Man Asks if It’s Immature to Entertain Childhood Fantasies as an Adult

Most of us know that we have to grow up at some point – it’s just part of the package deal of being human.

You get to be a kid for a little while, with other people taking care of you and buying you things and making your dinner every night while you do whatever, and then, you have to do all of that stuff for yourself (and kids of your own, if you so choose).

That said, you don’t necessarily have to leave all the vestiges of youth behind. There are ways to bring your childhood on through, to still get enjoyment out of the whimsy and daydreams – if you do it wisely.

Am I immature to still think about my childhood fantasies ? from NoStupidQuestions

This guy wonders whether or not his continuing to indulge his childhood fantasies means he’s somehow stunted, and these 16 people weigh in.

15. Creativity should be valued.

I think some of the issue is that creativity is made to feel wrong and cheap, think about it. When you go to school if you’re not good at Maths you’re not allowed in the Maths Team but the geeky kids are allowed to be in the school play because “everyone should have a go” people who are rubbish at art are lauded but those who are good are regarded as “nothing special” because again “everyone can draw” we also get this message from X factor and The voice, well anyone can get up and sing, you don’t have to work for it.

Creative jobs don’t pay very well and if you say you’re an artist or a writer or musician unless your work is well known people don’t take you seriously but creative people create, it’s just what we do! It’s as natural as maths to an accountant or the periodic table to a scientist.

So when our minds wander and we start being creative which is natural to us, it looks like daydreaming to others and it’s discouraged and when we share those thoughts we are laughed at and made to feel stupid so we do it alone and in private where others can’t see but there’s nothing wrong with it, we need that outlet, it’s healthy. Keep creating friend.

14. We need to reshape who is allowed to be “creative.”

Your post is nice and supportive of many but I’d like to dispute this notion that creativity belongs to the arts.

Many scientific, engineering and mathematical solutions are creative in their nature too. Many people working in these fields are just as much a “creative” as any musician or artist.

13. Creativity is a healthy outlet.

It’s not childish. It’s creative.

Have you tried writing stories or playing Dungeons & Dragons?

12. Daydreaming allowed.

I still have stories and characters floating around in my head that were there since high school ( im almost 40 now ), and sometimes it’s fun to just go for a walk and make movies in my head. Walking, thinking, sometimes humming soundtracks are all things I’ve done since I was young.

It should be no surprise that as an adult, I do creative work for a living and I’m pretty good at it. I went from imagining the things to making the things.

As I’ve gotten older though, I’ve found these kinds of daydreams can be unproductive, and can sometimes contribute to perfectionism or overthinking ideas. I can sometimes overly fixate on an idea because it feels good to think about, even though there are plenty of other valid solutions and paths to take which can often times be better than the thing I’m holding on to.

The only big change now as an older adult is that I put rules about what I can daydream about. I tend to not daydream or fantasize about projects I’m actually doing, especially the outcomes. I also avoid anything that has to do with me personally as that can negatively impact my mental health.

It really helped my creative work to free myself of the need to document or use my daydreaming productively. Now it’s something I just do for me, for fun. It’s like exercising for your mind to render all this stuff in your head. I’ll probably always be this way until the end of my days.

11. New things to try.

I was writing story only when I was a kid, but I have never done in my adulthood, and unfortunately I’ve never played D&D.

10. That’s how you know it’s a good story.

It’s always when I’m going to sleep as well!

Sometimes it backfires though and I stay awake longer because exciting things happen…

9. Sounds like a good use of time to me.

I used to pretend I was a captain of a merchant ship when I was younger, and I’d write a captain’s log by candlelight in my bedroom.

I had an entire world map that I imagined and drew, myself, on the front page of my journal. Full with cities with imagined names, and different ports.

I even had an old PC game where you had to sail to different ports and trade, and you could out the game disc in a CD player to play the soundtrack from the game.

8. Just one more reason to love going to sleep.

Me too!

I actually look forward to going to sleep because I love creating worlds and stories in my head before sleep and I can’t do it during the day.

7. Fantasy worlds aren’t childish.

Every good story has to start with some fantasizing!

Being an adult doesn’t mean you can’t continue, it just means you have more freedom to pursue it. Lord of the Rings, A Song of Ice and Fire, Witcher, and lots more huge fantasy worlds were thought up of and worked on by adults like yourself.

You should keep writing!

6. I want to know more, too!

I find it fascinating. Would love to know how these worlds changed/evolved over the years (as your maturity level and understanding of things changed). It’s too bad we don’t have a “third eye” that is actually a projector to project our ideas/memories.

And I don’t think that means you’re immature at all. I’ve actually read numerous studies that show that this ability to imagine/create/fantasize usually diminishes by the age of 16. Researchers found their only conclusion was our society causes us to stop imagining from fear of still acting like a child, as is your worry.

But…if we kept this ability past the age of 16 we would see Alzheimer’s and dementia rates reduce drastically. I wish I kept a link to the story, but I don’t think it’s childish at all. You’re keeping your mind fresh.

5. Make sure you write it down.

Sit down and just write something. Don’t worry about it being perfect. The important part is that you write. It can be hard to start, but if you just put your fingers on the keys and move them around a bit, just writing any old thing, you’ll get going.

Don’t edit on the fly. Just shit out whatever you’ve got, and when you’re done, then edit.

Write whatever stories come to you easiest first. Don’t worry about big narratives or anything. You don’t even have to start at the beginning; you can just start anywhere and plug that chunk in somewhere else at a later time.

Volume is what’s important at first. That’s the chunk of wood you’re gonna practice on and whittle down into something usable.

