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Is This Person Rude for Not Letting Their Neighbor Hang Stuff on His Fence?

I’ve learned in my life that people get really worked up about a lot of stuff, especially when it comes to houses.

Two of those things are yards and fences.

And, in case you haven’t been paying attention, it would be in your best interest to NOT mess with either of those things…

And this neighborly dispute over a fence got ugly…let’s check it out.

AITA for building a fence on my property and not allowing my neighbor to hang stuff on it or paint it?

“This will probably be rather short and I am not sure if it’s worth posting, but I really need to get a read on whether I am being an a**hole or not, so here goes.

I bought a house with a big yard several months ago, it is my very first house and the most expensive thing I have ever owned, prior to this I have only ever lived in apartments and the dynamic between neighbors seems really different, which is another reason I am asking.

When I moved here there was a very old rotten wooden fence on the property separation line between me and my new neighbors property, I wanted to replace it from the start however I decided to focus on the house first, you know the usual stuff, fixing up what needed “fixing upping”, Painting, Flooring, moving in the furniture and so on before focusing on the yard.

Now the guy who owned my house before was an old man and because of his age the Yard had not seen much work done for what I assume were several years, so it has been a lot of work fixing up the yard. About a month ago I finally got some time to replace the fence. I went over to the neighbors house, talked about replacing the Fence and if he was going to split the cost with me but he would have nothing of it, he said the fence was fine and he has no issue with no fence so if I want to remove it I should go ahead but he was not giving me a dime to replace it.

It’s worth adding that the previous Fence was completely on my property and purchased completely by the previous owner, the neighbor has no claim on it.

While I was a bit weirded out by his response I decided to just finance the fence myself and install it myself, being quite a few bucks and a lot of hard work lighter I am now the proud owner of a nice, tall, wooden fence. I need to point out just to make this clear, I paid for it entirely, I put it up by myself, I removed the old fence on my own and the fence is entirely on my side of the property line.

I came home from work a few days ago to find my fence on the neighbors side entirely filled with plant pots, the border also filled in with all sorts of plants and he had painted it.

I went over to my neighbor and demanded he take all of it down alongside demanding he’d get his sand grinder and take the paint of off my fence as well, after all you don’t want to pay for it, you don’t get to paint it or hang s**t on it or for that matter plant stuff in my yard(As I said the fence is entirely on my property, so the border of his yard where he planted stuff is also mine).

He laughed at me and essentially told me to get f**ked. Well I went back there, tossed all his c**p off off my fence, pulled all of his plants out and tossed them in his yard and painted the side towards his fence an obnoxious bright yellow.

I have since had him raging at my door, his kids came over to yell at me as they had worked for hours on it and well, here we are, I am wondering whether I am the a**hole as I might have gone too far.”

You know the drill…

Now let’s check out how readers responded!

This person said that this man is not a jerk because it’s his property AND he paid for it.

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Another Reddit user said the neighbor could actually be charged with a number of crimes for their behavior.

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This individual said that the man shouldn’t let this stand and that he needs to take care of it ASAP.

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Lastly, this reader said they don’t think the guy who wrote the post is an a**hole but he probably could handle the situation in a different way.

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What do you think about this story?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know.

Thanks in advance!

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A Mom’s Conversation With a Teacher Shows That Online School Is Hard for Everyone

The transition to online learning has been hard for everyone – parents, teachers, students, and administration.

There has been big adjustments on every side, and this conversation between parent and teacher only solidifies that fact.

The mother heard that her son’s teacher was rude after he asked her name, and started an email exchange that, though heated at the beginning, resolved well.

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The teacher replied that she’d meant she was sad he couldn’t recall her name and hadn’t meant to be rude, which…idk, y’all.

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Mom wasn’t buying it, either.

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So, she didn’t let it go.

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As she shouldn’t have.

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She replied again, still respectful, but let the teacher know her response had not been good enough.

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The teacher’s reply was respectful, also, and contained an apology.

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Bravo.

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Everyone ended up feeling better, I hope, and the teacher really is thoughtful about where this takes her in the future.

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People on Twitter applauded her efforts and her standing up for her son when he deserved her support.

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Some people questioned whether or not the teacher didn’t need the wakeup call, so good thing it was given in such a mindful manner.

