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People Discuss the Life Advice That Has Made a Difference

A lot of advice is a dime a dozen and not that helpful, but every once in a while in life you’re smacked upside the head with GREAT advice that you hang on to forever.

Maybe it came from a parent, a sibling, a boss, a teacher, or even a complete stranger.

When you hear it and it sticks with you, you know it’s valuable.

Check out the best advice that AskReddit users say they’ve received.

1. Can you live without them?

“My grandpa told me this after I had moved into with my girlfriend and said living together was coming so easily:

It’s not the person who is easy to live with, it’s the person you can’t live without.

We’re married now.”

2. This is good.

“My dad told me a story about a time he bought some firewood. He paid for a cord of wood, but the guy only dropped off half a cord.

When he went to the guy’s house to confront him about it, the guy pulled a gun on him, so my dad left.

“The lesson,” he taught me, “is that when you are dealing with crazy people, always leave them feeling like THEY owe YOU. That way, they will go out of their way to avoid you.”

I have used this advice several times in my life.”

3. Seems pretty true.

“Nobody has any idea what’s going on.

A lot less people actually have their sh*t together than you might think, but in reality everyone is just really good at faking it. Usually, they may have a true grasp of one or two things at best.

That advice made me a lot less anxious about doing things like trying new hobbies, giving presentations, or applying for jobs I know nothing about, because I know very few people are actually qualified to judge my performance.”

4. I like this one.

“My step-dad once told me:

If there is a problem and you know the solution, you can solve it, so stop worrying about it. If there is a problem you can’t solve, then there is nothing you can do, so stop worrying about it.”

5. Just enjoy it.

“The meaning to life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple.

Yet everybody rushes around in a great panic as if It were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves”

6. They’ll notice.

“When you find a place you like to work in, make yourself indispensable.

I’m a waitress and for the last 3& 1/2 years I’ve worked in a place I love to be in. There is no job there I turn down. I clean the toilets, I can run the potwash, I’ll do the hoovering.

If cuts ever have to be made, my name will not be on the list.”

7. Just go for it!

“There comes a time when one must risk something, or sit forever with one’s dreams”

8. You gotta go get it.

“I’m a 45 yo woman.

As a teen my dad told me to go after what I wanted… College, jobs, clubs, a guy I was interested in, any goal.

He said if we all just sat around and only took the opportunities that fell into our laps we would all be miserable, so don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. Rejection can be survived, but there are some regrets from which you’ll never recover.

This has served me well professionally and relationship wise. My amazing husband only asked me out because I made sure he knew I was interested.”

9. Words to live by.

“Hard work beats talent, when talent doesn’t work hard”

-College professor in my life drawing class when I got frustrated about not being as talented as other students in class, I buckled down and got my B and beat the class average by the end of the quarter.”

10. Don’t be an idiot.

“You are an idiot to focus on things you cannot change, instead of working on things that you can change.

That changed my life a lot.”

11. Use it to your advantage.

“The reason a lot of us experience anxiety is because we are idle or unhappy.

The best advice I ever got was from a random stranger. “Anxiety some times isn’t a bad thing it’s our bodies way of telling us to get in gear, and to press forward to give our life meaning and fulfillment” I went back to school quit my old job and it actually worked.

I have been Anxiety free for 2 years.”

12. Thanks, grandma.

“My grandmother was walking with me down the hall when I was in 3rd grade and noticed I was walking with my head down. She said, “always keep your head up high, and your shoulders back”.

I’ve done it ever since, and to this day I get compliments on how well I carry myself, and how much confidence I exude.

Every time someone says that, I’m taken back to that moment in time with my grandmother.”

13. It’s true!

“Every day you’re either getting better or you’re getting worse.

And the choice is yours.”

14. Do it the right way.

“If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing well.

That was my dad’s consistent line when I was growing up. Now I’m a thirty-something father, relatively successful in life, and that line is the consistent theme for me.

If I’m going to put effort into doing something, I will do the best job that I am capable of doing. Everything from home renovations, work projects, cooking a meal, to reading bedtime stories. Giving less than my best effort to the task at hand is doing myself a disservice, and the people I am working for.

That’s not to say everything has to be perfect all the time, sometimes your best effort is just getting the job done. But half *ssed attempts at anything mostly just lead to disappointment, and more work when you have to re-do the thing.”

15. Be positive.

“Go a week without complaining about others and yourself.

Actively stop yourself for a week and see how your outlook changes.”

16. It’s just the way it is.

“The world doesn’t care about you and it’ll leave you behind unless you try to make something of yourself.

The world isn’t cruel, it’s just apathetic.”

Do you remember the best advice you ever received in your life?

If so, please share it with us in the comments.

We look forward to hearing from you!

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People Talk About Loopholes They Discovered and Exploited

You never know when you might find a loophole.

It could be at your job, somewhere out in the business world, or maybe something completely random that you happen upon by accident.

But when people actually DO find loopholes…look out, because they’re gonna use ’em!

Here are some pretty interesting stories from AskReddit users about the loopholes they found AND used to their advantage.

1. Wow.

“Microsoft used to have (still might for all I know) online training for videogame retailers in order to train store employees on current and upcoming products that they could sell.

The training gave points for each video and knowledge quiz you took, which could be exchanged for free games, computer hardware, store gift cards, etc.

By signing in under a random Gamestop store ID number (which was posted online), skipping the video, and brute forcing the knowledge quiz, was able to rack up a whole bunch of points and get several XBox games and simple computer hardware for essentially nothing.

Never worked a day of retail in my life.”

2. A big glitch.

“The soda machine at a dorm I lived in had a weird glitch. If you put in five cents more than the asking price and pushed the product select button, the machine would empty all of its change out at once.

We did this a few times and got $20-40 each time!”

3. Raking it in.

“1 Credit Card point for every dollar spent.

But up to 5X for every dollar spent abroad.

I’ve been on a 6 year “holiday” abroad and they haven’t brought it up.”

4. Smart move.

“I was visiting a hospital on a daily basis for many weeks ( premature twin babies) but they didn’t do multi-use discounts. “There’s the hours you were here – pay up” type of thing. And it was costing something like £5 – £10 per day

Until a few days in I realized that the hospital had only recently appointed the car parking company and they haven’t yet installed the “arrival time” machine at the car park entrance but had only put a temporary machine in the Hospital lobby . . . . which you were meant to use on your arrival.

And from that day on I got my “arrival time” ticket when I was leaving and only paid minimum stay.”

5. Never-ending pizza.

“This pizza place local to us had a glitch in their online ordering service for a while. You could technically combine 2 deals of 50% off. One was 50% off for any XL pizza of an order that was normally $30 or more, and the other was 50% off on a XL Pizza, with two 2-liter drinks, wings, and cheese fries at regular price.