Another thing you could do is to get into oral-tradition storytelling, and whenever any kids are around, you tell em one of your stories. They like that.

Or just enjoy thinking about em at night. No harm in that.

4. I’m fascinated by these people’s brains!

I’ve had bedtime fantasies ever since I was small. I don’t make up my own worlds though, I insert my self into what ever fantasy world I happen to be into at the moment by shaping the story round me. Over time I’ve become better at this; before I use to just drop in my avatar in the interesting bits with no background and the other characters would just roll with it. But now my stories have gotten more sophisticated and I find a way to organically introduce my avatar into the story and take part in all the fun. I live in a very rural area and don’t have any day to day friends so my imagination is very active. I want to be friends with these characters in these story’s and this how I do it.

So I design a avatar, with a nice complicated back story. This person evolves over time to fit the each new story. She is usually around sixteen, long hair some times natural colors, sometimes not, shares my general personality. She is always some kind of fighter (wish I was), maybe trained to be an assassin. Parents are always out of the picture, either dead or have no factor in the story at all. I want to separate it from my real life as much as possible, so no parents, (also because parents are a limitation) no younger sister, and a different name and at least a slightly different look.

I am crazy about fantasy so she she is usually a magical being of some kind, winged elves are a favorite. It gets very complicated and I have to make up histories and explanations to fit is it in and smooth it over and it’s time consuming. But I think it is good practice for if I ever want to write a story (probably not). It’s so much fun and I can just sit in a chair day dreaming until mum tells at me to stop saying vacant at the floor. I hope I never stop.

3. Childish and immature aren’t necessarily the same thing.

Oh it is absolutely childish… but that’s a thing to be proud of!

It’s not immature.

Man, “childish” has a very bad meaning among people just because children are often “not good enough”. Sadly, this is the only word that some people will find meaningful, since “immature” sounds too grown up to be a serious offense.

2. That’s a take.

People who do this are real players. People who just fall asleep without thinking about anything or claim to have no internal monologue are NPC’s and are just there to flesh out the simulation.

Think of them as advanced AI.

1. Just a mind exercise.

Oh gods it’s so lovely to know I’m not alone!

That’s how I get to sleep. I don’t know how people just close their eyes and drift off into slumber.

You might not be able to go back to being a kid, but you can keep dreaming. It’s preferable even.

At least, that’s what I think – weigh in with your own comments down below!

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February 25, 2021

People Who Have Totally Amazing Skills That They Could Never Put on a Resume

There are skills that we work so hard on because we think they will advance our careers, and then there are the things we do because we love them, or they just come to us naturally.

The things that sure, maybe aren’t that objectively impressive, but to us, are really something to be proud of – and these 11 people are dying to share theirs with the world.

11. That’s seriously impressive!

I was the English-language maintainer of the world’s largest open-source public general library software which one could use to share any ebook file for scholarly purposes.

It is a software used by literally millions each year, and though I have not been involved for ten years, it’s probably the single largest impact I’ve ever had on society, and only about 22 people know it was once hosted out of my dorm room.

10. You might not want to let on.

I helped unionize my workforce and bargain the contract, with a 35% pay rise

9. Something to be proud of.

I am retirement age, so my resume is never going to change.

What I am proud of is that I have never used alcohol, tobacco, or abused drugs. Not even once.

I have seen these things cause friends and family to pay a high price, including my best friends life.

Even though I don’t understand it , I have the ultimate respect for any one who can overcome an addiction to any of these things.

8. That took a lot of time.

I’ve completed every Halo game solo on Legendary, and every VidMaster challenge.

7. A wordsmith.

I won 3rd place in the r/RWBY story contest.

6. Sometimes life surprises you.

Due to a very traumatic divorce that led me to crying jags from 1984 to 1987, I was unable to function in my psychiatry career. Until then, the ivory tower of academia and psychiatric practice had been all I had learned. But I wanted to make a sabbatical out of that for those three years and I went into the work force. Much as student organizations forced some university presidents to get down from their cloud nine and dig ditches to see what the lives of the students were like.

I entered the then-established Kelley Girls Temp Agency, now known as Kelley Services. I passed the tests required and was allocated jobs such as clerking, expediting, assisting executive secretaries, writing resumes, etc…With my confidence, rapid learning, and ability to adapt, I amazed everybody. I was taught word processing and my engineers were admired for computerizing their drafts “as accurately as we’ve never seen before.” I also helped sell, sell, sell an owner of a specialty women’s clothing. She was shocked that I had charmed her old customers to buy more tickets than before. And I brought in new customers to buy or order their quinceanera dresses from that store, particularly young Latina girls.

My mastery of the English language won me appreciation due to my Philippine heritage.

I then quit Kelley Girls and became a recruitment specialist. My success in that business was such that I wouldn’t have left it if I were just after money. But I returned to my passion, Psychology, in due course.

These were the lessons from those three years of my life that I learned:

(1) That people worked very hard in the labor force and gained very little,

(2) That women had to work harder than men and, by competing with one another, hindered themselves,

(3) That big-name tech firms were lying to their staff,(4) That there were unhappy lives of many professional people whom I employed for higher paid positions and whom I had to interview in costly cocktail lounges. One optical physicist, for example, a former football player, wished that he were a woman “because all my wife (his fourth) does is stay at home, primp, and spend my money.”

(5) That there was a science I never heard about, Like Tritium Engineering, which I had to study for companies that needed those skills to find recruits.

(4) That you can get anywhere you want to go by combining curiosity, the ability to study and learn, language mastery, trust, and charm.

