When on a first date…. keep it light.
I mean, you do want to know if you’re compatible and all of that, but don’t get crazy.
Life is not being decided over your first plate of calamari.
Maybe find out someone’s favorite color before we get into baby names.
Wondering for their own reasons, Redditor koyanggi6563 wanted to discuss what chatter is and is not best for the beginning of romance.
They asked:
“What’s something that should never be asked on a first date?”
What are your thoughts?
That is Private
“Ask me about my job… we’re fine. Specific questions about my salary or savings… I nope out.” ~ ghost882
“I do think talking about if a savings account has a balance and if you have an emergency fund is important, but specific numbers are too much.” ~ Global_Criticism_911
The Body Count Percentage
“On a first date, my date asked me what percent of women I had sex with on first dates.” ~ nyle2
“I beg your pardon kind sir, if I may, could you possibly bestow upon me some rather interesting knowledge in regards to how many souls you make romance to, upon your first date?”
“Much obliged, kind sir, my everlasting gratitude is upon you in infinite magnitudes for your most generous understanding.” ~ -Z-3-R-0-
Are the accounts full?
“How much money I have.”
“Before I was married, I went on a date with a woman who asked me on the first date, how financially comfortable I was.”
“We had known each other for a few weeks (mutual friend). I think she asked because she deducted that I lived alone in a house I owned, at age 25, and it probably appeared that I didn’t work (was self employed).”
“As soon as she asked, it was obvious why she pushed us to try dating because. She saw money.”
“She ended up marrying for money, but not mine. It’s obvious there’s a prenup, because she’s miserable, and not leaving him.” ~ FinestTreesInDa7Seas
When in a Diner…
“I had a girl once talk about how her period was so bad this month it caused her chest to break out in hives.”
“She then wanted to show me… in a diner… full of families and shit. I did not ask.” ~ bybeardandthrone
Deep Breaths…
“Does this rag smell like chloroform to you?” ~ Tzardine
“Insufficient.”
“Chloroform takes 15 – 20 minutes of steady deep breathing in to successfully knock someone completely out and that’s if you are strong enough to keep steady pressure over their mouth and nose while being able to hold them still in your arms to limit their movements.”
“So a quick sniff won’t do anything but have them tell you yes it does or I don’t know what chloroform smells like so no?” ~ The_Book-JDP
History Out
“I had a first date ask me my favorite genocide, and then went on to talk about various historical genocides for the rest of the date. I was really creeped out.” ~ gallopingwalloper
Astrology Issues
“What is your zodiac sign?” ~ SquareUnderwear69
“Please ask me this on put first date. Then I know you’re a superstitious person who determines their life via ‘magic,’ and I won’t bother with a second date.” ~ AtheneSchmidt
Matters of the Heart
“So, how many men’s hearts have you broken before?”
“I don’t know if this is a common thing to ask but I got asked this by 2-3 people and I found it a very weird thing to ask.”
“And to clarify the question wasn’t phrased like they were asking about my past relationships, instead it seemed like they were asking how many I turned down.”
“I found it very weird, who remembers that like it’s a conquest or something?” ~ firefly158
All the Shots!!
“I know what you’re thinking. ‘Did he fire six shots or only five?’”
“Well to tell you the truth, in all this excitement, I kind of lost track myself.”
“But being that this is a .44 Magnum, the most powerful handgun in the world, and would blow your head clean off, you’ve got to ask yourself one question: ‘Do I feel lucky?’ Well do ya, punk?’” ~ JunkieM0nkey
All in the Family
“How many kids do you want?” ~ 1nqv
“Maybe not so good for the first date but definitely something to talk about quite early in the relationship.”
“Asking ‘do you like kids?’ or something like that can totally do in the first date depending on the timing, context and both of your personalities.”
“Way too many people leave this type of question for very late in the relationship only to break up because one wants kids and the other hates them.” ~ Digitijs
Who takes the check?
“To have one of the dates pay for both meals.” ~ Homerlikesdonuts
“Disagree with that for the first date. It’s totally fine to do afterwards, but I think whoever asked the other out on the date, should pay for the first date.”
“After that you can split it or take turns or whatever.” ~ Testastic
Percentages…
“Had a girl tell me she was a feminist which I’m ok with 100% so when the bill came I paid for what I had with 20% tip and her reaction wasn’t great.” ~ ghanksta57
“This is obviously a made up story but…”
“If you ask someone out on a date, you should pay. At least the first time.”
“If I invite a girl on a date and she insists on paying for herself, that’s a giant sign that she’s not into me.”
“And if I was invited on a date and then they expected me to pay, it would be the first and last date.” ~ LightningRodofH8
Say “I Do!”
“Future marriage plans.”
“Actually happened to me on a blind date setup by a close friend who was trying to help out a colleague of his from work.”
“She was just a little bit desperate to find her love connection.”
“There was no second date.” ~ udetme
What have we learned?
Be cool. Be calm. And just get to know someone before the third degree.
It’s a first date not a marriage proposal.