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What Lessons Did You Learn Too Late in Life? Here’s What People Said.

We only get one shot at this thing called life.

I’m talking about life. And even though it’s all about learning lessons along the way and growing, all of us have some kind of regrets about things we did or didn’t do when we were younger.

But you can’t let it get you down too much, I guess…

What are some lessons you think you learned too late in life?

Here’s how people responded on AskReddit.

1. Good point.

“To become more comfortable being uncomfortable.

Go toward your fears, don’t run from them, within reason.”

2.  You gotta do it!

“Look after your knees and your teeth.”

3. Truth.

“Sometimes you can do everything right and still fail.

And that is not a weakness; that is life.”

4. Keep it separate.

“Don’t bring things home from work.

I had a bad day at work. Came home and got in an argument with my gf about something…and stopped halfway.

Yes, she really had done something, but the only reason I got so angry about it was because…I had already been angry, from work. Otherwise i might have just let it go.

From then on I learned to separate work from home. I was 28. I felt like this was a lesson I should have learned earlier.”

5. Confront it.

“If you made mistakes, always confront them and the consequences right away.

Waiting doesn’t make it better, it makes it worse.”

6. I like this.

“Happiness is enjoying the things you have, not the things to come.”

7. No one is paying attention.

“People aren’t thinking about you even a fraction of the amount you think they’re thinking about you.

You’re noise in a lifetime of experiences and a busy mind. This is a good thing.

It means you can just get what you need from people and not over think it, safe in the knowledge that they’ll forget you almost immediately.”

8. Use it wisely.

“That the most valuable commodity is time.

Time to play with your kids, time to take that trip you always wanted, time to spend with the people you love.

It’s the only resource we can’t get more of yet we throw it away with excuses and never do anything to change it.

Write that book, go back to school, tell that girl you love her beacuse if you don’t all you’ll have is regrets.”

9. Take care of Number One.

“Be patient and wait. It’s better to be alone than with someone that doesn’t respect you.

No matter how much or good your are to someone, some of them will screw you over.

Always look after yourself first.

Start early with physical hobby and keep fit, you have one body and there is no replay.

If you love someone but they don’t love you.. move on. It will hurt like hell but in the long run, you’ll be happier.

Giving money doesn’t equate to affection, the gratitude will be short lived and you’ll only be an ATM to them in the near future.”

10. Not worth the time.

“Not everyone and every situation is worth your time or energy.

As someone that’s a bit of a “fixer” I often end up wasting my time trying to help people that didn’t deserve it or solve problems that nobody really cares about. It’s hard to know when to just walk away.

The other thing is protect your time it’s more valuable than your money. You can always go make more money you cannot go make more time. Time once lost cannot be regained.”

11. You can get help.

“That there IS hope for you to fix your mental health problems.

I left things for 10 years not knowing there was decent help to be had.

Although to be fair, things have progressed a lot since then”

12. Avoid them.

“Just because you’re blood related to someone, doesn’t mean that you owe them anything.

Toxic people are toxic people and you are not required to give them a single ounce of your attention if they are hurting you.”

13. Yes!

“Never put your education/ job / plans on hold for a boyfriend / girlfriend especially while in college.

Especially when you’re 19…”

What are the lessons you think you learned too late in life?

Talk to us in the comments.

Thanks a lot!

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What Lessons Did You Learn Too Late in Life? Here’s What People Said.

We only get one shot at this thing called life.

I’m talking about life. And even though it’s all about learning lessons along the way and growing, all of us have some kind of regrets about things we did or didn’t do when we were younger.

But you can’t let it get you down too much, I guess…

What are some lessons you think you learned too late in life?

Here’s how people responded on AskReddit.

1. Good point.

“To become more comfortable being uncomfortable.

Go toward your fears, don’t run from them, within reason.”

2.  You gotta do it!

“Look after your knees and your teeth.”

3. Truth.

“Sometimes you can do everything right and still fail.

And that is not a weakness; that is life.”

4. Keep it separate.

“Don’t bring things home from work.

I had a bad day at work. Came home and got in an argument with my gf about something…and stopped halfway.

Yes, she really had done something, but the only reason I got so angry about it was because…I had already been angry, from work. Otherwise i might have just let it go.

From then on I learned to separate work from home. I was 28. I felt like this was a lesson I should have learned earlier.”

5. Confront it.

“If you made mistakes, always confront them and the consequences right away.

Waiting doesn’t make it better, it makes it worse.”

6. I like this.

“Happiness is enjoying the things you have, not the things to come.”

