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Woman Asks if She’s Wrong for Not Wanting Her Wheelchair-Bound Father to Walk Her Down the Aisle

Just the title of this article by itself makes me sad.

But that’s why the “Am I the *sshole?” forum on Reddit gives us interesting human stories to contemplate.

A woman asked if she was an *sshole for not wanting her father, who is in a wheelchair, to walk her down the aisle on her wedding day.

Let’s see what she had to say.

AITA for not wanting my dad to “walk” me down the aisle because he’s in a wheelchair?

“About three years ago my dad was injured in a really bad hit and run car accident.

He broke just about every bone in his body, and left him paralysed from the waist down. Our relationship has always been really good, but I hate seeing him in pain and admittedly try to avoid seeing him because it just makes me uncomfortable.

In November I’m getting married. I’ve been with my fiancé for 4 years and he and my dad get on really well. Naturally the discussion of who was going to give me away came up in the family group chat, and I kept silent after I realised my dad would be in a wheelchair.

We always talked about him giving me away and having a dance at my wedding and I don’t want to be reminded of what could’ve been at my wedding. I messaged my mom privately and told her I want my uncle to walk me down the aisle as we’re incredibly close.

She naturally asked why and I told her that my dad being in a wheelchair would add complications to the wedding. The walkway would have to be widened to accommodate his wheelchair and he wouldn’t be able to hold my arm or give me a proper hug.

She was outraged, called me an ableist POS and removed me from the group chat. My aunt has since called me telling me my dad is absolutely devastated. AITA?”

And here’s how folks on Reddit responded.

This person, who can relate to the woman’s story, said that she is definitely wrong in this case and the had a hard time believing that anyone could act this way.

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Another reader called the woman out in a huge way.

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This person made it clear: a wheelchair doesn’t make anyone less of a person.

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Another person, who is disabled, also thinks that the woman is a major *sshole in this situation.

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And finally, another woman talked about the role her disabled father played at her wedding. And yes, they also think this woman is an *sshole. I concur!

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Wow…what do you think about what this woman did?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you.

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A Young Man Wonders Whether Telling His Rich Parents That ‘Lower Class’ Friends Are Better Than Them? Here’s What People Said.

We got some family drama here, folks!

And this time the story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page comes to us from a teenage boy who had some choice words for his wealthy parents.

Let’s take a look…

AITA for telling my rich parents that my ‘lower class’ friends and their families are better people than they could ever dream of being?

“I’ll start by saying that I’m a 17M. Both my parents are very successful lawyers, and we live in a super nice house.

They have given me everything I could ask for, but they’re not exactly there for me emotionally. I can’t remember the last time we ate dinner together or had a decent conversation. Most of the time they’re not even home and it’s just me. I feel like a ghost in my own house.

We moved to a new town not too long ago, and my parents enrolled me in the more exclusive private school in the area. I’ve gone to private schools my entire life. But my experience at this school was horrible.

I’m short, effeminate looking, and obviously gay. The only reason I didn’t get my *ss seriously kicked was because my parents are rich.

I begged my parents to switch schools, but they were hesitant because the only other option was public schooling. I finally escaped the private school of circle jerking, and enrolled in this new school.

I guess I should mention that a few years ago, this school district expanded their enrollment zone to slightly cover a lower income area, which resulted in a handful of students from low income families being enrolled.

My first few days at this new school were brutal, with a lot of the same problems following me. Until I ran into Garfield (it’s a family name. I swear he’s not named after a cat).

He spoke up and said he would love to be my lab partner when no one else would. We quickly became friends and he introduced me to his childhood friend also attending the school named Eduardo.

Since my parents are so distant to begin with, they never noticed me spending so much time with my new friends. Garfield’s mother is a waitress and his dad a construction worker. Eduardo’s mother cleans houses and his dad works odd jobs, such as driving for Uber.

Both of their families are amazing and involved. I started dating Garfield and had real friends for the first time ever. Both Garfield and Eduardo have come over to my house about twice and met my parents.

The other day, my mother pulled me over and casually mentioned that I was spending a lot of time with that blonde boy (Garfield) and the Hispanic kid. She asked what their families did and where they lived, and I told her. She immediately became upset and said I was aiming way below my abilities and these were not the kind of influences I needed in my life.

I asked why, and she said we just live different types of lives and I’ll understand when I’m older. I freaked out and said both of them and their families have been there more for me in the six months I’ve known them than my parents ever have and that they’re cold, unfeeling snobs. My mom started crying and said public school has changed me for the worst.

I’ve never seen her cry before, and I’m starting to feel horrible. AITA for saying they’re rich hypocrites and that my friend’s families are better?”

And here’s what folks said in response to his story.

This person doesn’t think the teenager was wrong at all for what he said to his parents.

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Another Reddit user thinks that the boy’s mom might actually be upset because she’s coming to terms with her life choices.

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This person said that wealth really isn’t a good indicator of what really matters in life: character and doing the right thing.

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Another Reddit user said that the boy wasn’t wrong for what he said but that they also sympathize with the mom in this story.

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Finally, this person said that the boy was not the *sshole here but that his mom, despite her faults, most likely spent her life thinking she was making the right decisions when it came to trying to make money.

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Do you think this kid was wrong for what he said?

Or was he justified in speaking to his parents this way?

Talk to us in the comments and tell us what you think. Thanks!

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Teachers Discuss Which Generation They Enjoyed Teaching the Most

My sister has been a high school teacher for over 20 years and she likes to tell me stories about how the kids have changed throughout the years.

Because you know what they say…kids today! And that saying exists because it’s true.

Teachers who have been around for a while talked about which generation they’ve enjoyed teaching the most on AskReddit. Let’s see what they had to say.

1. Do what you want.

“I taught in the late 70s, early 80s in northern Alberta.

The nice part about being that early in my career, plus in northern Alberta, was that you could pretty much do whatever you wanted. My kids found an injured duck on the playground and we brought it into the classroom and spent weeks nursing that duck back to health.

As the duck grew stronger, he would do these practice flights in our classroom to the point where he would do a couple of laps around the room and my kids wouldn’t even get excited about it. Later in that same year we grew hydroponic tomato plants that went from floor to ceiling and were able to harvest tomatoes in the middle of winter.

