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A New Mom Wonders If She Was Wrong to Give Her Baby Her Ex-Husband’s Name

For a lot of women, taking their new spouse’s name after marriage is understood, accepted, and even anticipated. More and more women are reconsidering what they see as an antiquated notion and deciding to keep their own names, even after marriage.

Whichever way you go, there are complications and little annoyances to deal with, all of which have to deal with physically changing your name, or correcting people when you don’t.

And that’s before we even get into the complication of divorce, which is what prompted this post on Reddit’s Am I The A$shole thread.

OP (Original Poster) was 19 when she married her high school sweetheart and took his last name. Their marriage ended shortly thereafter and she moved to another country to start over, but didn’t change her name.

The main reason for that (she says) is that her maiden name is hard to spell, hard to pronounce, and was given to her by an abusive father, so she saw no reason to jump through the hoops to change it back.

I (31f) got married very young, 19, to a guy who was also 19 at the time. We were high school sweethearts and unfortunately he fell in love with a coworker and left me for her about a year into our marriage. We divorced and I moved to an entire different country across the world to “restart”. One thing that I did keep from that marriage was his last name.

My dad was born in Russia (I was born and raised in the US) and my maiden name was 9 letters long and ridiculously hard/impossible to spell or pronounce for people. And to top it off my dad was extremely abusive and I ended up living with a friend from 14 till graduation because of his abuse. So I had no real attachments to my maiden name and it was only a burden.

Her ex’s name, by comparison, is not only easy to spell and pronounce, but in her new language, it has a meaning she enjoys.

My ex husband’s last name, now mine, has an amazingly simple impossible to pronounce wrong/misspell name that has an amazing meaning. Think along the lines of Love. It’s great! And works great in my new main language.

Recently she’s become pregnant – a welcome realization and addition to her happy life. She has a good job, pays for her own place, and is happily free.

The father does not want to be involved in any way and she says that she is fine with his decision. She plans to give the baby the last name she’s had for 13+ years.

Over the last year I found myself pregnant with a guy I had been seeing for some time but had a messy background with his ex. I have a great job that was pandemic proof and a lovely home I pay for myself. I’m really proud of the life I have built and I wasn’t sad to be pregnant especially since I wasn’t sure if it would happen for me and I always wanted kids.

Sadly, the guy decided he wanted to try and make his relationship with his ex. I am not going after him for any child support, as I don’t need it and he’s made it clear he doesn’t want anything to do with our baby.

Now I am planning to have my baby and to give my baby what has been my last name now for almost 13 years.

Then, her ex-husband, who she hadn’t spoken to in a decade, messaged her on Facebook.

Not sure how or when someone informed my ex husband about my pregnancy (I didn’t announce) but recently I opened a message from him on social media. I was shocked to say the least as I haven’t heard from in a decade.

He knew she was pregnant and wanted to know whether or not she was planning to give the baby “his” last name.

The point of his message was that he knew I was pregnant and he wanted to know if I planned on giving the baby “his” last name. I responded friendly and said that although I did get the name from marrying him that I felt like after all these years and being on a different continent then him, it was also mine.

I don’t think of him when I use it. I just think of who I am now.

When she said yes, he flipped out. He called her names, and their mutual old friends are all on his side.

Well he FLIPPED out. He wrote me scathing messages calling me “whore” and saying how he won’t stand for a “bastard” child to be sporting his last name. Now I’m getting messages from his girlfriend, his friends that we used to know in high school, and his random family members. All calling me names and telling me I’m a horrible person for using this last name on my child and even on myself.

They keep calling me “obsessed” and a “stalker”. It’s honestly so scary to open up any apps these days because I know a barrage of hateful messages will be waiting for me.

She feels like it’s her name, she never thinks about him, they haven’t spoken in a decade or more, so…is she wrong?

Let’s see what Reddit has to say, shall we?

The top comment points out that he’s the one being weird and stalker-ish, not her.

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And yeah, it’s not like he’s the only person in the world with that last name. Is he going to scream at all of them?

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Plain and simple.

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There seems to be a lot of moral finger pointing from a guy who cheated on his wife. Just sayin.

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Smash the patriarchy.

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I think this woman is strong and amazing and I wish her the best.

What are your thoughts? If you disagree with me (and the commenters) tell us why down in the comments!

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A New Mom Wonders If She Was Wrong to Give Her Baby Her Ex-Husband’s Name

For a lot of women, taking their new spouse’s name after marriage is understood, accepted, and even anticipated. More and more women are reconsidering what they see as an antiquated notion and deciding to keep their own names, even after marriage.

Whichever way you go, there are complications and little annoyances to deal with, all of which have to deal with physically changing your name, or correcting people when you don’t.

