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You Only Need To Meet Around 40% of Job Requirements in Order to Apply

Job hunting is a daunting prospect. There’s the competition, the time it takes to comb through things and apply, and finding the self-worth to believe that you deserve a certain position or pay level before taking the plunge.

If you’re concerned about that latter part, this post should make you feel better – because most experts agree that you only need to met around 40% of requirements to not only apply, but to land a job and be successful at it, too.

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The hiring process is vastly different than it used to be, so if you’re about to jump into the job-hunting waters, here are some tips and things you ought to know before you do.

First, when it comes to your resume, there’s a 75% chance that it’s going to be read by a software program first, not an actual person. If you want to make it past the bots and in front of eyeballs, you’l want to make sure you list key terms and experiences that line up with exactly what they asked for in their job posting.

Second, if you have connections, you should definitely use them – as many as 80% of jobs are filled by networking these days, and around 70% of jobs are not posted at all.

Research shows that it’s your more dormant ties, like people you haven’t seen regularly or don’t know as well, who will be the most helpful. Don’t be afraid to talk to friends of friends, to reconnect with people your parents might have known or even fellow alumni from your high school or college. People you’ve worked with previously can be a great resource, as well.

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If that doesn’t work, try clubs, related organizations, or even your church.

Third, stay on top of listings and apply as soon as they come available. The smaller the group you’re being compared to the better, and don’t worry about whether or not you meet all – or even half – of the listed requirements.

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Once you make it past the bot screening resumes, you’ve got plenty of chances to sell yourself, says Ian Siegel, co-founder and CEO of ZipRecruiter.

“People are making unconscious judgments about your warmth, competencies, and ability to be hired within seconds.”

Here are three tips he suggests that you always follow:

  • Wear something that makes you comfortable and causes you to sit or stand taller. You will appear happier, more relaxed, and confident. Smile and look your interviewer in the eye.
  • Say the interviewer’s name. It makes them feel seen and heard.
  • People love talking about themselves, so find a way to get your interviewer to do the majority of the speaking. Before you answer the traditional “Tell me about yourself” question, remember, they already have your resume in front of them. Lead with a response of “Before I answer that, I just want to say how excited I am to be here. It must be so wonderful to work at such a great company.” Make sure the conversation is like a pingpong game, with a natural back and forth conversational cadence.

If you want more tips and advice like these, you can check out Siegel’s book, Get Hired Now!

Good luck out there, friends.

Looking for a new job can be daunting and can make you feel like quitting before you even get started, but all of the stress will be worth it in the end.

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This is How Spanking Affects Your Child’s Brain

There are a lot of options when it comes to disciplining children, and in general, as long as no one is getting hurt, people tend to leave family business up to the individual families who have to live with their choices.

That said, I think that most of us want to raise healthy and happy kids, and to avoid the mistakes and pitfalls that affected us growing up.

The funny thing is that even though most of us would agree that we didn’t enjoy being spanked, and that it didn’t affect our behavior the way our parents hoped, we tend to think still that spanking is ok.

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If you’re wondering what sort of discipline style might work in your home, here are some facts about how spanking can affect your child’s brain.

They come from licensed psychologist Dr. Han, who spoke with Buzzfeed about her work with children and how spanking, specifically, affects them.

The bottom line is that Dr. Ren sees spanking as a result of generational trauma.

“This is still something that’s a remnant of the old ways of dealing with conflict and it persists within the parent-child relationship. Mostly because people say, ‘I was spanked and that’s how I know how to discipline my children.’ They don’t have access to alternatives so they think this is the only way they can raise law-abiding good citizens.”

Basically, just because something is the way your culture has always done it, or because your parents and their parents thought it was the best tool to use based on what they knew, doesn’t mean repeating it is the best idea.

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“So many communities of color, especially, use spanking as part of what they deem ‘cultural.’ I think we confuse what’s cultural with what’s generational trauma because it’s something that was used on our people. These are communities that have been enslaved and oppressed and colonized. It was the most common method of keeping people in line and that gets passed down through the body, through generations. So we confuse it, thinking it’s culture.”

