People Shared Examples of “It’s Cheaper to Be Rich Than Poor”

I know that it sounds counterintuitive, but it really is cheaper to be rich than to be poor in many ways.

Those little things add up and minor inconveniences that wealthier people don’t have to deal with do as well.

Being poor is a grind…

What are some examples of “it’s cheaper to be rich than poor”?

Here’s what folks said on AskReddit.

1. Wear and tear.

“Remote work.

I’m practically saving the equivalent in a minimum wage job from reduced wear and tear / gas / servicing / insurance.

And that’s just the quantitative dollars.”

2. Low balance.

“Ran out of money in your checking account?

Well now you have to pay a $50 fine for not having any money.”

3. Think about it.

“Not being able to pay for medical appointments, which lead to accumulating health issues overtime, which is extremely expensive.”

4. Lasts a while.

“Furniture.

More expensive furniture is often made better and lasts longer so you don’t have to keep buying new.

Same with clothes.”

5. Not an option.

“Being unable to take a day off work is not an option when living paycheck to paycheck.

I respect the f*ck out of the hustlers out there, but also keep in mind that free time and mental health are important to your overall well-being”

6. Risky business.

“Entrepreneurship and investing become dangerous territory.

Risk tolerance is too low when funds are low as well.

Becomes almost as risky as gambling at this point.”

7. Teeth problems.

“Dental care.

If you can afford to go to the dentist even once a year, get preventative care, fix cavities early, and it’s significantly less expensive than more complicated restorations and treatment.

I know way more poor people who just wait there’s a serious issue, and just have a tooth pulled, because that’s cheaper.

I know someone who lost a chunk of jaw bone from a bad tooth and needed a bone graft.

Not to mention, dentists in the US have worked hard to prevent dental care being included in health insurance.

You need separate dental insurance, even though oral health is very much connected with your overall health.”

8. No missed payments.

“It’s cheaper to be “not poor” because you never miss bill payments. Poor people are more likely to have late bills, so they get all the late fees associated with that

It is harder to buy groceries and household items in bulk, thus missing out on savings per unit.

Transportation. Being poor means you might not have a good reliable car (assuming you can even afford one), so your 30-year-old junker breaks down regularly and thus costs more money to upkeep compared to a middle class person’s vehicle. And then, if you can’t afford to fix your car, you no longer have a source of Transportation to get to work, then you get fired….and it’s a vicious downhill cycle

There are soooo many things that are small costs that add up and end up being more expensive if your are poor versus rich.”

9. All about who you know.

“Rich people often have connections and can get things or services for free or reduced rates.”

10. One on top of the other.

“$250 ticket for not having your inspection up to date because you cant afford the $80 for registration.”

11. Free stuff.

“I don’t know how to categorize this but when you have/make a lot of money you end up in situations where you just get stuff for free just for being there.

Colleague can’t make it to the game, so here’s two free court-side tickets.

One of your friends has a house in Tahoe you’re welcome to stay at. Your mentor is a successful entrepreneur and asks about funding your venture when you only wanted advice.

The list goes on. Privilege snow balls like crazy.”

12. It’s very real.

“When I worked for a non-profit making less than $40k/year, I worked 45/50hrs per week, and I paid the following:

paid roughly $60/month for my health plan at work, which was basic prescription coverage for $5/per, and limited dental. Nothing else was covered.

paid $20/month for my bank account, with 21% interest on my credit card, .01% interest rate on savings

had no sick days

had zero benefits as far as rrsp, stock, work from home allowance

spent $80/month on bus passes because I had to work from the office

I now work for a large software company, work 25-35hrs per week, make substantially more money and have the following expenses/perks:

$20/month for my health plan which offers full prescription, comprehensive dental and mental health coverage, massage/physio, etc.

pay $0/month for multiple bank accounts and have 18% interest, .05 interest rates on savings

$50/month subsidy for internet at home

free cellphone

stock purchase plan that offers matching stock purchases and discounts

sick days, flex days, and more than 2x the paid time off

$500/year budget for home office expenses

work from home, meaning saving on transit expenses

The high cost of being poor is very real.”

What do you think are some examples of this?

Talk to us in the comments and share your thoughts with us.

Thanks in advance!

