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A Man Asked if He’s Wrong for Giving Son’s College Fund to Best Friend Instead of Nephew? People Weighed In.

I can’t say I’ve ever heard a story like this one…

But that’s the beauty of Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page!

You get to read all kinds of stories about problems and dilemmas that folks are having.

And we think you’ll find this one quite interesting…let’s take a look…

AITA for giving my deceased son’s college fund to his best friend instead of my nephew?

“This has been causing a conflict with my entire family. And they think that I’m being selfish and unreasonable. Let me explain first.

I M39 lost my son in 2019 due to a chronic heart condition. He was 15 years old. It was devastating and I just couldn’t take it especially when my family did little to nothing to support me during these difficult times. They didn’t bring my son meals when he was at the hospital.

They didn’t let me go home and rest even for a few hours. They didn’t take care of other things while I had a lot to deal with I wasn’t offered any help just words. They’d just talk but do nothing.

Despite the struggle. I’ve created an account for my son’s college fund and kept putting whatever I could get at the time and me and my son would talk about that a lot. He was depressed but always believed that he was going to get better and continue his education and attend college.

I started saving money To keep him motivated and to make him feel like he could be like any other kid with hopes for a good future. He had a very close friend that’s about the same age as him.

They were friends for 5 years, and I can’t express how his presence in my son’s life helped him through the worst days, sometimes his friend would spend the night with us and try to get my son to do activities and lighten up his mood all the time. To be frank his friend was closer to him than his own family.

He never stopped visiting and asking how I’m doing after my son’s death. He’d show me handmade projects he made for my son and as a way to remember him and we’d sometimes just sit and talk together or cry together.

Last week, while I was with my family my sister asked me what I was going to do with my son’s college money. I didn’t wanna mention this but since she asked I told her that I will be giving the money to my son’s friend. She barely even recognized his friend and was confused and said that my nephew deserves this money since he’s family.

My mom agreed that I wasn’t thinking straight and that I should help the people close to me-family and that my nephew has a right to go to college and I was wrong for giving this “opportunity” away to someone else.

I didn’t know what to say they kept pointing out that I was making a mistake and how my nephew will resent me if he finds out. Thing is my nephew wasn’t close to my son I don’t even know why he’d be bothered. My sister went on about not being able to afford my nephew’s college I told her this was my decision and I felt more comfortable that way.

She started lashing out, constantly texting me constantly wanting to talk to me and ending up arguing. When I snapped she had my mom calling me basically guilt tripping me and telling me I’m wrong and that I needed to think about this.

It’s just too much pressure and I’m feeling lost and unable to figure out how to deal with this.”

Here’s what folks on Reddit had to say about this.

This person made a good point: it’s up to people to do whatever they want with their OWN money.

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This Reddit user agreed that the man can do whatever he wants with HIS OWN MONEY.

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This individual said that this whole situation seems a little bit morbid and that the other folks in the story are way out of line.

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A Reddit user said that the man was not wrong in this situation and that what he’s doing is the right thing.

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And this person made no bones about it: the man’s family members seem pretty terrible.

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Is This Single Mom a Jerk for Saying That Daughter Inherits House “No Matter What”? Here’s What People Said.

Things in life can seem just fine until money or property is involved. You know what I’m saying, right?

And that’s why this story obviously touched a nerve for the woman who wrote it. It concerns her house that she eventually wants to give to her daughter…but now there’s a man involved…

Check out this story from Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page.

AITA for saying that my daughter inherits my house “no matter what”?

“I’m a single mom in my 50s with one daughter. I got very lucky in that I bought a home in the Bay Area nearly 30 years ago for around $230K before the tech boom and now the house is worth about $1M.

I have a 23 year old daughter Camila who grew up in that house and she moved out last year to go live with her boyfriend. I’ve never explicitly told my daughter “the house will be yours” nor has she asked anything about it, but just sort of common sense – that’s my daughter. Who else would I give it to?

One important note – There are 2 homes in the neighborhood that are owned by lower middle class people (me and a neighbor who’s been here as long as I have). Otherwise, our neighbors are engineers and software developers. The Bay Area is simply un-affordable if you’re not in tech. My daughter is a hair stylist.

