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Was This Person Wrong for Telling Their Family the Real Reason They Wanted to Move In With Their Dad?

This story is a bit of a heartbreaker, FYI…

It involves family, stepparents, stepkids, and a lot of mixed emotions.

Take a look at this post from Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page and read on to see how people reacted.

AITA for why I want to move in with my dad?

“My mom and stepdad are foster parents, but living with foster kids is kind of awful. Nothing against them and I really hope they’re getting the help they need, but it sucks. I was forced into the tiny room, which is fine, but I also cant really leave my room. I cant play music or video games, I always have to let them pick movies and tv shows.

I feel like a prisoner in my own home and I cant speak up about it because then I’m being ungrateful. I know its nowhere near what most kids experience, but I still h**e it.

For months I’ve been begging my dad to let me move in with him. I spend all my time there and it would just make more sense. Logically I know I’ll never be able to – he’s working seventy hours a week living in a one bed apartment. But its fun to pretend.

My mom and stepdad dont seem to understand where I’m coming from. I should be grateful – I have clean clothes on my back and food in my stomach. Whenever I try and explain they never listen and point out how much better I have it.

Anyway, I was talking to my cousin on Monday, and mentioned staying with my dad this weekend. She asked why, and I explained that I just dont like being at home. She asked why and if thats why I want to move in with my dad, and I said yes and explained how I felt. She eventually went home and told her mom (I guess?). Yesterday my aunt pulled up and basically demanded to know what was going on.

I dont know what exactly happened but they got into an argument and my cousin came up to help me pack some clothes for a few days. When we went down my parents accused me of making things up, saying that I had no need to feel the way I do.

My aunt didnt really give me a chance to reply before we left. I went home today to grab some stuff, and they called me selfish, saying I’d created an aggressive atmosphere which wasnt good for he foster kids. I said, “I dont care about the foster kids right now. Why do they matter more than me?”

My stepdad told me to get out and I did. A whole bunch of family has blocked me on socials and my foster sister has been posting about how I’m selfish and only care about my own feelings.

My dad is now clued in, and he and my aunt are both saying that I’m not in the wrong for feeling the way I do, but no one else seems to agree.

So, AITA?”

Let’s see what Reddit users had to say about this…

This reader said that the mom and the stepdad are clearly ignoring the mom’s biological son in this situation.

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Another person thinks the mom and stepdad might be fostering kids just to have some extra money rolling in…

Could be…

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This individual made it simple: the mom needs to put her biological son FIRST.

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And another reader said that this young person is not an a**hole at all and that they deserve to live with their dad where they’ll be taken care of in the right way.

Amen!

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How do you feel about how this person acted?

Were they a jerk?

Or did they act appropriately?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know.

Thanks a lot!

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Is This Guy Wrong For Not Helping His Daughter Pay for College? People Responded.

The age-old battle of who is going to pay for college is still going strong, folks!

And here’s yet another example…

A dad asked folks on Reddit if he is acting like an a**hole in regard to his daughter and her college plans.

Let’s take a look.

AITA For Refusing To Help My Daughter Pay For College?

“I (48m) have three children with my ex. My son “Joe” (24m) and two daughters “Jane” (21f) and “Amy” (19f).

After the children were born my great-grandmother started a small Education fund for each of them that I have now since controlled since her passing.

There weren’t any specific criteria for this fund within the context of the law or Bank policy because of the type of fund my great-grandmother started. I’ve added my own money to fund and my parents have occasionally put in some cash but it was never expected. My ex never put a dime into it but always wanted to have equal control of it and every time I refused she would get upset.

Over the years she’s tried to say that she needed money from the fund for expenses for the kids, citing that the child support I was paying wasn’t enough. I still refused and said that to just send me the bill and I’ll pay for it directly. She didn’t want that and would shut up after I asked how she could be so desperate for money for our kids but refuse to give any details.

Fast forward to when Joe was going to college and I told my son to just give me enough information so that I can pay the school every semester and he’d be good.

My ex tried to convince him to get me to give him all the money so that way he could have his privacy. My son did consider it but decided that he’d rather I just do this for him because he was worried of blowing through the money. I was proud of him.

Jane, however, gave into her mom’s way of thinking and insisted that I just give her the entire fund during her 2nd year. I tried to convince her that this way was best and pointed at how well this worked out for her brother.