7. No one is paying attention.

“People aren’t thinking about you even a fraction of the amount you think they’re thinking about you.

You’re noise in a lifetime of experiences and a busy mind. This is a good thing.

It means you can just get what you need from people and not over think it, safe in the knowledge that they’ll forget you almost immediately.”

8. Use it wisely.

“That the most valuable commodity is time.

Time to play with your kids, time to take that trip you always wanted, time to spend with the people you love.

It’s the only resource we can’t get more of yet we throw it away with excuses and never do anything to change it.

Write that book, go back to school, tell that girl you love her beacuse if you don’t all you’ll have is regrets.”

9. Take care of Number One.

“Be patient and wait. It’s better to be alone than with someone that doesn’t respect you.

No matter how much or good your are to someone, some of them will screw you over.

Always look after yourself first.

Start early with physical hobby and keep fit, you have one body and there is no replay.

If you love someone but they don’t love you.. move on. It will hurt like hell but in the long run, you’ll be happier.

Giving money doesn’t equate to affection, the gratitude will be short lived and you’ll only be an ATM to them in the near future.”

10. Not worth the time.

“Not everyone and every situation is worth your time or energy.

As someone that’s a bit of a “fixer” I often end up wasting my time trying to help people that didn’t deserve it or solve problems that nobody really cares about. It’s hard to know when to just walk away.

The other thing is protect your time it’s more valuable than your money. You can always go make more money you cannot go make more time. Time once lost cannot be regained.”

11. You can get help.

“That there IS hope for you to fix your mental health problems.

I left things for 10 years not knowing there was decent help to be had.

Although to be fair, things have progressed a lot since then”

12. Avoid them.

“Just because you’re blood related to someone, doesn’t mean that you owe them anything.

Toxic people are toxic people and you are not required to give them a single ounce of your attention if they are hurting you.”

13. Yes!

“Never put your education/ job / plans on hold for a boyfriend / girlfriend especially while in college.

Especially when you’re 19…”

What are the lessons you think you learned too late in life?

Talk to us in the comments.

Thanks a lot!

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What Has 2020 Taught You? Here’s What People Said.

This sure has been some year, am I right?

I for one, have learned a little bit more about what’s really important in life: health, family, and good friends. After that, all the other stuff really isn’t that important.

What has 2020 taught you?

Here’s what folks on AskReddit had to say.

1. Working from home.

“I’ve been open for a long time about how working from home for jobs that can be done remotely should be the norm.

Why would you commute if it’s avoidable? The pandemic has forced lots of employers’ hands and it turns out, many of us can work effectively from home!”

2. I like this one.

“Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Sadly, I feel like this is the most relevant this quote has ever been. People conflating science and societal care with tyranny and violation of rights.”

3. Harsh times.

“Nothing can prepare you for the harshness of our society.

If you want to be successful and live you have to take your life into your own hands and make things happen.”

4. Some people don’t change.

“It taught me the red flags of a mentally abusive relationship and that you will never be able to change that person.”

5. Congrats!

“It taught me that my SO is definitely the person I’m going to spend the rest of my life with.

Nothing like a global pandemic and shelter in place order to rapidly progress a new relationship, eh?”

6. Pay attention.

“Authoritarianism is never that far away in any place.

People are too willing to forgo critical thinking and will readily buy the bullsh*t.”

7. Downsizing.

“That I don’t need to shop.

My son and I don’t need to go out every weekend and buy new things. We are perfectly capable with what we have. In fact we’ve pared down what we had.

Money in the bank. Soon as this passes over (if…) we’re going to Disney!”

8. Learn to think!

“That huge swaths of our society lack even the most basic critical thinking skills.

Sorry, but if you outright deny facts and empirical evidence to believe in something comfortable to you, you aren’t some “woke up” great thinker above all the “sheep”.

You’re a moron and a huge drain on the rest of us.”

9. Great!

“I love being a dad.

Being a stay at home dad is awesome. The roles were always reversed until now and I felt like I was missing so much of my kids lives providing for them. Going from bread winner to Mr mom obviously took some adjustments but I feel like I know my boys better than ever.

Helping them doing their online kindergarten classes and teaching my youngest to walk along with another long list of memories has changed my view on fatherhood and taught me so much.”

10. Good points.

“Even if you think you are in control of the things in your life, you really aren’t.

Sometimes the things you want and work hard for aren’t what you thought they would be.

The most important things in life are the intangible ones (good relationships, mental well-being)

We could all stand to be a little nicer to each other

It’s okay to not be okay.”

11. Yup.

“That the more uneducated people are, the more assertive and vocal they are regarding something they don’t have any clue about!”