The past 30 years of research suggests that spanking is linked to depression and anxiety, as well as aggression, impulse control, anger, and “other problems that infringe on the rights of others.”

Dr. Ren also says that they see “poor cognitive development, such as difficulty with concentration, thinking, and planning. Poor emotional regulation, poor personal conflict resolution, and other maladaptive, problematic outcomes.”

A study out of Harvard used a fMRI machine to monitor how a child’s brain changes in real time, and the results have been enlightening.

“This study looked at brain activation in the amygdala, which is the part of the brain responsible for emotion, especially fear and anger. They also looked at the prefrontal cortex – the part of the brain that’s responsible for executive function, decision-making, planning, and higher-order thinking.”

Children’s brains react to a fearful face with more activity than a neutral face, and children who have been spanked react even stronger to that fearful face than their non-spanked counterparts.

If you’re looking for alternatives to spanking, Dr. Ren has a few helpful suggestions.

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“We need to teach kids who are really little how to self-regulate. Take deep breaths or find other sensory outlets, like screaming into a pillow. Teach them to self-monitor – like ‘am I hungry?’, ‘am I tired?’ – and give them the vocabulary for expressing their needs.”

The good thing about parenting today is that there are tons of resources online if you have questions or want to intentionally seek out alternative ways to raise your child.

Go forth to TikTok, my friends, and be prepared to change the way you think!

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A Guy Reported His Own Mother for Identity Fraud. Was He Wrong?

It’s gotta be bad when you report someone in your own family for any kind of crime…

But it happens, folks!

And that’s what happened here in a story about a young man reporting his own mother for identity fraud.

Let’s see what went down and how readers reacted on Reddit.

AITA for reporting my mom for identity fraud?

“I (24M) and my gf put in an application to rent a condo and found out my mom borrowed ~$43,000 with my social insurance.

I talk with a lawyer and he tells me I can either report my mom for identity fraud or pay it off(or declare bankruptcy). I confront my mom and she begs me not to do it and just pay off the debt. I don’t have anywhere near that money and decide to do what the lawyer recommended. The lawyer told me filling out the police report is not the same as pressing charges but I’m still scared what might happen to her.

We use to be very poor and she used my social insurance to pay the bills and provide for me and my brother. This feels like I’m betraying her and her and my brother refuse to speak to me. My relatives all stopped talking to me.

Am I the a**hole here?”

And here’s how people responded on Reddit.

This person stated the obvious: $43,000 is a lot of money, no doubt about it.

And it sounds like his mom isn’t the kind of person to actually pay a debt off.

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Another reader said that this man is now A LOT of money in the hole and that this illegal.

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This Reddit user said that they know someone who had a similar experience and it caused a lot of havoc.

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This person thinks that the man needs to report his mom and they’re speaking from experience.

Check out what they had to say.

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Okay, now it’s your turn to sound off.

In the comments, tell us what you think about this story and if you agree with how this person handled it.

We’d love to hear from you. Thanks!

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A Person Told Their Friend to Leave and Never Come Back. Were They Wrong?

Get out and don’t come back!

Nobody ever wants to hear that, right?

But that’s what this person felt they had to do to a friend who was not respecting their boundaries.

Check out this story from Reddit.

AITA for telling my friend to leave over my weird obsession and to never come back again?

“I’ve been thinking about posting this for a while but I’ve held off.

Around 2 weeks ago, I invited a few friends over to my house to chill and hang out. Now, in my friend group, a lot of them think that I’m weird because I collect things; but for me, it’s an investment. I have a specific room where I have tons of old video games, dolls, baseball/football cards, and antiques, that easily total over 100k; and since prices keep rising, I keep collecting things I know will be valuable later on.

I have this really cherished antique that I, in all my trading, both buying and selling, have never even considered anything to do with it; an incredibly old Springfield 1861 musket, bayonet included. It was passed down from generations ago, and I still have it.

One of my friends asked me what “valuable junk” I have, and I decided to turn up my ego and told him that I had a genuine 1861 Springfield rifle. None of them believed me, so I told them that I would go up, take a picture, and bring it back down.