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People Share Reasons Why It’s Cheaper to Be Rich Than to Be Poor

If you live a pretty comfortable life, you probably don’t think too much about a lot of things that poor people do.

Like lugging your laundry to a place to get it done while you wait. Or having to repair the same car problems over and over again. Or always renting things instead of owning them.

Those things really add up and make being poor a real grind.

AskReddit users talked about why it’s cheaper to be rich than to be poor. Let’s have a look.

1. Cars.

“I worked in the business/accounting office of a car dealership for 2.5 years. I remember going through files and thinking “Man, I wish I could afford to write a personal check for $28,000.”

And that person who had $28k to spare is going to be paying less overall than the person who makes half that amount in a whole year, who gets forced into a 14%+ interest rate (yes, really. I’ve seen 24% at times) just so they can have a car to get themselves to work when theirs breaks down beyond reasonable repair.

We once had a guy (almost) max out four different credit cards paying for his car, and when our finance director tried to tell him “You’d qualify for a much lower interest rate on a loan with [manufacturer] than the interest rate on these cards,” the guy brushed him off and said “I’ll have all of these paid off in two weeks.”

So presumably he had the money to just hand us a check, but was getting a lot of cashback on these large purchases on his (very high limit) credit cards.

The difference between that and a 24% interest rate on an already used car is just so unfortunate.”

2. Laundry.

“I used to rent this apartment in Manhattan on Thompson St. by Washington Sq.

I’ve also lived in Chinatown, UES, Brooklyn, East New York, and Ridgewood, and always used coin-operated self-service laundry because “why would I pay more for someone to do my laundry?”

Well, The first day I moved to Thompson street I wanted to clean some sheets and clothes—good thing there’s a self-service laundromat across the street. I popped in and filled two medium size machines.

It was something crazy like 30 quarters for each machine and 4 minutes per quarter to dry. All in all it cost me about $45 and 2hours of my time to wash and dry everything. I told a few coworkers who live fairly close-by this story and they asked me why I do my own laundry because it’s more expensive.

The next week I canvassed the 2 block radius of my apartment and found a korean dry cleaners and laundry service. I started bringing my laundry to them, who export it out to BK or NJ, and they bill me $19 and tie a bow on top. I still can’t believe how much cheaper it was and that the self-service laundromats in “nice neighborhoods” are a scam

Poor me would never think a rich move like laundry service would save money over doing your own.”

3. Connections.

“Connections leading to more income.

Best job I ever had was at an engineering firm that got so many applications, if you weren’t referred by a staff member, your resume got tossed.

My dad was drinking buddies with the hiring persons husband so she referred me, hired me and was my supervisor for 2 years.”

4. A luxury.

“Travel.

I used to travel for work, expensing meals, hotels, flights, etc. on my personal card and then expensing them later.

I rack up so many airline, hotel, and credit card points that I can generally do at least one nearly free vacation a year or at least pay for two international flights.”

5. A big one.

“Healthcare.

Medicaid is cheap but isn’t taken everywhere. But my platinum plan costs me nothing (no copay, no deductible, no coinsurance).

Most jobs that have this benefit pay really well.”

6. Loans.

“Borrowing money.

Rich people with better credit ratings, when they DO need to borrow money, don’t pay as much for it.”

7. Interesting.

“Period products.

There’s been a debate in my country whether they should have them freely available in schools for everyone up until their 25th birthday (as we already do with contraception in pharmacies), since 40% out of all 14-25 year olds cannot afford them.

The amount of people saying that “they should just buy reusable pads if they can’t afford the single-use ones etc”…! They completely disregard the fact that one reusable product is more expensive than a pack of single-use pads, which 40% can’t afford already.

Not to mention the “they shouldn’t buy iPhones and make up then”-folks. Some people just don’t know what it’s like to be poor.”

8. True.

“Getting arrested costs way less if you have money.

Paying out of pocket for a lawyer may cost more up front, but if you can’t afford one (or even bail) you will be in a much harder spot. You could easily lose your job if you have to stay in jail until your trial. Court appointed attorneys are often incredibly overworked and will not work as hard to get you a better deal.

Then if you can’t afford the legal fees to seal your record that arrest could prevent you from getting a job that pays well enough to afford a lawyer.”