Man, that was a great year! Pretty sure you couldn’t do most of that in a grade one classroom these days.”

2. Comparing themselves.

“In my mind kids have always been good at heart, but society and their upbringing is what ultimately shapes or corrupts them.

Unfortunately, I think more kids nowadays have mental health issues since they unconsciously compare themselves to their peers. The difference is 20+ years ago kids only compared themselves to the few hundred kids in their school.

Nowadays, they are comparing themselves to the millions of kids they see online.”

3. Breaking down the years.

“97 – sarcastic, grungy, smoking more cigarettes, more clique-y and edgy

07 – petty, attention starved, overwhelmed, but much nicer

17 – under so many layers of irony and memes they dont even know who they are anymore or care. there’s no point in being creative or devolving a personality, anything you could think of has already been done.”

4. Here’s the deal.

“Honestly it is not so much the generation but the age group and the relative interest and if you connect with the students or not (and they connect with you as a teacher and respect you as an educator who has their best interests at heart)

I like the younger students for their curiosity and eagerness and excitement when new ideas are being introduced or there is some challenge/learning-related contest going on in the class. This gets more difficult to cultivate as a group-energy level in the puberty years, and easier afterwards.

But I’ve had some kids in the 12-14 age group come in during lunch to continue their activity just because they were so engaged in what we were doing, and I was cool with it as I ate my lunch in the classroom and therefore my classroom (I taught computers, so other labs were often locked after classes) was always open.

It is very obvious when you see the interest and level of engagement from a class that is ready to learn, it is almost like when an engine is reving up and all cylinders are firing in sequence; you can really feel the energy. But you notice the differences as some classes just ‘click’ with their teacher more than others, even in the same year.

For those who may be wondering why that is, I like to think of each class as a sort of team, as in sports. I suspect that if there is a certain threshold of active, curious and interested students in each class then that interest level and energy just is infectious and becomes the overall mood of the class. A few leaders in the class can raise the energy of the whole ‘team’.

Of course, it’s the same story if there are enough disinterested students in a class who honestly don’t want to be there and have no interest in learning.

Sprinkle in a few more who prefer to disrupt a class for laughs and that just drains the interest and excitement right out of the room unless the teacher or occasionally some students can reassert the need for respect so learning can continue uninterrupted.

It can really be apparent when you are teaching the same exact lesson to different classes on the same day as you will see which ones are into it and which ones just aren’t.”

5. Out of touch.

“I enjoyed the 1990s because there was still not a ton of technology.

One of the things I’ve noticed now is that my cultural references have absolutely tanked now.

I was teaching a course and literally NO ONE got my reference to The Matrix or Pulp Fiction or well … anything.”

It was the first time I felt that internal twinge of being “out of date” and realizing I was teaching 17-18 year olds who were being BORN when that movie came out.

I still love the job though. :)”

6. All downhill.

“When I started teaching in the early  2000s, students still got my most obscure Simpsons and 80’s film references. By the late 2000s, I had nothing left to reference.

By the early 2010’s my kid had reached adolescence, so I had new material, but it really wasn’t mine, and the culture had splintered so much that my Rick and Morty references only hit about 30% of the class.

Lately I just stopped trying, and became that old, out-of-touch Prof; I lived long enough to become the villain.”

7. Used to love it.

“Started teaching first grade in 1999. I loved teaching till about 2006.

Students were so eager to learn kept me on my toes. They were respectful and the parents were supportive. Little by little things started changing. Complaining about colors of napkins, words like angels, witch, . It kept getting worse. The amount of paperwork and meetings no time to teach.

The testing got in the way took time away from teaching and what was important which is the children. Little by little it took most of my energy. Stopped teaching after only 13 years.”

8. Mom’s thoughts.

“My mom was a teacher from the mid ’70s up until covid hit and she retired for good.

I think she liked ’80s and early ’90s kids best. Parents still had respect for the teacher, as did most kids, and our government had not yet ran education into the ground with cuts and overcrowded classrooms. Plus ’80s and ’90s kids had silly fads and were kind of quirky and fun.

She said the biggest difference now is resilience. Kids today have bigger difficulties with overcoming things, more anxiety issues, many refuse to even try something for fear they’re not good. It’s not an issue with the kids per say, generally most things can be traced back to parents, who are putting more pressure on kids.

Also, the biggest difference is parents. It used to be parents and teacher were more a united front. Now parents are angry at the teacher if their kid doesn’t do their homework or work in class, or accuse the teacher of lying if the teacher says their kid did something bad.

I’m a teacher too, but have been teaching less than 10 years, so I have little comparison. But I can say that as a kid in the 90s, I can’t remember other kids saying “no” to teachers. We may have groaned or whined, but we didn’t refuse.

Today I’ll have an activity or game and kids will flat out say “no. I’m not doing that”. Kids refuse to participate to my face. I hear “no” all the godd*mn time, and it’s frustrating when I know my lesson slaps. They just say no to everything.

Also kids complain when you put on a movie. It used to be, when your teacher wheeled in the big TV cart, the class cheered. We didn’t care what it was. Now all you get is “ugh no I don’t like this movie/ I’ve already seen it/I don’t want to watch/ this is boring” and I’m like HOW DO YOU CHILDREN NOT LIKE MOVIE DAY.”

9. A big difference.

“Started teaching at university in the 2000s.

Kids were really cliquey (into what sub-culture or tribe they were in and didn’t mix) and intolerant of difference (of any kind). Was 10 years older than them, most had no idea how to save a file on the computer into different formats. Had to tell kids not to describe things they didn’t like a ‘gay’ ALL THE TIME.

In the 2010s they started being better at technology, but worse at fixing it when it went wrong, getting more tolerant, more likely to mix. 2020s kids are really tolerant, kinder, but much, much sadder.”

10. We need better parenting.

“Started teaching in 1985, retired in 2015.

I enjoyed teaching in all of those years and enjoyed knowing almost all of my students. I feel that any observations I might make would be so prejudiced by my own reactions to the era and my own aging that it’s a bit of a ridiculous question.

