What’s Your Big Family Secret That Ended Up Coming Out?

A lot of families out there kind of operate like soap operas.

There’s drama, intrigue, backstabbing, and a whole lot of dark secrets that seem to come out at the worst time.

Like a wedding or a funeral.

And that’s when the finger-pointing and the fighting start!

Have you ever had a big secret come out in your family?

Folks on AskReddit shared their stories.

1. So many questions.

“My mother is kid #7 of 10.

My aunt (kid #4) who was born in 1945 did her DNA and found out that she has a different father from everyone else. She was devastated. There was always rumor that there was an affair but nobody talked about it.

She has so many questions but nobody’s alive to answer her.

2. Crazy.

“In the 1970s a dead girl was found on my grandpa’s property.

Everyone including the local police just assumed she was in with a bad crowd and m**dered by drug dealers.

In the 1990s, some of his grandkids came forward about all the molestation.

After that, people started to realize grandpa probably k**led that girl.”

3. Shocking and sad.

“My dad always thought his father who raised him wasn’t his biodad and the father thought the same.

He was treated terribly by his father because the father was told he couldn’t have children and my father was born prematurely (but at a healthy weight).

So, everyone assumed my grandmother had an affair and got pregnant with my dad. It was to the point that after my grandmother d**d, my grandfather failed to even mention to his new wife that he had a son and grandchild (me).

Years later, my dad gets an AncestryDNA test for him and me. He find out that his dad was actually his bio dad. It was shocking and sad.”

4. A reunion.

“Found out my grandma had a baby as a teenager and was forced to give him up for adoption by my great grandparents.

40 years later he found us.”

5. Wow.

“My great grandmother wasn’t actually Mexican, but rather was adopted by Mexicans from a Chinese family who was being kicked out of Mexico when railroad construction was over.

She always had more typically Asian features but only spoke Spanish and it was never really questioned. 23 and me is a hell of a thing.”

6. The gift.

When I was 5 years old (1988), Santa Claus left a Nintendo on our front porch.

It was wrapped in newspaper, and my parents had no idea who gifted it to us. My dad, particularly, tried to figure it out. He was always suspicious that it had been a family friend. It was by far the best gift of the year, and we played it all the time throughout our childhood.

My dad d**d in 2004.

Last Christmas, my mom explained that she was the one who had bought it and surreptitiously placed it on the porch. My dad really liked to be in control of things and had forbidden the purchase.

She knew better. She didn’t tell a soul for 30 years.”

7. The real story.

“After my mom d**d I found out the real story behind my parent’s marriage.

She came to my father’s country to visit some of her relatives. Met my father and after just one week she asked him to marry her so she could stay in the country. My father accepted because he had no one else and his parents were pressing him to get married already.

But the highlight of the story is that over some time, the two of them fell in love with each other. Their love only grew over the time and they were really happy together. My mother spent her last days very ill, and she would accept only my father by her bedside.

He swears to this day that she was an angel sent from god to take care of him. I am shocked that they got married just like that, out of the blue and ended up loving each other so so so deeply. I can only hope to have as good and loving marriage as they had.”

8. Scandalous.

“About a month ago, my mother-in-law’s 88 year old sister revealed on her death bed that her husband’s best friend was actually the father of all 4 of her children.

Her husband was an abusive Grade A jerk by all accounts.

While everyone was shocked, no one was saddened by this news.”

9. Where the bodies are buried.

“I only just recently heard about this, but my grandmother had gotten a little drunk with my dad and brother a month or so ago and started talking about our great uncle Ferber (not sure on the spelling).

From what I heard he apparently k**led quite a few people and buried them on some family-owned land in a swamp.”

10. What a story.

“My uncle served in Vietnam. While over there his troop found a baby that had been orphaned or abandoned, they aren’t sure.

My uncle was shipping back to Australia soon and wanted to adopt him, but my aunt said no (they’d only been married about 4 months when he was drafted, so while I don’t agree with my aunt’s actions and generally don’t like her as a person, I can understand why she said no). My uncle’s troop found a family to raise the baby, and that’s the story the whole family knows.

The secret is that my uncle and some other guys from his troop stayed in contact with the family and the kid, sending them money every month to help raise him and then to help him go to university and eventually helped him and his adoptive family move to Australia in the last 90s.

