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Professions Where The Word “Oops” Is As Bad As It Gets

There are some jobs where mishaps happen regularly, and everyone just laughs and fixes it and moves on with their day. And sure, maybe sometimes it is a big deal, but still not like a big deal, you know?

Then there are jobs like these 17, where hearing someone say “oops” is enough to make your heart fall out of your butt.

17. There was blood, I assume. And maybe lost appendages.

Chef when they’re chopping things with a knife.

It was bad.

16. One more reason to hate going to the dentist.

I legit had a dentist say this one time while he was working on my teeth.

I immediately tensed up and tried asking “what happened” but my mouth was forced open, and as soon as he heard me say something he told me to “try not to talk” and so I had no choice but to go back to just…being still.

For some reason once he was all done, I either forgot to ask what happened or I intentionally decided not to. But yea, that was incredibly frightening, even if it seems nothing major came of it.

15. Sometimes your fingers just get carried away.

IT. “Oops” in IT can mean anything from “Oops, accidentally reset the wrong password” to “Oops, accidentally pushed a patch requiring a reboot and now every server is rebooting”.

14. Hahahaha WHY ARE YOU LAUGHING.

So I DID hear someone say oops, while I was getting a needle aspiration biopsy for thyroid cancer, and they were looking to see where to go in with an ultrasound.

The doctor takes a stab and the radiology tech goes, “Oops, nope, that’s her jugular.”

And they just like kind of laughed and shrugged and kept going, so apparently I was the only one who found that untoward.

13. Heart attack in the making.

I actually heard a “whoops” when I was on the operating table and awake during my c-section–this was after the kiddo was out.

Then I heard some muttering that was mildly worrying and they called in a specialist surgeon and told me what was going on (my bladder sustained some damage, needed to be fixed), then they knocked me out and I woke up pretty much fine a few hours later with everything fixed. Still, it was not what you wanted to hear when you’re on the table helpless, and it unnerved my husband who suddenly had a newborn headed to the NICU (he was also fine, in the end) and a wife needing more surgery.

12. At least try to act like it’s a big deal to you, too.

I have two personal experiences that fit this, but maybe weren’t that bad.

1.) I was getting a colonoscopy, and the anesthesiologist comes in to go over the process with me and drops his clipboard making papers go flying everywhere. He drops down to pick them up and huffs under his breath “Ugh it’s just one of those days”. I was like, great, I am gonna die.

2.) I had to get a wisdom tooth taken out. The dentist comes in wearing flip flops, shorts, a Hawaiian shirt, and is limping. Plops down on his seat and goes “here we go!”. It totally looked like he woke up hungover as balls to come operate on my mouth.

11. I would have had a panic attack. Those are my eyes!

I heard precisely that during my LASIK surgery in 2002.

Yes, they had a software problem. I was mildly sedated, but not out. To my annoyance, I heard them talking about Windows for Workgroups. The machine was certified to use them.

Yes, my eye is fine.

10. That is not how medicine is supposed to work.

I once went to the doctor because i had an issue with a nail root on my finger. He just said “hmm i don’t know what that is… lets try cutting it”

I promptly started bleeding all over the table and he goes. “Huh, well that was probably a bad idea..”

I should really change doctors.

9. This really happened, you guys.

Presidential candidate, apparently:

PERRY: And I will tell you, it is three agencies of government when I get there that are gone. Commerce, Education, and the — what’s the third one there? Let’s see.

(LAUGHTER)

PAUL: You need five.

PERRY: Oh, five, OK. So Commerce, Education, and the…

(UNKNOWN): EPA?

PERRY: EPA, there you go.

(LAUGHTER)

(APPLAUSE)

HARWOOD: Seriously, is the EPA the one you were talking about?

PERRY: No, sir, no, sir. We were talking about the agencies of government — the EPA needs to be rebuilt. There’s no doubt about that.

HARWOOD: But you can’t — but you can’t name the third one?

PERRY: The third agency of government I would — I would do away with, Education, the…

(UNKNOWN): Commerce.