I do think that more people need to commit to better parenting, as I was appalled by how scarred many students were by sheer parental neglect and abuse, regardless of the era. I don’t think abuse has become any more prolific, but I recognized it more and more as I became a veteran teacher.

Other than that, talking about people by generations is just another way to divide us and keep us quarreling; otherwise we might notice that we’ve all become the property of corporations. And they don’t want that.”

11. No accountability.

“Kids don’t change, but accountability is gone in my district.

First half of my career (90s, 00’s) students and parents were far more accountable. Today, if a student does not thrive, it is blame the teacher all day, every day. Teachers now compete with Tik Tok, Snap Chat, video games etc…and there is such a sense of entitlement, at least in my district.

The students are still great, but the adults have messed this up so bad. We have eliminated all deadlines in my district, and students can re-do an assignment over and over until they get the grade they want.

Consequences can be great learning experiences, but we are no longer able to apply them.”

Have you been teaching for a while?

If so, which generation of kids has been your favorite?

Tell us what you think in the comments!

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Babysitters Share Stories About When They Had to Call the Cops During a Job

Babysitting is pretty strange: you have your young kids being watched (a lot of time) by other kids who are also pretty young.

What could possibly go wrong?!?!

And sometimes, things go sideways and babysitters have to call the cops for one reason or another.

Have you ever had to call the police while babysitting?

AskReddit users shared their stories.

1. Mother of the year.

“Caught the lady blowing m*th into her 21 month old daughters face.

I exclaimed, “What the hell are you doing?!”

And she said she didn’t want her to grow up fat.”

2. Child Protective Services.

“I called CPS on the parent of a kid I babysit regularly.

The kid is older and a bit of a mental health disaster. She’s got attachment issues and some other weird habits. I’ve written about her before. Anyway, the kid lives in my neighborhood and is at the age where she can go outside and be relatively unsupervised. She runs to my house when she’s fighting with her parents or her parents are fighting.

One afternoon, she runs to my house and gives me the run down on the blow out with her mom. “She pinned me down and was threatening to punch me in the face.” Then her mom texts me asking if I have seen her and mom is really concerned that the kid is trying to get her arrested.

Since I know the kid has an interesting relationship with the truth, I am not sure who to believe. I have a heart to heart with the kid and tell her to please do what her mother asks and not start telling back. If she has to run somewhere, I’m always home.

My husband and I talk about it and we decide to make the call. Before we could make the call, she was at our house three more times for these crazy blow out fights. We relay all of this to the intake person on the phone and then didn’t ever hear anything back about it.

The kid’s mom and I are pretty good friends and she’s been giving me the run down of this free family therapy program they have been doing and I finally put the pieces together that the family therapy is actually mandated and CPS is involved.”

3. Left behind.

“I am a babysitter and used to work at a daycare. The assistant director and I had to call the police once because a child was left behind over an hour after closing time.

We were afraid her mom had been in an accident or something. Turns out there was a miscommunication between mom and dad regarding pickup.

I really just think the dad forgot about her, as the mom was always the one picking up. It makes me sad to think that her dad forgot her.”

4. Terrible.

“Dad and mom came home super drunk.

Dad started beating the sh*t out of mom over $20. She yelled from the back bedroom to call the police so I did. She came out asking me if I really called the cops….yeah I did! I was like 13 at the time.

Scared me so bad I couldn’t look at the dad the same ever again, even though they were back together not long after.”

5. Definitely call the cops.

“Yes.

I once babysat a 9 year old child and his 7 year old little sister. When I came one day to babysit them, the 7 year old had bruises and scars all over her face.

When I asked the children what happened, the 9 year old boy said that she hadn’t finished all her homework and had been beat by her parents, beating children is illegal in my country (New Zealand).”

6. Daycare.

“I was a daycare provider.

Once there was a new kid whose mom needed care while doing a job search. On the second day she never showed up and an hour after closing I called the police because mom was not answering at any of her contact numbers and I didn’t know what to do.

Mom had found a job and gone out drinking to celebrate. When they called me to update me mom had also stolen a vehicle and was being charged. Child protective services came to pick up the boy a couple hours after my call to police.

Another time I was called after hours by the police asking if I could care for one of the daycare kids because his single mother was very drunk at home and unable to take care of him. Neighbors had called the police.

The boy stayed the night with me and police arranged for his estranged father to come from out of town to pick him up at my place the next day. I am pretty sure mom lost custody completely.”

7. Weirdos.

“The very first family I ever worked for got weirder and weirder as months passed working for them.

When I started with them they both left the house to work their full-time jobs. As months passed the mom began staying home because she was “sick”. Unfortunately, it became exceedingly clear that she was extremely depressed. The mom was so kind, if not a little odd, but I felt so bad for her because her husband was literally the creepiest and most bizarre man I have ever met.

So the mom continues to stay home from work and eventually gets fired. The problem is, they lived in a tiny one bedroom apartment with 2 children. So mom stayed home to “job hunt” and I nannied for their daughters. Then the dad starts working from home, leaving me to sit inside with the two girls, their mom and their dad in the same damn room for 9 hours a day.

I eventually told them I wasn’t cool with them both working from home as they were extremely loud and the father’s home etiquette became creepier and creepier. He started having me wake him up the morning when I came in for the day. Always asleep shirtless.

Then he worked in the living room with only boxers and a robe on. He also used to insist on hugging and kissing his daughters while I was holding them. He also insisted on watching me bathe his youngest daughter. Lots of borderline harassment moments.

But what brought me to consider calling CPS on them was the way the dad would kiss his oldest daughter. He would kiss her arm slowing from her hand all the way up to her shoulder and it felt inappropriate for me as she was nearly 6.

I had an affectionate family but kissing up an arm felt extremely romantic not fatherly. He also out of nowhere would say things like “I don’t bathe with the girls anymore because it wouldn’t be appropriate.” Completely out of context.

I also learned that his last nanny came across a journal he had left open in the kitchen that comprised of notes he took in order to get over his p*rn addiction.”

8. Didn’t come back.

“I had to call the police because the parents didn’t come back!!

