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People Shared Crazy Crimes Committed by Family Members

There are three types of people in this world – those who relish walking outside the law, those who would never dream of it, and people who just need the right set of circumstances to push them over the line.

These 12 stories are a lot of the first kind and a few of the third, and they’re told by family members who just can’t believe who they’re related to – a recipe for fun!

12. Unfit, for sure.

It’s not a bad crime or anything, but it was illegal at the time.
So, in Germany, up until a few years ago, we still had a general draft for the army. And a generation ago it was very hard to get out of it.

My uncle was a hardcore pacifist, so going to the army wasn’t an option for him. But being accepted as a conscientious objector at that time basically required you to be a devout Christian and use the bible as an argument for why you couldn’t kill another human. And my uncle was also atheist.

He couldn’t realistically object, didn’t want to go to the army and didn’t want to go to jail, too. So he waited…

He got sent his draft notice, passed the physical and got a letter telling him to report to X company under sergeant Y.

He wrote back a reply, on rose-colored paper, scented with perfume, about how much he was looking forward to serving under the strong leadership of Y, promising to obey every one of his orders, and that he can’t wait to experience life in the barracks together with so many strong and muscular men.

He was declared unfit for service shortly after.

11. What did he do to them?

My dad told me he once snuck into a tire warehouse, he cut the alarm and came in through a window on the roof, and stole a bunch of tires.

10. What is wrong with people?

My mom’s father was a Vietnam vet. He married my grandma he met while in Germany, adopted her oldest son and they had three daughters.

He physically, emotionally, and sexually abused all of them. When they were toddlers, he’d wake them up at 5am for PT (like basic training for adults). When they walked into a room he was in, he’d throw knives at them to “check their reflexes”.

When my Aunt graduated high school, she moved out and he lost his mind. He kept trying to convince her to move back in, and actually convinced her to come home to “talk” about it.

That day she was sitting on the couch and told him she would never come back. So, he pulled a gun shot her three times (once in the hand as she was trying to block her heart, once in the stomach as she stood up, and once in the ass as she turned to run). Then he walked to his back bedroom, and shot himself twice, once in the heart and once in the head.

I wasn’t alive but I read the newspaper article and it was horrible.

Side note, my family is really messed up bc my grandma would take us grandkids to his grave site and tell us what a great man he was….

9. There is nothing I like about this story.

My parents’ horse got loose, and somebody hit and killed it.

The horse disposal people wanted some relatively reasonable amount of money to come pick up the carcass, but my parents were like “fuck that. Hey, /u/hendergle – load that shit up on the flatbed and find somewhere to dump it.”

Me: “OK. Sure, pops.”

[calls stoner friend]

Me: “Hey, want to go dump a horse somewhere?”

Stoner Friend: “Sure. I have nachos.”

Me: “Cool”

Stoner Friend: “Cool”

So Stoner Friend and I got even more stoned than usual and took my parents’ flatbed truck out and tried to winch the horse up onto it. Turns out you really can’t winch a dead horse onto a flatbed. It’s not the winching that’s the problem so much as the 5ft lift up to the edge. We fucked up a lot of that horse trying, though.

Attempt #2: We went home and built a big-ass ramp out of plywood and 4x4s. It took most of a day and half a dime bag of weed. We argued a lot about whether or not we should bevel the part of the 4x4s that touched the ground. Final decision: neither of us knew how to do that, so we opted for no bevel.

Back at the horse, we wrapped the winch line around the head this time. Fun fact: Steel cable looped around a horse head in a slipknot arrangement is a good way to re-enact a famous scene from The Godfather. We didn’t quite decapitate Mr. Gooseberry (long may he gallop in the heavenly fields). But it wasn’t pretty. Nothing about a dead horse is pretty, but that bit in particular was remarkably not pretty.

We decided to go with our original idea: lash the front hooves together with rope. Small problem: We’d cut the rope at some point. Neither of us could remember why, or who did it. But nothing for it- we had to go home. Finding more rope required smoking half a joint, which I think is quite reasonable given the task we were set to.

Back at the horse again. Our engineering marvel worked. We had some initial worry that we would pull one or both of the horse’s forelegs out of its socket, but apparently dead horse sinew has quite a bit of tensile strength.

We used tiedown straps to lash the horse and ramp to the flatbed, initiating a discussion about why we hadn’t used those in place of rope, leading to an argument over whether or not that would have worked, leading to an awkward hostile silence as we drove around the ass end of South Dakota looking for a place where we could dump a dead horse.

I’m sure there were many places one could dump a dead horse in the middle of rural South Dakota. Strangely enough, though, we were both feeling a little paranoid. Every car that passed us was a plainclothes cop car. Every person standing out in their field was heading straight to their house to report us as soon as we went around the bend.

Finally, we found a field in the Black Hills National Forest that looked like a good spot. It had trees, which we thought the horse would like, and there was a nice parking area next to a snowmobile trailhead. Goose had never liked snowmobiles, so the idea of his skeletal carcass scaring the shit out of some Ski-dooer coming off the trail seemed like something that would have appealed to the old fella.

We backed the truck a little ways into the ferns next to the trail. Then we used a come-along to pull the dead horse off the flatbed.

About a mile into the way home, Stoner Friend said “Does your horse have tattoos?”

I was like “it’s a horse, not a fucking chief petty officer in the merchant marine. Why would it have fucking tattoos?”

Well apparently some horses have tattoos, according to Stoner Friend. It’s how they identify them if they’re stolen. (Note: Subsequent research revealed that this was usually only something done with thoroughbreds, which our horse was definitely not.)

Back at the horse again. “I think they put them on the lip, inside,” says Stoner Friend. Have you ever pulled back the lip of a dead horse to look for tattoos? Worst never-have-I-ever ever. There were no tattoos. But then Stoner Friend says “it’s probably one of those tattoos that only lights up under UV.”

By then, most of the weed had worn off, but there was that tiny bit of paranoia still holding on for dear life. “What if there’s a UV-light lip tattoo on your horse /u/hendergle? They’re going to catch you for sure!”