PERRY: Commerce and, let’s see. I can’t. The third one, I can’t. Sorry. Oops.
Rick Perry was considered a possible frontrunner until his ‘oops’ moment, and then it all crumbled around him, with the Guardian notably calling it ‘one of the most humiliating debate performances in recent US political history’. Within four years, he went from ‘potential President’ to guest on Dancing with the Stars.

In case you’re wondering, it really is that uncomfortable to watch.

8. You definitely don’t want to hear that.

Bungee jump operator (no idea what the actual job title is but I’m sure you know what I mean)

7. That would surely cause some panic.

a pilot.

6. I bet they do it just to mess with people.

A tattoo artist

5. Maybe it hasn’t been that dire…yet.

Oddly enough people have said oops a surprising amount and nothing’s really happened

countries(mostly US) have lost a terrifying amount of nuclear weapons

The US specifically is not good with nuclear weapons. One missile silo was reported as being wide open and the operators were asleep, they ordered a pizza and the pizza guy just found a nuclear weapon which he could have gotten a friend and launched.

4. Ideally, you want to keep people from freaking out.

This isn’t as critical as some jobs but when I was in school for Computer IT in the late 90’s our teacher always emphasized that if we ever have to make a house call to fix a person’s computer, never say oops, people freak out.

That said, I never want to hear the guy in charge of hitting the nuclear launch button say “oops!”.

3. At least your hair grows back, though.

Barber

2. There’s always one smartass in the group.

A mime.

1. He/She seems awfully chill about this now.

Had a tattoo artist say it while tattooing the inside of my lip.

Got the tattoo for free and to this day I have a hidden typo.

I’m having palpitations just imagining the potential scenarios, y’all!

Have you ever been in the room when one of these “oopsies” happened? Tell us the story in the comments!

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People Share How They Landed Their Super Obscure Jobs

There are all kinds of people, and we all have different strengths, weaknesses, and interests – so it follows that, ideally, there’s some type of work that fits everyone.

I imagine in can be hard to find the right fit, if you’re someone who doesn’t enjoy things that are considered mainstream, but these 15 people didn’t give up until they found their perfect job.

15. And you’re doing a good deed, too.

I mix fire retardant for fighting wildfires.

A lot of people know that airplanes drop retardant on fires but don’t think about the millions of dollars of infrastructure that is behind that operation.

Everyone who works at my base started by working at the local ski resort.

It’s a good way to earn enough money in the summer to coast all winter so we keep the jobs among fellow ski bums.

14. I’m really glad people do this work.

Water Quality testing.

I go around and collect samples for various testing to ensure the water meets the state standards.

I got lucky and met someone who was volunteering at my previous job and she told me to apply.

Was not the direction I saw my career going but it was definitely worth it.

13. Sometimes the work just finds you.

Mine isn’t necessarily weird but how I fell into it was!

Around 10 years ago I was working in the IT industry, I decided to help my dad out one weekend sell hunting gear at a military expo (basically antique military gear and army disposal). One of the sellers had a ‘vampire killing kit’. Knowing very little about antiques at the time I pulled out each piece, checking them over. The story checked out, did some research on my phone throughout the day and found out that it could be a fake in two ways. It could be a kit put together by someone out of antique pieces to make it seem real. And technically even if it was authentic it was a Victorian fake. With the fear of vampires in the late 19 century, con men put together vampire killing kits and sold them to rich businessmen visiting Europe.

What stood out to me though was the main reason I bought it. In the middle of the kit was a crucifix with an ivory inlay, that doubled as a god damn percussion pistol!!! Long story short I took a chance spent $1000 on it and got persecuted by my father for such a dumb move, I didn’t have much in my savings at the same. I took it to Ripley’s Believe It Or Not in Australia and they flew someone out from the US to look at it which was pretty exciting. Within 5 minutes of looking at it they offered me a ridiculous sum of money for what I thought was a large investment to begin with.

While in ways I do regret selling the kit, it allowed me to start a career in the antiques trade. Five years later I moved to the UK to study a degree and now I specialise in rare obscure antiques that have allowed me to travel all around the world sourcing new weird objects!

P.s don’t worry, I gave my dad a cut of the vampire kit profits for believing in me ?

12. A line of work I bet many would enjoy.

My jobs not weird.

I’m a welder. But what I do isn’t very common.

