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Floridians Discuss How They Feel About the “Florida Man” Stereotype

Let me get this out of the way right off the top: I really love Florida a lot.

I’ve spent a lot of time there, my parents lived there for a long time, and I really do enjoy the weather, the beaches, the wildlife, the food, etc.

BUT, I’ll also be the first one to admit that Florida is…well, weird. Really weird, in fact.

And if you’ve been on social media over the past few years, you’ve definitely seen the various strange things that people in Florida do that end up in the news.

So, what’s the deal?

Floridians opened up on AskReddit about how they really feel about the “Florida Man” stereotype. Let’s take a look.

1. It’s accurate.

“I encounter them fairly often and I find it pretty accurate.

It doesn’t describe all of us, but there are a non-zero number of them in any public space, so it make sense that it has caught on.”

2. Entertaining.

“I find it entertaining.

Weird sh*t definitely does happen here. I once went to a party and ended up in the start of a zombie apocalypse because a crazy girl bit me on my arm and wouldn’t get off me till her roommate came across the room and kicked her in the face.

I only offered my hand to help her off the ground and she bit me, totally unprovoked. I’m sad I don’t remember her name or I’d fb message her on our bite-iversary.”

3. Here’s a good story.

“My lady and I filmed a crackhead that walked around singing for a while, then laid face down in the street (still singing) until someone stopped to make sure he was ok.

When the lady got out of her car, the guy got up and walked quickly towards the drivers side of the car like he was going to steal it, but the lady was able to hop back in first. Then, I sh*t you not, this guy went down on one knee and tried to propose to her in the middle of the road. She ended up driving away and the crackhead ran off into the bushes by the train tracks just before emergency services arrived.

This happened right in front of my door. My lady was recording and I was watching by the door in case she needed help.”

4. Proud native.

“I wear the Florida Woman title as a badge of honor.

Iwrestled a gator in a Christmas hat! (My Uncle is an alligator trapper for the state, FWC, who needed help removing a large nuisance alligator when I was home from the navy. It was a perfect Christmas card opportunity)

This was in Sarasota FL. The gator was reported to the state after it attacked a lawnmower, ate a calf, and tried to eat the farmers daughter. Yeehaw

I had to sit in a bush by the waters edge making a baby alligator call to attract the gator when the speaker died…. Nearly had a heart attack when the gator beelined towards me to investigate!

Baby alligator calls sound like you are saying “oww oww” in a constipated voice.”

5. It’s a big place.

“If only people knew how different northern and southern Florida are.

We should honestly be different states at this point.”

6. Don’t live there anymore…

“So I no longer live there but grew up in Northern Florida on the Panhandle (left when I was 19).

Looking back it’s funny but good, living there could be exhausting at times (especially as a gay teenager). So my 2 stories I like to tell that always get a laugh.

My hometown got a Walmart. On its opening day, my high school took a field trip to it. Always joked that the school was saying “Come look where you’ll spend the rest of your life kids!”

The only boyfriend I had back then left me for his 42 year old second cousin. Keep in mind I was 17 and my boyfriend was 18. But oh, it gets better. The 42 year old had a 20 year old son. They later on got engaged (and the ex told the son to call him dad now <_&lt$$).

Then tried to talk me into a threesome, fun times. If you didn’t guess it, the relationship didn’t last. Don’t know what happened but eventually they got into a fight and broke it off.

So yeah, I very rarely visit home…”

7. Maybe that’s true?

“I think it’s funny that living in Florida, most of the genuinely INSANE people I have met aren’t even from here.

They’re all people who moved south from NYC.”

8. It’s all over the place.

“It’s accurate, but the only reason you see it is because arrests are published immediately.

Other states have weirdos too.

Those governments just don’t go out of their way to publish the arrests.”

9. A lot of outsiders.

“Born and raised Floridian. I feel like it’s appropriate and wrong at the same time.

The biggest problem with it is most of the “Florida men and women” you hear about are originally from somewhere else. Same reason we’re seen as being bad drivers.

No one is actually from here. You throw a million different driving styles into one place, you’re bound to have a bad time.”

10. For your information…

“True Florida Man here, the rare Florida native variety, born and raised in the state. I will tell you a couple of truths about Florida.

“North Florida” is really South Georgia.

The further away from the beach you get, the more “southern” Florida gets (with Orlando being the exception).

As with the distance from the beach rule, so goes the same with the distance from I4.

Central FL, basically along the I4 corridor, is about as normal as Florida gets. That spans from Daytona Beach on the east coast, through Orlando and down to Tampa on the west coast.

As for the stereo type, most people will also tell you that the “Florida Man” stories are readily available because of our sunshine laws. It’s not that Florida Man is any crazier than Texas Man, or Michigan Man (not sure those are great comparisons by the way), it’s just that the access to the police reports is readily available and easily reportable.

We air our dirty laundry, we don’t hide it!”

11. Oh, my…

“I claim it with pride: “Did I ever tell you about the time I fought off a 450 pound bear that wanted my BBQ by stabbing it in the FACE with a 50 cent steak knife, on my front porch?”

The details:

I’m cooking out on the porch. I hear a noise, and look around. A BIG black bear has been following his nose, sees me between him and his BBQ, made a sort of “humph!” and froze, staring at me. He’s about 15 feet away, on the three steps up to the porch.

I raise my arms to look bigger and yell “Go Away, bear!” … but he doesn’t twitch. I can see the wheels turning in his head through his beady little eyes… he didn’t expect me, but is now considering whether to eat me or just teach me a lesson about getting between him and his food.