The guy who asked said that wasn’t enough, and that it could’ve been faked, and then thought it was his personal right to practically run to my room without my permission.

We all practically chased after him to stop him, and right as he entered the room he tripped over a bunch of baseball cards and smashed 3 pots that totalled around 6 grand. I told him to leave immediately and that I didn’t want to talk to him again, and that I was going to press charges. I still hold it against my friend for getting into the place when I told him no.

A lot of other friends are saying that I was way too harsh with it, that it was an accident. I then told them that it was his fault for entering when I specifically told him not to, and that those items were worth a lot to me, sentimentally as well, since I’d had them for over 10 years. They’ve been telling me I need to stop the legal action.

AITA?”

Okay, now it’s time to check out what the good folks of Reddit had to say about this.

A person said that this person was not wrong to act the way they did and that this guy caused some major damage.

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This reader said that the guy needs to prove how much this stuff was worth before demanding that kind of money.

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And this individual argued that the man was totally at fault and that if he doesn’t pay up, the writer of the post should pursue legal action.

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Lastly, this reader made it plain and simple: YOU BREAK IT, YOU BUY IT!

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Well, that was kind of wild…

Now we want to get your thoughts on this story.

Talk to us in the comments and let us know what you think!

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Is This Person Rude for Not Letting Their Neighbor Hang Stuff on His Fence?

I’ve learned in my life that people get really worked up about a lot of stuff, especially when it comes to houses.

Two of those things are yards and fences.

And, in case you haven’t been paying attention, it would be in your best interest to NOT mess with either of those things…

And this neighborly dispute over a fence got ugly…let’s check it out.

AITA for building a fence on my property and not allowing my neighbor to hang stuff on it or paint it?

“This will probably be rather short and I am not sure if it’s worth posting, but I really need to get a read on whether I am being an a**hole or not, so here goes.

I bought a house with a big yard several months ago, it is my very first house and the most expensive thing I have ever owned, prior to this I have only ever lived in apartments and the dynamic between neighbors seems really different, which is another reason I am asking.

When I moved here there was a very old rotten wooden fence on the property separation line between me and my new neighbors property, I wanted to replace it from the start however I decided to focus on the house first, you know the usual stuff, fixing up what needed “fixing upping”, Painting, Flooring, moving in the furniture and so on before focusing on the yard.

Now the guy who owned my house before was an old man and because of his age the Yard had not seen much work done for what I assume were several years, so it has been a lot of work fixing up the yard. About a month ago I finally got some time to replace the fence. I went over to the neighbors house, talked about replacing the Fence and if he was going to split the cost with me but he would have nothing of it, he said the fence was fine and he has no issue with no fence so if I want to remove it I should go ahead but he was not giving me a dime to replace it.

It’s worth adding that the previous Fence was completely on my property and purchased completely by the previous owner, the neighbor has no claim on it.

While I was a bit weirded out by his response I decided to just finance the fence myself and install it myself, being quite a few bucks and a lot of hard work lighter I am now the proud owner of a nice, tall, wooden fence. I need to point out just to make this clear, I paid for it entirely, I put it up by myself, I removed the old fence on my own and the fence is entirely on my side of the property line.

I came home from work a few days ago to find my fence on the neighbors side entirely filled with plant pots, the border also filled in with all sorts of plants and he had painted it.

I went over to my neighbor and demanded he take all of it down alongside demanding he’d get his sand grinder and take the paint of off my fence as well, after all you don’t want to pay for it, you don’t get to paint it or hang s**t on it or for that matter plant stuff in my yard(As I said the fence is entirely on my property, so the border of his yard where he planted stuff is also mine).

He laughed at me and essentially told me to get f**ked. Well I went back there, tossed all his c**p off off my fence, pulled all of his plants out and tossed them in his yard and painted the side towards his fence an obnoxious bright yellow.

I have since had him raging at my door, his kids came over to yell at me as they had worked for hours on it and well, here we are, I am wondering whether I am the a**hole as I might have gone too far.”

You know the drill…

Now let’s check out how readers responded!

This person said that this man is not a jerk because it’s his property AND he paid for it.