I build Virginia Class Submarines.

11. That’s some stringent screening process.

I used to cut pictures of weewees and hohas off packaging of adult toys. All day every day. I got the job by being able to pass a drug test.

The interview Boss: can you pass a drug test Me: yes Boss: you sure? Because if you don’t pass I won’t hire you. Me: I understand Boss if I pay for your piss test and you fail I’ll be mad. Me: I haven’t smoked in like 3 months don’t worry.

10. Those aptitude tests can be awesome.

I work as an Air Traffic Controller. Not weird but not many of us around.

I pretty much fell into it after passing an aptitude and it’s just been swell since.

Albeit, the classic phrase from strangers: isn’t that the job with the most suicides?

It might be, but I don’t know anyone. It’s actually super chill and rewarding when you get it right. (We always try get it right, but when you get it super right you’re dead pleased).

9. I am completely jealous.

Im diver. When i was 13 i started diving and in the army, i did it, too. So i love my job now as an underwater worker

8. You get a little thrill every single day, I bet.

I don’t know if this is obscure, but my boyfriend is a high rise window cleaner. There are only 4 in our city. He loves his job! Sometimes when he is working, I will go to the city to the building he is cleaning and look up at him on the street. So cute.

7. He/She makes kids happy every single day!

I design water parks.

I went to college for Graphic Design and Advertising. In my last year I had to do an internship, so I took one at an aquatic engineering firm to help organize photos. 10 years later I am a project manager and create resort deck and water park programs.

6. You CAN make a living as an artist, then!

I’m a potter.

Not sure if that fits the bill for weird. I used to be the manager for a museum art school, and began taking classes there years ago.

Eventually transitioned into being a full time potter and pottery teacher.

5. It’s nice unless you ever want to eat out again.

I have a job tracking rodents in restaurants. I set up cameras, movement sensors, IR sensors and other gear, and get an idea of the problem and how to fix it.

Here’s a video of a couple of teenage girls checking out one of my cameras.

Sometimes I’m in a hot roof area of a restaurant trying to get the super rats to back off and let me work. I use a Bluetooth speaker and prodigy on full volume. Who knew rats don’t like prodigy?

Despite that, I love my job and the pay is pretty good.

4. Etsy has made life so much easier for so many.

Not terribly weird, but definitely unique. I own a handmade business and I make cool things out of felted sheeps wool. It started so I could have extra cash to pay off my nursing school loans. Then I quit my nursing job. Now I am a top 1% seller on Etsy and get to sit around and craft fun and colorful items that I ship all around the world.

3. I hope you didn’t fall in love with your own hand.

I used to be a hand model.

Apparently I have really really good looking hands. Although they look completely normal to me.

People were always asking me how I got into it so it was fun to bullshit people I was “discovered” on the street, now I moisturize 15 times a day and sleep with my hands in plastic bags….

The money was great but I’d have to spend long days on set being careful not to wreck my manicure. (Which they paid for of course! Also paid for the time it took to get the manicure)

Mostly did tv commercials

Now I tell people at parties I’m a retired international hand model but gave up show business for the much more worthwhile and rewarding career of teaching kids to read….

2. They need to be guarded, though?

In the summer I guard and clean the toilet units (not the toilets) for festivals. I got the job trying to find a cheap way to go to the big festivals and this organisation was looking for volunteers.

So all I have to do is stand in front of the units, make sure the ground stays clean, everyone had toilet paper and clear a block of units so the cleaning team can do their job.

Another part of the job is making sure no one dies or passes out in such an unit. You can’t imagine how many drunk (often naked) people we need to get out of these units and escort them to the First Aid.

1. Woot! Another art student making their way.

I’m a chyron operator.

I trigger motion graphics on live tv. I was an art student and also was in stage crew in high school.

These things got me jobs backstage in theater, which got me a job in TV doing normal stuff like cameraman and stuff like that. Since I was an art major I asked if I could do graphics and they let me on the weekends, and my specialty eventually turned to the chyron which ingests the graphics that artists make and plays them back through the switcher that controls the news broadcast. It’s not technically an art position but at my job specifically I could make the graphics in after effects and photoshop during the day (if I have a computer free) and in the afternoon I play the chyron.