It made me very, very happy to know that, without becoming a doctor/psychiatrist, I could live very well in the world. Later on in my life, in addition to practicing psychology, I became an entrepreneur because of the above experiences.

5. Taking initiative.

I stopped a young girl from taking her life, after she told me that she wanted to “take a bunch of pills and fall asleep”.

I actually referenced it in my resume, with my experience on the Therapy Site we talked on, but they didn’t bring it up in the interview.

4. Too many wolves.

I am very Kind Hearted.

I think it would be silly for some people that i am sharing this , but i think i am proud of my kindness and i would never put it on my resume bcoz its never needed.

3. The more you know.

I’ve reviewed literally thousands of resume’s over the years, and the number of people who put “Mensa Member” on them is much higher than you’d expect.

Resume goes right in the trash.

2. The best accomplishment of all.

Getting out of being suicidal, well kinda getting out, I’m on my way at least.

1. I’ll be right over.

I make a MEAN shakshuka.

Don’t overcook the eggs; The yolks should still be runny.

Don’t make it too thin(if you do, just reduce it some before adding the eggs). It should be able to be put on top of a slice of bread or similar without all of it just running off the sides.

Sometimes the most useless talents to other people are the ones that mean the most to us, don’t you think?

Share yours with us in the comments!

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February 18, 2021

People Share the Financial Splurges They’ve Never Regretted

It’s important to be financially responsible, to save for the future and make good decisions with our money.

It’s also important to balance those responsibilities with having a little fun, rewarding ourselves for our hard work, and generally making the journey to financial security worth taking.

If you’re looking to feel better about your own relationship with debt and progress, here are 18 people who bought themselves something really nice – and didn’t end up regretting it at all.

18. If you like to work with your hands.

Spending hundreds of euros on broken musical instruments because they were pretty.

I have since bought spare parts and started repairing them.

I found my destiny.

17. Not a bad price for a changed life.

Just shy of $20,000 to go to Antarctica traveling solo (small cruise ship). More than I’ve spent on every other vacation I’ve taken combined.

Was one of the best trips of my life. It also gave me enough space and clarity to realize how toxic my ex was to me so that I could find the strength to leave not long after I got back.

I’ll always want to go back to Antarctica. The inner peace I found there changed my life.

16. It really is the little things.

My Couch. I moved out of my moms house last year (2019 so no covid) and I always wanted a good couch. I tested so much. I went to so many furniture stores. Looked at so many different models. And then choose mine.

Its actually from Ikea. Three seats and long enough to let someone sleep on it. In a grey but I saw they were also having a black cover so I am thinking about getting that one. Extremely comfortable. I wanted a couch where you could chill out and love how fluffy it is without losing the ability to sit on it.

In some couches you are not able to lean on the back and still have a straight back. You can sit on the back board and the armrests. They are flat so you can also put a cup of tea on them.

Its also not too low so you dont feel like sitting on the ground (which I do strangely often compared to my love for this couch) but you can let yourself fall onto that damn thing! It also looks easy and simple.

So I dont want the suggestion of someone who tried a LOT of couches and happens to be me then buy the Vimle couch from Ikea.

15. A surprise pleasure.

I spent $300 on a mule. An actual living, 4 hooved, long-eared mule. We raise cattle, so a protection mule was a good excuse. But, really, I just fell in love with him. He’s huge and sassy.

He’ll steal your hat and run away. He’s got a Ninja mode where he can sneak up on you, just to breathe down your neck or startle you. He does keep the coyotes away.

However, he has proved himself priceless because he eats thistle. When we got the lease on the land for our cattle the pastures had been neglected and were in bad shape. Thistle is a spiky plant that spreads across the pasture, choking out grasses. Cow’s won’t eat it. It’s really hard to get rid of.

To our surprise, the mule cleared out nearly all the thistle in a matter of months. He would eat the flowers out of the center. He saved us an enormous amount of money and labor. We were able to avoid using chemical weed killers, which we really didn’t want to do. Probably the best investment in our whole cattle raising experience.

14. Confidence is key.

I’ve been a fat guy all my life. Like, really fat. Dressing comfortably was always my preference because being stylish just isn’t an option at my size. This was always a source of anxiety at any social event that required dressing up.

When I realized I had 4 weddings of close friends all coming up within the year, I decided to bite the bullet and get some decent “formal” clothes. I spent $800 on a suit jacket, $250 on two pairs of dress pants, a little over $300 for 3 shirts and 3 silk ties that were between $70 and $100 each. I stood for all my measurements and had everything tailored to my exact specifications.

Did a fitting and had a second round of alterations on the pants so they actually looked decent, even though I wore them under my gut. People were floored when I showed up to the first wedding. I received so many compliments and actual double takes. Being introduced to new people felt completely different. I felt impressive.

Some of those weddings were the best times of my life and it was due, in no small part, to how those clothes looked and made me feel. Some of those friends have big pictures from their weddings hanging on their walls, and I don’t cringe in embarrassment when I see myself in them.

Those clothes cost more than I had/have ever spent on clothing in any ten year period, and they were worth every penny.

13. Never underestimate something that deals with poop.

My Litter Robot.

Yes, I spent $600 on a cat shi**er, but my house never smells.

Also, I don’t have to scoop litter, and I only have to empty the drawer once a week.

Definitely worth it to me.

12. With his own two hands.

Finally found the motorcycle I wanted years ago but could not get. It was not running, but after around dumping $3,500 into it and doing a full frame up restoration and custom job on it.

I have the bike I wanted years ago, but better. Yes I did everything myself, full paint job Tank frame fenders everything. I also did a full engine rebuild, remade the wiring harness, everything was all done in house.

