The data from the May 2021 American…

The data from the May 2021 American Perspectives Survey indicates a decrease in the significance of friendships in American social life. Americans are reporting having fewer close friends, communicating with them less frequently, and seeking less support from them. Furthermore, the survey found that over 10% of Americans have no close friends and this trend […]

Cruel Secrets People Overheard From People They Thought Were Their Friends

It’s always disappointing to hear something from someone you thought was a friend that seems to betray that notion.

It can also be severely troubling to just discover something about a friend that you weren’t supposed to know. How do you deal with that? What do you do? Are the dynamics that defined the relationship up until now just broken or is there opportunity to turn this into something more positive?

That’s the sort of question that the people behind these real confessions were grappling with.

10. It was nothing

It can be so difficult to know what truly lies beneath.

Source: Whisper

9. Unavailable

Well, make up your mind then.

Source: Whisper

8. They were my bros

I’ll never understand why this kind of trash talk takes off.

Source: Whisper

7. Is it me?

The sort of thing that breeds deep insecurity that’s hard to be rid of.

Source: Whisper

6. Coming out

Sounds like you need to make a new group of friends.

Source: Whisper

5. A thing for me

What exactly does one do with such information?

Source: Whisper

4. What do I do

Why would you enter into such a conspiracy?

Source: Whisper

3. Sucks at talking

To be fair, so do I.

Source: Whisper

2. Into me

Well, what’s to get?

Source: Whisper

1. My so called friend

Seems like it’s only a matter of time before somebody will need to call the cops on that guy.

Source: Whisper

Tough all around. Remember that a toxic friendship isn’t one worth holding onto, there are better things out there.

Have you had an experience like this?

Tell us about it in the comments.

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Times When People Overheard Savage Things Their Best Friends Said

Have you ever overheard something that really changed everything?

Something you weren’t supposed to know, and now that you do you’re not sure what to do with it? Something that, maybe, you wish you hadn’t heard?

It’s a tough position to be in. Or sometimes weird. Or sometimes just hilarious, or a combination of all three.

Let’s hear from a few folks who found themselves in exactly that sort of situation.

10. But weight, there’s more

Cool, great to know that people really have your back.

Source: Whisper

9. Like, like

Well then why are they all your friends?

Source: Whisper

8. The ugliest thing

Well, he’s the ugliest thing I’ve ever heard.

Source: Whisper

7. Shoe, don’t bother me

What kind of insecurity do you have to have in order to find this a worthwhile pastime?

Source: Whisper

6. They were laughing

Cool way to lose business, idiots.

Source: Whisper

5. Twice a month

That sounds…like super duper not a big deal?

Source: Whisper

4. Elf ears

These things can stick with us forever.

Source: Whisper

3. Easy going

Yup, that’s a cool way to indicate you’re no worth dating.

Source: Whisper

2. Self-protection

And how many of them were also lying?

Source: Whisper

1. Squad goals

But…I’ve paid all my squad dues!

Source: Whisper

It’s shattering realizing that someone you thought you could trust doesn’t have your interests in mind. Be kind to each other. Even when you’re not in earshot.

Have you had an experience like this?

Tell us about it in the comments.

Thanks, fam!

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Nice Tweets About Best Friends Being Besties

When Harry Nilsson wanted to tell us about his best friend, he did so through song, and he expressed his feelings thusly:

People, let me tell you ’bout my best friend
He’s a warm-hearted person who’ll love me to the end
People let me tell you ’bout my best friend
He’s a one-boy, cuddly toy
My up, my down, my pride and joy

I think we should probably bring back the use of “one-boy cuddle toy” as a general signal of affection, but I don’t know if we’ve all got time to write entire bouncy songs about our friends these days, so instead, we use stuff like these tweets.

Let’s take a look!

10. Coming through

Come on, ya still gotta let them eat cake.

9. Brain meld

We don’t even have to speak, but when we do, it’s magic.

8. Words of encouragement

You are the alpha. You are the omega. The one that is and is to come.

7. I dare you

Oh, things are about to get spicy in here.

6. Petty much right

Oh yeah, it’s all coming together.

5. Take a break

This is a totally healthy and normal approach to relationships, right guys?

