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Process Servers Break Down The Craziest Ways They’ve Ever Served Someone A Subpoena

It can be said that we live in a very “sue happy” society. It’s remarkably easy to engage in litigation against someone—it’s the American way!

But suppose you have a case (or think you do). You still need someone to serve the defendant the papers (it’s highly advised you don’t do that yourself, of course).

This is where process servers come in. They meet all sorts of people from all walks of life, as you can imagine.

They were keen to share their stories after Redditor CharlotteLucasOP asked the online community,

“Process servers, what’s the most bizarre way in which you’ve served someone?”

“When I got a divorce…”

“When I got a divorce, my lawyer recommended I hire a process server just in case my ex tried to dodge/deny service. She knew I was filing so it wasn’t like it would be a surprise, but better safe than sorry.”

“One problem: This was during a Covid lockdown, so neither of us was leaving home. The process server comes, I let him into the building, he follows me to the apartment but then says he can’t follow me into the apartment to serve her.”

“So I have to shut the door on him then wait for him to knock so that my ex can answer the door. Probably the most awkward five minutes of my life.” ~ gloveonafoot

“One guy really hated this other lady…”

“One guy really hated this other lady he was suing, and she kept avoiding the server so he paid me $300 to serve her on Christmas. He knew for sure she was home because she was having a party there in an hour.”

“He wrapped it up in this huge present. So I showed up at her door, and yelled ‘Christmas delivery!’ She thought it was some great present, and had this huge smile.”

“Once she opened the door, I told her she had been served, and it was like she got hit by a brick wall. She just silently took the giant present and walked back in her house with it.” ~ Selbereth

“I worked as a process server…”

“I worked as a process server for a couple of years during/after college. It was through a private investigation agency so it was a little more intense than the typical process server.”

“Anyways… one time I was hired to serve a stripper, and since we couldn’t find a valid address for her the PI had me go into her work and serve her there.”

“I didn’t want to cause a scene and get jumped by the bouncers so I purchased a private dance from her then served her in the back room. I even got reimbursed for the cost of the dance when I collected the paperwork.”

“All in all, it was a memorable experience!” ~ ggb123456

“When my mother was a Family Law attorney…”

“When my mother was a Family Law attorney and I was in college, I used to do some process serving for her.”

“She’d never give any that she felt would be dangerous, but In hindsight is probably another poor decision by my mother, and by me who just needed the money. It’s ridiculously easy to get an about-to-be divorced man to open his door to an 18-year-old girl.”

“I once made an appointment and got my nails done. Paid and gave a tip, and the papers to the same tech. She was pissed.” ~ coyotecantspell

“I am a paralegal.”

“I am a paralegal. I once had a client who was in her 70s and her husband had her served with divorce papers while she was recovering in the hospital from surgery. Brutal.” ~ BlackWidowww

“I watched my Little League coach…”

“I watched my little league coach get served by a guy selling hotdogs. He owed like $75,000 for destroying a garage he didn’t own behind his property.” ~ suitology

“They asked me to…”

“Many years ago I interned at a law firm when I was on summer break from college. They asked me to serve papers on occasion while I interned there.”

“Once I was sent to a nursing home to serve papers to one of the elderly patients. He seemed so pleasantly surprised to see me, to have a visitor. He looked so excited and curious.”

“Then I explained that I had some papers to serve him, and the expression on his face went from excitement to sadness in like two seconds. It was depressing.” ~ Kevbo_Kev

“The job could easily get to you…”

“I had the pleasure of serving some of my county’s finest for the better part of 3 years. The job could easily get to you if you let it. Got a bunch of stories though.”

“Mostly sad ones but there are some funny ones in there too. The craziest reaction, however, goes to Mr. Belisle. I believe I am missing an accent in there.”

“Long story short-ish, he has the papers, I start walking away, 20 steps, 30 steps, he yells after me, I turn…. he is pooping on his papers. This man was between 45-55 years of age, with quite a distinguished look. So weird to see him crapping in the street.” ~ CanuckPhuck

“Someone she was trying to serve…”

“My mother is a lawyer. Someone she was trying to serve wouldn’t acknowledge who they were to a process server nor would they touch the summons.”

“Took a few weeks before they finally could serve them. It’s quite funny how much legal procedure gets held up by the inability of a server to serve someone a document.” ~ WayPastInfatuation

“I spent years…”

“I spent years as a process server in Los Angeles. One time I served Rob Zombie in a dispute over a catering bill for a video shoot. He went bonkers.”