12. Not so fast.

“I’ve learnt that I’m ready for retirement.

The lifestyle of doing nothing all day and getting paid for the privilege suits me well.

It’s a shame I have 31 more years until I actually can retire though.”

13. Baby steps.

“That a little work on something every day makes a huge difference over a couple of months.”

14. A nice story.

“That despite all those things my parents lead me to believe, I can be successful.

I bought my first house this year, reconnected with a good friend and am starting a business with her. It’s been rough having zero breaks from my kids and they’re missing out on socializing and preschool, but we have grown closer and they’re learning a new resilience that I never learned.

I’m proud of them and myself.”

Now we’d like to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us what you learned in 2020.

Please and thank you!

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People Talk About Lessons They Learned Too Late in Life

If you live completely in the past, you’re not focusing on the present OR the future, and that’s never good.

BUT, it is hard not to look back on mistakes you’ve made and things you should have differently, right?

What lesson did you learn too late in life?

Let’s see what AskReddit users had to say.

1. Apply for it anyway!

“Requirements in a job ad are really more like a wishlist.

Your persona and attitude matters a whole lot more, especially after you get the job. It’s okay to “bother” the people hiring with imperfect applications.

You can apply again to the same company, they likely won’t remember your last application.”

2. Get it done!

“Not as profound as others, but adopt a 2minute rule. If it can be done in 2 mins or less do it now. Dont procrastinate.

It’s simple. It sounds stupid. It’s helped me change a lot of bad habits and seriously cut back on my procrastination.”

3. Don’t even bother.

“Don’t take criticism from someone you wouldn’t take advice from.

Wasted a lot of good years on sh*t people.”

4. Can’t please everyone.

“Being good enough is good enough.

Spent too much energy striving to please everyone else and allowed my mental state to crumble in the process.”

5. Make it work for you.

“All jobs suck.

It’s best to think about what will help you get the lifestyle you want (whether that’s $ or just working as little as possible) than trying to “be” something impressive sounding or going for what you think will be a “dream” job.

Jobs don’t give people purpose. It’s the things that happen in their personal lives that do.”

6. A little patience.

“Have patience with the ones you love the most and always communicate effectively in marriage.

Sometimes you need to be a little more patient than force conversations.”

7. You can walk away.

“Quitting doesn’t always mean you gave up, sometimes you have to know when to walk away from something that isn’t working.”

8. Wait or don’t do them at all.

“Doing drugs at too young of an age can really mess someone up mentally.

I’m still here, but did shrooms when I was 14 and have suffered from it. Also had some friends legitimately lose their minds. You don’t need to rush into doing drugs.

They will always be there if you want when you’re older.”

9. No!

“That it’s okay to say “No” if you’re not comfortable or you just don’t feel like doing something.

It’s okay to put yourself first.

F*ck politeness.”

10. This might be true…

“I’ve never met anyone who is both really into politics AND happy.

Politics is a highway to hatred that increases our ignorance as we become more convinced of our beliefs.”

11. Not gonna change.

“That basically, people don’t change. Some people are better at modifying their behavior to improve themselves.

But as a general, basic rule, people don’t change.

However your spouse is when you marry them, basically, that’s what you are going to get.”

12. It’s all up to you.

“Activate your own success story, begin early and fight for it.

You may become a moving target, but you’ll get to move your target when and where you choose.

Avoid leaving a legacy of contributing to your boss’ wealth and early retirement if possible.”

13. No longer a priority.

“I think a hard one for me was getting to know that you’re going to hit a point when you are no longer a priority for others. And that’s when you need to prioritize you for yourself.

When you’re younger, your parents want to check in on you. Your friends want to play with you. You have school, family you live with, everyone making sure you are growing up okay. At a certain point, you have to be responsible for a lot of that and passing that along to the next generations. As time goes on, your friends have their own families.

Your job lays on more responsibilities. Your family moves on to their lives, their next lives. And you cease to be the priority. Everyone has their own life to deal with. No one checks in on you. And you have to be that for yourself.

You have to actively maintain your body, your mind, your social circles. And you have to make a lot of active choices to keep yourself well. And you have to do so with the regular stressors of life. Make time to talk to friends. Make your health a priority. Make time to spend with the family.

And develop those deeper relationships. Because after a while, it’s on you.”

14. Make it count.

“Stop running away from what you actually want to do. It doesn’t matter how illogical or stupid it is, if you love it you gotta do it.

Don’t lie to yourself by saying I’ll do something more practical and do what I like on the side. Is it really more logical to spend the majority of your time in this life by giving it away to a 9-5 that you don’t like for all your prime years?

