This is Why People Propose on One Knee

There are big questions about life and then there are some that are smaller, but if you ask me, they’re all good questions.

We’ve got to keep learning – at least one thing every day, that’s what my great-grandfather used to say.

If you’re curious why the traditional proposal includes the person proposing dropping to one knee, keep reading to find out – knowledge if power, people!

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The general thinking is that the practice has old roots, but is perhaps the result of a combination of practices. People have been genuflecting, or “bending the knee” to show respect and/or reverence since ancient times – Herodotus even observed the practice in Persia in 430 BCE.

“In the case where one is a little inferior to the other, the kiss is given on the cheek.

Where the difference of rank is great, the inferior prostrates himself upon the ground.”

This greeting system was adopted by Alexander the Great after he conquered that empire a hundred years later, even though many Greeks and Macedonians disapproved of the new ritual because of a belief that sort of deference should be reserved for the gods and nobody else.

It remained popular in both religious and secular spheres in the future, though, with the Catholics dropping to a knee when facing the Eucharist and warriors being knighted kneeling before their commander to be dubbed with a sword.

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It was during the knight’s heyday that kneeling began to take on a bit of a romantic bent, when knights pledged themselves to serve and honor their lovers like a or king (this is also the origin of the term “courtly love.”

There’s a good amount of artwork from the medieval period that depicts a man kneeling before the lady, and they all look a lot like a proposal (except for the armor).

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Basically, the idea of “bending the knee” has pretty much always been a sign of devotion and humility, but the romantic association probably comes from medieval knights – not a bad way to go if you’re asking someone to marry you and pick up your socks forever, I’d say.

Have you proposed? Did you get down on one knee? Tell us why or why not in the comments!

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This is Why People Propose on One Knee

There are big questions about life and then there are some that are smaller, but if you ask me, they’re all good questions.

We’ve got to keep learning – at least one thing every day, that’s what my great-grandfather used to say.

If you’re curious why the traditional proposal includes the person proposing dropping to one knee, keep reading to find out – knowledge if power, people!

Image Credit: iStock

The general thinking is that the practice has old roots, but is perhaps the result of a combination of practices. People have been genuflecting, or “bending the knee” to show respect and/or reverence since ancient times – Herodotus even observed the practice in Persia in 430 BCE.

“In the case where one is a little inferior to the other, the kiss is given on the cheek.

Where the difference of rank is great, the inferior prostrates himself upon the ground.”

This greeting system was adopted by Alexander the Great after he conquered that empire a hundred years later, even though many Greeks and Macedonians disapproved of the new ritual because of a belief that sort of deference should be reserved for the gods and nobody else.

It remained popular in both religious and secular spheres in the future, though, with the Catholics dropping to a knee when facing the Eucharist and warriors being knighted kneeling before their commander to be dubbed with a sword.

Image Credit: Public Domain

It was during the knight’s heyday that kneeling began to take on a bit of a romantic bent, when knights pledged themselves to serve and honor their lovers like a or king (this is also the origin of the term “courtly love.”

There’s a good amount of artwork from the medieval period that depicts a man kneeling before the lady, and they all look a lot like a proposal (except for the armor).

Image Credit: iStock

Basically, the idea of “bending the knee” has pretty much always been a sign of devotion and humility, but the romantic association probably comes from medieval knights – not a bad way to go if you’re asking someone to marry you and pick up your socks forever, I’d say.

Have you proposed? Did you get down on one knee? Tell us why or why not in the comments!

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13 Ridiculous Reasons People Lost Their Jobs

Losing your job sucks. It can mess with your head and your self confidence.

Getting fired brings so any new worries, at a time when you don’t have the headspace to deal with them.

But it’s even worse, when you’ve already got a lot going on.

1. How long is too long though?

Are we talking days? Hours?

A good boss might have suggested a nice fiber supplement.

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2. I’m sensing a theme

Why are employers so obsessed with potty breaks?

What do they think you’re doing in there?

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3. They were afraid she’d spend all day crying in the bathroom?

This one is so heartless I don’t even know what to say.

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4. Don’t they know there’s a movie about this?

They were afraid she’d stay after hours to make amazing new flavors of pie.

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5. What a headache

Whether or not it’s wrongful termination, you gotta hope karma gets them in the end.

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6. I guess that’s one way to avoid a lawsuit?

Or to get out of paying short term disability?