9. Knowledge gap.

“Growing up without a computer makes poor kids fall SO behind their richer peers.

My friend works as a teacher for inner city high schoolers and most never owned a laptop until the school gave them one for covid. They don’t know how to use the essential applications. At one point my friend literally explained to them how to Google anything they need. They were kind of dazzled.

In comparison, my boyfriend’s son is 9yo (middle class) and literally making spreadsheets and video games. He knows how to Google anything he wants and works a computer as well as an adult.

This gap in knowledge is going to greatly affect poor kids in the future as computer knowledge will be a must in almost any job.”

10. Right on the money.

“Everyone’s gonna say rent vs mortgage, but there’s more to it than just equity.

Another aspect is that there’s an opportunity cost to buying that’s not immediately obvious – and that cost is significantly reduced, if not outright inverted to a benefit, the better off you are.

And that is jobs.

Say you and your neighbor are competing for a job. The job is in another city with a comparable cost of living — it’s not going to be any more or less expensive to live there rather than here.

The job pays 20% more. A significant raise.

Except… you can’t really afford both a mortgage and rent. You need the proceeds from the sale of your current home to buy a new one. And that’s on top of the huge expense that is moving your stuff to another city.

It’s going to be a pretty significant hardship to actually accept the new job. Sure, once you’re there it’s a clear benefit but you can’t actually afford the transition.

Your neighbor, on the other hand, is a bit more well off than you, they have more savings, pay a smaller % of their income in housing. Even though the job is only a 10% raise for them, they can actually afford to move and take it.

They can afford to pay rent and the mortgage for a couple of months while waiting for the house to sell so that they can buy a new one while maintaining adequate reserves.

Your other neighbor on the other hand, makes even more money than either of you and has even bigger savings. Sure, the job is only a 5% raise, but they can afford to just outright buy a new house in the new city and retain the old one, hiring a rental management firm to get in some tenants.

Sure, between landlord expenses and the management company’s cut they don’t even pay for the mortgage from the tenants, but it’s close and they keep on building that equity for very little cost.

You other other neighbor makes more than all of you. He gets a management job at that company for a 10% raise, but the company pays for all of his moving expenses, including 4 months in an apartment while he secures a new house.

He has basically zero cash outlay to move except for the fast food and gas on the drive over to the new city. He doesn’t understand why some people turn down jobs that pay better because they can’t afford to accept.”

11. Can’t get sick.

“Being sick. At least in the USA.

The sick policy is usually more generous the more $ you make and if you’re an hourly employee with no sick days you work or you do not get paid.

If you have to seek treatment or, god forbid, go to the hospital then you better hope you have decent health insurance or it will cost you an arm and a leg.

Many Americans are one medical emergency from total financial ruin.”

What do you think are some prime examples of this phenomenon?

Tell us what you think in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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This Guy Refutes That the Gender Pay Gap Is a Myth and His Video Went Viral

People don’t really like to talk about money. Whether because we think it’s rude or because we don’t understand it, as a species, we’re not super comfortable with it.

But most women who have had a conversation with a male coworker on the taboo subject of salary can verify that the gender pay gap is very real. Still, sometimes I guess the world needs a man to prove it.

Like many head-scratching things, the gender pay gap has been turned into a political issue.

So it came as little surprise recently when Dennis Prager, a radio personality and socially conservative political commentator popped off about the issue, describing it as a myth.

Dennis Prager asks Why would any employer employ a man?

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He posted his patronizing bad take on TikTok, but the backlash was so intense that he has since deleted his account.

One response came from James Ray, who uses his account @jamesgetspolitical and his economics degree to combat misinformation on social and political issues.

In his video, which has almost 2 million views and has been shared more than 10 thousand times, James quickly and eloquently explains two reasons the employers still hire men, despite them costing more than women: customer bias and hiring manager bias.

Both often lead to women losing out on jobs to men, or to being paid less when they do land the job.

You can watch the full video here:

@jamesgetspolitical

Labor market time ? #greenscreenvideo #leftist #liberal #democrat #women #FindYourCore #fyp #4u #reply #politics #usa #money

♬ original sound – James Ray

When interviewed by Bored Panda James explained his video response to Praeger.