4. Hour by hour

Wait, do you mean to tell me that people still have, like, phone calls?

3. Ex-cellent

No, sir. I am here to protect you from yourself. You’re coming with me.

2. We’re on the case

This mystery will be wrapped up quick.

1. Sole mates

We are together in victory and da feet.

 

A good friend tweet is worth a thousand songs.

How would you describe your best friend?

Give it a whirl in the comments.

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A Woman Asked If She’s Wrong to Take a Spare Key Back From Friend She Found Snooping in Her House

I have friends who’ve given people spare keys before to let out their dog and they later found out that the person they trusted had been digging around their house while they were gone.

That’s just a huge NO-NO in my book, so I wasn’t surprised when they took the keys away from their s0-called friends and those relationships definitely suffered because of it.

A woman took to Reddit’s “Am I the Asshole?” thread and asked the folks on that forum to ask if she was wrong for taking a spare key away from her friend who she unexpectedly surprised in her own home.

Read the story below and we’ll see you on the other side to discuss this situation.

AITA for taking away my friend’s spare key after she went into my house without permission from AmItheAsshole

First of all, I’m not really sure I even believe her story about trying to find her necklace. Secondly, what consenting adults choose to do in their own homes in no one’s business.

People on Reddit had a lot of thoughts about this story.

This reader definitely did not think that she was in the wrong and believes that the whole situation seems a little…fishy…

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Another person responded that her “friend” who had the spare key broke the sacred bond of trust and that no one should ever snoop around another person’s home.

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Another commenter recommended changing the locks ASAP…which is a pretty good idea.

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Here’s another take: this reader seems to think that the whole interaction was set up to be an intervention about the homeowner’s lifestyle choices.

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And finally, this person believes that the woman who used to have the spare key needs to apologize and atone for her discretions or else the friendship should be terminated.

Photo Credit: Reddit

What do you think?

Was her friend way out of line or did this woman overreact a little bit to her friend who is concerned about her?

Let us know what you think in the comments, please!

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People Open up About How They Knew Someone Was Obsessed With Them in an Unhealthy Way

I’ve had people tell me about getting stalked by people who became obsessed with them and it is downright scary.

For some folks, a switch just flips and they become infatuated with people to such an unhealthy degree that something needs to be done about it.

Has this ever happened to you?

Here are some pretty creepy stories from AskReddit users about when they realized someone was obsessed with them in an unhealthy way.

1. Really creepy.

“I was bartending at a local hole in the wall and I had a regular that was nice & flirty (typical bartender/customer stuff). One day he says to me “You were at John’s* house Sunday morning. You guys a thing?”

I asked him how he knew I was there & he said he saw my car. I was a little taken aback but I was parked on the main road & my car was fairly distinctive, so I didn’t think much of it. A couple weeks later he’d made a joke that I was never home, cos my car was always gone when he passed by.

That made the hair on my neck stand up, but again I don’t exactly live off of the beaten path, so ok. When I really ???? that it was more than casual observations was when he started complimenting me on different outfits & hairstyles I wore on my days off or prior to my shift.

He’d also make comments about receiving packages or coming home with after shopping (“You should find someone who would carry those groceries into the house for you. I’d never make you carry the bags in the house after all that shopping you did on Saturday.”)

It was really creepy and I couldn’t shake the feeling of being watched for a long time.”

2. Followed.

“This guy at college would follow me EVERYWHERE. One day, I just went out to buy my lunch and he came with me. He didn’t buy anything, just followed me. Even when I told him he was making me uncomfortable, he still would not leave me alone. I didn’t wanna sound rude though.

Eventually, I started trying to get on the bus with me when I would head home. That was the last straw for me. The next time He tried to follow me onto the bus, and actually managed to step on, I pushed him off and urgently told the driver to close the doors.

The driver instantly took the hint and shut them. I told him the guy was stalking me, showed my student ID which allowed me on the bus for free, and took a seat.

The next day, the guy had the audacity to ask me why I didn’t let him to home with me. I told him to stop following me around from then on.”

3. DON’T send nudes.

“When she started sending nudes to my work email because I asked her to stop contacting me. I changed my snapchat account and blocked her number, but my work email is on my company’s website, so she found it.