So there I was, in the early South Dakota summer evening, cutting the lips off of a day-old dead horse with a dull pocket knife. Bonus: we just threw the lips into the woods a little ways because:

“Nobody’s going to go looking for horse lips in the woods”
-Stoner Friend

And that’s how “illegally dumping an animal carcass on federal property” is the craziest crime I or anybody in my family have ever committed.

8. A complicated man.

My dads side of the family grew up as New Hampshire hicks.

My grandfather was stabbed in two different bar fights and burned down an entire country club because he thought they were too stuck up.

He was never caught and went on to earn a bronze and silver star in the Korean War, but unfortunately lost his leg too.

7. What a dork.

An uncle robbed a bank (or was an accessory to the robbers, idk).

His brilliant escape when the police showed up was to go to the roof and jump off.

He didn’t do time, just had to go to the hospital for a broken leg.

I’ll have to ask my mom when I get a chance, she knows the story better than I do.

6. That took a turn.

My cousin in Youngstown, Oh used to rob people selling goods on facebook.

Got caught after him and accomplice murdered a man over a PS3.

Good times.

5. Freaking hero.

My aunt had a boyfriend – let’s call him Mike, cuz that was his name. He was always the life of the party, everyone loved him. Always holding my aunt from behind and kissing her neck. A little too much PDA but hey, they were happy.

Turns out Mike was abusive. Like, very abusive. Physically and mentally. The neck kissing was him whispering in her ear, berating my aunt for making a fool of herself dancing. My grandfather found out about the abuse.

Went over to Mike’s place, knocked on the door. When Mike answered, my grandfather put a gun to his head and said “if I find out you ever touch my daughter again I’ll fucking kill you.”

Welp, a few weeks later my aunt shows up with a black eye and a sling. Mike.

He was found dead on the roof of his apartment building the following weekend. We all have zero doubt it was my grandfather’s doing. As a successful lawyer I am sure he had connections who could help.

4. Kids, man.

My Dad (when he was much younger and infinitely more stupid) regularly used to drink drive with his friends. It was the early 70’s, and no-one really cared. To hear him speak about it now, he can’t believe how stupid he was.

One night, he and his friend were out drinking. They heard there was a party going on at a pub across town and decided to head over. On the way they go past a large club with a queue of people waiting to go in. My dad decides to show off a bit and pull a skid. He miscalculated, hit a curb and flipped the car, sliding down the road on his roof. The car stops, they get out and leg it, to the cheers of the people in the queue! They get the bus back home and immediately call the police to report the car as stolen.

The police knew what had happened, but couldn’t prove anything.

3. Who could prove it?

Not sure if it should be considered a crime, but one of my great aunts was in an abusive marriage with a war vet who took to beating her and forcing her to play Russian roulette when he drank.

One night she managed to rig the gun so when he took his turn he blew his brains out.

She wasn’t charged.

2. The dregs.

My uncle was a small drug lord in Northern California in the 90s. He had a compound out in gold country, had to drive through 3 gates with guards to get to his house. I like never questioned it as a kid, just enjoyed heading up so I could fish in the stocked bass pond (which also had snapping turtles (as a line of defense)). He’d take me out shopping at the mall with a film canister full of coke that he’d take hits off of occasionally, shadowed by some bodyguards. One time we were out for a ride in his corvette going well over a hundred and got tagged by highway patrol. He talked his way out of the ticket (told the officer he was showing off for his nephew and got carried away, the officer thought it was hilarious), and told me it was lucky since he had a ton of illegal guns and drugs in the trunk and would have made a run for it.

He got arrested when I was 15. It was a full blown; Feds descended upon the compound in helicopters and swung through the windows with flashbangs. The whole nine. He was arrested, and since if he snitched on anyone above him he was, very bluntly, a dead man, he took the rap, was extradited to Lee in VA to serve a bit over 10 years. All he asked for while he was there was protein powder, he got prison ripped, and apparently beat someone near to death with a sock full of quarters for cutting in front of him at the payphone.

At some point in my life all 4 of my uncles on both sides (+ my dad) have spent time in prison for drug related offenses, but this particular uncle takes the cake

1. That’s definitely terrible.

My uncle went to prison for chaining a cop to the back of his bike and driving down the highway

I feel like an edit is needed here because I want to say I am not glorifying what my uncle did, I simply answered the question asked.

This happened in the 1960s before I was born, so I do not have many details due to the timing and fact he married into the family (and that side of my family is not very close at all).

What I do know is my uncle was apart of a very violent gang, I know nothing about what led to the attempted murder (yes, the cop survived somehow), so I do not know if the cop was good or bad.

But, I do not believe very many people, if any, deserve to be tortured in such a manner (or any manner).

I’m glad I don’t have (t00 m)any stories like these to share about my family.

If you’ve got one to tell, our comments are open!

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All of These People Admitted They “Became What They Hated”

Life is strange, and along that road we often find ourselves taking turns we didn’t expect, or even that we swore we’d never approach.

It’s a tricky business to untangle, but Reddit tried to do just that with this post from user Deskarthus:

When did you "become the very thing you swore to destroy"? from AskReddit

So, what are the ways in which we’ve shifted to “the dark side?”

Let’s see what folks had to say.

1. Changing the game.

I make video games and 95% of my career have been on consoles.

Had to help out a team at work a few years back with a mobile game and they made me add in the bit where the pop up comes up asking you to rate the game.

I died a lot inside then.

– paulc899

2. Addiction is real.

Won the 8th grade poetry slam by writing a poem about my anger towards my grandfather for drinking and smoking himself to death.

By my 22nd birthday I was putting down 2 packs of cigarettes and a pint every day.

Now I’m 3 months sober and clean from cigs though.

– chick3nn00dlesoup

3. Why settle?

In the late 80s, early 90s, I was a typical skater/punk/metal head teen. I swore up and down I would never “settle down”. I didn’t want some 9-5 life with the house and family.

I am happily married, have a great career, and love every second of it.

There are times when I sort of wonder what my life would have been if I just kept doing what I was doing.

But I’m pretty sure I would be miserable. Screwing around and partying is fun when you are 17-23, but in my 40s.

F*ck that. I’m tired.

– sebrebc

4. Ambition for what?

I always said I hated people who were just content in their jobs and didn’t want to rise up

I love the work I do, and I want to get to the highest skill set of it- but frankly I’m not sure if I am interested in a real promotion at this point in my life.