“He spews very hateful unfounded rhetoric to his audience and I think the disinformation and overall problematic nature of his content have made me dislike him considerably!”

The artful take-down was not the only one on James’s account, either.

His account is full of critiques of bad takes, like this one, where he explains why popular arguments against a minimum wage increase are silly:

@jamesgetspolitical

Econ tea time #greenscreenvideo #leftist #liberal #democrat #politics #usa #fyp #4u #money #ChipsGotTalent #economics #education #lesson #teacher

♬ Lofi – Domknowz

And this one, about making Washington, DC a state:

@jamesgetspolitical

Can we stop treating the founding father’s like Gods idk #greenscreensticker #leftist #liberal #democrat #politics #usa #fyp #4u #TikTokGGT #DC

♬ Spongebob – Dante9k

He also responded to a white dude who was emoting on why everyone’s hating on white dudes:

@jamesgetspolitical

#stitch with @itzbengee I actually might know! leftist #liberal #democrat #politics #usa #fyp #4u #history #education #MillionActsofLove

♬ original sound – James Ray

If you are progressive or want to learn about progressive politics, you’ll enjoy his videos.

What do you think of his explanation of the pay gap? Are you ready to join the fight or do you have your own hot take?

Let us know in the comments.

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A Person Taught Their Boss a Lesson About Why You Need To Warn Customers About Closing Time

It’s time to go!

Today we have an interesting story from Reddit about a worker who taught their manager a lesson that they’d be wise to heed in the future.

Take a look at this story and how folks on Reddit reacted.

Start now!

Proved to my manager that it’s better to warn customers of closing time

“I used to work at a store that was open until 2AM every night of the week, so as you can imagine, when 2AM rolled around I was always ready to get out of there.

Around 1:45AM, I would walk around and let each customer know individually that the store was closing in 15 minutes, and ask them if they needed help finding anything before then. I did this for about 4 months working there and never had a problem, other than the occasional super rude customer who would completely ignore me and keep shopping until like 2:30/3 or whatever.

Or occasionally, especially on weekends, drunk people would come in after 2AM and just ignore that we were closed, because we weren’t allowed to lock the door or turn anyone away.

Usually I was alone by 1:45 since business really slows down, but one night my manager was still there. When she saw me go and tell customers the store was closing in 15 minutes, she was p**sed. She told me I could NEVER tell a customer the store was closing. She said it was incredibly rude and put too much pressure on them.

Fast forward to a few weeks later. I have still been giving customers a 15-minute heads up, because frankly I don’t think it’s rude to tell someone your store is about to close, especially at 2AM. Here is when I see my opportunity.

A woman had come in around 12AM. She seemed pretty out of it, and was wandering around the store aimlessly this whole time, but occasionally bringing something to the counter, asking me to hold it, then coming back and asking me to put it back because she changed her mind.

I had the feeling she could spend all night wandering around the store, so I decided that this would be the one customer I wouldn’t warn about closing. 2AM rolls around and I say nothing, and I proceed to say nothing all the way until 4:45AM when she finally leaves the store.

I literally got a call at 8AM the next day from my manager, furious that I had closed the store almost at 5AM. I innocently told her that the woman was still busy shopping the whole time, and I remind her that it’s extremely rude to tell a customer that the store is closed.

The next night when I went in for my shift, they had made the 15 minute warning a universal rule. We were all supposed to warn customers the store was closing, PLUS we were supposed to turn people away if they showed up after 2AM. Score!

Afterward I admitted to my other coworkers I had done it intentionally to show management how dumb their decision was, and I’m glad I did it because we never had to let another drunk teenager into the store after 2AM again.”

And this is what folks on Reddit had to say about this person’s story.

This person thinks they did a good job…and it’s always been a good idea!

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Another reader argued that the manager’s behavior in this situation is just plain odd. I think I agree. And there’s a safety issue to think about, too.

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This Reddit user said that this move doesn’t even make sense from a business perspective. You’re wasting money!

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Another reader called this a total no-brainer. Amen!

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Finally, another person said that the manager was totally clueless on this one and that their position defies logic. Yup!

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Have you ever taught your boss a lesson at work?

Or maybe a co-worker?

Share your stories with us in the comments. We’d love to hear from you!