That was a awkward conversation with my IT guys.”

4. Ex-girlfriend.

“When I was stationed in Korea and my ex girlfriend kept emailing my wife from different emails pretending to be women in Korea that I was cheating on her with.

My wife and I had a pretty good laugh about it and she eventually came clean. Her husband was not happy about her still obsessing over me.”

5. At church.

“My husband was deployed in Afghanistan so I had to go to church alone. One week, an older man (maybe 65) approached and said, “Can I sit here?” I said sure. We had a bit of conversation and he said, “My wife died a few weeks ago and I was just praying this morning for God to send an angel I could sit with at church today.” He seemed like a sweetheart, I felt bad for him.

He sat next to me for a few weeks in a row. It didn’t bother me too much. I brought him some homemade jam. He told me about how his son was also deployed.

I mentioned he should really try getting into a church small group, that it would be great company for him. I set him up with one of the best. He said he wasn’t sure how to get to the venue. If he gave me his number, could I tell him where the place was? He was confused. I said, sure.

Well, once I texted him the directions, I don’t think he ever went to the group, but he had my phone number. He started calling 8+ times a day, saying “Hello beautiful” and begging me to meet him at Waffle House.

For the remainder of my husband’s 6-month deployment, I did not go to church. I was really worried about running into that guy. I blocked his number and luckily have never seen him again. Months after my husband got back, I told him what happened and of course he was livid.”

6. Total psycho.

“I broke up with a physically abusive boyfriend, and at the time I worked about a 25 minute drive from where I lived (always drove the same road home).

My schedule never changed and I began seeing his car and occasionally his friends’ cars along my drive, always parked off from the road a little and around some seriously sharp corners. At first I didn’t think anything of it, until it began happening at night (I’d do inventory every Tuesday night and be at work until 10pm; this was my only full night shift).

This went on for about a month, until I started switching my routes to and from work because I was getting creeped out. Easter ended up rolling around and I, again, had to stay late to help my coworker change the signage (I worked at Subway). It was getting close to 9pm, and the work phone began ringing off the hook (was my ex).

My coworker, who knew what was going on, just muted the phone and we continued doing what we needed to do. Shortly after we saw my ex standing outside, in the middle of the road staring into the restaurant.

I hid behind the counter as soon as I could and my coworker ended up telling me when he left. Got calmed down until we got to my car to find out he broke into my car and left a bunch of weed and a threatening note.

I bought a new car the next week; fully equipped with a very loud alarm.”

7. Trying to be friendly.

“As a bus driver you’re expected to be cheerful and chat with whoever while idle. A regular passenger started riding around, always in the front seat. Over a week or two the conversation got quite personal, always by her initiative.

I told my supervisor about this just to cover my ass. Then she started to bring me gifts, cookies, candy beverages. Finally, she invited me over for a meal, so her mom could meet her boyfriend! I had zero interest in the young woman, didn’t want anything to do with her.

Luckily, she moved or just avoided the bus during my shift.”

8. Stalked by Dad.

“When my dad showed up to my place of work.

We had been estranged, but he knew I worked at Starbucks and had traveled from location to location to figure out where I had transferred to and when my shifts were scheduled.

Even had the balls to call the store and pretend to be me to get my schedule information. I saw his vehicle parked out front and freaked out and ran inside.

He followed in after about thirty minutes (right as the morning rush was hitting full swing) and started berating me in front of all my coworkers and customers.

Thats the day I went and learned about restraining orders.”

9. No thanks.

“When he started acting like he couldn’t survive without me directly by his side at all times. I had met him a week earlier, only spoke to him briefly, and never flirted or had any romantic or sexual interactions with him.

He literally just stalked me and physically put himself at my side like a Siamese twin, going as far as pushing other people away from “his” spot, and threatening to kill himself when I brought it up with him. Yeah, no thanks.”

10. That’s kind of scary.

“My sister brought home “my” spiral notebook from school.

She thought it was mine because it had my name written and doodled covering every page.

Turns out it was a girl who was obsessed with me.”

11. Online crazies.

“I was chatting with a gal online through a dating site.

She was nice enough and we were having good conversations, but had not yet even began speaking on the phone. It turns out a friend of hers was friends with one of my friends. Small world.