So I put a touch over 3K into a bike that is only worth about $1,500. on a good day, but hell it is mine and I built it.

11. Definitely got his money’s worth.

I spent too much money on a big treadmill for a very small apartment.

But I’ve ran 15-25 km on it every week for the past several years and it’s been incredibly helpful both physically and mentally.

10. This actually sounds lovely.

$120 for a towel heater.

I will never dry off with a cold towel again.

9. Happiness is priceless.

Art work.

Can I always afford it? No.

But my walls are full of original, 90% local art.

They make me happy to look at, I’m sure I made the artist happy too.

8. This is just the best story.

I went to a Renaissance Fair with my husband and some friends. It was his first time, and he’s a pretty introverted person, so while he has fun watching everyone else dress up and act all goofy and old-timey, he doesn’t really participate.

When we went to buy our first beer, the wench tried to sell him on one of those big mugs that looks like it’s carved out of wood but it’s just plastic. It cost $100. Yes, you get free refills, but we were not planning on drinking $100 worth of beer that day.

I could tell by the look on his face that he wanted it- he looked like a little kid at Disney World. Without thinking, I whipped out my credit card and dropped $100 on a shitty plastic mug.

All day, he walked around proudly with his mug. He even took some big gulps and cheered “huzzah” once or twice. This might not seem like much but for my quiet, gentle giant, it is huge. I manage the finances in our relationship and I am CONSTANTLY cracking down on wasteful spending, so I think we were both amazed I made such a dumb purchase.

Four years later, we still have that mug. He gets a big grin every time he sees it and teases me about my irresponsible impulse. And every time I see it, I just think about how much I love that big galoot…

7. You can’t put a price on beauty.

$800 for a front seat helicopter tour of Kauai for me and my wife!

Totally worth it!

6. Hours of entertainment.

Lego Death Star.

5. They bring people together!

board games, they are expensive, but they bring much joy

4. Experiences, not things.

I spent $3000 for my wife to meet the backstreet boys and get front row seats.

It is the best thing that has ever happened to her and the smile on her face after the show and look of pure bliss in someone who suffers often from anxiety was worth every cent.

3. Neither of you will forget it.

A quick 7 day trip to Maui in February a couple years ago with one of my teenage daughters. Work was grinding me down and I needed a break.

My wife and the rest of the family couldn’t go, they were working or in school. The tickets were expensive, $850 each for bare-bones economy narrow rock hard seats, it was a 12 hour flight that was packed to the brim – I was getting bedsores by the time we arrived.

We rented snorkeling gear and a car, and spent every day from dawn to dusk snorkeling, sitting on the beaches and hiking in the mountains; we did the Hana road, the Seven Sacred Pools and the Haleakalā volcano national park at sunset, and took tons of photos. We ate spam musubi for breakfast, poke and somen noodles for lunch and loco moko for supper. Slept like babies with the windows open wide in the cool nighttime breezes.

The best way to blow $5,000 EVER. So much what I needed at that point in my life.

2. Now that’s an apology.

I got into a stupid fight with my brother, so I found a game he had pledged on kickstarter (Space Haven) and saw that for 360 dollars I could write a premade character bio that would randomly show up.

So I pledged it and wrote a character bio with his name and made him a flaming asshole. I have never played this game and don’t want to.

1. If you use it every day, good decision.

GE Opal nugget ice maker.

Dang thing cost more than my car payment but, man oh man, I love nugget ice and I use it the heck out of it every day.

I need to get better about picking and choosing my splurges, but I don’t plan on not making any, either.

What’s your favorite expensive purchase? Tell us about it in the comments!

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February 18, 2021

Karen Memes That Are Totally True and Satisfying

Karen season is year-round, so prepare yourselves for the passive-aggressive onslaught of a lifetime.

I’ll bet you really thought you could escape those pesky middle-aged white moms by hunkering down in isolation.

Too bad the internet is where these ladies thrive best, and the Karen memes are in vast abundance.

1. The reviews are in

And they are totally contingent upon this one person’s opinion.

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2. Uh oh

We love playing an Uno reverse card on a pesky Karen.

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3. Automatically triggered

Honestly, I’m here for this kind of energy.

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4. On the latest episode of Jeopardy!

Something tells me that this is not how you’re supposed to participate in couples counseling.

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5. Incoming

East Florida, please stock up on supplies, perishables, and a whole lot of thick skin in preparation for Hurricane Karen.

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6. How inconvenient

She just picked the worst time to go into labor, didn’t she?

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7. Home sweet home

Behind every Karen is an inherently toxic environment.

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8. #badmood

How can you have an attitude like this on Splash Mountain?

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9. Every restaurant’s nightmare

Just you wait, their peak hours are 2PM-4PM, and they come in droves.

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10. Wow

Girl, why did you even get the game?

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11. The power dynamic here

Now, that’s what I call totally imbalanced!

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12. That’s pretty accurate

Seriously, they all make this exactly same expression.

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Next time you have an unfortunate encounter with a real life Karen, just remember these memes. They’ll fortify you for the journey ahead.

What’s your worst run-in with a Karen? Share your story with us in the comments!

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February 18, 2021

People Think It’s High Time We Stopped Feeling Insecure About These Things

One of the hardest things to deal with is finding a way to love yourself – and all of the ways society says you’re not good enough definitely don’t make it easier.

“They” say we should feel insecure or self-conscious about so many things, but what if we all just…stopped?

Not about the important things, maybe but these 13 people have some ideas of stuff we could definitely stop making feel badly about like, today.

