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Parents Talk About the Things About Their Kids that Drive Them Crazy

It’s been said that being a parent is like watching your heart walk around outside your body. That’s gotta be a tough adventure to pursue. Even tougher when that same heart starts screaming and driving you insane and annoying you in new and innovative ways every day because they have no independence or self-reliance or access to beer.

So, what to do? What happens when the light of your life becomes the bane of your day?

In the case of these parents, they decided to vent their frustrations on the internet.

10. Do it anyway

That’s just kinda how all kids do, isn’t it?

Source: Whisper

9. Evil

Wow, that is a pretty serious statement.

Source: Whisper

8. All in the family

The guy is growing up and exploring, give him some room.

Source: Whisper

7. That’s the poop

“There we go, your problem now.”

Source: Whisper

6. One look

When even the sight of them is enough to set you off.

Source: Whisper

5. Buy buy buy

Kids aren’t born with any kind of understanding of money.

Source: Whisper

4. Allowed

Well, it certainly sounds like there will be no shortage of bitterness all around.

Source: Whisper

3. Your loss

Retainers are the absolute worst though.

Source: Whisper

2. Scream queen

It’s like their favorite thing in the whole world.

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1. Every minute

Gotta nip that in the bud right away.

Source: Whisper

I’ve never had kids yet, and after all that, I’m not sure if I want to.

Have you had experiences like these?

Tell us about them in the comments.

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Was It Wrong to Press Charges Against My Son? People Weighed In.

People love to press charges against others…

But when you do it against your own child? That’s a little strange…

But that’s what went down when a parent decided to slap some charges on their adult son, and they took to Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page to see if they were wrong for doing so.

AITA for pressing charges against my son?

“My son (28) was visiting us for a couple days and was at my house alone babysitting my daughters kid.

According to my son, the other day my 4-year-old granddaughter (his niece) pulled down the TV and broke it. My son told us that he took the TV to the dump as it was shattered and useless. My daughter and son-in-law (my 4yo granddaughters parents) felt very bad for what had happened and paid the cost of the TV that day.

My husband was watching our security cameras and our son’s story doesn’t hold up. We never see our granddaughter breaking the TV. All that we see is our son taking away the TV that is not shattered. We asked our son about this and he said that the security camera must have cut out the part that shows our granddaughter breaking the TV.

Eventually I got a call from my son’s girlfriend that lives with him. She said that she knew what was going on and felt guilty. She basically told us that our son had made up the story about the TV breaking and stole it and took it to their house to watch.

I filed a police report and his girlfriend let the police into their house to get us our TV back. We do plan on pressing charges against him. He stole our TV and made my daughter pay for it. That is messed up on so many levels. AITA for pressing charges?”

Here’s how people responded on Reddit.

This person said that the parent was absolutely correct to press charges and it’ll teach the son a life lesson.

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Another person said that the parent was right in this situation and that the son needs a major wake-up call.

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This person said that pressing charges was completely warranted in this story and that the situation could have escalated even further if they didn’t do that.

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But this person had a different take and said that this whole mess should have been handled in the family…

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Is This Single Mom a Jerk for Saying That Daughter Inherits House “No Matter What”? Here’s What People Said.

Things in life can seem just fine until money or property is involved. You know what I’m saying, right?

And that’s why this story obviously touched a nerve for the woman who wrote it. It concerns her house that she eventually wants to give to her daughter…but now there’s a man involved…

Check out this story from Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page.

AITA for saying that my daughter inherits my house “no matter what”?

“I’m a single mom in my 50s with one daughter. I got very lucky in that I bought a home in the Bay Area nearly 30 years ago for around $230K before the tech boom and now the house is worth about $1M.

I have a 23 year old daughter Camila who grew up in that house and she moved out last year to go live with her boyfriend. I’ve never explicitly told my daughter “the house will be yours” nor has she asked anything about it, but just sort of common sense – that’s my daughter. Who else would I give it to?

One important note – There are 2 homes in the neighborhood that are owned by lower middle class people (me and a neighbor who’s been here as long as I have). Otherwise, our neighbors are engineers and software developers. The Bay Area is simply un-affordable if you’re not in tech. My daughter is a hair stylist.