And that’s before we even get into the complication of divorce, which is what prompted this post on Reddit’s Am I The A$shole thread.

OP (Original Poster) was 19 when she married her high school sweetheart and took his last name. Their marriage ended shortly thereafter and she moved to another country to start over, but didn’t change her name.

The main reason for that (she says) is that her maiden name is hard to spell, hard to pronounce, and was given to her by an abusive father, so she saw no reason to jump through the hoops to change it back.

I (31f) got married very young, 19, to a guy who was also 19 at the time. We were high school sweethearts and unfortunately he fell in love with a coworker and left me for her about a year into our marriage. We divorced and I moved to an entire different country across the world to “restart”. One thing that I did keep from that marriage was his last name.

My dad was born in Russia (I was born and raised in the US) and my maiden name was 9 letters long and ridiculously hard/impossible to spell or pronounce for people. And to top it off my dad was extremely abusive and I ended up living with a friend from 14 till graduation because of his abuse. So I had no real attachments to my maiden name and it was only a burden.

Her ex’s name, by comparison, is not only easy to spell and pronounce, but in her new language, it has a meaning she enjoys.

My ex husband’s last name, now mine, has an amazingly simple impossible to pronounce wrong/misspell name that has an amazing meaning. Think along the lines of Love. It’s great! And works great in my new main language.

Recently she’s become pregnant – a welcome realization and addition to her happy life. She has a good job, pays for her own place, and is happily free.

The father does not want to be involved in any way and she says that she is fine with his decision. She plans to give the baby the last name she’s had for 13+ years.

Over the last year I found myself pregnant with a guy I had been seeing for some time but had a messy background with his ex. I have a great job that was pandemic proof and a lovely home I pay for myself. I’m really proud of the life I have built and I wasn’t sad to be pregnant especially since I wasn’t sure if it would happen for me and I always wanted kids.

Sadly, the guy decided he wanted to try and make his relationship with his ex. I am not going after him for any child support, as I don’t need it and he’s made it clear he doesn’t want anything to do with our baby.

Now I am planning to have my baby and to give my baby what has been my last name now for almost 13 years.

Then, her ex-husband, who she hadn’t spoken to in a decade, messaged her on Facebook.

Not sure how or when someone informed my ex husband about my pregnancy (I didn’t announce) but recently I opened a message from him on social media. I was shocked to say the least as I haven’t heard from in a decade.

He knew she was pregnant and wanted to know whether or not she was planning to give the baby “his” last name.

The point of his message was that he knew I was pregnant and he wanted to know if I planned on giving the baby “his” last name. I responded friendly and said that although I did get the name from marrying him that I felt like after all these years and being on a different continent then him, it was also mine.

I don’t think of him when I use it. I just think of who I am now.

When she said yes, he flipped out. He called her names, and their mutual old friends are all on his side.

Well he FLIPPED out. He wrote me scathing messages calling me “whore” and saying how he won’t stand for a “bastard” child to be sporting his last name. Now I’m getting messages from his girlfriend, his friends that we used to know in high school, and his random family members. All calling me names and telling me I’m a horrible person for using this last name on my child and even on myself.

They keep calling me “obsessed” and a “stalker”. It’s honestly so scary to open up any apps these days because I know a barrage of hateful messages will be waiting for me.

She feels like it’s her name, she never thinks about him, they haven’t spoken in a decade or more, so…is she wrong?

Let’s see what Reddit has to say, shall we?

The top comment points out that he’s the one being weird and stalker-ish, not her.

Image Credit: Reddit

And yeah, it’s not like he’s the only person in the world with that last name. Is he going to scream at all of them?

Image Credit: Reddit

Plain and simple.

Image Credit: Reddit

There seems to be a lot of moral finger pointing from a guy who cheated on his wife. Just sayin.

Image Credit: Reddit

Smash the patriarchy.

Image Credit: Reddit

I think this woman is strong and amazing and I wish her the best.

What are your thoughts? If you disagree with me (and the commenters) tell us why down in the comments!

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Pictures That Use a “Human For Scale” to Show Us How Big Objects Really Are

We don’t see some objects on a regular basis – or ever at all – and so it can be hard to imagine how large or small it is, even if we know intellectually that it’s an extreme size on one end of the scale or the other.

One easy way to make us understand quickly a scale is to use a human being, because we can all easily imagine how big one of those is, right?

Here are 12 pictures that use a person “for scale,” and if you’re anything like me, some of these images are going to blow your mind.

12. I eat up any and all information about the Mars rovers.

They’re just so cool.

Scales of Mars rovers from HumanForScale

11. Now show me the dude who wears it.

I’m still waiting to be able to picture that.