Jane just called me controlling and said that I didn’t respect her enough to let her make her own choices. Eventually I relented but made it clear that this was all the money that there was for her for college. That once it’s gone, it’s gone and she was on her own if she needed more.

Everything seemed fine up until about a few weeks ago and Jane called crying saying that she wasn’t going to finish because she ran out of money. I asked her what happened and surprise, surprise Jane gave money to my ex. I let her vent and then told her that everything was going to be okay.

That while she may not graduate by a certain time she can still finish school, she’ll just need to apply for grants, scholarships, loans and maybe even take a year off to just work. How I would tell the school how she was on her own so she could get more money

Both Jane and my ex are upset with me, because they expect me to pay for her schooling and that I was being horrible for wanting her to struggle with loans. To me this isn’t about being petty but rather giving Jane a hard lesson.

She wanted to be treated like an adult, well finding your own way is what adults do. Joe agrees with me but, now Amy is being pressured to access her fund to help her sister. Technically, I could help but I’d rather Jane work for it herself.

AITA?”

And here’s how people on Reddit responded to this story.

One reader said that the dad is not in the wrong here and his daughter will learn a lesson from this situation.

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Another Reddit user argued that the girl’s mom was really out of line here and they consider what she did to be “financial abuse.”

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This individual thinks that the mom is also out of line and they called the dad in this story a “poor guy.”

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This Reddit user said that the mom here is a total gold digger and is also manipulative.

I think you’re right on the money!

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And lastly, this person disagreed with the other readers and said that the dad should not be “bribing” his daughter. Something to think about…

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Is This Guy Wrong For Not Helping His Daughter Pay for College? People Responded.

The age-old battle of who is going to pay for college is still going strong, folks!

And here’s yet another example…

A dad asked folks on Reddit if he is acting like an a**hole in regard to his daughter and her college plans.

Let’s take a look.

AITA For Refusing To Help My Daughter Pay For College?

“I (48m) have three children with my ex. My son “Joe” (24m) and two daughters “Jane” (21f) and “Amy” (19f).

After the children were born my great-grandmother started a small Education fund for each of them that I have now since controlled since her passing.

There weren’t any specific criteria for this fund within the context of the law or Bank policy because of the type of fund my great-grandmother started. I’ve added my own money to fund and my parents have occasionally put in some cash but it was never expected. My ex never put a dime into it but always wanted to have equal control of it and every time I refused she would get upset.

Over the years she’s tried to say that she needed money from the fund for expenses for the kids, citing that the child support I was paying wasn’t enough. I still refused and said that to just send me the bill and I’ll pay for it directly. She didn’t want that and would shut up after I asked how she could be so desperate for money for our kids but refuse to give any details.

Fast forward to when Joe was going to college and I told my son to just give me enough information so that I can pay the school every semester and he’d be good.

My ex tried to convince him to get me to give him all the money so that way he could have his privacy. My son did consider it but decided that he’d rather I just do this for him because he was worried of blowing through the money. I was proud of him.

Jane, however, gave into her mom’s way of thinking and insisted that I just give her the entire fund during her 2nd year. I tried to convince her that this way was best and pointed at how well this worked out for her brother.

Jane just called me controlling and said that I didn’t respect her enough to let her make her own choices. Eventually I relented but made it clear that this was all the money that there was for her for college. That once it’s gone, it’s gone and she was on her own if she needed more.

Everything seemed fine up until about a few weeks ago and Jane called crying saying that she wasn’t going to finish because she ran out of money. I asked her what happened and surprise, surprise Jane gave money to my ex. I let her vent and then told her that everything was going to be okay.

That while she may not graduate by a certain time she can still finish school, she’ll just need to apply for grants, scholarships, loans and maybe even take a year off to just work. How I would tell the school how she was on her own so she could get more money

Both Jane and my ex are upset with me, because they expect me to pay for her schooling and that I was being horrible for wanting her to struggle with loans. To me this isn’t about being petty but rather giving Jane a hard lesson.

She wanted to be treated like an adult, well finding your own way is what adults do. Joe agrees with me but, now Amy is being pressured to access her fund to help her sister. Technically, I could help but I’d rather Jane work for it herself.

AITA?”

And here’s how people on Reddit responded to this story.

One reader said that the dad is not in the wrong here and his daughter will learn a lesson from this situation.

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Another Reddit user argued that the girl’s mom was really out of line here and they consider what she did to be “financial abuse.”