My aunt and the rest of my family had no idea all this time, it only came out when my aunt and uncle divorced in 2017 and she had a forensic accountant go through their bank records. She worked at a bank for like 40 years and always noticed the money missing, but his reasons were always justified.

Since we all know now, my uncle has introduced some of us to the guy and his family. They’re all really lovely people.”

11. Mobbed up.

“My great grandfather didn’t d** of cancer.

He d**d from complications after being shot when one of his businesses was being robbed. Maybe. He also spent a lot of time in Atlantic City. He also had a lot of partners in the Teamsters and other unions in coal country. Also, everyone called him “Smiling Tony’ but his name wasn’t Tony.

He d**d in the 1960s, long before my time, but when my great grandmother d**d 20 years ago, a very old guy showed up to the funeral in a white suit and all of the oldest people in my family kisses his hand. When I asked, no one knew who he was.

My grandfather moved his family away from central PA in the late 1960s and disconnected from all of this but, there it is.”

12. Grandpa.

“When my paternal grandfather d**d the federal govt reached out to do a state funeral. He’d been career army and a colonel, so we didn’t question it.

Then the funeral came and they went ALL OUT! Huge procession, people showing up who are really big names, like heads of dept’s, senators, retired senators, people from the CIA and State Dept.

It was nuts and we were all super confused. Turns out he was a key dude in the OSI during WWII and when the OSI splintered into the CIA and Secret Service, he went the Secret Service route.

He wasn’t on White House detail, but instead worked in a covert office that dealt with counterfeiting and currency. He went blind when I was a toddler and retired from ‘the Army.’

For whatever reason, he told no one about all his covert work with the OSI and Secret Service and the only person who knew (my grandmother) was sworn to secrecy and never told anyone. My father grew up thinking he was just a colonel working on base.

Only after his death were we given all sorts of cool s**t like publications by him, lectures given by him, and all kinds of things from various things he did and was known for. All I knew him as was a blind old man who was perpetually smoking, drinking and being a crotchety b**tard.

Turns out he was a bad motherf**ker and all but none of us knew.”

Okay, it’s confession time…

Tell us about a family secret of yours that came out.

Time to give us all the dirt!

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Am I Wrong for Wanting My Daughter’s Boyfriend to Know Her Dark Secret Before Marriage? People Weighed In.

This is a tricky one

Have you ever had someone get involved with a friend or family member of yours and you…kind of felt sorry for the other person because they didn’t know what they were getting into?

It’s sad, but it happens a lot.

And a father took to Reddit to ask folks about a very hard situation that he’s dealing with. Here’s what he had to say.

AITA for wanting my daughter’s boyfriend/soon-to-be fiance to know her dark secret before marriage?

“I’m the dad of a 25 year old young woman who I love very much.

I’ve been able to have a good relationship with my daughter and I enjoy my time with her, but there’s one thing about her that would give many people pause – she is a diagnosed sociopath.

She exhibited odd, disturbing behavior at a young age, and after a serious incident of abuse towards her younger sister, I realized she needed professional help. Throughout her elementary years she struggled heavily, getting in lots of trouble in school for lying, cruelty and all other types of misbehaviors.

With an enormous amount of therapy & support, her bad behavior was minimized as she grew older. She received an ASPD diagnosis at 18, and I had suspected it for long prior.

After her aggressive behavior was tamed, her following years were much more fruitful. She’s law-abiding; has a decent job and a good education; and has many good friendships and admirers. Especially male admirers; she is very, very charming and adept at attracting guys and maintaining their interest. S

he uses that old dating guide “The Rules” like a Bible. She currently has a boyfriend of about a year and a half who’s crazy about her, and who I have a very strong relationship with (we live in the same area and spend time together regularly). He is a great guy, very kind, funny and intelligent.

But I doubt she loves him. We’ve had some very honest, in-depth discussions about her mental health since her diagnosis, and she’s been open with me that she doesn’t feel love or empathy towards anyone, even family.

When she acted very sad and broken up over the death of one of her closest friends at the funeral, she confessed to me privately that it was all a put-on, and that she felt “pretty neutral” about the whole thing. She has also stated she has never once felt guilty about anything she’s ever done, and doesn’t know what guilt feels like.