My dad was a gas station manager, and one day while I was hanging out with him at work a regular customer asked if I ever did any babysitting. I looked at my dad and he nodded a bit so I said sure. He told me that guy had been coming to his gas station for years and he knew him and his wife decently well and he thought it should be fine.

Well the plan was they were going to pick me up from my dads gas station and bring me to their place, go out for a while, then when they got back they would bring me back to him at the gas station. So they come get me and everything seems ok. The kids are a little bratty, fighting in the backseat but no big deal. Their house turned out to be a run down trailer in a small trailer park in the boonies.

I grew up poor so it’s not anything I wasn’t used too, but it surprised me since their car was really nice. Turned out they didn’t have a phone either, and this was right before cell phones were a really thing. So the three hours I was supposed to be there goes by, then four then five then six. At this point it’s past 10 and I’m freaking out. I decided to leave the kids in a playpen and try and see if any neighbors will let me use their phone.

After several door knocks I finally find one and call my dad. I’m in tears at this point but I give him the address and he comes to sit with me at the trailer. Another hour goes by and we call the police. The parents still didn’t come back during the whole interview process, and the kids were taken by dcs.

My dad is thinking something terrible has happened to them, as surely they wouldn’t just abandon their kids with the 15 year old babysitter right? Well they finally came home the next day (over 30 hours after they had dropped me off at their house) and it turned out they had went and done a bunch of her*in and were to messed up to keep up with time.

Turns out my Dad didn’t know the guy that well after all.”

9. A reverse story.

“I have a bit of a reverse one where the babysitter was taken away in handcuffs.

It was about 20 years ago now and my dad’s sister had 2 kids who were around 2 & 4, she hired a babysitter for the night so her and her partner could have a date night. Don’t know how they found her but she was not stable enough to handle kids as full on as they were, she ended up drugging them with her anti psychotics and ADHD meds.

The parents got home a few hours later and realized something was very wrong.. they called emergency services and the kids had to be taken away in an ambulance and the girl was arrested and charged.

It made the news and was crazy as hell but the kids were okay but I have no idea how it turned out for the babysitter.”

10. Should have called…

“I didn’t call anyone, but should have.

I was watching a kid who was around 9 who told me his dad let him smoke cigarettes. I thought he was just saying it so that I would let him (I didn’t) but when the parents came home the kid told the dad I hadn’t let him smoke and the dad scolded me and gave his child a menthol.

He smoked full flavors, I suspect he got menthols literally because his 9 year old liked them better.

The mom is in prison now for some kind of fraud and the kids live with their much much older brother. I don’t know where the dad is.”

11. Fire department.

“I had to call the fire department once.

I was babysitting my neighbors three kids which I did frequently. There was a lit candle in the fireplace mantle. The cat jumped on the mantle and over the candle catching its long, fluffy tail on fire. It it’s understandable panic it set a curtain on fire.

With three screaming kids and a flaming cat as well as burning window dressing all I could do was rush everybody outside and call 911. The cat returned about a week later filthy, half bald and with some infection.

A vet visit fixed it up and the damage to the house was relatively minor, thank God. I continued to sit for them for another 3 years”

Do you have any weird babysitting stories?

If so, spill your guts in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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Teachers Talk About What Generation of Kids They Liked Teaching the Most

Oh, boy…

The times, they are a changin’…

Well, I guess the times are always changing, right?

And that’s especially true when it comes to kids. Every generation is unique and learns from the triumphs and mistakes of the ones before them…and teachers who stick around long enough see kids change a lot throughout the years.

Teachers of AskReddit talked about which generation of kids they’ve enjoyed teaching the most. Let’s take a look.

1. Mid-1990s.

“I have taught emotionally disturbed children for much of my career.

The kids I had 25 years ago would constantly fight with each other. The kids I had most recently made a habit of going after me and the parents always wanted to know what I did to provoke them.

Give me my mid-1990s kids any day! They loved me as their teacher and didn’t tolerate any disrespect towards me from their peers.”

2. Changes…

“Started teaching in 2002. All of that has been middle school. Grades 6-8 (Ages 11-14)

Biggest changes have been prevalence and reliance on screens and devices, but ultimately what kids want is acceptance. And most of them will seek it wherever it can be found easily, which is on a screen.

All I can really say is that I am incredibly grateful that Facebook and social media did not exist when I was a kid/teenager.”

3. Bad writers.

“I’m a philosophy professor and the only thing I’ve noticed is that the latest generation of students (zoomers?) are like, really really bad at writing. Like, obscenely.

Every other generation I’ve taught has been roughly the same, with different philosophical predilections, but for some reason everyone’s just really bad at writing now (let alone philosophy).”

4. It was a simpler time.

“I recently passed my 10 year mark, so I’ve taught 2000s and 2010s.

Biggest difference is the coursework. Man do schools (and parents) love to cram so much work into such little time. They like having something to “show” for their kids schooling. Gone are the days when we could explore and learn. Where we could discuss topics, or I could even read them non-curriculum books, or do fun experiments.

Oh, little Timmy is 4 years old? Better start learning to write upper and lowercase alphabet letters perfectly. But don’t give the kids pressure. And don’t take away play time if they can’t finish in the allotted 10 minutes. But make sure they finish on time and there aren’t mistakes or you (the teacher) will get reprimanded for it.

Also the parents. They used to think being a teacher was a noble and respected job. Now many tell me that they know more than me despite my education and experience.

And god forbid I tell them their child made a mistake or had a behavioural incident. Then I’m either lying, or the kid didn’t mean it so how could I dare ask them to receive any consequence for their actions.

Parents are constantly undermining teachers, and the schools will throw teachers under the bus to keep a child’s tuition any day.

I also work in a private school. So the more money a family has, usually the worser the parents/children.

I miss the 2000s. A simpler time.”

5. Good kids.

“I like the kids I teach now.

They are, for the most part, really peaceful. We have so few fights on campus.

They are really accepting. LGBTQ folks would have been beaten when I was a kid, now it’s no factor. General apathy and major boredom rule the campus, but my kids still get up to fun.”

6. Gen Z’ers.

“I love my Gen-Zs.

They know us Elder Millennials saw some sh*t, and they are happy to lean right into the complete Iliza Schlesinger bit that we’ll do about basically everything pre-2005.