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Another Reddit user said the neighbor could actually be charged with a number of crimes for their behavior.

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This individual said that the man shouldn’t let this stand and that he needs to take care of it ASAP.

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Lastly, this reader said they don’t think the guy who wrote the post is an a**hole but he probably could handle the situation in a different way.

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What do you think about this story?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know.

Thanks in advance!

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A Mom’s Conversation With a Teacher Shows That Online School Is Hard for Everyone

The transition to online learning has been hard for everyone – parents, teachers, students, and administration.

There has been big adjustments on every side, and this conversation between parent and teacher only solidifies that fact.

The mother heard that her son’s teacher was rude after he asked her name, and started an email exchange that, though heated at the beginning, resolved well.

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The teacher replied that she’d meant she was sad he couldn’t recall her name and hadn’t meant to be rude, which…idk, y’all.

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Mom wasn’t buying it, either.

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So, she didn’t let it go.

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As she shouldn’t have.

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She replied again, still respectful, but let the teacher know her response had not been good enough.

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The teacher’s reply was respectful, also, and contained an apology.

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Bravo.

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Everyone ended up feeling better, I hope, and the teacher really is thoughtful about where this takes her in the future.

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People on Twitter applauded her efforts and her standing up for her son when he deserved her support.

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Some people questioned whether or not the teacher didn’t need the wakeup call, so good thing it was given in such a mindful manner.

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No one should be made to feel badly for asking honest and respectful questions.

Full stop.

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Proof, if you ask me, that having an open line of communication with your child’s teacher is the best way to go – and even if you don’t want to always stand up for your child or take their side before you speak with the teacher, our kids do need to know that we have their backs when they deserve it.

Have you had a unique challenges with online school? Share them with us in the comments!

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Should This Guy Be Checking His Blood Sugar In Private Because of a Coworker?

Managing medical issues can quickly turn into a full-time job. When your illness is something that isn’t fleeting, it becomes a part of your daily routine – one that you keep, faithfully, because the alternative is serious complications, or even death.

For people living with diabetes that means regularly checking their blood sugar, and though there have been massive advances that make that easier, the majority of them still involve a small amount of blood.

I (24M) enjoy my job and have two coworkers, Megan (25F) and our new coworker James (23M) who just started. The three of us each have our own office space, but because we have to frequently collaborate on work throughout the day we are often at each other’s desks.

I am a type 1 diabetic, I give insulin and check my blood sugar throughout the day as needed. I give insulin through a pump so that’s not an issue. Checking my blood sugar involves pricking my finger to draw a drop of blood, the blood gets sucked up into a test strip that is connected to a glucose meter, and the meter displays the reading. The whole process takes like 10 seconds.

He explained that her officemates are often at his desk and vice versa. One of them, a young man, nearly passed out when accidentally catching him checking his blood sugar.

He explained he has a phobia serious enough to require therapy and called OP “freaky.”

I was checking my blood sugar in my office right when James walked over. Immediately, his face went white, he looked like he was about to puke or faint or maybe both. I was like, dude are you okay? He told me that he has a major blood and needle phobia and gets therapy for it. I explained what I was doing and why it was necessary and he said it’s “freaky” that I have to MAKE myself bleed multiple times a day.

When he said he never wants to accidentally see that again, OP offered the compromise of warning him if he’s coming over at a bad time (for him).

He said that’s not going to work, because he’ll still imagine what OP is doing in his mind.

I know.

He told me he never wants to accidentally walk in on me checking my blood sugar again because he could pass out. I said that if I’m checking my blood sugar and hear him coming over I can call out a warning like “give me a sec!”. He said that won’t work, just knowing that I’m doing that just before he comes over is enough to freak him out, and that he would be stressed that I might not hear him walking over.

His compromise was he check his blood sugar in the bathroom, and refused to budge even when OP explained that a) he didn’t want to and b) it’s unsanitary.

As a second option, he asked whether OP could do it at set times – OP explained that wouldn’t always work because he has to manage based on his symptoms.