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This individual thinks that the mom is also out of line and they called the dad in this story a “poor guy.”

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This Reddit user said that the mom here is a total gold digger and is also manipulative.

I think you’re right on the money!

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And lastly, this person disagreed with the other readers and said that the dad should not be “bribing” his daughter. Something to think about…

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What are your thoughts on this situation?

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This Guy Won’t Leave His Child Alone With His Parents Anymore. Is He a Jerk?

It’s hard for me to comprehend not letting my kids (if I had any) spend as much time as possible with my parents.

But, as you know, every family is different and some grandparents tend to cross the line on occasion.

And this young man is fired up at his mom and dad because they did something with his daughter without his permission.

Let’s see what happened…

AITA for not wanting our daughter left alone with my parents anymore after they did something w/o permission?

“Me and my fiancee (22m & 23f) had our baby girl Thalia and she just turned 9 months old.

Everyone in our family has been coming around more to see her. Two months ago we stopped talking to my parents after they pulled some s**t. We basically decided it was gonna be up to Thalia when she older if she wants to get her ears pierced.

Tbh I was never into the idea of it being done as a baby when they can’t consent, like my fiancée parents pierced her ears when she was a baby and she always hated wearing earrings. Still doesn’t wear any.

Just like every other parent that was our decision not to do it to her while she’s a baby. My parents didn’t shut up about it for a while saying “she’d look so cute.” But we told them already no and that’s our answer.

When they babysat for us once they got one of my mom’s friends to do it and we were f**king pi**ed they went behind our backs. We stopped talking to them after that for disrespecting our decision. Everyone was saying we were making a big deal and we can’t cut them out their granddaughters life over something like that.

So we decided they’re allowed to only see Thalia when one of us is around and they won’t be left alone with her. That’s where everyone is still saying we’re being massive a-holes because we’re still punishing them over something that’s not a big deal and we’re treating them like children.

Even my fiancées parents think that only letting them have supervised visits is too much and they should be allowed to babysit or have Thalia at their place alone like before. We’re still not wanting to change our minds on our conditions so it’s pinning everyone against us.

Are we being a**holes that we just don’t trust them alone with her and rather one of us be there always?”

Wow…now let’s check out how people responded on Reddit.

This reader said that the man is not acting like an a**hole and they also said they could relate to parents doing something like this.

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Another person said that the person who pierced their daughter’s ears went above and beyond. And that’s the way it should be!

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This individual argued that the man’s parents deliberately went against his wishes so he has a right to be angry with them.

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And this Reddit user went so far as to call these actions “assault on a minor.”

That’s an interesting take…

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Now it’s your turn to weigh in.

In the comments, tell us what you think about this situation.

We’d love to hear from you!

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This Woman Won’t Have Anything to Do With Her Grandparents. Is She Wrong?

Family squabbles can sure turn ugly in a hurry.

We all do our best to avoid these kinds of situations, but sometimes things just spiral out of control.

And a teenage girl decided to share a painful story on the “Am I The A**hole?” page on Reddit and she wants to know if she’s out of line.

Take a look.

AITA For Pretending To Not Know My Grandparents?

“Just for background information, when I (19f) was 4 years old my dad d**d. At his funeral his parents told me, my mom (28yo at the time) and my sister (6yo at the time) that we are the reasons he d**d.

They also kept his life insurance money, that was supposed to go to my sister and I.

Since then, my grandparents have refused contact with all three of us and the only form of contact I have with them is them sending me and my sister a $50 gift card to Walmart twice a year (birthday’s and Christmas). The last time I received a gift card from them was on my 10th birthday and it was for Baby’sRUs. I haven’t heard from them since.

They live in Florida and I live in New York so I have no chance of seeing them either, at least I thought.

Flash forward to present day, 3 days ago now, I was in Walmart near my house to get a few things for my mom. When I walked past the pharmacy I saw my dads parents. I tried to hide in the isles because I didn’t want confrontation, but they saw me anyway.

They started asking me a bunch of questions about my families financial situations and college and if I’m married yet, stuff like that. I responded by saying “I have no idea who you are.” They looked angry and shocked by this but told me who they were and after that I told them I had no desire to talk to them and I didn’t have anything to say to them anyway.

I started walking away and was just going to leave it alone, but then they said “you’re so disrespectful. we are your grandparents and you need to treat us better than that. your mom did a terrible job with you.” After that comment I turned around and went off on them.