13. It takes all of us.

Their jobs. If you clean/fix sewerage pipes, then thanks for your service. Someone must have the balls to do it.

There are few people more responsible for the clean, relatively disease free, safe, modern world we live in than sanitation workers.

This includes janitors, street cleaners, garbage workers and anyone who cleans up after the rest of us.

I have as much respect for them as I do fire fighters and EMTs.

12. There is power in silence.

Being quiet.

“You never say anything” is such a weird way to both draw attention to someone and give them nothing to work with.

i understand being quiet is not a “meditation” for everyone, but damn. not having endless mental chatter is wonderful. not having endless verbal chatter directed AT YOU without room to respond is good, too.

11. And forget trying to apologize.

Making any kind of mistake.

Social media has created an illusion that everyone has to be perfect.

10. This is a good one.

The way someone laughs.

This world is cold and unforgiving. Laughing makes it all a little less heavy. Who gives a f*ck a what it sounds like?

I’ll never forget in high school when I was laughing in Spanish class. The girl in front of me turned around and went, “ew girl, you got an ugly laugh” and EVERYONE started laughing with her.

It’s been 15 years and I’m STILL self-conscious of my laugh because of that.

9. I feel this in my old bones.

Aging and the unavoidable physical changes that come with it.

8. College isn’t for everyone.

Trade school/gap years- college right after hs isn’t for everyone. even Some of my smartest friends- top of my class should’ve taken a gap because they burned themselves out getting 95-97% avgs throughout HS.

I never should have jumped into college. I went for something I was talked into (because it paid a lot), was miserable, changed majors, still wasn’t happy. Graduated with a degree, 13 years ago, that I never used.

I didn’t know what I wanted to do. I needed time to figure it out. And money isn’t all that matters.

7. It’s called hormones, folks.

having acne, it doesn’t mean you’re dirty or don’t wash your face.

it’s simply a skin condition some people get and some people don’t.

6. It just means you need time alone to recharge.

Being an introvert doesn’t mean you can’t have fun with people.

5. Can I get an amen.

Needing mental health treatment.

Even if that treatment includes medication.

I get so many weird backhanded comments when people find out I take psychiatric medication.

I hate that people think of it as the “easy way out” and view me as giving up or being weak.

4. Everyone is different.

Your choice of career.

Another one: not having having a dream career.

3. Everyone should have access to that space.

Exercising in public. To me anyone giving it a go, no matter their physical ability, deserves praise!

Honestly from my experience most gym rats are the most encouraging to heavy people. A few of the guys I used to “work out with” (just be at the gym the same time every morning) kinda made it a point to say small comments to this very heavyset guy that worked out at the same time as us in the morning “you got this brother.”

“Keep up the good work man” “you’re looking good man.” This guy’s face always lit up and he always pushed harder when anyone encouraged him.

2. Learn to say “I’m sorry.”

Being wrong. It’s okay to be wrong, just be open to learning. Instead of doubling down or getting angry.

People would be a lot smarter if we could all just admit when we don’t know, or when we have been wrong about something!! There is always room to grow, and it’s more than okay to change your mind.

1. People can’t help it.

Baldness. It doesn’t seem to be as common for it to happen naturally with women, but for men and women, it can be a really sore subject, especially if it starts happening at a fairly early age.

You could be in control of every other aspect of your life, but if you start losing hair early, it can take the wind out of your sails.

I vote we all make an effort, what do you say?

What’s something you wish you could stop feeling badly about today? Tell us in the comments!

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February 18, 2021

Small Town Residents Share Their Darkest Secrets

People who don’t live in small towns tend to romanticize them.

A place where everyone knows everyone else, the kids can still play together until dark, and there are like, pies sitting on windowsills or something.

People who do live in small towns, or who have, know that along with the friendliness and the charm, they can have a dark side like everywhere else – and these 16 little places have their secrets.

16. Just horrible.

A freshman with aspergers was being abused by his family at home. He was a problem child and got in trouble on purpose but no one went too hard on him because of his home life, he was a well loved kid at school and in the community. One day just before Holiday break in December he was really sick but his mom sent him to school anyway. Locked him out of the house.

He decided to try and get into one of the empty houses down the street, through the chimney. Now this kid was the size of a 2nd grader, but he was too big to fit through since chimneys taper down thinner.

Mom never answered her phone when the school reported him missing. Went a whole day without reporting her kid missing. No one knew what happened to him.

It was about a month and a half before we knew what happened to him. We all thought he ran away, was alive somewhere, maybe went to his sisters house. Nope. Dead in a chimney.

The schools organized an entire week of counseling and such, they wore pink for a day and handed out little pink ribbons on pins for him since his favorite color was pink. Everyone was hit really hard by it.

That’s how our small town started 2020. It hasn’t gotten any better as you can see. So weird that its almost been a year now..

15. I’d say that qualifies as dark.

About 10 years ago a lot of homeless people disappeared and when the police did the investigation they found out a guy was kidnapping and eating those people.

Police found his hideout and found a half eaten body and bones from another person. People don’t like to talk about it but everyone knows what happened.

14. Talk about eccentric.

We had a crazy rich guy from the 1600-1700s who saw people robbing a grave one night so decided that when he died he would be laid to rest in the roof of a barn behind his house.

He believed he’d only be dead for 30 years so requested that they lock the barn and put the key in his coffin so he could get out but nobody could get in. He requested that whoever inherited his house, fortune and belongings would have to give them back to him when he resurrected.

He did actually get his wish but of course he was never resurrected, people stole his bones and his house is a dentist now.

13. Kids will be…terrible.

Oh I have a doozy. Short version: popular kids in high school run a secret towel fight club and accidentally kill one of their friends in the house of a local politician, who proceeds to bury the story.