I’m at home one day puttering around and I hear a knock at my door, I look out the window and see a car I don’t recognize. My hink meter starts pinging so I pull a butcher knife, brace my foot so the door can only open a bit and crack the door.

She is standing there and tells me she got the address from my friend and asking to come in. I was weirded out and declined, she got upset and started crying and telling me how this was supposed to be a pleasant surprise. I tried to send her on her way gently and she got pissed and stormed off and drove away.

I thought that was it. Then she starts emailing me saying she loves me, then starts calling me, (my idiot friend gave her my number), and leaving gifts at my door that would be there in the morning.i lived in Mesa, AZ, she was in Tucson about an hour away. I eventually had to threaten her with a restraining order.

My friend had talked to hers about what was going on she said, “Oh yeah, she’s nuts, she’s done this before.”

I felt a lot better when I left the state.”

12. I WANT YOU BACK.

“Not me but my sister is obsessed with her ex. She cheated on him and is desperate to get him back. She constantly tries to get in touch with him like getting my little brother to FaceTime him through his iPad cause she knows he won’t answer her.

She says she thinks about him every day and will text him on holidays like Easter just to say have a nice day or whatever. They had a conversation and after that she looked up the program he was in at the college he goes to and found out that his program was canceled because of covid19 so she doesn’t understand why he hasn’t gotten in contact with her.

She wrote a letter a couple days ago and is planning to go to his house and leave it at his door. Originally, her plan was to pay me to go ring the doorbell and give it to him but like hell nah lol. Whenever I tell her to back off she just says I don’t understand cause I’ve never been in a relationship:/ it’s been months of crap like this.”

13. Obsessed with the teacher.

“It was really sad.

It was a High School student I was teaching. She found out where I lived and used to conveniently be in the area and then just parked in front of my house. I had to report her. We all met with the principal and a counselor.

She was a senior so we all agreed if she stopped doing that and take another class I wasn’t teaching, we’d let her graduate at the school.”

14. Fatal attraction.

“Had a friend.

She was a bit eccentric, we were really close until she started going totally off the edge – hid my bicycle, stood outside my house screaming obscenities, told everyone we had a sexual relationship, belittled my abusive past, screaming right into my face.

Tried to stab our common friend… Twice. The thing that pulled alarms in my head was when i told her I’ll be heading home from my boyfriends soon and she can come for a visit in a couple of hours if she wants.

Got home in under an hour, she was waiting near my apartment building and started accusing me of lying to her, there was absolutely no telling her that I wanted to settle a little, take a shower and eat something, I did not say I’d be home in two hours. I managed to cut her out of my life.

Few years later she started blowing up my mothers phone (one cant find my number anywhere) demanding for her to give my number explaining all this pretty lunatic nonsense, but how she needed me because I’m one of her apostles and she needs me to start her own religion, because she is “his son, another of Adam and Eve”, and this was not even the craziest shit.

Quite confidental seeing that a few years before this she was super paranoid about my mother since she works for the military. And yes, previously this girl had a delusion that she is re-incarnated Jesus.

After this I’ve heard through friends that I’m Peter, Venus and latest probably was that I’m a whore. So yeah that was the point I was more than sure she was obsessed with me.”

15. That’s wild.

“She went to my grandmother’s house and got my phone number from beside the phone on the little board in the kitchen…

…5 years after we dated and I had severed all ties with her and anyone that still associated with her.”

Yikes…be careful out there, everyone.

Have you ever had someone develop an unhealthy obsession with you? Or maybe someone even started stalking you at some point?

If so, please share your stories with us in the comments!

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People Are Eating up This Cute Friendship Between a Hedgehog and a Cat

Who says different kinds of animals can’t be best friends? I personally don’t believe that for a second.

And here’s the proof.

Meet Herbee the hedgehog and Audree the cat. They’re BFF even though they have nothing in common the surface.

The dynamic duo lives in Germany and their owner, Talitha Girnus, keeps followers updated on their lives. And the photos are wonderful!

Follow the adventures of these two unlikely friends on their Instagram page!

Enjoy!

1. There they are!

Climb aboard, friend!

2. Best friends forever.

You’ve seen that look before…

3. All snuggled up.

These two are inseparable.