My fiance Steven and I have been together for 2 years. He has 2 young children (elementary school) he has joint custody of who I adore and I’m excited to help raise them. Steven and I don’t have a ton in the bank so a pre-nup seemed silly if it weren’t for the house.

I told him that I’m ready to combine finances and plan long term with him, but I wanted a pre-nup agreement just for the house. It’s a non-negotiable for me that my daughter inherits the house. He wasn’t happy with this. He said that $1M split 3 ways is enough for all 3 kids to get a headstart in life.

I disagree, I paid 80% of the mortgage by myself and Camila is my only child. She can have her dream life (working as a hair stylist, living in the Bay Area) with this house but will be unhappy (have to move out to a less desirable area) if it’s split.

I spoke to Camila about this and she agrees that she should get the house and said she always planned on inheriting it, just like I always planned on giving it to her.”

Readers shared their opinions about this conundrum.

This person said that she’s only been with this guy for two years and that his demanding part of the house is totally absurd.

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Another reader said that the woman needs to talk to an attorney ASAP to figure the situation out.

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This person pointed out that she needs to put her daughter’s name on the property as well. You have to cover your bases when it comes to this kind of stuff…

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This individual talked about how important prenups are how it has to be written in stone. You gotta be careful with this stuff!

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This reader said that the woman bought the house long before this Steven character was in the picture…and that it’s kind of presumptuous for him to think that he and his kids would get a piece of the action after they’ve only been together for two years.

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Finally, a Reddit user talked about how the woman needs to give the whole thing to her daughter because she did all the hard work and living in the Bay Area is EXPENSIVE, so everything should go to her daughter.

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Okay, now it’s your turn to weigh in.

Tell us what you think about this situation. And be honest with us!

We can’t wait to hear from you!

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Is This Single Mom a Jerk for Saying That Daughter Inherits House “No Matter What”? Here’s What People Said.

Things in life can seem just fine until money or property is involved. You know what I’m saying, right?

And that’s why this story obviously touched a nerve for the woman who wrote it. It concerns her house that she eventually wants to give to her daughter…but now there’s a man involved…

Check out this story from Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page.

AITA for saying that my daughter inherits my house “no matter what”?

“I’m a single mom in my 50s with one daughter. I got very lucky in that I bought a home in the Bay Area nearly 30 years ago for around $230K before the tech boom and now the house is worth about $1M.

I have a 23 year old daughter Camila who grew up in that house and she moved out last year to go live with her boyfriend. I’ve never explicitly told my daughter “the house will be yours” nor has she asked anything about it, but just sort of common sense – that’s my daughter. Who else would I give it to?

One important note – There are 2 homes in the neighborhood that are owned by lower middle class people (me and a neighbor who’s been here as long as I have). Otherwise, our neighbors are engineers and software developers. The Bay Area is simply un-affordable if you’re not in tech. My daughter is a hair stylist.

My fiance Steven and I have been together for 2 years. He has 2 young children (elementary school) he has joint custody of who I adore and I’m excited to help raise them. Steven and I don’t have a ton in the bank so a pre-nup seemed silly if it weren’t for the house.

I told him that I’m ready to combine finances and plan long term with him, but I wanted a pre-nup agreement just for the house. It’s a non-negotiable for me that my daughter inherits the house. He wasn’t happy with this. He said that $1M split 3 ways is enough for all 3 kids to get a headstart in life.

I disagree, I paid 80% of the mortgage by myself and Camila is my only child. She can have her dream life (working as a hair stylist, living in the Bay Area) with this house but will be unhappy (have to move out to a less desirable area) if it’s split.

I spoke to Camila about this and she agrees that she should get the house and said she always planned on inheriting it, just like I always planned on giving it to her.”

Readers shared their opinions about this conundrum.

This person said that she’s only been with this guy for two years and that his demanding part of the house is totally absurd.

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Another reader said that the woman needs to talk to an attorney ASAP to figure the situation out.

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This person pointed out that she needs to put her daughter’s name on the property as well. You have to cover your bases when it comes to this kind of stuff…

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This individual talked about how important prenups are how it has to be written in stone. You gotta be careful with this stuff!

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This reader said that the woman bought the house long before this Steven character was in the picture…and that it’s kind of presumptuous for him to think that he and his kids would get a piece of the action after they’ve only been together for two years.