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No one should be made to feel badly for asking honest and respectful questions.

Full stop.

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Proof, if you ask me, that having an open line of communication with your child’s teacher is the best way to go – and even if you don’t want to always stand up for your child or take their side before you speak with the teacher, our kids do need to know that we have their backs when they deserve it.

Have you had a unique challenges with online school? Share them with us in the comments!

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Should This Guy Be Checking His Blood Sugar In Private Because of a Coworker?

Managing medical issues can quickly turn into a full-time job. When your illness is something that isn’t fleeting, it becomes a part of your daily routine – one that you keep, faithfully, because the alternative is serious complications, or even death.

For people living with diabetes that means regularly checking their blood sugar, and though there have been massive advances that make that easier, the majority of them still involve a small amount of blood.

I (24M) enjoy my job and have two coworkers, Megan (25F) and our new coworker James (23M) who just started. The three of us each have our own office space, but because we have to frequently collaborate on work throughout the day we are often at each other’s desks.

I am a type 1 diabetic, I give insulin and check my blood sugar throughout the day as needed. I give insulin through a pump so that’s not an issue. Checking my blood sugar involves pricking my finger to draw a drop of blood, the blood gets sucked up into a test strip that is connected to a glucose meter, and the meter displays the reading. The whole process takes like 10 seconds.

He explained that her officemates are often at his desk and vice versa. One of them, a young man, nearly passed out when accidentally catching him checking his blood sugar.

He explained he has a phobia serious enough to require therapy and called OP “freaky.”

I was checking my blood sugar in my office right when James walked over. Immediately, his face went white, he looked like he was about to puke or faint or maybe both. I was like, dude are you okay? He told me that he has a major blood and needle phobia and gets therapy for it. I explained what I was doing and why it was necessary and he said it’s “freaky” that I have to MAKE myself bleed multiple times a day.

When he said he never wants to accidentally see that again, OP offered the compromise of warning him if he’s coming over at a bad time (for him).

He said that’s not going to work, because he’ll still imagine what OP is doing in his mind.

I know.

He told me he never wants to accidentally walk in on me checking my blood sugar again because he could pass out. I said that if I’m checking my blood sugar and hear him coming over I can call out a warning like “give me a sec!”. He said that won’t work, just knowing that I’m doing that just before he comes over is enough to freak him out, and that he would be stressed that I might not hear him walking over.

His compromise was he check his blood sugar in the bathroom, and refused to budge even when OP explained that a) he didn’t want to and b) it’s unsanitary.

As a second option, he asked whether OP could do it at set times – OP explained that wouldn’t always work because he has to manage based on his symptoms.

He told me I should check it in the bathroom from now on. I told him that I don’t think I should have to do that and it’s unsanitary. He said another option was if I only check my blood sugar at certain times, say 9am, 12pm before eating lunch, and 4pm, that way he’d know when to avoid me. I said these things can’t always be predicted, I’ll need to check if I feel my blood sugar going high or low.

He believes his phobia needs to be accommodated along with OP’s diabetes, and threatened to go to HR if he fails to “compromise” on a solution.

He said he understands that I have diabetes but that he also has a special need (his blood phobia) that needs to be accommodated and that he doesn’t want to have to avoid me at work and only talk to Megan for fear he might see me checking again. He said he’ll talk to HR about this and that he’ll tell them that I refused to compromise with him.

Now OP is wondering if she should get the jump on the conversation with HR.

He also clarified that he has an actual office, with a door, so his coworker has to actually come into his space to see what’s going on.

That was last Thursday before the holidays, tomorrow I’m thinking of going to talk to HR before James does, but first I need to know that I’m in the right here. So AITA for not being more accommodating of James’ blood/needle phobia and checking my blood sugar as needed at my desk.

To clarify something, James cannot see me test my blood sugar unless he is literally standing in my doorway. It’s not a communal-style workplace. I do not test in common areas, only in my office.

What did Reddit tell her to do? Read on!

Basically, OP is NTA (Not The A$$hole) and his coworker is going to the extremes in expecting others to work around his issue

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And maybe the coworker would like to spring for an expensive, bloodless solution?

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This person went with NAH (No A$$holes Here) and offered some additional solutions that wouldn’t have to involve HR.