Usually you are one or the other, because chyron operators don’t need art skills, it’s just another tech job like audio operator or camera operator or stage manager or whatever. These kinds of jobs are getting rarer because they are being automated.

But since I’m also an artist I get to keep my job because if someone leaves I can take their job.

The only way to live is doing a job you love – or at least don’t hate – every single day, so don’t settle!

Do you have an interesting or odd job? Tell us what it is and how you got it in the comments!

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Ways That Being a Kid Is Super Hard

As moms and dads, it can be tempting to look at our little ones lives of leisure – being fed, clothed, played with, and loved every day with little expectations placed on them in return – and forget that it can and is hard to be a small person, too.

They have their own set of problems, and sure, they might be harder to see as issues than say, piles of laundry, bills that aren’t paid, and saving for college.

That said, things like these 16 can be super tough to understand and to navigate when you’re a kid, so take a moment and try to remember what it was like!

16. Adults forget to treat you like a whole person.

What I remember most was some adults not treating me like a human being just because I was a child.

I try so hard with my own kids to step back and treat them as fellow humans and not just children. A 4 year old needs their own space and gets frustrated and gets angry in exactly the same way I do. They just don’t have the vocabulary and awareness to express it.

My job is to help them express it, validate it and teach them how to deal with it.

Not just to tell them to stop whining.

15. Moms always think it will be better in the morning.

my sister slipped and broke her arm at the pool when we were kids and my mum insisted she was just dramatic (although oddly enough she didn’t even cry, just calmly tried to explain she couldn’t move it and it hurt really bad).

My mum made her sleep on it that night and only when her arm was swollen and purple the next morning did our mum take her to the hospital.

14. Not enough people get down to your level.

I was on my pediatrics rotation in medical school and saw a little kiddo having a meltdown in the waiting room, the mom was getting flustered and frustrated. Then one of the peds residents was walking though the waiting room. He got down on one knee and instead of scalding the child like the mother was, he asked the little kiddo what was wrong.

The child said he forgot his favorite toy at home and was afraid something would happen to it. Instead of telling the kid that his toy was safe and that he needs to stop crying, the resident asked his mom if anyone was home. The dad was. The resident asked the mom if she could text the dad and ask if the toy was safe. Less than 5 minutes went by when the dad sent a picture with the toy and all was well.

The little boy was all sunshine and rainbows after that, all it took was just empathizing with a child and putting yourself in the mindset of a 4 year old. To us it seems so trivial that he left his toy at home, but to him that toy is his whole world. He has spent thousands of hours with it and probably has a special bond. I can’t imagine how it would feel to just have that dismissed by the parent when they tell you to just “calm down and be quiet.”

13. You would give your left arm for some space.

Living in a house with just one bathroom and so many people.

Seemed like someone was always using the toilet or the shower when others needed use of the room.

12. Everything can feel like a catch-22.

In teens specifically- “Grow up and be more independent!”

Gets a job and saves to eventually move out one day

“You need to come home sooner, I don’t care if you have a job I’m still your mother/father”

11. Funny what doesn’t seem so bad looking back.

Family gatherings.

Had a large extended family as an Indian and there would gatherings and functions almost every week.

Coming of age, house warming, marriage, 1st birthdays called for gatherings between 100-2000 people. You had to dress up and meet people that apparently cleaned your snot as a baby expecting you to remember that they did so. It was horrid.

Kinda miss it now though.

10. It can feel impossible to please the adults in your life.

Every fucking year:

Parents: You are lazy and only play video games all day. I had my own job when I was 12 and was barely ever home when I was your age.

Me: Can I get a job?

Dad: No, you have to focus on school.

Me: How about over the summer?

Mom: No, summer is for spending time with your family, and this could be one of your last years to enjoy your childhood. Maybe next year.

9. Parents are so hard!

If you tell the truth, I wont get mad.

Sure thing mom. Here’s what happened.

ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME? WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK POSSESSED YOU TO DECIDE THAT THAT WAS A GOOD IDEA? GO TO YOUR ROOM! DONT COME OUT UNTIL TOMORROW!

But mom, its 9 in the morning.