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7. It’s called the Emergency Room for a reason, guys

It’s nice to actually see one where the good guy wins.

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8. I guess their boss wasn’t a family man

Anti-family, even. Just wow.

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9. There’s a special place in hell for this employer

I mean, what exactly is a “good excuse” if not this?

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10. Pretty sure working there would give me a panic attack

That guy can join the other one in The Bad Place.

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11. Do they think it’s a gourmet celery restaurant?

No, really, do they?

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12. If they didn’t immediately get their job back then this one wins them all

I mean, you can get a doctor’s note for that right?

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13. I feel like there’s got to be a better way to say it

Somehow I’m in awe of both the worker and the boss.

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I don’t think I’ve ever heard such awful reasons–beyond the workers’ control–for being let go from a job.

What about you? Share your story in the comments.

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13 Ridiculous Reasons People Lost Their Jobs

Losing your job sucks. It can mess with your head and your self confidence.

Getting fired brings so any new worries, at a time when you don’t have the headspace to deal with them.

But it’s even worse, when you’ve already got a lot going on.

1. How long is too long though?

Are we talking days? Hours?

A good boss might have suggested a nice fiber supplement.

Image credit: Whisper

2. I’m sensing a theme

Why are employers so obsessed with potty breaks?

What do they think you’re doing in there?

Image caption: Whisper

3. They were afraid she’d spend all day crying in the bathroom?

This one is so heartless I don’t even know what to say.

Image caption: Whisper

4. Don’t they know there’s a movie about this?

They were afraid she’d stay after hours to make amazing new flavors of pie.

Image credit: Whisper

5. What a headache

Whether or not it’s wrongful termination, you gotta hope karma gets them in the end.

Image credit: Whisper

6. I guess that’s one way to avoid a lawsuit?

Or to get out of paying short term disability?

Image credit: Whisper

7. It’s called the Emergency Room for a reason, guys

It’s nice to actually see one where the good guy wins.

Image credit: Whisper

8. I guess their boss wasn’t a family man

Anti-family, even. Just wow.

Image credit: Whisper

9. There’s a special place in hell for this employer

I mean, what exactly is a “good excuse” if not this?

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10. Pretty sure working there would give me a panic attack

That guy can join the other one in The Bad Place.

Image credit: Whisper

11. Do they think it’s a gourmet celery restaurant?

No, really, do they?

Image credit: Whisper

12. If they didn’t immediately get their job back then this one wins them all

I mean, you can get a doctor’s note for that right?

Image credit: Whisper

13. I feel like there’s got to be a better way to say it

Somehow I’m in awe of both the worker and the boss.

Image credit: Whisper

I don’t think I’ve ever heard such awful reasons–beyond the workers’ control–for being let go from a job.

What about you? Share your story in the comments.

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People Tweet Very Good Advice That We All Should Consider

I’m not sure that anyone likes getting unsolicited advice on how to life their life (especially from their parents), but there’s no denying that people who have lived long and hard and well often have wisdom worth imparting to those who are still coming up the ranks.

So, if you’re in need of a bit (or a lot) of tips on how and why to do things better, these 11 pieces of very good advice are ready and waiting.

11. There’s something to that whole “self care” thing.

Even if the term is getting annoying.

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10. Take a deep breath.

Consider whether or not your really want to go there.

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9. This girl is goals.

May we all accept that lesson so young.

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8. From an unexpected source.

And very deep, if you ask me.

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7. Once you sit down it’s all over.

Don’t even put on your comfy pants.

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6. You have to be able to roll with the punches.

And to be gentle with yourself first.

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5. Don’t consider it a loan.

If you get it back, you can be pleasantly surprised.

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4. It’s always better to take a break.

Before you end up broken.

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3. Take a deep breath is always good advice.

And don’t work for people you don’t respect.

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2. We’ve all seen Home Alone.

And few of us are as ingenuitive as Kevin McAllister.

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1. You have to start somewhere.

Might as well start high.

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I love the way people put things sometimes, don’t you?

Share your favorite piece of life advice in the comments!

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People Talk About What Makes Them Believe In Zodiac Signs

When it comes to zodiac signs, the majority of people fall into the “eh, whatever” category. We enjoy reading our horoscope now and again, and we totally know our signs and all of that, but we’re not organizing our life around what the stars say is going to happen.

There are some who are extremely skeptical, and yet others who are super into it and definitely do plan their lives around what the stars say is a good thing to try next.