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This person was also sympathetic to the coworkers phobic, and thought there was probably a way they could resolve.

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But this is the bottom line.

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He posted an update later stating that both he and the coworker spoke with HR, who helped them come up with a solution that was only kind of working.

Then the coworker quit, partially because he couldn’t work with someone who has diabetes.

Good luck to him; that’s all I can say.

What are your thoughts on this one? Share with us in the comments!

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Should This Guy Be Checking His Blood Sugar In Private Because of a Coworker?

Managing medical issues can quickly turn into a full-time job. When your illness is something that isn’t fleeting, it becomes a part of your daily routine – one that you keep, faithfully, because the alternative is serious complications, or even death.

For people living with diabetes that means regularly checking their blood sugar, and though there have been massive advances that make that easier, the majority of them still involve a small amount of blood.

I (24M) enjoy my job and have two coworkers, Megan (25F) and our new coworker James (23M) who just started. The three of us each have our own office space, but because we have to frequently collaborate on work throughout the day we are often at each other’s desks.

I am a type 1 diabetic, I give insulin and check my blood sugar throughout the day as needed. I give insulin through a pump so that’s not an issue. Checking my blood sugar involves pricking my finger to draw a drop of blood, the blood gets sucked up into a test strip that is connected to a glucose meter, and the meter displays the reading. The whole process takes like 10 seconds.

He explained that her officemates are often at his desk and vice versa. One of them, a young man, nearly passed out when accidentally catching him checking his blood sugar.

He explained he has a phobia serious enough to require therapy and called OP “freaky.”

I was checking my blood sugar in my office right when James walked over. Immediately, his face went white, he looked like he was about to puke or faint or maybe both. I was like, dude are you okay? He told me that he has a major blood and needle phobia and gets therapy for it. I explained what I was doing and why it was necessary and he said it’s “freaky” that I have to MAKE myself bleed multiple times a day.

When he said he never wants to accidentally see that again, OP offered the compromise of warning him if he’s coming over at a bad time (for him).

He said that’s not going to work, because he’ll still imagine what OP is doing in his mind.

I know.

He told me he never wants to accidentally walk in on me checking my blood sugar again because he could pass out. I said that if I’m checking my blood sugar and hear him coming over I can call out a warning like “give me a sec!”. He said that won’t work, just knowing that I’m doing that just before he comes over is enough to freak him out, and that he would be stressed that I might not hear him walking over.

His compromise was he check his blood sugar in the bathroom, and refused to budge even when OP explained that a) he didn’t want to and b) it’s unsanitary.

As a second option, he asked whether OP could do it at set times – OP explained that wouldn’t always work because he has to manage based on his symptoms.

He told me I should check it in the bathroom from now on. I told him that I don’t think I should have to do that and it’s unsanitary. He said another option was if I only check my blood sugar at certain times, say 9am, 12pm before eating lunch, and 4pm, that way he’d know when to avoid me. I said these things can’t always be predicted, I’ll need to check if I feel my blood sugar going high or low.

He believes his phobia needs to be accommodated along with OP’s diabetes, and threatened to go to HR if he fails to “compromise” on a solution.

He said he understands that I have diabetes but that he also has a special need (his blood phobia) that needs to be accommodated and that he doesn’t want to have to avoid me at work and only talk to Megan for fear he might see me checking again. He said he’ll talk to HR about this and that he’ll tell them that I refused to compromise with him.

Now OP is wondering if she should get the jump on the conversation with HR.

He also clarified that he has an actual office, with a door, so his coworker has to actually come into his space to see what’s going on.

That was last Thursday before the holidays, tomorrow I’m thinking of going to talk to HR before James does, but first I need to know that I’m in the right here. So AITA for not being more accommodating of James’ blood/needle phobia and checking my blood sugar as needed at my desk.

To clarify something, James cannot see me test my blood sugar unless he is literally standing in my doorway. It’s not a communal-style workplace. I do not test in common areas, only in my office.

What did Reddit tell her to do? Read on!

Basically, OP is NTA (Not The A$$hole) and his coworker is going to the extremes in expecting others to work around his issue

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And maybe the coworker would like to spring for an expensive, bloodless solution?

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This person went with NAH (No A$$holes Here) and offered some additional solutions that wouldn’t have to involve HR.