“Another time I served divorce papers on an 18th Street shot caller. I found him in a bar at Pico and Bonnie Brae. He cried like a baby and wanted to buy me a drink.”

“Another was a witness in a murder trial who was living in a homeless camp in Long Beach. I was surrounded by hardcore hostile homeless folks. I’m not sure how I got out of that in one piece.” ~ Babelaze

It’s hard out there for your friendly neighborhood process servers!

Something to remember—a process server is not your enemy.

Their presence implies nothing whatsoever about your moral character or legal standing. All they’re there to do is confirm your identity and deliver paperwork.

Wouldn’t you want to have adequate notice that you are party to a legal proceeding? You need time to plan and show up to participate.

It’s a good service process servers perform, though there’s no doubt they run into weirdos out there like the rest of us.

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Lawyers Break Down The Pettiest Reasons They’ve Ever Seen A Couple Divorce

It’s by now common knowledge a profoundly high amount of marriages end in divorce in the United States.

Bearing that upsetting news in mind, we’d like to think each of those relationships meet their end for a worthy reason, full of movie-like passion and the strong convictions of both partners.

But a recent Reddit thread squashed those lofty hopes.

To bring us all back down to earth, Redditor KarysMR asked:

“Lawyers of Reddit, what is the pettiest reason you’ve ever seen for divorce?”

Many lawyers interpreted “petty” to mean “mind-bogglingly trivial.”

“Definitely the fridge Story!! A woman filed for divorce because her husband would eat everything he can find in their fridge whenever the wife was out for work.”

“So she came back to a basically empty fridge each night.”

“He also cheated on her but she was less angry about that. The fridge was what pushed her to the point she wanted a divorce.” — wrenisanecklace

“the husband kept putting wet/used towel on their bed.” — automind

“Wife wanted divorce like 2 months into marriage because the husband would squeeze the toothpaste from the top and not bottom.”

“She claims to have told him a millions times over to stop. Would have been easier to get 2 toothpastes i thought.” — Infamous-Offer6342

“Not a lawyer- but apparently my brother divorced his wife when McDonald’s forgot to put bbq sauce in with her chicken nuggets at the drive through and she asked him to go back and get some.”

“He didn’t and then I guess she started smashing up food and throwing it at him/out the window….. so yeah…. McDonalds how could you ruin a marriage ?…….” — WITCH_glitch_I-hex-u

“Not a lawyer: My Mom’s coworker divorced over dishes in the dishwasher.”

“The wife would get so frustrated over the husband (coworker) not rinsing dishes before he loads them in the dishwasher.”

“To compromise, they bought a super nice, top of the line dishwasher. Solves the problem, right?”

“She yelled about the dishes that night. He filed for divorce the next day.” — weberster

“Not a lawyer but this happened to my wife’s cousin.”

“Her husband came home one day asking her to give a higher financial contribution on the groceries, because she, as a lady, was using more toilet paper than him.”

“She took it as a joke and had a good laugh. He got mad, and asked for divorce.”

“Worth mentioning that his salary was 3 times higher than hers.” — Yashky

Many people witnessed bizarre breaking points.

“Nobody ever believes me about this one, but it’s true.”

“A man wanted a divorce from his wife because – and he gave this example as the ‘last straw’ – his wife ate those nasty pumpkin Halloween candies, like candy corn but pumpkin shaped.”

“He had been looking forward to them all day and when he got home, she had eaten them all. He snapped.”

“Swear on my life this story is true.” — Brkiri

“My father-in-law and mother-in-law’s breaking point was when he threw a breadcrumb at her from across the kitchen.”

“The divorce took 4 years to settle.” — ITS_JUST_LOW_T

One Redditor offered up another version of that story.

“My ex thinks I divorced him because my friends told me to.”

“What actually happened was I was bitching about him to a friend and she said ‘you know, he really is a passive aggressive piece of garbage. He does this all the time’.”

“And then I started thinking about how he really did pull that crap all the time and how I wasn’t actually depressed, I just hated living with him.”

“She opened my eyes, but I divorced him because he treated me like crap, not because my friend told me to.” — scaly_friends_4me

Other times, the divorce was prompted by a surprise discovery.

“I remember one episode of a TV show here in my country, similar to Jerry Springer, the woman didn’t know her husband used dentures until marrying and living together.”

“She said she couldn’t handle anymore, she was disgusted.”

“They both cried, she said a lot of ‘I’m sorry’ but she couldn’t go on. They were married for a few months.”

“Don’t know if it was true though.” — nerdy_latino

“The weirdest I’ve ever seen is a coworker of mine.”