Vans size 66 shoe from HumanForScale

10. This is giving me heart palpitations.

No way could I sit there.

Two people sitting on the Abraj Al Bait clocktower in Mecca from HumanForScale

9. It looks like something in a miniatures museum.

I want to see a baby hummingbird now.

Hummingbird eggs from interestingasfuck

8. Look what love can do.

It’s beautiful.

Hundred year old flower bush and the woman who planted it. from nextfuckinglevel

7. That seems about right.

Good and accurate, I see.

This is Detroit’s new 11-foot-tall RoboCop statue from Michigan

6. It takes a certain type of person to even get up in that thing.

No wonder they’re so expensive.

Big truck human for scale from HumanForScale

5. He really makes an impression.

Which was most likely the point.

Aukana Buddha, the tallest freestanding statue in Sri Lanka at 38 feet, built during the 5th century. Link to more info in comments. from HumanForScale

4. It could swallow us in one gulp.

I knew there was a reason I didn’t like birds.

Holy Fucking shit. This bird is (was) fucking huge. My pal dale for scale. (that rhymes) from HumanForScale

3. Those things are not right, y’all.

I did not need to see how big they were.

Behind the scenes of “Teletubbies” 1997 from interestingasfuck

2. Shock and awe.

Which was, of course, the whole point.

Door at the Parthenon replica in Nashville Tennessee. Kid in picture is 5’2. from HumanForScale

1. I honestly didn’t even need to know this existed at all.

Is that guy trying to give it a kiss??

Wolf eel from natureismetal

I honestly had no idea how big some of these things are – so cool.

What’s the biggest thing you had to stand next to before you realized just how big it is? Tell us about it in the comments!

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Pictures That Use a “Human For Scale” to Show Us How Big Objects Really Are

We don’t see some objects on a regular basis – or ever at all – and so it can be hard to imagine how large or small it is, even if we know intellectually that it’s an extreme size on one end of the scale or the other.

One easy way to make us understand quickly a scale is to use a human being, because we can all easily imagine how big one of those is, right?

Here are 12 pictures that use a person “for scale,” and if you’re anything like me, some of these images are going to blow your mind.

12. I eat up any and all information about the Mars rovers.

They’re just so cool.

Scales of Mars rovers from HumanForScale

11. Now show me the dude who wears it.

I’m still waiting to be able to picture that.

Vans size 66 shoe from HumanForScale

10. This is giving me heart palpitations.

No way could I sit there.

Two people sitting on the Abraj Al Bait clocktower in Mecca from HumanForScale

9. It looks like something in a miniatures museum.

I want to see a baby hummingbird now.

Hummingbird eggs from interestingasfuck

8. Look what love can do.

It’s beautiful.

Hundred year old flower bush and the woman who planted it. from nextfuckinglevel

7. That seems about right.

Good and accurate, I see.

This is Detroit’s new 11-foot-tall RoboCop statue from Michigan

6. It takes a certain type of person to even get up in that thing.

No wonder they’re so expensive.

Big truck human for scale from HumanForScale

5. He really makes an impression.

Which was most likely the point.

Aukana Buddha, the tallest freestanding statue in Sri Lanka at 38 feet, built during the 5th century. Link to more info in comments. from HumanForScale

4. It could swallow us in one gulp.

I knew there was a reason I didn’t like birds.

Holy Fucking shit. This bird is (was) fucking huge. My pal dale for scale. (that rhymes) from HumanForScale

3. Those things are not right, y’all.

I did not need to see how big they were.

Behind the scenes of “Teletubbies” 1997 from interestingasfuck

2. Shock and awe.

Which was, of course, the whole point.

Door at the Parthenon replica in Nashville Tennessee. Kid in picture is 5’2. from HumanForScale

1. I honestly didn’t even need to know this existed at all.

Is that guy trying to give it a kiss??

Wolf eel from natureismetal

I honestly had no idea how big some of these things are – so cool.

What’s the biggest thing you had to stand next to before you realized just how big it is? Tell us about it in the comments!

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What Has a Bad Reputation but Doesn’t Deserve It? Here’s What People Had To Say.

People out there LOVE to hate on pretty much everything, don’t they?

People, ideas, organizations, businesses: nothing is safe!

Yes, some things definitely deserve a bad reputation, but some stuff gets lumped in unnecessarily.

AskReddit users talked about what they think has an undeserved bad reputation.

Let’s see what they had to say.

1. Good and bad.

“Bacteria automatically gets a bad rap.

But most are harmless and some are even beneficial to us.

There’s both good bacteria and bad bacteria.”

2. Jaws ruined that.

“Sharks.

The oceans would be a mess without them. They kill less people per year than mosquitoes deer and PEOPLE.