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Guy Checks His Blood Sugar in Front of Co-Worker With a Blood Phobia. Is He Acting Like a Jerk?

Well, this story from Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page sure is a weird one.

It involves blood, a disgruntled co-worker, and a phobia.

Let’s take a look at what happened and how folks on Reddit reacted.

AITA for checking my blood sugar at my desk when my coworker has a severe blood phobia?

“I (24M) enjoy my job and have two coworkers, Megan (25F) and our new coworker James (23M) who just started. The three of us each have our own office space, but because we have to frequently collaborate on work throughout the day we are often at each other’s desks.

I am a type 1 diabetic, I give insulin and check my blood sugar throughout the day as needed. I give insulin through a pump so that’s not an issue. Checking my blood sugar involves pricking my finger to draw a drop of blood, the blood gets sucked up into a test strip that is connected to a glucose meter, and the meter displays the reading. The whole process takes like 10 seconds.

I was checking my blood sugar in my office right when James walked over. Immediately, his face went white, he looked like he was about to puke or faint or maybe both. I was like, dude are you okay? He told me that he has a major blood and needle phobia and gets therapy for it.

I explained what I was doing and why it was necessary and he said it’s “freaky” that I have to MAKE myself bleed multiple times a day. He told me he never wants to accidentally walk in on me checking my blood sugar again because he could pass out. I said that if I’m checking my blood sugar and hear him coming over I can call out a warning like “give me a sec!”.

He said that won’t work, just knowing that I’m doing that just before he comes over is enough to freak him out, and that he would be stressed that I might not hear him walking over.

He told me I should check it in the bathroom from now on. I told him that I don’t think I should have to do that and it’s unsanitary. He said another option was if I only check my blood sugar at certain times, say 9am, 12pm before eating lunch, and 4pm, that way he’d know when to avoid me. I said these things can’t always be predicted, I’ll need to check if I feel my blood sugar going high or low.

He said he understands that I have diabetes but that he also has a special need (his blood phobia) that needs to be accommodated and that he doesn’t want to have to avoid me at work and only talk to Megan for fear he might see me checking again. He said he’ll talk to HR about this and that he’ll tell them that I refused to compromise with him.

That was last Thursday before the holidays, tomorrow I’m thinking of going to talk to HR before James does, but first I need to know that I’m in the right here.

So AITA for not being more accommodating of James’ blood/needle phobia and checking my blood sugar as needed at my desk?”

Like I said, this is an odd one…here’s how folks reacted.

This reader said that the man is not being an a**hole and that this is a health issue.

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Another person said that the co-worker is being unreasonable and, most importantly, is being very SELFISH. Get over it, dude.

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This Reddit user said that the man needs to talk to HR at his work because this is a medical issue and the co-worker can’t be a factor in where he decides to check his blood sugar.

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And lastly, this Reddit user said that the co-worker is being pretty ridiculous and the man’s situation can literally be life-and-death due to his condition.

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What do you think?

Is what this guy is doing really rude?

Or is it no big deal?

Sound off in the comments!

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Was This Person a Jerk for Throwing Away a Cake Someone Made for Her? People Responded.

It’s time to hang on tight for another great story from the archives of Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole” page!

And this one has to do with a discarded birthday cake that led to some hurt feelings.

Let’s see what transpired…

AITA for throwing out a birthday cake that was made for me?

“Last week was my (17F) and my twin brother’s birthday.

Our family wanted to throw us a small party and we thought it’d be a great idea since we’ve hardly gotten to see anyone in our extended family for the last year. I was particularly excited because our aunt owns a bakery and makes the most delicious cakes and I wasn’t able to get one last year.

The day of the party comes and my family members arrive. My aunt comes up to me and my brother with her daughter, Averi (9F), in tow. Both my aunt and Averi have a small box in their hands and Averi is absolutely beaming.

My aunt says, “Here are your cakes! I hope you like them!” and Averi immediately chimes in “And I made yours OP!” When my brother opens his box there’s the world’s most beautiful white chocolate cake. Absolutely supreme work by my aunt, it’s even got raspberry filling. My brother’s favorite. I couldn’t wait to see mine.