While she enjoys being around her boyfriend and is s*xually attracted to him, I highly doubt she feels much of anything towards him love-wise.

Her boyfriend (who might propose soon) has no idea about her diagnosis, and she’s been very upfront with me that she has no plans to ever tell him, thinking it’ll scare him away.

I’ve made it clear to her that she needs to tell him the truth before they marry; that he has the right to know and consider it; or I will; to which she always responds, “I know you wouldn’t dare.” I actually would – I really like and respect this young man, and would feel awful keeping this “secret” from him, and letting him walk into a marriage without this piece of knowledge.

I’m not trying to sabotage my daughter’s future. Maybe her boyfriend’s love of her personality and other aspects is enough that it won’t end the relationship. It’s his decision to make; but he deserves all the facts. Someday he’s bound to find out she’s a bit “off”; it can’t be kept a secret forever. AITA?”

That’s a tough one, indeed.

One reader said it’s best for the dad to just stay out of the situation.

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Another person argued that the soon-to-be fiancé needs to know about the daughter’s past.

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This person made a good point about the potential danger the boyfriend could be in.

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Another Reddit user said that NOT telling the boyfriend would basically mean the entire marriage starting off on the wrong foot.

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This reader spoke from experience about the terror of being involved with someone like the man’s daughter.

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And finally, this person said that it’s up to dad to tell the boyfriend the truth, no matter how hard it might be.

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What do you think?

Did this dad make the wrong move?

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People Share Family Secrets They Didn’t Learn Until They Were Older That Made a Whole Lot of Sense

Every family has secrets…

Some are huge and devastating, some are small and insignificant.

We’re about to read some from folks on AskReddit who shared the family secrets they didn’t learn until they were older.

Let’s take a look at what they divulged.

1. Wow.

“That my sister (she was 16 when I was born, and kicked out) is my mother.

Her mother, my grandma, raised me as her daughter. It doesn’t end there. I was a product of abuse from a family friend. To this day I don’t know who my real dad is.

My grandma was in her forties when she “had” me. And my sister was sent to a boarding school when she was pregnant with me. My sister has no idea that I know.”

2. Awful.

“My uncle came to visit us when I was little and before he came mum sat me down and told me not to be alone with my uncle, and that if he made me feel uncomfortable to let her know.

Found out last year that when my mum was nine, she was r*ped by my uncle.”

3. Grandpa.

“Something felt strange about my grandfather’s funeral, just they way they were emphasizing his place in heaven.

Later found out that he shot himself in the heart with a 357. Same side of the family also had seemingly random people show up at family gatherings throughout my life that ended up being illegitimate children of my grandma.

I just started gaining uncles and cousins…Confused the sh*t out of me as a child.”

4. Sad.

“My grandpa burned to death.

I found out he died when I was a kid, but was not allowed to go to his funeral, and they told me he had a heart attack. I was so confused because everyone around me would clam up when I asked about him.

Turns out that he had a heart attack while trying to put out a field fire, collapsed, and burned. I still have no idea how long it took for people to find him, but I’m assuming it was hours.”

5. Mental illness.

“When I was around 6-8 years old, my uncle passed away. I thought it was something sudden and medically tragic, as I remember him having lung problems of some sort.

When I got older I found out he committed suicide, because his girlfriend broke up with him. I remember visiting my dad and hanging out in my uncle’s room where we got to play video games and listen to cool music with him.

That was the start of me learning about mental illness running in the family and connected a lot of dots for me.”

6. Jeez…

“Was told my aunt and uncle died because of a carbon monoxide leak in their house. When I was 16 I was told the truth.

My uncle was having serious money problems. He shot my aunt and then hung himself.”

7. Family matters.

“That my grandmother’s husband was a pedophile.

All of a sudden I knew why my uncle was so weird and would pick me up and carry me away rather than let me stay alone in a room with him.

For the longest time I thought my uncle was a real prude, my male cousins could all swim naked or run around in just their swim trunks, but my uncle made me always wear a swim suit and put on a cover up when i came out of the pool.

He later admitted if  “god forbid he touched you, I was making sure no one could try to blame you. They blamed all his other victims for being too tempting.”

My uncle, bless his heart, wanted to kill that man so bad. For that matter so did my dad. Finding out the pedo was, well, a pedo, made all of their muttering to each other at family gatherings make so much more sense.”