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Finally, a Reddit user talked about how the woman needs to give the whole thing to her daughter because she did all the hard work and living in the Bay Area is EXPENSIVE, so everything should go to her daughter.

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Okay, now it’s your turn to weigh in.

Tell us what you think about this situation. And be honest with us!

We can’t wait to hear from you!

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Man Asks if It Was Wrong to Throw His Mom Out of the House After She Threw Out His Weed

This headline made me laugh very, very hard.

But, everyone’s situation is different and apparently this guy and his mom are embroiled in a weird struggle with his mother.

The man shared his story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page.

Take a look at what happened and check out how Reddit users responded.

AITA for throwing out my mom after she threw out my weed?

“So I am a 30 year old man. I’m single and live alone in a house that I own. A few months ago you know what happened and my mom lost her job. So I decided to let her stay with me.

I have a medical marijuana card and smoke every day. I knew my mom disliked weed so I warned her before she moved in that I would be smoking weed daily and would not stop for her. She agreed, and only asked that I smoke outside. Which I thought was a relatively reasonable request; weed has a strong smell and many people don’t like it.

At first this worked out fine at first. But she started making remarks about how I should quit, ect. I mostly just ignored them/brushed them off. Then it evolved to her demanding that I quit. As if I were still a child she could issue orders to.

I refused and told her that she can move out if she doesn’t like it. She started crying and saying that I don’t love her, I have a problem, ect.

The next day, I come home from work to find her waiting for me. She explained that she had flushed my weed (a little less than an ounce) for my own good. And then demanded that I go to treatment.

Well, predictably, I was furious. And not even really about not having the weed anymore. It is pretty cheap (I usually buy ounces for $125) and I can easily get more.

It was about her total lack of respect for me. I’m an adult, own my own house, have a good job, and have approval from the state to legally purchase and possess marijuana.So someone I’m doing a huge favor for demanding that I stop and throwing out my stuff when I refused is extremely outrageous to me. No matter if she pushed me out of her vagina 30 years ago.

Anyway, we argued about this for a while and it became clear to me that she was not sorry at all and that she would probably do it again. So I told her she can’t live with me anymore. I gave a month, but she has already packed all her sh*t and drove to my brothers house a couple hours away.

She obviously thinks I’m a huge *sshole. So does my brother. But I think that’s mostly because she is his problem now.”

Let’s see what people had to say about this.

This person stated the obvious: this guy is an adult and he doesn’t need his mom’s approval for anything. Times have changed, Mom!

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I love this one: “Master level boundary setting.” I’m gonna have to start using that…

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This person made it very clear where they stand. The man OWNS the house and his rules are the only ones that matter.

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Another person made an observation that I like to make all the time: why is it okay to drink yourself into oblivion but marijuana is considered horrible by some people?

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This Reddit user also thinks that this guy is not wrong in this situation. And he also made it clear BEFORE his mom moved in that he wasn’t going to quit smoking weed.

Some people…

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Finally, this person commended the man for setting boundaries and said something that we should all shout from the rooftops: your house, your rules!

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Oh, boy…some major family drama here.

What do you think about this whole situation?

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Take a Look at These Confessions From Parents Who Snoop on Their Kids

It must be hard being a parent and finding the right balance between nurturing your child in the way they should go and staying hands off enough to give them their own life and independence.

Where exactly does that line lie? I wouldn’t presume to say, not least of all because I’m not a parent. But it’s definitely still the topic of a lot of heated discussion, especially on the internet, and ESPECIALLY when stirred on by real, anonymous confessions like the ones in this collection from parents who couldn’t help but get maybe just a little too involved.

10. Spooky business

I don’t know how to tell you this, but kids cry all the time. I don’t think I’d put “ghosts” at the top of the probable causes.

Source: Whisper

9. Get that money

Well, we know what her current fantasy is.

Source: Whisper

8. “Routinely checking”

Good job, you’ve completely ruined this for him.

Source: Whisper

7. Follow, protect

Ok but how old is your daughter, though?

Source: Whisper

6. Reading up

A) you probably were
B) stop snoopin’

Source: Whisper

5. Plus

So she’s open with you, but that’s not enough?

Source: Whisper

4. Hackermom

If he finds out about this he’ll be mortified.