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4. Going on adventures together!

They’re exploring the great outdoors.

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5. Taking in a Disney movie.

A little downtime for these two so the can kick back.

6. Do you see what I see?

These two really do have a lot of fun together.

7. Soaking up the sunshine.

They look perfectly content.

8. It’s almost bedtime…

So tell me a story!

9. How do you like your coffee?

With a dash of hedgehog, perhaps?

10. A meeting of the minds.

What do you think they’re discussing?

11. Like I said, best friends forever and always.

I just love these little guys!

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Aren’t those two just great!

It gives you a little hope in the world when you see something like this…or at least it does for me.

Do you know of any other great social media accounts that feature unlikely animal combinations who live together and are good friends?

If so, please share them with us in the comments.

We can’t get enough of this stuff!

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People Discuss Reasons Why They “Ghosted” Someone in Their Life

It’s a sad fact of life that sometimes you just have to cut people off.

People who are toxic, who make you feel bad about yourself, or who are trying to drag you down with them. The term for this is “ghosting” someone and, while it may seem harsh, occasionally it must be done.

Let’s see what AskReddit users had to say about their experiences.

1. That gets really old.

“When I realized she liked hating things more than liking them. I hate beer, hate EDM, hate Marvel, hate Channing Tatum, hate football; these are all things she’s said.

It’s ok that we don’t enjoy the same things, but she’d go out of her way to let me know she hated something and rarely talked about what she liked.”

2. Not very supportive.

“Whenever I would talk about feeling stressed and my mental health not being in an optimal condition, she would say something along the lines of “Oh come on, you dont have actual problems, there are people out there that actually have depression, anxiety, etc”.

She always downplayed the struggles I would be going through just because it wasn’t the worst possible thing that could happen.”

3. That’s so gross.

“She shit-stirred between everyone, it was just a game to her to ruin friendships, people that she wasn’t even close friends with.

Nearly 10 years later and I’m told she still tries it on with her wider circle (or rather, her husbands circles, as she no longer has any friends of her own any more) but they all treat it like a joke and ignore her, going so far as to warn others in a jokey manner.”

4. We’re done.

“Her two year old was violent towards my two year old.

She thought it was normal and refused to correct his behavior.”

5. Done it a few times…

“I’ve ghosted a couple of friends. It was after years of friendship and I realized that everything was about them. The friendship was one sided and I felt undervalued.

It got to the point that even though we were “best friends”, they had no idea what was happening in my life.

A lot more happened that I don’t care explaining, but I stopped talking to them after 11 years.”

6. That’s bad.

“I was disinvited from his wedding, in which I was a groomsman, because he found out I wasn’t a Christian.

We’d been friends for a decade up until that point.”

7. Do what’s best for you.

“She had negative experiences with a lot of things to the point that talking to her was like walking on eggshells.

I hope she’s doing alright and I feel bad I stopped talking to her but I had to choose what was better for me.”

8. Negative and entitled.

“A girl I met in one of my biology labs came off really nice. I didn’t really know anyone in the small lab and she invited me to be study partners which I gladly accepted.

The first study session was at a coffee shop off campus. She complained about her “best friend” for 3 hours. She was the most negative, entitled person I’ve ever met.

After that semester, I deleted her number and never talk to her again.”

9. My friend’s wife.

“His wife she scared quite a few of his friends away. Made it so obvious she did not want his friends around.

Any time the attention wasn’t on her it was a problem for everyone.”

10. You have no other options.

“When I realized I was only their friend because they had no other friends who would put up with their bullshit. Addicted to blow, “afflicted” because they were gay (nobody had any problem with this), and constantly said they were going to kill themselves.

I was patient for longer than anyone else, and even said how I was feeling. They would get coked out and text me about 20 times throughout the night almost every night. I blocked them three days later.”

11. Not your closest mate anymore…

“My closest mate for over fifteen years. He had no initiative, slept all the time, never initiated anything. Never lived out of home, and slept in his own filth, grew obese, hoarded crappy Japanese toys which filled up his dads house.

And became more and more annoying as a person until I couldn’t bear him. Constant one-upmanship or little put downs, or bragging over embarrassing stuff. I moved cities. When he came to visit, he annoyed and offended my friends so much they never forgot.