I said something along the lines of “you are not my grandparents because you abandoned my sister and I after telling us we are the reasons for our dads d**th and you stole his money from us. Don’t you dare talk about my mother either because she did an amazing job with us without any help from you two. I’d be happy with never seeing your sorry faces again.” I started to walk away again and heard my grandmother start to cry, but I kept walking.

AITA? The are technically my grandparents, but they did so many things that are unforgivable.”

Now it’s time to check out how people responded to this post.

This reader said that the grandparents deserve this kind of treatment and that they’re pretty much strangers to this young woman.

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Another person said that it sounds like the grandparents are asking her about money because they might be in financial trouble.

I think they might be on to something…

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This individual pointed out the obvious: if the grandparents were so concerned, why haven’t they been in her life before?

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Finally, this Reddit user said that the grandparents should have expected this treatment because of the way they’ve acted in the past.

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Now we want to hear from you.

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Thanks in advance!

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This Person Wants to Uninvite Someone to Their Wedding. Are They Wrong?

We got another family drama story for you!

Do you think you can handle it!

Well, we’re about to find out…

Check out this story from the “Am I The A**hole” page on Reddit that involves in-laws and a strange threat…

AITA for uninviting MIL’s fiancée to my wedding after he threatened to pour wine on me?

“For some background we aren’t very close to MIL or her fiancé. She feels we took FILs side in the divorce and she has always kept her distance.

The other day we were at my fiancé’s grandparents house. MILs sister made a joke that MIL should be one of those MILs and wear white. MIL just laughed. It doesn’t really seem like something she would do but I added that my bridesmaids would soak her in wine if she did.

MILs fiancé said that would be hilarious because he would destroy my wedding gown. I asked what he meant and he said he would empty a bottle on me if any of my stupid friends did anything to her. MIL tried to move the conversation along but I have anxiety about stuff like that and it was bothering me. I said he can’t come to the wedding because I can’t trust him.

MIL called me this morning and wanted to confirm if I was serious. I said I was (not the first incident, he has been rude in the past) MIL started crying and said she isn’t going to be around her ex husband without him. I said that was pretty vain but her choice.

Now MIL isn’t coming, which we don’t care too much but her whole side of the family is furious. Her dad might not come now which will bother my fiancé.”

Now let’s check out how Reddit users responded.

This person made it simple: everyone in this story sucks and they’re all to blame.

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This reader agreed that everyone is pretty bad in this story and argued that the person who wrote the post is just as much to blame as everyone else.

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Another individual said that everyone here is to blame…except for the mother-in-law.

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Lastly, this person was adamant that the mother-in-law definitely did not do anything wrong but that everyone else involved is an a**hole. Boom!

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Okay, you know the drill…

Now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us what you think about this story.

Please and thank you!

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This Person Asked if They’re Wrong for Embarrassing Their Parents Over a Tip Jar

Here’s a pretty unique story that I’ve never encountered before…

It involves family, parents, parties…and a tip jar.

Take a look at this story from Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole” page and keep reading to see how people responded.

AITA for “embarrassing” my parents by putting out a tip jar?

“Before the world went to s**t, my parents LOVED hosting big parties. They’d ask me to play piano during these parties, and I’d usually oblige. I’ve been playing piano since I was 5 and have competed at the state and national levels.

They recently resumed hosting parties now that a lot of their friends have been vaccinated. Usually, I come downstairs, play a few Liszt/Chopin pieces, and head back upstairs to my room because there’s no one my age at these parties. Before the most recent party, I got the idea of putting out a tip jar with a sign saying “pianoboy12345’s college fund” along with my cashapp, venmo, and paypal.

I did this because I’m going to college in the fall and want some extra spending money. My parents are pretty well off and most of their friends are also well off, so I ended up earning almost $1000 that night.

My mom came up to me after the party was over and said I embarrassed her and my dad because the sign suggested that they’re going to have trouble paying for my college.”

Hmmmm…now it’s time to take a look at how readers responded on Reddit.

This person said that they are a jerk for doing this and that putting out a tip jar is just plain tacky.

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Another person said that while tacky, the writer is young and maybe they’re just fed up with being asked to play at parties by their parents.

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Another individual said that this young person shouldn’t be working for free just because their parents ask and they should be getting paid for their work.

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Finally, this person said that the writer is NOT wrong for their actions and that they should be making a little dough for their efforts.

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Do you think these actions were rude or disrespectful?