Source: Whisper

3. Surprise reading

Welp. Not sure what to do with that information.

Source: Whisper

2. Cheater, cheater

When they’re grown but still misbehaving.

Source: Whisper

1. Warning signs

Maybe you can bring it up without revealing this.

Source: Whisper

Honestly, I don’t envy parents at all. It seems like a really tough job, and knowing exactly how to handle it day to day has got to be impossible.

What do you think of where the line lies?

Tell us in the comments.

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This Woman Asked if She’s Wrong for Not Letting Her Sister Near Her Animal After She Made a TikTok Video With It

If you mess with any animal in any way, shape, or form, you’re no friend of mine.

And people these days seem to be doing all kinds of stupid pranks not only to other human beings but to animals as well to get a few laughs on social media.

An 18-year-0ld woman asked if she was wrong for the way she reacted to what her younger sister did to her pet.

Let’s see what happened…

AITA for not allowing my sister near my bearded dragon after doing a TikTok trend with my pet?

“I(18F) have a bearded dragon named Phil who I have had for about 1 year now. Phil is deeply loved by me and my family.

My sister(15F) who I will call Jane, really likes to make TikToks of Phil which I have completely no problem with since they’re normally just videos of Phil running around or doing something silly like opening his mouth when he basks.

Yesterday my sister came up to me to show me a Tik Tok she had made of Phil. There is a trend on Tiktok of putting butter on dogs as some audio plays over it of this guy saying “butter dog”. Well Jane showed me a video of her putting some soft butter on Phil so that she could follow the trend. When I saw that I became very upset.

I had seen a video recently of someone explaining how doing this trend with bearded dragons can be dangerous cause the butter will stick to their skin and if they get put back under their basking light the butter will heat up and basically burn the bearded dragons skin.

I told Jane to delete the video and that she can’t do stuff like that with Phil and quickly got him out from under his basking light that she had put him back under after the video and started to bathe him in the tub to try and get off any of the butter she didn’t wipe off.

My sister came and told me I was overreacting and that it’s just a fun trend. It snapped at her and told her I’m not letting her near Phil until she apologizes to me and promises to not do trends like these with Phil again, and ask me every time she wants to make a video with Phil.

My sister got angry and told me she wasn’t apologizing for just wanting to have fun with Phil and that I can’t take Phil away from her. After I finished making sure all the butter was off I put him back in his tank that’s in my room and told her she’s not allowed to come in and take Phil.

My parents found out this morning and told me I was out of line for what I did and that it was just a innocent video. They told me I need to stop freaking out so much over things that involve Phil. My sister said she’s not apologizing cause she didn’t know it would hurt Phil so I should get over it and let her see Phil again.

I feel like I can’t trust her with Phil though, if she hadn’t shown me the video Phil would’ve sat in his tank getting burned under his basking light and I wouldn’t even know until it was too late.

I think I might be the *sshole cause I could be overreacting like my family say I am and for yelling at her when she didn’t know that doing the trend would hurt Phil.

So reddit, am I the *sshole here?”

What the hell…?

Here’s how people responded to the story on Reddit.

This reader didn’t mince words: this was not funny and it was animal abuse.

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Another Reddit user said that the woman is entirely justified in the way she acted toward her sister.

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This person said that the woman’s sister has lost the privilege of seeing and spending time with Phil (great name, by the way) and that the safety of the pet is the most important thing.

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Another person said that while she might have been a little bit harsh with her sister, the younger sibling is acting like a child and she needs to grow up and take some responsibility for her actions.

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What do you think about this situation?

Is this girl wrong or were her actions justified?

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This Dad Gave His Kids a Major Reality Check When It Came to an Inheritance. Was He Wrong?

Sometimes kids need a HUGE reality check. And who better to give it to them than their parents?

And that’s exactly what this father did when he decided to teach his two adult children a lesson about working and making money.

But now he’s having some second thoughts and thinks he might have been too harsh…

Let’s see what he had to say on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page…

AITA for telling my kids that they aren’t getting a penny from me when I die if they don’t shape up?

“I (57M) have two kids, N(30M) and A(27F). N works part-time flipping burgers, but insists his real job is as a gaming streamer.