They’re intelligent but so different from us that the bad rep was practically unavoidable, sadly.”

3. Something to think about.

“Chemicals.

“Chemical-free” is marketing cr*p.

Everything is a chemical.”

4. Here kitty, kitty.

“Black cats.

I had a black cat for years and he was amazing. Acted more like a dog, followed me around and hung out with me, very quiet and calm energy. I found him as a newborn, literally still attached to the placenta.

He’d been abandoned by his mother and was almost dead when I found him. We nursed him and raised him by hand, and he ended up being the strongest, healthiest cat I’ve ever seen. His name was Shadow.”

5. I agree!

“Guy Fieri.

What the heck did he ever do to anyone?”

6. Get funky!

“Disco music.

If you give yourself permission to like it, you’ll be surprised at how catchy and fun it is.”

7. It’s totally fine.

“Tap water.

People have been manipulated by bottled water companies to believe that drinking tap water is somehow bad for you.

Water quality standards for tap water in most first world countries is extremely high.”

8. MSG.

“Monosodium glutamate (MSG).

It’s just the sodium salt of glutamic acid, and it naturally occurs in many foods. There is literally nothing wrong with it if used in appropriate proportions, same as regular salt.

But sadly it was demonized as part of the whole racist “Chinese restaurant syndrome” that convinced people Chinese food was out to kill us all. The myth prevails to this day.”

9. Night owl.

“Being a night person and sleeping late.

Believe me we work better at night and we can be twice as productive.

As someone who likes to build a lot in minecraft and writing the night is my best hour of creativity.

In the end, I also do all my tasks between midnight and 2 AM, the rest is to watch Netflix, YouTube, and Reddit.”

10. Mostly harmless.

“Snakes. Majority of them are harmless.

I understand if you live in an area with deadly snakes. But snakes are always represented as pure evil and villainous when most are just typical reptiles going about their little snake lives.

They don’t want to bother you, they just want to survive the next day and reproduce.”

11. Bats!

“Bats.

Some of the best insect control/pollination help out there (depending on species). Plus they can give you good fertilizer. “But they carry rabies…..” you know what else can carry rabies? Raccoons, rabbits, foxes, dogs, opossums….pretty much mammals. ” But they can carry cross species diseases….”

So do pigs, chicken, primates, and now with Covid 19 dogs & cats. I mean don’t go hug them- but they are very useful & unfortunately on the way out.”

12. It’s good stuff.

“Meatloaf is awesome.

A friend of mine at work is Hispanic. He told me the story of growing up, they never had meatloaf. He said the only thing he knew of it was television shows where kids would say things like “Aww, meatloaf again?” so he assumed it was terrible.

Then one day, he had the opportunity to try it. He loved it!

This came up because the company we work for was giving out free lunches last year for those of use who had to work through the early part of the quarantine. One day, they had meatloaf. We both got the meatloaf and then he told me about growing up and thinking it tasted bad.

This is one of my favorite stories.”

13. Time to chill out.

“Being unproductive.

There’s this weird Internet culture of people who think if you’re not putting every waking second into learning, developing an app, starting a business, curating a hobby, activism, working, etc. then you’re wasting your life.

It’s okay to be unproductive. Everyone already needs to chill the f**k out half the time anyway. Go make yourself some tea and play some video games.”

Okay, now it’s your turn to sound off.

In the comments, tell us what you think has an undeserved bad reputation.

We can’t wait to hear from you!

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Crazy Items That People Are Still Trying to Get Past the TSA

Human beings are bizarre, and if you need more proof, just consider the fact that – even though we know or can easily find the rules – people will try to sneak literally anything through security at the airport.

You know, these people are the reason the rest of us are stuck in line having to pee longer than necessary.

It’s kind of funny when you’re not stuck in line, though, what these officers have found while rummaging through people’s luggage.

13. That is not a clock, friends.

Or at least, it’s not just a clock.

12. Weapons are weapons, people.

You cannot take that on a plane.

11. You can’t bring drugs.

Not even if it’s legal where you’re from.

10. Also a weapon.

This isn’t the Hunger Games, folks.

9. Who WAS this person?

I need to know!

8. It might be historical.

But that doesn’t mean you can’t hurt someone with it.

7. I would have had to quit.

I don’t do maggots.

6. What is this, prison?

Seriously what is happening.

5. You’d be surprised what they say is a liquid.

Or at least, I was.

4. Firecrackers are a no-go.

Womp-womp.

3. That’s quite a gift.

For security…wrapped and everything.

2. Y’ALL.

I had no idea so many freaks tried to bring actual weapons on the plane.

1. People are just so creative.

Bless.