– Un1cornW4rr10R

5. The cycles continue.

When I realized I have a lot of the same toxic/abusive patterns as my father

– azallday

6. Finding your voice.

My dad liked to do awful impressions of Disney characters that he spent way too much time teaching himself.

He told me that as a kid, he was often lonely, and did this as a way to make himself laugh.

I yelled at him when he did it.

A decade after his death, I realized that I’m constantly doing awful impressions of characters from games and cartoons I liked as a kid.

You should hear my impression of Strong Bad. No, you really shouldn’t.

– ugagradlady

7. The begrudging ladder.

My company’s director forced me to accept a promotion to management.

– ThadisJones

8. Pet peeves.

I always said I’d never be a pet person…. but we’re fostering a cat while its owner is in hospital and now its 1AM and I’m on the sofa with Buddy cuddling up to me and…. yeah…. it’s kinda cool.

– TannedCroissant

9. Age brings weariness.

Just like most other people, I thought I’d always be super laid back, always up for anything and super energetic for hours off 2-4 hours of sleep.

When I was a senior in highschool I worked a bunch of over time on top of school and still went out with my friends.

Now I work less hours, rarely have the energy to see my friends, and most of the time I feel like a grumpy old introvert.

– torc-24

10. Whose side are you on?

My entire life while growing up all I wanted to do was be a police officer. Received my bachelors in Political Science and minored in legal studies and criminal justice.

Received my masters in criminal Justice. Scored top 5 in physical and written exams at every agency I applied.

No criminal history and no previous drug use.

I was denied by every single agency.

Entered law school, applied for an internship at the DA’s Office while in law school, was denied.

Passed the bar, and applied at the District Attorney’s office as as a criminal prosecutor.

Denied even though I had criminal law experience and my courses emphasized criminal law.

Now I am a criminal defense attorney.

– BeetsBearsBattle

11. So loud!

My parents always told me the cartoons I watch where pretty ridiculous like spongebob, invader zim, pokemon and ren and stimpy.

I was gonna be the cool adult and let kids watch all the hip cartoons just like I did.

Fast foward a few years and I’m seeing my little cousins watch stuff like teen titans go, power puff girls (reboot) and loud house 24/7 and I wanna rip my hair out every time I see those.

– HappyMaskMajora

12. Plug in, tune out.

I got social media

– __Augustus_

13. Alone again, naturally.

I used to find it weird that people getting depressed over not having bf/gf and desperately looking for one. 5-6 months ago my relationship of 2.5 years ended and i am all alone.

I feel kinda lonely, and down. I feel like i need a romantic relationship but there is covid so i hardly see people.

I am not yet desperately looking for a relationship but i am heading that way

– Topsyturvymeh

14. Hard to forget.

I used to forgive people when they wronged me, but I met a person who was likely a sociopath and they gave me enough insight to know that people will INFINITELY take advantage of forgiveness..

So now I tend to just shoot people down (within reason of course).

– InfamousClown

15. Tale as old as time.

I didn’t like gay people, guess what

– Batman6904

Change isn’t always bad. Be ready to embrace it when it’s nice, and kick it to the curb when it’s showing you red flags.

Have you had an experience like this?

Tell us about it in the comments.

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Check Out These Outrageous Bits of Advice from Grandmas

I get kind of annoyed when people talk about the elderly like they’re shocked these folks have lived lives.

They’re not teddy bears, they’re not cartoon characters, they’re human beings with vastly more experience on this planet than the people patronizing them.

That said, I *do* understand why it can feel a little embarrassing/funny/I-don’t-know-what-to-do-with-this when, say, an older member of your family opens up to you about elements of their lives you hadn’t thought about…and maybe didn’t want to. Like this thread on Reddit revealed:

My grandma once chastised me for wearing underwear to bed because I need to "let my taco air out". What bizarre advice have you gotten from the older and wiser? from AskReddit

But this user wasn’t alone. There’s plenty of outrageous grandma advice to go around. Let’s hear some more.

1. When you got it, flaunt it.

My Grandma (a model during the depression era) use to tell me, “Be proud when you walk!

Throw those t*ts out!” When I would tell her I was only nine and I did not yet have t*ts, she would just say, “You guess where they are gonna be and throw that out!”

2. Secrets revealed.

So I am a DD while my mom is like a -A. Because my mom hates feeling left out, she has one of those pairs of rubber boobies you can put in your bra to make it look like you have mosquito bites. So one day, while were visiting my grandma, my mom’s getting dressed while she’s in the room. My grandma stares at my mom for a solid minute and then this happened:

in a thick German accent ” Mary! ”

” What? ”

” You have no teets! ”

” …. ”

I could not have laughed any louder.

– jennah101

3. The hero we need.

The job for my siblings and me every Christmastime was to help my grandma decorate her tree. For as long as I can remember, my grandma had a gold foil ornament on her Christmas tree. When I was probably about 11 or so, I got the nerve to ask her what it was, already kind of knowing. Sure enough, she calmly told me “oh, that’s a condom wrapper. I want all my kids to practice safe sex”.

Way to go Grandma with the Magnum.

But really- safe sex is awesome.

– megafart

4. Butter me up.

my grandma once told, while very drunk, if you don’t have lube on hand melted butter works just fine..

– scllfof4

5. Hate the game.

My grandma, whilst once discussing my new boyfriend, was asking why I was only dating one man. Her 87 year old advice to 23 year old me was That in her day she would line up multiple dates, with multiple men to try them out, and once you went on enough dates with one person, then you would go steady. That was the norm. I had to nicely explain to my super conservative irish catholic grandmother that that is what we so kindly refer to as a “player” nowadays. Her response:

“Well, I guess I was a player then.”

– scnavi

6. What a pitch.

My grandma warned me that boys “make a tent” in bed every morning. Thanks Gramma:/

– [user deleted]

7. Wait for it.

My grandma told me not to date girls from the south in college because they all wanted to get married too young…surprisingly good advice

– [user deleted]

8. Work it.

When I excitedly told my grandmother that the boy I liked was going to prom with me, she said “Don’t wear anything with zippers. Make him work for it.”