What, so you can work to 65 and feel uninspired in retirement regretting that you didn’t do what you really wanted? Most of us know what really want to do, we are just afraid of owning it because we are afraid we might fail. The only failure is not seeing who you are.

You only live once.

Make it count.”

15. No one will remember.

“That you are always the most prominent person in your memories.

That embarrassing thing you did in high school? No one remembers, they only remember their own That thing you did that you regret? If you learn and move on, you’ll be the last person to forget it too

Don’t worry about how others remember you from your past, and don’t get caught up on it. Either they’ve forgotten, or you’ve grown past the person they remember.”

Now we want to get your thoughts on this.

In the comments, tell us what you think you learned too late in life.

We look forward to hearing from you.

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People Share Life Lessons They Wished They Had Learned Sooner

You live and you learn…

That’s how life goes, and sometimes it’s good and other times it’s bad.

It’s important that we all learn from our mistakes, but it can also be frustrating and downright painful to think about how we could have done differently or the lessons we wish we’d learned earlier in our days.

What lessons did you learn too late in life?

AskReddit users discussed this interesting question.

1. Good tip.

“Use your turn signals, but do not trust anyone else using their turn signals.

Lesson I still remember from driver’s ed 30 years ago: there’s only one thing you know for certain when you see a car with its turn signal on. They have their turn signal on. That’s it.

You have no way of knowing if they plan on turning, if they change their mind at the last second, if they just forgot to turn it off.”

2. Don’t start.

“Smoking isn’t worth it.

Don’t even get curious. Tobacco isn’t like weed, it’s quickly addictive.

The stupid marijuana PSA’s with ‘one puff can ruin your life’ should be used for cigarettes.”

3. Not your problem.

“Some people just won’t admit they’re wrong.

Don’t waste time trying to get them to accept it.

Wasted too much of mine own time trying to correct people.”

4. Take care of those teeth!

“The importance of dental health.

I didn’t take care of my teeth in my youth and now that I’m older I very much regret it.”

5. This applies to all areas of life.

“If you wait ’til you’re ready, you’ll be waiting forever.”

6. Doesn’t always work out that way.

“Working your hardest and going above and beyond at your job doesn’t guarantee you’ll get any farther there.

It WILL guarantee an unrealistic workload and pace that you can’t maintain for the long term with your employer though. No better way to burn yourself out into total misery!!! The best place to be with work is just doing your job and clocking the f*ck out. You’re far more likely to advance at a career by being well liked.

Do yourself a huge favor and just strive for middle; take an opportunity to shine every once in a while, and maintain your mental health so you aren’t a d*ck to your coworkers. I’m 33 and it’s taken me this long to truly and fully understand this concept.

Average is not always a bad thing, especially in corporate America.”

7. THIS.

“BOUNDARIES are healthy and important.

You never really know someone until you tell them no. Its okay to drop people who don’t respect your boundaries.

And if someone respects your boundaries until they’re angry, they don’t respect your boundaries.”

8. Focus on a few.

“You don’t need a million friends.

Maybe less than 10, maybe 5, good friends.

Put a LOT of effort into those relationships instead of spreading yourself too thin.”

9. Walk away.

“It is okay to walk away from toxic family.

I am not the monster they paint me as. I can’t fix or save them.

I can only protect my kids.”

10. Nothing wrong with that.

“It’s okay to be selfish and take care of yourself over others.

One day you may look and see there’s nothing that you feel proud or accomplished by because you were living your life trying to please others vs doing what you want for yourself.”

11. Words of wisdom.

“Don’t kill yourself working at a job that would replace you without a second thought.”

12. Think about this one.

“If your irreplaceable, you’re unpromotable.

Missed several promotions early in my careers because I was “Too valuable” in the position I was in.

If you want a promotion, work hard enough to get noticed, but not so hard that they’re dependent on you.”

13. You just gotta do it.

“There’s never a good time to change things. You just have to choose when you’re gonna make the change and put the time, effort, and discipline in to make it happen.

Example for me is quitting smoking. For years I told myself that I would quit smoking when things settled down and over a weekend where I’ll be home and stress free. But then I would always start back because some stressful event happened and I “needed it” to help cope. The fact is, sh*t’s always gonna happen but the difference is I need to change HOW I react to it.

But that method is helping me in other areas. I used to game heavily and procrastinate on my adulting duties. Often I would neglect them as I would get so into a session I would lose track of time and be tired. I still do it from time to time as I’m working on changing my approach I.e. I will dust and vacuum everything BEFORE I get on. But it’s absolutely no where near as bad as I used to be.

