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This Dad Gave His Kids a Major Reality Check When It Came to an Inheritance. Was He Wrong?

Sometimes kids need a HUGE reality check. And who better to give it to them than their parents?

And that’s exactly what this father did when he decided to teach his two adult children a lesson about working and making money.

But now he’s having some second thoughts and thinks he might have been too harsh…

Let’s see what he had to say on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page…

AITA for telling my kids that they aren’t getting a penny from me when I die if they don’t shape up?

“I (57M) have two kids, N(30M) and A(27F). N works part-time flipping burgers, but insists his real job is as a gaming streamer.

A claims she’s a ‘professional’ influencer, her livelihood supported by her bf. My kids are adults, what they do with their lives is their choice. We’ve had several arguments about it, but ultimately, as adults, the responsibility for their lives is their own.

Over Christmas, we were talking about their mother (on zoom) when A brought up the subject of her will, wondering if she’d left anything to them. I confessed that she passed before ever writing one, and the money she did have was used up the year she passed.

We were a dual-income family in a time when neither of us were making a lot. It was a hard time. Eventually, I joined a friend in the private sector and my fortune changed. I’m not ‘rich’, but I’ll never be uncomfortable again.

Well, N then decided to ‘lighten the mood’ by implying that I’ll make up for it when I pass. I asked him what he meant, and the conversation went as followed:

Me: What do you mean?

N: Well, you have a lot of money, right? It’ll go to us.

Me: And who told you that?

A: What do you mean?

Me: I’ve made it very clear that I don’t approve of the way you both live. You both chose not to get an education or real jobs. You have no way of supporting yourself. (I often buy them groceries).

You refuse to help yourselves, so why would I enable your ‘lifestyles’ by leaving you my savings when I die? You want my money, then grow up and get real jobs, but the bank of dad will be forever closed when dad is forever closed.

What followed was a heated argument where both N and A accused me of being manipulative and unsupportive, so I got real with them.

Me: You both refuse to grow up. Flipping burgers is an honourable job, but it’s not going to keep a roof over your head. What if you have kids? What if you get fired? And (A), what will you do if your boyfriend breaks up with you because all you do is sit on your *ss all day and take photos of yourself?

You want to do that, find a modelling agency. A real job. You both speak of chasing your dreams, but neither one of you are in any position to do that because neither of you wants to take responsibility for yourselves right now. I’ve said it a million times. You’re adults.

What you do with your lives is your choice and your responsibility. Dreams take money, and neither of you have that. Grow up. Get a job. A real job. Then chase your dreams. I’m not going to leave a penny to either of you if your life plan is to ‘get by’ until I die, then coast through the rest of your lives off the earnings of my hard work.

N ended the call after a prolonged silence. A called me an AH then did the same. I haven’t heard from either since, and neither will take my calls.

So, AITA here? I think I might be because I was unnecessarily harsh on Christmas.”

Let’s see how folks on Reddit responded…

This person said that this dad is not in the wrong in any way, shape, or form because that money is all his and he earned it.

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Another reader said that his kids really need to grow up and get serious because he’s only 57-years-old and has a lot of living left to do.

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This Reddit user talked about how this man’s kids are totally unrealistic and he did the right thing by putting them in their place.

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A reader said that he can relate to this guy’s situation because his brother is totally irresponsible when it comes to money and work.

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Finally, this person said that everyone is to blame in this situation.

And dad should have made his kids realize this is how it was gonna be a looong time ago.

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Do you think this dad went overboard in his actions or was he doing the right thing?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know.

Thanks a lot!

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Person Asks if Their Joke About Only Eating Apples Went Too Far

Apples are my favorite fruit and I really like the idea of making a joke about it, but I would never pull the kind of prank I’m about to tell you about.

Judging by the comments, a lot of other people are also not fans of what this person did to their friends, but a lot of people also found it really funny.

This person wrote about the incident in the the “Ask the ***hole” Reddit page and asked people if this prank crossed a line.

AITA for pretending to be an “Appletarian” (eating only apple derived foods/drinks) for 3 weeks as a prank, causing my friends to have an intervention for me?

I got the idea a few weeks ago to prank my friends my pretending to be an “Appletarian”, meaning somebody who only eats food products that are derived from apples and would only drink apple juice or apple cider.

I told them them all that I had read on the internet that eating only apples was the healthiest thing for you. When I first told them they thought I was joking, but they underestimated how committed I would be to a joke. So, whenever in the presence of one of my friends (or friend-of-friends/coworkers/etc who knew them) I was very careful to only be seen eating apples or drinking apple juice/cider.