They’ll call out stuff like “Tell us about floppy disks!” and “Tell us about dial-up!” and “What about Surge, ma’am?” and I just do my best Madam Razz impression (reboot, not original She-Ra, these are Gen-Zs,) tell them about these things, and then reveal -to amazed gasps- an actual can of post-revival Surge, for whatever student can write me the best 250 words about a controversy of 1980 through 1985 before I get back from the john.

I handed out seven cans of Surge this week just on this topic. My students are glorious. I also saw one of my colleagues, who coaches a sport, happily sitting down to a wonderful lunch she had packed herself, took out a can of Surge, opened it, smelled it, savored it, saw me noticing and “I know, I know, it’s so bad for you. But I haven’t had this since I was a kid!” and I said “Not judgin’ here, love!”

And she described how one of her kids gave it to her after first period as a present and how she’d been looking forward to it all day and I remembered that one of my best writers, one of our best student athletes, is both Type I diabetic and just the sweetest person.

So I stopped by the good grocery store and got a bit of sugar-free Ramune, the fanciest and most delicious kind, which shall be theirs.”

7. Big shifts.

“I’ve been teaching in the humanities at a pair of universities for 11 years.

My main observation is that students don’t want a “think” piece anymore, they want a “doing” piece.

This shift happened about 5 years in to my tenure. It was a real break in what the students expected, and I felt compelled to adapt to it.

So a syllabus is now less “let’s learn about and reflect on a framework” and more “I want to do this myself first, then maybe we’ll see if there’s a framework there worth talking about.”

This can actually be a really good thing. I’m kind of a phenomenologist myself so I’m more or less theoretically oriented to the idea of learning equally from the experience of one’s self and from the experience of others. And then critiquing, reflecting, and acting on those experiences as a perfectly legitimate basis for a lot of good things that can come next.

But on the other hand, no one wants to read any more. It’s all bullet points and takeaways, slide decks and checklists, “gotta juggle my five classes but also my three side hustles”.

It encourages a kind of faddish approach, and frankly almost psychopathic and disconnected. It’s not about learning, it’s about extracting. On the cynical side of things, one might conclude that the students want to be given the cheat sheet so they can perform to others that “they know.” Everyone wants to be “a leader.”

This can cut both ways. For the students to be primed to apply what they’ve learned as and whenever it arises has arguably more practical impact in practice, so that’s good. But on the other hand, I feel that something deeper here with the academic process is being lost and very deeply devalued.

And I’m not so confident about what higher education will look like in 15 years as a result, particularly in context of the corporatized profit model that is already pressuring the academy in general.

It’s like every subject has become an MBA. And we used to poke fun of those guys for being problem-solving droids happily operating in narrow little boxes of their own making.

So that’s one big shift.

The other big shift I feel I am living through as a teacher is the total diminution of the classical era. The 1960s, 70s, 80s and 90s had their fair share of prophets of radical socio-technological change. But it’s only really now in the post-truth social media bot and AI-content-warped world of literal augmented reality that it has finally come to be.

Our globalized world is so radically different now that Greeks, Romans, Renaissance and even early modernists are all just looking like a quaint bunch of vaguely charming and very embarrassing (“cringe”) Neanderthals. A restatement of origins like “Hamilton” is about as far back as anyone feels they’d ever need to bother looking.

I frequently imagine the great contrarian Nietzsche himself feeling sidelined as the aging and irrelevant hippy amidst a world that has rendered his protest against the human condition itself as anachronistic.

There’s a radical un-mooring from history taking place and, combined with the new approach to learning I describe above, it’s really hard to feel any confidence in where the eff it’s going to take us.

The trend feels very technocratic in direction. And while that can be an admirably evidence-driven form of politics (“trust the science” as Biden feels compelled to repeat, for instance), it can also very easily subordinate a lot of values, rights, and principles that don’t look any more compelling as a bunch of bullet points than anything else on the to-do list.”

8. 1990s kids.

“I’ve been teaching for 28 years. From elementary to high school.

I’ll take the children if the 90’s because cell phones didn’t distract the students and most parents didn’t try to blame the teachers on the failures of their child.”

9. Much easier these days.

“I like teaching NOW because we have a lot of technology that makes things easier.

No more grading tests by hand, or standing in line to run scan-trons.

Pretty sweet!”

10. More respectful now.

“I like them all.

But my favourite thing about this generation is that they are in general more respectful, polite and empathic.”

11. Mom’s POV.

“My mother taught 6 year olds in the 60s, 80s and 90s.

The kids didn’t change much but the paperwork, administration and social work got too much for her at the end. Kids coming to school not being fed, reeking of smoke and pot.

And parents went from being allies to some becoming outright hostile for their kids being given the slightest reprimand – like “Jheydenn, you didn’t help tidy up so you’ll need to wait for the other children to go play before you can go”. Oh and names.

Not cultural, but badly spelled and weird names like “Hastalavista” and “Fordescort”. She still loves running into her old kids, many of whom had children she taught, and some are now grandparents.”

12. Reflections of society.

“It’s difficult to compare generations, but I can tell you something students are a reflection of the society around them, and if I compare students I have a had to what I was like there is a dramatic difference which I put down to social change.

The two most dramatic differences that I notice are that students now are far more emotional sensitive, which can be a good, or bad thing, and far less independent of thought. Social media, more standardized testing, less real life difficulties, and more imagined ones all contribute to this.

When I was growing up in the 80s and 90s I never worried about my future, and I didn’t feel any pressure socially to conform. I was always encouraged by friends and society to think, act, and learn independently. There were no universal right answers, and very little outside expectations.

Now, I find students feel constantly under pressure to outcompete each other, attain artificial goals, and not offend anyone. For a long time I taught graduates basic academic skills because schools either ignored, or refused to teach basic rhetorical, discussion or argumentative skills.

It is my default setting to assume the current generation of students, cannot automatically play devils advocate, or challenge accepted viewpoints. They are constantly being forced to accept whichever sides argument is dominant, and seem conditioned to follow whoever they have told to follow. It is a frightening situation.