A claims she’s a ‘professional’ influencer, her livelihood supported by her bf. My kids are adults, what they do with their lives is their choice. We’ve had several arguments about it, but ultimately, as adults, the responsibility for their lives is their own.

Over Christmas, we were talking about their mother (on zoom) when A brought up the subject of her will, wondering if she’d left anything to them. I confessed that she passed before ever writing one, and the money she did have was used up the year she passed.

We were a dual-income family in a time when neither of us were making a lot. It was a hard time. Eventually, I joined a friend in the private sector and my fortune changed. I’m not ‘rich’, but I’ll never be uncomfortable again.

Well, N then decided to ‘lighten the mood’ by implying that I’ll make up for it when I pass. I asked him what he meant, and the conversation went as followed:

Me: What do you mean?

N: Well, you have a lot of money, right? It’ll go to us.

Me: And who told you that?

A: What do you mean?

Me: I’ve made it very clear that I don’t approve of the way you both live. You both chose not to get an education or real jobs. You have no way of supporting yourself. (I often buy them groceries).

You refuse to help yourselves, so why would I enable your ‘lifestyles’ by leaving you my savings when I die? You want my money, then grow up and get real jobs, but the bank of dad will be forever closed when dad is forever closed.

What followed was a heated argument where both N and A accused me of being manipulative and unsupportive, so I got real with them.

Me: You both refuse to grow up. Flipping burgers is an honourable job, but it’s not going to keep a roof over your head. What if you have kids? What if you get fired? And (A), what will you do if your boyfriend breaks up with you because all you do is sit on your *ss all day and take photos of yourself?

You want to do that, find a modelling agency. A real job. You both speak of chasing your dreams, but neither one of you are in any position to do that because neither of you wants to take responsibility for yourselves right now. I’ve said it a million times. You’re adults.

What you do with your lives is your choice and your responsibility. Dreams take money, and neither of you have that. Grow up. Get a job. A real job. Then chase your dreams. I’m not going to leave a penny to either of you if your life plan is to ‘get by’ until I die, then coast through the rest of your lives off the earnings of my hard work.

N ended the call after a prolonged silence. A called me an AH then did the same. I haven’t heard from either since, and neither will take my calls.

So, AITA here? I think I might be because I was unnecessarily harsh on Christmas.”

Let’s see how folks on Reddit responded…

This person said that this dad is not in the wrong in any way, shape, or form because that money is all his and he earned it.

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Another reader said that his kids really need to grow up and get serious because he’s only 57-years-old and has a lot of living left to do.

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This Reddit user talked about how this man’s kids are totally unrealistic and he did the right thing by putting them in their place.

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A reader said that he can relate to this guy’s situation because his brother is totally irresponsible when it comes to money and work.

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Finally, this person said that everyone is to blame in this situation.

And dad should have made his kids realize this is how it was gonna be a looong time ago.

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Do you think this dad went overboard in his actions or was he doing the right thing?

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Person Asks if Their Joke About Only Eating Apples Went Too Far

Apples are my favorite fruit and I really like the idea of making a joke about it, but I would never pull the kind of prank I’m about to tell you about.

Judging by the comments, a lot of other people are also not fans of what this person did to their friends, but a lot of people also found it really funny.

This person wrote about the incident in the the “Ask the ***hole” Reddit page and asked people if this prank crossed a line.

AITA for pretending to be an “Appletarian” (eating only apple derived foods/drinks) for 3 weeks as a prank, causing my friends to have an intervention for me?

I got the idea a few weeks ago to prank my friends my pretending to be an “Appletarian”, meaning somebody who only eats food products that are derived from apples and would only drink apple juice or apple cider.

I told them them all that I had read on the internet that eating only apples was the healthiest thing for you. When I first told them they thought I was joking, but they underestimated how committed I would be to a joke. So, whenever in the presence of one of my friends (or friend-of-friends/coworkers/etc who knew them) I was very careful to only be seen eating apples or drinking apple juice/cider.

Apples whole, apples diced, apple sauce, the inside of an apple pie, baked apples, candy apples with the chocolate shaved off, etc.

Finally after about a week they bought that I had become an Appletarian. They started giving me information about how unhealthy it was to only eat apples, and growing increasingly exasperated by it. Some of them even got angry.