Apples whole, apples diced, apple sauce, the inside of an apple pie, baked apples, candy apples with the chocolate shaved off, etc.

Finally after about a week they bought that I had become an Appletarian. They started giving me information about how unhealthy it was to only eat apples, and growing increasingly exasperated by it. Some of them even got angry.

But I wanted to stick with the joke. Finally, after the end of 3 weeks, I walked into what I was told was a movie night but was actually an intervention for me.

They were all super concerned about my well being and had all sorts of information or whatever. Finally I started laughing hysterically. They were confused as hell so I told them I had been faking it the whole time and had been eating real meals outside their knowledge. I even took out some beef jerky from my pant pocket to prove it and munched it.

I thought they’d appreciate the joke but they were actually really annoyed. My girlfriend even broke up with me over this because a few days ago I had ruined our date night when I told the waiter I only wanted apples because I was an Appletarian and had “embarrassed her for a dumb joke”.

In my opinion the joke was solid and they should appreciate my commitment to the prank.

But, did I go too far?

This person didn’t feel he went too far at all.

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This Reddit user understands the value of pranks, but is not happy with the pain the OP caused.

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Read your audience — that’s this user’s message.

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This person tells the OP to think about how worried his loved ones must have been for his mental health.

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However, at least one more person didn’t think this guy was an a-hole.

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It was nice to see so many people in the comments advocating sympathy for friends instead of disregard for their feelings. I would have liked to see ideas in the comments for harmless alternative pranks.

Share a time with us when you pulled a prank and it failed.

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Girl Asks if She’s an A-Hole for Resisting Adoption

Family dynamics are strange, especially when you’re a teenager.

But when you’ve lost someone close to you, or you live in a blended family, there really are no clear cut answers in life, as shown in this recent AITA conversation.

AITA for not going along with being adopted to make everyone happy?

I hate to post here because I know there are so many of these but I really need to hear what you all think.

I (16f) lost my mom when I was 7. My sister was 2 at the time and my brother was a a few months old. Our dad met my stepmom about a year later, started dating her six months after they met (it was a thing for single parents). She had two kids who were close in age to my siblings. After they got married things were fine at first and then they wanted to adopt each others kids. Her kids were excited as were my siblings but I did not want to be adopted. This wasn’t made into a huge deal but they really quizzed me on why and tried to figure out if they could change my mind. They weren’t able to and I know this really hurt her feelings. Over the years it was let go. They adopted the other kids and everyone was happy. Or so I thought. It seems like it made them unhappy I said no to the adoption and my siblings have wondered why I didn’t want to be adopted too.

I love my stepmom. I get along with her really well. I think she’s great. But I don’t love her the same as I love my mom or dad. It’s different with her. Not bad just not as close. And that for me was reason enough to not be adopted. But there’s also the fact I don’t want my mom’s name erased from everything. I know they’re not trying to replace her but if I’m adopted her name is no longer the legal name I put down, it doesn’t change biology but it does make my stepmom my mom and no matter how much I care about her I just don’t want her to be my mom in all official senses of the word.

It has come up again because they offered the adoption again and my answer was the same. My dad decided we needed to go to therapy (the three of us) and the therapist told them they couldn’t therapy me into agreeing. My stepmom said it’s not about that for her, she just wants to know what she did wrong, and why I’m opposed. My dad said he feels like I’m holding back and he said there is an unhappiness with the fact I have kept myself on the outside by not becoming a more official part of the family unit.

It bothers me. But part of me feels bad that this is something that makes them so unhappy.

AITA?

So many feels on every side of this one. The original poster went on to add:

I feel like I could be the asshole because I know how much this means to them and I know it might make some things easier for them if we were all legally the kids of both my dad and stepmom.

Readers, however, felt differently, and the consensus was strongly in favor of the teen.

Many reacted negatively towards the parents, labeling them as the real problems in the situation, such as this respondent who felt the parents should back off:

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And this one, who agreed that the parents were drifting towards AH territory themselves.

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Others pointed out that everyone’s heart was in the right place, and the family just needed to continue working to understand each others’ points of view:

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Many shared their own similar experiences, including a widow who sided with the teen:

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An adult chimed in with a story about their friend, who chose to be adopted later:

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And another shared her painful story of giving into the parental pressure:

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But while many expressed their dismay at the parents’ insistence, a few readers offered a potential explanation for their behavior:

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There’s no right or wrong answer here, but two things are clear. Adoption is a very personal matter for both the parent and the child, and people can’t just change their feelings to suit others.