Like these 18 people, who are here to tell you what inspires them to listen to forces beyond their control.

18. We’re all just trying to get better.

I don’t know if I’d say I “believe in it” as such, and it’s certainly a lot more than “sun signs”, but I’ve been using it as a tool to work on my flaws/ weak points for the last couple of years.

Take an aspect between the planets, and think “how does this potentially come out in the way I behave / interact with others / the decisions I make?” then work on that if you’re not happy with it. Better (and cheaper!) than therapy, for me.

17. Can’t lose that feeling.

Because, when I was high AF, someone did my whole chart and I’ve never felt more understood. Still chasing that buzz.

My friend gave me a magic brownie and read my chart to me at a coffee shop – when it started to kick in I felt like everyone was staring at me and I meekly said ‘can you please stop reading that out loud?’

16. It helps you know yourself.

I can’t say if I believe in it 100% but for me, following it is not only fun, but it empowers me to become more insightful and aware of how the emotions of myself and others around me are affecting their behaviors. Learning about astrology I think has made me a more empathetic person because I do notice smaller details about my friends, and I can support them more effectively.

It’s the same thing as say the enneagram, Myers Briggs types, or love languages. I don’t think it’s a bad thing to try to understand yourself and your peers better. Adding astrological elements just makes it more fun.

15. It’s not so different from religion.

Because I always feel stressed and anxious. I need to be tethered to something.

It assigns patterns to the randomness of the universe. It’s very grounding for me, too.

14. Everyone needs a hobby.

I have a friend who has a similar mindset that you do. I questioned her about it once and she said “it may be a dumb hobby, but it’s my hobby. It doesn’t hurt anyone and makes me happy”. With that reasoning, who am I to judge?

Not saying that it’s dumb at all. I was just quoting (likely paraphrasing her). She seems to be the most mentally healthy of all our friend group and if that’s the reason why, so be it

13. Live and let live.

As someone who thinks most things like this are BS, it’s one of the least harmful things that people follow.

I’d rather my neighbors be eccentric astrology nuts than an average scientologist.

12. Valid response.

Because it may lead to sexy time?

11. It’s as simple as that.

TLDR- Because it’s fun!

I started learning about it as a kid because my mom had some books laying around.

Thought it was interesting, the way a personality quiz online might be fun to do. Like “oh yeah that’s totally me! Haha”

Seeing as I already memorized friends and family’s birthdays I started seeing some patterns and saw the (verrry general) traits of the zodiac manifested. Not super clearly, not every time, but enough to keep me interested!

As an adult I’ve really been digging into it more. The internet certainly helps! It’s a great hobby because there is SO MUCH material out there to study! Signs, planets, degrees, aspects, elements… it’s like laying out a big puzzle. Connecting pieces of information and putting them together. It’s one of many tools I can use to decipher myself and the world around me.

I know it’s not scientific, and I’m fine with that. I enjoy it and it helps me. I don’t need to convince anyone and I certainly don’t bother anyone with my “Astro takes” unless they ask for it. That said – I’ve become pretty good at pinpointing other people’s signs ?

10. It just slowly became a thing.

K so, hear me out. ahem, it wasn’t so much a belief, but I had used zodiac in the past as a method of self examination/improvement, before getting into therapy. I wanted to identify the problems before spending alot of $$ to have someone talk me through it. I have been struggling with the unholy matrimony of mental health, anxiety, depression and ADHD, with sprinkles for a while now. Astrology was the kick in the right direction. Led to me picking up books about aforementioned sprinkles, and getting from point a to point b. (My parents didn’t believe in therapy, and was taken off ADHD pills because parents didn’t like me on them, all of three days.?)

IMA JUST PUT THIS OUT THERE QUICK. You don’t get to disrespect people/act a certain way and blame it on your sign. It’s childish and you need to get over yourself.

It is ludicrous to think that planetary positions affect personalities, however, there’s a little more depth to it that just “sun sign”. BEAR WITH ME. When you are born planets are in a certain constellation, depicted by a natal chart, which has been used in Astronomy in various ways, like planning trips to Mars. Each of the planets progress through the constellations at different speeds.

In Astrology, the planets represent certain life aspects, like relationships, feeling, communication, passion, etc. NOW. Per the planets in star signs representing your personality, ?, doesn’t matter. When you get to the planetary aspects, and are objective(not like “oh the moons over there next to Venus, IMA get some dick” no, fork off) you can identify the traits/emotions/life changes that apply to you. You can also use the timings of planetary cycles to set goals; moon signs change every 2-3 days. Make a plan to start doing excersize get goals to achieve every three days, idk whatever floats your boat.