If you put both of these coupons in, you only paid for the wings, cheese fries and pop which would be about $18. With delivery charge + tax it would be about $25. Plus 2 Extra Large Pizzas for literally free.

Normally this would be $70+. Any other coupon you could not combine, but this one worked together for some reason. For some other reason it would mark 50% off 2x on each pizza.

We discovered this when we were ordering food the day we moved in. Feeding our friends that helped us move in. We thought it was a 1-time thing. Tried it a few weeks later and it worked. We did this at least once a month for the year or so we lived there.

We always gave the driver a $10-$20 tip and he knew what we were up to. The place never said anything about it for years. Eventually they updated their site a couple years ago, and we had moved out by then.”

6. Hey, that’s pretty good!

“Had intermittent anemia in college that I was trying to improve. But the blood work was about $100 each time.

I started donating blood and if I was too low they’d turn me away and I’d keep trying to up my iron. If I was high enough, I got to donate to a good cause.

Win win!”

7. Extra cash.

“Opened an Amex credit card and the introductory offer was 10% cash back in restaurants for the first year.

I worked for a sh*tty chain restaurant as a server, so I would just stack a few of my large cash tables and put them on my card, then pay it off every week.

Made an extra $20-$30 a shift.”

8. Free burritos!

“There was a summer where I got free chipotle all the time. I had a gift card that had like 2 dollars left on it. I hadn’t updated the app yet so it still had the “use my gift card and pay the rest in store”.

However either the computer at the store said I already paid the full amount ahead of time or I always came in during a time that they were swamped so no one ever asked me to pay.

They also never charged my gift card. I got away with it until the app made me update it.”

9. Playing the system.

“Coming to school 3 hours late.

I found out that as long as you have a parent’s note, you could come in late unlimited times. The only restriction is that after 15 days missed for a class, you’d fail it.

So, at the beginning of the year I pressured my guidance counselor to move my two study periods to period 1/2 and a blowoff class (which I didn’t need the credit for) to period 3.

Came to school at 10-10:30am every day my senior year opposed to 7am. Extra 3 hours of sleep, bringing fast food into lunch, and avoiding the hectic metal detectors made it well worth.

Props to my grandma for writing 140 late notes for me at the start of the year. That my friends, is how you play the system.”

10. That’s a lot of tea.

“The Starbucks subsidiary Teavana (now out of business) would let you use your Starbucks rewards (“stars” or whatever they’re called) to get loose tea by the ounce.

However, there was an error in their point-of-sale system that only deducted 1 reward point, no matter how many you spent in a given transaction.

My wife and I spent 32 rewards on a couple pounds of the most expensive loose tea they had. She checked her rewards balance the next day, and holy sh*t, she still had 31 reward points left.

So we drove to a different Teavana and got a bunch of loose tea from them, and then another, and then another. We were in Los Angeles, so there were a lot of Teavanas within driving distance.

At retail price, we took a thousand bucks or so of free tea off their hands before the loophole was closed.”

11. School uniforms.

“My school had uniforms, it was kinda strict with those… but nowhere in the rules it stated that girls should wear the female uniform and boys the male uniform.

Sooooooo, I bought the male one and wore it. A lot of teachers wanted to give me detention, but when I went over the school rule book and sh*t, they had to stay steaming mad because I was not breaking any rules.

They assumed it was implied, but the only think stated was that the uniform was to be worn properly, be clean and fit well, but that’s it.

By the time I graduated, a lot of students were doing about the same sh*t I was.

That rule changed shortly after my generation went off to university. sorry kiddos, maybe you will find new loopholes to give the inspector an aneurism.”

12. Life hack.

“The Mc Cheapy.

McFlurries were like 4 bucks. All it is is ice cream in a cup with some shots of topping. They don’t even mix it.

So we asked for a soft serve, 30c, two shots of toppings, $1, a cup and a spoon (free).”

13. No permit needed.

“Not me, but my dad.

He was building a deck on their house. If the deck attaches to the house, you need a permit to build one in our city, since it’s considered an addition/improvement. If the deck doesn’t attach to the house, it’s a free-standing structure, and you don’t need a permit.

So he built the deck right up against the house, but it doesn’t actually attach to the house, so he didn’t need a permit.

All he had to do was add a few extra posts under the side of the deck nearest the house.”

14. Free refills.

“Years ago, Burger King sold mugs that you could refill for free any time at all. With soda or even shakes.

My friends and I would bring a single mug, go in and get a chocolate shake, go back to the car to move the contents to another mug, go back in and repeat until all of us got free chocolate shakes.

We did this regularly for about two years of high school.”

Now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us about the various loopholes that you’ve discovered and exploited.

Please and thank you!

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People Open up About Why They Like to Be Alone

Some people get really energized by spending time with other people and talking and discussing just about anything.

Well, there is a whole other group of folks out there who are the EXACT OPPOSITE. Being around a lot of people drains them and makes them feel totally exhausted.

I like to think I’m somewhere in the middle, but the older I get, the more I think I’m leaning towards the second option from above…

AskReddit users opened up about why they enjoy spending time by themselves.

1. Don’t tone it down.

“I’m a bit of a weirdo and I like being alone because I don’t have to explain why I said something or did something.

I feel like when I’m around people that I have to significantly “tone down” my personality, which can get pretty exhausting.”

2. A deep thinker.

“I like to be alone with my thoughts.

I am a deep thinker and like to have time to figure things out on my own.”

3. Not good for the ears.

“I have really sensitive hearing. I wear earplugs but it is only a dampener.

I have noise cancelling headphones but it is only a dampener.

And people are loud.”

4. No explanations needed.

“I am my own best friend.

I don’t have to explain or justify myself to anyone else. I can do what I like, with whom I like. If I want to play on my PS4 for 20 hrs there is no one telling me to stop.

Having been married then divorced for nearly 40+years being on my own is a blast. I also just love being at home. I don’t miss working, as that was very stressful being around people and all that entails.

Now I can invite people into my space when I want to. Being retired is the most awesome thing.”

5. Exhausting.

“People are nice until they become exhausting.

I don’t want to be rude but i have learned over the years that when i am done socialising i am done socialising and there is really no point in me continuing to socialise if i cant draw no enjoyment out of it.

I wont be no fun to be around any longer anyway.”

6. Give me solitude.

“At first it was quite uncomfortable, but over time it became tolerable, and eventually preferable, for me.

It’s as if the longer I’m in solitude, the more of it I want.”

7. Sorting it out.

“Because I have to sort my feelings and thoughts out which is crucial to me.

In order for me to live with people, I first must have a control over my own thoughts and emotions and be in tune with myself.

Just like there is a world outside, there is one inside of us, experienced through blissful loneliness.”

8. An emotional person.

“I like to be alone because I can’t control my emotions, so if I shut people out, no one can get mad at me.

It’s a win win situation and also social anxiety is a big issue.”