She was a spectacular woman.

– senatorkneehi

9. Remember this.

My gram gave me a diary when I went to college and said “write a lot, it’s the only way you will remember what happened in college”

Mildly accurate.

– RatApples

10. Mr. Fancy Pants.

I made a joke about anal sex and KY at my girlfriend’s house and her 70 year old grandmother tutted at me and advised me that in her day vaseline was good enough for anybody.

– cwstjnobbs

11. Love me everywhere.

My grandmother and I had a conversation as follows

Grandma: Hows armoredporpoise’s girlfriend in bed?

Me: Umm…

Grandma: Does she let you put it both holes? Your grandfather used to love me everywhere. If you can’t love her everywhere then you shouldnt love her anywhere.

– armoredporpoise

12. Do what you want.

“Slut? Honey, that’s just called doing what you want. And if you’re happy, who gives a d*mn?”

“Those b*tches be crazy!” said after nearly being clipped by a car full of college girls.

I love my grandma. She’s a teeny little old lady, aged 82 years, from Virginia.

– [user deleted]

13. Over/under.

My grandmother once told me “the best way to get over a man is to get under another.”

– not2old4ffvii

14. Stalling for time.

When I came out to my grandma, she smiled and told me not to have sex with dudes in restroom stalls. Thanks, Grandma!

– cromble

15. Too involved.

When I was 19 my (then) girlfriend went to Europe with me for the summer to visit my family. Now, my family is generally pretty cool with the whole sex thing. I always got a separate room for me and any girls I was seeing whenever I was staying/ visiting them, etc, etc. This was, however, the first time my grandmother was faced directly with this issue. Anyway, we arrive to the house late at night after a long-*ss flight, have a huge *ss dinner, and my girlfriend goes upstairs to our room to get ready for bed. I try to go up too, but my grandmother drags me aside and proceeds to give me the most awkward sex talk of my life.

Grandma: Have you two… had… intercourse yet?

Me: Well, we’ve been together for half a year now, so yeah

Grandma: Are you going to do it tonight?

Me: …What?

Grandma: Are you going to have intercourse tonight?

Me (starting to get creeped out): Probably not tonight…

Grandma: Do you use birth control?

Me: Yes, she’s on the pill

Grandma: That sounds sketchy, you should use condoms too

At this point I just want to get out of there, so I just agree with her hoping she’ll let me go

Me: Okay grandma, we’ll use condoms too. I’m gonna go up…

Grandma: Actually, maybe its better if you don’t finish inside her… Just cum outside! I can give you a rag!

Me: …upstairs

Grandma: Are you sure? I have lots of rags.

Me: GRANDMA NO

– not_vulva

Hey, there’s some solid advice in there!

What memorable bit of input have you gotten from your grandma?

Tell us in the comments.

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Read About the Ways People Subtly Admit They Lost the Argument

I went to a private “university model” religious high school where I graduated in a class of nine people.

Needless to say, I’ve got some complaints. And…stories.

Nevertheless, there is one element of that education for which I will truly and earnestly be forever grateful. My sophomore year there, I took a logic class.

The second semester covered “formal logic,” which is basically a math-like breakdown of the structure of arguments, but we started with “informal logic,” which is the study of the way people reason and try to convince each other rhetorically, and the traps they fall into. It covered, basically, this Reddit post:

What screams "I lost the argument"? from AskReddit

So let’s see how much I can remember. I’ll try to label these bad bits of argument rhetoric. Anything with an official fallacy name I’ll put in Italics, anything I don’t know the name for I’ll just try to coin something.

1. I’d call this the “argument from sudden amnesia.”

When they start responding with “who asked” even though they started it.

– PsionicSenpai

2. Red herring fallacy.

Trying to focus on side points of yours that dont really have anything to do with the main point as a means of diversion

– ——-Nobody——-

3. Basically “red herring,” with a hint of chaos.

When they go completely off topic

– PlethoraOfZzzzx

4. Appeal to guilt.

“I guess I’m just a terrible mother!”

– excessofexcuses

5. The “knowing things is dumb” gambit.

When they just start yelling shit like “LOOK AT YOU! YOU KNOW SO MUCH? SMART *SS B*TCH! YOU KNOW THIS IS WHY YOUR EX CHEATED! YOU’RE INSUFFERABLE!” and loudly banging things, stomping, etc

– drunky_crowette

6. Conspiratorial thinking.

When youre told “thats what they want you to believe”

– YeahWhatOk

7. Ad hominem fallacy.

When personal attacking starts

– FondOfPink

8. I’m not saying you can’t think that, I’m just saying you’re wrong.

“I have a right to my opinion.”

Of course you do, and usually at this point in the argument no one has said otherwise, but that doesn’t mean your opinion is supported by evidence.

– therealyoyoma

9. The false apathy approach.

“Whatever, I don’t really care anyway.”

– coughcough

10. I’d call this the “appeal to fake news.”

Writing off reliable sources of information that they don’t like.

– fatmatt587

11. “Google doctorate syndrome.”

When they tell you to “do your research.”

– Actuaryba

12. Good ol’ fashioned evasion.

A refusal to answer direct questions that are clearly designed to demonstrate the flaw in your reasoning.

The only reason you have to refuse to answer a question is if you know that the answer is going to lead you to admit that you’re wrong.

And if you can’t admit that you’re wrong, then you’re no longer interested in meaningful discussion.

– ThatScottishBesterd

13. This is called “lying.”

When they start saying inaccurate stuff.

You can’t win against wrong.

– NicoRic12

14. The “irrelevant first amendment discussion.”

people tend to confuse being legally in the clear with being justified more broadly.

I remember arguing with a friend that a particular movement was stupid, and he replied, “Well the same right that allows you to criticize them allows them to do it.” And it’s like, yeah, of course they have the right to do it. That doesn’t make it a smart thing to do.

– therealyoyoma

15. Appeal to accomplishment?

“You’ll change tune when you’re older”.

No I won’t and I’m over 30 already.

– Paxa

If you’ve never read up on informal logic, give it a go. We can make the internet a better place together.

What argument tactic can you not stand?

Tell us in the comments.

