a wonderful view. The peace, the lack of stress… it was wonderful 9/10 would do it again

6. Love it or hate it.

My current job is the best I’ve ever had. The pay is only ~31k and not something I can do forever as I get older but all I do is sit at a desk and do maybe 2 hours of work a day.

As someone who used to work 10-12 hour days doing manual labor and also call center work where I had to work weekends taking a significant pay cut so I can play RuneScape and work on some college classes was absolutely worth it.

5. One person’s dream is another person’s nightmare (it’s me).

I ran a Lego summer camp for kids. I basically got payed to build Lego and come up with ideas for kids to build.

4. Pizza makes everyone happy.

I worked for a mom and pop pizza place. I only got paid $5.75 (1997 or so) but if I had made a living wage I would’ve stayed there. I just liked making good food and making people happy.

The owner was a fun Vietnamese guy that was cool to talk to and we used to watch UFC and boxing video tapes on the security system. It was a good time.

3. I would love a kid like this.

When I was 12 I worked in a babysitter-type-role for $2/hr. I absolutely loved it. The mom was always in the house (just working from home) and I got to play board games and read books aloud.

I’m not entirely sure how I got that job. I just remember my mom asking if I’d be interested and my glowing ecstatic response. But I’d put $5 down that they were a lower-income family than I guessed at the time and that my ultra preceptive mother had coaxed her into accepting some cheap childcare.

2. Free movies!

Scooped popcorn at a movie theater.

4 free movie passes per week for the most entry level position, leads and managers got more. You could trade them for free food around the whole shopping center.

So as an 18 year old, I got all the free movies, popcorn and food from restaurants in the area I wanted.

1. That does sound nice.

I worked at a dog daycare in the play yard.

One of the perks was that employee dogs could come in for free.

(With proof of vaccinations.)

So I got to watch my 4 dogs play 8 hours a day.

Oh, to go back to the days when money didn’t have to be a huge consideration!

Have you ever had a job you loved, despite the low pay? Tell us about it in the comments.

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This Guy Thinks Being “Forced” to Care About the World Is Exhausting. The Internet Debates…

If you stand on a street corner right now and ask folks whether or not 2020 has been a total dumpster fire, I doubt you’d find many responses to the negative. Because there’s so much happening – politics, elections, race relations, public health concerns, civil rights erosions – it can definitely feel like our attention is being pulled in 100 different directions at once.

Which is what this guy acknowledges, with the addendum that you know, we all also have our own crap going on.

I’m just one guy. I try to be a good person; I try to treat everyone equally; I try to be kind and compassionate; I try to be a force of good.

But I’m just one guy. I have problems of my own. I have a life of my own. I shouldn’t be expected to constantly wade through the shit that is the political and societal hellscape of 2020. I’m not a racist because you don’t think I’m angry enough. I’m not uneducated because I don’t pour through hours of toxic political commentary. I’m not privileged for wanting to distance myself from hatred.

I’m so sick of being alternatively mocked and hated for not living up to other people’s freedom fighter fantasy. I’m trying my best but I’m just one guy.

So, should we make people feel crappy, or like they’re not doing enough if they’re not uber outspoken and passionate about it all? 

Or maybe, just maybe, should we give people a break?

These 14 people weighed in!

14. The not life.

Not being involved in politics is a harmful political opinion according to both sides. I mean, the more vocal two out of the three sides.

There should be a word that means not doing _. And a culture around it, too. Maybe a subreddit. Not being involved in politics. Not having a strong opinion. Not getting involved in a harmful fight. Not spending money. Not saving money. Not losing weight. People keep telling us to do these things, and individually, they’re good.

But put them all together and then you live in a state of eternal panic and stress.

We should emphasize the benefits of not doing stuff every now and then.

13. We’re all good enough.

Same dude.

It feels like all the media is telling us we’re not good enough. All we want is someone to say:

I’m proud of you

You make me feel safe

You want my fries?

How are you feeling?

In the end, we only want people in our lives who want us, who care for us. F*ck everyone else. F*ck the marketing people who spread fear, uncertainty and doubt. Give me a dog, a cold whiskey and a fire and I’ll be good.

12. We’re on the same side.

Right there with ya bud. I was literally getting shit for not posting enough political shit on my Instagram. I don’t want to post that shit on Instagram, I use it to look at cool pics and that’s it.

Craziest thing is they get actually mad. Like, we’re on the same side, I’m not the enemy here. More concerned about my rapidly deteriorating grandpa with Alzheimer’s that’s shits on my parents floor at least once a day

11. Reduce the noise.

Just focus on being a good person.