Needless to say when I opened my box I was quite disappointed. When Averi said that she made the cake she meant it. I don’t think my aunt had any involvement with my cake at all and it showed. The cake was lopsided, the icing noticeably uneven, and looked like it was decorated by a blind and/or drunk monkey that had access to sprinkles.

To be nice I took a bite. Lemon favor, which I detest. Even if it were a flavor that I liked it was dry and could barely qualify as edible. I set it aside, hugged and thanked my cousin for the cake, and continued with the party despite my disappointment.

After the party was over my aunt and mom were talking on the phone and my aunt asked to speak with me. She asked me what did I think about the cake and I was brutally honest. I told my aunt that I couldn’t eat the cake and had to throw it out and that I wished she had made a cake for both my brother and I and just let Averi have her little side project.

Unfortunately my aunt had put me on speakerphone so that my cousin could hear my answer and I gave the worst answer possible. Now Averi doesn’t want to talk to me anymore and my aunt and mom are upset with me. My brother called me and a** and said I should have just said I liked the cake but how was I supposed to know my aunt would put me on speakerphone like that?

Was I the a**hole?”

Hmmm….now let’s take a look at how folks responded on Reddit.

This person said that the girl’s aunt was to blame here. And I think I agree with them!

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Another reader said that you gotta be careful with speaker phones…you never know who’s listening or what you might say!

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This Reddit user said that the girl’s aunt really blew it on multiple fronts and is to blame for the situation.

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This person blamed the aunt as well…and sprinkled in a bunch of fun puns. Take a look!

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Finally, this person also agreed that the aunt is to blame for this entire fiasco.

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What do you think?

Was this young woman wrong in her actions?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments. Thanks!

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Someone Summarized All the Self-Help Books into Steps We Can All Follow

Everyone is looking for that certain key to success, that one thing that will make life easier, better, and more fulfilling.

That’s why the self-help industry has boomed, not only in recent years, but honestly, for all of human history.

But all those books can basically be boiled down to a few timeless, solid pieces of advice.

Self-help books are published by the fistful, with a new one really seeming to take off every decade.

There was The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People of the 1980s to Who Moved My Cheese? in the late 90s, and on to the woo-woo mysticism of The Secret in 2006, and don’t forget Girl, Wash Your Face from just a few years ago.

To save you the time of reading widely, here are 11 important lessons from the self-help canon.

1. Do unto others…

Seems like obvious advice, but honestly, it’s true.

No one wants to work with a jerk.

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2. Don’t rush to judgment

Like your mom always told you: Don’t judge the book by it’s cover and all the other sayings you can think of about behaving with a level head–especially where other people are concerned.

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3. Embrace adversity

During one workplace motivational event we were told, “Embrace the suck,” and this philosophy is pretty solid.

Disappointment, challenge, and hardship will happen.
Prepare for them, expect them, and then–overcome them.

Instead of pretending everything is fine, admit that it’s not, and move on.

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4. Perfect isn’t possible

Perfectionists are constantly disappointed.

Or worse: They hold themselves back because they’re too afraid to try.

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5. Think positive

If you can dream it, you can do it.
If you can conceive, you can achieve it.
If you can see it, you can be it.

There is something to be said for these axioms. To find success, you need to focus on the desired result, and work backwards, and sometimes: rewire your brain to cut out negativity and just believe.

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6. One small step for man…

Many self-help books are about the power of forming healthy habits, because baby steps can add up to big things.

And repetition is the key.
(Maybe that’s why there are so many books on the subject.)

They say it takes something like 3 weeks to form a habit, and 3 months to turn a habit into a lifestyle.

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7. Play can be powerful

Whether it’s recharging because we’re all burned out by working from home, or simply to spark creativity, the experts say that play can be a really important tool for becoming your best self.

Me, I’m rediscovering Lego.

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8. Take care of your body, take care of your soul

You can’t be your best self or do your best work, unless your most basic needs are met.

Humans require food, water, sleep, exercise, companionship, and security before they can devote much energy to self-actualization.

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9. Live like you’re going to die

It’s pretty simple. We have a limited number of days. Don’t squander them.

Remembering that your time is finite can give you an incredible sense of purpose.

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10. Make a list–check it twice

We have too much going on in the world to keep it all in our heads. So get organized.

Make a plan, write it down, and then remember the 3 D’s: Do it, Defer it (schedule it!), or Delegate it.