The gall, y’all. I would never even think about bringing this stuff through! I mean… that bag with the maggots? What in the actual heck!?!?

Have you ever seen TSA confiscate anything super weird? Tell us about it in the comments!

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People Who Started Over in New Cities Shared Advice

It can be really hard to start over.

Especially when you do it somewhere totally new.

And when you decide to take that big plunge, you can use all the help you can get.

Folks who started over in new cities shared their advice on AskReddit.

Let’s take a look at what they had to say.

1. Be smart about it.

“If you can, move with at least three months rent/ bills/ expenses saved. If you’re not going right into a job, you’re going to want that extra cash.

If you haven’t picked a place to live, and don’t know anyone, walk around different neighbourhoods you’re considering before you move (or aim for a short term lease to begin with).”

2. Very specific.

“Do not start a relationship with someone who you met on Tinder because you didn’t want to be alone in a new city and then let the relationship spin out of control and turn out that she’s kinda insane and very manipulative and then your first 9 months in London are s**t and now a whole borough of London is ruined for you by memories of an abusive ex.

Also, find a coffee shop you like that opens late. Nothing like getting some work done while drinking coffee on a rainy night.”

3. From a veteran.

“Moved around a few times, different cities, different countries.

Few tips.

Join stuff your into – sports, drama, drinking club whatever. Get to meet people with similar interests and get a base in the city.

There’s likely a meeting group for people from where you’re from, or at least a sports bar that shows your countries/teams games. Even if you’ve no interest in the sport, there’ll be others there same as you.

Join stuff you want to be into but didn’t for whatever reason. You’ll have the time and whose going to know you here

Get a job with food delivery place, like uber eats even part time. You get to know the city and the best food.

Rent a place short term, couple months until you get to know what part of the city you want to live.

Lovely new apts tend to be in boring places.

Get your public transport pass, the schedules, any apps for the city, emergency numbers, learn the big traffic times…

You’re moving to live, it’s not a holiday so enjoy your first couple of weeks but watch your money.”

4. Stick it out.

“No matter how homesick you get. Stick with it. Grind it out and know you moved for a reason.

My guess is to make a change. So be the change. As dumb as it sounds “be the change you want to see” There will never be a place that feels like “home”. But home will never give you a fresh start. What I’ve noticed from being a military brat and moving multiple times in my younger life to now being a traveling welder and continually moving, you will always be yourself.

But you don’t have to be who you once were or carry the weight of the regrets and mistakes that are making you want to move in the first place. As the old saying goes. “You live and you learn” everybody makes mistakes but if you don’t learn from said situations good or bad you will forever make the same ones. It’s scary honestly. The thing that eats at me the most is everytime I had/have to move is the feeling of being alone.

But every time I do I learn something new about myself that I would’ve never thought was possible. As scary as it is it’s the most gratifying feeling telling yourself “ hell yeah I did that and I made it”.”

5. Doing solo stuff.

“Get comfortable doing things on your own.

You won’t be alone forever, but there will be times where you find yourself with no one to hang out with and nothing to do. Go out anyway. Just wander. It’s incredible how many cool things you can find when you just leave yourself open to possibilities.

Push yourself to explore. I used to do something I called “the alphabet game”. I’d hop on my bike and look for the letters of the alphabet on street signs in order and turn when I came across them (right at “a” left at “b” right at “c” etc.) just to push myself into areas I wouldn’t otherwise find.

Don’t be afraid to visit the touristy spots. When you get guests from out of town, they’ll want to see them and you’ll want to familiarize yourself with the coolest stuff and know what to skip.

If your lifestyle allows, get a dog. They get you out if the house and are a great way to meet people and will help curb loneliness when it pops up. Just make sure you can give it a happy and healthy life. Some cities are far more dog friendly than others.”

6. See the town.

“Ride a bicycle every chance you get. Explore on that bike, and go everywhere.

Its amazing how quickly you’ll feel at home knowing every nook and cranny, every secret and seeing uplcose and personal the details you miss while driving.”

7. Get a routine.

“Find a routine.

Find a cafe/pub where the owner / servers look like people you would like to hang with and get personal with them. Find some community groups. keep seeing all the sights.

Join some meetups, help out for a cause, constantly ask strangers for directions rather than use GPS.”

8. A good start.

“Saying yes to things, and especially new things, is a good life philosophy in general. If you go and end up hating it, well at least you tried it and you’ll know for next time. If you go and end up loving it, awesome! You found a new thing you like.

For me, I had been having feelings of exclusion from my social group, but I realized I was kind of excluding myself by not being present or actively engaging with people.

All types of relationships take work and one of the best ways to make and keep strong relationships with people is by saying yes when they invite you to do things. When you say yes to things, you’re giving yourself opportunities to make memories, get cool experiences, and bond with people.”