Towel fight club: tape towels over your hands and beat each other up. It’s supposed to be just boxing but it sounds like they got out of control and hardly could call it that.

12. What a horrible human being.

This was around 15 years ago, but there was a Sheriff’s Deputy that was seemingly a really cool guy. Friendly, cracked a lot of great jokes, etc. He was working at the local high school as a School Resource Officer and was apparently almost universally well regarded.

Well, it turns out that he repeatedly raped a 14 year old. He told the boy that he’d kill his parents if he reported the officer. I don’t remember all the details, but I believe this went on for weeks or months before it was found out and the officer was arrested and eventually went to prison.

11. My heart.

This is a sad one to me. There was an older couple here who ran a halfway house for troubled kids who’d recently gotten out of juvie, they fostered a few as well. They were loved in the community, wonderful people.

One of them had an older brother who was a gangbanger in the nearest big city. During a visit, he snuck his 15 year old younger bro a handgun. Younger bro ended up holding up a local gas station and killed three people. One of them was my friend’s cousin.

The foster parents lost whatever credentials they needed to do what they did, the kids went back into the system, and the giant house has been abandoned since around 2009.

10. He wasn’t alone.

Ours was a football coach and history teacher.

When he was coaching, we won almost every game. When he wasn’t, we lost most of them, so I had to assume that meant he was a great coach. I had him for 2 history classes and even though his jokes were mean and inappropriate, we loved it and learned a lot. He had the highest test scores out of all the history teachers in our school.

A little over a decade after I graduated, he went to jail for sexually assaulting a 15-year-old girl. I wish I could feel like justice was served, but we had several male teachers who regularly made inappropriate passes and gestures towards the female students (starting at age 11) like spanking us and making us sit still while they gave us awkward massages. He was not one of those teachers…

9. At least they fixed it.

There’s a half submerged submarine from the war in the bay where I live, you can walk out to it when the tide is out. In the late 80s somebody cut open the hatch (one of the only visible parts left sticking out the sand), climbed in at was having a look around.

The tide came in and he drowned. If I remember rightly the whole hatch was filled with cement, then welded shut to stop it happening again.

8. Truly tragic.

Two sisters got picked up by a group of men.

Both were raped and thrown off a bridge that is 45 minutes outside of town.

One sister survived but Later in life went back and jumped off the bridge.

7. All too common.

The town I was raised in wasn’t exactly small, but here’s the one “dark secret” I know: my hometown was where lots and lots of sports players had their mansions. And so of course, their wives and children were out and about in the community a lot.

Every single sports-player-wife in that town was (is?) heavily addicted to opioids. Every, single, one. Opioid addiction is obviously an epidemic all over the country, but among the rich wives in the town, it had a 100% ‘infection’ rate, so to speak.

I know because one of my friend’s mom was the hairdresser for basically every single one of those wives. I was homeless my senior year of HS, and one of the sports player wives heard about me from her, and she gifted me an iPhone. That phone was pennies to her, but I still wish I’d expressed my thanks more, because that wife died of an overdose not long after.

6. A bit of a bungle.

This is more comical than dark.

A house burned down in this small town of 600 population. One block from the fire station. It being a volunteer fire department, nobody was at the station. They tried to get the pumper truck out, but one of the volunteers had run it into a brick building the week before and it was still at the shop.

We’re still undecided whether the house owner burned it down for the insurance. Strange that there was nothing valuable inside.

5. Only one reason to go there.

Our local pizza place was a known KKK hub.

Everyone knew it, and still to this day, if you Google “[town] kkk” the first thing that pops up is this pizza shop.

They had some nasty-ass pizza too.

4. We may never know.

15 years ago, the local District Attorney called his longtime girlfriend and told her he was taking the day off from work and that he loved her. He parked his car in town and went for a stroll past the local shops. He hasn’t been seen since.

His car was found where he had parked it the next day – he had left his cellphone in the car, but his keys and wallet were missing. Later that year, his laptop, sans its hard drive, was found under a bridge at a nearby river. The hard drive was eventually discovered by a local woman walking along the bank of the river, but it was too damaged to recover any data from.

Interestingly, investigators discovered that someone had done a search on his home computer for “how to wreck a hard drive.”

Did he jump from a local bridge, did he encounter someone whom he had prosecuted who did him harm, or did he escape his life to start a new one?

3. It’s hard to blame them.

About 30 years ago a local 8 yo girl went missing during the annual carnival downtown. After a few days they found a suspect that was seen near the girl right before she went missing.

The guy confessed to her horrific murder And rape and torture. He was the kids next door neighbor and friend to the kid’s dad. ( I’ll spare the details but it was really bad). He was convicted and sentenced to 40 years or so.

After 8 years he was paroled and returned to the same house with his parents, right next door (laws were a bit different then) to the family of the girl and former friend.

About a week later the man never showed up at his parole office. His parents filed a missing persons report.

Rumor has it that several friends of the victims father took care of him. If you talk to them they just say that they are sure that he won’t be back.

2. One wild ride.

I don’t know if it’s considered a dark secret, but we had a soldier die under some extremely questionable circumstances.

They said he was high/drunk/experiencing mental distress and raided a nursery (the plant kind). They claimed he was attacked by wasps and ran.

He called 911 several times and claimed that someone was chasing him, and was trying to kidnap him. In the last 911 call, he said everything was fine suddenly.

Just 14-15 minutes later, he was struck by a woman who stopped and called 911. He was ran over 2 more times, and died. The autopsy showed no signs of bee or wasp stings.

