People Share the Ways You Might be Able to Tell Someone Is a Genuinely Good Person

People are good at acting like they’re nice and normal but the truth is, there are plenty of people who are really good at faking it.

If you’re watching closely, though, sometimes you can pick up on the little things – like these 14 specific acts – that can tell you exactly who you’re really dealing with.

14. The extra mile.

Once I was telling this guy a story.

He was listening with all his attention. 2/3 of the way through I realized I had already told it to him and asked him why he didn’t stop me.

He said “you were having so much fun telling it”. That is an extra nice person.

I felt a bit foolish but he made me feel like he just genuinely cared.

13. Because someone has to pick it up.

If they are working on something and drop small trash (bits of paper, tape) they pick it up and throw it away

12. Trusting other people not to be awful, too.

Not stealing money you find.

A lot of people in my family have found decent amounts of cash that people have misplaced and returned it. I just would feel terrible if I lost up to a paycheck in cash and someone just swiped it.

My cousin, when he was a preteen, lost his wallet in Walmart and it had the money in it to buy him a Nintendo Wii or something when they were brand new.

My uncle had basically told him too bad, so sad. And when they got home, my aunt was so livid with my uncle. She drove back to the store with my cousin and Walmart made an announcement and the wallet and all the cash was returned.

11. People who do this are jerks.

They don’t ruin your jokes.

And that’s a big one.

10. Be inclusive.

In social settings, they notice when someone is kinda left out and they find a way to include that person in the conversation or whatever fun is being had.

I remember when I went out with my older sister and her friends once when I was about 15. I was pretty shy and quiet. They were all chatting about other friends and in-jokes but one of her best friends would keep taking a few seconds to explain the background to these stories or jokes to me.

It was a small thing but it brought me into the group instead of sitting and listening to a bunch of stuff I didn’t ‘get’.

I endeavor to do the same whenever a new person is in a group with me now.

9. That’s definitely someone you want to keep on your good side.

My friend sends thank you notes to their dentist.

8. Especially if it needs to stay cold.

If they decide they don’t want to buy something, they put it back where they found it instead of just leaving on a shelf somewhere else.

7. And also makes the interruptor feel like a douche.

When in groups, someone interrupts you, and after they finish, that good person says ”X, you were saying?” showing genuine interest and compassion for getting interrupted.

6. Or in any parking lot.

When they find the credit card that slipped out of your pocket in a shady parking lot, they go out of their way to find you and return it.

5. Moments to live for.

They look engaged when you speak to them, and are patient if you’re struggling to explain something.

I’m so used to feeling like I have to “sell” my conversation points to hold anyone’s attention that someone actually asking me to expand more on my thoughts really takes me off guard.

4. Because what’s the hurry?

When you’re walking together and someone is slower, they match that person’s pace and wait if a crosswalk is ticking down until the next cycle.

It’s amazing how few people will do this, and how many will simply keep going, not noticing that someone else has fallen behind.

3. They’re comfortable with themselves.

When conflict arises, they seek peace by being introspective.

In addition, they seek to resolve the dispute directly with that person as opposed to gossiping or triangulating.

2. A bottom line.

The shopping cart is the ultimate litmus test for whether a person is capable of self-governing.

To return the shopping cart is an easy, convenient task and one which we all recognize as the correct, appropriate thing to do. To return the shopping cart is objectively right. There are no situations other than dire emergencies in which a person is not able to return their cart. Simultaneously, it is not illegal to abandon your shopping cart.

Therefore the shopping cart presents itself as the apex example of whether a person will do what is right without being forced to do it. No one will punish you for not returning the shopping cart, no one will fine you or kill you for not returning the shopping cart, you gain nothing by returning the shopping cart. You must return the shopping cart out of the goodness of your own heart. You must return the shopping cart because it is the right thing to do. Because it is correct.

A person who is unable to do this is no better than an animal, an absolute savage who can only be made to do what is right by threatening them with a law and the force that stands behind it.

The Shopping Cart is what determines whether a person is a good or bad member of society.

1. Sometimes that’s just muscle memory, but still.

They clean up the table to make it as easy as possible for a waiter/ waitress.

I’m definitely going to be keeping my eyes open from now on, just in case.

And maybe I’ll try to do a few of these acts myself. You know, just for some extra points if I need them some day.

What traits do you look for? Share those with us in the comments!

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People Share the Ways You Can Tell if Someone Is a Good Person

We all have our litmus tests for deciding whether the people in our lives are actually good people. Do they do charity work, are they good parents, loving children, the sort of neighbor who would feed your cats when you’re away?

There aren’t reliable ways, though, right? Things that work for every person in more than one scenario?

Maybe not 100%, but people say these 15 very specific things are as reliable a tip-off as any.

15. No talking behind the back.

I know my boss is a good person because he’s never said anything mean about a rude client or competitive business.

It’s always, “those guys do awesome work, that guy is just the best man”.

14. There are people who don’t do this?

They wait for you when you bend down to tie your shoes.

13. Even bugs.

How they treat animals when no one is looking.

Especially stray animals and wildlife.

12. Litterers are the worst.

They keep the trash with them until they find a dustbin.

11. That’s extra!

They pick up nails, screws or sharp objects they come across from the parking lot or road so people don’t get flat tires.

10. They pay attention.

I grew up in the Midwest and eventually moved to a bigger coastal city. I never really noticed how much friendlier people were in the Midwest until I visited after a couple years of being away.

I was walking around downtown trying to find a certain address when a random person walked up to me and asked if I needed help.

That’s when it really struck me how different the culture was where I grew up compared to where I moved.

Those types of people are the best.

9. I am so bad at this.

Someone who remembers a tiny detail about your life or something you like and brings it up in convo much later on.

8. They make room for you.

When someone noticed you were going to talk in a group but get cut off then later they say “you were about to say something, right?”

7. Those are good people skills.

When in a group of people walking, they make sure nobody gets left behind by spacing themselves between the leaders and the stragglers and keeping an eye on both.

6. Just checking in.

Sticking around and showing up when your friend is in a bad way– even if they have been in a bad way from a long time.

You don’t have to cook them food every night. But check in so they know you care about them.

After experiencing a tragedy, I realized how fair weather the majority of the people I had in my life were. It doesn’t make me angry so much as sad and disillusioned.

5. Definitely better than the opposite.

They say good things about people behind their backs.

4. This is my favorite personality trait.

They can admit when they are wrong about something without getting angry or defensive.

3. Not having to ask is heaven.

Quietly helping you with stuff without prompting/asking for help.

2. That was unexpected.

When a person can set a positive environment.

Unnecessary anecdote: Once my friends and I were playing a drinking game (kings) where you had to make up rules that are normally supposed to make people a little uncomfy.

That night, my sweet friend set a rule that you have to give a compliment before each turn… 20 people ended up crying, supporting each other, and reminding everyone of their worth.

That’s a good person, and that goes down as my favorite college memory.

1. It doesn’t have to be their thing.

Even if they don’t quite understand or relate to a topic you brought up, they ask follow up questions. Bonus points if they don’t seem particularly interested in the topic, but they still remain invested in the conversation since you’re excited to talk about it.

It always flusters me when I’ve accidentally bored someone or stalled conversation, so the fact that some try to keep it running to avoid awkward silence feels really sweet to me.

I have to say, I think I agree with most of these!

Do you have a short list of ways to tell who you’re dealing with? Share them in the comments!

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