He told me I should check it in the bathroom from now on. I told him that I don’t think I should have to do that and it’s unsanitary. He said another option was if I only check my blood sugar at certain times, say 9am, 12pm before eating lunch, and 4pm, that way he’d know when to avoid me. I said these things can’t always be predicted, I’ll need to check if I feel my blood sugar going high or low.

He believes his phobia needs to be accommodated along with OP’s diabetes, and threatened to go to HR if he fails to “compromise” on a solution.

He said he understands that I have diabetes but that he also has a special need (his blood phobia) that needs to be accommodated and that he doesn’t want to have to avoid me at work and only talk to Megan for fear he might see me checking again. He said he’ll talk to HR about this and that he’ll tell them that I refused to compromise with him.

Now OP is wondering if she should get the jump on the conversation with HR.

He also clarified that he has an actual office, with a door, so his coworker has to actually come into his space to see what’s going on.

That was last Thursday before the holidays, tomorrow I’m thinking of going to talk to HR before James does, but first I need to know that I’m in the right here. So AITA for not being more accommodating of James’ blood/needle phobia and checking my blood sugar as needed at my desk.

To clarify something, James cannot see me test my blood sugar unless he is literally standing in my doorway. It’s not a communal-style workplace. I do not test in common areas, only in my office.

What did Reddit tell her to do? Read on!

Basically, OP is NTA (Not The A$$hole) and his coworker is going to the extremes in expecting others to work around his issue

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And maybe the coworker would like to spring for an expensive, bloodless solution?

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This person went with NAH (No A$$holes Here) and offered some additional solutions that wouldn’t have to involve HR.

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This person was also sympathetic to the coworkers phobic, and thought there was probably a way they could resolve.

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But this is the bottom line.

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He posted an update later stating that both he and the coworker spoke with HR, who helped them come up with a solution that was only kind of working.

Then the coworker quit, partially because he couldn’t work with someone who has diabetes.

Good luck to him; that’s all I can say.

What are your thoughts on this one? Share with us in the comments!

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Should This Guy Be Checking His Blood Sugar In Private Because of a Coworker?

Managing medical issues can quickly turn into a full-time job. When your illness is something that isn’t fleeting, it becomes a part of your daily routine – one that you keep, faithfully, because the alternative is serious complications, or even death.

For people living with diabetes that means regularly checking their blood sugar, and though there have been massive advances that make that easier, the majority of them still involve a small amount of blood.

I (24M) enjoy my job and have two coworkers, Megan (25F) and our new coworker James (23M) who just started. The three of us each have our own office space, but because we have to frequently collaborate on work throughout the day we are often at each other’s desks.

I am a type 1 diabetic, I give insulin and check my blood sugar throughout the day as needed. I give insulin through a pump so that’s not an issue. Checking my blood sugar involves pricking my finger to draw a drop of blood, the blood gets sucked up into a test strip that is connected to a glucose meter, and the meter displays the reading. The whole process takes like 10 seconds.

He explained that her officemates are often at his desk and vice versa. One of them, a young man, nearly passed out when accidentally catching him checking his blood sugar.

He explained he has a phobia serious enough to require therapy and called OP “freaky.”

I was checking my blood sugar in my office right when James walked over. Immediately, his face went white, he looked like he was about to puke or faint or maybe both. I was like, dude are you okay? He told me that he has a major blood and needle phobia and gets therapy for it. I explained what I was doing and why it was necessary and he said it’s “freaky” that I have to MAKE myself bleed multiple times a day.

When he said he never wants to accidentally see that again, OP offered the compromise of warning him if he’s coming over at a bad time (for him).

He said that’s not going to work, because he’ll still imagine what OP is doing in his mind.

I know.

He told me he never wants to accidentally walk in on me checking my blood sugar again because he could pass out. I said that if I’m checking my blood sugar and hear him coming over I can call out a warning like “give me a sec!”. He said that won’t work, just knowing that I’m doing that just before he comes over is enough to freak him out, and that he would be stressed that I might not hear him walking over.

His compromise was he check his blood sugar in the bathroom, and refused to budge even when OP explained that a) he didn’t want to and b) it’s unsanitary.

As a second option, he asked whether OP could do it at set times – OP explained that wouldn’t always work because he has to manage based on his symptoms.