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This person was also sympathetic to the coworkers phobic, and thought there was probably a way they could resolve.

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But this is the bottom line.

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He posted an update later stating that both he and the coworker spoke with HR, who helped them come up with a solution that was only kind of working.

Then the coworker quit, partially because he couldn’t work with someone who has diabetes.

Good luck to him; that’s all I can say.

What are your thoughts on this one? Share with us in the comments!

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She Had the Police Go to Her Stepsister’s Wedding. Is She a Jerk?

It’s the cops! Everybody run!

Okay, I guess the people involved in this story couldn’t really run for it because they were at a wedding…which makes this story so strange.

Read on to see what happened in this entry from the “Am I The A**hole?” page on Reddit.

AITA For sending the police to my stepsister’s wedding?

“I (f32) lost my mom when I was 23.

It was by far the most traumatic loss I had experienced. I just couldn’t and didn’t want to accept her death. It was unfair, untimely, and preventable. I got in therapy and was doing better but I had issues with my dad’s new wife and her daughter who’s 25 and just got married weeks ago.

We do not have a close relationship but we were cordial enough to sit at dinner tables. My stepsister treats me as a relative and was as much distant from me. But after my father got sick we had to see each other a lot. I’m handling his care while stepmom works full time and stepsister doesn’t do much though she’s always visiting when I moved in to help my dad.

Before that I was living with my ex so returing home was just in time. I brought with me all of my mom’s belongings and my stepsister showed interest in my mom’s necklace and asked if she could borrow it to wear it at her wedding. I refused and she tried every method to convince me i had to put it in a place where I thought it’d be safe after my stepmother got involved.

As the wedding approached they both kept convincing me to let my stepsister have it (she bragged about affording a better one but it was a matter of showing who’s in control) I stood my ground and told them how serious I was so they backed off.

I didn’t attend the wedding to stay with my dad. I remember wanting to change where I was hiding the necklace while the house was empty but I found it was gone. After searching for hours, I called my stepmom and she said not to worry my stepsister took it and will return it when the wedding is over but it was clear that I won’t see it til after the honeymoon since she said her daughter was staying at a hotel.

I screamed at her to return it but she argued about not wanting to leave the guests and the wedding already started. I told her I’d get it myself but she forbid me from coming saying she’d have to keep me out for wanting to make a scene. I called the Police and explained to them what was happening. I informed them my stepsister intended to leave for her honeymoon with my property.

The Police were sent to where the wedding was being held and they were able to retrieve the necklace from my stepsister. She and my stepmom were in shock and livid. She (stepmom) returned home and kept shouting at me calling me petty and crazy to send the police to my stepsister’s wedding. ruining it and humiliating them over a piece of jewelry.

She was screaming at my sick dad telling him to handle me after the stunt that I pulled at the wedding. I defended myself saying I only wanted an item that belonged to me THAT THEY TOOK WITHOUT PERMISSION returned. She argued further that I could’ve waited to get it back but I chose to burn the bridge with my stepsister and said that she considers me dead after this. She said stuff I can’t mention here but all I can say is it was a bad night.

I might have overreacted by getting the police involved but I had no gaurantee of getting the necklace back since I have experience with them in the past.

AITA?”

Now let’s check out how Reddit users responded to this story.

This person said that this woman is not the a**hole here and that her step-family most definitely is.

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Another Reddit user said that the stepdaughter is acting this way because she most likely learned it from her own mother.

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Another individual said that this was indeed the worst kind of humiliation…and that’s some pretty good revenge, don’t you think?

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And lastly, this person argued that the stepsister only did this because SHE is the a**hole and wanted to upset the woman who wrote the post.

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Okay, now it’s your turn to sound off.

In the comments, tell us what you think about this story.

We’d love to hear from you!

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Does Going to a Classmate’s Parents About Bullying Make This Person Evil?

Family dynamics are complicated in the best of times, and when we’re talking about blended families, things can be downright awkward and unbearable when growing pains – and opposite personalities – rear their heads.

These stepsisters don’t usually get along, but when OP found out that her stepsister was bullying a girl in their grade, Mia, she felt as if she had to do something.

She says she never thought her stepsister was a bully but she had the proof in her hands.