The connection to the nursery is due to the fact that it was just up the road from where he died, the place was ransacked, pizza eaten, money taken. But his wallet and phone were sitting on the counter, undisturbed.

HOWEVER! The family was not ok with that explanation, especially because he had previously texted that there were some problems with the “local boys” since the soldier wasn’t from this part of the state. So the family had a private investigator look into it. They analyzed the 911 recordings, and found several instances of other people talking in the background, though most of it couldn’t be made out. Except one. In the 911 call where he told the operator that everything was fine, a male voice could be heard saying “Tell her”. And the nursery? There was no DNA, no fingerprints, no footprints that lead back to the soldier, even though his phone and wallet were there in the building.

A lot of people, his family included, think he was killed by some of the local guys there after they got into a fight about something. They chased him down, and caught him. He was able to run again after the final 911 call, and was hit by a driver while trying to get help. And the police in the county covered the entire thing up because the boys involved were connected to the department somehow. Of the three drivers, none were charged for hitting/running over him. I think only the first driver stopped, but it was discovered that one of the other drivers was connected to the department either through family or friendship.

It’s a crazy story, but you can look it up. Just search Austin McGeough. I wouldn’t be too surprised since there is a lot of shady stuff happening in small town police departments, including covering up rapes that officers commit. I really hope his family gets him justice.

1. Sometimes juries get it right.

Guy owned a bar, across the street from his house, where he lived with his wife, daughter and granddaughter of 5.

He had a contractor working on the house, Grandma who took care of the child during the day, thought it would be no big deal leaving the child sleeping while she went quickly to the market.

Next thing… is the Grandpa sees the contractor running to his car and leaving the house. Curious he went home to find out what happened, only to find his granddaughter crying with blood between her legs.

After the grandmother came back… he left the child with her, went back to the bar, got his gun, and threw the keys to one of his regulars asking him to close the bar because he had to kill someone.

When he arrived at the contractor’s home, he wasn’t there. He then spent the next 2 weeks surveying his home 24/7. Until the rapist probably thought the cost was clear… and returns home. Grandpa sees him… breaks the door, kill the guy in front of his parents, then leaves… going directly to the precinct where he surrenders his gun and makes a full confection detailing everything.

He was tried for premeditate murder… prosecution had all the evidence… testimony from his friends and parents of the rapist… the murder weapon… his confession. It’s was a close and shut case. Jury voted 7-0 not guilty. (In Brazil there’s 7 jurors and you only need a majority to convict, and not unanimous like the US)

These stories should all be movies or books, I swear.

If you’re from a small town, share your secrets with us below!

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February 18, 2021

Exhausted Husband Misunderstands His Wife, Buys an Entire Truck Full of Rice

Communication is a key part of any relationship. Aside from agreeing on what Netflix series to binge, it’s the tried-and-true cornerstone of a successful partnership.

But sometimes, no matter how hard you try, you’re just don’t end up on the same page.

That’s exactly what happened to this exasperated husband who bought an entire truck of rice who basically lost it after struggling to keep up with is wife’s grocery requests.

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So, we’re already off to a really bad start here. Cue all that pent up anger and scorn coming in like an avalanche.

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To be fair, though… who in their right mind would order an entire truck full of rice? That just sounds like the worst idea ever. I mean, where did he think they were going to store it all? A ditch?

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Now, the truck driver and this user’s brother-in-law have to try to strike up a deal right then and there, since the warehouse owner isn’t taking any calls.

This just keeps getting worse and worse.

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Mom here is the real MVP, serving as an investigative journalist and emotional support all in one day.

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Like clockwork, just as mom starts to fix something, dad manages to mess it all up again…

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Enter Manu: a key player in the developments to come in this crazy story.

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Wow, it weirdly seems like Manu might have to deal with things like this a lot.

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So the negotiations continue, and they’re not looking promising.

Apparently Manu took such a long time to return that our friend on Twitter decided to insert his own commercial break.

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As if this story couldn’t get any crazier, Manu literally got lost in the middle of negotiations.

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Wait, it looks like there might be some progress…

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Ah, and there it is.

As it turns out, Manu is also a married man, so he might be sympathetic to this situation.

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This is the point of the night when negotiations devolve into straight up bartering.

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Looks like the brother-in-law found the crack in the wall: the truck driver.

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20-25 bags might be a whole lot more manageable than an entire truck, but man, that’s still a lot of rice.

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Finally, we reach the end of our rice truck saga. It only took about 30+ tweets and an entire evening of this user bugging their mom for updates to get through it all.

Let this be a lesson to all you quarantine couples out there: always openly and honestly communicate exactly what you want. Otherwise, you might be in for a disaster like this one.

Have you ever had a major miscommunication like this? Share your story with us in the comments!

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February 18, 2021

People Are Intrigued: How Could Anyone Live in This ‘Skinny House’?

You’ve heard of tiny homes, but have you heard of a “skinny” house?

Yes, you read that right, “skinny house.” And no, this has nothing to do with diets or eating healthy.

This peculiar “skinny” home, located at 970 Chestnut St. in Deerfield, Illinois, has gained the attention of the internet. A video of the house shared on TikTok has everyone baffled.

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From this angle, the house looks impossibly narrow. ‘How could anyone live here?’ people are asking.

However, in truth, the house is not just one long line.

The house is actually larger than it appears, totaling 1600 square feet of living space.

On one end of the house, everything looks completely normal. On the opposite, narrowest end the house is only three feet wide!

Thankfully, it culminates in a bathroom, with a lovely bathroom sink and mirror placed against the final wall. So it doesn’t feel awkwardly small.