What do you think? Let us know in the comments.

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Family Traditions That Will Make You Say…Huh?

Do you think your family is weird?

These AskReddit users dished on their weirdest family traditions and boy…

What are your WTF family traditions? from AskReddit

It’s nice to know there are families out there who are crazier than mine!

1. Let’s Get Ready To Rumble!

“The aunts fight. I mean like literally fight. They will get wasted and just get louder and louder and then one will shout something along the lines of, “You want to back that up?” and then they will go outside and fight.

We all watch and cheer for our favorite aunt to win and sometimes we will even video tape the fight so that we can watch it later and laugh about it. It is pretty normal.”

– Stregano

2. Turtle Power

“Every year on Christmas before we could open anything my dad used to make us do the Ninja Turtles Dance.

He would take lead and my sister and I would have to do it behind him while my mom recorded it. Thinking back I find it hilarious.”

– VSavrek

3. Sacred Cow

“My mother has always put a cow puppet on top of the Christmas tree instead of an angel.”

– the_humble_saiyajin

4. The Last Fry

“It’s more between my brother and I than our whole family.

Whenever we’d eat at a fast food place we would play “The last fry”, and it was just that, the one that ate the last fry won.

Sometimes we’d hide it for hours then eat it and say “MMMM IT TASTE SOOOO GOOD WHEN ITS THE LAAAAAST FRY!!!”

One time I put my fry in my backpack and found it a couple weeks later, totally won that time.”

– Totesmcgotes702

5. Brain Freeze

“When I was a kid, the aunts and uncles would get all the kids a gallon of their favorite ice cream on the 4th of July. They would sit us down at a table and give us all our ice cream at the same time.

Here’s the fun part. The first kid to tackle the entire gallon of ice cream got $5. This always lead to all of us kids eating ice cream very quickly, and thus getting brain freeze (ice cream headache).

Within minutes there are a half dozen children roaming the backyard clutching at their sinuses in pain while adults laugh at them. I’m so glad I finally caught on.”

– LordofMylar

6. Slap Dat Turkey

“Whenever we make a turkey or goose for Thanksgiving and Christmas, we have to slap it. I don’t know why.

The slapping takes place when the turkey is in the roasting pan, you just slap it with moderate force, about the force you would use to slap a fly or mosquito on your leg.

Whenever I asked my Grandmom, she would sing “it’s tradition!” and never answer the question beyond that.”

– shaven_craven

7. The Potato

“Whenever anyone of us has to take an exam, they take a single uncooked potato with them.

This has been tradition ever since my Grampa found one in his pocket after acing his driving test.

We’re not a particularly superstitious family otherwise, but The Potato has proven itself indispensable.”

– schnitzli

8. Oh, He Died

“My sister accidentally started a tradition when she was a kid. She wandered into my parent’s room one evening after watching TV and asked them, “Who is John Belushi?” I think she was 8 or 9 at the time. My parents, who were big fans, told her who he was and then asked her why she wanted to know. Her response was “oh, he died” and she wandered out of their room.

She did the same thing about a week later with another celebrity and my parents, having forgotten about how she asked about John Belushi responded the same way, explaining who the celebrity was and then asking why and got the same response from my sister “oh, he died”.

Now whenever there is a celebrity death, everyone in my family and several family friends rush to call/text someone else in the family so they can be the first person to report it and the call/text always starts with “Who is ___?!” and usually the other person responds with “oh no, how did they die?!” The person who manages to tell someone else first usually is referred to as “winning” that round.

We’re a little morbid.”

– carpecarp1

9. Stealin With Grandma

“My grandma used to take us “junkin”.

As an adult I realized what we were doing is stealing from the Salvation Army.”

– Daimoth

10. Personal Space Heaters

“Hound stealin’.

It’s close to sacrilege in our family, but that doesn’t stop us. Our dogs (two whippets and a Treeing Walker coon hound) sleep in our beds with us, and on cold winter nights we’ll sometimes sneak into each other’s rooms and steal a dog out from under the covers and carry them to our own beds.

By sometimes I mean every single night.”

– JesusSwallows

11. ’Twas The Night Before Christmas

“You can open one present on Christmas Eve, but its chosen by your siblings.

Leading to lots of under the table negotiations, and the eventual selection of the smallest or least interesting looking present.

If you were really p*ssed off, you chose a card to be opened. Lots of fights were had.”