You know what you need to change. Just start on one thing. Mine was quitting smoking. Since then I’ve focused on my health by walking more and exercising as well as using my newfound time gained from each 5 minute smoke break I had to invest into myself.”

How about you?

Do you think there are any lessons that you learned about too late in life?

If so, please talk to us in the comments!

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Life Lessons That People Wish They’d Learned at a Younger Age

Sometimes it can be hard not to lament all of the years you spent not doing or believing or just understanding a fundamental truth that changed the way you look at the world.

Regrets are normal, but if you’re still young, take note of these 14 life lessons that would be much better off if they were learned at a younger age.

14. Just say it. What’s the worst that could happen?

Saying “I love you” or wanting to reach out to your family, friends, and loved ones, but crippling anxiety stops you.

You never know when it may be too late to say these things, so be in the moment, and live/love in the present authentically.

13. Words do, in fact, hurt.

Yes some words can never be taken back. I learned the hard way. This is why it’s better to train yourself to think carefully before saying something. I didn’t do that because I wanted everything to come naturally but I realized that’s just an excuse I used to avoid taking responsibility of things I said.

Assuming that the other person appreciates honesty and is open minded, because some people won’t understand regardless of what you say. It’s best to avoid speaking with these people if possible, unless you have to. Things can become toxic pretty easily. Regardless, thinking carefully, analysing the situation, and choosing your words carefully is an important life skill to have and will definitely help you in the future. It can be pretty tiring to always have to think before you say something but it’s all a matter of practice. The more you do it, the more natural it becomes. Best tip is to wait 10 seconds before speaking. And do not let anger speak for you. Simple misunderstandings, and emotions like anger ruin relationships. Try to cool off before making rash decisions. Putting effort is what’s important, results are bonuses.

Small misunderstandings can ruin closest relationships. I am not forbidding you guys to be what you are or always be the one to compromise. What I meant to say is that don’t give in to anger and pride and let it make rash decisions for you. I have hurt my loved ones more than once, only to regret it later. I know how confusing and hard it can become. Just do your best to maintain inner peace. If the other person is being unreasonable, it’s totally out of your hands. What matters is you did your part and you put in the effort because you value the relationship more than winning an argument. And sometimes you have to let go and forgive, even if you were right. Because no one lives forever, and life is too short to be having fights. You don’t have to agree with me, just having different perspectives can be beneficial.

12. Live however makes you happy.

Don’t worry if you aren’t living an exciting or extravagant life.

It’s okay to live simply and quietly. It doesn’t mean that you’re wasting your life.

11. Communication is important.

Took me years to learn to suck it up, admit I was wrong, and apologize. Feels so natural to me now to apologize to my husband when I’m being an asshole. I don’t know what the appeal was to just dig my heels in and escalate but it’s really nice now. Fights last all of five minutes if we even bother getting to that point.

I apologized to my sister once and she got all weirded out. Guess I know where it came from lol. Still don’t do it on the internet. Baby steps.

10. Be kind to yourself.

Don’t ever think it’s ok to “talk” to yourself in a manner you wouldn’t let another human being talk to you.

The biggest abuser I ever had in my life, was my constant companion: the thoughts in my head.

We often take care to choose our words when correcting a child or friend… but if anyone had talked to me, the way I talked to me for 30 straight fucking years, I would have murdered them… and probably got away with it too.

Be nice to yourself, you’re the only you, you have.

9. Life is full of consequences.

Mistakes have consequences. Sometimes they are huge consequences, such as a mistake while driving could kill yourself or someone else. Sometimes they’re little consequences. But always learn from your mistakes and that you should always be learning and improving yourself.

8. Far too few adults understand these things.

Interest rates, credit cards, credit score, money saving techniques, 401K.

In other words anything that keeps you from being trapped by poor money management.

7. Learn something new every day.

That it’s never too late to learn.

6. All cats are traps.

A cat on his back inviting a chesty rub is a trap.

5. Know your own worth.

The value of walking away from someone toxic in your life, even if it is your parents and family.

If you are thinking of it and are scared and have somewhere where you can land in a safe place, then do it.

It hurts like hell for a long while, but it gets better and one day you realize how peaceful your life is and you find you only miss the family you wish you had had.

4. You must know your limits – even if they’re 0.

How slippery a slope addiction is.

How quickly trying something at a party turns into being hooked.

3. People really are mostly good.

That most people will just help you, how and if they can, if you are honest with them

It seems like so many people feel the need to conceal what they actually want from you, and try to get it by presenting a half truth or what they think you want to hear, instead of just being straight forward

2. Simple but so very true.

Learning when to say no.