I DONT GIVE A SHIT! I DONT WANT TO SEE YOU FOR THE REST OF THE DAY!

8. Sometimes the people who are supposed to love you refuse to understand you.

My mother stigmatizing me for loving pink, playing the flute, wanting to be a nurse, et cetera.

7. I mean, at least kids today have Alexa for that.

Not getting explanations for things I asked about.

My parents and extended family were good-hearted people, but none of them were very intellectually-minded, so when I had questions about how things in the world were supposed to work or operate, the answers were frequently unsatisfying, ranging somewhere between “Because it just does/is.” to “I don’t know.”. And “I don’t know” was sadly never followed up with “…but let’s find out”.

I have of course overcompensated with my own children on this to a fault.

As my eldest son said, “I’m afraid to ask you what time it is, because then you’ll want to teach me how to build a clock.”

6. Not being accepted and loved for who you are.

As a young child- My mother forcing me into social situations despite my extreme shyness. She always hated the fact I was shy.

As a teen- my grades were never good enough. Even if I had an A, it could always be a higher A. If my grades dropped to a low B, I would be drug tested and she would tell me she was surprised when I came back clean.

5. Remember that kids are NOT just shorter adults.

Adults not taking me seriously when I’d say I was full/needed a wee/didn’t feel well.

We don’t tell adults they have to eat if they’re full or to ‘just hold it’ if they need the loo.

4. Food is such a sensitive topic for so many families.

Being made to eat foods that I couldn’t stomach or which were in amounts that were too much for me to handle.

“You can’t leave the table until you finish everything on your plate.”

I hated wasting food, but I developed clever ways of sneaking unwanted food away and disposing of it without a trace.

Thankfully my parents didn’t pull the “There are starving people in Africa” routine, because my answer would have been “So give it to them.”

3. “Accidents happen” is a saying for a reason.

Getting chastised for falling down accidentally and getting scrapes.

Ended up hiding one because of fear and got a permanent scar from it not healing properly.

2. Kids aren’t stupid, they’re just still learning.

Being treated like an imbecile, while you were just lacking some context.

1. I try never to say “because I said so” to my kids. I don’t always stick to it, though!

being told “no” without any explanation.

that’s just going to make me do it to find out myself

My heart kind of hurts in a weird nostalgic sort of way reading these.

Let’s all do a better job putting ourselves in our kid’s shoes today, mmmkay?

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If You’re a Parent, These Memes Will Make You Feel So Seen

There are a lot of positives about being a parent in the age of the internet, which is good…because there are also more than a few downsides.

One of the very best things is how easily we can connect with other parents now, which not only helps us ask for advice and lean on stronger shoulders when we need them, but just makes us feel less alone.

And these 11 memes and moments are so universal that you’ll know for sure that someone else has already lived through the crazy moment you’re experience right now!

11. Who says dads aren’t involved parents?

I know, I know, it’s all for the picture.

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10. This is one of the most accurate descriptions of parenthood I have ever seen.

Also, about that mousepad…

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9. This is wayyyy too real these days.

Sure I could  have a clean house, but…

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8. It’s the circle of life.

And no, it’s not as beautiful as Disney would have you believe.

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7. The you in the game definitely doesn’t have kids.

Or a job or anything else to give you anxiety at night.

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6. What a beautiful story.

I knew it had to have an ending like that.

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5. It’s a classic playlist.

Toddlers have been perfecting their brand of terrorism for a long time.

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4. Things would go more smoothly if they would realize early on where they got their psycho from.

And we have more practice wielding it for results.

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3. Or vice versa, but yeah.

Having it all is one big fat joke.

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2. Embarrassing your teens is what parenting is all about.

You have to live through those years somehow.

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1. This is one instance where the good old days are not exaggerated.

I know the day will come again when they will eat what I cook…*dreams*

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I am laughing so hard about how weird kids and parents and families are!

In the best possible way, of course.

Tell us which one was your favorite in the comments!

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If You’re a Parent, These Memes Will Make You Feel So Seen

There are a lot of positives about being a parent in the age of the internet, which is good…because there are also more than a few downsides.