My fiance Steven and I have been together for 2 years. He has 2 young children (elementary school) he has joint custody of who I adore and I’m excited to help raise them. Steven and I don’t have a ton in the bank so a pre-nup seemed silly if it weren’t for the house.

I told him that I’m ready to combine finances and plan long term with him, but I wanted a pre-nup agreement just for the house. It’s a non-negotiable for me that my daughter inherits the house. He wasn’t happy with this. He said that $1M split 3 ways is enough for all 3 kids to get a headstart in life.

I disagree, I paid 80% of the mortgage by myself and Camila is my only child. She can have her dream life (working as a hair stylist, living in the Bay Area) with this house but will be unhappy (have to move out to a less desirable area) if it’s split.

I spoke to Camila about this and she agrees that she should get the house and said she always planned on inheriting it, just like I always planned on giving it to her.”

Readers shared their opinions about this conundrum.

This person said that she’s only been with this guy for two years and that his demanding part of the house is totally absurd.

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Another reader said that the woman needs to talk to an attorney ASAP to figure the situation out.

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This person pointed out that she needs to put her daughter’s name on the property as well. You have to cover your bases when it comes to this kind of stuff…

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This individual talked about how important prenups are how it has to be written in stone. You gotta be careful with this stuff!

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This reader said that the woman bought the house long before this Steven character was in the picture…and that it’s kind of presumptuous for him to think that he and his kids would get a piece of the action after they’ve only been together for two years.

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Finally, a Reddit user talked about how the woman needs to give the whole thing to her daughter because she did all the hard work and living in the Bay Area is EXPENSIVE, so everything should go to her daughter.

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Okay, now it’s your turn to weigh in.

Tell us what you think about this situation. And be honest with us!

We can’t wait to hear from you!

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Is This Single Mom a Jerk for Saying That Daughter Inherits House “No Matter What”? Here’s What People Said.

Things in life can seem just fine until money or property is involved. You know what I’m saying, right?

And that’s why this story obviously touched a nerve for the woman who wrote it. It concerns her house that she eventually wants to give to her daughter…but now there’s a man involved…

Check out this story from Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page.

AITA for saying that my daughter inherits my house “no matter what”?

“I’m a single mom in my 50s with one daughter. I got very lucky in that I bought a home in the Bay Area nearly 30 years ago for around $230K before the tech boom and now the house is worth about $1M.

I have a 23 year old daughter Camila who grew up in that house and she moved out last year to go live with her boyfriend. I’ve never explicitly told my daughter “the house will be yours” nor has she asked anything about it, but just sort of common sense – that’s my daughter. Who else would I give it to?

One important note – There are 2 homes in the neighborhood that are owned by lower middle class people (me and a neighbor who’s been here as long as I have). Otherwise, our neighbors are engineers and software developers. The Bay Area is simply un-affordable if you’re not in tech. My daughter is a hair stylist.

My fiance Steven and I have been together for 2 years. He has 2 young children (elementary school) he has joint custody of who I adore and I’m excited to help raise them. Steven and I don’t have a ton in the bank so a pre-nup seemed silly if it weren’t for the house.

I told him that I’m ready to combine finances and plan long term with him, but I wanted a pre-nup agreement just for the house. It’s a non-negotiable for me that my daughter inherits the house. He wasn’t happy with this. He said that $1M split 3 ways is enough for all 3 kids to get a headstart in life.

I disagree, I paid 80% of the mortgage by myself and Camila is my only child. She can have her dream life (working as a hair stylist, living in the Bay Area) with this house but will be unhappy (have to move out to a less desirable area) if it’s split.

I spoke to Camila about this and she agrees that she should get the house and said she always planned on inheriting it, just like I always planned on giving it to her.”

Readers shared their opinions about this conundrum.

This person said that she’s only been with this guy for two years and that his demanding part of the house is totally absurd.

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Another reader said that the woman needs to talk to an attorney ASAP to figure the situation out.

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This person pointed out that she needs to put her daughter’s name on the property as well. You have to cover your bases when it comes to this kind of stuff…

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This individual talked about how important prenups are how it has to be written in stone. You gotta be careful with this stuff!