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In Deerfield, it’s known as the “pie house,” because its shape is more like that of a piece of pie (yum!).

It contains two bedrooms and three bathrooms (2 full, 1 half), and a finished basement.

If you’re interested in purchasing the house, unfortunately, you’re too late. It was purchased on August 5th, 2020, and is currently valued at $261,429.

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When you take a look from the inside, it really doesn’t look that unconventional.

So long as the owners are happy, it shouldn’t matter what the rest of the world thinks. Just because something is different, doesn’t make it bad!

Would you purchase a “skinny” house like this one? Let us know in the comments.

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February 18, 2021

People Who Got Surprised By Their DNA Results Share Their Stories

Most people who decide to spit in a little tube and send it in to be analyzed just think it would be fun to find out what countries our ancestors hailed from – if the stories our parents and grandparents have always told are correct.

Some people who are adopted or who suspect they haven’t been told the whole story about their conception or heritage, might do so with a few more hopes.

Then there are people like these 14, who went in expecting a bit of fun and ended up with whole new families instead.

14. Is…is someone going to tell her?

My cousin took a test and goes on and on about how she’s almost completely Irish. Our grandpa was German.

I’d heard from my mom as a kid that my aunt’s biological father was probably her friend’s father.

I’ve looked the family up on Facebook and my aunt looks just that friend.

My cousin seems to have no idea of any of this.

I don’t think my aunt does either.

13. That’s an understatement.

Same here. At the age of 60, I discovered who my real father was and that I have 9 half-siblings.

He was a bit of a dog!

My father and I chatted a lot until he passed away last year.

One of my sisters lives nearby and we’ve spent quality time together.

12. Gonna have to find a new brag.

My ex-husband’s family were proud of their Dutch heritage and claimed to be one of the founding families of the historically Dutch Holland, MI.

His ancestry results didn’t show any Dutch ancestry.

Instead, he had primarily English/Irish ancestry.

11. A happy ending.

Not me, but a friend never knew who his father was (mom had a weekend fling in college and never contacted the guy after) and his wife helped him use ancestry.com to try and track him down. My friend reached out and the guy was obviously surprised, but flew across the country to meet him.

They have a great relationship now, the dad attended his wedding, and they try to get their families together a couple times a year or so

10. Sacre le bleu!

One of my best friends has a very French last name and her family was always very proud of their French heritage.

Until her dad took a DNA test and found no French in their background

9. This sounds awful.

A friend discovered that her father was not really her father.

Her mom had an affair and she was the result. It tore her family apart.

Her “father” did not know he was not really her father.

Note: she was 45 years old when this happened.

8. No one wants to hear that.

That my father is a registered sex offender (parents are divorced).

7. A brother!

Not me, but a family friend.

He did the test and found out he had a half-brother. Turns out his dad had an affair a while back, and that kid was a product of that affair.

6. People never change.

My dad and Aunt found out they had an older brother!

Long story, my grandfather had a fling before he met my grandmother, never even knew he had a son, went and lived his life and some near 60 years later, BOOM!

Ancestry test, here you go!

So another really good story from this one.

5. Aww, I love this story.

A full 100% older brother. My mother got pregnant by my father before the were married. Scandalous in 1960. So, with my father’s knowledge of the situation, mom left town, and lived with my aunt until the birth.

Mom gave the baby up for adoption, and then returned home.

A couple years later, she married my dad and had three more children together, including me. Fifty five years later, after both my parents had died, my aunt let it slip that me and my siblings that were not the only children of our parents. To paraphrase from Star Wars, there is another.

My sister took a DNA test, and a couple of year later she got a hit. Soon thereafter, we met our new big brother and his family (wife, kids) and have become quite close.

4. This is all very mysterious.

So, I did the health DNA one 18 months ago because I wanted to see if I had the breast cancer gene, as there is several incidences on both sides of my family. Got my results and became very confused, it claimed I had no Italian despite my father’s grandma literally coming over from Sicily in 1920.

It took me a few minutes to realize what that actually meant. My parents have been together since my mother was 14, I was born when she was 17, and my father joined the military and married my mother. Called my mom and she literally said “that’s interesting.” Then she asked me not to talk to my father and she would explain everything the next time I visited. She did not, and just refused i talk about it.

Honestly, I was just shook. I did not see it coming and it was never even presented to be a possibility to me. My sister ended up doing a DNA test and it showed that we were half siblings. I went no contact with my mother 4 months ago, due to this incident and several others.

I haven’t told my dad but I realize at some point the truth is going to come out, my sister matched with some of my fathers relatives while I did not so if anyone checks that shit, they’re gonna be asking questions.

3. Surprise!

My dad has a cousin living in Utah. The family has always lived in Pennsylvania.

For the timing to work, his grandfather hooked up prior to coming to the US in 1918 or his grandmother had a kid and gave it up when she was like 14.

Either way, that kid would have been my Dad’s aunt/uncle which we never knew about.

2. More family to love!

Not me, My wife

A few years ago my wife and I both took the 23 and me test. One of her matches came back with 23% which is high for someone non-family. She messaged him and they started talking. He was about 10 years older, said he was adopted and the only thing he knew was some basic biological info. From his age that would have put her mom at 14 but her mom never said anything about it. So the two options were her mom got knocked up young or Grandma had a secret love child.

So she asked her youngest Uncle who said when he was a kid he remembered his sister going away for a few months because she was “sick” and the family just pretended it never happened. He also said that before his mom (my wives Grandmother) passed she told him all about it.

So my wife now has a Brother, a sister in law and nieces and nephews.