– [User Deleted]

12. 6 Out Of 10

“Not my family, but my ex-girlfriend who is Ukrainian (this fact is important to the story) has really weird family traditions.

When she was in elementary school her dad used to wake her and her brother up 2 hours before school everyday. Then he would put on a cassette tape of Ukranian folk songs and they would take turns singing. When one of them finished a song he would hold up a card with a number between 1 and 10 written on it to rate their performance. Still cracks me up when I think about it.

Her family did a lot of weird things.”

– I_BLAME_YOUR_MOTHER

13. SHOTS!

“My great grandma used to do body shots off of babies.

Whenever a family member would come over with their baby, my great grandma would check to see if the soft spot on their head had closed up. If it hadn’t, she’d put tequila on the soft spot and suck it off of our heads.

She did it apparently to close the hole faster, because evil spirits come in from that hole and she believed that it took them out.

Some of my aunts still do this.”

– ghostlesbian

14. Run Away Cake

“On Easter we used to eat a bunny cake with only one ear, because my Uncle ran away once as a little kid, and he took the ear with him.

He came back a few hours later when everyone was looking for him having already eaten the ear.”

– [User Deleted]

15. Alice’s Restaurant

“Every year, our Thanksgiving consists of all the neighborhood strays, usually around 25 people. The food is glorious and wine is plentiful.

When everyone is seated for dinner, my dad does a toast and then turns on the song Alice’s Restaurant. Our entire family and regular guests sing the song as it’s being played.

The newcomers are usually a little mortified and stunned that

A) 20 people are singing the same song around the dinner table.

B) we know ALL the words

C) the song is so damn long.

I’ve grown to love this tradition.”

– LilySapphire

16. The Wolf Pack

“My brother-in-law thought the “three wolf moon” shirts were hilarious so he bought one. My husband also thought it was funny so he bought one with more wolves on it (to up the ante). My sister and I then bought a wolf shirt for my dad so he could fit in with the guys.

They wear these shirts in public when they are all together and call themselves the “wolf pack.” My parents even named their boat “three wolf moon.”

My sister and I are both due to have little boys this winter. We are on the hunt for wolf onsies…”

– swankengr

No matter what happens in life, there will never be anybody quite like family.

What’s a strange tradition you and yours have?

Tell us in the comments.

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Am I a Jerk For Telling My Daughter to Cancel Her Wedding? Here’s How People Responded.

You can’t marry them!

You might think this kind of thing only happens in movies, but it does happen in real life. And here’s yet another example of it.

A mother shared her story on the “Am I the *sshole?” forum on Reddit to see if she was wrong for telling her daughter that she should cancel her wedding.

Oh, boy…let’s see what happened.

AITA for telling my daughter to cancel her marriage?

“I have a daughter(27) who was with her boyfriend for 7 years and they got engaged not long ago(just a small party, not many guests).

She always talks to me about how she loved him, how he always listens to he and he was made for her. I have agreed with her, since I found him to be a good natured man, he was kind and humble and was always respectful to our family.

We’ve met his parents for dinner twice or thrice and they hit me as a little s*xist, asking questions to my wife like “I don’t know why you’re working, isn’t that the husband’s job? It’s the mothers job to be taking care of the children”.

Now that they wanted to make it more serious, they planned a marriage. Anyways we have been planning about the marriage, and one day her boyfriend comes to me and says that his parents want to talk to me. I was going to call my daughter too, but he said that she wasn’t allowed.

I went with him and his parents started talking with me about DOWRY. I was confused and said that there was no dowry and in 2020 who even gives dowry?? But boyfriend and his parents started lecturing me about how necessary it was and how my daughter would be a stay at home wife(my daughter has told me that she wants to continue her dreams so I don’t know what this is).

Anyways they told me that I should give it a thought and told me not to tell my daughter for the time being. However I immediately told my daughter about it, and she started crying saying she didn’t know that her boyfriend was so s*xist. She asked me what she could do now, and I told her that she wasn’t being forced and could cancel her marriage if she didn’t want it.

Well, that is exactly what happened and now her boyfriend and his parents are calling me saying I took away the love of his life etc… On top of that, some of her friends (some were bridesmaids) said that I was an *sshole for breaking up what would’ve been a “healthy marriage”.

But it’s my daughter’s happiness that matters. AITA?”

Here’s how folks on Reddit responded to the woman’s story.

This person said the woman was not wrong and that she “saved her daughter from a life of hell.” Tell us how you really feel…

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Another reader pointed out that the daughter probably already had major doubts about the whole situation and the wedding.