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What If You Could “Restart” Life? Here’s What People Said.

Have you ever seen the show Crossing Over with John Edward? It was really popular around the early 2000’s, though it probably shouldn’t have been.

In it, self-proclaimed psychic Edward would use a series of what are basically just parlor tricks to make it seem as though he was talking to the dead.

Boring.

I’d be much more interested in a show with this premise, called STARTING Over with Random Redditors.

You die and the first thing you see in the afterlife are three buttons: "Next level", "Spectate" and "Restart". Which one do you press and why? from AskReddit

Restart seems like the way to go for me, and a bunch of people agreed:

1. What do you know?

If I could re-start knowing what I knew then, then restart. If not, then Next Level.

– TheSurveyor-01

2. A somber answer.

Restart. Hands down restart and not to avoid two divorces (the first one I wouldn’t be sitting here the dad of two awesome teenage boys.) Not to try again to make better choices or success. There is only one reason. A day at 19 still haunts me.

I was sitting around the house bored and broke and asked my mom if I could borrow $10 to go shoot some pool. She said why do t you call Ben y’all always have fun without spending money… I didn’t call Ben. Coroner determined he shot himself about 5 min after the convo I had with my mom. I should have called Ben.

It’s 20 years later almost. Ben was the warmest, nuttiest, most unique person I ever had the pleasure of calling friend. We grew up in boy scouts etc together. I miss Ben

Restart

– Goturnawrench

3. Play it safe.

Restart seems like the safest since spectate could be forever and next level could be hell

– BT9154

4. Practice makes perfect.

Assuming that this were to play out like a video game and I as the player can recall everything I learned from my previous play through, I would restart.

There are so many moments that I would change, so many stupid decisions that I would avoid making, so many people I wouldn’t even consider associating with.

It would alter the outcome of the rest of my life but I like to think I’d end up a better, wiser person for it.

– KosherNate

5. Only 26?

I just thought to myself: Restart because I didn’t capitalize on life to the fullest extent like I should’ve

… then just realized wait a second, it’s not over I am here and 26, I need to capitalize to the fullest extent before it’s too late!

– Evil_Pizz

6. A solid investment.

Restart. Invest in Bitcoin when it becomes a thing.

Then I’ll know to hold it until it hits 39K.

– TheGrayPerson

7. The good ol’ days.

I’m restarting. I refuse to be reborn into this bleak *ss looking future.

I’d rather go back and be a kid again in the 90 where it was fun and while it had its problems, at least it wasn’t a sh*t show of social media mush brains.

It was better when knew to just keep sh*t to ourselves. I turned 18 in 00 and sh*t has sucked hard since 06.

– Ang3l1ckD3m1n

8. Chillin’ like a villain.

“Restart” but play the bad guy next go-round.

– One_Star_Waitress

9. Aw, that’s sweet.

Sounds corny, but restart.

So I can meet my wife and daughter again for the first time.

– NaltedPog

10. Cherish it.

Probably restart. I wanna see my kids grow up again.

I’d never thought that I would love anything as much as I do them and yet here we are.

– JarodColdbreak

11. Strats.

Restarting the level means you know to save the health jars for after the first boss and that there’s not much ammo in Ravenholm.

Though all the dialogue options are the same

– TSM-

12. Questions answered.

Why would you possibly think you’d have no memory of it?

This is clearly being made as an analogy to video games, and in video games the entire reason why you’d restart a level is BECAUSE you know and remember what’s gonna happen.

There’s no logical way to conclude you wouldn’t your memories in this scenario.

– theinsanepotato

13. Simple as that.

Restart baby

– Catacomb82

14. Are we sure?

“Restart” strikes me as the worst option of the bunch. Given that I just completed the first level, pushing “restart” would almost certainly wipe my save clean, and start the whole thing over, erasing any memory I might want to save for future use.

Especially considering just how much of the game’s enjoyability depends on where you spawn, it seems like a bad idea to just start over from the beginning, because a bad spawn could severely limit what you can do.

– maleorderbride

15. What a rip off.

Sh*t, no button to send me back to the main menu and switch some settings around?

– ImaginexMovies

In all likelihood, we won’t get a chance to start over, so we better make the best of things now.

What option would you pick, and why?

Tell us in the comments.

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A Person Said if You’re a Parent and Your Adult Children Don’t Speak to You, It’s YOUR Fault

It can be hard to claim things like always or never when it comes to other people’s families – relationships are complicated, after all.

So when this person on Reddit came out with their Unpopular Opinion that, if adult children refuse to have anything to do with their parents, it’s because the parents were terrible.

Dear Parents Whose Adult Children Don’t Talk To Them – It’s Always Your Fault.

You were the adult when they were a child. If their first instinct, as soon as they get out from under your thumb, is to completely ignore you forever, you need to own the fact that you messed up as a parent at several, consistent, points along the road throughout your child’s upbringing. They hate you for a good reason, and they’re probably better off without you in their lives.

There are a number of forms of abuse that range from over-parenting, to neglect, over-discipline to straight up negative enabling behavior.

I have friends who don’t talk to their parents because the strictness was so suffocating, and friends who don’t talk to their parents because they were lazy bums who never took an interest in their child’s life. There are tons of other reasons kids abandon relationships with their folks, but the one thing that stays true through all of these experiences for me is that it’s always the parents fault.

This is mostly about relationships that end as soon as the kid leaves the house, not necessarily relationships that break down during adulthood, although the same reasoning could be applied in a lot of these cases too.

As you can imagine, people had some thoughts.

14. Don’t expect closure.

Living through a lifetime of people telling you it’s your fault, it’s hard to deprogram yourself that it isn’t the case. I’m still in the middle of deprogramming that mindset. What eats away at me is that a lot of people aren’t in my life anymore (due to distance, ailment/death, etc).

There is never any closure even if these people aren’t in your life anymore. It’s always a battle to fight for your mind and sense of self.

13. This sounds stressful.

I’m 15 and my parents can’t look past IISc or IIT. JEE looks like such a sham to me like there are so many students taking the exam and only the top 50 or 60 get to the best colleges, there is so much competition and it’s not like there is a huge difference between the kid who comes 10th or the kid who comes 150th. It’s just 1 mark difference that can throw you off hundreds of places.