9. You’re still you.

“You are still going to be you, so expect that only the scenery will change unless you make a real effort.

You need to find our build a community early before inertia kicks in. Your job, your hobby, and your social obligation are the three best sources. By social obligation, I mean volunteer work, church, fraternal order, whatever.

We have a lot of people come to my home and they keep voting the same way that ruined the places they are fleeing. Yet they come here and keep voting the same way trying to change things, and failing to see the irony.”

10. A big one.

“If you’re moving to a new country, learn the language!

I can’t tell you how much of a difference it makes. Even if you can communicate with people in your language/ another mutual language, speaking to someone in their mother tongue makes the person feel more comfortable and more willing to open up to you.

There’s also the added benefit of meeting friends in your language school if you choose to go that route.”

11. You got this!

“I’ve moved a lot too, and I would also add that I only start to feel settled in after about six months. Totally have the three weeks of hating it, and you’ll still have times when you are so unbearably homesick.

Keep in touch with your old friends periodically (if you aren’t trying to cut ties), and don’t go back to visit for at least four months. Enjoy the relationships you made, and throw yourself into figuring out the new place.

You made friends before, you CAN do it again, promise!”

Have you ever started over in a new city?

If so, how did it go?

Tell us your stories in the comments, please!

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Confessions from People Who Fell for Their “Work Wives”

It’s hard to go to a job every day with nothing to look forward to.

People are resilient, and they find joy where they can.

Sometimes that joy is in the bond they form with others in the same situation.

Sometimes you spend so much time together you start to bicker like an old marry couple–and you know each other that well too.

It can make work nice, and comfortable. But it can also cause trouble if you’re not careful.

Here are 10 times people fell in love with their “work wife.”

1. Deep breaths. Infatuation fades.

It’s always fun when it’s new and exciting.

Image credit: Whisper

2. Is emotional cheating still cheating?

Maybe. Only you can decide.

Image credit: Whisper

3. Please do everyone a favor and re-evaluate your upcoming nuptials

Secrets fester, but as secrets go…
this one might not be a good one to keep.

Image credit: Whisper

4. Moving on is probably for the best

On the other hand, if you’re both single, now’s your chance.

Image credit: Whisper

5. Those pesky significant others

They’re always getting in the way.

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6. Sometimes it’s good to remember there are different kinds of love

And if that doesn’t help, I recommend cold showers and lots of sick days.

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7. An interesting conundrum

I want to see the ending of this movie…
And I want it to be a grand gesture confessing the secret love.
On both sides.

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8. You know you’ve got it bad when you’re happy it’s Monday

Honestly, figure out a way to lock it down.
Because if she can make Mondays not terrible, you need her in your life forever.

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9. When love IS requited, but it’s still not enough

I’d be tempted to quit my job and never have to see her again.

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And a bonus one for the warriors.

10. Maybe he’s saying the exact same thing about his work wife

Some bonds are powerful like that.

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15 years ago I had a friend with a deep and abiding love for her “work husband”–the first time I ever heard the term.

These confessions really hit all the feels. It can be exquisitely painful to fall for someone you can’t have. I want happy endings for all of them.

What do you think about “work spouses”? Tell us in the comments.

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What’s Something You Did Because of Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)? Here’s What People Said.

FOMO means “fear of missing out”, just in case you needed some clarification.

And, whether you want to admit it or not, you probably suffer from it in some form or fashion.

What if I miss that party tonight? What if I don’t go to the club?

The possibilities are endless…

What have you done due to FOMO?

AskReddit users spilled their guts.

1. Wedding story.

“I was hanging with friends at a bar, and accidentally sat down at the wrong table (really dark inside). Started talking to those guys, long story short, one of them was getting married on Saturday, and he invited me to come. The other one was his officiant/future BIL.

So I went. It was at the bride’s parent’s house, so I only knew my bar buddies. It was a lot of fun though, I was glad I went! A snobby chick at the reception was like, oh, do you crash weddings often? No, I replied, puzzled, I do go when I’m invited by the groom, though.

The marriage didn’t last terribly long, but I’m friends with the bride on the FB now.”

2. Don’t know until you try.

“I asked a girl that works at the pet store by my house if she had a boyfriend this week. She does, but I knew I’d never forgive myself if i didn’t ask.

I said “Oh, he’s a lucky guy,” and moved on. I’ve been too afraid to ask before and that sucks.”

3. You hungry?

“When I was a kid the cool, older neighbor kids (also young kids) told me to eat grass. I of course didn’t want to, so they told me they all did and I would be cool if I did. So I picked a big handful and ate it while everyone laughed at me.