The situation at hand: My stepsister (17f) has been bullying this girl in our grade, Mia. Mia is a very shy person. We were never friends but were friendly until the bullying started and then Mia withdrew from everyone. I found out about the bullying over a month ago.

People described it as “not real bullying” but my stepsister has called her names and told her she doesn’t deserve friends. I found a note telling Mia this. I was pissed. My stepsister and I never had a good relationship (always fighting) but I never figured she was an actual bully, just someone who got on my freaking nerves.

OP went to Mia’s parents with the proof and the accusations, and they went to the school demanding serious consequences for her stepsister.

Her father is angry with her and believe the entire incident was motivated by her dislike for her stepsister (or maybe acting out against his remarriage, etc).

I ended up going to Mia’s parents with what I knew and the evidence of the bullying and now it has been brought up with the school and Mia’s parents want my stepsister expelled. My dad is pissed. He said it was so unbelievably petty and mean spirited to go to the girls parents over “sibling issues”. I told my dad nothing between us would ever be sibling issues, because we’re not siblings and my siblings (younger brother and sister) would never do that to another person.

My stepsister has been suspended right now but it looks like she’ll be expelled Thursday when the big meeting happens. My dad’s wife is freaking out and so are my stepbrothers.

It’s not only her siblings and parents who think she was wrong not to talk to her family or her stepsister directly first, leaving OP to wonder whether or not she really did the right thing.

With the exception of my siblings everyone seems to think I’m wrong for doing what I did, for not at least talking to my stepsister first. I feel like going to Mia’s parents was the right call because of how serious bullying can be for the person being bullied and even calling someone names can cut a person really deep.

But I never expected this kind of reaction. Life at home is very awkward right now.

AITA?

Bullying is bad, but it can be tough to know what is right when family is involved.

What does Reddit think? Keep reading!

This person makes a good point, that if the school believes it’s serious enough to expel the stepsister perhaps her parents should be more focused on their daughter’s actions than the reason for the consequences.

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There is a general sense that OP had a lot of courage, and no one is really telling her that.

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At least the internet people are here to give her a virtual pat on the back.

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People who have been there can vouch for the fact that any kind of bullying can have serious consequences.

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It’s very often a big deal to the person on the receiving end, after all.

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I have to say, I agree with OP taking decisive action, though if she had a better relationship with her stepsister, chances are she would have at least given her a head’s up first.

Either way, this Mia is lucky to have a good friend.

What are your thoughts? Do you think she was just trying to get back at her family?

Sound off in the comments!

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Does Going to a Classmate’s Parents About Bullying Make This Person Evil?

Family dynamics are complicated in the best of times, and when we’re talking about blended families, things can be downright awkward and unbearable when growing pains – and opposite personalities – rear their heads.

These stepsisters don’t usually get along, but when OP found out that her stepsister was bullying a girl in their grade, Mia, she felt as if she had to do something.

She says she never thought her stepsister was a bully but she had the proof in her hands.

The situation at hand: My stepsister (17f) has been bullying this girl in our grade, Mia. Mia is a very shy person. We were never friends but were friendly until the bullying started and then Mia withdrew from everyone. I found out about the bullying over a month ago.

People described it as “not real bullying” but my stepsister has called her names and told her she doesn’t deserve friends. I found a note telling Mia this. I was pissed. My stepsister and I never had a good relationship (always fighting) but I never figured she was an actual bully, just someone who got on my freaking nerves.

OP went to Mia’s parents with the proof and the accusations, and they went to the school demanding serious consequences for her stepsister.

Her father is angry with her and believe the entire incident was motivated by her dislike for her stepsister (or maybe acting out against his remarriage, etc).

I ended up going to Mia’s parents with what I knew and the evidence of the bullying and now it has been brought up with the school and Mia’s parents want my stepsister expelled. My dad is pissed. He said it was so unbelievably petty and mean spirited to go to the girls parents over “sibling issues”. I told my dad nothing between us would ever be sibling issues, because we’re not siblings and my siblings (younger brother and sister) would never do that to another person.

My stepsister has been suspended right now but it looks like she’ll be expelled Thursday when the big meeting happens. My dad’s wife is freaking out and so are my stepbrothers.