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11. Most importantly: Do the things

You can make all the plans you want, but at the end of the day, you have to do the hard work.

There are no shortcuts.

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Many of these ideas weren’t new to me, but it’s always nice to have a refresher.

Personally, I’ve been trying to let go of perfection and embrace play. Which rules could you focus on?

Let us know in the comments.

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This Person Is Angry Because Their Boyfriend Puts Things in Their Food They Don’t Want. Are They Wrong?

Never mess with someone’s food!

I believe in this and I think everyone else should, too.

But some people cross that line and, as you can imagine, it’s never a good thing.

Let’s see what happened in this story from a man who shared his story on the “Am I the *sshole?” page on Reddit.

AITA for getting upset at my bf for putting things I dont like in my breakfast?

“I (20M) go to a culinary arts university in America and stay with my bf L(21M).

He is American and an atheist while i’m born and raised a Turkish Muslim. Since we both go to cooking school, we change the cooking chore daily without a problem. Also last bit, i’m a rather progressive person and i cut ties with my uber-religious dad and J knows this.

So onto the story, it was J’s turn to cook and he told me he would make breakfast for the weekend. So Saturday morning (which was my birthday) he comes to my room with some food and blindfolds me saying there is a surprise. Then he says he made something on the table and we walk there. I take a bite and it was pork.

From a pig ofc. so i was of course incredibly aggravated. I took the blindfold immediately and asked why he did this. He was in hysterics and thought this was SOO funny. I told him it was disrespectful and he shouldn’t disrespect my religion.

He scoffed off saying i was overreacting and that i wasn’t that religious anyway so he thought it wouldn’t be an issue.

I’m currently thinking of moving to a new room/house but my brother who i vented to is saying that’s too much of an overreaction so AITA for maybe reacting too much?”

And here’s how folks on Reddit responded.

This reader said that the man needs to be in a relationship with someone who is going to be respectful and have boundaries. PERIOD.

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Another Reddit user said that the man’s boyfriend sounds like a total psycho.

I mean, who does something like this?

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This person said that the boyfriend is obviously pushing boundaries just to see how far he can take it…and that’s a really bad sign.

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Another reader said the guy who wrote the post should straight up dump the chump.

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And lastly, a person argued that the boyfriend’s actions clearly prove that he has no respect for the man’s religious background…and it might be time to break up.

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Okay, you’re up!

In the comments, tell us what you think about this woman’s story.

We’d love to hear from you!

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Person Asks if They’re Wrong for Not Wanting to Be Around Girlfriend’s Little Sister

When you’re in a relationship with a person, you’re also in a relationship with their family. At least on some level.

Most of us have experienced this in some way and this woman is having a major issue with her girlfriend’s little sister.

Let’s take a look at the story.

AITA for not wanting to be around my GF’s little sister and causing a rift in the family?

“I met my girlfriend when we were 11. We were on the same basketball team so I met her family at the games.

Her sister “Sammi” was 8 back then and I guess her family used to like teasing that she has a little crush on me and she’d get all shy whenever I hung out with them. They made jokes about me being her “little boyfriend.”

Then we got together when we were 13. So the whole Sammi crushing on me got more obvious. Everyone in her family says it’s cute. Sometimes Sammi would come with us to the movies and I’d buy them stuff. Whenever I go with her family anywhere Sammi always wants to sit nxt to me or on my lap. Never said anything back then since she was a little kid and didn’t mean anything.

Now she 15 and feel like the crush has got worse. To a point where it is awkward and uncomfortable for me. She doesn’t hide that she gets jealous of my GF or when I’m at their place she’s like glued to me, gets mad if we wanna be alone in my GF’s room, wants to go with us wherever we go.

Everyone always treated it like Sammi being herself. But now it makes me super uncomfortable her wanting to be all over me sometimes and I purposely sit somewhere she won’t have space to be near me.

We just learned recently that my girlfriend is pregnant and we moved into our own place to get ready for our baby. Sammi straight up lost it when we told our families we’re pregnant. I’m serious she locked herself in the bathroom crying for an hour yelling that she hates everyone.