9. As I see fit.

“I enjoy the quietness and the ability to plan my whole day as I see fit.

However, after a few weeks it gets old. I’m married with kids, but travel a lot for work. I’ve been on the road for over a month.

I miss my wife and kids running around. We are all introverts, so we plan our day and do our thing together, sometimes just me and the kids.

It’s perfect.”

10. Not a people person.

“Because I really don’t like people.

Have you ever really sat and listened to people? Some complain about everything, others brag about how great they are.

It’s just annoying as hell.”

11. A safe feeling.

“For a lot of us who grew up in abuse, alone is the only time you’re really “safe,” and that association sticks even after you leave the abuse behind.”

12. Too bad.

“One reason is that I’m lazy as hell. Another is because my old friends are irreplaceable.

Obviously I’m not going to find any exactly like them, and also there are plenty of good people around to befriend. But growing up with a group of friends from what seems like diapers to High School, you just can’t compare.

Moving away from my childhood town was difficult, especially because I wasn’t planning to and it was sudden. Two years later? We’ve all already drifted apart like most HighSchool friends do.

And it just sucks knowing we’ll all never be around each other again.”

13. It’s complicated.

“I am an extroverted introvert. I care about people. I have good social skills. People exhaust me, and social settings are terrifying/manageable/exhausting.

I want to live alone in an empty desert, and be visited weekly by a loving old friend, attend dinner parties with interesting people every other month, and host a raging bash quarterly.

That would do nicely…”

14. The way it is.

“Mainly because I’m heavily introverted and have a fair bit of social anxiety, grew around people constantly judging me and basically grew sick of it

But I like the freedom of just being able to do anything I want and be myself, being around other people for long periods of time, even just talking, is really mentally exhausting for me.”

15. It’s all I know…

“Because that’s all I’ve ever really known.

My mother was a caregiver for my father when he was in hospice for two years so when she wasn’t working full time, she was at his side keeping him company and making sure he was well-cared for and not being abused.

When he was going through multiple surgeries before ending up there, I was at the hospitals a lot as a kid and did spend some time at the hospice, usually alone in the lobby reading or drawing.

Eventually, I begged my mom to just let me be alone. The hospice scared me. It smelled like death and the old folks really made me uneasy. She started either leaving me home alone or dropping me off at the library for the entire day on the weekends starting at the age of 9.

So I just got used to being alone. Once my father passed a year later, she allowed me to spend my summers home alone while she worked and I just got very comfortable with isolation and mostly silence.”

16. Inside my mind.

“Because my world is far more interesting than the one I am forced to inhabit.

It only exists inside my mind, but so do the majority of ideals which structure up our world. They only exist because people demand they do.

In less than 100 years I will be a footnote in history, I’d rather spend that time doing things I enjoy than sacrificing my happiness on the altar of cultural demands for sociability and niceties.”

17. All by myself.

“Because I can completely be myself, and a lack of people make my senses less likely to overload. Also not being around people all the time helps you stay healthy and not catch all kinds of contagious illness.

My father used to get sick quite often but ever since he’s retired he hasn’t been around many people and their germs so now he hardly ever gets sick.

I can do things at my own personal pace. No one is going to complain if supper is an hour later than it usually is. It will still be delicious. No one is going to criticize my taste in music, TV shows or movies.

Or make fun of me for collecting dolls and stuffed animals. And when I’m working on a craft or hobby, I don’t have to worried about being too focused to pay attention to others, or have them interrupt me.

Interruptions are the worst!”

How about you?

Why do you like spending time alone?

Please share your thoughts with us in the comments!

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People Share the Best Advice They’ve Ever Received in Life

Depending on who your role models were when you were growing into adulthood, you might’ve received great life advice when you were a kid in school, or maybe at your first job, or maybe from your parents.

Heck, maybe you even got great advice much later in life.

It’s different for everyone and it’s good to remember that you can get some nuggets of useful wisdom at any point.

What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?

Here’s what people on AskReddit had to say.

1. Good advice.

“I was in a pretty negative place in college, being quite cynical and sarcastic and really insecure with myself, so much that I was ragging on friends and generally trying to build myself up by putting other people down (you know the type, the friend who thinks he’s busting chops but really is kinda just being a d*ck).

My well-liked, popular roommate/friend noticed this and sent me this little bit, which I always hang onto:

“Immediately stop picking on peoples weaknesses, do what I do, expose their qualities and strengths, it makes them feel good about themselves and you too for noticing. When you make people feel good when you’re around, they are going to remember that feeling whenever you show up, you’ll be well received and missed often. Plus don’t you want your friends to feel good about themselves?”

It made me re-visit the way I’d been treating people around me.”

2. It’s yours to use!

“”Use your vacation hours, and don’t be afraid to call in sick every now and then either”.

No need to work like a dog and ignore your benefits to please a boss who doesn’t notice. Vacation/staycation days are gems that everyone should take!”

3. The way you say it.

“It’s not what you say, but how you say it.

Changing the way one phrases things can have an incredible effect.”

4. A good fix.

“My current boss says something as a joke that has helped me a lot more than he realizes.

I am a mechanic but am not always the most confident (even when I know what I’m doing).

He says “only one way to fix it, fix it.” Weirdly enough it always makes me focus and remember there’s no secret trick he knows that I dont, just got to do it.

Applied that to other areas of my life and it helps so much more than I would have thought.”

5. Aim high.

“Marriage shouldn’t be a 50/50 split.

It should be a 60/40 split where both are trying to be the 60%.”

6. He was right.

“During my first internship, I was super keen to please my supervisors and was an eager little brown-noser. Anything they would ask me, I would respond with an enthusiastic yes and rush to do that, even with mindless things like, typing out someone’s meeting notes, going out to buy office stationery, and even served coffee to some guests a couple of times, no matter how much I hated doing it.

Two months into the internship, the boss called me for a catch-up and bluntly described me as ‘servile’ to my face, and said that with my attitude, I would never grow professionally.

He said, “it doesn’t matter if you’re an intern or a manager, if you do not get over your habit of wanting to please everyone, you’ll never learn or achieve anything of value.” Though I was shaken then and even hated him a little bit, I eventually came to realize the truth in his words.”

7. Don’t worry about it.

“Don’t worry about whether or not you “belong” somewhere, or if you’ll fit in.

Do your part, respect and support others.

If you do that and people don’t accept you it’s their problem not yours.”

8. Be kind to yourself.

“When you’re being too harsh on yourself, imagine if the person with those issues is one of your friends.

Treat yourself like you’d treat that friend.

That helped me be way kinder to myself than before.”

9. You do you.

“Do your future self a favor.

This relates to prepping for the next day (clothes ironed, lunch packed) to saving money to making healthy choices.

It makes for easier decisions and a better life.”

10. Own it.

“”Pick a failure.”