This coupled with the outdated reservation system, which does more harm than good, completely makes a ridiculous thing out of this and it’s even more frustrating to see people pinning their hopes, their entire lives, on performing in this circus of an exam.

12. It’s all math.

There is this thing called the Social Exchange Theory that states that if a relationship’s costs outweigh the benefits then it will likely break off as it is not interdependent nor healthy.

When parents fail to realize that they are costing their kid more than they are providing for them (this includes time, emotional, health, and material costs/benefits) then their kid isn’t going to want to be in that relationship.

And In parent-child relationships it is even more crucial that the kid’s needs are being met and that they are being presented more benefits than costs.

Take it from me, as someone who has been royally fucked up by my parents and whose relationship with them has slowly deteriorated- there are MANY ways that a child can be neglected.

11. Maybe it’s not too late?

Both my parents had their shortcomings, my dad wayyyy more than my mom, but since I’ve moved out, they’ve both been actively trying to be better parents and I couldn’t be more grateful for that.

My dad and I will always but heads but he’s trying and that’s what matters to me.

10. When the roles are reversed.

As an adult, I feel like my mother needs more from me emotionally than she’s ever provided. It’s a hard thing to explain. But 4-hour phone calls where I might get three sentences in?

Every time I visit she wants to keep me awake until the sun rises, talking about herself? Woman needs a friend or a therapist and I’m not ready to be either.

9. How tall are you, though?

I haven’t talked to my parents since 1999.

That’s to preserve my own sanity and peace of mind. In truth it was the smartest thing I’ve ever done and I have no regrets disavowing two malignant narcissists

I have a list of grievances with them as long as my leg.

So long in fact it’s a wonder CPS didn’t take me away from them when I was a child.

8. They have to be willing to work on themselves.

Honestly, if most parents would just get some sort of therapy, the world would have so much more peace and family relationships might actually be able to last.

7. That doesn’t seem right.

Trust me, wonder no longer bc CPS prob wouldn’t have helped unless you were half dead. They came to our house, took a look around the rooms, questioned us WITHIN EARSHOT OF OUR MOTHER and then walked out.

Imagine if we told them the shit that had been happening to us and then they decided “it wasn’t valid enough” and didn’t take us with them- we would’ve just ratted out our mom in front of her and been left to deal with the consequences. So we lied bc they didn’t do their job properly.

How can you question a kid without setting up a safe environment?

6. Sounds like an excuse.

The issue with my folks is they believe therapy to be pseudo science. So even when every person has told them see a therapist, when they finally do they don’t take it seriously and they don’t approach it with an open mind.

They simply write it off, end up spending money for something they don’t actually believe or want to attempt to understand.

5. Makes your heart hurt.

I had an abusive alcoholic mother. She used to beat us daily, put cigarettes out on me, mentally abuse us and try and turn us against our dad. When I told my dad about it at around 8 he tried to get custody of us.

The courts decided the best course of action would be to keep us with our mother and assign a social worker to ‘help her be a better parent’. Well it didn’t work and the abuse carried on.

F*ck social services and f*ck the courts they’re all useless.

4. The guilt can be too much.

My mother is much the same way. I think, deep down, her mentality boils down to “why get a therapist when I have children I can unload on?”. She gets deeply offended when I finally reach a limit and ask her to stop calling me for every problem she faces in her life. She then proceeds to try and guilt trip me about how if I won’t help her then:

  • she has nobody else to help her
  • she would have to pay someone else to fix the problem and how much money it would cost
  • how she wasn’t the worst mother in the world and is owed this

Since my father passed away, it has been a situation where her demands of me creep up, reaches a tipping point, and we have a blown up argument where I have to explain that I’m her son, not her handyman/therapist/fixer. Her expectation of a mother-child relationship is extreme.

3. An excellent point.

Even if you were half dead they would have done f*ck all. I ended up in the hospital every couple of months. My dad beat me so hard he broke vertebrae in my back. They visited – but like you said it just wasn’t safe. Then they left and I got a beating for them being there in the first place.

Went extremely low contact with my dad about 20 years ago. He’s dead now. I didn’t go to the funeral and I regret nothing. People were always giving me shot for wanting nothing to do with him but they didn’t know who he was. I still talk to my mother though obviously our relationship is difficult. I love her deeply though. She was a victim of him just as much as I was.

Still I don’t agree with the OP. It’s not always the parents fault. You can’t be that absolute.

The child might be suffering from paranoid schizophrenia or something like that.

2. Sometimes it’s as simple as that.

My parents did not see me as a part of the family.

It hurts really bad.

I was 32 when i figured out its not me its them.

1. In that case…

Hello fellow child of narcissists! Been no contact with mine since 17.

Literally the most dangerous people I’ve ever encountered. Cheers!

I’m not sure where I stand on this one. I actually think that a lot of the time, he’s probably right, but not every time.

Surely there are times when a kid gets involved with drugs or the wrong crowd or a new religion and turns their back on loving, well-meaning parents. Right?

Tell me your thoughts down in the comments!

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Society Stop Stop Making People Insecure About These Things

People struggle enough with self-esteem and loving themselves without bringing other people’s judgement into it.

Society-at-large just can’t seem to help itself from passing those judgements, though, and it can really suck the joy out of the world for people.

If we want to be happier, and freer, people say judging other folks for these 11 things really has to go.

11. Anything you can’t control.

The way you look in any form that was a result of your genetics.

The way you look period. Some people dress a certain way because they’re depressed, some because they want to be different. Some people have much bigger fish to fry than putting on appearances for others.

10. Especially for men.

Being short.

It’s amazing that it’s socially acceptable to make fun of a short male like everyone is in on the joke.

Those same people would never make fun of someone to their face who is obese or has a birth defect or acne, etc, but being short is obviously something a person has no control over.

9. No way to fix it.

Receding hairline, is just natural man.

8. It’s ok to say goodbye.

Not associating with a toxic family or family member.

The “blood is thicker than water” thing is bs. Some families are abusive, manipulative, neglectful, etc.

If you choose not to have them in your life, that’s perfectly ok.

7. There are all sizes of everything.

Small d*cks, yes it’s tiny I GET IT.