“His wife saw a picture of him at a pool when he was in high school and really athletic. Toned, muscular, tan and so on.”

“Over the 10 years after high school he stopped lifting and lost his muscle tone and just became skinny.”

She told him she wanted him to get back to working out because she really liked the way he once looked and he said it was something he missed doing and agreed to get a gym membership.”

“He was going to the gym four days a week but was only really working out for two of them. On the days he didn’t work out he would sit in the sauna to get sweaty, watch Netflix and then go home.”

“When she asked about him going to the gym and accidentally let it slip that he was fudging workouts twice a week. She apparently found that to be a deal breaker and filed for divorce.” — SafewordisJohnCandy

“A woman came in wanting to divorce her husband. He had just gotten a new job and a pretty big raise.”

“It turned out that this new job of his also required that he work from home but he was working in an office before.”

“She was having an affair with their next-door neighbor and him being home more meant that she couldn’t cheat on her husband easily.”

“That was definitely a twist. I was expecting something like him being the one having the affair but nope!” — red_duke117

“A teacher I had in HS got divorced because his wife didnt like how much sex he had before they had been married.”

“To put in context how petty of a reason that was, they had been married for 12 yrs and had three kids together.”

“She had also met him a few years into his teaching career which didn’t start till he was 32.”

“But to say both sides of the argument, he did have a staggering large amount of sex, he was an Olympian and had been going to the Olympics to compete since he was 18.”

“He was the best teacher to ever have as a homeroom teacher as the stories he could tell were just surreal.” — TarvidD12

So there you have it.

Even if you find yourself in the throes of a dying marriage destined for failure for the least legitimate reason possible, you will not be alone.

I guess there’s some comfort in that, right?

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What’s the Craziest Thing Your Ex Did After Your Divorce? Here’s What People Had to Say.

We’ve all had one. And some people have had quite a few…

I’m talking about crazy exes who go off the deep end after a breakup and make your life a living hell.

You just gotta ride it out and hope that things don’t spin off into Fatal Attraction territory, you know what I’m saying?

What’s the craziest thing an ex did after a divorce?

AskReddit users shared their stories.

1. Thief!

“My ex stole a car and did 18 months in state prison.

Based on what I was able to find online at the time, he approached a car dealership and showed interest in buying a vehicle. They allowed him to take it home for a 24 hour demo. He never returned it.

They reported it stolen after they attempted multiple times to contact him to return it. They then contacted the state police who put a BOLO out. They found him driving the vehicle on the other side of the state where he thought he wouldn’t be found.

I found out when I got an unexpected phone call from the sheriff’s office. I asked why they were calling me about this. They said my ex I told them I would vouch for him as a “character witness”.

I told the officer over the phone that my ex was a lying sack of s**t and shouldn’t be trusted. The officer laughed, thanked me for my time and hung up.”

2. A real jerk.

“Completely ignored our three children for the last ten years while living with a woman and her three children.

Did I mention, our oldest is HIS from a previous relationship, who I was awarded custody of, and he is her only living biological parent?!”

3. That’s weird.

“My favorite was his sister sent a Facebook message to all of his contacts the day of our separation (including my family).

Before we announced anything, her message stated everyone should immediately delete me and if I said anything about why we separated I was lying and not to listen.

Basically this created a lot of curious questions and a lot of laughs.”

4. Ouch.

“My ex-wife told me I could leave my stuff in our house while I found somewhere else to stay.

I assumed this was a good-will effort to keep things as amicable as possible between us. When I went to get my stuff she had burned all of it.

So that was rough.”

5. Dangerous.

“She removed the retaining clips for my windshield wipers, but put the wipers back on the arms.

First storm after I got my car back from her, driver side wiper flew off the car on Interstate 40.

Good times.”

6. Oh, boy…

“She called my company, talked her way up the chain to the president of the company (still don’t know how she managed that, but she’s smart) and told him I was suicidal and had threatened to “do something drastic” at work…

Later I learned that she thought this would be a roundabout way of getting my address which I didn’t share with her after I moved out because she’s bats**t crazy.”

7. Petty.

“When I told my ex-husband I wanted a divorce, the next day after I went to work he packed our entire house into a uHaul and put it in storage. Even with a court order he refused to give my stuff back. I left my marriage with the clothes on my back.

Years later he decided he was above the courts because he got away with that and took our son across country telling me he was moving with one day notice and told me I couldn’t do anything about it. Of course I promptly hired a lawyer and we went back to court and he lost joint custody but it took a year of fighting, chasing him down, and not seeing my son.