It’s not only her siblings and parents who think she was wrong not to talk to her family or her stepsister directly first, leaving OP to wonder whether or not she really did the right thing.

With the exception of my siblings everyone seems to think I’m wrong for doing what I did, for not at least talking to my stepsister first. I feel like going to Mia’s parents was the right call because of how serious bullying can be for the person being bullied and even calling someone names can cut a person really deep.

But I never expected this kind of reaction. Life at home is very awkward right now.

AITA?

Bullying is bad, but it can be tough to know what is right when family is involved.

What does Reddit think? Keep reading!

This person makes a good point, that if the school believes it’s serious enough to expel the stepsister perhaps her parents should be more focused on their daughter’s actions than the reason for the consequences.

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There is a general sense that OP had a lot of courage, and no one is really telling her that.

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At least the internet people are here to give her a virtual pat on the back.

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People who have been there can vouch for the fact that any kind of bullying can have serious consequences.

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It’s very often a big deal to the person on the receiving end, after all.

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I have to say, I agree with OP taking decisive action, though if she had a better relationship with her stepsister, chances are she would have at least given her a head’s up first.

Either way, this Mia is lucky to have a good friend.

What are your thoughts? Do you think she was just trying to get back at her family?

Sound off in the comments!

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Person Asks if They’re Wrong to Take What’s Legally Theirs if It Hurts Someone Else in the Process

Laws can be confusing, especially when you’re young and older relatives – who you’re supposed to be able to trust to guide you in times of trouble.

Too many times, though, the opposite happens. Someone gets taken advantage of, and the only recourse is to bring in more lawyers, who inevitably widen the rifts that were put there previously.

For this kid, it all began with the death of his father. His mother is suffering from dementia, and so in her stead, her family “inherited” and then sold their family home for a ridiculously cheap price.

My father passed away a few years ago and my adopted mom (who is old and has dementia) relatives sold my father’s and my mom’s house for half of the value with everything inside in a rush sale.

I did not know the law that time and was told by my moms relatives that my father had no WILL so everything automatically went to my mom and her family.

Then OP found out that the law actually says that a person’s children, not their spouse, inherits the property, which means the house was his to keep or sell as he saw fit.

He confirmed this with an attorney, who confirmed that OPs fears were correct and this family had taken advantage of his lack of experience.

I came across an article that in that country that when a person dies with out a will their heirs/children automatically inherit the estate. The estate can not be sold with out all heirs agreeing. If it is sold the sale will be void. I have contacted a lawyer and it was true. I can get the house back by simply showing my birth certificate, also because my mom has dementia she is not capable of doing a sale.

After the lawyer went to talk to OP’s mother the family got wind of his inquiries and intentions, and all hell has broken loose.

The lawyer went to meet with my mom on my behalf to ask a few questions about the sale of the house. Her relatives heard everything then started attacking me online and making nasty post about me how I was going to kick a family out a house because of pure “greed” that I already have a house in USA. I’m greedy to have another house. They threathen that they will get the new owners to sue me etc.

They’ve brought up the fact that, if OP takes the house back and wants to sell it for full price, he will be evicting the people who bought the house.

My mom’s relatives don’t work and used the money of the sale of the house for their own benefit, so not only will they have to return all the money , the new owners of the house will now have to look for somewhere else to live, which they can no longer afford a house because the house was sold for half of the market value, and that is what they will be getting back?

WIBTA for possibly kicking them out?

This has him wondering whether this makes him a jerk, and so he’s asking Reddit.

Here’s what they had to say.

The first comment reminds OP that he’s not in the wrong here, and sad that the outcome may be, it’s not his fault.

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Several people pointed out that the people who got such a “great deal” on the house probably sensed something fishy was afoot.

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Also, this is not how family is supposed to act.

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He should place the blame squarely where it belongs.

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OP can always give the family legitimate options once the dust settles, after all.

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I’m totally with the commenters here, even though I would be feeling guilty like OP, too.

What about you? Would you have similar qualms or no? Tell us about it in the comments!

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Woman Wonders Whether She Was Wrong to Snap and Call Her Boyfriend an “Insecure Little Boy”

Relationships can be hard, my friends, I’m not going to lie. It can seem impossible to find that other half, the one that matches up with us, challenges us, supports us, and loves us despite all of our many flaws.