8. Mom’s recipe.

“One of my most beloved “mom’s recipe” recipes was actually Hamburger Helper.

She was a from-scratch cook and literally everything else we ate she made herself. She never told us because it made her so mad that her kids would love a boxed meal so much. She did it once out of sheer desperation because she didn’t have time to cook one night.

We ended up loving it. I only found out in college because I begged for the recipe. I love giving her crap for it to this day.”

9. Oblivious.

“That my aunt’s close friend that she lives with is actually her girlfriend. Was about 22 when they told me.

Never even thought about it until it was said. Weird how I was completely oblivious to this for so many years.”

10. Poor little fella.

“My pet rabbit got attacked by something a couple years after I got it. My parents found it dead and replaced it before I found out.

I just thought my rabbit lived super long but it was actually two rabbits. This happened over 10 years ago and I found out last year.”

11. Don’t talk to me.

“That my grandparents didn’t talk to each other 20 YEARS before my grandfather finally kicked the bucket.

They lived in the same house the entire time too and no one knows why they weren’t on speaking terms.”

12. Sterilized.

“My grandparents forced my aunt to get an ab*rtion before my family moved to America, rendering her permanently sterile.

It finally makes sense why none of the adults talk about having children around her.”

13. Mysteries of Dad.

“My late father was a great dad, went to work, came home every night and nothing was really out of the ordinary…

Except that he would ask my sisters and I to let him use the money from our piggy banks (my granddad lived with us and he had a great pension and relatively no bills, so he spoiled us rotten and would always give us money) because he knew we had it, but told us not to tell anyone and that he’d give it back.

He would also really only have 2 moods, really cranky or extremely sweet (my sisters and I called it his “nice face”). This was all we knew until I was about in 8th grade… we went to a private school and my dad would tell us school was canceled, there was a gas leak, institute days etc and we would stay home, when we would go back to school, nobody else would know what we meant as they had been in school.

One day, just before my graduation, my mom let out a scream and started screaming. Our house was being foreclosed on and my dad hadn’t been paying the mortgage and had been trying to cover up for the fact that he had been a functional cocaine addict.

The “nice face” was when he was high, the school absences were because he’d spent tuition money on drugs and then had to pay before my mom caught wind. Apparently, it had gotten worse by this time but he’d been an addict for more than 20 years and none of us knew.”

Did your family have any deep, dark secrets that you learned about when you were older?

Well, we want to hear them!

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A Dark Family Secret Could Explain Karen Carpenter’s Eating Disorder

Back in the 1970s, Karen Carpenter and her husband, Richard, were a musical force to be reckoned with, selling over 100 million records before Karen’s longstanding battle with anorexia forced her to retire from the stage and eventually ending in her untimely death at the age of 32.

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While a CBS documentary called The Karen Carpenter Story (you can rent it on Amazon) makes no mention of the potential reasons for Karen’s struggle with her body image, author Randy Schmidt blames her struggle on her mother, Agnes.

During the making of the documentary Agnes said there was no reason to cast an ugly light on the family, refusing to put any discussion of potential familial negativity – but Schmidt believes the real reason she was uninterested in delving into the past was that Karen’s anorexia stemmed directly from her mother’s “inability to love.” He claims that Agnes withheld affection from her daughter starting at a young age and continuing through high school.

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Schmidt’s book, Little Girl Blue: The Life of Karen Carpenter, details Karen’s eating disorder, which began shortly after the “chubby teenager” graduated from high school. Her health took a nosedive after she began performing since she didn’t like the way she looked onstage, and she regularly chose to hide in fluffy blouses or jumpers when she wasn’t in front of an audience.

She was so thin that fans thought she might have cancer, and since anorexia was (and often remains) a taboo topic, no one talked about what was really wrong with her.

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Karen herself denied that anything was wrong or that she was ill, and, despite attempts by friends to convince her to see a therapist, her parents’ attitude that psychiatrists were for “crazy people” dissuaded her.

Despite eventual treatment, she continued to harm herself with laxatives and unprescribed thyroid medication, a trend that doctors were unable to reverse when she was finally admitted to a hospital.

She died at just 32 years old, most of her dreams and career aspirations unrealized.

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