But I wanted to stick with the joke. Finally, after the end of 3 weeks, I walked into what I was told was a movie night but was actually an intervention for me.

They were all super concerned about my well being and had all sorts of information or whatever. Finally I started laughing hysterically. They were confused as hell so I told them I had been faking it the whole time and had been eating real meals outside their knowledge. I even took out some beef jerky from my pant pocket to prove it and munched it.

I thought they’d appreciate the joke but they were actually really annoyed. My girlfriend even broke up with me over this because a few days ago I had ruined our date night when I told the waiter I only wanted apples because I was an Appletarian and had “embarrassed her for a dumb joke”.

In my opinion the joke was solid and they should appreciate my commitment to the prank.

But, did I go too far?

This person didn’t feel he went too far at all.

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This Reddit user understands the value of pranks, but is not happy with the pain the OP caused.

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Read your audience — that’s this user’s message.

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This person tells the OP to think about how worried his loved ones must have been for his mental health.

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However, at least one more person didn’t think this guy was an a-hole.

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It was nice to see so many people in the comments advocating sympathy for friends instead of disregard for their feelings. I would have liked to see ideas in the comments for harmless alternative pranks.

Share a time with us when you pulled a prank and it failed.

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Girl Asks if She’s an A-Hole for Resisting Adoption

Family dynamics are strange, especially when you’re a teenager.

But when you’ve lost someone close to you, or you live in a blended family, there really are no clear cut answers in life, as shown in this recent AITA conversation.

AITA for not going along with being adopted to make everyone happy?

I hate to post here because I know there are so many of these but I really need to hear what you all think.

I (16f) lost my mom when I was 7. My sister was 2 at the time and my brother was a a few months old. Our dad met my stepmom about a year later, started dating her six months after they met (it was a thing for single parents). She had two kids who were close in age to my siblings. After they got married things were fine at first and then they wanted to adopt each others kids. Her kids were excited as were my siblings but I did not want to be adopted. This wasn’t made into a huge deal but they really quizzed me on why and tried to figure out if they could change my mind. They weren’t able to and I know this really hurt her feelings. Over the years it was let go. They adopted the other kids and everyone was happy. Or so I thought. It seems like it made them unhappy I said no to the adoption and my siblings have wondered why I didn’t want to be adopted too.

I love my stepmom. I get along with her really well. I think she’s great. But I don’t love her the same as I love my mom or dad. It’s different with her. Not bad just not as close. And that for me was reason enough to not be adopted. But there’s also the fact I don’t want my mom’s name erased from everything. I know they’re not trying to replace her but if I’m adopted her name is no longer the legal name I put down, it doesn’t change biology but it does make my stepmom my mom and no matter how much I care about her I just don’t want her to be my mom in all official senses of the word.

It has come up again because they offered the adoption again and my answer was the same. My dad decided we needed to go to therapy (the three of us) and the therapist told them they couldn’t therapy me into agreeing. My stepmom said it’s not about that for her, she just wants to know what she did wrong, and why I’m opposed. My dad said he feels like I’m holding back and he said there is an unhappiness with the fact I have kept myself on the outside by not becoming a more official part of the family unit.

It bothers me. But part of me feels bad that this is something that makes them so unhappy.

AITA?

So many feels on every side of this one. The original poster went on to add:

I feel like I could be the asshole because I know how much this means to them and I know it might make some things easier for them if we were all legally the kids of both my dad and stepmom.

Readers, however, felt differently, and the consensus was strongly in favor of the teen.

Many reacted negatively towards the parents, labeling them as the real problems in the situation, such as this respondent who felt the parents should back off:

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And this one, who agreed that the parents were drifting towards AH territory themselves.

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Others pointed out that everyone’s heart was in the right place, and the family just needed to continue working to understand each others’ points of view:

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Many shared their own similar experiences, including a widow who sided with the teen:

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An adult chimed in with a story about their friend, who chose to be adopted later:

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And another shared her painful story of giving into the parental pressure:

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But while many expressed their dismay at the parents’ insistence, a few readers offered a potential explanation for their behavior:

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There’s no right or wrong answer here, but two things are clear. Adoption is a very personal matter for both the parent and the child, and people can’t just change their feelings to suit others.

What do you think? Let us know in the comments.

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