I think that’s one reason it can be hard to see right away – or admit, perhaps – when the person who initially seemed to be a good fit keeps showing edges that don’t match up at all.

Things snuck up slowly on this woman, who earned a liberal arts degree to her boyfriend Tim’s IT diploma. They’ve been together and happy, while she searched for a career path that satisfied her and him climbing the IT ladder.

Tim and I met in an English literature class our junior year of college, and we’ve been together the ten years since. While he ended up going into IT, I stayed in the liberal arts track and ended up doing non-profit work after college when I realized I didn’t actually want to be a schoolteacher. Just to say that we always assumed he’d out-earn me by a considerable margin, though when he made more I always insisted we split things evenly to avoid potential resentment down the road.

Now, she’s bounced around long enough to find not only a job she loves, but one that pays even more than he makes at his cyber security job.

I’ve had sort of a non-linear career path, but ended up switching to the corporate world. To make a long story short, my liberal arts degree and time doing non-profit work gave me a lot of skills that enable me to really excel professionally in some more niche areas. I recently started a new job as a consultant, making way more than I’d ever anticipated.

When I got the offer, I told Tim that the pay was “amazing”, but he didn’t ask about the actual amount and I didn’t want to be braggy about it, especially since I was fairly sure it was above his current income.

He’s just thought to realize that she’s making quite a bit of cash, and is making comments that show it’s obviously bothering him that her English lit degree has managed to snag her an awesome job.

He’s telling her she “cheated the system” to make himself feel better (I guess).

Well we just put in an application for a new place, and in the process of having to submit our paystubs it’s become obvious that I make roughly 30% more than he does now. I expected him to think that was cool, since he’s a feminist and has always been super supportive of my career. But instead he’s started to make increasingly harsh jabs about how I “cheated the system” to get where I am, that no English lit major makes more than a cyber security professional without cheating somehow.

He makes three ridiculous points about her “cheating,” two of which hinge on her just “being female.”

Also, I don’t think it’s called nepotism when your sorority sister recommends you for a job.

His major point is that I got my first job out of nepotism, which set me up to “trample” more qualified people who didn’t have the same advantages. It’s true that I got my first post-college job after being referred by a sorority sister, but it was for non-profit work making 22k/yr, not exactly at somebody’s daddy’s firm.

He also points out that at my first corporate job, I snagged a big promotion after volunteering to take on starting up the company’s diversity/equity/inclusion program, and I’ll admit that were I a white man, it’s highly unlikely I would have been able to be the face of the eventually high-profile diversity program.

Tim also notes that I was awarded a small college scholarship for being a “promising female writer”, when no such scholarship existed for males.

Except she didn’t cheat the system, and his ongoing “jokes” about not only her, but other women who are getting what they deserve (in a good way), pushed her over the edge and she’s wondering if she’s gone too far.

But all that said…I still don’t feel like I cheated the system, and it makes me angry to listen to him “joke” about it, especially since I grew up blue collar and worked fulltime while going to school fulltime to afford my degree.

I reached a breaking point yesterday when he made a crack about how the new/first woman on his team is an obvious diversity hire. I told him that his jokes about women cheating the system to get ahead aren’t funny or “guy-talk ribbing” as he says, they make him sound like an insecure little boy. He told me I was being a naïve Karen and we haven’t really talked since yesterday.

Did I go too far?

I’m going to let Reddit say what I’m dying to scream out here, yeah?

This first person really breaks down all the reasons she’s way too good for him, and I am here for it.

Image Credit: Reddit

Toxic seems to be the word of the day.

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She needs to go find someone who is actually a feminist and who isn’t intimidated by her confidence and success.

Image Credit: Reddit

It’s so seriously his loss and if he’s smart at all he’s going to regret acting this way some day.

Image Credit: Reddit

She hit the nail on the head, actually, calling Tim insecure.

Image Credit: Reddit

I hope this woman read all of these comments, printed them out, and left them on the coffee table when she packed up and left.

Too harsh? Tell me why you think so in the comments!

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Woman Wonders Whether She Was Wrong to Snap and Call Her Boyfriend an “Insecure Little Boy”

Relationships can be hard, my friends, I’m not going to lie. It can seem impossible to find that other half, the one that matches up with us, challenges us, supports us, and loves us despite all of our many flaws.