The door is about ten feet away, but that’s directly towards the bear – Not a good direction. No other retreat is open to me, being on the porch with the grill. Maybe if I throw something at him he will get momentarily distracted or intimidated enough for me to make it to the door.

My options are a 99-cent Dollar General spatula, which does not recommend itself as a weapon, or a flimsy plastic-handled 4 for $2 steak knife… which at least has a sharp(ish) point.

I take the steak knife by the tip and threw it just like I would expect someone to throw it if they knew how to throw a knife and the knife was a “throwable” knife – neither of which are true.

Miraculously enough, it hit the bear in the face almost directly on his nose, point first, and stuck him quite deeply on the muzzle. I mean “POING!!!” deep.

This is doubly miraculous since I was aiming rather vaguely at the other end of the bear. Throwing really hard is evidently terrible for one’s aim.

He blatted exactly like I imagine a sheep would sound, jumped in the air, swatted the knife out, and fled at top speed. He cleared a four-foot chain link fence without slowing down and without touching it at all.

Oh, and they caught the bear a couple of weeks later about 1/4 mile down the road when it clawed up some guy at a trash can. Identified by the wound on the nose, almost healed.”

12. Here’s the deal.

“I’m from Florida. It definitely holds up, depending on what part you’re from.

At one point I was living in a trailer in the swamp. During the rainy season the water would come up all the way to the back porch. One summer there was a big gator that had been terrorizing folks on the street.

Lunging at people on their porches and hissing and just being a jerk. Eventually it went after the neighbors dog, so they shot it and had a BBQ. Everyone got together and had bbq gator tail, got super drunk, and went swimming in the swamp. Was awesome, would do again.

Also one time I saw a very obese lady take a dump on the floor of a Walmart in the middle of the night.

Yes it’s safe to swim in the water, most kids and many adults did when I was growing up and nobody thought it was weird. Swampy water looks gross, but the brown color is actually due to tannins, the same chemicals that make tea brown!

Alligators are usually big, lazy, scaly blobs. They’re shy and they avoid people. Somebody was probably feeding this one. When they lose their fear of people, they become *ssholes. Don’t feed the alligators!! But don’t be terrified of them either unless they’re not acting afraid of you.

I’m a lady, and the neighbor who shot the gator was also a lady. So I guess this is really a Florida woman story.

I didn’t see what happened to Walmart lady. I’m sure that some employees saw it since it was right by the entrance, but nobody said anything and she just continued shopping. Later I saw someone cleaning up.

I don’t think the employees get paid enough to confront her. I can’t blame them. I hope she’s okay though…”

13. Grandpa!

“It is 100% accurate, and it perfectly describes my Step-Grandad. He’s your typical white trash, God fearing, washing machine hoarding, no-teeth-having back woods crazy person.

When I was 12 I went hunting with him. He fired a 12 gauge about 6 inches from my unprotected left ear, causing permanent hearing damage, because he happened to spot a buck through the bushes next to us and felt he had no time to warn me. On another hunting trip, he gutted the freshly killed deer and ate its heart raw. I threw up.

When I was 14 or 15 I worked for him for a few months diving for golf balls in the retention ponds at golf courses, which is prime territory for gators, snakes, and many flesh-eating diseases. He could PERFECTLY imitate the mating call of a gator, which would usually result in one or two alligators coming out of the pond to try and get some.

He would calmly walk up to them, sit on their necks, tape their mouths shut and left them to sit there while he went under water. Sometimes they hissed at him and opened their jaws or made a move on his ankle, but none of them ever actually bit him or resisted once he was on top of them. Alligators are surprisingly docile unless you threaten them or their young. Anyways, just in case one did try something, he carried around a ziplock bag with a few .44 magnum rounds and a hunting knife.

No gun, just ammo. According to him, if he was in trouble, he would just “Put the bullet against its neck and hit the primer with my knife.” Unfortunately I never got to see this happen, I would have loved to see how that would have worked out for him.

As a kid, my Grandparents lived in a small travel trailer and I would usually stay with them since my parents usually just didn’t want to deal with me and would just drink instead. This trailer was from the 70’s, meaning it was old, smelly and covered wall to wall with brown. Brown cabinets, brown beds, brown seats, and particularly brown shag carpet.

Well, one day a mouse managed to sneak its way into the trailer and scurried around the carpet looking for crumbs amidst the miller lite cans and cigarette butts. Now, any reasonable person would either set a trap or just shoo the mouse outside. Not my Grandad. He went to the closet, grabbed a S&W .357 Magnum revolver, and fired 6 shots at the mouse. He missed all of them, leaving 6 holes in the floor. The mouse got away.

It was our 4th of July tradition to attend my Grandparents’ house for food, fireworks, shooting contests, beer and a bonfire. My Grandad somehow managed to obtain 6 50 gallon drums of gasoline, and thought it would be a good idea to put a barrel in the middle of the bonfire as fuel.

He doused the pile of branches in gasoline, placed the barrel and lit a match. The fire started burning, and he starting dancing around it like some Native American ritual if Native Americans were overweight rednecks with no teeth. About 30 seconds later, the bonfire, predictably, exploded.

He sustained 2nd degree burns on the entire left side of his body, singed off ALL of his hair, including eyebrows, facial hair and arm hair, and melted the power lines that ran directly over the fire, cutting power to most of the county. The Fire Department was called and he was forced to pay restitution to the power company to repair the downed lines.