If everyone did that, the world would be a whole helluva lot happier and peaceful.

10. It’s okay to just do your thing.

This is the thing that annoys me, is the demand for hot takes. I’m on twitter and it’s just for sharing art. I retweet and share art, that’s it. I chose to participate this way in order to avoid the twitter shit. Ever since the whole comics gate thing, I’ve had people ask me to acknowledge every person that’s getting accused of something or other. Like, no.

Actually, part of the reason I didn’t pursue a career in comics is because of harassment and people pretending to be interested in my art to get dates. Actually, I’ve been affected by this behavior and I don’t want to relive it. I don’t want to go back into that dark period to justify my silence on the issue.

Also, I see people demanding that more famous artists deliver a hot take on people they work with– like, right away. No time to process that a person they work with might have done this that or the other thing. No time to figure out how accurate the accusation is. They expect the person to pivot on a dime, cut all ties, and publicly excoriate their coworkers and friends. Let’s not even acknowledge that behaving in that way has an effect on your career. Let’s shrug our shoulders at the fact that it’s usually women being bullied for their hot takes.

Like, I agree this shit gets in the way of women’s careers, but I just hate this demand to get in line and yell and immediately antagonistic. There’s not nearly as much energy put in towards promoting women artists– or non-white artists, which is a much bigger problem that gets no attention because of how loud all the white ladies are shouting.

9. The not so good ol’ days.

Yeah I remember when r/all was mostly funny or interesting stuff with an occasional big news thing popping up.

Now it’s littered with US politics.

8. It’s ok to take a step back.

Don’t feel too bad. None of the issues being highlighted right now are new. They’re all important, but it’s okay to take a step back and just breathe.

If someone tells you that you must “take action or you’re part of the problem”, they are wrong. We’re not super humans, and you’re not a bad person for taking a pause.

7. A matter of maturity.

Yep. Not trying to be a cringe hipster, but I learned this early in my 20s when I had to take care of my little brother by myself. I think I just lost the ability to care about what anyone says on social media, including feeling like I had to care about this or that or be some sort of activist for the cause.

My partner is younger than me and still often in the trenches of Reddit or Twitter. Sometimes this causes conflict, because he would sometimes get actually upset over arguing with people. I couldn’t help but think, “When are you gonna grow up and stop caring about this crap?” But I guess that’s not that fair a mentality. I guess people just mature in their own time.

I still have my social media, and I still use it…just not in the ways I was before. I shut out most politics except for a few causes I really care about and I focus on arts, creativity, and my own family and friends.

6. It takes all types.

You shouldn’t have to. In my opinion that’s counter productive. People care about different stuff differently and that’s good. Because diversity. I care a lot about social issues but tbh not as much about environmental issues. My best friend on the contrary cares a lot more about the environment that about social issues. We both work in our respective fields.

See bettering the word as splitting a group project. Too many people working on all the tasks at the same time is a recipe for chaos. If we split it we are more likely to get where we ea f go be

5. This feels spot on.

This is like a very popular opinion, but not everyone have that energy to said it that loud.

4. Stop caring…about what other people think.

Same here, bruh. I’ve just gotten to the point where I couldn’t care less what anyone else says or thinks. I’m over it. The people that I care about, the ones closest to me and that I actually care what they think of me, they know who I am and what I believe.

I don’t need to post a million posts about a cause or change my profile pic every time some trend happens. All that really does is virtue signal. It says “look at me, I care so much so pay attention to me”

3. You never know what’s coming.

Saving this post so I always remember “Freedom fighter fantasy”. Hot damn, that’s the perfect term for a lot of people.

Obviously there are a lot of issues going on now that that deserve our attention – but there’s a lot of unnecessary stuff trying to share the same spotlight.

2. Everyone should take a breath.

I have my beliefs, and I support causes I feel are just. Yet, if they do not match someone else’s beliefs or causes that they support, I’m belittled and accused of not focusing on the “important” issues and being selfish.

I’m on your side. Just let me take a damn breath between each issue from the thousands of movements currently happening on social media.

I like what someone said in another comment, about doing a “people detox.” That’s basically what I’ve been doing the past few months: trying to not become overwhelmed by everyone shouting at each other about the same and different things.

1. Is it about privilege?

Just tell them that the fact that they can devote time to helping other people is a privilege.

Because they have the mental health stability, and quite possibly have enough money that they actually have free time to engage in protests or whatever else they’re doing.

I’ve gotta say, I think a lot of us feel like OP, we just don’t say it out loud because shaming culture is really really real.

Do you agree with OP? Feel strongly against? Weigh in down below in the comments!

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