There are more stories but those are probably the worst.”

8. Horrible.

“Ki**ed or Euthanize our dog, then lied about that he d**d of natural causes.

Given the dog was old and blind, but she pleaded that she wanted a weekend with him, and then the next night sent me a fake text that he passed away during the night at like 3 am because he coughed and then just stopped breathing.

That s**t wasn’t true, I found out later after finding and calling the vet she brought him to, that she bad mouthed me about and that he was suffering and needed to be put to sleep because he was in agony and I was supposedly letting him suffer.

She had him out to sleep like the day she took him home, like 3 hours afterwards. Never got to say goodbye due to that b**ch.”

9. Jeez.

“Called me and pretended he had been hit by a car while we were talking.

He even tried to voice the crowd that had gathered around his “body.” God-awful acting, but pretty funny listening to him try to mimic a woman’s voice. Points for trying to be inclusive, I guess.

I think he was trying to get me to re-live my trauma of being on the phone with a friend who actually HAD been hit by a car while we were talking. Too bad he didn’t realize that hearing the real thing is worlds different than hearing a dumb**s try to act it out.”

10. Put it in writing.

“After he realized I was never going back, he told his mom that I had been stealing from the family the whole time we were together.

Then he literally put it in writing that I had a key to his parents’ home and would sneak in and take his dad’s guns and his grandmother’s jewelry, and that he had been powerless to stop me.

It was always his druggie sister. Always. Anyone with eyes could see it, but no one in the family wanted to believe it.”

11. That’s weird.

“My ex husband started dating his step mom who has been in his life since he was 11 years old.

His step mom and him are still together almost 5 years later. His step mom confessed her love of my ex to his dad a few years ago and they have since divorced. The dad is now dating a 21 year old.

I know all of this because I’m still close friends with my ex husbands sister.

It’s so messed up and I’m so grateful I left him when I did.”

12. Wow.

“Kidnapped the kids during their weekend visit and moved to a small town in the next state over. It took me 2 years to get them back.

She eventually burned all her bridges in the town she moved to and went home to her parents house. Since her parents were not pleased with her choices and were on my side during the whole deal they called me to let me know where she was. I went and got them.

This was over 20 years ago and they have both grown up just fine. I’ve since remarried and my 2nd wife has been a wonderful mother to them.

It took a lot of work to fix all the damage but it’s mostly ok. The biggest scars that lasted was that my son has a distrust of women with authority (that he has worked really hard to get over) and my daughter was afraid to start her own family because she worries she would turn out just like her mom.

She finally got over that and is expecting our first grand baby this fall.”

Did you ever have an ex go bananas on you?

Please tell us all about it in the comments!

And don’t mention any names, of course…

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People Who Work in the Wedding Industry Talk About the Couples They Knew Were Doomed Right Away

I’m willing to bet that if you’re a veteran of working in the wedding industry, you have a good sense of what marriages are going to work out and which ones aren’t.

And I also bet that it’s gotta be pretty uncomfortable to be at the weddings where you just know deep down in your gut that a marriage is pretty much doomed.

People who work in the wedding industry talked on AskReddit about the marriages they knew weren’t gonna last.

1. Not a good start.

“One of my brides was nervous and got so drunk before the ceremony that she had to be helped down the aisle.

Then when the ceremony was over, instead of kissing the groom (“we now pronounce you man and wife”) she licked him from chin to eyeball. She fell during the recessional and knocked over a waiter carrying champagne.

She couldn’t be in their post ceremony photoshoot because she kept falling. When it was time to cut the cake, we couldn’t find her. Our staff went to her hotel room and found her covered in her own vomit, still in her wedding dress.

She had the audacity to ask for a refund after all of this. They’re divorced now…”

2. Oh my…

“Night before the wedding, the bride-to-be tried to sleep with me on her stag night, crying on my shoulder she wasn’t ready for marriage.

Even my 18 year old hormonal brain did a big NOPE there.

They lasted a year.”

3. Holy sh*t!

“I work catering gigs in Florida.

The bride was being super mean towards the groom during dinner and the reception, like a sarcastic “you should have known to do that already dumb*ss” tone.

Our crew figured, yep, this is a short marriage. After the obligatory dances, and dinner had started the groom came up, tipped the dj, the photographers, then came over tipped our crew way too much, thanked us very sweetly, and said he was gonna skip away and drive down to the beach a few minutes away while the party continued.