My favorite story, however, is a story of a vacation I took with him and my aunts (who are only a year older than me) to the beach when I was around 10 years old. He drove a 1985 brown on brown Chevrolet Astro with pinstripes down the side and no back seats. We sat on buckets in the back of the van for the duration of the 2 hour drive.

When we got pulled over since he drives like a maniac, we hid under a tarp from the cop and had to stay completely still and silent for 25 minutes. While we were exiting the Interstate, my Grandad noticed a mound of dirt in the construction area taking place on the off ramp, and I can only imagine he thought this would be an awesome Dukes of Hazzard moment. He suddenly veered off the road, put the gas pedal to the floor and went for it.

This Chevy Astro went up, flew about 15 feet and landed directly into a giant hole where the mound of dirt had originated on the other side. Since we were not sitting in actual seats with seatbelts, we first flew into the roof, then flew into the windshield when we hit the bottom of the hole.

By some miracle, the only serious injury sustained in the crash was my Grandad who broke his arm. Without skipping a beat, he started maniacally laughing and shouting “WOO HOO! THAT WAS ONE HELL OF A RIDE!” The van was totaled. He managed to avoid being arrested for reckless driving, and since this took place in a time where seatbelts were more of a suggestion than a rule, he wasn’t arrested for child endangerment either.

He did have to pay a massive fine and lost his license for a few years though. He wasn’t allowed to drive us anywhere after that.

I love him, but he is a f*cking maniac who quite frankly probably shouldn’t have access to anything more dangerous than safety scissors. He’s somehow managed to live into his 80’s so far, and is still as trashy and insane as ever. He just has even less teeth now.”

Alright, Floridians, we want to get your opinions.

In the comments, tell us how you feel about the “Florida Man” stereotype.

We look forward to hearing from you. Thanks!

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Hawaiians Discuss What People Don’t Realize About Life There

While Hawaii might look like paradise with no problems to us outsiders and mainlanders, I’m sure that, just like any other place in the world, there is a lot more than meets the eye.

All places have their problems and serious issues that folks from the outside just don’t understand. And that goes double for tourist destinations.

Let’s get a reality check from Hawaiians who took to AskReddit to talk about various misconceptions about living the island life.

1. Very routine.

“Life can often be very routine.

There’s less space to build new stuff so new developments are generally a much longer timeframe.

If you’re not comfortable going to the same two beaches, the same three restaurants and the same coffee shop on a regular basis, life can be very difficult here.”

2. Interesting.

“A major employer and source of residency is the US military.

Those of Japanese ancestry make up the second largest ethnicity.

Staples like groceries and gasoline cost a fortune to account for shipping costs.”

3. Hard to date.

“Dating is hard in Hawaii.

The population is small, and there is a joke that “people are waiting for someone to break up”.

I could see it being lonely there long term if you didn’t find someone quickly or move there with someone.”

4. From a native.

“I was born and grew up on the mainland. My wife and I have lived in Hawaii (Maui) for almost a decade now.

It is definitely a lot more expensive to live here. 2 bags of groceries is generally in the $100 range. Rent is crazy. Gas is stupid expensive. The other end of that is that pay can be higher too, depending on the job.

If you get a good job serving somewhere fancy, it’s not uncommon to leave with $300-$500 for a shift. We depend completely on tourism here to survive. So as much as tourists can be annoying, intrusive, rude, and entitled, we need them. Distance is weird.

If I’m gonna drive 30 minutes somewhere, we better be having a whole day planned. Eating out somewhere casual is at least $30 for two people.”

5. Good information.

“Hawaii State Senator here.

About half of all households are unable to afford basic food, shelter, and healthcare. This is often masked by many families living together in multi-generational households. Importing food, energy, and goods through the 20th century has created an unsustainable dependency that has driven up the cost of living for Hawaii’s 1.4m residents.

Outside pressure from speculators drives up the cost of land and housing. Military and federal personnel make up a notable portion of the population, but often overlooked are their cola and housing allowances that massively distort the rental market. Tens of thousands of airbnb and vacation rentals take additional units out of long term housing exacerbating the housing shortage and increasing costs.

Add to that many who buy up second and third vacation homes, and many foreigners parking money in condos and real estate that all sit empty most of the time.

Because of our somewhat isolated job market, competition is limited and wages tend to be lower for many professions compared to their mainland counterparts. For example, I just passed a law a few years ago that prohibited tech companies from requiring employees to sign non-compete agreements that essentially barred them from working for other competitors. An independent study afterward found without those draconian controls tech sector wages increased by 4% as a result.

But despite these challenges we are making progress. We have among the best access to healthcare, life expectancy, and quality of life. The digital and film industry is taking off, and remote work is opening up massive new economic opportunity.

We’ve tripled our renewable energy in the last decade and are on our way to 100% clean energy and a carbon-neutral economy by 2045. We’re growing brand new niche industries like farm to bar chocolate production which no other state has yet done. We’re expanding local agriculture and tackling food sustainability.

At its peak Hawai’i supported a thriving population before western contact, 100% sustainably. We host more unique and endangered species and ecosystems than any other state, and in some cases than the rest of the country combined.

At 1.4 million people living with limited space and resources, Hawai’i is the perfect model to prove to the rest of the world that we can all live together sustainably with a longer and better quality of life than anyone thought possible. And for our kids’ sake we hope to prove it.”

6. Paradise?

“After living on the Big Island for 12 years now, I can say it is not always the vision of “living in paradise” that my friends and family keep presuming it is.