I think that’s one reason it can be hard to see right away – or admit, perhaps – when the person who initially seemed to be a good fit keeps showing edges that don’t match up at all.

Things snuck up slowly on this woman, who earned a liberal arts degree to her boyfriend Tim’s IT diploma. They’ve been together and happy, while she searched for a career path that satisfied her and him climbing the IT ladder.

Tim and I met in an English literature class our junior year of college, and we’ve been together the ten years since. While he ended up going into IT, I stayed in the liberal arts track and ended up doing non-profit work after college when I realized I didn’t actually want to be a schoolteacher. Just to say that we always assumed he’d out-earn me by a considerable margin, though when he made more I always insisted we split things evenly to avoid potential resentment down the road.

Now, she’s bounced around long enough to find not only a job she loves, but one that pays even more than he makes at his cyber security job.

I’ve had sort of a non-linear career path, but ended up switching to the corporate world. To make a long story short, my liberal arts degree and time doing non-profit work gave me a lot of skills that enable me to really excel professionally in some more niche areas. I recently started a new job as a consultant, making way more than I’d ever anticipated.

When I got the offer, I told Tim that the pay was “amazing”, but he didn’t ask about the actual amount and I didn’t want to be braggy about it, especially since I was fairly sure it was above his current income.

He’s just thought to realize that she’s making quite a bit of cash, and is making comments that show it’s obviously bothering him that her English lit degree has managed to snag her an awesome job.

He’s telling her she “cheated the system” to make himself feel better (I guess).

Well we just put in an application for a new place, and in the process of having to submit our paystubs it’s become obvious that I make roughly 30% more than he does now. I expected him to think that was cool, since he’s a feminist and has always been super supportive of my career. But instead he’s started to make increasingly harsh jabs about how I “cheated the system” to get where I am, that no English lit major makes more than a cyber security professional without cheating somehow.

He makes three ridiculous points about her “cheating,” two of which hinge on her just “being female.”

Also, I don’t think it’s called nepotism when your sorority sister recommends you for a job.

His major point is that I got my first job out of nepotism, which set me up to “trample” more qualified people who didn’t have the same advantages. It’s true that I got my first post-college job after being referred by a sorority sister, but it was for non-profit work making 22k/yr, not exactly at somebody’s daddy’s firm.

He also points out that at my first corporate job, I snagged a big promotion after volunteering to take on starting up the company’s diversity/equity/inclusion program, and I’ll admit that were I a white man, it’s highly unlikely I would have been able to be the face of the eventually high-profile diversity program.

Tim also notes that I was awarded a small college scholarship for being a “promising female writer”, when no such scholarship existed for males.

Except she didn’t cheat the system, and his ongoing “jokes” about not only her, but other women who are getting what they deserve (in a good way), pushed her over the edge and she’s wondering if she’s gone too far.

But all that said…I still don’t feel like I cheated the system, and it makes me angry to listen to him “joke” about it, especially since I grew up blue collar and worked fulltime while going to school fulltime to afford my degree.

I reached a breaking point yesterday when he made a crack about how the new/first woman on his team is an obvious diversity hire. I told him that his jokes about women cheating the system to get ahead aren’t funny or “guy-talk ribbing” as he says, they make him sound like an insecure little boy. He told me I was being a naïve Karen and we haven’t really talked since yesterday.

Did I go too far?

I’m going to let Reddit say what I’m dying to scream out here, yeah?

This first person really breaks down all the reasons she’s way too good for him, and I am here for it.

Image Credit: Reddit

Toxic seems to be the word of the day.

Image Credit: Reddit

She needs to go find someone who is actually a feminist and who isn’t intimidated by her confidence and success.

Image Credit: Reddit

It’s so seriously his loss and if he’s smart at all he’s going to regret acting this way some day.

Image Credit: Reddit

She hit the nail on the head, actually, calling Tim insecure.

Image Credit: Reddit

I hope this woman read all of these comments, printed them out, and left them on the coffee table when she packed up and left.

Too harsh? Tell me why you think so in the comments!

The post Woman Wonders Whether She Was Wrong to Snap and Call Her Boyfriend an “Insecure Little Boy” appeared first on UberFacts.