So yeah with her reaction I wannabe around her even less. I told my GF how I’ve been feeling uncomfortable with her sister for s long time and I should’ve said all this sooner. My girl apologized because she always thought I was ok with some of the sh*t her sister does but says I don’t have to interact with her if I don’t want to.

She also talked to her family about getting Sammi to start respecting my boundaries and let it go with the boyfriend jokes already. They don’t think Sammi is doing anything wrong since the crush is innocent so they pretty much don’t wanna tell her keep some distance from me when we come over. Her parents started coming at me to stop making a big deal and punishing Sammi for how she feels.

I showed my GF the txts they sent me and she got p*ssed. So now she won’t go either until they start getting her Sammi to behave right around me but they won’t do that. The whole family is attacking us especially my girlfriend and it’s making me feel guilty.

They’re saying I’m terrible for ruining things between my GF and them. They don’t get why I’m being this way. My girlfriend is so mad she don’t wanna talk to them, they’re saying it’s my fault.

AITA for starting this whole thing by not wanting to be around Sammi anymore?”

And here’s how folks responded on Reddit.

This person said that the girlfriend’s family is to blame for this situation and they let the whole thing with the little sister go on for way too long.

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Another reader added that the little sister is way too old to be behaving like this and she needs to learn some life lessons.

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This person said that everyone in the family could probably use some therapy. That doesn’t sound like a bad idea…

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Another Reddit user argued that the younger sister is obviously pretty delusional about this whole state of affairs and that the parents should have had a talk with her a long time ago to set the record straight.

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Finally, this reader agreed that the girl’s family is to blame here and that this whole thing has gone on for way too long and, as a result, has been blown out of proportion.

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What about you?

Do you think this person is wrong?

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Woman Asks if She’s a Jerk for Taking Her Son to Get a Pedicure Instead of Her Husband

I can’t say that I’ve ever heard a story like this one…but there’s a first time for everything!

Are you ready to read about some family drama that involves PEDICURES?

Let’s see what went down…

AITA for taking my son to get pedicures instead of my husband?

“For the first time since last year, my 46F husband 48M have a three day weekend! We were discussing what we wanted to do that day, and i suggested that we go get pedicures since I wanted to get a manicure that day anyway.

My husband normally goes with me every other month to get pedicure, so I made the appointment. We also made plans to do some shopping and go to a late lunch/early dinner when we were done.

Last week my husband told me that his friend Jeff needed his help on Friday (the same day that we had our pedicure/shopping date), and I told him that we had plans that day. My husband asked if I could change the appointment time, so I called the salon and they said they were booked full until the following day.

I told my husband this and he said that his friend needs his help, maybe we could go another time. So I told him that was fine, he could go help his friend and asked my son 18M if he wanted to go instead. My son agreed and we have a whole mother/son day planned.

My husband is now upset with me, and basically said that I was being over dramatic and inconsiderate. I disagreed and told him that this is not the first time he has ditched me for Jeff.

Last month we had plans to take care of a project in our house, and he ditched me to go bring Jeff a ladder and help him clean his gutters so I ended up doing the project myself. He also brings him to date nights because “he is all alone and has no girlfriend or other friends.”

I told my husband that I was tired of him putting his friendship with Jeff over spending time with me, and that it only seems like he needs his help on days when we have something planned to do together.

This has happened at least 15 times in the last 6 months. The first couple times, I was okay with it because i feel like if someone needs help, and you can help, it is a nice thing to do, but after the 4th or 5th time, I felt like he was taking advantage.

My husband said that we could go again next weekend, and I told him that we could do something else, but that I am now looking forward to my mother/son day and that I wasn’t canceling. Now he is pouting and making me feel guilty about it.

AITA for changing our date to a mother/son day because he wants to help his friend?”

Now it’s time to see how Reddit users responded to this story.

This reader doesn’t think that the woman was wrong and that her husband needs to step up and set some boundaries.

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This Reddit user said that the whole idea of bringing a friend to date night is just plain weird.

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Another individual argued that the woman’s husband sounds negligent AND entitled. Boom!

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This person went so far as to suggest that the husband might be having an affair.

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And this person seems to have the same idea…are we sure that this Jeff fellow is just a friend? Inquiring minds want to know!

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Do you think this lady acted like a jerk?

Or is this no big deal?

Talk to us in the comments and share your thoughts!

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