My family discredits any struggle I have because I am “in paradise”. Many of us are still struggling despite the “beautiful beaches”…even more so with Covid and the lack of jobs. So many of my friends, and extended family, cannot even afford food, let alone their rent/house payment since this pandemic.

And let us not even discuss how expense it is to BUY a house here! The cost of living here is astronomical, and if you live on a neighboring island to Oahu, you most likely lack proper medical facilities as well…

Many live multiple-families/generations in one home just to be able to survive. Many more work several jobs, just to keep a roof over their head and food on the table.

Yes, it is beautiful. Yes, we are graced with incredible views (when we drive to see them), and yes, we are thankful for what we have…but please do not ever think that it is just a fantasy island we live on. As we all have our burdens to carry.

If you are one of the fortunate who move here when you retire, and already have incredible assets…than this really is paradise!!

If you are from here, or relocated at a young age, have families to support, or otherwise…well, it is a high price to pay, and much sacrifice for so many, for those beaches and views…”

7. Hard to make friends.

“Lived on Oahu for about 4 years from 2012-2016.

How expensive everything is is definitely at the top of the list. The one that most people don’t expect is that I had a hard time making friends. I’m guessing this could be hard in any tourism based place but I’d go to the restaurant or bar and meet tons of people. They were all there for the week.

It seems that even residents my age were all only there for a short timeframe as well. I just had a constantly rotating group of friends and it got old. That’s part of the reason I moved back to the mainland. Also everyone was always stealing stuff. Mopeds and other goods get stolen all day every day if it’s not locked, it’s gone.

It was frustrating the amount of stuff that would just go missing or get broken into.”

8. Haole.

“Being called a haole can be derogatory or neutral depending on how it’s used. I’m a white woman married to a brown man.

Once, we were having dinner out while I was pregnant and our server told us we were going to have the cutest hapa-haole baby. She was pretty nice and I’m pretty sure she said it completely innocuously. Another time I was visiting the Big Island (I lived on Oahu) and was checking out an off-the-beaten-road beach that belonged exclusively to the locals.

It was crystal clear that I wasn’t welcome, and though they never called me it to my face, I heard them call me a haole amongst themselves and it definitely wasn’t neutral.

When I first moved to Oahu, my husband’s employer hosted us for a dinner party with some of his new co-workers. Another white dude who had lived there for about 20 years pulled me aside and told me point-blank that I should expect to be called a haole and not to let it bother me.

That I was a white person from the mainland in their space – it was my trade off. Broadly speaking, it wasn’t really an issue while I lived there. Most people were really nice as long as you weren’t acting like a self-entitled d*ck.”

9. Homeless problem.

“There are a LOT of homeless people.

One reason why? The job market relies a lot off of tourism and military. And it’s very expensive to live there – it’s also very expensive to leave. If you move to Moloka’i, and lose your job, where’re you going to go but under a bridge somewhere?

It costs way too much to leave since the only way to leave is by plane or boat and people can’t exactly stowaway on them easily.”

10. Second-class citizens.

“Many people who live here are treated as second class citizens by the tourism industry.

Sure, it provides jobs, it’s a very important part. But how would YOU feel if you had people wanting to build a play park on a cemetery where your ancestors were buried? If you say “Build it somewhere else”, they will always ask you the same question: “Where?”. And what’s the answer? Well, there probably isn’t.

It’s a real Zero Sum game, because if you want to build something, you’ll probably end up evicting someone else.”

11. Craziness.

“Lived in Honolulu for four years. People tend to think of Hawaii as a peaceful, laid back place but really it’s a f*cking madhouse.

I also lived in Florida for five years and I always tell people that Hawaii really is what people only think Florida is. I’ve shared many stories on Reddit over the years of the endless string of lunatics and crazies I dealt with on nearly a daily basis out there.

There’s something about being on a remote island in the middle of nowhere that really brings out the loony in people.”

12. Normal life.

“Born and raised on the Big Island, live in California now.

I can only speak to my own experience in the town I grew up in, on the island I grew up on, but it’s a pretty d*mned normal life, just happens to be in a very beautiful and unique place.

Like any other tourist destination, the vast majority of visitors only see what’s on the path of the “guided tour” so to speak. When you peel back that curtain, you just see people living their lives like anywhere else.”

Are there any more Hawaiians out there who can tell us what island life is like?

And what some other misconceptions are about living there?

If you fit the bill, please share your thoughts with us in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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People Discuss What They Didn’t Understand Until They Got Older

I don’t think I was THAT bad in this regard, but there were definitely many things I THOUGHT I knew when I was younger that I now realize I was totally clueless about.

Hey, you live and you learn, right?

And with life experience comes a helluva lot more knowledge.

AskReddit users opened up about what they really didn’t understand until they got older.

1. Totally true.

“The public really doesn’t cares what you do.

The faster people, particularly teenagers who think everyone is looking at them all the time, learn that nobody cares as much as you ever will, the happier you will be.

I spent years not going to the gym and participating in gym class and not going to school dances and my own prom because I was so self-conscience of how I looked (I was a bigger kid) that I missed out on a lot because I SWORE men at the gym would laugh at me. or kids would laugh at me

Everyone is just looking at themselves.”

2. I love this one.

“The smartest person you know isn’t the one who makes everyone else feel stupid.

They’re the one who makes everyone else feel smart.”

3. We all learn this one.

“Many of the rules you had to follow as children really were for your benefit.

The “cool” kids at school were just self-centered idiots.”