Whether or not it’s backed by science can be argued out the door for sure. But, any self analysis can be a useful tool along side getting professional help. Mental health is a different struggle for everyone, and it’s better if you can find something that interests you, keeps you engaged and aware of yourself.

There’s journaling aspects and cycles associated with growth and planning. NGL, it’s also a fun time going out to a dark sky reserve with a telescope on a dark night outside the city and just be at peace. It was definitely a phase, meditation is my go to now. But you know, cycles. Learn and reflect.

I’m not saying it’s for everyone, and people definitely use it in some twisted ways. But hey, unless someone’s punching you in the face saying “it’s fine , I’m an Aries”, you do you.?

9. Everybody wants a “thing.”

Yeah it’s just fun =) I’m not huge into it.

But playing Final Fantasy Tactics as a kid the zodiac was a major motif.

It caught my eye and it’s really cool.

8. Everything is stardust.

I don’t believe but I mean everything is stardust so they’re not crazy for looking at the sky for answers.

7. You can’t argue with that.

Because I’m a typical Pisces.

One time when I was arguing with my mom and telling her I don’t believe in astrology she barked at me “OF COURSE YOU DON’T BELIEVE IN ASTROLOGY, YOU’RE A VIRGO!”

I have no idea what that means, but I always though the comment itself was a great one.

6. We all want to feel like we have control.

Helps create a false sense of control, like making sense of the messy life patterns.

I don’t believe in horoscope they are garbage. I like the personality profiles (zodiac) though, it’s similar to create target personas in marketing. It’s dummy and not exactly accurate but gives an idea.

Check out the app called Pattern, some of the predictions or patterns (based on time of birth etc) are pretty accurate, can be really annoying too at times.

5. There’s nothing wrong with that.

I dont really believe in it, but it is fun learning about. Youre supposed to use a birth chart and not just your zodiac sign, which uses the exact time and location of birth to figure out the alignment of stars and shit. You can share qualities with other signs based on where the sun/stars/moon/planets are.

So like, Im a virgo. I dont share a lot of qualities with your stereotypical virgo. Im not a clean freak and im largely disorganized which is not considered a “virgo” trait. But if i bust open my birth chart, look at the shit that represents orderliness, it predicts that Im a disorganized person. And basically all the qualities that didnt fit me under one general zodiac sign, are pretty much tailored to me when I use my birth chart.

You can use other zodiacs too in a birth chart to compare. I used my sisters and tried to identify with her supposed qualities but i couldnt because none of it applied to me. Try to compare other peoples zodiacs to each other and see which one fits who better.

I can see why people believe in it, its a spiritual thing. We can track movement of the stars and planets, its kind of a given that a belief like this would arise. I do wish that i understood its origins though. I wouldnt be surprised of i found out it was pretty much appropriated from other religions/culture. Like how wiccans did.

4. Because it can seem really legit.

I think off the bat, the top layer of zodiac signs, so sun signs are interesting but then it’s when you go in deeper and explore the sun moon and rising signs along with times of birth and topical and all that other stuff which really gets interesting.

I wasn’t really into it at first but its actually crazy how similar things are in my deeper readings rather than just sun sign stuff.

3. Maybe there’s something to it.

I don’t traditionally, but I do cite them a lot and get called on to justify why a lot.

And I dig into my own zodiac sign a lot, because sometimes it’s just a nice avenue for self-exploration.

I went through a bad break-up once for a pretty long relationship and didn’t know who I was anymore by the end. So when I went and got my chart read, this guy told me “Hey, you’re a Pisces, so you care a lot about people.” and I do, totally, one of my big things.

But then he said “And you’re a Libra moon, so you like doing housework, maintaining order, etc.”

Which is totally not me.

So even though I didn’t agree with some of the zodiac stuff, the prompt to stop and think about how I felt about things is something I think more of us should take.

2. It’s individual spirituality.

Atheist and former evangelical Christian here. I see a lot of people who are moving away from their religion go towards astrology and/or other forms of spirituality. While I may not believe in it, it is harmless and at the very most annoying.

Moving away from religion is difficult and it can help to have something to cling to in order to express a form of spirituality that may feel lost. Even if that doesn’t apply to them, let people connect or not connect to their spirituality the way they want.