Sometimes the only options available involve some sort of failure. That’s ok. Just pick one, own it, and move on. There’s almost never an instant, magic solution without long term consequences.

That rare time there is, learn to really embrace it.”

11. Words to live by.

“Don’t be an idiot.

It changed my life. Whenever Im about to do something, I think, Would an idiot do that?

And if they would, I do not do that thing.”

12. Be wise with your money.

“Save your money and always live within your means.

As someone not working now, having some stashed away has kept our family afloat.”

13. People REALLY aren’t paying attention.

“Nobody’s looking at you.

They’re worrying about how they look.”

14. It’s okay to say NO.

“Learn to say no.

This is especially helpful for codependents. Any kindness you pass onto others will be far more genuine if you’ve taken care of your own needs first.”

15. Sounds like a smart guy.

“I went to work in construction right out of high school.

Before my first day my grandfather told me, to be successful, keep your ears open, your mouth shut, and constantly outwork the person next to you.

I lived that advice and it has served me very well.”

How about you?

What do you think is the best life advice you’ve ever received?

Talk to us in the comments!

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A Grocery Store Worker Got Ghosted By His Boss but Got Sweet Revenge

Usually, “ghosting“—when someone ends a relationship by ceasing all communication—occurs between friends and romantic partners, but it rarely happens between an employee and employer.

One Redditor, however, says it happened to him when he worked at a food shop.

To begin with, the place wasn’t that great for employees. It had a high turnover and, while this guy had been there a long time and pretty much knew how to do everything in the store, he knew it wasn’t the best job. But it paid the bills.

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He was responsible employee, and when he went home for college break, he let the manager know his schedule. When he made plans to come back, he learned he was being ghosted.

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The guy thought about ways he could exact his revenge. He had a few things in mind, but he didn’t want to get into trouble himself.

As they say, “revenge is a dish best served cold,” so he waited. He also took care of himself in the process and found another job. When he was settled, he squared things up with his former employer.

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He never forgot the ghosting from his old boss, and while he doesn’t know the outcome of his actions, he did know his employer’s personality well enough to know that things wouldn’t end well. Of course, none of this would have happened if his former boss had done the right thing by facing him and telling him he was no longer employed.

Some folks on Reddit have encountered this before.

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Even some people who REALLY know what they’re talking about.

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And this person should really check the state laws. Because money.

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Either way, some people would totally bounce to another employer for not very much.

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Have you ever been ghosted by an employer? How did it make you feel? Did you try and get revenge?

Let us know in the comments below!

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People Share Loopholes That They Found and Took Advantage of

Some people are really good at figuring out loopholes and shortcuts.

Some of those things can be illegal and you should probably avoid them, while others are perfectly okay.

It just really depends, ya know?

But one thing is for certain: most people are going to exploit the heck out of loopholes if they happen to find them.

Let’s see what folks on AskReddit had to say.

1. Cruisin’.

“Was on a cruise ship a few years ago that had a pay-per-minute Internet policy. You’d buy like 200 minutes of wifi access for $100 or whatever crazy price it was. They had a little portal that you went to, to start and stop the timer, and tell you how much time was remaining.

I quickly realized that the timer counted by whole minutes. That is, if I started at 12:00:01, and stopped it at 12:00:58, then it counted as 0 minutes of internet use.

For the entire cruise I took advantage of this. Start the timer, fire up your internet apps like Facebook and Instagram and let your timeline and emails download, or launch a website and let it load. Stop the timer.

Browse your feed and photos and read your website and emails offline, compose posts and replies etc. Start the timer again to send/upload, stop it again within a minute.

I milked those 200 minutes for an entire 3 week cruise and still had 45 minutes left over at the end.”

2. What a deal.

“Moviepass was $10 a month and you could use it to get 1 movie ticket a day.

I lived next door to a Regal, and I went everyday because Regal would give their reward points for every ticket purchased. They didn’t care that Moviepass was paying for the tickets then giving them to me as part of my subscription.

In 8 months I spent $80 on the subscription and saw everything that came out and I racked up enough Regal rewards points for about 50 free popcorns or drinks.

Moviepass went out of business but I still had all the Regal rewards.”

3. Parking wars.

“In college there was a parking garage that charged around $2/hour. I couldn’t get a parking pass but learned the heated garage that charged $2/hour had a $20 fee for a lost ticket.

I would park my car in there for a few weeks at a time and when I had to leave would lose my ticket and be forced to pay the $20 lost ticket fee.

A parking pass was around $500 to park outside and I ended up paying around $300 in lost ticket fees to park in the heated garage.”

4. Free printing!

“When I was at university, the pay-for campus printers all worked on a system where you’d print your documents, release them at the printer, they’d print, then after they’ve finished printing, it would then contact the server to get the cost deducted from your balance.

That final step always took a while and I discovered in my first year that if I cancelled the print job as the final page was rolling out of the printer, it wouldn’t deduct the cost from my balance.

With this method I got free printing for nearly two years before they upgraded the system!”

5. OT.

“We had a situation at my old job (a huge, international company) where we’d work shifts, either 8/10/12 hours. Anything after 8 hours was overtime.

Sometimes we were scheduled for the next shift quite soon after the last one had ended, for example 05:00-12:00 and then 19:00-00:00.

Someone discovered that if there were less than 8 hours between shifts in a 24-hour period, anything after 8 hours total was paid the overtime rate.

We did it for ages and then in the context of some team chat, some twat asked one of the managers whether the above scheduling would still be feasible.

Turned out the management hadn’t even noticed and stopped it immediately. And back to minimum wage we went.”

6. Little bandits.

“When my brothers and I were 6-10 years old we found a crane candy game where you were “guaranteed to win” something.

We found a laser sensor in the area where you pick up your prize. This indicated whether or not something had dropped. So, by holding the flap door open at the bottom the sensor was never triggered so for 25 cents we nearly emptied the machine.

Thanks Red Robin!”

7. Free stuff!

“Early in the smartphone world there was an app that gave you points for watching TV shows and ads that you could turn in for gift cards or discount codes.

The rewards were not great but over time and by waiting for gift card restock you could make out like a bandit. However, the shows they wanted you to watch were not my cup of tea (a lot of prime time shows and reality shows) and I wasn’t home for a lot of them so I thought I was SOL.

Turns out, the app had a grace period where if you had recorded the show on your TV you could still get credit, so I just pirated the shows and set my phone up to “watch” them while I did something else. Then I realized it only listened for about 2 minutes before it gave you credit so I was able to get through the log of shows in about 40 minutes and make a killing.

Because of that app I was able to get a kitchen aid stand mixer, a smoker and a bunch of other stuff because of the gift cards.”

8. Bring on the pizza!

“I bought a card once for $10 that had 16 coupons for a BOGO pizza from Dominos. They were little stickers that you were supposed to pull off and hand in when using them, but they never asked for the stickers.