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This person remarked that this kind of parenting is what is needed in today’s world.

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An individual said that the mother absolutely did the right thing in this situation.

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And this response perfectly hit the nail on the head.

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What do you think about this whole thing?

Tell us in the comments!

We’d love to get your take on the situation!

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Person Asks if They’re Wrong for Not Giving Their Brother and His Wife Any Privacy

People sure can be pushy,  huh?

You give someone an inch and they take a mile, right?

Well, you just might feel that way after reading this person’s account of what’s going in with his brother and his wife in a place that seems a little bit too close for comfort.

Read on, friends, and we’ll see how Reddit users reacted to this story.

AITA for not giving my brother and his wife any privacy?

“My brother lost his job along with all his savings several months ago, and soon after he asked me if it would be okay if he (28M) and his wife (30F) stayed with me until they could afford their own place again.

I hesitated at first, considering I only have a 1 bedroom apartment, but according to them they had ‘no other options’ so of course I invited them over and bought a blow-up mattress for the living room.

For the first month things were manageable, although admittedly cramped. Then my brother told me that sleeping on the mattress was giving him back pains, so he asked if he could buy a small double bed for the living room.

The living room is by far the biggest room I have, so I told him that would be fine as long as there was still room for my couch/TV/bookshelves. The living room is also connected to my kitchen in an open plan style, so I reminded my brother to leave walking space around the bed.

It’s now been 2+ months and things have gotten a lot worse. When they first moved in, I would still use the living room every day to unwind on the couch after work. Now whenever I go in, there’s a strange vibe like I’m intruding.

My brother and his wife are often sitting in bed together when I go in (I always knock) and stare at me pointedly until I leave. Sometimes when I sit down they will directly ask me for some ‘alone time’ and say they would like the room to themselves.

This came to a head yesterday when my sister-in-law messaged me with a ‘timetable’ she’d made of when it would be ‘a good time’ for me to use the living room. The timetable basically says that they will allow me into the room for an hour each evening, plus 20 minutes around mealtimes.

I basically shut her down instantly and told her there was no WAY I’d be following the timetable since in the end it’s my apartment. She sent me back a HUGE message with a dozen paragraphs about how my constant presence was ‘ruining’ her marriage with my brother and they feel like they have no privacy.

I tried to talk this over with my brother that night, but when I got home neither my brother/SIL were talking to me, so he’s clearly just as p*ssed.

Today an Amazon parcel arrived for my brother with a lock for the living room door, which I told him there’s ‘absolutely no way’ I will allow him to install. My brother says I’m ‘creepy’ for wanting constant access to where they sleep and he’s insisting on installing the lock anyway.

AITA for not giving my brother and his wife their privacy?”

Hmmmm…let’s see what people had to say about this.

This Reddit user said that the man’s brother and wife might be gaslighting him and that they should probably get their own place ASAP.

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And this person made a very good point: this guy is doing them A FAVOR. And this is how he gets repaid…?

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Another person pointed out that they’re staying for free in a tight space, so what the hell is this guy supposed to do about it?

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Another person on Reddit pointed out that this guy has gone above and beyond the call of duty in this situation. And they said the couple should probably vacate the premises sooner than later.

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How do you feel about this situation?

Is this guy being a total weirdo or is he not doing anything wrong?

Tell us what you think in the comments. Thanks in advance!

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Was I Wrong for Kicking My Cousin off My Sister’s Wedding Zoom Call? Here’s How Folks Responded.

Family drama alert! And it’s comin’ in really hot!

And, because of the world we currently live in, we’re having family drama on Zoom! Of course, this was going to happen…

Anyway, take a look at this person’s story about what went down during a monumental zoom call and check out the reactions from Reddit users on the other side.

Let’s check it out.

AITA for kicking my cousin off of my sister’s wedding Zoom call?

“My [27M] older sister [30F] and her fiancé [31M] were planning for over a year for their wedding to be this month.

Obviously, they can’t have the wedding as planned, but they still would like to get married, so they decided on a “Zoom” wedding where all of the family/friends would just call in to watch the officiant, my sister, and her fiancé.

My sister didn’t want to be in charge of hosting the Zoom call because she thought it would stress her out, so she asked me to and I gladly accepted.

She and her fiancé decided to invite everyone they originally wanted to, and it was a very big list. When we were going over the list, my sister mentioned to me that she wanted everyone else to be muted for the majority of the wedding as she was worried that others would talk over her and her fiancé and quote “overshadow” them on their big day “that was already scaled down”.