Learning how to apologize when it’s your fault, and how to not apologize when it’s not your fault.

1. No one ever wants to consider this until it’s too late.

That they are terrible at parenting.

I for sure wish that 20-year-old me had understood these things.

What would you add to the list? Tell us in the comments!

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What Did You Learn Too Late in Life? Here’s What People Said.

Even when people say “I have no regrets”, I have a feeling that they at least have a few…I know I do.

But you can’t beat yourself up about that kind of stuff or you’ll never get out of that “woe is me” thinking that plagues a lot of people. We all go through that from time to time but you have to always keep moving forward and looking to improve.

The question posed to people was “What did you learn too late in life?”

Here are some interesting, personal stories from folks on AskReddit.

1. Helicopter parenting.

“Eventually helicopter parents will need to be cut off if you want to live your life.

This shit never ends. Not at 20, or 25, or 30.”

2. Always the victim.

“Stay away from people who always see themselves as the victim in situations.

Especially when they are family and you feel obligated to deal with their drama for the sake of family.”

3. A tough one to learn.

“Your parents aren’t right all the time.

I feel like if kids realized this earlier in life, maybe they wouldn’t hold their parents to unrealistically high standards.”

4. Be good to yourself.

“That my own happiness is the thing I need to focus on.

Doing stuff alone is OK, and actually gratifying.”

5. Very true.

“That being alone is better than being with the wrong person.

Red flags  should not be ignored and you can’t change a person by loving them.”

6. Workin’ hard.

“Hard work doesn’t sell itself.

And hard work doesn’t necessarily mean success or reward.

Some of the hardest workers in the world are broke and joyless.”

7. Brush and floss!

“To take care of my teeth.

It’s costly and headache inducing right now.”

8. Take care of your body.

“I’m in my early 30’s and I realized a few years ago that this is the only body I’ll get so I need to take care of it.

I’ve always been overweight and I’ve lost 76 lbs in the last year and a half. I’ve also been taking better care of my teeth and my skin and I’ve been much happier since I started taking better care of myself.

Only 10 more pounds to go before my BMI is under 25!”

9. Do it yourself.

“Nothing will change on its own, you have to change it yourself and no one coming to help you unless you help yourself before.”

10. Loneliness.

“Being lonely for any reason – not enough friends, not enough good friends, moving to a new situation and leaving old friends behind – can lead you to make some pretty foolish social decisions.

Even people who are normally quite confident and good at picking up on social cues will find themselves acting oversensitive, desperate, and/or falling into some pretty ill-advised infatuations.”

11. Reading is LIFE!

“It’s embarrassing for me, but reading.

But reading naturally, not forcing myself to do it. I’m 24, and 3 years ago I finished my first chapter book. I was so happy.

I have since thought myself how to read complex literature. But yeah, definitely how to read well.”

12. Don’t worry about it too much.

“It’s OK not to have a romantic relationship in high school or even college.

I started wigging-out about it when I was like 13, I can’t believe how much energy and stress I expended on a situation that was totally fine and normal.

I was definitely not ready to have a relationship in high school or probably even college, I just wasn’t mature enough or in the right place.

I completely over-romanticized (pardon the pun) the whole concept. It solves a lot of problems, but it brings a whole host of new ones.

I also didn’t realize how much my friends and others I saw were exaggerating or even outright lying about how great it was to be with someone, all the sex they were having, and how perfect and happy they were.

As it turns out, making people believe you are a happy couple is way easier than being one.

My single days were the times when I grew the most and followed my dreams the most effectively. Being in love and partnered is great, but it’s a trade-off.”

13. It feels good!

“Getting things done feels much better than doing nothing.

We all need to relax, but being lazy gets you nowhere. Pick up a creative hobby and make something; exercise, volunteer. Spend the majority of your time being active, and then rest when you need to. The world is much more interesting than your couch.

Took me a very long time to realize this.”

14. Exercise is important!

“It’s easier to stay in shape than to get back in shape.

Learning this the hard way at 22 after a few years of not taking care of myself.”

Now we’d like to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us about the lessons you think you learned too late in life.

Please and thank you!

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People Open up About What They Learned Too Late in Life

I think it’s never too late to learn anything, but there is definitely a feeling of guilt and even stupidity when you realize you should have known something for years.

But hey, that’s life!

And you can’t dwell on those things for too long or you’re bound to get really depressed. Know what I’m saying?

Let’s see what people on AskReddit had to say about the things they learned too late in life.