He never came back, next day we were told by the bride’s family the sheriff found his car, the groom’s body, and a gun down by the beach.”

4. It was awful…

“When I used to work the occasional wedding on weekends there was this one couple that made me think yea she’s going to end up alone.

She took the microphone in the middle of a song that everyone was happily dancing to and then kept saying “it’s my day but I’ll wait til your done your conversation!” “Don’t worry it’s only my wedding day” “helloooo bride wants to talk” blah blah it was hella rude.

When she was finally satisfied with the silence she started her speech by berating everyone for taking so long to be quiet and then went on to talk about how she’s so happy and she loves her husband and don’t take the center pieces.

It was awful if I was a guest I would’ve taken my gift and left.”

5. Handsy.

“I remember a wedding that I worked catering for that involved the Groom getting rather handsy with the Maid of Honor during the reception.

Both were drunk and a bit too close. The Bride was on the dance floor flopping around drunk off her *ss to a point of having to be escorted to a restroom to freshen up. Honestly, it always seems when the bride/groom get trashed during the reception, something happens that will cause them to split shortly after.

Not always, but its just something I noticed during the weddings I have assisted with.”

6. Red flags everywhere.

“I ran a fairly upmarket hotel and restaurant that sometimes hosted weddings.

Made a rookie error and booked in a wedding for Christmas Eve. This should have been a warning sign, as it shows a pretty significant lack of consideration for friends and family making them travel across the country on one of the most irritating days of the year, when we’d all rather be at home with family preparing for the next day.

They turned up 3 hours early and the battle axe of a bride proceeded to shout at us for not being prepared, surrounded by her incredibly embarrassed but not unsurprised family.

There were various other red flags throughout the night, but the main one was when the husband got blind drunk on whiskey and asked me to go to his hotel room with him and “break him in” as a married man. I politely refused.”

7. Did that just happen?

“Used to do wedding DJing.

Went to a storage room to grab some gear and walked in on the bride going down on the best man. I immediately closed the door, then thought, “wait, did that just happen?” And opened again to see the best man look like deer in headlights. I slammed the door again and went back to my post for the night.

My coworker said, “don’t say a f*cking word! We don’t get paid to get involved. Just collect the check and keep playing music.””

8. You could see it.

“I worked in a tux shop for a while after high school.

The friction in a couple’s relationship was directly correlated with how involved the mothers were.

Whether it was motherzilla of the bride or a momma’s boy groom, if they had their finger on the scale, you could see it.”

9. Bad news.

“Worked wedding receptions, here are some favorites:

Bride started stripping on the table while the groom was outside.

Bride and best man had s*x in a closet.

Bride lost her ring less that 3 hours after being married.

Mother of the groom lit the table on fire because she didnt like the bride or her family.

Groom was passed out drunk less than 30 mins into the reception. He pregamed in the limo. Our bartender refused to serve him when he arrived.

Groomsmen loaded him back into the limo to sleep it off and he didn’t come back that night.”

10. The best shift ever.

“I used to work at a popular wedding venue.

Bride and groom came in the day before for rehearsal, checked the decorations, and played a sweet video of the couple, standard wedding bullsh*t. Next day, bride and groom arrived fighting the entire time until reception where the groom proceeded to drink himself blind before speeches and had to be carried out, didn’t even get to play that video.

It was the best shift ever, got to go home early and take home a bunch of food already paid for.”

11. Good grief.

“You know how they say 50% of weddings end in divorce? I can pretty much predetermine who that 50% are going to be with about 98% accuracy.

I bake wedding cakes for a living. I own my own bakery, but have also worked in a country club kitchen, doing basically the same thing + other pastry chef duties day of weddings. I’ve seen them both for the tasting/design consultation, and on their wedding day.

I see how they interact when they’re just together, but also when under stress of the big day. I’ve seen everything. Lots of cheating, lots of drunks, lots of terrible mothers.

Once had a Mama’s boy who ignored his wife when they were supposed to be having their cake tasting to cuddle their mother and hand feed her cake. His mother was NOT supposed to be there, and you could tell the bride was p*ssed. By the end of it he had kissed his mother on the lips multiple times. Divorce.

Have seen a woman bitch and complain at everything her fiancé said. Any suggestions he had for what he liked resulted in him being called stupid. Anytime she’d open her mouth he’d cower and flinch.

Their cake actually got canceled like a month before the wedding, so we didn’t get anything but the deposit even though we’d started baking it. First time I’ve lost out on money and I’ve been relieved.