However, her and her fiancé said that I should unmute everyone at one point so everyone could talk and have a nice time with each other.

Fast-forward to the day of the wedding—everyone is muted during the ceremony which goes great, and so I then unmute everyone and ask to please raise a hand if they’d like to talk so it doesn’t get confusing. My cousin (around my age) starts waving his hand crazily, and he’s with his longtime girlfriend (also similar age I guess).

He’s a very gregarious guy, so I was not surprised. Then, he says stuff like “(my sister) and (her husband) are such an inspiration, it’s given me the courage to do this….” then turns to his girlfriend and pulls out a box that is the size of an engagement ring box??

I immediately saw this as him trying to steal the spotlight (something that he’s done since we were kids, ex: he would secretly mess up my sister and I’s drawings if the adults would praise ours) and booted him off of the call.

Then I quickly announced that my cousin had technical difficulties and would not be joining again. Everyone else accepted this and went about talking, and my sister and her husband did too.

The rest of the wedding went smoothly—except for the fact that my cousin kept texting me angrily saying that he finally wanted to propose as a surprise with family all around and I ruined it.

My aunt and uncle texted me the same. AITA??”

And here’s what people on Reddit had to say about what happened…

This person praised the Lord Almighty that the cousin was banished from the call!

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Another Reddit user said that the person did the right thing for their sister…and I’m inclined to agree with them.

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A reader said that it’s a good thing the wedding was on Zoom, because if the cousin had pulled this in-person it could have been a lot worse.

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A reader commented that people who make these kinds of huge gestures on someone else’s special day are 100% wrong all the time.

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So what do you think?

Is this person a creep? Or not a creep at all?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments!

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Am I a Jerk for Being Mad at My Husband Who Was Going to Give $10,000 to His Sister Without Asking Me? Here’s What People Said.

When money gets involved in any situation, things can go off the rails in a hurry.

And this story is a doozy.

A woman shared her story on the “Am I the *sshole” forum on Reddit to ask the readers there if she was wrong for getting mad at her husband for going behind her back to give a family member A LOT of money.

Here’s how it all went down…

AITA For being mad at my husband who was going to give away $10,000 to his sister without even asking me about it?

“On Saturday morning, I noticed my husband was sending a lot of text messages back and forth. He is usually not much of a texter. He left the phone next to me to charge while he as in the other room.

The phone kept lighting up with text messages when I decided to open it up to see what the big discussion was about.

I know some couples view it as big breach of trust to read through a significant other’s phone, but my husband and I do it regularly so this was not a huge invasion of privacy on my end. We both have nothing to hide and it has never been an issue before.

Anyway, of course I saw something on the phone that I shouldn’t have that got me upset. For background, my husband is 34, I am 32, and his sister is 31 (she’s in this story). Husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for the last four years.

We are all college educated with jobs now. My husband and I each make good salaries around $150k each. We own our house. I still have about $60,000 in student loans I am working to pay off (luckily low interest rates so I just pay the minimum).

We have about $40k liquid in savings. So we are doing good financially but still need to build up more savings as we will probably try to start a family in the next 1-2 years and want to be prepared for an emergency and have a rainy day fund. Anyway, my husband’s sister is trying to buy a 1 bedroom apartment in NYC.

I saw in the text messages that my husband offered to give her $10,000 for her down payment. The money is our savings is OUR money. Our bank accounts are 100% combined. My husband manages 99% of the finances because I prefer not to deal with it. However, it is understood we consult each other regularly on major purchases.

He did not ask me if I was OK with him giving this money to his sister. She didn’t ask, he offered. I immediately confronted him (calmly) and was like, “Hey – Did you tell your sister you would give her $10,000?” He said yes. I asked him when he was going to tell me.

He said, he probably wasn’t. He figured I wouldn’t notice and said he didn’t think I would care about “the details”. I said, “Um, do you think $10,000 is a detail?” He said, “No, that is lot of money. I should have told you about it. Are you OK with it?” I said, “No, I don’t think I am.”

Anyway we decided in that moment not to give the money. He said he would tell his sister and she would understand. He wanted the issue to go away after that.

But I am still mad. I said this was a big breach of trust. I let him control all finances because I trust him to never, ever take advantage of my ignorance. Shouldn’t you be able to trust your husband?

So now, I don’t have that full amount of trust I had before and I want to open my own bank account (which frankly, I should have anyway). But AITA for being totally upset and feeling betrayed about this?