I cut all contact. I always ask for news but he has alienated all his old friends. The only news is that he is somehow eve ln fatter, now has diabetes, has taken up cigars and dresses up in a cowboy hat and boots he ordered from Nashville, USA.”

12. My “best friend”.

“I was bullied in school – but my worst bully was my “best friend” I used to come home and cry to my mom. I would be heartbroken over how my “best friend” was treating me.

Honestly – I don’t remember what my mom would tell me, but I wish she would have told me that I was worth way more than the treatment than I received from her, that she was a bad friend and I should drop her, that I had friends who treated me with respect and that I should spend my time with them, that she would have forbade me from hanging out with her – anything. anything.

I wasted something like 15 years with that girl in that abusive friendship.”

13. Double-crossed.

“She pocket called me.

Overheard her talking shit about my personal issues that I had confided in her.”

14. Out with the old, in with the new.

“The quickest way to lose (and make) great friends is to do something to fix your mental health.

I found out a lot about my friends when I stopped drinking, and before that when I left school for a mental breakdown. People just don’t even pretend to make the effort anymore.”

It’s always a tough thing to do, but sometimes you just need to cut ties with certain people in your life for good.

Have you ever had to do this to a friend?

If so, tell us about your experience in the comments.

We’d love to hear from you!

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People Open up About Why They Had to “Ghost” a Friend

Have you ever “ghosted” a friend before?

As someone who has, let me tell you it is not very pleasant.

But, some people are totally toxic and the time comes when you have to cut them out of your life even if it’s going to hurt their feelings.

AskReddit users shared their stories about how they ghosted their friends.

1. Get rid of that one.

“When I came home to find the power off. Bill hadn’t been paid.

We were friends from work. He had split up from his ex and I needed to be closer to work. We went 50 50 on a rental, he has three kids from the previous relationship.

With me being the nerd I agreed to pay the tech bills. Internet, phone, cable TV. He agreed to pay the power as he burnt more because his kids were over on access visits.

Came home. Dark house. Hmmmm. Investigate. He hadn’t paid the power for AGES because his new girlfriend wanted the money. Then I discovered he wasn’t paying his rent either, same reason.

Down $5k, power, rent, we were evicted. Ghosted.”

2. Don’t mess with my cat.

“We had been friends for years. Like long term sisterhood kind of shit. I did soooo much for her over the years and didn’t even bat an eyelash. I asked her to watch my cat while I went on a 10 day vacation (a cat that she also “loved” because it belonged to her family before me)

She agreed to watch the cat. I even called her about 4 days into my vacation to ask her again to go and check on my cat to make sure it had food/water and a few scritches. When I came home my cat’s water and food bowl were bone dry and she let out the most tormenting “meows” I have ever heard.

My “friend” didn’t check on her once in the 10 days that I was gone. She played stupid when I confronted her about it and said “oh! I completely forgot!” That was the beginning of the end.”

3. The friend cycle.

“She started hanging out with a new friend, that’s fine, I’m not her only friend. Then while we were hanging out, as pre-planned she would leave to go hang out with her new friend, then she’d break plans with me to hang out with her, all while tagging her on Facebook so none of it was being hidden.

Three years later she reaches out to me and apologizes, it’s genuine as she mentioned insightful things she would have no way of knowing unless she had grown and been very honest with herself.

We are friends for another two years when she starts to hang out with another new friend…repeat.”

4. Talkin’ trash.

“Started talking shit about me to my GF and best mate. His dad had a history of drinking problems and he was starting to exhibit the same behaviour, so i suggested we should both take a break from drinking for awhile and try to focus on some healthier shit.

He apparently took that as i’m not the same person and my GF was the person who changed me.”

5. The flavor of the month.

“Getting ditched every time there’s a new guy on the scene but then expected to be there the second it all breaks down.”

6. Always taking.

“I had a relationship that was really great for awhile, but over time I realized they just didn’t care much for me anymore.

It was always them needing something.”

7. Addicts don’t always mix.

“I loved this girl. She was so clutch for me when my life was in ruins. The issue was that she and I were both addicts at the same time and both came from the same types of affluent families, but for whatever reason – I got clean and I turned my life around while she got worse.

