4. Don’t care so much.

“I stopped caring so much.

For as long as I remember I’ve felt a burden of responsibility to my parents, my brother, to myself. Throughout my whole life my parents have relied on me to be the voice of reason, to be the one who has sound mind, to be the one good with finances, to give them advice.

It’s not healthy for a kid to be put under that kind of pressure, and it just built and built until they filed for bankruptcy in 2017, and when I burned out at work last year.

I went to therapy for a bit (for the 3rd time lol) after I burned out and realized that I’m putting up such a high bar of responsibility for myself and it makes, and made, my life ridiculously miserable.

I’m still working and going to school, but having a more relaxed attitude and almost forcing myself to procrastinate on my schoolwork has made my life so much more enjoyable.”

6. The best!

“Going from working a 9-5 office job to 100% remote. I wish I’d done this years ago.

For years I was convinced I chose the wrong career, and I was getting extreme anxiety, had to pull the car over a couple times going to work because of panic attacks. Lockdown happens a year ago and all my stress disappeared and I realized I love my career, I just HATE office living and commuting.

My biggest fear is the pandemic ending and being forced back into that terrible office culture.”

7. Drop those pounds.

“Losing a significant amount of weight.

My overall health is so much better. I sleep like the dead every night, when before I suffered badly from insomnia. My blood pressure has come down to normal levels. I’m no longer pre-diabetic. I have cut back on the amount of medication I have to take, which obviously means I have money to spend that I didn’t before.

I love exercising, even when I was morbidly obese, I enjoyed walking. Now I enjoy walking and I can walk so much further and faster than I could before. Another thing is the major change in my mental health.

I was in a very dark space, and I realized the other day how much more positive my outlook in life has become.”

11. You’re good to go.

“Pretty specific but… I had my bladder removed!

I had been dealing with interstitial cystitis for over 20 years that was progressively getting worse. It got to the point that my bladder only held 100ml and then I’d be in agony. I was bedridden from the pain most of the time and had to use a walking stick in order to move around.

I had my bladder removed, they made a new one out of my bowel, so it sits inside. They made a channel from the (neo) bladder to my belly button called a mitrofanoff, which I now catheterize through to pee. So essentially, I can now pee standing up too!

I’m now mobile, no pain, no walking stick and don’t have to pee every 10-20 minutes. Being able to sleep through the night for the first time in my life (mid 30s now) has been amazing. I can’t wait for the pandemic to end so I can start doing all of the things I couldn’t do before!”

12. Make it count.

“Knowing and reminding myself what I actually want in life.

And continuing to ask myself why and “is that it” to make sure I am living life for something that really matters.”

Now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us what changes made your life better.

Please and thank you!

I think one of the best songs about life is “Changes” by the legendary Black Sabbath.

Some changes are good and some are bad, but it’s up to us to make positive changes in our lives when possible…because we only get one shot at this thing, folks.

When did your life change for the better?

Let’s see how people on AskReddit answered that question.

1. Done with it.

“Quitting drinking was the best decision I’ve ever made in my life. If anyone out there is reading this and is thinking about quitting, do it.

It may take a few tries, but it’s absolutely worth the effort and it’s everything you hoped it can be.”

2. I’ll do it alone.

“Dropping my family was the best thing ever.

When your own family criticizes everything you do and belittles you and abuses you, it’s better to stand alone against the world!”

3. No more of that.

“My ex was so toxic I may be single forever.

He stole my mental and physical health, put me in debt, cost me my career and ruptured my family.

Being away from him is peaceful and comfortable.”

4. Big improvement.

“Finally getting proper medication for my ADHD at 22 years old.

Literally has improved every aspect of my life, no more sleepless nights, no more decision paralysis and no more procrastination!”

5. Leaving the church.

“I left the Morman church and dumped my horrific 19-year marriage at the same time. Life IMMEDIATELY got better!!

As a member you are constantly told that those who leave the church are resigned to live a life of loneliness, sadness, and misery. Nothing can be further from the truth!!

Just another lie the church belches out to make members fearful of leaving. I have never met ANYONE who has left the church and regretted it. Not one!! I am relieved to be a part of that group.”

6. Goals!

“Finally telling my best friend that I was in love with them.

We’ve been dating for two years now and every moment is like living in a dream. They’re sitting next to me right now cluelessly singing out loud with headphones in and I’m OBSESSED.

Also, Covid has allowed me to drive around the country while working remotely and actually do a lot of the hikes that have always been on my bucket list. It really changed my life by reaffirming my long term goals (stay healthy, get outdoors when I can).”

7. Best friend.

“I got a cat. Every morning I wake up, see her, and instantly become happier.

And every night she comes onto the bed and snuggles between my legs, so I end each day feeling loved. Pets are amazing blessings.”

8. Gone for good.

“My GF of seven years left me.

She was a lying, cheating, self-absorbed psychopath who literally told me she doesn’t understand other people’s emotions and just expected the passage of time with no genuine remorse or anything to heal all wounds.

I would always say that if she couldn’t tell the truth and be faithful then she needed to f*ck off. And she would stay so I kept trying to make it work like a good little idiot until she f*cked up again.

Well eventually she moved out without warning while I was out of town for work. At the time I was so p*ssed at her but now not only am I glad she finally f*cked off, but if she came back begging and pleading and promising to make everything perfect I’d still slam the door in her face.

Since she’s been gone I’ve had so much less stress and have been able to accomplish so much more not having to accommodating her and I’ve even lost weight even though I dont work out or eat any differently than I did when we were together. I do feel lonely since we were together for seven years and my relationship before her was for five.”

9. A new addition.

“Had a kid.

My father died when I was a baby and my mother never remarried. I’m happy to give my kid a two parent home and full attention.

So weird that I can think of it as a redo on my life but my son is a completely different person than me. All I know is that I have to be there for him every day and be consistent.”

10. LOVE.

“Meeting my now wife. I didn’t truly know it at the time. But within a few weeks I knew we were going to be together forever.

In the subtlest most constructive ways she pushes me to accomplish my dreams. 10 years and 2 kids later I love her even more than the day I met her.”

11. Career change.

“I went from working construction and everybody complaining about me to working as a social worker and people being grateful for what I do.

The relationship I have with my coworkers has drastically changed and my mental health skyrocketed ever since.”

12. Cut out the bad people.

“It would sound crazy, but when a person with whom I had a deep emotional connection got away of my life; I realized how messed up it was.

I was sad at first, but with time I understood why she didn’t want to know anything about me (my lack of effort to make my life better, toxic people around me, etc.).

Since there, I worked in my emotional intelligence, cut off the contact with people that made more harm than good, finished University and a lot of other things which makes me happy about my person.”

13. So long, Mom.

“My abusive mom left to live with her boyfriend.

My world opened up. I can exist in the house without being on edge. I can study without being interrupted by drunken rages and ramblings. No more gaslighting or arguments or finding wine hidden in chairs.

All that tension is gone.”

When do you think your life changed for the better?

And what made it change?

Share your stories with us in the comments. Thanks!

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