Once had this arrogant d*ckhead Turkish guy marrying into this Bangladeshi family. Bride was sweet, about 10 years older than him, and came from a fairly well off family.

Generally got the impression that this being a Turk/South Asian marriage was kind of a big deal, even though they’re both Muslim, but since she was 30-something they wanted her to get married so they allowed it.

Guy complains about everything during the planning process, especially over them not serving alcohol. Is generally a d*ck to us, but is just straight up cruel to her. Like at one point when we were meeting I asked after her wedding dress, because south asian wedding dresses are gorgeous.

She’s showing me this amazing dress and he says straight up ‘I don’t know what she picked that one, she looks fat and old in it. every other woman is going to be more beautiful than her one her wedding day.’ He then shows me this dress he picked out, which isn’t traditional south asian style at all, and is very western and very fugly and basically makes the model in the picture look naked it’s so sheer.

When she says something about how no mosque would let her in dressed like that and her traditions are important, he just sneered and said she should ‘get over it’ and her traditions weren’t that important. Divorce red flag.

Found out later they didn’t last a day. From the way the servers tell it, midway through the reception, guy raises his hand to his new bride when she asked him a question about being drunk and she flinched and turned away, protecting her face.

He grabs her by the arm and rips her around, p*ssed. Her mother and aunt were standing three feet from her and lost their f*cking minds, realizing what must’ve been happening there. His response when Mom started to lose her sh*t on him was to hit the mother.

So in the middle of this very big, 600+ person Bangladeshi wedding, this 20-something outsider d*ckhead no one wanted her to marry anyway smacked a well respected woman in their community. There was a brawl, the cops were called, marriage was annulled.”

12. Capturing moments.

“As the filmmaker, my entire job was centered around capturing shared moments of emotion & chemistry. These are what make it into the edit. These are what make your wedding film amazing.

But when you realize you have almost no chemistry to capture, it becomes clear that the edit is going to lack the magic that is, you know, love. I can tell you of 2 experiences that I know of.

1: The couple treated the wedding like a bachelor party and only hung out with their respective circles. The groom drinking and laughing loudly amidst his drunk old men was not a good vibe, a very hostile table.

The kicker? They each got their own photographers and filmmakers… eventually their conflict became our conflict.

They divorced very shortly after.

2: A political celebrity wedding, they didn’t care about my camera crew and instead they invited and treated the paparazzi cameras as priority! My main cam guy had to argue with security to get the shots we need!

They essentially cared more about the next day front page & glamour magazines, than their memories. The guy was also known for corruption and there was an incident where his ‘lover’ arrived and made a scene… I just googled them now and I see they are publicly fighting each other in the news!

(She says he watches too much p*rn on a tv interview, then he had her arrested last week – wow!).”

Have you ever had a gut feeling about a marriage ending badly and it ended up coming true?

If so, tell us your stories in the comments.

We look forward to hearing from you!

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People Who Had Short Marriages Talk About How They Realized They’d Made a Mistake

I’ve always believed that it has to be pretty devastating to get married and then to have it all fall apart very quickly.

What happened? Did you just ignore the warning signs? Or maybe a deep, dark secret emerged right after you tied the knot?

Whatever the case, I’m sure it’s a very difficult thing to go through.

Let’s take a look at these stories about short marriages from folks on AskReddit.

1. Only 40 days.

“My sister’s marriage lasted about 40 days.

She found out he was a p*dophile when my other sister came forward that he’d been r*ping her for the last 4 months. When he was arrested, police found a video of me getting dressed on his phone.

I thank God every day that she came forward when she did, because he was grooming me to be his next victim. He was sentenced to 12 years in prison and has no contact orders with everyone in my immediate family. This event was the end of my childhood.”

2. I’m outta here.

“When I came home from the honeymoon and there was a Foreclosure notice posted on the house door.

His response: “Now it’s your problem too.””

3. Abusive.

“Four months in he dislocated my jaw.

But really what I want to share is the signs were there and people should be aware of them. First it was just grabbing my arm kind of hard. Then grabbing my arm hard enough to bruise it. Then pushing. Then slapping.

It took years so escalate. I heard it gets worse. I didn’t think too much of it. I thought “I’m not a wimp and it isn’t like he’s beating the sh*t out of me every day” I thought thats what domestic abuse looked like. Then I married him.

Well, let me tell you. If they’re grabbing, pushing, or hitting you they will eventually hurt you worse.”

4. Downhill quickly.

“His brother asked to move in with us and I said no.

His brother ended up moving in anyway. During the subsequent argument he said “no wonder people get divorced all the time”.