1. No big deal.

“It’s ok to be single at any point in your life.

There’s more pressure as you get older to find someone, and loneliness is definitely powerful and can be crushing at times, but you should definitely be happy with yourself, and it sucks people and society can make you feel like you are doing something wrong just because you are single.”

2. It works!

“That if you take care of yourself, work on your social skills and just learn from mistakes you will be attractive to the majority of women, especially after 25.”

3. You gotta start somewhere.

“Wouldn’t exactly say too late, but now I’m 32 I’m actually learning how to eat properly and manage to stop binge eating as much.

I’m still fat but slowly losing weight.”

4. One small mistake…

“One small mistake can lead to a life time of regrets and misery.

I told myself to pull over when I was driving late at night but ignored it and I crashed head on in the freeway.

I am now crippled and almost cost my family the entire wealth because of the lawsuit (which the guy dropped thank God) and we were approved for medical (thank God for that too).”

5. Love yourself.

“That self esteem is what brings you inner peace and happiness.

Nothing external will if you don’t have inherent self worth and love yourself.”

6. Take care of your body.

“If you wonder why you don’t feel great and full of energy and happiness like when you where a kid, it’s not that you’re just older. It’s because you’re not sober, not eating well, and not exercising. I just turned 44 on Thursday and feel like I’m 21.

Two years ago I felt like I was 75. I got dead sober, and forced myself to start jogging every evening. At first I could barely run down the block and back. Now I can run for miles and not even be tired, just sweaty. Once I started running my body started craving good food and not junk.

I got serious about my diet and now can fit back in same jeans I wore in college.

It’s worth it man, and it’s not even hard.”

7. Do it today!

“That time goes by fast.

If you want to really do something, don’t wait till tomorrow.”

8. Ask for help if you need it.

“It doesn’t make you weak to ask for help. In my case this relates to my clinical depression. For a long time I thought that depression was just feeling suicidal.

Depression can be a lot of things for lots of different people. In my case I just felt lethargic and completely unmotivated. After seeking help from doctors and attending therapy and getting medication I feel much better now.

If you feel like you need help, ask for it. On average I think most people are kinder than you think if you take the time to explain your situation.”

9. Be smart with your money.

“Budgeting and Saving.

Treating your monthly salary as your target spend each month is terrifying, and I’m now tethered by debt and only just now coming out of it (well…. Making progress).

If I could do one thing differently, it’s just plan my money. Even something small like 1 or 2 less nights out a month might have made all the difference in later life now.”

10. Words of wisdom.

“Here’s the list ya’ll:

Nothing good happens after midnight, just go to bed

Always double down on an 11 in Blackjack

Get the right tools for the job

Always have a backup plan

A closed mouth gathers no foot.”

11. Life is hard.

“Hardship and being an adult.

I was sheltered from anything remotely hard and got everything handed to me, but i was not spoiled. I didn’t get everything i wanted, that i had to work for, but everything i needed was provided.

example: taxes, paying bills, writing / reading / signing contracts, how to cook, and similar things.

I also didn’t learn how the world worked, I’m past 30, and its not long ago that I realised that companies exist to make money, and if you cant increase the revenue for the company, you wont get a job.

So, I’m not prepared for adult life, and I’ve been an adult for way longer than I was mentally prepared for.”

12. Investing is good.

“Invest in what you use.

That is, buy shares in companies that provide services you use. Assuming you use them because they are good, so will other people, and that will help with their success.

I was a Netflix customer when they were doing DVD by mail. I had a Gmail account by invitation. I did all my Christmas shopping online at Amazon in 2001. I bought pet food at pets.com (ok, not a perfect system). I’ve been a Costco member for 20 years.

My portfolio would be a lot richer if I invested in businesses I use.”

13. Don’t even worry about it.

“Don’t waste ANY time worrying about what people think of you.

Their perception of you is always a reflection of themselves.”

14. Be your own best friend.

“You should do what’s the best decision for yourself, not for everyone else.

You are your best friend and the only one who will always and forever on your side.”

15. Take responsibility.

“I spent lots of time being angry and upset that I didn’t have a silver spoon until I realized how easy life gets when you take responsibility for your own damn self. It wasn’t THAT late, but late enough.

Once I got it together and figured out that I could do whatever I set my mind to doing, within reason, it’s gotten so much better.

Always remember, life owes you nothing, it actually depends on you. You owe everything to your future life. You cannot control destiny or the past but you can prepare for that which you cannot control.

Get busy.”

What do you think?

Do you have any regrets about learning things too late in life?