They also didn’t have an expiration on them. They also didn’t tell anyone it was supposed to be one per order.

We’d order 8 pizzas at a time, used them for two years. Thousands of dollars of free pizza really help when you’re a broke college kid.”

9. A good promo.

“Several years ago AT&T was running a trade-in promotion increasing the value of old iPhones way beyond what they were selling for on eBay/ CL at the time.

This promo thankfully wasn’t bundled to a new phone purchase and could be done on any active line of service with AT&T – so no limits on phone trade-ins.

I ended up buying 31 old iPhone 4s for about $70 each on eBay and trading them all in to AT&T on promotion for $200. Worked out to $6200 in AT&T credits (got myself 2 iPads, a 2 new iPhones at the time, and enough of a credit on my bill I didn’t pay for cell phone service for almost 2 years).

I really miss this type of promotion!!”

10. Thief!

“I remember being young and going to Chuck E. Cheese.

When you were pulling your tickets out, if you found this sweet spot  then you could just keep pulling the tickets out.

My mom had a hard time figuring out how I got 10,000 tickets in under an hour.”

11. Smart move.

“Right out of college I worked a job that had a 100% match to any retirement contributions.

I was young, lived rent free with my parents, had no student debt, and could grab OT nearly every week. After some budgeting I figured I could throw 80% of my paycheck into retirement.

I did so for 9 months until my supervisor called me into the office to sign a policy change that limited retirement contributions to 50%. I’d stashed away nearly $35,000 on about a ~$32,000 annual pay.

I had no life for about a year, but d*mn if it didn’t jump start my retirement.”

12. Infinite burgers.

“The local Wendy’s had a survey on the back of their receipt that would get you one free burger of your choice with the purchase of any other “premium” burger.

They also had a special on where the Dave’s classic single, considered a premium burger, was $2.

There was no specification that the free burger had to be “Of equal or lower value”.

The first time I didn’t even make a purchase, just went into the store, found a receipt near the garbage, filled out the survey, got my code, and then ordered their Asiago cheese chicken burger (their most expensive item) with a Dave’s Single. 2 burgers for $2.

Then of course I had a receipt for that purchase, which lead to infinite $2 for 2 burger deals.”

13. Long lunches.

“Not sure if it’s a loophole but I’m currently remoting in from home to work because of COVID.

Since I’m salary I don’t log in or submit a time card. Instead they require all employees (hourly or salary) to log in on Skype so they can track how long you’re online.

Except that they didn’t disable the settings so I have my status remain “Available” for 20 minutes of inactivity so I can take 50 minute lunches and not get docked for it.”

14. Whoa!

“I lived near a casino that would let you get chips using your credit card.

I liked some if the show’s and restaurants there but never gambled. So every time I went I’d charge $5K to my credit card for chips.

Then I’d cash out at a different teller swing by the bank on the way home deposit the money and pay off my credit card. I did this maybe once a week.

Boom $5K of free points / cash back.”

15. Loophole or crime?

“Idk if it was so much a loophole as a crime, but in my defense, I like money

So, it’s 2009, summertime, and a new water park in Florida called Aquatica had opened up. In those days, they had two kinds of lockers; small lockers for $5 and large ones for $10. Both were unlocked by keys, and if you brought back the keys for the large lockers, you’d get $5 back.

Now, another thing you need to know so that there was a river that was basically the opposite of a lazy river. It had jets along the wall that pushed the current of the water to the point that it was difficult for even grown adults to stand in place. This also meant that whatever you put in your pockets, would get pushed out by the current.

So, my cousin and I would use swimming goggles and we’d find the neon orange keys, and we’d stagger which one of us would go turn the keys in and we’d space it out as well to ensure the employees handling the keys wouldn’t recognize us.

We’d go, turn in the keys, get $5 back, and f*ck off for about a half hour before coming back to turn in some more. Between that and the cash we’d find in the river and other pools in the park (sometimes it was just free floating quarters and mother times it was actual bills), we never had to actually pay for anything with our own money.

My dad would give us money each day so we could get this little arm band thing that would let us eat as much as we wanted from any of the three restaurants in the park, but we’d find so much money each day that even after spending that money, we’d still have some left over plus the money that my dad gave us. We weren’t so much having a vacation as we were doing a job that entailed finding money and keys, and turning in the keys for money.

We did this nearly every single day for the entire summer. From 9am to 6pm most days that we were there, sometimes until the park closed around 9pm.

I spent my money on video games and idk what my cousin spent his fortune on but knowing him, it was probably designer clothes

I always love telling this story and I haven’t had the chance to in a long time.”

Those are pretty interesting, don’t you think?

How about you?

Have you ever uncovered any useful loopholes?

If so, please tell us about them in the comments!

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People Share the Gifts That They Think Last a Lifetime

When looking for a present for a friend or a family member, it’s important to try to find something that will last a long time…or hopefully even a lifetime.

But that can be tough, right?

Luckily for us, a whole bunch of people weighed in online about gifts that they think will last a lifetime, so keep these in mind next time you’re looking for a gift for your loved ones.

Let’s see what folks on AskReddit had to say.

1. A good knife.

“A really good knife. Shun or Wusthof.

It’s safer to have a sharp, well-made knife. It makes cutting unimaginably easier.

200-300 dollars and you have the only knife you will ever need.”

2. Great memories.

“I keep all handwritten cards from birthday/Christmas/ any occasion gifts.

I’ve had a bunch from relatives that have passed away and I always love looking at them.”

3. A reminder.

“My best friend of 5 years (now boyfriend/baby daddy) made me a bracelet when we first started dating and I haven’t taken it off since.

Every time I see it I remember him excitedly giving it to me and tying it around my wrist, it’s hanging by a thread now and I’m gonna cry when it finally gives out.”

4. They won’t forget.

“An act of kindness toward someone.

They will always remember.”

5. Quality.

“Jewelry.

But like quality stuff, real silver or gold. I still have the jewelry from my great grandmother and my grandmother, it will last more than a lifetime if you care for it.”

6. Good idea!

“I was given a check to pay for Lasik eye surgery for Christmas.

That was probably the most amazing gift I’ve ever received, surgery is a month away!

Can’t wait, I haven’t seen clearly since I was in elementary school.”

7. Life lessons.

“Goes with “teach a man to fish.”

The gift would probably be experience or teaching someone how to do something that can help them in life.”

8. They last forever.

“A cast iron skillet.

It may oxidize, but it’s possible to clean it off and restore it. It will last more than a lifetime.”

9. A rifle.

“A good hunting rifle.

I have my father’s that was given to him by his father and it has put food on the table throughout his life and mine.

I have no sons or daughters, so, it will pass to my firstborn nephew.”

10. Memorable experiences.

“Any kind of experience, like a book, movie, videogame, or some kind of adventure.