Also, artificial competition has hollowed out people’s lives. Growing up me and everyone I knew had interests and hobbies. I rarely find that now with young people. And the interest and hobbies people do have have changed.

When I ask people what they do in their free time, the number one answers are always, browse social media, shop, and meet up with friends to take photos for social media.

Actually, that is being generous, the most common answer I get is actually ‘nothing.’ Students at high school and university don’t even seem to be able to manage the old cliched ‘s*x, drugs, and rock’n’roll.’ Bravado that dominated my generation, and the generations for that. People don’t seem to have the time, or energy to even enjoy themselves now.

It must suck being young now, or at least that is what I was told.”

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People Talk About the Small Things Parents Do That Gives Their Kids Mental Health Issues Later in Life

I always feel very sorry for people who were raised by parents who didn’t have a whole lot of business being parents in the first place.

No one has any control over who their parents are and sometimes people just get stuck with moms and dads who really mess them up from a young age.

AskReddit users talked about the small things that moms and dads do that ended up giving their kids mental health issues later in life.

1. Keep your cool.

“Overreacting.

No matter what your kid tells you, keep it cool.

Otherwise they will be WAY less likely to come to you with problems.”

2. All good points.

“Ex-counselor here.

Not allowing ‘negative’ emotions like anger, jealousy, etc. Teach them those are normal, and what to do with your emotions.

Pressure to perform. Don’t try and make your kids something they’re not, especially if it’s what you wished you were.

Never letting them find the consequences of their mistakes. You might want to protect them, but you’re stopping them from learning how to avoid mistakes, and how to recover from them, and how to deal if other people make mistakes.

Not talking about awkward topics. S*x, bullying, addictions, masturbation, racism, cheating, classism, body image, etc aren’t often comfortable to talk about, but it’s important they learn from somewhere other than the internet.

Not dealing with and owning your own sh*t. We’ve all got problems, best to deal with it rather than perpetuate cycles. Find a therapist for yourself, and be open with your kid that you know, and you’re trying your best. It gives them space to learn grace and how to deal with their issues.”

3. DON’T.

“Don’t expect your kid to kiss the ground you walk on and see you as a god for providing food, clothes, and a roof. That’s literally the bare minimum required by law.

Don’t drill into their heads they owe you gratitude for giving them life. They didn’t have a choice in that matter.

Don’t treat them like a burden. Again it was your choice to have a child. Shouldn’t have become a parent if you couldn’t handle the responsibility

Don’t make your love conditional, only to be given when you deign it so. Not only is that cruel but it sets them up for failure in future relationships.”

4. Set boundaries.

“School psychologist here.

Not setting good boundaries or defining parent-child roles. There are a lot of parents who unintentionally reverse roles like confiding to their child about their adult problems or seeking too much comfort from their child. It can create a sense of responsibility within the child to take care of their parent and can lead to codependency and lack of boundaries in other relationships.

Also…for the love of God… don’t hit your kids, including spanking. At best it “doesn’t hurt” them. It is not supported in any research that it benefits your child. At worst it leads to a whole host of difficulties…including violence approval.”

5. Terrible idea.

“Making comments likes ‘wow, you got some chubs there bouncing on the trampoline’ to a 9 yo.

F*cking gave me an eating disorder and still dealing with body image issues.”

6. Gotta let it out.

“Crying.

Parents often say, “want something to cry about?”

And it may teach their kid that it’s bad to cry, and that bottling up emotions is good.”

7. That’s not good.

“My parents used to confide in me about things that were far above my emotional capacity at my age, and to them it may have seemed small, but it made me feel like I needed to take care of them and solve their issues when I was small.

They also seemed to pride themselves on never fighting in front of us, but because of that small thing we never learned how to peacefully resolve conflict or that disagreeing with someone isn’t something to be afraid of.”

8. Be present.

“Being inconsistent. Punished for something one time and the same behavior ignored another time.

Pay more attention to something else than the child… phone, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc.

Overreacting to small things, under react to big things.

One thing to do – be present and be loving. Discipline is a form of love. Punishment is not.”

9. Ugh.

“Telling little girls that are being bullied by boys “…it means they like you so be sweet and quiet and you might get a boyfriend.””

10. This is how you feel.

“Telling your child what they feel.

As a kid, your inclination is to believe them. It wasn’t until I was in my thirties that I realized that my mother had been doing this my whole life.

For the most part, it wasn’t much of an issue, but when it was…

One day it lit up in my brain while she was talking, and I asked her to stop telling me what I was thinking because it was interfering with my ACTUAL thoughts. She’d been telling me what a nervous driver I am, so of course I can’t do x and y and I have to blah blah. I realized that most of my “nervous driving” was me thinking “mom says I’m a nervous driver” not my actual nerves.

I actually like driving.

This was more of an adult example, but she’s done this my whole life. “You don’t like x, so I made sure to not have any in the house,” or “you like y, so I thought you’d like to be included in this day of activities,” whatever it is, it’s been mom telling me what I like or don’t like.

Meanwhile, she can’t remember her left from her right, and tends to think that something I liked ten years ago must still be my favorite. It’s undermining, disrespectful, and infantilizing. It trivializes my reality, and makes it difficult to form my own opinions.

I know all of this from experiencing it as a kid.”

11. Issues.

“I believe I was a child who had issues growing up:

I had a narcissistic, fiery tempered dad. I’ve had a glass ashtray amongst other objects thrown at my face. Had an object struck 2mm away from my pupil, causing my eyes to bleed… Regularly thrown out of the house together with my clothes at 2am till the neighbours came out. Caning until my skin bled is the norm. All this happened before I reached the age of 12.

But what really tore me apart was everyday, he would go out of his way to let me know that I’m a useless human and I shouldn’t be on earth anymore. I took his advise and secretly tried to poison myself a couple of times.

My parents doesn’t know about it till today. I grew up having no regards for my own life. I figured that since my life is useless, I might as well trade mine for someone else’s life. So I became a fireman.

But seeing all the depressing things that a fireman regularly sees is life-changing. I learned to recognize love and value of life.”

12. Don’t mess with their heads like that.

“I was young when my parents began confiding in me about their marriage.