If so, tell us about it in the comments.

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When Your Kids’ Friends Are Allowed to Play Again, but He or She Still Can’t

Life isn’t fair. It’s a hard lesson that everyone learns at some point, usually at an age younger than we’d really like to force it on our sweet, innocent littles.

That seems to be truer than ever these days with coronavirus dampening spirits and social lives all over the globe. What makes it even harder is that, especially in the States, no two people are assessing risk and acting accordingly in the exact same way.

Which means that saying things like “I don’t care what so-and-so is doing, I’m not so-and-sos mom!” are making a comeback in a big, unpleasant way.

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What are you saying to your kids if you and your family are taking a more cautious approach to breaking quarantine, while their friends are getting together and enjoying their summers? How are you talking to them about why, and are they understanding?

There’s a good chance you’re hearing big sighs, and that they’re the “only one” stuck at home.

You know this isn’t true. You know there are other parents following the strict safety regulations just like there will be other kids who aren’t allowed to date until a certain age, can’t ride in a car with a new driver, can’t go to that party where no parents will be home…but that doesn’t make it any easier.

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It’s hard, too, because we the parents also want to go and see our friends. We want to leave you kids home with sitters and have dinner out, we want to go to the movies. We want to get YOU out of the house, because it makes all of us happier.

Here’s the thing, though – we have to remember it’s a good lesson to learn. We all have to make the best decisions for ourselves and our families, even when it’s hard. We have to learn how to say no to things that make us uncomfortable, even if the cool kids are going.

If they don’t like you because of it, they were never really your friends to begin with, right?

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The best you can do is explain the reasons for your decisions, give them relevant reading material that’s age appropriate, and promise that things will get better.

They can understand, even if they don’t like it. They can follow the rules even if they don’t want to.

It’s just one of many steps to becoming an adult, and in the end, teaching them how to do that is your most important job.

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Life Lessons That These 15 People Definitely Learned the Hard Way

There are some things you can grasp fully by being told, and others that don’t really hit home until you experience them for yourself. And sometimes, those lessons can really hurt.

But that’s how you learn, right? At least that’s how these folks did.

#15. Selfish idiots.

“Your friends don’t always make the best roommates. Sometimes the added costs of living alone are still cheaper than living with selfish idiots.”

#14. Don’t get cocky.

“Don’t get cocky if you win at life, because if you get too comfortable, it can get taken away in a matter of seconds

(Lost 3 people in my family in the same week, grades dropped immensly, dropped out of school, lost a good chunk of the friends I made that year).”

#13. Your whole life.

“If you don’t stick up for yourself you’ll get walked on your whole life…”

#12. The only minority group.

“Being disabled is the only minority group you can join at any time in your life.”

11. On effort and intelligence.

“There comes a point where effort passes intelligence. For some the point is early on in life. Others it may take a while for it to hit them.

Those gifted teenagers that don’t have to try very hard get used to not trying very hard. While others make a habit of studying and getting through. You will find that the less advanced kids outperform the more advanced ones due to lack of effort and apathy.”

#10. Nothing at all you can do.

“Even if a relationship feels 100% perfect and right to you, it may not feel that way to your partner. Along the same lines, some relationships fail not because you did something wrong, but simply because she/he wanted something else. In those cases there’s nothing at all you can do but let them go.”

#9. Wash properly.

“To wash my hands properly after cutting up chillies.”

#8. Just like the cartoons.

“When you step on the head of a rake that is facing up, it’s just like in the cartoons.”

#7. Toxic.

“There are some people out there who are toxic, and its’ OK to cut them out of your life.”

#6. It adds up.

“Don’t spend money on useless bullshit. It adds up.”

#5. No matter how hard.

“No matter how hard you work toward something, it still might not happen.”

#4. They are red for a reason.

“Do not ignore Red Flags in a person you are dating. They are there, and they are red for a reason.”

#3. Money is nice, but…

“Don’t take a job that you hate just because it pays well. Money is nice but hating your life is not worth any amount.”

#2. A car without gas.

“What a car without gas sounds like. It doesn’t always do nothing at all. Sometimes it almost starts, sputters and then dies. Got it towed before giving it gas and giving that a try.”

#1. Don’t be lazy.

“Don’t be lazy with birth control

edit: I should clarify that it wasn’t because i was lazy with taking birth control, it’s that i came from an ultra conservative background and birth control was nearly impossible to access it since I wasn’t allowed to drive and having friends i could trust to keep it a secret if I asked them for a ride to the sex health clinic 30 mins away. I also had no job, so It was even hard to purchase it.”

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