He told me I should check it in the bathroom from now on. I told him that I don’t think I should have to do that and it’s unsanitary. He said another option was if I only check my blood sugar at certain times, say 9am, 12pm before eating lunch, and 4pm, that way he’d know when to avoid me. I said these things can’t always be predicted, I’ll need to check if I feel my blood sugar going high or low.

He believes his phobia needs to be accommodated along with OP’s diabetes, and threatened to go to HR if he fails to “compromise” on a solution.

He said he understands that I have diabetes but that he also has a special need (his blood phobia) that needs to be accommodated and that he doesn’t want to have to avoid me at work and only talk to Megan for fear he might see me checking again. He said he’ll talk to HR about this and that he’ll tell them that I refused to compromise with him.

Now OP is wondering if she should get the jump on the conversation with HR.

He also clarified that he has an actual office, with a door, so his coworker has to actually come into his space to see what’s going on.

That was last Thursday before the holidays, tomorrow I’m thinking of going to talk to HR before James does, but first I need to know that I’m in the right here. So AITA for not being more accommodating of James’ blood/needle phobia and checking my blood sugar as needed at my desk.

To clarify something, James cannot see me test my blood sugar unless he is literally standing in my doorway. It’s not a communal-style workplace. I do not test in common areas, only in my office.

What did Reddit tell her to do? Read on!

Basically, OP is NTA (Not The A$$hole) and his coworker is going to the extremes in expecting others to work around his issue

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And maybe the coworker would like to spring for an expensive, bloodless solution?

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This person went with NAH (No A$$holes Here) and offered some additional solutions that wouldn’t have to involve HR.

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This person was also sympathetic to the coworkers phobic, and thought there was probably a way they could resolve.

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But this is the bottom line.

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He posted an update later stating that both he and the coworker spoke with HR, who helped them come up with a solution that was only kind of working.

Then the coworker quit, partially because he couldn’t work with someone who has diabetes.

Good luck to him; that’s all I can say.

What are your thoughts on this one? Share with us in the comments!

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She Had the Police Go to Her Stepsister’s Wedding. Is She a Jerk?

It’s the cops! Everybody run!

Okay, I guess the people involved in this story couldn’t really run for it because they were at a wedding…which makes this story so strange.

Read on to see what happened in this entry from the “Am I The A**hole?” page on Reddit.

AITA For sending the police to my stepsister’s wedding?

“I (f32) lost my mom when I was 23.

It was by far the most traumatic loss I had experienced. I just couldn’t and didn’t want to accept her death. It was unfair, untimely, and preventable. I got in therapy and was doing better but I had issues with my dad’s new wife and her daughter who’s 25 and just got married weeks ago.

We do not have a close relationship but we were cordial enough to sit at dinner tables. My stepsister treats me as a relative and was as much distant from me. But after my father got sick we had to see each other a lot. I’m handling his care while stepmom works full time and stepsister doesn’t do much though she’s always visiting when I moved in to help my dad.

Before that I was living with my ex so returing home was just in time. I brought with me all of my mom’s belongings and my stepsister showed interest in my mom’s necklace and asked if she could borrow it to wear it at her wedding. I refused and she tried every method to convince me i had to put it in a place where I thought it’d be safe after my stepmother got involved.

As the wedding approached they both kept convincing me to let my stepsister have it (she bragged about affording a better one but it was a matter of showing who’s in control) I stood my ground and told them how serious I was so they backed off.

I didn’t attend the wedding to stay with my dad. I remember wanting to change where I was hiding the necklace while the house was empty but I found it was gone. After searching for hours, I called my stepmom and she said not to worry my stepsister took it and will return it when the wedding is over but it was clear that I won’t see it til after the honeymoon since she said her daughter was staying at a hotel.

I screamed at her to return it but she argued about not wanting to leave the guests and the wedding already started. I told her I’d get it myself but she forbid me from coming saying she’d have to keep me out for wanting to make a scene. I called the Police and explained to them what was happening. I informed them my stepsister intended to leave for her honeymoon with my property.