We had been married for about 6 months at that point. Went very downhill from there.”

5. Wow.

“He casually invited his parents along on our honeymoon, and told them we’d pay for it. AND they not only accepted, they were SO EXCITED and immediately wanted to take over planning it.

Obviously that wasn’t the only sh*tty thing he did. Eventually found out he was cheating on me and I fast tracked divorce before there were any kids or assets involved.”

6. Sounds like a real gem.

“Two months in he told me I was too fat and he will no longer be having s*x with me.

I lost 75 lbs in three months (by doing it the wrong way) and he told me he was already seeing someone else.

He seemed surprised my parents would no longer pay his bills, and was kicked off their property 30 days later (per laws of my state).”

7. Let’s be honest.

“To be honest I didn’t really want to be married to her.

However she was determined to get married by age 24 regardless, and at the time I had significant difficulties saying “No”, I was working 60+ odd hours a week in a kitchen to help pay for everything and I was struggling with my mental health at the time and we grew further and further apart emotionally.

I found out less than 5 months into the marriage that she had been unfaithful to me for at least a year – so 6/7 months before the wedding, whilst she had been planning it she had been sleeping with other people. Whilst she had been putting serious pressure on me to provide £££ for her dream wedding she had also had an abortion because she didn’t know whether I would have been the father or not.

When I found this all out I basically had a breakdown and tried taking my own life, I also spent a few years after this blaming myself for the breakdown of my marriage and her behavior.”

8. Third time’s a charm.

“When she cheated on me for the third time in 10 months.

Because for some reason the first two didn’t convince me….”

9. Started right away.

“On our honeymoon she didn’t want to do anything but fight, so I left 2 days early to be with my dog.

Then she stopped wearing her ring and refused to tell people she was married, referring to me as her boyfriend instead. The final straw was when my grandpa was dying and she said “I wish he’d just hurry up and die already. I’m tired of this apartment being so depressing all the time”.

Made it 4 months in all before filing for divorce.”

10. Not good.

“He would somehow piss away his money (and mine), and I realized I couldn’t trust him to be a real partner with me.

We were also pressured into marriage by religious family when I already saw the writing on the wall, but there was just one bad thing after another happening so I always felt like I’d be an *sshole for leaving.

I left during a calm period.”

11. A bad situation.

“Mine lasted less than a year.

He was an incredibly abusive f*ckhead that burdened me with tons of sh*t we couldn’t afford then refused to work himself.

So I used to pull 16 hr days back to back to back. Turns out instead of working and helping me take care of the house he was out cheating.

In all reality, he was the one who left me but once I got out of the situation I realized how awful it was and didn’t go back.”

12. Living in sin.

“Sitting across from the court house waiting to go in. I thought “you are going to look back on this moment and remember that you KNEW it was the wrong thing to do”.

I certainly did. We only got married because I was living with him and my whole family wouldn’t speak to us as we were “living in sin”.

Well we showed them.”

13. That was quick.

“I had some friends that got married and divorced within a year.

It turns out she had major doubts but went through with it anyway, then cried for the whole honeymoon and told him she had made a huge mistake.

They posted all these normal pictures of them looking happy in Hawaii, but it came out later what a miserable nightmare the trip was.”

14. My older sister.

“Not myself but my oldest sister. She has been married 5 times.

The first one was at 19, they divorced because they were young and not ready to be married. The second marriage she wasn’t sure if she wanted to be married and despite my mom advising her to walk away, got married anyway. He cheated, she left.

3rd Marriage lasted 10 years, but they fought a lot (he was a Dr, she’s a nurse, 2 intelligent people who couldn’t talk to each other about their problems). The 4th Husband was my favourite, he was kind hearted, and the most loving and supportive spouse you could ever hope for.

I think she got bored and met someone while she was on a work trip and met another Dr. She sent us an email saying that her and 4th spouse were starting to feel like they were just “friends” and she was moving to New Zealand to start a new life (she wasn’t fooling us, we knew there was a new dude). About 6 months later she announced she had a new boyfriend and a year after that we saw that they had been married.

The kicker in all of this is, during my wedding, my very sweet English grandmother said to her “Oh, i do hope that your marriage to (4th) works out”.

She got upset by this, but I dont blame my grandma for pointing out her revolving door of husbands. I wish I could invite 4th Husband back into our family, we really miss him and his family.”

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15 Couples Who Went from Married to Divorced Way Too Fast

These situations are always extremely uncomfortable. Not only for the couple actually imploding before your eyes, but for all the bystanders.