They didn’t mean any harm – they were just venting – but it really made me uncomfortable messed with my head.”

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What’s an Underrated Ingredient to Go With Mac and Cheese? Here’s What People Said.

There are no two ways about it, mac and cheese is a delicious staple of the American diet and has been for a long time.

But when things got a little bland or overdone, what do you add to it to spice things up a little bit?

I don’t really get too adventurous except for occasionally putting a little bit of Crystal hot sauce in there to make things a little bit more interesting.

What do you think is an underrated third ingredient to go along with that delicious macaroni and cheese?

Here’s what AskReddit users had to say.

1. Do it!

“SMOKED PAPRIKA.

Once you discover smoked paprika finding new things you can add it to is the best.”

2. Spicy!

“Hatch chiles.

Green chile is actually underrated, unlike the other things here that are just rated.”

3. Yummy.

“Brisket.

Come to Kansas City.

All the barbecue places have Mac and cheese here.”

4. Boom!

“Hot Sauce.

Franks Red Hot and a little garlic powder is my perfect bowl of box mac.”

5. I like it!

“Old Bay seasoning. Do it.

Good morning, Baltimore!”

6. Do what you gotta do.

“Lobster Mac and cheese is fucking incredible.

But for us poors, black pepper is really nice.”

7. Okay, okay…

“I try a lot of weird mac & cheese combos (we call it Kraft dinner up here in Canada).

Here are my top 5:

  1. Butter chicken

  2. on french fries with cheese curds (a poutine of sorts)

  3. Chorizo

  4. Flaked tuna

  5. Wieners.”

8. I’ll try that.

“Broccoli.

Pretty much any dairy based pasta sauce can be improved with an addition of broccoli, especially jarred Alfredo sauce.”

9. Whoa!

“You mean besides the macaroni and the cheese?

Dry mustard powder.”

10. It’s healthy, right?

“Pesto

My favorite part is how it turns the macaroni green and I can convince myself it is now a vegetable and I am very healthy.”

11. Worth it.

“I sometimes put a can of Tuna in.

You get a bit of protein so it’s a little bit healthier, and it’s not too expensive.”

12. Very strange…

“Sliced apples on the side.

Now I know this is weird but hear me out. Apple sauce mixed into Kraft mac’n’cheese. I don’t think it works as well with other brands or homemade or anything. I’ve stopped doing it in favor of hot sauce but when I was little with applesauce was the only way I would eat it lol.

Try it and let me know how it is. My sister was the only person to actually give it a shot and she liked it, I haven’t heard of anyone else doing it tho.”

13. Now I’m hungry.

“Depends on what you want.

Need some crunch? Croutons, crackers, etc work wonders. Especially if they’re flavored/seasoned.

For meat. Bacon goes excellent. Or even some left over chicken if you have any.”

14. Umami bomb.

“Mushrooms – umami bomb incoming.

You can also try different types of mushrooms for varying textures, and prepare them differently for unique flavor combinations.

I love finishing off mushrooms in soy sauce.”

15. The lowdown.

“Tapatío for when you want the burn.

Sriracha for when you want to thin out the sauce a little.

Frank’s/Sweet Baby Ray’s for when you want the sauce creamy.”

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A Man Asked if He Was Wrong for Telling Stepdaughter to Stop Using Period Products Because of Teenage Sons? People Responded.

This sounds like it could have possibly been an episode of The Brady Bunch…but maybe a little bit later, like in the ’90s.

Combining families always leads to some tricky situations and here’s another example.

A man asked people on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page if he was wrong for having a conversation with his stepdaughter about a touchy subject.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for telling my stepdaughter to stop using period products in the bathroom she shares with my teenage sons?

“I have been living with my new wife and stepdaughter for about 6 months now. She’s 19, almost 20, and I have three sons aged 18, 16 and 15. She’s a really good kid and she’s a good influence on my sons, I really enjoy having her around.

My wife and her daughter moved into my house and sold theirs. My stepdaughters father isn’t present in her life, nor is my sons’ mother. All four children share a bathroom.

My sons have never lived for a long period of time with a woman, nor have any of them had long term girlfriends. They had short visitation periods when they were younger but never longer than an hour, so living with two women has been unusual for them.

My eldest son, 18, came to me last week and told me that his stepsister disposes of her used sanitary products in the trash can they share, but doesn’t use toilet roll or sandwich bags to disguise what they are, and it makes him uncomfortable which I think is reasonable. My sons are teenage boys and don’t want to see their stepsisters period products on full display.

A few nights ago I went into the kitchen to grab a snack and she was there doing some work for university. My wife had mentioned that she knew she was on her period so I took it as an opportunity to have a word with her. I told her my sons were uncomfortable and asked her if she’d mind putting her used products in diaper bags or flushing them down the toilet.

She laughed and told me it was rich coming from a man who “sheds like a gorilla” and has produced “three skid marking sons” which I thought was just an unnecessary attack. I’ve been nothing but nice to the girl and it’s hardly a comparison. My sons shouldn’t be subjected to her unhygienic products if it makes them uncomfortable.

She went on to lecture me about how tampons can’t be flushed and that it’s bad for the environment if she uses diaper bags for every one which I think is just an excuse. I called her a scruff and told her that this was my house and that what I say goes.

I later asked my wife if she could have a word with her and she told me I was being ridiculous and that her daughter has had her period for ten years and knows what she’s doing. When I told her it was making my sons uncomfortable she said my sons needed to get a grip and turned over and went to sleep.

This is a genuine issue to me and she didn’t care enough to have a discussion about it. I asked my stepdaughter again in the morning and she did the same as her mother, completely dismissed it. Both of them have told me to stop being so silly but I don’t see how I’m being unreasonable when it makes my sons uncomfortable.

AITA?”

You know that the good folks of Reddit were going to have something to say about this!

This person said that the stepfather was an *sshole, no doubt about it.

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Another reader said that it’s up to the man to have a talk with his sons about menstruation. Plain and simple.

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This individual said that this guy needs to get over it and do the right thing. Don’t be a jerk about it!

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Another Reddit user remarked that the man’s behavior is definitely s*xist and that he should really be ashamed of himself.