Afterwards it came out that none of them had, in fact, ate any grass at all, and, as it turns out, none of us knew what would happen if one were to eat grass.

So I ran home where my old man was in the backyard spraying something with a garden hose or some s**t.

I said “hey dad what would happen if somebody ate a big handful of grass?”

He replied, absolutely deadpan “tell me you didn’t eat grass.”

I said “well no but somebody else did and I was just…”

He said, “Tell me you didn’t eat grass…”

Tears started welling up and I said “well I was running real fast and I fell and when I fell my mouth landed on a clump of grass and my mouth closed on it and I accidentally swallowed a whole bunch of it and… Am I gonna die?!?”

He said “Probably. But go in and drink as much water as you can stand and then I will take you to the hospital”

I ran inside and drank as much water as I could and rushed out to the van where the old man was waving me into the open door. We flew out of the neighborhood, screaming towards the hospital while I cried in the back seat.

Finally, we got to the liquor store down the street from the hospital where the old man said, “nah I’m just messing with you. You’ll be fine.”

And he went in and bought beer and we drove home.”

4. YOLO!

“Ziplines.

I have a fear of heights so I was very nervous about going on them in North Carolina with my friends. They were so supportive though talking about how, “Its ok, you dont have to go we understand” or “Of course you dont have to, I just think you would actually enjoy it”.

It was because they were so nice about it I really didnt want to disappoint them. I had an absolute blast on them by the way. So much fun after the first 5 seconds of terror on the first line haha.”

5. You were busy!

“For my 30th birthday I tried 30 new things.

The list included a pedicure and manicure, fancy Starbucks drink, driving a red Porsche, gambling at the casino.

It was a crazy fun day but I learned that I have a great life without all that stuff.”

6. Couldn’t say no.

“Paragliding in Interlakken, Switzerland.

I still have a fear of heights, but all my friends were doing it so I just had to join.”

7. A good decision.

“I joined my friends in auditioning for the musical in senior year of high school because i just happened to be friends with a lot of theatre kids.

Ended up with a supporting role including a duet and a decent amount of lines.

I still consider it one of the best decisions I ever made. It was a crazy amount of fun.”

8. Ouch.

“Ate ten ants to join my brothers club in first grade.

Said I could only join if I ate ten ants. So I did.

And then he disbanded the club.”

9. Had to do it.

“I went to Easter Island!

I was already in Chile for work when I learned that it was the only place that had flights there. I figured it was as close as I’d ever be, and I didn’t know if or when I’d ever revisit Chile, so I took the leap and did it.

Totally worth it.”

10. No way.

“One of those “mud races”.

Got a skin infection and sun poisoning.”

11. Not for everyone.

“Skateboarding.

I have some friends who know how to skate try to teach me, but I just wasn’t good at it.

Too bad because I think skateboarding is really fu**ing cool.”

Have you ever done anything ridiculous due to FOMO?

Tell us your funny stories in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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These People Are All Keeping Big, Juicy Secrets

I don’t like secrets. They kind of eat away at you, like they have a life and mind of their own and just can’t wait to emerge into the big, scary world and do their damage.

Sometimes they come to you when you don’t ask for them and sometimes they’re the result of your own dubious decision-making, but either way, we feel like we have to keep them close for as long as we can.

These 14 people are admitting to sitting on some pretty juicy ones, so check them out.

14. I…wish I had not read this.

I walked in on my ex girlfriend.letting the dog lick her out while she brushed him. It was clinical as f**k, it was “the only way she could get him to not move while she brushed him”.

Zero enjoyment on her face. It was multiple levels of odd.

13. What a mess.

A good friend of mine is Indian and gay, which she knows her family won’t accept. She about to have an arranged marriage to a man, who is also gay.

Neither of their families know the truth and are excited about the upcoming wedding. The groom’s boyfriend is part of the wedding party.

They plan to have children via ivf at some point.

12. You can’t trust people.

I know his kink, he knows mine. It’s basically mutually assured destruction if either of us ever turns into that big an a$$hole.

11. What a horrible woman.

My stepmom threw away a family heirloom that was gifted to me to make my already poor relationship with my dad worse.

I didn’t figure it out until many years later, but my dad has passed now and she was never popular with any of my family or any of his friends to begin with.

10. A huge understatement.

I had sex with my mormon boyfriend before and after he went on his mission, and also either directly before or even after he’d proposed to his now wife (he didn’t think it was particularly important to tell me that he’d found a good mormon fiancé in another town already).

This is a big no-no in the mormon church.

9. Some secrets shouldn’t be kept.

One of my brother’s military friends sexually assaulted me while my brother, his friend, and one of my friends were hanging out playing pool and drinking. My brother knows because I told him the night it happened. My family also knows.