One of the very best things is how easily we can connect with other parents now, which not only helps us ask for advice and lean on stronger shoulders when we need them, but just makes us feel less alone.

And these 11 memes and moments are so universal that you’ll know for sure that someone else has already lived through the crazy moment you’re experience right now!

11. Who says dads aren’t involved parents?

I know, I know, it’s all for the picture.

Image Credit: Imgur

10. This is one of the most accurate descriptions of parenthood I have ever seen.

Also, about that mousepad…

Image Credit: Imgur

9. This is wayyyy too real these days.

Sure I could  have a clean house, but…

Image Credit: Imgur

8. It’s the circle of life.

And no, it’s not as beautiful as Disney would have you believe.

Image Credit: Imgur

7. The you in the game definitely doesn’t have kids.

Or a job or anything else to give you anxiety at night.

Image Credit: Imgur

6. What a beautiful story.

I knew it had to have an ending like that.

Image Credit: Imgur

5. It’s a classic playlist.

Toddlers have been perfecting their brand of terrorism for a long time.

Image Credit: Imgur

4. Things would go more smoothly if they would realize early on where they got their psycho from.

And we have more practice wielding it for results.

Image Credit: Imgur

3. Or vice versa, but yeah.

Having it all is one big fat joke.

Image Credit: Imgur

2. Embarrassing your teens is what parenting is all about.

You have to live through those years somehow.

Imag Credit: Imgur

1. This is one instance where the good old days are not exaggerated.

I know the day will come again when they will eat what I cook…*dreams*

Image Credit: Imgur

I am laughing so hard about how weird kids and parents and families are!

In the best possible way, of course.

Tell us which one was your favorite in the comments!

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Here’s How to Talk to Your Kids About Their Feelings During Times of Great Stress

We’re going through something that most of us have never experienced in our lifetimes, and may never again. The inability to go about our daily lives as we once did, to see family and friends, to pull out our coping mechanisms in response to stress the way we normally would – it’s all taking a toll.

If your kids are a bit older, there’s a good chance that they’re able to express what they’re feeling, how they’re coping, and to ask for help if they need it.

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If your kids are younger, don’t make the mistake of thinking that everything is fine because they don’t understand everything that’s happening and why, or because they lack the emotional and actual language to communicate it to you.

When times are stressful, here are a few questions that can help our younger kids be able to express their feelings.

  • What did you learn about today?
  • What is something interesting of funny you heard about today?
  • What was the most fun thing you did today?
  • What are you most looking forward to tomorrow?
  • What was the toughest part of your day today?
  • What was something you didn’t like about your day?
  • What got in the way today of you having a fun day?
  • What can we do together to make it better?
  • I read something interesting today and wanted to know if you had a reaction to it?

While these are great questions, child psychologist Jerry Bubrick says that timing is everything when it comes to bringing them up – and no, bedtime isn’t best.

“Bedtime is not the right time. Kids are starting to wind down for the day. Anxious kids have more worries at night.

Don’t lead them down the path of more worry. And don’t talk to them about this when they first wake up.

Find a time, a neutral time, when there hasn’t been a big argument. Look for a calm moment.”

Maybe supper time, he says, or while taking a family walk.

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If you’re knew to prodding your kids feelings, he suggests a game that he and his family play as a sort-of icebreaker.

“With my kids, I suggest a game:

Like a rose. …You start and model the game.

There are three components to the rose.

The petal: Tell me something you liked about today.

The thorn: Tell me something you didn’t like.

The bud: Tell me something you’re looking forward to in the future.”

If your kids are under five (or over but still have trouble articulating feelings) a visual chart can be helpful.

After all, “if you can name it, you can tame it.”

It’s important to model an appropriate response for your kids whenever possible, which means taking time to calm yourself down if you need to, and remind yourself that this will be over one day.

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“We want to help kids stay in the moment. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the unknown.

All we know is what’s happening to us right now. We have each other. We’re connected to our friends.

Let’s focus on that. We’ll deal with tomorrow, tomorrow.”

An important reminder for everyone in these trying times, no matter our age.

Even if Scarlet O’Hara was a terrible person in a movie that perpetuates horribly inaccurate stereotypes of slavery and the American South, Vivian Leigh did get one thing right – tomorrow is another day.