The Police were sent to where the wedding was being held and they were able to retrieve the necklace from my stepsister. She and my stepmom were in shock and livid. She (stepmom) returned home and kept shouting at me calling me petty and crazy to send the police to my stepsister’s wedding. ruining it and humiliating them over a piece of jewelry.

She was screaming at my sick dad telling him to handle me after the stunt that I pulled at the wedding. I defended myself saying I only wanted an item that belonged to me THAT THEY TOOK WITHOUT PERMISSION returned. She argued further that I could’ve waited to get it back but I chose to burn the bridge with my stepsister and said that she considers me dead after this. She said stuff I can’t mention here but all I can say is it was a bad night.

I might have overreacted by getting the police involved but I had no gaurantee of getting the necklace back since I have experience with them in the past.

AITA?”

Now let’s check out how Reddit users responded to this story.

This person said that this woman is not the a**hole here and that her step-family most definitely is.

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Another Reddit user said that the stepdaughter is acting this way because she most likely learned it from her own mother.

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Another individual said that this was indeed the worst kind of humiliation…and that’s some pretty good revenge, don’t you think?

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And lastly, this person argued that the stepsister only did this because SHE is the a**hole and wanted to upset the woman who wrote the post.

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Does Going to a Classmate’s Parents About Bullying Make This Person Evil?

Family dynamics are complicated in the best of times, and when we’re talking about blended families, things can be downright awkward and unbearable when growing pains – and opposite personalities – rear their heads.

These stepsisters don’t usually get along, but when OP found out that her stepsister was bullying a girl in their grade, Mia, she felt as if she had to do something.

She says she never thought her stepsister was a bully but she had the proof in her hands.

The situation at hand: My stepsister (17f) has been bullying this girl in our grade, Mia. Mia is a very shy person. We were never friends but were friendly until the bullying started and then Mia withdrew from everyone. I found out about the bullying over a month ago.

People described it as “not real bullying” but my stepsister has called her names and told her she doesn’t deserve friends. I found a note telling Mia this. I was pissed. My stepsister and I never had a good relationship (always fighting) but I never figured she was an actual bully, just someone who got on my freaking nerves.

OP went to Mia’s parents with the proof and the accusations, and they went to the school demanding serious consequences for her stepsister.

Her father is angry with her and believe the entire incident was motivated by her dislike for her stepsister (or maybe acting out against his remarriage, etc).

I ended up going to Mia’s parents with what I knew and the evidence of the bullying and now it has been brought up with the school and Mia’s parents want my stepsister expelled. My dad is pissed. He said it was so unbelievably petty and mean spirited to go to the girls parents over “sibling issues”. I told my dad nothing between us would ever be sibling issues, because we’re not siblings and my siblings (younger brother and sister) would never do that to another person.

My stepsister has been suspended right now but it looks like she’ll be expelled Thursday when the big meeting happens. My dad’s wife is freaking out and so are my stepbrothers.

It’s not only her siblings and parents who think she was wrong not to talk to her family or her stepsister directly first, leaving OP to wonder whether or not she really did the right thing.

With the exception of my siblings everyone seems to think I’m wrong for doing what I did, for not at least talking to my stepsister first. I feel like going to Mia’s parents was the right call because of how serious bullying can be for the person being bullied and even calling someone names can cut a person really deep.

But I never expected this kind of reaction. Life at home is very awkward right now.

AITA?

Bullying is bad, but it can be tough to know what is right when family is involved.

What does Reddit think? Keep reading!

This person makes a good point, that if the school believes it’s serious enough to expel the stepsister perhaps her parents should be more focused on their daughter’s actions than the reason for the consequences.

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There is a general sense that OP had a lot of courage, and no one is really telling her that.

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At least the internet people are here to give her a virtual pat on the back.

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People who have been there can vouch for the fact that any kind of bullying can have serious consequences.

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It’s very often a big deal to the person on the receiving end, after all.

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I have to say, I agree with OP taking decisive action, though if she had a better relationship with her stepsister, chances are she would have at least given her a head’s up first.

Either way, this Mia is lucky to have a good friend.

What are your thoughts? Do you think she was just trying to get back at her family?

Sound off in the comments!

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