She and I were both addicts with eating disorders, alcoholism, and both addicted to Xanax.

I got clean and only recently (7 years later) have started experimenting with maybe one or two beers per month if I’m out with my husband. She ended up with this awful guy who she will not give up who got her hooked on meth. I was there for her for a long time. After rehab and a few arrests, she stayed at my house for a bit on two different occasions.

But the last time she did, she tore my house apart looking for alcohol (which we didn’t have), stole my ID so she could get postmates to deliver vodka to my house, and nearly got us both killed by grabbing and yanking my steering wheel while I was going 80mph up I-95.

I’ve tried so many times to help her get and stay clean, but she keeps going back to that guy and her triggers are my triggers. I had to distance myself because she was making me relapse.”

8. No regrets.

“She burned the bridge. For most of the year and a half that she and I started working at the same place, she bullied me, micromanaged me, made me feel left out, and gaslighted me whenever I tried to confront her behavior.

It was almost always my fault, nothing I ever did was right, and she refused to believe that she has control issues or that she was using me as a punching bag. She started doing this thing where she wouldn’t text me unless I texted her first, and then get mad if I didn’t text her. So, once she quit the job, I stopped texting her.

I haven’t spoken to her at all since August 2019 and I don’t regret it.”

9. Back to me…

“Every conversation was about them and their lives. They rarely asked or were interested in what I had going on.

The selfishness was just too much after a while.”

10. A long time coming…

“I have a friend who I probably should have stopped talking to long before I did but his escapades include:

– Slept with my ex of 3 years a week or so after we broke up

– Got really handsy with my sister (against her will) at my 21st

– Just being a general creep to girls for a long time.”

11. Haven’t spoken to him since…

“He knocked on my door one night and said ‘Lets go for a drive”. This wasn’t that odd since I love driving to cool my head. So we start driving and maybe 10 minutes in, he starts directing me on where to go.

He asks me if I mind making a quick stop. I’m annoyed but say sure. We end up at this sketchy house in the middle of nowhere and my buddy goes inside, but tells me to wait in the car.

Almost 45 minutes later he comes back out and says we gotta go to the bar. It takes me about 10 seconds to realize this POS went in there to get coke and was already high.

So I tell him that I’m not feeling it tonight and drop him off at his place. Spoke to him once after that when he wanted to hang and I told him I’m nobody’s errand boy. Never gave a shit if he got the message because I haven’t spoken to him since.”

12. Not one of the “cool” kids.

“My “best friend” growing up was a kid I lived next door to from the age of 9 until 18. At school, he would pretend not to know me so he could seem cool to the popular kids. He would invite me places then ditch me. He would break plans so he could free up time to hang with his cooler friends.

That shit got real old, real fast. When I was 18 I moved to the other side of town. We were growing apart more and more but I would still try to hang out with him when I could. Well one day he asked me to come over to his house and play Tony Hawk’s ProSkater when it first came out.

I was so pumped that I walked 3 miles to his house only to be told that he was going to go hang out at his other friend’s house instead but could I babysit his brothers and sisters. Needless to say, things weren’t the same after that. I stopped answering his calls. He would stop by and I would leave just to avoid him.

He would make plans to hang out and I never bothered going. I just gave up on trying to be friends with that guy. I tried so hard for almost 10 years just to be a good friend to him and he just pushed me to the wayside.

Maybe I’m an asshole for stooping to his level but I don’t care anymore.”

13. Blame games.

“Too much drama.

Told a sob story in order to garner sympathy points – story didn’t check out and no one believed her so she got even more angry about it. Decided to book it because her stories and blame-games were getting too much for me.”

14. So creepy.

“Her fiancee was arrested and did jail time for possession of child pornography.

When he got out, she married him and talked about how excited she was to have children with him.”

15. Cringeworthy.

“Every time when there is a girl involved, this dude turns into the cringiest being there is. Trying so much to get laid. In a group chat, when 2 girls were talking about what to wear for their girls night out, he started bringing up panties, bras and what not.

I left that group, started a new one with everyone from the old group except him.”

Hey, you gotta do what you gotta do sometimes.

Have you ever had to ghost a friend for one reason or another?

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