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Here’s How to Talk to Your Kids About Their Feelings During Times of Great Stress

We’re going through something that most of us have never experienced in our lifetimes, and may never again. The inability to go about our daily lives as we once did, to see family and friends, to pull out our coping mechanisms in response to stress the way we normally would – it’s all taking a toll.

If your kids are a bit older, there’s a good chance that they’re able to express what they’re feeling, how they’re coping, and to ask for help if they need it.

Image Credit: Pexels

If your kids are younger, don’t make the mistake of thinking that everything is fine because they don’t understand everything that’s happening and why, or because they lack the emotional and actual language to communicate it to you.

When times are stressful, here are a few questions that can help our younger kids be able to express their feelings.

  • What did you learn about today?
  • What is something interesting of funny you heard about today?
  • What was the most fun thing you did today?
  • What are you most looking forward to tomorrow?
  • What was the toughest part of your day today?
  • What was something you didn’t like about your day?
  • What got in the way today of you having a fun day?
  • What can we do together to make it better?
  • I read something interesting today and wanted to know if you had a reaction to it?

While these are great questions, child psychologist Jerry Bubrick says that timing is everything when it comes to bringing them up – and no, bedtime isn’t best.

“Bedtime is not the right time. Kids are starting to wind down for the day. Anxious kids have more worries at night.

Don’t lead them down the path of more worry. And don’t talk to them about this when they first wake up.

Find a time, a neutral time, when there hasn’t been a big argument. Look for a calm moment.”

Maybe supper time, he says, or while taking a family walk.

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If you’re knew to prodding your kids feelings, he suggests a game that he and his family play as a sort-of icebreaker.

“With my kids, I suggest a game:

Like a rose. …You start and model the game.

There are three components to the rose.

The petal: Tell me something you liked about today.

The thorn: Tell me something you didn’t like.

The bud: Tell me something you’re looking forward to in the future.”

If your kids are under five (or over but still have trouble articulating feelings) a visual chart can be helpful.

After all, “if you can name it, you can tame it.”

It’s important to model an appropriate response for your kids whenever possible, which means taking time to calm yourself down if you need to, and remind yourself that this will be over one day.

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“We want to help kids stay in the moment. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the unknown.

All we know is what’s happening to us right now. We have each other. We’re connected to our friends.

Let’s focus on that. We’ll deal with tomorrow, tomorrow.”

An important reminder for everyone in these trying times, no matter our age.

Even if Scarlet O’Hara was a terrible person in a movie that perpetuates horribly inaccurate stereotypes of slavery and the American South, Vivian Leigh did get one thing right – tomorrow is another day.

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If Coffee Is Your Life Blood, These Memes Are for You

A mom who can’t get through her day without copious amounts of coffee is as cliche as a mom who has the words “live, laugh, love” somewhere in her house, but hear me out – coffee is the literal best.

It makes you happy, it’s good for you (mostly), and it keeps our kids alive during the worst of times.

If you agree with me (even if you don’t want to say it out loud), then these 14 memes are going to pair perfect with the cup of joe you’re probably reheating in the microwave right now.

14. Just something to keep in mind the next time you’re trying to impress a girl.

Or a woman who you would like to sleep with at any point in the future.

13. Well, time to try another cup.

It’s as good an idea as any.

12. I don’t believe in there being a “too late” time to drink coffee.

When you’re as tired as I am, nothing will stop you from going to sleep when it’s time.

11. Why on earth is this even a question?

Decaf coffee is an abomination, and I say this as someone who has been pregnant twice.

10. I’ll take my coffee as black as my soul, thank you.

And no, that’s not a joke so stop with the nervous laughter.

9. Okay so it can be a bit of a tradeoff but still.

I’ll take the being awake with anxiety, please.

8. There’s only one way to get me going.

Or at least, one way that can be managed in front of a crowd.

7. It really is a bit like magic.

And also, why are those little dogs always the biggest d*cks?

6. Who needs jewelry?

How is that supposed to get you through the day?

5. It’s a start, anyway.

God love truckers, man. Doing the Lord’s work.

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4. Truer words were never spoken, my friends.