Though if you ment something more tangible, consider a good watch, pocket knife, missing tools to an existing hobby, a good chefs knife, a cast iron skillet, Gold or platnium jewelry, A metal flask or refillable lighter (if appropriate).

Most of these things are more a matter of maintenance without becoming a white elephant kinds of thing.”

11. Travel the world.

“If you’ve got the money, travel.

Give someone the gift of travel. I always save up for this because it never feels like a waste to experience new cultures and see new places and I have the best memories of my time spent there.

Or a tree, plant a tree for someone.”

12. Photographs and memories.

“Honestly, a thoughtful photo collage.

A keepsake full of memorable photos of the two of you showing you both at that time in your lives is so beautiful.”

13. Homemade.

“A mug or an everyday object you made for him/her/them.

I made a cup for my mom when I was 7 and she still uses it.”

14. Very important.

“Friendship

Costs nothing, but is worth everything

Weighs nothing, but lasts a lifetime

Something one person can’t own, but two people can share.”

Now we want to hear from you!

In the comments, tell us what gifts you think last a lifetime.

Please and thank you!

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What Gifts Last an Entire Lifetime? Here’s How People Responded.

It can be hard to pick out good gifts for friends and family members.

Will they like them? Will they HATE them? Will they use them once and toss them in the trash?

That’s why it’s important to go for longevity, people.

What gifts last a whole lifetime?

Here are some interesting answers from AskReddit users.

1. Plant a tree.

“As silly as it may sound (and it needs space): a tree.

We were given a small lemon-tree ages ago, and each year got so many good lemons.

A lemon-tree lives for about 50 years, so not necessarily a lifetime, but you get the idea ;-).”

2. Good choice.

“Cast Iron skillet.

The cast iron skillet I used to make eggs on this morning was my great grandfathers and I believe he got it some time in 1920 or so. I’m kinda old, so do the math.”

3. Simple, yet effective.

“A high quality can opener

I’ve had the same can opener for something like 25 years and it shows no signs of wear.”

4. Start peelin’!

“I was gifted a $30-35 vegetable peeler and it is light years better than any cheap peeler I’ve owned.

Peels anything easily and after a few years it is as good as new. I plan to slowly replace all the metal gadgets in my kitchen with high quality ones now.”

5. I have a very old one, too.

“I’ve had my great grand father’s dresser since I was born.

So I guess that thing has lasted 4 generations now.”

6. Be smart with that money.

“Honestly, teaching someone financial responsibility.

When I was 18, someone gifted me a class. I thought what a terrible fucking gift. I’m nearing 24 now, and never been more grateful to that person.”

7. Yes!

“If they’re a reader, a good book.

They may only read it once, but the lessons and feelings of the journey will stay with them.

If they’re not a reader, still a good book is a good choice, just try to make it one they have a strong inherent interest in from the get-go.”

8. Important.

“Debt-free education.

Was lucky to have a single mom that somehow supported me all the way through college. Cue multiple offers upon graduating, i had the power to walk away from any offer as there was no pressure to repay any loans.

It gives you the confidence to play hardball in the interview, which vastly improves your prospects.”

9. Knives out.

“A good knife.

It doesn’t matter what type of knife it is or what its intended purpose is, be it a filleting knife for fishing, a blade on an expensive high quality multi-tool, a hunting knife, a (functional) decorative knife, a high quality kitchen knife or whatever else.

A good, high quality blade – with proper care and maintenance – will last a lifetime.”

10. Learn to cook.

“Teaching someone the basics of cooking!

Teaching myself to make eggs was the first step in my culinary adventure that started when I was a kid and is still continuing today. I taught my younger siblings how to cook basics like eggs and pasta and they’ve only improved since.

My gf couldn’t even turn on the stove when we got together (super spoiled kid growing up) so when she finally learned how, the first thing I taught her was scrambled eggs. She makes full, delicious meals now.”

11. Use it wisely.

“Your time. You will never get it back, no refunds, no replenishing your “time bar”.

You spend it, it’s gone.”

12. Timepieces.

“A good watch!

Something you can pass on generation to generation.

I have my grandfather’s pocket watch. It was made in 1912.”

13. Light my fire.

“A zippo lighter.

Even for non-smokers, it’s a cool gift that has tons of uses!

Some of the most resilient things I’ve ever seen.

I’ve seen so many Vietnam-era zippos that still work it’s insane.”

14. A real gift.

“Friendships.

You’ll never know if a simple hello can turn into a life long friendship, maybe even companionship.”

15. The most important thing.

“Love. Especially growing up with it.

It really changes the way you see the world and how you treat others. My boyfriend came from a lovely family who care for him (and I) immensely.

My family? Talk shit all the time, say rude things, and didn’t give me all that much affection. He’s confident, aware of emotions and them being valid, and lacks anxiety issues. I’m self conscious, feel guilty for showing certain emotions, and have bad anxiety issues.

Love really does impact people, and its never to late to show it.”

How about you?

What gifts do you think last a lifetime?

Talk to us in the comments!

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People Share the Best and Worst Advice They Got From Therapists

Therapists are paid to give us advice and help us out.

Hopefully, that advice is good and it improves our lives, but it doesn’t always work out that way.

Hey, they’re only human, too, so I guess sometimes they just get sidetracked and dish out bad advice on occasion, as well.

Want to hear some good AND bad advice that people received from their therapists?

Here’s what AskReddit users had to say.

1. That’s reassuring.

“My psychologist told me as a 16 year old that I will never recover and that I should prepare for a struggling life.”

2. Good enough.

“I was in hospital after having had a suspected miscarriage of a very much wanted child. The hospital knew about my mental health history so they wouldn’t release me without having spoken to a psychiatrist.

It was Sunday morning so the dude wasn’t on site, so I’m lying in a hospital bed and they bring in a phone and the psych is on the other end. I say hello and he says “so I’ve heard you had a miscarriage”.

Me – “well that’s what they think, it’s not certain yet but…”

Psych – “So are you going to kill yourself if we send you home?”

I was like, what the fuck? No empathy or “how are you feeling about this” or “do you have loved ones at home”. Just, like, let us know if you’re killing yourself or not.

I said “I’m not sure. Probably not”.

Apparently that was good enough and they sent me home an hour later.”

3. That’ll fix it!

“I had a religious therapist once tell me I just needed more water to solve my depression.

She concluded this by having me hold out my arms and she tested the strength of each one by pushing down on it and I had to resist against it.

Looking back I should have told her it was BS but I was so caught off guard i was just like, well ok I’ll have some more water.”

4. A pivotal moment.

“I had a psychologist that I was only occasionally seeing at the start of my mental health decline (not his doing, but the help I needed then was more then the once a week meetings could fix).

He had such patience with me and my fear of never getting “over” my anxiety and depression.