And that’s where you come in. These sordid AskReddit tales all detail stories of people witnessing marriages symbolically coming to an end.

Hang on tight!

1. 6 long months

“My friend married this woman after years of dating. They were together about 6 months, then on their first Christmas, he got her a present and she got him nothing. Later that night she left their house and didn’t come back until the next morning.

Apparently she had made an account on some dating site on Christmas, met a guy, and slept with him that night. She came clean the next day, but that was the end of their 6 month marriage.”

2. Oh my…

“Not sure how long it took the divorce to actually happen, but I went to a wedding where the bride didn’t go home with the groom afterwards. There wasn’t any cheating, she just decided she didn’t want to be a military wife. They were together before he enlisted, so I think part of it was that she wasn’t ready to move away from her family. It just sucked that she waited until that day to tell anyone.”

3. Holy sh*t

“Next door neighbor got married. Less than 2 months later she moved out, said he was abusive and a drunk. A couple of weeks later he shot and killed their neighbor through the front door after an escalating feud involving the neighbor’s dog getting shot with a bow and arrow.”

4. No sexting, please

“I went to a wedding where the bride got drunk and the groom picked up her phone and saw that she was sexting a coworker during the entire wedding… He told the officiant to not file the paperwork. Great reception though.

Edit: This occurred at the end of the reception as they were leaving to go to the honeymoon suite (the story is she was very drunk and her phone kept getting notifications so he picked it up). They did not go on their honeymoon and they returned the gifts to everyone. The guests weren’t told about what happened for a couple weeks as the bride was trying to save the relationship. I was also not privy to the legality of the nuptials not being submitted to the city clerk, so I can’t help on that front.”

5. A special day

“My wife’s family’s neighbor’s daughter got married and threw a huge wedding day bash like spent 50-70 grand. Then not even 2 weeks later got divorced. She had been cheating on her husband throughout the engagement but still wanted her ‘special day’. I heard later on that she had asked her mom if she had to live with her husband after they got married.”

6. Sad all around

“A relative of mine was forced into a shotgun wedding. The bride had a miscarriage, so they got divorced a month later.”

7. Meth is bad for you

“The husband had an unsolicited outburst at a family dinner, “I KNOW YOU GUYS KNOW I DO METH! AND YOU NEED TO BACK OFF ABOUT IT!” wife didn’t know; her dad didn’t know; nobody knew.”

8. Time to fly in the lawyers

“Some friends, who had been dating for a few months, got married in Las Vegas as sort of a drunken joke. The girl found out she would lose a lot of her trust fund because of being married. A gaggle of 4 lawyers were flown in and got a very quick retroactive annulment. Marriage lasted 4 days, except legally it was declared to have never existed at all. They dated for 3 more years then broke up.”

9. What did he expect?

“They got married in the October, she left him just after Christmas the same year. She was bored.

I don’t know what he expected really, she’d cheated on him when they were engaged too and he’d forgiven her.”

10. One annulment, coming up

“Years and years ago, my uncle’s girlfriend planned a wedding and invited everyone and didn’t tell him until the week of. I don’t know the whole story about why she did it but he went through with it and quietly got it anulled and broke up with her.”

11. Not a good idea

“I know two couples who got married for the sole purpose of having sex together. Both marriages lasted a year combined.”

12. Her last line is a zinger!

“I was a bridesmaid at a Mormon wedding (despite not being a Mormon myself.) The wedding was rushed because the parents had interstate travel coming up and didn’t wish to leave their respective children (late teens/ early 20s) without supervision while they were away. For fear of lost virginities.

I have some makeup I bought for the wedding that lasted longer than the marriage…”

13. Probably not the best idea?

“I work as a clerk at a Family Courthouse.

Bride f*cked the DJ. At the reception.

New record for the office pool.”

14. Cheater

“A relative of mine had a marriage last less than 3 weeks. They had been together for a couple years and even went to premarital counseling at their church for a few months to get ready. Their wedding was super lavish and it was clear a lot of prep and money went into it. At their wedding they announced they were expecting their first child.

Everything seemed great. Unfortunately the whole thing blew up when the wife discovered he had been cheating on her for almost their entire relationship with multiple women. She found this out while in a foreign country on their honeymoon, 4 months pregnant. I know from her mom that she had complications in her pregnancy that they attribute to the stress of all of this.”

15. Never seen again

“My dad and his second wife made it like not even four months before she left and I never saw or heard from her again. She said she was going to give me an old Nintendo 64, she never did.”

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