It has about the same level of scientific backing as personality tests, and the 5 male personality types, and in the case of the latter, it doesn’t spread toxic masculinity.

I think a better question would be, why do we shit on people who believe in zodiac signs disproportionally to other harmless (and sometimes harmful) pseudo-science?

1. Don’t knock it until you’ve tried it.

I know this is going to sink so low that nobody sees it, but if you want a serious answer…

Have you ever had a full natal chart done? A lot of people, even people who at a surface level believe in astrology look at their sun sign which is just kind of bs and doesn’t really apply to them in the first place.

It’s a lot like any personality test. And rather than looking at it like a self-limiting box, the real purpose is to see your flaws and grow past them rather than relying on them and saying shit like “ooh I’m such a cancer, and this excuses x action.”

I mean, they’ve got some decent arguments, don’t you think?

Do you believe in astrology? Tell us why or why not in the comments!

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Things Romanticized by Society That Are Actually Toxic

There are so many things that are called romantic in books and movies and songs but, when you apply them to real life, are nothing but creepy and/or toxic.

Singer and songwriter Naya Ford took that truth head on during a TikTok video, asking her followers to weigh in on “something that people glamorize that’s actually just extremely toxic.”

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What’s something that glamorized but is ✨toxic✨ #NewYearNewMiO #WordsOfWisdom #toxic #withouttellingme #fyp

♬ original sound – Naya A Ford

She began with “I want a significant other who is rude and mean and not friendly to anybody” because that somehow means they won’t cheat, and her followers really piled on.

Below are 13 great answers!

13. That women can fix broken men.

“The idea that broken men can only be healed through the love and labor of a woman. This perpetuates the idea that men cannot find healing or support from anybody except for women — which means that they don’t seek it from their friends, they don’t seek therapy, they don’t have connections outside of their [female] partner to support them. This obviously puts a huge burden on women to care for men, heal them, rehabilitate them. That same energy is not given to women.

Also, if you want an example, I recommend looking at almost any movie targeted to teenage girls that is about a ‘bad boy’ (the pure, loving ‘good girl’ heals the wounds of the tortured ‘bad boy’ trope).”

12. Couples pranking each other on YouTube.

“YouTube couples who do pranks — they’re so obvious that they’re doing pranks, and they just get more and more extreme with…embarrassing each other on camera.”

11. Drinking wine.

“Wine culture.

Especially mom wine culture. “The reason mommy drinks.” “Mommy juice.”

And look I am guilty of it too. I used to make jokes about it until I realized I actually had a problem.

We’re grown women. It’s not cool to joke about drinking every day. It’s alcoholism.”

10. Heartbreak in general.

“The way that we romanticize getting our heart broken and then forgiving and getting back together with the person who broke our heart. That dumb notion of ‘you always hurt the one you love’…If somebody cheats on you, lies to you, manipulates you, that is called emotional abuse. And there’s this media depiction that all it takes is the right grand gesture and then everything is resolved — it will never happen again, and you should forgive them. I’m not saying redemption isn’t possible because every situation is different, but that’s not romantic — that’s called work.

And if I have to watch one more gosh darn movie where we sympathize with the person who did the abuse, and we look to the person who was abused asking them to forgive them to suit our romantic narrative. … It is not glamorous, it is not romantic; it is abuse, and we need to stop idolizing it.”

9. Being in a relationship.

“By no means am I saying that relationships are toxic, but what I am saying is that society and social media’s obsession with relationships — yeah, that’s not healthy at all. It’s as though everyone is more focused on the cute pictures, the matching outfits, and being able to say you have someone than actually accessing and considering ~who~ you have.

Daniel Sloss said it best…: It’s people out here trying to force things that shouldn’t be forced with one another because they would much rather have somebody than nothing at all. Like…there are really couples out here who don’t need to be together, should NOT be together, but they stay together because their cute couple pics go viral. And the obsession promotes the idea that being single is a flaw. It’s getting weird!”

8. Gender norms.

“Gender norms. Blue is for boys, pink is for girls. Girls show emotion, men do not. Women are feminine, men are masculine.”

7. Professional modeling.

“The modeling industry. I’m surprised to this day, it’s still glorified. It’s such a toxic industry, people get away with so [many] atrocious things in that industry because they have power and control over your work, your body, and so many other things that you renounced when you started your career as a model.