I grew up poor and $10,000 is a ton of money to me (I mean, to most people right?!). I am horrified he would consider gifting it away and not even telling me.

Wow…let’s see what folks on Reddit said about this.

This person didn’t think the woman was wrong at all for being angry at her husband.

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Another person made a good point: what else has her husband done with their money…?

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Another reader called the husband’s actions “a lie by omission”, and I think they’re right about that.

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This Reddit user called it “financial infidelity.” I’ve never heard that one before…

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And finally, this reader said that $10,000 is a huge chunk of money and that the woman and her husband might want to think about getting separate accounts after this incident because there are clearly some trust issues here…

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Now we want to get your take on the situation.

Do you think this woman was justified in her anger or did she overreact?

Tell us what you think in the comments.

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Mothers-in-Law Shared Their Crazy Stories About Daughters-in-Law

We always hear about “crazy mother-in-law” stories, but now the tables are about to be turned, everyone!

Because it’s time for the mothers-in-law out there to let loose on the daughters-in-law of the world and tell us how those younger women can also be nuts sometimes.

This should be fun!

Let’s dig into some crazy stories about daughters-in-law from mothers-in-law from AskReddit users.

1. Wish they’d never met.

“We lived on the other side of the country from them so we didn’t have many visits — one or two a year. When we visited, all was well — the house was clean, the kids were cared for, etc. She was fun to be around.

However, once we left, life went back to “normal” for my son and grandkids. She would say she was going to the store and would not come home for 2 to 4 days. She did drugs. She did not clean — anything.

My son traveled for business and when he was gone she had many different men in the house. He would come home to a trashed house, trashed car, trashed everything. She would put the kids to bed, then leave to party. She kept the two oldest kids home from school when he traveled — she was too busy sleeping from partying all night to take them to school.

As he was making plans to leave her and take the kids, she killed the youngest child and is now in jail awaiting trial. all of this came out after she died. I wish they had never met.”

2. Hateful.

“When I first met her, she was a tweaker.

She knew I knew and she hated me. Now she stays home and knits and crafts and I have not seen my grandson in 3 years.

She still hates me.”

3. Walking out.

“My DEL decided, after years of manipulating my son, to walk out on him and their two kids.

A few hours later she changes her mind and bombards him with all kinds of cr*p for a week. And then she gains access to the house when he’s out and changes the locks causing him and their two young kids to be homeless.

She sucks!”

4. A tight leash.

“The stories I’ve heard of my aunt’s DIL are the worst. She’s kept my cousin on a tight leash after marriage.

Banned my aunt from communicating with him from any social media acct. It’s so bad whenever my cousin happens to see my aunt he acts like he doesn’t know her.

All this due to the DIL. Just hurts to see my aunt not see her own grandkids.”

5. I’ll take it from here.

“I will respond for my mother.

She hates the fact that her daughter in law does not respond to phone calls or texts. She understands that she is a new mom but how long does it take to reply to a text message.

I also want to add that she’s turned the holidays from a casual wear you PJs & bust out your paper plates into a sit down event with formal place settings. I don’t enjoy getting together to eat with my family during Thanksgiving and Christmas anymore.

This year I was at least smart enough to bring salt packets.”

6. Sounds like a real treat.

“My sons GF practically lives with us. After she graduates from college they will get married.

Things I HATE: I text him; she responds like she’s him.

We are doing major renovations on the house. She didn’t help AT ALL. I understand if renovation is not your thing. But I was running in and out of the house switching laundry and cleaning up little messes.

She didn’t even offer to help.”

7. Scary lady.

“Happened to a friend. Her brother married this girl who was his college friend.

Very happy, have a baby girl… Suddenly her father passed away so her mother went to stay with son and DIL. At first she was ok. But after like a month, DIL started to lock the fridge ( in india fridges come with internal locks) and pantry doors.

She started cutting down MIL’s food. When my friend came to know about this, we went to her brothers place, packed her mom’s stuff and brought her back to my friends house.

Scary lady that DIL. Brother didn’t say sh*t to his wife.”

8. A real catch.

“I’m gonna speak for my aunt: my cousin is a party guy. He married a party girl.

I met her the day of my grandfather’s funeral. She was dressed like Betty Boop; too much makeup and balloon-sized fake t*ts in a sheer, black tube dress stretched too far for the imagination. She was sitting at my grandparents’ table as I walked bleary-eyed into the kitchen for a bowl of cereal; half-awake, I barely stopped myself from exclaiming “what the f*ck!?”