He looked at me on our 3rd session and told me straightforward “what if you don’t get better? What if you have this all your life? Why not try to work with it and learn to manage rather than fight it?”

And that really was a pivotal moment on self acceptance for what was going on with me, that this isn’t going to go away like I want it too.

It caught me by surprise, because I was so angry at myself for being depressed, I didn’t think to just accept it.

I’ve been through different programs, doctors and hospitals since, but his words really stuck with me.”

5. Can’t help you.

“”There’s nothing I can do for you. Your problems are untreatable.”

I was 11. The honesty is now appreciated, but at the time it was so traumatic that I repressed the memory of hearing that and acted out so horribly that Toronto health care people have seen me as The Enemy ever since then.”

6. Great…

“I had a Psychologist lean in sort of conspiratorially and ask if I was a spiritual person.

I replied yes and she proceeded to tell me that upon hearing the traumas I’d been through she wanted me to know that I was probably from a cursed bloodline and that I could talk to people from her church about it if I wanted to find out more about it.”

7. Don’t cry.

“I went to a psychologist for a little while for my anxiety and it was clear he wasn’t right for me (much, much older than I was, never let me speak, always changed topics, etc) so I was planning on finding a different person to talk to.

But the kicker was went I was talking about my mother and started crying. To preface, he was big on rationality and staying rational (which is an understandable thing if you’re trying to help with anxiety but he did it in all the wrong ways).

I started crying, and this grown ass man looked at me and said something I will never forget with utmost seriousness.

“Don’t cry. Crying is an irrational response.”

Went through the rest of the session feeling like shit and never went back.”

8. You’re right!

“I had explained to my psychologist how I felt really bad about not wanting to go out on another date with this guy. Felt really bad, guilty, everything.

He looked at me and said ” Well why dont you fucking marry him?”. I just sat open eyed and then laughed, and said “wow, your right…” and never thought about that again. So now, whenever i feel bad about something inconsequential or little I think back to his words haha.

My psychologist was amazing though and I always valued his bluntness as that was usually the best way to get through to me.”

9. Family counseling.

“My mom got family counseling with me (her son) and her and after she had her ten minutes alone with the counselor she called me in for my ten and she told me something I’ll never forget “ya just go live with your dad”(parents were divorced) and so I did and I haven’t had a problem since.”

10. You can leave.

“I was depressed as all hell my first semester of college, and told my therapist about wanting to injure myself or half-ass a suicide attempt so people would take me seriously when I told them I was caving under pressure.

Described the all-nighters, 70+ hours of studio work, cutthroat competition, pressure to perform, vindictive professors. Lamented that this was “the thing to do” after high school and I had to stay on track.

She told me I could leave.

That had never occurred to me. I packed some essentials and drove home that night. I checked into a mental health facility just past midnight.”

11. A wakeup call.

“I had an eating disorder that I lied to myself about and considered just ‘disordered eating’.

Anyway, the self delusion ran deep. I also believed my therapist was an eating disorder specialist. When I moved from the city I was living in, to the city I’m in now, we were wrapping up our final session and when I asked what she used as my diagnostic code, she told me she was treating me for an eating disorder.

I was shocked; but I said I knew she was an eating disorder specialist. She then told me she’s not, she’s a drug and family therapist. Long story short, i was totally deluded and had my entirely own narrative.”

12. Not cool.

“I had a therapist call me an underachiever.

As he sat and talked about all the great things his son of the same age had done. Which was not really much of anything. What a Dick, that shit sticks with you.

I need freaking therapy for going in talking to a therapist.”

13. No longer blind.

“I was 27 before it was brought to my attention that I have debilitating self loathing and I dont like myself.

Legit, I was totally blind to it.”

14. The last straw.

“A psychologist I visited briefly (to treat anxiety and depression) began telling me really personal details about other clients and their sessions.

And not vague stuff, more like “he was hearing voices and the voices said they wanted him to kill me [psychologist] and that was extra scary because he is the owner of [local NFL team]!! Isn’t that scary??” Or “she was addicted to cocaine and cheating on her husband, who is the owner of [local mall chain].”

I grew increasingly uncomfortable with these personal anecdotes, and they began to take up larger and larger chunks of our sessions. By the end there, I would have to interrupt her to redirect her back to MY issues. I was paying her to help me address them, after all.

The last straw was when she left the office for over 15 minutes to go eat lunch, then charged me for a full session.

I confronted her, saying I didn’t want to hear these private and confidential stories anymore, and that I would prefer to stay focused on my issues during our sessions, as I was hoping she could teach me how to work through them (crazy, right?)

She immediately raised her voice at me and tried to tell me I was imagining the whole thing and having some sort of delusion (an issue I’ve never been diagnosed with or struggled with).

Then she backpedaled and tried to say that all those stories had been from HER imagination, meant to benefit me. I pointed out the contradiction and expressed that I didn’t want to spend large chunks of our sessions talking about people in her personal life, imaginary or otherwise.

That’s when she cracked up and told me that I wasn’t “worthy” of someone with her talents, and could never hope to achieve mental health.

I walked out and haven’t been back to therapy since. Got into a supportive community, and they helped me heal, WITHOUT gaslighting me or breaking confidentiality.”

15. Surreal.

“I tried to see a therapist for some light-to-moderate incest-based trauma, and chose the wrongest shrink.

I didn’t exactly do my research: I picked the closest therapist to my office, that my insurance covered; it was billed as generic family therapy – “Perfect, I thought!” And booked an appointment for immediately after work.

When I walked up to the front door, I noticed that it said “Christian Marriage and Family Therapy”. I was immediately uncomfortable, but I was trying to be more open-minded towards those with a religious bent, and figured that as long as they could do their job; their religion was no concern of mine!

I explained to the gent, manning the desk that I wanted to talk about some mildly disturbing experiences, and I wasn’t religious, or even aware that I had booked an appointment at a religious clinic. He was very kind and explained that he helped all sorts of people, and had heard it all. Then he lead me to the therapy office, which consisted of a very large chair, a tiny rickety footstool, and wall-to-wall racks of tapes. I told him about a traumatic experience that had happened days previously, and his reaction shocked me. My therapist:

cried; he at me through watery eyes and said “I don’t know what to say…”

tried to convince me that I wanted to have kids some day and that only him resolving my trauma would help me be the best mother I could be. I still don’t want kids, so that was confusing

Expressed a relentless interest in trying past-life regression and/or hypnotherapy. I point-blank asked him: “wasn’t that proven to be ineffective in the 70’s?” And he assured me that he had been a part of a lot experiments and tests in the 70’s; and this was the real deal!

the last thing he said to me, after I told him I didn’t want to have another appointment, was to rub his hands together and say “Wouldn’t it be great to get into that head of yours; like a steel-trap!”