Like, they don’t prepare you to be objectified, s*xualized, and preyed on by predators. Played by people you trust, told that you’re not good enough, [and] expected to be of a standard that you will never attain. Jeopardizing your self-worth and mental health at their expense for them to make money off you. It’s such a problematic industry that we need to stop glamorizing it…

Please don’t…be something you’re not and let people (who don’t care about you) dictate what you should (or shouldn’t) be in this industry. If you start out, do you.”

6. Having children.

“Having kids. No wait. It’s not toxic in its entirety. There are aspect in it that are really toxic hear me out. Having children is glamorized and prioritize over very necessary pieces of actually raising children.

People are not addressing their past traumas, they not addressing their stability, mentally, physically, financially. All of these thing are taking a back seat to an idea bringing children to this world and having a baby shower, and having a gender reveal, Both the children and parents are forced in this reality that they can’t recreate their favorite TV show family.

The life is very real but having children are glamorized and the kids will group with not addressed traumas and repeat the cycle.”

5. A “morning routine.”

“Bloggers who have the perfect morning routines with their kids and they cut up all the little lunch into bento box with the love notes and a shaped apple with an octopus and their house is cleaned and they are dressed.

The moms are dressed their hairs are brushed, they have make up. Where are you going, where are you going and then their kids are in perfect outfits and then they go out of the door like that. No, it doesn’t work that way, that’s toxic, it’s a lie”

4. Dieting.

“Diet culture and the idea that your value and morality is tied to how much you weigh.”

3. Codependency in relationships.

“The idea that you guys need to be obsessed with each other when you’re in a relationship…Apparently we have to text each other every day — all day long — and if we don’t text back within a reasonable amount of time, or we don’t explain why we didn’t text back, then all of a sudden that means we’re not into you anymore. If you’re not texting each other, then you’re probably on FaceTime until your phone dies or on FaceTime until you fall asleep. And some people like to be on FaceTime while they’re asleep, which is kinda weird…

Basically dedicating all your time to your significant other — that’s kind of unhealthy. ‘Cause imagine you dedicated so much time and energy to a relationship that you had nothing else going on in your life. You’re gonna feel so broken if that relationship fails, because you got way too attached.”

2. Having a friend’s back.

“Vouching for your friends no matter what, even when they’ve done something bad.

Like, if my friend cheats on their partner, and they expect me to lie for them if their partner calls me and asks where they are, I’m not lying for you and your [bad] behavior.

If your partner knows me well enough to have my phone number and ask where you are, why would I want to participate in lying to them? Obviously there are worse things, but it’s a no for me.”

1. Beauty standards. Period.

“Any beauty standard.

It’s too much.”

Don’t be fooled, y’all – if it seems toxic, it probably is!

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Is It Bad to Tell a Friend That You Don’t Care if She Likes How You Look?

I like to say that one of the best days of my life was the one when I truly stopped caring what other people think – and while that’s true, I do think that some people’s opinions matter.

If you trust someone and their thoughts on certain matters, then of course, you might care what they think about a certain topic. Everyone else, though, can suck it.

This woman is wondering whether or not she was wrong to tell a friend she didn’t care about her opinion on clothes, though, and the backstory is that her friend and roommate is super into the body positivity movement – to the point where she’s not afraid to police where her friends go to the doctor or buy their clothes.

I (24f) live with 2 other women Claire (23f), and Joan (24f).

Joan spent most of last week helping her boyfriend find and move into a new flat, so we haven’t seen much of her.

Joan is a bigger girl (a UK 22) and is very into the body positivity movement, in particular the health at any size movement but to a dangerous and quite toxic degree (ie she recently complained about discrimination to our GP practice after a nurse told her she couldn’t have the combined pill due to her weight).

One if her major bugbears is when brands only sell straight sizes (6 to 16/18) it is her opinion that if brands don’t sell a larger size range that they should be boycotted, and anyone who buys from them is approving of their size exclusivity.

While that roommate was out of town, OP and her other roommate bought cute sundresses from an “unapproved” retailer – someone who doesn’t sell plus sizes – and planned to wear them for an at-home tea that might lift their spirits.

Earlier this week to cheer ourselves up Claire and I each ordered a dress sundress from House of CB, living in Britain in March that may seem a bit hopeful but they are pretty and a girl can dream of summer!

They arrived Friday night, and Claire and I decided that on Sunday we’d have afternoon tea and wear them (it would also act as a distraction from the fact it was mother’s day and we couldn’t be with our mums). We text Joan to see if she wanted to join but she declined.