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And finally, this reader said that this guy is definitely an *sshole and that it’s just a part of life. Get with the times, man!

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In the comments, tell us what you think about this father’s actions.

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A Parent From a Wealthy Neighborhood Asked if They’re a Jerk for Ruining Halloween for Less Wealthy Families

Halloween is a night for kids to run wild and have fun with their friends…but, as you know, there’s always bound to be some kind of wrench thrown into the works whenever parents get involved.

And this parent asked if they were wrong for making Halloween not a festive night, but a real downer for a bunch of kids from another part of town.

Let’s see what they had to say and how people on Reddit reacted to the story.

AITA? for ruining thousands of kids’ Halloween and not feeling bad about it?

“I live in a large neighborhood, about 90 houses. We are what’s considered the ‘rich’ neighborhood. So our neighborhood as always been a hotspot for trick or treaters.

We used to get about 700 – 1000 kids a year, I’ve always loved getting trick or treaters because my kids are teens now and don’t trick or treat anymore. But in the last four years, it’s gotten ridiculous.

There’s thousands of kids and their parents flooding the streets, people with hay in their rigs carrying kids around, trampling yards, littering candy wrappers everywhere, and the amount of small children walking around by themselves is APPALLING. People from the neighboring town of 30,000 people take their kids to my neighborhood.

I was annoyed, but I never really did anything about it till two years ago. My daughter tripped and broke her arm (we didn’t think it was a break but we wanted to go to the er anyway to get it checked out) and there were so many people in our neighborhood, we couldn’t get out.

There were cars everywhere, lining the streets, parked in people’s yards, it was horrible. We had to wait until everyone left (about 1 am) to go to the hospital. My daughter had to wait in pain for HOURS.

At that point, I was done. I contacted the neighborhood community and we managed to get some folks (cops mostly) to stand the at the gate with a list and only let in certain people. (folks that live here, family members, friends)

If you wanted to get in, you had to be close to someone in the neighborhood. It was great, there were only about 300 kids in the neighborhood and after there was barely any trash. And, we’re doing it again this year.

I recently told my sister what I have done, and she got really angry. When we were kids, we had to trick or treat in other neighborhoods because we lived in a trailer park with no other kids. She told me I was a horrible person for ruining thousands of kids Halloween.

But honestly, I’m not too broken up about it. It was a hazard, if there was a fire or an emergency, no one would be able to get in to help. When I was a kid, there was never any cars lining the streets, the residences could get out if they wanted, it was never dangerous.

I don’t think I’m in the wrong, but I’ve always respected my sister’s opinion. AITA?”

Hmmmmm…

This Reddit user said that the parent is not wrong in the situation and that she took this action because were clearly not behaving.

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Another person said they deal with a similar situation on Halloween where they live, but with one big difference: there’s no littering and destruction.

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This reader said that the neighborhood the person is talking about is clearly not set up for these kinds of crowds and that it’s a safety issue.

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Another Reddit user said a similar situation happens in a neighborhood by them and it’s just too busy and crowded.

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Finally, one person said they think that this parent is being a bit of an *sshole and they shouldn’t ruin kids having a good time just because their parents are incompetent and disrespectful.

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A Woman for Advice After She Found Out Someone Tried on Her Wedding Dress in Secret

Do you want a life tip that could potentially save you some major drama?

Never, EVER, touch a woman’s wedding dress. EVER.

I didn’t think there would be a whole lot of gray area about this, but a woman took to Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page to ask if she was wrong for getting all fired up because she found out that not one, but TWO other people tried on her wedding dress…

Let’s see what went down.

AITA For demanding my fiancé and his mom to pay for a new wedding dress?

“Me 26F and my fiancé 28M been engaged for 4 months, we’re planning on having our wedding on October 18th.

My future mother in law kept annoying me and sending me suggestions for choosing the right wedding dress, and said that she knew better and tried to get me to approve of wedding dresses that she chose and when she couldn’t enforce her decision she demanded that I take her with me to buy my wedding dress so she could have an opinion.

Before I went shopping I called her to ask if she wanted to come but started making excuses about how busy she was with my sister in law, I went shopping with my mom and I was able to find a really nice dress although it cost me a little over what I saved up for, but it was worth it.

I made some changes to it and it was perfect, it arrived to my apartment at the end of the week, I made sure it was stored in a safe place so it doesn’t get ruined.

Yesterday, I got back from my mom’s house, and found that my fiancé wasn’t home neither was the dress, I called him immediately knowing that he must’ve taken it to show it to his mom since she continuously asked to see it and refused to have me send her pictures of it on Facebook.

I was so mad when it was confirmed that my fiancé took it to show it to his mom, he said he was gonna be home in 30 minutes after he went to the supermarket I waited for longer than I had to and then when he arrived I ran to get my dress that was buried underneath grocery bags.

I took it to check on it and it’s zipper was broken and the dress itself (fabric) was stretched out, I was like what the f*ck happened to it, my mother in law must’ve tried it on, because it looked ruined, the straps were almost loose.

I had to call my mother in law when my fiancé told me his mom and sister took turns to try it on, I was absolutely livid, she told me she did nothing wrong and that I was making a big deal out of it.

She said she’d get a replacement for the broken zipper, but I told her to pay for a new dress since it was stretched out and no longer fitting, she refused and said that I probably wasn’t happy with my dress choice and wanted to her to pay so I could get a new one.

I yelled at her for trying it on and ruining it, that she and my fiancé were responsible for ruining my dress so they should pay for a new one, It’s done, no longer fitting, the straps are in a horrible condition, my mom said she’d pay for fixing it but I just hate it now that someone else wore it before me.

I’m mad at both of them and seriously considering postponing the wedding.”

Uh oh…that was a terrible idea.

Let’s see what people had to say.

This person stated the obvious: her fiancé and his family were way, way out of line on this one.

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The Reddit user was pretty mystified by the whole situation. I mean, who does something like this?

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Another person said that this is, in fact, a big deal, contrary to what her finacé says about the situation.

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An individual made no bones about the way they feel: she needs to dump this guy ASAP.

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Finally, this person also suggested that the woman shouldn’t marry this fella and that his family is and always will be a major headache.

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