4. Lots of hard work.

“I always knew my parents loved me, but didn’t understand how much sacrifice they made and love they gave to me until I became a father.”

5. Moving fast.

“How fast time goes by!

I’m in my forties and the 90s seem like ten years ago!”

6. On the fly.

“As a kid, it seems like adults have figured everything out.

Once you’re getting older, you realize that very few people actually know what they’re doing.

The rest of us just kinda make sh*t up as we go.”

7. They’re right about that.

“Why adults say certain things are dangerous or not worth the risk.

Our brains don’t fully develop until around 25, and one of the key things affected is risk assessment.”

8. Start today.

“Retirement. Start investing in your retirement now.

I don’t care how old you are. Start immediately. A 401k and an IRA are great to get started early.

Keep contributing and don’t cash them out.”

9. Life lesson.

“Most things really don’t matter.

You can’t change THE world, just concentrate on YOUR world.

Everyone is doing their best. Their best is not the same as your best.”

10. You know it!

“Some things we label as “Kids’ Shows” actually have a really meaningful message behind them that we don’t always fully see or understand until once we get older.”

11. You’ll thank yourself.

“You really need to take care of your back, your teeth and your hearing.

There’s a lot of good life to be lived on the other side of 50 as long as you can move, eat and hear.”

12. Total creeps.

“That if an older guy/girl wants to date you, they don’t see you as a “mature for your age”.

They are grooming you, or trying to take advantage for your inexperience in life. Teens will think that hanging out with older people must mean that they are cool and special, but no.

The older guys are just being creeps.”

13. Thanks, Mom and Dad.

“What your parents actually went through to support themselves and raise you.

It makes you cringe a little when you remember saying dumb teenager stuff like “you don’t know how hard my life is!”.

How my parents didn’t punch me in the face after working a gazillion hours and coming home to my pouty bullsh*t is beyond me.”

14. A part of life.

“How heartbreaking being a parent is.

Taking my daughter to kindergarten, watching her let go on my hand to run off with friends. They are all moments of great pride in watching who she is becoming. But it hurts so bad. I want to scream “wait, come back!”.

Im the only one who remembers holding her every night til she falls asleep because it was the only way she could. Now she just wants a hug.

Every day she takes steps towards more independence and goes farther and farther away. I encourage and am so proud of her. But she is my world, and there was a time when I was her whole world.

Now its my duty to fade into the background as she spreads her wings and it is a joyous heartbreak.”

Now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us about the things that you didn’t really “get” until you got older.

We can’t wait to hear your thoughts.

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People Shard How Their High School Crushes Turned Out as Adults

I remember my high school crush…

She was hot, funny, cool…and way out of my league.

And I never found out what became of her, because she doesn’t have any social media accounts. Who knows, maybe our paths will cross one day…

But these folks do know what happened to the people they loved back in the day!

AskReddit users talked about what became of their school crushes…let’s take a look.

1. Hard pass!

“Back when I was younger and crushing hard I got on AOL instant messenger and had gotten my crush’s screen name from a friend.

I worked up the nerve to start a conversation with him and soon after some awkward small talk he sent me a message in Comic Sans, black background, red lettering, and in French. I then went to google for translation and found out he had just called me a pig, in French. Being a seemingly awkward and chubby teenager, I was literally crushed.

The heartbreak was only made worse by remembering that a few weeks prior I had selected to take French class the next year and couldn’t change it.

Years later now that I’ve blossomed he follows me on every social media platform, has reached out a couple of times to try and flirt/hang out.

Hard pass.

I believe he’s moved away and is a teacher now.”

2. That’s sad.

“Became a professional cheerleader.

Died of breast cancer at 34.

Googling names from high school is crazy!”

3. Tragic.

“Ended up committing suic*de a few years after high school.

She was a teacher and got caught having an affair with a female student.”

4. Nice work!

“I never made a move in high school.

About 7 years after graduating, I saw her on social media and said what the hell and asked her out.

We’ve been dating for about 2 years and I’m about to pop the big question!”

5. Still the same.

“Hot douche who doesn’t really do much except go to the gym.

To be fair, that’s how he was in high school, I just liked it back then.”

6. Crushing all over.

“I had several!

One of them is still a close friend, and he became a primary care doctor. He also officiated my wedding.

I have no idea what happened to another one. We didn’t really have overlapping friend groups and she doesn’t do social media.

One of them is a math professor now, so that’s pretty cool.

My BIGGEST crush in high school was my longtime neighbor, but it also fizzled out pretty quickly after we went to homecoming together. We’re still good friends, and our families still keep in touch.

He’s also the guy who introduced me to my husband.”

7. Happy for her.

“There was a girl I really admired for a while, she didn’t really give me the time of day after freshman year though.

She was co-valedictorian and hugged me as I crossed the stage at graduation, and no one else got one. I’m still really confused about that 6 years later.

She went on to med school and is either married or at least engaged to a guy she met there. Overall she’s doing really well, and I’m happy for her.”

8. Boom!

“We reconnected through Facebook when we were in our late 40s and now she is my wife.

She’s still beautiful.”

9. A perfect 10.

“Still a 10 for looks.

I’m sure she kept on as the amazing, kind person she is. She moved to another country, speaks multiple languages and is more successful than I imagined.

She seems happy but we haven’t talked since the time I told her how I felt about her about 20 years ago.”

10. Success story.

“Went on to be a teenage model for hair products, graduated from Yale, toured Europe, opened her own successful ceramics company that is sold worldwide and is often written up in magazines.