Then the third roommate came home, asked about the dresses, and then began shaming the other girls for supporting that retailer.

Joan came home during the tea, and all was fine at first she had a scone and chatted away until she asked about the dresses, we told her they were House of CB and she looked them up, then she said “why the f*ck are you guys supporting somewhere like this?”, we said “what?”, and she started ranting about the sizing (XXS to L+, UK 4/6, to 14/16).

OP told her in no uncertain terms that she didn’t care whether or not the roommate approved of her dress, and that the last thing anyone needed during a pandemic was more people trying to steal their joy.

Which… I definitely agree with.

I told her to calm down, and that the dresses are pretty, she told us that she was appalled at us wearing them, then started ranting.

I stopped her and said that her opinion on clothes sizing does not affect me and should not affect if Claire and I are trying to find some happiness in these times, that we should be allowed to shop wherever we want and that she needs to stop obsessing over it.

The roommate stormed off and declared she wasn’t speaking to the other girls unless they returned the dresses, leaving OP to wonder whether or not she was an a$shole for stating her opinion.

Joan then stormed off to her room, and is still refusing to speak to either of us.

Only texting us once to say “I’m only talking to you if you send those dresses back and apologise”.

Are we the a**holes here?

I know weight and clothing is a sensitive topic, and I know that she has a thing about it, but I don’t see why that should affect what Claire and I are allowed to buy and wear, however I am aware I was a few cocktails in so could have been a bit more sensitive about it myself.

I’m only really questioning it as her reaction is so extreme.

So, was the roommate’s reaction extreme?

Reddit, of course, is weighing in.

This person pointed out that you’re allowed to have your own moral guidelines when shopping, but to try to force them on other people is gross.

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There was plenty of (warranted) snark to be found.

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Pretty much everyone said they should keep the dresses (if they like them).

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It’s almost like she doesn’t want to have any friends.

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Everyone deserves to feel fabulous in their clothes, no matter the size!

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This could probably have been handled a bit more delicately, but in the end, she wasn’t wrong.

I hope the friend wises up and realizes that she won’t win anyone to her size by bossing people around – yeesh.

Drop your thoughts in the comments!

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What Lessons Did You Learn Too Late in Life? Here’s What People Said.

We only get one shot at this thing called life.

I’m talking about life. And even though it’s all about learning lessons along the way and growing, all of us have some kind of regrets about things we did or didn’t do when we were younger.

But you can’t let it get you down too much, I guess…

What are some lessons you think you learned too late in life?

Here’s how people responded on AskReddit.

1. Good point.

“To become more comfortable being uncomfortable.

Go toward your fears, don’t run from them, within reason.”

2.  You gotta do it!

“Look after your knees and your teeth.”

3. Truth.

“Sometimes you can do everything right and still fail.

And that is not a weakness; that is life.”

4. Keep it separate.

“Don’t bring things home from work.

I had a bad day at work. Came home and got in an argument with my gf about something…and stopped halfway.

Yes, she really had done something, but the only reason I got so angry about it was because…I had already been angry, from work. Otherwise i might have just let it go.

From then on I learned to separate work from home. I was 28. I felt like this was a lesson I should have learned earlier.”

5. Confront it.

“If you made mistakes, always confront them and the consequences right away.

Waiting doesn’t make it better, it makes it worse.”

6. I like this.

“Happiness is enjoying the things you have, not the things to come.”

7. No one is paying attention.

“People aren’t thinking about you even a fraction of the amount you think they’re thinking about you.

You’re noise in a lifetime of experiences and a busy mind. This is a good thing.

It means you can just get what you need from people and not over think it, safe in the knowledge that they’ll forget you almost immediately.”

8. Use it wisely.

“That the most valuable commodity is time.

Time to play with your kids, time to take that trip you always wanted, time to spend with the people you love.

It’s the only resource we can’t get more of yet we throw it away with excuses and never do anything to change it.

Write that book, go back to school, tell that girl you love her beacuse if you don’t all you’ll have is regrets.”

9. Take care of Number One.

“Be patient and wait. It’s better to be alone than with someone that doesn’t respect you.

No matter how much or good your are to someone, some of them will screw you over.

Always look after yourself first.

Start early with physical hobby and keep fit, you have one body and there is no replay.

If you love someone but they don’t love you.. move on. It will hurt like hell but in the long run, you’ll be happier.