6. Liking anything, really.

Liking pretty things. Too many people have this idea that pretty things are childish and you need to be moody and ironically dark.

FOOL, LOOK AT THAT BEAUTIFUL FLOWER AND STOP PRETENDING TO BE MISERABLE BEFORE YOU ACTUALLY CONVINCE YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE.

5. People are doing their best.

being poor

It’s not a choice, I am doing the best I can and just because I receive food stamps or any other type of assistance doesn’t make me a POS. I see a lot of hate for poor people, like we are supposed to fit this stereotype with dirt on our face and stained up clothes.

It isn’t so far fetched to think my ‘designer’ clothes come from a thrift store, my nails are press on from the dollar store and my iphone is so old it still has a headphone jack.

4. This should not be awkward.

Buying condoms. Please, it’s really important.

3. It’s really none of your business.

Being a virgin

p*nis/breast size

Whether we’re wearing makeup or not being allowed to wear makeup

Having the next shiny gadget that will get replaced soon

Having and expressing your emotions without being called a bi*ch or a pansy

2. It’s just natural.

teeth, they aren’t meant to be fully white and perfectly aligned, having some skewness and discoloration is ok as long as its not affecting you.

1. There’s no one route.

Where you should be success-wise at a certain age. I’m 23, graduated college, but couldn’t get a job in my field right after graduating. I’m living with my parents to save money on rent, working at a restaurant, and growing my skills that I learned from college, while working on myself. I’m severely insecure and realized recently that for the past ten years, I have been constantly striving for a level of perfection that is absolutely impossible and calling myself a failure for it.

I woke up to the realization that I was getting serious anxiety and was limiting everything I did. It’s just that I’m not exactly ready for the world of adults. I’m terrified and unsure and it doesn’t help hearing people despair over how they “ruined their lives” when they aren’t that old. The pressure to get somewhere in two years demotivates me sometimes. It’s something I’m fixing, but I don’t like hearing people force time limits on others and reprimand them if they never fulfill it or haven’t.

I saw a post here about a few days ago asking 25-year-olds how they screwed up in their lives (or something along those lines) as if 25 is the deadline for achievements.

It’s good to have deadlines, but everybody grows at their own pace and has roadblocks in their lives that slow them down. Heck, the human brain apparently doesn’t stop developing at 25 and grows even after 60 years old. Some people genuinely do try but get so discouraged that they give up and then get ridiculed for not doing anything. I only learned recently that my 30-year-old cousin just got over a terrible drug addiction that cost his job and almost his livelihood for years. But he got out, finished college, and is a changed man getting better jobs and doing better.

There’s always time.

I am in, y’all. I say, if no one is getting hurt, live and let live. I will cheer you on.

What other things should we stop making people feel insecure about? Let’s use the comments to make a longer list!

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People Think We Need to Stop Feeling Insecure About These Things

People tend to come up with plenty of reasons to feel insecure about themselves, their choices, and their life. Our society can feel half built on making other people feel bad about themselves, even when some of things aren’t anything they can control.

If you agree that it’s time we stop so much judging of others, here are 12 things people think we should let go caring about right now.

12. You have to take care of yourself.

Not having relationships with some or all family members.

Some people just suck, and someone has to have the misfortune of being related to them.

11. Boring jobs pay bills, too.

Your job. Too many people are elitist about someone’s occupation and look down on essential workers.

I have a stable, relatively well paying job as an accountant and I have had several comments from friends and family making fun of me or making snide comments about how boring my job/life is like I’ve totally sold out because I’m not a teacher or an artist.

I think because it’s such a safe career choice they feel like they’re not punching down but it just makes me feel really lame and embarrassed.

10. It takes all types.

Being too shy to jump into conversations!

I have become so discouraged from talking at all.

9. Everybody poops.

Bowel movements! As someone with IBS, it happens a lot. Yes I was in the restroom for 20 minutes. There’s nothing I can do about it.

It’s much harder on me than it is on you.

8. Not everyone can afford braces.

Crooked teeth. They grew In that way and my parents (divorced) both had insurance on me, but argued over whose responsibility it should be.

Well now it’s mine but I can’t afford it.

7. Let people be happy.

Excitement. Let people be excited about shit. Let them like things you don’t. Let people express powerful positive emotions. And cry. And get deep into how to show anger respectfully.

The worst feeling is being super excited about something and then getting put down for it. Makes me want to burst into tears when it happens and it makes me want to do it when I see it happen to others too.

That type of embarrassment is hard to handle and recover from.

6. Let people like things.

Everything that doesn’t harm others but makes the person happy. Be silly, enjoy yourself. Make snow angels in the rain, I don’t care.

5. It is what it is.

Dark eye bags

I like my eyebags I am just tired of people giving me unsolicited advice about it. I am also tired of others telling to use makeup to hide them, like no thank you.

4. Dancing is supposed to be joyful.

One thing I will never make fun of someone for is how they dance. I don’t care if they dance “white” or if they have no rhythm or if they’re just moving side-to-side; if they’re having fun, that’s literally all that matters.

Making fun of someone who’s having fun will kill that fun, and I refuse to be a killjoy.

3. People are never happy.

*not * being active on social media… get off my back

Odd how important it’s become, more odd that some folks assume other folks think it’s equally important

2. Everyone has different dreams.

I’m a cleaner and I’ve literally had people say to me after I tell them; ‘so you studying or what are you looking to do?’ ‘i’d never clean toilets’ and the worst one was ‘so, just haven’t found your dream job yet?’

Like, no, Greg. I’m OCD and have ADD, this is my dream job. I’m on my feet all day, I get to make things perfect and the satisfaction is incredible for my mental health, I’m able to support myself and my son and and I also get to help the elderly and disabled, who wouldn’t want to have that chance on a daily basis.

Also, clean your fucking toilet Greg. It’s nasty as hell.

1. A real issue.

Mental health struggles.

There’s nothing wrong with taking time to figure out what process works for you, despite what other people tell you.

Mental health / mental illness is a real issue for a lot of people, and society in general has a hard time understanding them and are quick to judge, making the ones who struggle with it feel insecure about asking for help and getting treatment.