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This reader said that the woman bought the house long before this Steven character was in the picture…and that it’s kind of presumptuous for him to think that he and his kids would get a piece of the action after they’ve only been together for two years.

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Finally, a Reddit user talked about how the woman needs to give the whole thing to her daughter because she did all the hard work and living in the Bay Area is EXPENSIVE, so everything should go to her daughter.

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Okay, now it’s your turn to weigh in.

Tell us what you think about this situation. And be honest with us!

We can’t wait to hear from you!

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This Dad Gave His Kids a Major Reality Check When It Came to an Inheritance. Was He Wrong?

Sometimes kids need a HUGE reality check. And who better to give it to them than their parents?

And that’s exactly what this father did when he decided to teach his two adult children a lesson about working and making money.

But now he’s having some second thoughts and thinks he might have been too harsh…

Let’s see what he had to say on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page…

AITA for telling my kids that they aren’t getting a penny from me when I die if they don’t shape up?

“I (57M) have two kids, N(30M) and A(27F). N works part-time flipping burgers, but insists his real job is as a gaming streamer.

A claims she’s a ‘professional’ influencer, her livelihood supported by her bf. My kids are adults, what they do with their lives is their choice. We’ve had several arguments about it, but ultimately, as adults, the responsibility for their lives is their own.

Over Christmas, we were talking about their mother (on zoom) when A brought up the subject of her will, wondering if she’d left anything to them. I confessed that she passed before ever writing one, and the money she did have was used up the year she passed.

We were a dual-income family in a time when neither of us were making a lot. It was a hard time. Eventually, I joined a friend in the private sector and my fortune changed. I’m not ‘rich’, but I’ll never be uncomfortable again.

Well, N then decided to ‘lighten the mood’ by implying that I’ll make up for it when I pass. I asked him what he meant, and the conversation went as followed:

Me: What do you mean?

N: Well, you have a lot of money, right? It’ll go to us.

Me: And who told you that?

A: What do you mean?

Me: I’ve made it very clear that I don’t approve of the way you both live. You both chose not to get an education or real jobs. You have no way of supporting yourself. (I often buy them groceries).

You refuse to help yourselves, so why would I enable your ‘lifestyles’ by leaving you my savings when I die? You want my money, then grow up and get real jobs, but the bank of dad will be forever closed when dad is forever closed.

What followed was a heated argument where both N and A accused me of being manipulative and unsupportive, so I got real with them.

Me: You both refuse to grow up. Flipping burgers is an honourable job, but it’s not going to keep a roof over your head. What if you have kids? What if you get fired? And (A), what will you do if your boyfriend breaks up with you because all you do is sit on your *ss all day and take photos of yourself?

You want to do that, find a modelling agency. A real job. You both speak of chasing your dreams, but neither one of you are in any position to do that because neither of you wants to take responsibility for yourselves right now. I’ve said it a million times. You’re adults.

What you do with your lives is your choice and your responsibility. Dreams take money, and neither of you have that. Grow up. Get a job. A real job. Then chase your dreams. I’m not going to leave a penny to either of you if your life plan is to ‘get by’ until I die, then coast through the rest of your lives off the earnings of my hard work.

N ended the call after a prolonged silence. A called me an AH then did the same. I haven’t heard from either since, and neither will take my calls.

So, AITA here? I think I might be because I was unnecessarily harsh on Christmas.”

Let’s see how folks on Reddit responded…

This person said that this dad is not in the wrong in any way, shape, or form because that money is all his and he earned it.

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Another reader said that his kids really need to grow up and get serious because he’s only 57-years-old and has a lot of living left to do.

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This Reddit user talked about how this man’s kids are totally unrealistic and he did the right thing by putting them in their place.

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A reader said that he can relate to this guy’s situation because his brother is totally irresponsible when it comes to money and work.

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Finally, this person said that everyone is to blame in this situation.

And dad should have made his kids realize this is how it was gonna be a looong time ago.

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Do you think this dad went overboard in his actions or was he doing the right thing?

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