Giving money doesn’t equate to affection, the gratitude will be short lived and you’ll only be an ATM to them in the near future.”

10. Not worth the time.

“Not everyone and every situation is worth your time or energy.

As someone that’s a bit of a “fixer” I often end up wasting my time trying to help people that didn’t deserve it or solve problems that nobody really cares about. It’s hard to know when to just walk away.

The other thing is protect your time it’s more valuable than your money. You can always go make more money you cannot go make more time. Time once lost cannot be regained.”

11. You can get help.

“That there IS hope for you to fix your mental health problems.

I left things for 10 years not knowing there was decent help to be had.

Although to be fair, things have progressed a lot since then”

12. Avoid them.

“Just because you’re blood related to someone, doesn’t mean that you owe them anything.

Toxic people are toxic people and you are not required to give them a single ounce of your attention if they are hurting you.”

13. Yes!

“Never put your education/ job / plans on hold for a boyfriend / girlfriend especially while in college.

Especially when you’re 19…”

What are the lessons you think you learned too late in life?

Talk to us in the comments.

Thanks a lot!

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What Lessons Did You Learn Too Late in Life? Here’s What People Said.

We only get one shot at this thing called life.

I’m talking about life. And even though it’s all about learning lessons along the way and growing, all of us have some kind of regrets about things we did or didn’t do when we were younger.

But you can’t let it get you down too much, I guess…

What are some lessons you think you learned too late in life?

Here’s how people responded on AskReddit.

1. Good point.

“To become more comfortable being uncomfortable.

Go toward your fears, don’t run from them, within reason.”

2.  You gotta do it!

“Look after your knees and your teeth.”

3. Truth.

“Sometimes you can do everything right and still fail.

And that is not a weakness; that is life.”

4. Keep it separate.

“Don’t bring things home from work.

I had a bad day at work. Came home and got in an argument with my gf about something…and stopped halfway.

Yes, she really had done something, but the only reason I got so angry about it was because…I had already been angry, from work. Otherwise i might have just let it go.

From then on I learned to separate work from home. I was 28. I felt like this was a lesson I should have learned earlier.”

5. Confront it.

“If you made mistakes, always confront them and the consequences right away.

Waiting doesn’t make it better, it makes it worse.”

6. I like this.

“Happiness is enjoying the things you have, not the things to come.”

7. No one is paying attention.

“People aren’t thinking about you even a fraction of the amount you think they’re thinking about you.

You’re noise in a lifetime of experiences and a busy mind. This is a good thing.

It means you can just get what you need from people and not over think it, safe in the knowledge that they’ll forget you almost immediately.”

8. Use it wisely.

“That the most valuable commodity is time.

Time to play with your kids, time to take that trip you always wanted, time to spend with the people you love.

It’s the only resource we can’t get more of yet we throw it away with excuses and never do anything to change it.

Write that book, go back to school, tell that girl you love her beacuse if you don’t all you’ll have is regrets.”

9. Take care of Number One.

“Be patient and wait. It’s better to be alone than with someone that doesn’t respect you.

No matter how much or good your are to someone, some of them will screw you over.

Always look after yourself first.

Start early with physical hobby and keep fit, you have one body and there is no replay.

If you love someone but they don’t love you.. move on. It will hurt like hell but in the long run, you’ll be happier.

Giving money doesn’t equate to affection, the gratitude will be short lived and you’ll only be an ATM to them in the near future.”

10. Not worth the time.

“Not everyone and every situation is worth your time or energy.

As someone that’s a bit of a “fixer” I often end up wasting my time trying to help people that didn’t deserve it or solve problems that nobody really cares about. It’s hard to know when to just walk away.

The other thing is protect your time it’s more valuable than your money. You can always go make more money you cannot go make more time. Time once lost cannot be regained.”

11. You can get help.

“That there IS hope for you to fix your mental health problems.

I left things for 10 years not knowing there was decent help to be had.

Although to be fair, things have progressed a lot since then”

12. Avoid them.

“Just because you’re blood related to someone, doesn’t mean that you owe them anything.

Toxic people are toxic people and you are not required to give them a single ounce of your attention if they are hurting you.”

13. Yes!

“Never put your education/ job / plans on hold for a boyfriend / girlfriend especially while in college.

Especially when you’re 19…”

What are the lessons you think you learned too late in life?

Talk to us in the comments.

Thanks a lot!

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