And your children and spouse know this deep in their souls.

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3. For the coffee lovers AND the nerds.

It’s a good day to be on the internet.

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2. It’s vegan and it makes you happy.

Who saw that combination coming? Not me!

1. He’s not wrong.

He never is, though, so there’s that.

 

I don’t care if it’s basic, give me another cup!

Which one of these hit you just right today? Tell us in the comments!

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If Coffee Is Your Life Blood, These Memes Are for You

A mom who can’t get through her day without copious amounts of coffee is as cliche as a mom who has the words “live, laugh, love” somewhere in her house, but hear me out – coffee is the literal best.

It makes you happy, it’s good for you (mostly), and it keeps our kids alive during the worst of times.

If you agree with me (even if you don’t want to say it out loud), then these 14 memes are going to pair perfect with the cup of joe you’re probably reheating in the microwave right now.

14. Just something to keep in mind the next time you’re trying to impress a girl.

Or a woman who you would like to sleep with at any point in the future.

13. Well, time to try another cup.

It’s as good an idea as any.

12. I don’t believe in there being a “too late” time to drink coffee.

When you’re as tired as I am, nothing will stop you from going to sleep when it’s time.

11. Why on earth is this even a question?

Decaf coffee is an abomination, and I say this as someone who has been pregnant twice.

10. I’ll take my coffee as black as my soul, thank you.

And no, that’s not a joke so stop with the nervous laughter.

9. Okay so it can be a bit of a tradeoff but still.

I’ll take the being awake with anxiety, please.

8. There’s only one way to get me going.

Or at least, one way that can be managed in front of a crowd.

7. It really is a bit like magic.

And also, why are those little dogs always the biggest d*cks?

6. Who needs jewelry?

How is that supposed to get you through the day?

5. It’s a start, anyway.

God love truckers, man. Doing the Lord’s work.

Image Credit: Imgur

4. Truer words were never spoken, my friends.

And your children and spouse know this deep in their souls.

Image Credit: Imgur

3. For the coffee lovers AND the nerds.

It’s a good day to be on the internet.

Image Credit: Imgur

2. It’s vegan and it makes you happy.

Who saw that combination coming? Not me!

1. He’s not wrong.

He never is, though, so there’s that.

 

I don’t care if it’s basic, give me another cup!

Which one of these hit you just right today? Tell us in the comments!

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When Your Kids’ Friends Are Allowed to Play Again, but He or She Still Can’t

Life isn’t fair. It’s a hard lesson that everyone learns at some point, usually at an age younger than we’d really like to force it on our sweet, innocent littles.

That seems to be truer than ever these days with coronavirus dampening spirits and social lives all over the globe. What makes it even harder is that, especially in the States, no two people are assessing risk and acting accordingly in the exact same way.

Which means that saying things like “I don’t care what so-and-so is doing, I’m not so-and-sos mom!” are making a comeback in a big, unpleasant way.

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What are you saying to your kids if you and your family are taking a more cautious approach to breaking quarantine, while their friends are getting together and enjoying their summers? How are you talking to them about why, and are they understanding?

There’s a good chance you’re hearing big sighs, and that they’re the “only one” stuck at home.

You know this isn’t true. You know there are other parents following the strict safety regulations just like there will be other kids who aren’t allowed to date until a certain age, can’t ride in a car with a new driver, can’t go to that party where no parents will be home…but that doesn’t make it any easier.

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It’s hard, too, because we the parents also want to go and see our friends. We want to leave you kids home with sitters and have dinner out, we want to go to the movies. We want to get YOU out of the house, because it makes all of us happier.

Here’s the thing, though – we have to remember it’s a good lesson to learn. We all have to make the best decisions for ourselves and our families, even when it’s hard. We have to learn how to say no to things that make us uncomfortable, even if the cool kids are going.

If they don’t like you because of it, they were never really your friends to begin with, right?

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The best you can do is explain the reasons for your decisions, give them relevant reading material that’s age appropriate, and promise that things will get better.

They can understand, even if they don’t like it. They can follow the rules even if they don’t want to.

It’s just one of many steps to becoming an adult, and in the end, teaching them how to do that is your most important job.

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