The dude is married and has three kids. Initially my brother was furious and talked about shooting the guy, but now they’re friends again and the reasoning he gave me was “everybody cheats.” Except none of it was consensual and I’m not a piece of s*%t.

His wife showed up in my “People You May Know” on Facebook and I’ve contemplated telling her.

I plan on telling the wife, and yes, my brother cheated on his partner to be with his current wife. He’s also in the military and that’s how he knows the douche in question.

8. They need to be outed.

Not sure about life ruining, but basically someone spammed another person with what they thought were anonymous death threats + told them to kill themselves, then fled the platform they did it on and now are fairly successful on another.

Definitely weird knowing someone’s a shitty person + having evidence and several witnesses while their fans / friends dont and think they’re a sweetheart.

7. She better watch her back.

One of my coworkers smokes meth at work. In the last three months I’ve found probably half a dozen pipes she’s left behind because she’s too fucked up to remember to hide them. About a month ago she started leaving these passive aggressive notes (usually when the boss shows up) about how she’s the only one who does her job

I showed her the folder on my phone and told her if she leaves another bulls*%t note for me to read, I’ll call the boss, then I’ll call DHR.

6. I hate this.

More like a secret amongst me, my mom and siblings, but it’s how abusive my dad used to be. Still is but he has improved.

My brother barely even speaks to my dad anymore, he caught the majority of the abuse when we were teens.

Mum passed away 2 years ago and since then he has stopped majority of his abusive behavior. Whether of not it was intentional or not I haven’t figured out.

But every now and again I’ll just have flashbacks of all the violent and aggressive bulls%*t he pulled.

5. Time to sober up.

Wouldn’t really ruin his life but it would be embarrassing.

One of my buddies is a furry, like a massive furry.

I was looking for some old call of duty videos we made in like 2009, I was just searching the old Gamertags, trying to figure out where they were and a page for a furry website popped up.

It had all his basic info on it, with an up to date age, I looked around the page and found an IRL pic from his room that I recognized. It had like 8 years of almost daily uploads/interactions on there.

Haven’t told anyone, can’t really.

Not going to be the guy that just bullies him or tells our other friends, he’s not hurting anyone. But I’m also not gonna tell him I know, cause that would be mad awkward.

I’m terrified I’m gonna let it slip when I’m drunk.

4. This is downright hilarious.

My mom is the most straight laced, uptight person you can imagine and she works very high level financial jobs for the government.

What no one else knows is that she has a tattoo on the back of her leg of a bear with p**ises instead of legs- like where it’s legs would be there are just massive d**ks. She wears tights or pants to cover it all the time, as far as I know I’m the only person that knows about it. She was a very wild teenager and met up with an “aspiring tattoo artist” (aka rando with a tattoo gun) in a hotel room to get a tattoo of a bear when she was 16- the guy got a little excessively creative and gave her a bear with dicks for legs.

It is so vulgar that if anyone saw it I think there’s a good chance she’s lose her job, or at least have some serious explaining to do. I once asked her why she doesn’t get it removed and she says it’s her “symbol to her stupid youth”.

3. That poor girl.

The family of a good friend (let’s call her Ashley) is very religious. To the point that they only let her go to school or out with people they approved (I was the “good girl” who was allowed to go out with her to have fun) So, I was with Ashley during her rebellious stage in which She got into everything her family hated, got piercings, drank alcohol, dated guys (there was a video of her in a threesome that we had to delete from a guy’s cell phone), and even has a couple of tattoos.

The point is that she is now of legal age and her family treats her as the exemplary girl that she never gave problems with the minors of the family. She is in a 1-year relationship with a boy from church that they approve of and with whom she “had no relationships” because they are expecting marriage.

If they knew the things she did in her adolescence, they would completely disown her, she would take away all the financial stability that she has from her since she continues to live with her parents. And all her neighbors would stop talking to her because her father is the pastor of the church.

2. As long as they’re happy.

My friend who got married (to a girl) is gay.

I live in an Asian society where being Gay is still stigmatized.

He told her he was mostly gay and interested way more in men than women in their first year of marriage. Divorce is also very stigmatized. They have a secret open relationship where she is free to pursue whoever she wants and the same applies for him.

They are currently in their 60s. Both are like each others best friend and are very close.

From what I can tell, they are happy with each other. Just not romantically.

1. He must know.

One of my closest friends went to an Ivy League college. He very much acts like it on a regular basis.

I know (but he doesn’t) that his parents bought his way in. His grades were far too mediocre.

Human beings are just so complicated, y’all.

What horrible secret do you wish you weren’t keeping? Confess in the comments!

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