Makes me feel like sh*t every time I think of her.”

11. Wow!

“You made me check and she is actually a very successful artist and an art teacher at a renowned university in France.

She even got decorated for her work (Chevalier des arts et des lettres).”

12. Bummer.

“She ended up dating and marrying the guy who bullied me all through middle school and high school.

They seem like a functional family from what I see on social media.”

13. Life is strange…

“One of them is homeless and a druggie. It’s very sad.

The other one is famous in his home country, is a best selling author, and is regularly on tv.

Don’t have a crush on him anymore, but I’m glad we are still friends, and I’m happy for how well he’s done.

I guess they balance one another out…”

14. It all worked out.

“She was aware then, over 30 years ago, but it was unrequited.

We’ve been in casual contact through Facebook for the past several years, and once before that my wife (at the time) and I had her and her husband over for dinner.

From what I can tell, she’s grown into a person I probably would have been happy with. It’s nice to see my high school perspective got a few things right. I think we’d be good friends if we lived closer.

She appears to be living a good life with her husband and family. With my second wife, I’m happier than I could have ever imagined.

Life worked out well.”

How about you?

What ever happened to your high school crush?

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A Person Asked if it Was Wrong to Not Let Her Daughter Introduce Her Black Boyfriend to Her Grandparents

I think this is going to be a very divisive topic and story for a lot of people out there.

And rightfully so, because the headline makes this person seem like a total bigot.

But let’s give them a chance to tell the story for themselves on Reddit “Am I the *sshole” forum, okay?

AITA for telling my daughter she cannot introduce her African American boyfriend to her grandparents?

“Let me just preface this by saying this: I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM WITH INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS. Now that the air is clear, let me continue.

My daughter (Anna) has recently started to date an African American man (Jamal). While I’m not exactly what you would refer to as “liberal”, he’s a nice young man and as long as my daughter is happy, I’m happy. The problem is Anna is rather naive about the community she lives in.

While her friends are quite content to see a relationship like hers, more than a few tongues are wagging in the community and a few people have privately expressed their concern to me. As I said, I have no problem with mixed relationships and I’ve set them straight, but I am painfully aware of how these matters are viewed by certain segments of the population.

My parents are planning to come and stay with us for a week and Anna expressed a desire to introduce Jamal to them now that things were getting more serious between them. I told her on no uncertain terms that this wasn’t going to happen.

I may have no problem with Jamal, but they absolutely will, and even when the relationship ends they won’t forget it. They might even go as far as to cut her off entirely. Anna was extremely upset by this and implied I was a racist and more concerned with what my parents think than how she feels.

As I said, I know my parents. They simply aren’t okay with mixed relationships and if Anna were to bring Jamal over even as a friend, they would be furious both at her and me.

Anna is currently staying with Jamal and doesn’t want to speak with me right now. My wife stands by me given she knows very well how my parents are (they had a problem with her for months over the length of the skirt she wore when I introduced her to them, for christs sake), but a close friend I confided in told me that I have behaved like an *ss and that I needed to focus more on my daughter than pleasing my parents.

No advice needed, but I have to know. Have I been an *ss?”

First of all, this person made a good point that this mother said “when” the relationship ends, and not “if.”

Hmmm. Is that coded language?

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This reader got straight the point. Brutally honest!

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And this Reddit user pointed out the most important thing: her daughter’s happiness should come first. Period.

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This person argued that the mother is to blame because in a way, she’s making the situation all about herself and how it will affect her.

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And finally, this individual made a great point about how racism works in our society.

Sorry, Mom, I think you got called out big time by these folks.

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Wow…now we want to get your take on this situation.

In the comments, tell us what you think.

We look forward to hearing from you! Thanks!

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Woman Asks if It’s Disrespectful for Not Wanting the Ring Her Fiancé Previously Gave to Someone Else

Let me say right off the bat that giving a woman an engagement ring that you already gave to someone else is not a great move.

I have a hard time believing that any woman out there would be really psyched about that…and that brings us to today’s story!

A woman shared her story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” page about an incident that set her off.

Here’s what she had to say.

AITA for not wanting a ring my fiancé already gave to another girl

“My now fiancé was engaged a couple years before we got together, and they broke up and she gave the ring back.

We’ve been together a few years and a few days ago, he proposed and I was super excited. The ring looked kinda familiar and when I asked him where it was from, he said it was the ring he gave to ex fiancé.

I immediately took it off and was like “I don’t want a ring you bought for someone else, it wasn’t meant for me.” He got upset and said it didn’t matter, because it’s not hers anymore it’s mine.

My family and friends are split in saying I’m the *sshole and I’m justified.

I don’t want him to spend a whole other thousand dollars on a ring for me, but I want a ring that was meant for me, not for someone else.

AITA?”

And the people of Reddit, as they like to do, weighed in with their thoughts.

This person got right to the point.

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This Reddit user said that she knew her husband would never do something like that and she let that fact be known loud and clear.

It’s bad juju!

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But this person came to the man’s defense and said he just made a mistake and that this incident is not worth breaking up over.

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Another person made a great point: rings don’t have to be pricey, but they have to be personal.

Preach!

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And this person called the guy’s move “tacky as hell.”

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But then another reader weighed in and said that the guy was not in the wrong and that both of them need to reevaluate the whole situation and not let a ring get in the way of their relationship.

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Okay, now we want to hear what YOU think about this situation.

In the comments, share your thoughts with us?

Is this woman an *sshole, or is she right on with her feelings?

Thanks in advance!