After the funeral, we held a sort of Irish wake at my uncle’s house, whereupon she tried to hook up with every male cousin, one-by-one asking them to do shots with her. I avoided her, so I was last. She got to me when I was having a beer in the driveway with two other cousins. One she’d already tried. She went to my more attractive cousin-in-law first.

He shot her down with “The Mother. Of. My. Newborn. Child. Is. Inside.” (I like him) I’m less assertive, so I tried the “if you ignore bullies, they’ll get bored and leave you alone.” She tried grinding up and down my front. I ignored her and hoped she would leave me alone. She moved around to try slithering up and down my back. I pretended she wasn’t there. She slithered down my back one last time, and then-She bit my *ss.

I hopped across the driveway doing the Goofy yell. I honestly don’t remember what happened after that. Somehow she left. I had a dental impression in purple bruise on my *ss cheek the next morning. Let me remind you, this was my grandfather’s funeral.

I’m told that the morning of their wedding, my aunt offered to pay for 100% of the wedding if he wanted to back out.”

9. Let’s mix it up a little bit.

“How about a crazy daughter, son-in-law story?

So I have one daughter who at 20 “came out” to me. As gay? No. As a polygamist. A pregnant one. Pregnant by a 40 year old dude with a wife and three grown kids. I was 44 at the time. Long story short, the original wife got sick of all the crazy and left.

Now my daughter and the son in law are monogamous with five kids and I have a son-in-law who is 4 years younger than me.”

10. On behalf of my mother.

“I’m writing on behalf of my mother.

My SIL is a lazy, obnoxious cow. She hasn’t worked in 10 years, while my brother works 60 hrs a week minimum. Even though she gets an allowance for being a stay at home mum, that goes to cigarettes and until recently a sh*tload of pot. My brother went years without a birthday/Christmas/fathers day card or gift from her. (Like… not even a card?!?!)

So my mum used to come down for weeks at a time whenever my SIL was ‘unwell’ (read: withdrawing). Last year, my mum bought my brother a big, expensive, kick *ss birthday present. He’s worth it, we always try n show him what he’s worth. Well, Mrs SIL chucked a wobbly. “You need to stop buying him sh*t, or you n me will be having words OUT THE FRONT!!”

Mum looked dead at her, “you wanna beat me up because I treat your husband better than you?!” That’s just one story.”

11. Almost there.

“Not a DIL yet (my stepsons girlfriend and mother of my 2 grand babies) but I’m 19 years younger than my husband but 12 years older than my stepson.

She thinks I want to sleep with my stepson ( never gave her any reason to think this, I do not want to). She keeps the babies from us, rarely we get to see them unless of course she has a circumstance that were her only option for a babysitter. We’ve tried very hard to have a good relationship but she just hates me.

I once even stopped by their house to visit, she was cordial but my stepson got an earful when he got home from work. Just sad all around- she doesn’t want us in their lives.”

Okay, all the ladies out there, it’s your time to shine!

Do you have any crazy stories about your mother-in-law or your daughter-in-law?

If so, tell us all about it in the comments. Thanks!

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Funny Marriage and Relationship Tweets You Need To Check Out

I know what you’re going through: you just got into another argument with your significant other and you feel like really letting them know how you feel…

But let me give you some advice: just blow it off and laugh about it!

Instead of letting the situation escalate and explode, come visit us as much as you need to and we’ll make you laugh with funny tweets about livin’ that relationship life!

And we have a totally solid collection for you to look at today, friends.

So go lock yourself in a closet somewhere away from your partner and have some laughs!

Hey, you’re welcome…

1. The remote wars continue…

There’s really no escaping it once you’re married.

2. Sounds like a perfect marriage to me.

People, pay attention to this one.

3. What size am I, again?

That’s a little humiliating…

4. How does this whole thing work?

You either are a morning person or you’re not.

5. Hahaha. This is good.

Don’t you think this looks pretty familiar?

6. That sounds awesome!

Yes, dear…Yes, dear…Yes, dear…

7. That was a rude awakening.

I was planning on sleeping in today…

8. That’s true love, right there.

Romance is not dead, people!

9. Your husband and I have a lot in common.

Do you think it’s a little bit warm in here?

10. And around and around it goes.

Isn’t this great?!?!

11. You had a good run.

But he obviously made a fatal error.

Now we’d like to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us how everything is going in your relationship during these crazy times we’re living in.

Please and thank you!

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