Shame this stigma still exists in 2021.

I think we would all feel so much freer if we could agree to mind our own business.

What would you add to this list? Tell us what else we should let go in the comments!

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Funny Memes That Are Here For You in Your Time of Need

If there’s one thing we can rely on in this crazy world, it’s probably memes. There’s nothing certain in this life except for death, taxes, and memes, after all. They are ever-present. Ever-growing. Ever-multiplying.

And we can step outside into the digital atmosphere and catch them on our tongues like binary-coded snowflakes, each unique, but similar, each fleeting, and yet part of a cycle of creation that will endure forever.

Sorry, got a little lost in my flowery language there. Desperately trying to put this liberal arts degree to work, I guess. Anyway, here are some great memes.

10. Very true

I can hear the triumphant music playing mockingly in my head.

9. Saving grace

Why are you the way that you are?

8. Flip the switch

They’re approaching like 700 episodes at this point, it’s only a matter of time.

7. Behold the pale horse

“I’m like, the bringer of the foreboding, or whatever.”

6. Quit bugging me

Thank you, I am uncomfortable.

5. Break it down

There’s really just no getting around it.

4. My number two priority

Bruh don’t put this in my head.

3. A spirited debate

How do you solve a problem like Maria?

2. What’s in the box?

It’s more like pressing the button will give someone who’s already a millionaire a million more dollars, and we’re scrambling over each other to slam it.

1. Owl be seeing you

These things are just full of surprises.

Thank you memes, for being there for us. Day in and day out. You soldier on. You are always here.

What are your favorite kinds of memes?

Tell us in the comments.

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12 Times Adults Asked Really Dumb Questions

If you’ve spent any time working in customer service – retail, at a restaurant, at a call center, or anywhere else that faces the public – then there is a 100% chance you’ve got an entire journal’s worth of unbelievably stupid interactions.

People, it turns out, really aren’t that smart…and also, they tend to think they’re the most important person in the world to literal strangers.

These 12 stories should bring back some not-so-great memories, but they should be good for a laugh.

12. If only that first one was true.

That owning a fitbit does not make you skinny and today I had to explain to a couple that just because the amazon echo box doesn’t state that it uses wifi.

It will still use it as it needs it to be a smart home device.

11. Maybe she’s magic.

My first job at 16 was Party City. One day, I’m blowing up balloons at the balloon counter and a lady comes up to buy some latex balloons. I ask if she wants us to fill them and she said no, she’d do it at home. Making small talk, I said oh you must have one of the party time helium tasks at home.

“No, I blow them up with my mouth. You just put the string on them and they float!”

I do the multiple blinks, trying to work out in my head what she’s just said. She fully believed she could blow up the balloons with her mouth and the magic was attaching a string. I tried to give this woman an impromptu chemistry lesson. She insisted.

I still think about that magic woman to this day.

10. This happened on Seinfeld.

That you can’t return the shorts that you’re currently wearing…

9. I think you’ve found the problem.

That I couldn’t help them diagnose their internet connectivity issues if they don’t find their modem’s power cord.

8. You’ll have to pick one.

I understand you want to protect your personal information but I cannot send you what you want unless you give me your address!

7. That cook though.

Here are a few favorites as a bartender:

A drink is LIQUID. Bad Idea to shake it around.

Yes, the “no smoking” sign also applies to people who are addicted.

Yes, the people on the tables around you are drunk. And No, I’m not going to kick them out. (srsly, what were they expecting when entering a bar at 2am?)

You Still have to pay the entire meal, even though you only ate half of it. (especially because they asked us to pack other half for them to take home)

No you’re not allowed to test our liquor by taking a shot unless you buy a shot.

The kitchen door as well as the backroom door are closed for a reason and that reason is not to hide “the good stuff” EDIT: I was informed by my cook that he is, in fact, “the good stuff”

EXPOSURE DOESN’T PAY MY FUCKING BILLS

Your Kid is not going to get alcohol from me. (most of the time I can kinda understand the question, as legal drinking age when accompanied by your parents is only 14 for light beverages here in austria, but that kid looked like it still went to primary school!), and I don’t care that it’s his birthday.

No we’re not running an illegal smuggling business in the back, you just watch too many movies. (also, did you really believe that I’d tell you if it were the case)

No you can’t pay in insert weird Cryptocurrency here (I’ve had that twice, AFTER explaining to them that we don’t take CC)

I don’t know your “regular”. You’ve been here twice, and one of those times I wasn’t even working.

6. That’s not how this works.

A very pissed high society woman came to the store saying her brand new 3000 dollars Microsoft surface bought by her husband was defective because she could not get internet when she was on the move. I wondered if she had a version with a 3g/4g Sim card but quickly realized she was talking about wifi.

I tried explaining to her how wifi works and that she could not use her own wifi outside her house but could share her smartphone internet connection. She would have none of it. She said I was lying to her and making fun of her and asked to speak to my manager who then proceeded to tell her the exact same thing. She left almost screaming…

5. Everyone’s got a sad story.

My business is not a charity. We don’t give you whatever you want just because you have a sad story.

4. Bless her heart.

My mum once went on holiday across the country and asked me for the home WiFi password cause the hotel she was in wanted her to pay to use theirs. “But I have it at home!” She didn’t get it and thought I was being so cruel not letting her use it.

3. There are so many of us!

In a couple different lines of business, I’ve had women start to give me the “I’m a single mom” sob story and I say enthusiastically “I am too!” and you can see the wind go right out of their sails that I’m not going to cut them a deal out of pity.

2. He must have felt like getting frisked.

I worked at the airport and someone wanted to go through TSA with a 2 liter bottle of Coca Cola. I calmly explained that liquids weren’t allowed through security. The man gave the most genuine chuckle I’ve ever heard and said “oh! This isn’t Coca Cola! It’s gasoline!”

My coworker beat me to a reaction cause he very loudly exclaimed “What the fuck???”

1. Are you sure?

You can’t apply a coupon if you 1) don’t have it with you and 2) doesn’t even apply to wtf you ordered.

Bless the people who commit their careers to helping other humans make their way in the world – it’s not easy!

If you’ve got a great story you’re dying to share, our comments are open!

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