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Was It Bad to Tell My Wife Not to Encourage Our Teenage Daughter to Expect Her Boyfriend to Pay for Everything? People Responded.

Do you think chivalry is dead?

Well, maybe that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but based on what you’re about to read, chivalry could be on the ropes.

Or at least what some folks think of as chivalry, aka “the guy always pays for everything.”

Hey, to each their own, I guess…

But this father clearly has some issues with the whole thing.

Here’s what the guy shared on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” page.

AITA for telling my wife it’s not ‘cute’ for her to encourage our teenage daughter to expect her boyfriend to pay for EVERYTHING in their relationship?

“Wife and I have been married 18 years, we have our 16 year old daughter who has been dating a slightly shy/ awkward young man for around 3-4 months now.

He seems very nervous around my daughter and has admitted in a passing comment here and there to my wife and I that he can’t believe she agreed to date him and he thinks she’s way out of his league. He seems very respectful, just shy.

My wife is usually an independent, awesome woman and her ideals align closely with mine particularly in term of feminism and equality. We have both striven to raise our daughter to be as independent and capable as possible.

Since my daughter has been dating this kid my wife has changed considerably and has given our daughter advice that has left me with raised brows more than once.

Some of the advice I’ve heard my wife give is ‘oh it’s cute for boys to pay for everything, especially in your first relationship!’ Or ‘oh honey don’t worry about that, he can pay for you, if he really liked you he would’ and similar.

I’ve tried to balance this out by telling my daughter straight away ‘two people in a partnership should be contributing equally’ and my personal favorite ‘if someone asks if they can take you out to dinner, it’s reasonable to expect them to pay, but if someone asks you to grab dinner with them, it’s reasonable to split the payment’. I figured that would be an easy way for a young person to understand the difference.

However I’ve noticed my daughter becoming more and more entitled with her boyfriends money. They haven’t been anywhere obviously since we’re home but the way she talks about him ‘oh I’ll just ask him to pay for x’ etc leaves a bad taste in my mouth.

She has also flippantly bragged/ mentioned that she gets him to buy gift cards for her etc by mentioning her mother’s advice, i.e. ‘if you really liked me you’d pay for x’

I spoke to my wife privately and told her my concerns, she insists it’s a rite of passage for girls and it’s cute that she should feel a guy is completely spoiling her.

I told her that it’s not cute for her to be thinking it’s acceptable to view relationships as personal ATMS, and my wife became very angry with me and is now calling me an *sshole with a lot of hostility.”

Here’s how people on Reddit responded to his story.

This person was as clear as day: it’s not cute and the man’s wife is to blame.

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A woman weighed in with her own opinion and she made a very good point about the overall attitude toward paying for dates.

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And then another person made a good point about thinking about if the shoe was on the other foot.

Maybe this whole thing is a little bit outdated…?

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This person was short and blunt with their thoughts.

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But another Reddit user made a good point about how times have changed and maybe the mother in this story is just feeling nostalgic for the old days.

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And, finally, someone talked about how the mentality that men should spoil women all the time is still out there and that a big part of it comes from immaturity.

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Okay, readers, now we want to get your opinion?

What do you think of this situation?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments. We look forward to hearing from you!

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“Was I Wrong to Tell My Childhood Bully (Who Is Transgender) That She Will Always Be the Boy Who Bullied Me?”

Just like you never forget your first kiss, you also never forget the bully (or bullies) that you had to deal with when you were growing up.

And this story of getting bullied has an interesting twist…which you’ll find out about when you keep on reading.

A person opened up on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” forum to share their story and ask for feedback.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for I telling my childhood bully (who is MtF transgender) that she will always be the “boy who bullied me”?

“When I was a in middle school, I was viciously bullied by this boy, who I’ll call Z. He spread rumors about me, called me stupid and useless every chance he got, and made school a living hell.

It’s been 12 years, and Z has since come out as MtF transgender. She messaged me over social media and asked to meet up. We went out for coffee, where she apologized for bullying me. It was along the lines of, “I’m sorry for being mean. I was young, and I was struggling with my gender identity.”

I thanked her for her apology. When she asked if she was forgiven, and I tried to avoid answering. I am still not over what she did to me. What Z did to me impacted me greatly, as I was a impressionable young girl. I struggled with self esteem for years afterwards.

Z started getting defensive. She told me that I was being petty and that I should forgive her. I told her, “Why? You will always be the boy that bullied me. An apology won’t change that.”

She got really offended when I said the word boy, and said that I was misgendering her. She called me a petty, transphobic, vindictive, and ignorant, then stormed out.

AITA?”

Here’s what Reddit users had to say about this situation.

This person said that it’s the memories that count, not what gender the individual is now.

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And here’s a one-liner that people should keep in mind.

Take a look.

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Another person made a good point. You don’t have to forgive people if you don’t want to. That’s completely up to each person.

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A reader made a great point and argued that the bully is STILL bullying the writer now through these actions.

Take a look at what they had to say.

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And another Reddit user had a very similar story to tell.

And they also chimed in about how the writer of this article has done nothing wrong.

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And here’s a hot take.

This person said that “being transgender is seen as an excuse for anything and everything…”

Check out the rest of their thoughts below.

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What are your thoughts about this situation?

Was this person in the wrong? Or were they totally justified in their actions?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know what you think. Thanks in advance!

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Man Asks if He Was Wrong for Yelling at his Wife and In-Laws After They Told Him to Stop Cuddling His Daughter

I’ve heard so many awful in-law stories lately that I think I’m still gonna hold off on getting married for a little while…

I think some of my married friends out there might know what I’m talking about, right?