To date, this was one of the most surreal things that has ever happened to me.”

How about you?

What’s the best or worst thing you’ve ever heard from a therapist?

Talk to us in the comments, please!

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People Talk About the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly Advice They’ve Heard From Their Therapists

Even if you don’t think you necessarily need any therapy, you should go at least a couple of times to give it a shot.

You never know what advice could potentially give you a new outlook on life…

But that doesn’t mean it’ll all be good. Not by a longshot. Therapists dish out all kinds of advice and it runs the spectrum from great to awful.

Let’s dig into these answers from AskReddit users.

1. Are you awake yet?

“When I was in first or second grade, the school counselor fell asleep when I was describing a bullying situation that I was in.

I was so young that I didn’t know how to respond, so I just sat there in his office until he woke up.”

2. That was helpful!

“Was talking to my school counselor about some mental health issues and told him that I like playing card games to take my mind off of it.

The man literally opens his cabinet and pulls out a briefcase full of Yugioh cards (I’m a massive nerd) and says “Sooooooo….. wanna play” ?

Don’t get me wrong but this guy had a lumberjack beard, was fit and looked more like a athlete than a counselor so I was shocked. Got over my problems and played every Wednesday against him!”

3. Can we talk about me?

“I paid and sat through an entire session of therapy during which my therapist ranted as to how great of a career he could have had as a stand up comedian and how much he regrets his current profession.

I kinda agreed with him near the end.”

4. Got it all figured out.

“I had a therapist tell me when I was a teenager that she didn’t know what else to do to help me because it seemed like I already understood everything pretty well.

This was after my overbearing and crazy helicopter mom dragged me in for being depressed. Then she switched to therapy-ing my mom and my mom quickly was in tears because she has the emotional strength of a child and wanted it to be about me when it was actually all about her.

I knew exactly why I was depressed. I was stuck by myself in the middle of nowhere with her crazy ass. No personal space, no ability to get away, not being able to say no, her getting jealous of my friends when I spent time with them. It would make anyone depressed.

She didn’t even let me sit with the therapist by myself.”

5. Go to the ER!

“My therapist once abruptly ended our session after telling me I needed to go to the ER.

I had been in a car accident the day before and had an undiagnosed concussion that was pretty bad. I was so out of it I didn’t even realize I was out of it.

He later told me I was talking about inappropriate topics (I was so embarrassed I didn’t ask what I specifically talked about–i didn’t want to know at that point) and wasn’t making much sense.

I’m just glad he recognized I was off that day and helped me get to the hospital.”

6. Uhhhhh, weird.

“First time I saw a counselor, he was looking over my paperwork and said he could tell from my handwriting the I was good in bed. I kid you not.

I was so caught off guard all I could say was “uh, I think I am.”

So young and not assertive at all. Found out he got in trouble for an inappropriate relationship with a client.

But it really screwed me up for a bit him saying that because I have problems setting boundaries with men.”

7. Good advice.

“She said, “You don’t HAVE to forgive someone, especially when they were so cruel and are not sorry.”

Shocked the hell out of me as every therapist before that tried to get me to forgive, but I can’t.

I live with it and I don’t think forgiving them would bring me any kind of peace.”

8. End on a high note.

“My therapist and I would end every appointment with a discussion of the latest Game of Thrones while it was airing, a great way to end things.

Even the shitty end of the show got plenty of lighthearted ribbing. It was great bc it wasn’t too personal and after talking about sex abuse for an hour I could leave without being such a sad sack.”

9. Sibling rivalry.

“I was in my second ever session, which coincidentally was right after my nans funeral.

I was talking about some stuff that had happened with my sister (who I had already said was probably my biggest issue) and he asked ‘why is this person in your life?

Why do you want to continue a relationship that hurts you so much? Do you actually want this relationship?’

I was floored. It had never occurred to me that my sister didn’t get a place in my life by default because family. I cant tell you how much this improved my life.”

10. PTSD.

“I’ll never forget my first day of therapy.

My therapist asked me if I had ever been abused as a child. I replied, “No, I had a normal childhood. I had everything I needed- food, shelter… I mean, my mother slapped me and would tell me to kill myself, and my dad would drag me by the hair everywhere and pull my hair out… but no, nothing abusive or anything.”

There was at least 30 seconds of dead air between us as I watched her blink while trying to figure out how to respond to what I said.

Eventually she put down her file, crossed her legs and said, “My dear, that IS abuse.” My world came crashing down all around me at that moment.

For so many years I had buried my feelings about what they’d done so deeply that I’d managed to convince myself that what they’d done wasn’t wrong.

Less than a year later I was diagnosed with PTSD and panic disorder from the trauma, and I cut off all communication with my parents.”

11. Me, too!

“My most recent therapist experience lasted for 2 sessions only. Both times, every time I’d discuss an issue i was having, my therapist would say, “OMG me too!”

Like, I’m here for you help me. If you’re just gonna say that I can have this conversation on my own.

The last session the therapist said, “if we met outside of this scenario we’d be really good friends.”

That was it for me.”

12. True, but…

“During my first and only session with a particularly memorable child psychologist, he referred to me as a “miserable bitch”.

It was true, but he didn’t have to call me out like that.”

13. A good tip.

“Had a therapist tell me to make a fuck budget. Hear me out lol!

He said you only have so many fucks to give before you blow, so just like with money you need to budget it out, start with things you have to give a fuck about, kids, work, health and then cross the things you dislike giving a fuck about, like people’s opinion of what you wear, off the list and don’t give a fuck about that shit!

This was an older gentleman who was cool but for the most part very well spoken and didn’t cuss. Hearing him say I needed to stop spreading my fucks so far made me die of laughter and immediately feel better.

To this day I still have a fuck budget that I do every month religiously and it has taken so much stress off my shoulders.”

14. Gee, thanks a lot.

“When I was in high school I was hospitalized for being suicidal.

My doctor there told me some really brilliant advice that totally cleared things up for me, basically just fixing me on the spot:

“You just have to be a normal boy”.

Lol.”

15. You’re too happy!

“I had been suicidal every day for over a year.

When I was 14/15 I started seeing my first therapist. After a few sessions she told me I was “too happy” to be in therapy and kicked me out. And it messed me up a lot lol.”

16. This is bad.

“Went to a psychologist when I was probably 13, I had depression, anxiety, and an eating disorder and they often manifested in bad panic attacks and anger.

After seeing him a few times and telling him everything, he brought my parents into the room and proceeded to tell them that I was fine, I was just angry at my parents and seeking attention. I tried protesting and explaining myself but he refused to listen and tried arguing with me.

Needless to say, I never went back there and my parents took me to a new psychologist. It definitely fucked me up a lot, and even thinking about it makes me angry.”

Have you ever had a particularly interesting session with a therapist?

If so, please tell us all about it in the comments.

Thanks in advance!

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