Sound off in the comments and let us know.

Thanks in advance!

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Memes for All the Tired Parents Out There Who Are Trying to Raise Boys

There’s been a lot of push back lately about the phrase “boys will be boys.”

Understandably, when it’s used in defense of inexcusable behavior on the part of men, especially in the realm of assault, etc, then it’s pretty repulsive.

But there’s another sense in which the term gets used – the sense in which I’d always thought of it. And that is that boys are just…kind of insane. Little boys especially. And they’re gonna do weird, goofy, chaotic stuff.

And at a certain point there’s nothing you can do but meme about it.

10. Pay attention

Too laughably doomed little words.

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9. A spirited child

Yeah, well, the Devil is a spirit too.

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8. Say it proud

Well if he’d have denied it, he’d certainly have supplied it.
That is the law.

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7. Reality sets in

Once again I learn that movies aren’t real and everything is nonsense.

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6. Walking away

This kid is going places, and we all need to stay far away from wherever those places are.

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5. Just a second

Seriously, I just had to poop real quick, what did y’all do?

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4. No judgement

Whatever gets him to sleep is acceptable.

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3. The Lincoln Log Lawyer

Thank you for joining me tonight. Please, have a seat.

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2. Drop ’em

Look, we didn’t decide how our bodies work.

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1. Failed successfully

Yeah, try it again though.

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I guess boys really will be boys. Since that’s…a tautology and all.

What’s your experience with raising kids?

Tell us in the comments.

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A Guy Reported His Own Mother for Identity Fraud. Was He Wrong?

It’s gotta be bad when you report someone in your own family for any kind of crime…

But it happens, folks!

And that’s what happened here in a story about a young man reporting his own mother for identity fraud.

Let’s see what went down and how readers reacted on Reddit.

AITA for reporting my mom for identity fraud?

“I (24M) and my gf put in an application to rent a condo and found out my mom borrowed ~$43,000 with my social insurance.

I talk with a lawyer and he tells me I can either report my mom for identity fraud or pay it off(or declare bankruptcy). I confront my mom and she begs me not to do it and just pay off the debt. I don’t have anywhere near that money and decide to do what the lawyer recommended. The lawyer told me filling out the police report is not the same as pressing charges but I’m still scared what might happen to her.

We use to be very poor and she used my social insurance to pay the bills and provide for me and my brother. This feels like I’m betraying her and her and my brother refuse to speak to me. My relatives all stopped talking to me.

Am I the a**hole here?”

And here’s how people responded on Reddit.

This person stated the obvious: $43,000 is a lot of money, no doubt about it.

And it sounds like his mom isn’t the kind of person to actually pay a debt off.

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Another reader said that this man is now A LOT of money in the hole and that this illegal.

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This Reddit user said that they know someone who had a similar experience and it caused a lot of havoc.

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This person thinks that the man needs to report his mom and they’re speaking from experience.

Check out what they had to say.

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Okay, now it’s your turn to sound off.

In the comments, tell us what you think about this story and if you agree with how this person handled it.

We’d love to hear from you. Thanks!

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These Tweets are Snapshots of What Parenting is Really Like

I have absolutely no clue what it’s like to be a parent. Based on my experiences with my nieces, it seems to be mostly blur of screaming and yelling at small people telling them not to scream so much.

Which, don’t get me wrong, sounds amazing, but I think I’m good for now.

At the moment I’d prefer to just read these tweets about parenting rather than jump into the gene pool myself.

10. Get ‘er done

He’s ready for a life of labor far too soon.

9. Selective listening

This is why everybody needs a little distance.

8. Sleep sweet

This is the most effective alarm clock I can imagine.

7. Sweet bliss

Plus maybe you got some fun drugs afterwards?

6. The routine

Bedtime is when kids suddenly realize they have a long list of errands to run.

5. Catherine Obvious

If it’s not obvious to you now, it will be soon enough.

4. Important life lessons

I was homeschooled and yup, this is it.

3. I’ve created a monster

They must know their place, now and forever more.

2. Letting sleeping dogs lie

It’s really best for everyone’s health.

1. That’s the joke

What is this sleep everyone keeps talking about and do you guys sell it in bulk perchance?

So, yeah, nothing in there is making me super excited about the idea of having kid of my own, but, heck, maybe someday. In a year or a century or whatever.

Do you have kids? What’s it really like?

Hit me with the full scoop in the comments, if you would.

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