Because things can get complicated and much worse when in-laws try to butt in and tell the people who are married to their children how to do things…and here’s a perfect example of that.

The man took to the Reddit “Am I the *sshole” forum to tell his story and ask for feedback. Let’s take a look.

AITA for telling my wife and in-laws to f*ck off after they told me to stop cuddling my daughter?

“I have 3 kids, 15F, 12F and 7M.

My oldest has always been a cuddler, and that suits me fine because I am too. Recently my in laws were over, and we were all watching a movie together. It was a kids movie, and so my 15yo was bored out of her mind and tired, so she started to snuggle up to me and go to sleep.

After the movie was over, we sent all the kids to bed/their rooms and got chatting for a bit longer. There was a fair bit of wine involved (I was sober though), and eventually after a short silence my FIL let it drop that he thought it was inappropriate I still cuddled with my 15 yo.

I don’t really know why he brought it up suddenly, but I was prepared to laugh it off and just assumed it was the alcohol. To my surprise, my wife and MIL both agreed with him.

I have a lot of respect for my in-laws, I get along with them great and I consider them closer than my own parents. Obviously I’m quite fond of my wife as well, but I outright told them to “f*ck off and go f*ck themselves” and then left them and went to bed.

I’ve never spoken to any of them like that before, but it felt like the right thing to say in the moment. They all want me to apologize for being so rude to them. AITA?

Edit due to info request: We were not spooning, she was sitting next to me laying on my chest.”

Oh, boy…let’s see what people on Reddit had to say about this.

This person made it abundantly clear that the man was not wrong in any way for his actions.

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And another reader responded with an interesting take on the whole situation.

Could it be that they were trying to link this dad’s behavior to toxic masculinity?

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Another parent weighed in and said there is nothing wrong with the dad’s actions and that they still cuddle with their older kids, as well.

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This Reddit user said that we as human beings need contact and it’s a basic need.

So, in other words, there’s nothing wrong with it.

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A 19-year-old individual talked about how they still cuddle with their mom.

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Finally, a person made a very good point about not letting the daughter even know about this situation, because it could lead to hurt feelings.

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So what do you think about this?

Was this guy wrong for lashing out at his family like this?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know what you think! Thanks!

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This Woman Kicked Her Sister Out for Flirting With Her Husband. Was This the Wrong Move?

There’s nothing quite like a sibling rivalry, don’t you think?

And you’re about to hear a real doozy!

Call me old-fashioned, but I think there are unwritten rules when it comes to hitting on or trying to steal a sibling’s significant other. Do you agree?

A woman ended up kicking her sister out for flirting with her husband…

Things are really heating up on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole” forum. Check out this story.

AITA for kicking my sister out because she tried flirting with my husband ?

“I(27F) have a little sister, Emily (20F). My husband (27M) and I have been together since our college days.

Back when we started dating, Emily, who was 13-14 then, seemed to have this little crush on my husband (then boyfriend). She would blush in his presence, stutter while talking to him etc; we assumed that the crush went away as she grew older and her behaviour indicated so.

My husband thinks of Emily as the little sister he never had, and treats her as such. We’ve not had much contact with Emily over the years, as we live in a different state at the other side of the country and she’s been busy with her schooling. Last week, my parents and Emily were visiting our house for my birthday weekend.

From the moment Emily arrived, she would not stop flirting with my husband. From excessively complimenting everything he did to proclaiming things like they would make a great pair etc etc. My husband looked very uncomfortable; and so did my parents. I don’t know how we got through the dinner.

After the evening was done, my husband asked me if there was something wrong with Emily and that why was she behaving like THAT? He said she made him very uncomfortable and asked me to talk to her.

So I found her alone, and tried telling her that it was fine if she had/has a crush but it’s never fine to make anyone uncomfortable. I told her that it would be nice if she kept her distance for the remaining two days they were here, since he was NOT okay with this behaviour.

She said she wasn’t being flirty or improper. I told her that she was indeed being inappropriate and it was very creepy that she would try to flirt with my husband.

She got very defensive and said that I was being insecure and I quote, “If I was really flirting with him, you wouldn’t stand a chance.” I lost it as this point and told her that she’s no longer welcome in our house and should f*ck off the first thing in the morning.

Emily and my parents left the very next day; even though my dad agreed that Emily’s behaviour, throughout the evening, was very inappropriate, and that she should apologize to my husband.

Mom thinks nothing of that sort happened and all three of us are being delusional and that it was a d*ck move to kick Emily, and by extension her, out of my house when they’d travelled all the way here.

AITA?”

Wow…

Well, as you know, people on Reddit LOVE to share their opinions. Let’s see what some of them had to say.

This person clearly didn’t think the woman was in the wrong.

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And this person made a great point about how gender plays into this whole situation.

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Another Reddit user pointed out that the little sister’s rude (and scandalous) comment shows what kind of a person she really is.

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A person argued that the little sister obviously has some issues and she refused to change her behavior even though she had been told that she made her brother-in-law uncomfortable.

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And then this person brought up an excellent point: maybe this woman should have told her sister to stop immediately instead of waiting for a while.

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And finally, another Reddit user said that since the younger sister is only 20-years-old, maybe this is a maturity problem and her sister needs to grow up and respect your household.

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Okay, friends, now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, let us know what you think about this situation and if this woman was wrong for what she did to her sister.

We look forward to it!

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