People ought to practice what they preach.
If an authority figure thinks something is objectionable and berates a person for a perceived contemptible act, it’s not a good look when they themselves commit the very act they claimed to be vehemently against.
Curious to hear from strangers who have caught someone failing to practice what they preach, Redditor ChadbourneShamille8 asked:
“What is an instance of hypocrisy you witnessed?”
Dress Code
“When I was a bus driver, a woman was allowed to wear skirts and men weren’t allowed to wear shorts mind you there is no Air-conditioning on most British buses so on hot days it’s roasting.” – [deleted]
The Exception
“My dad once told me that he’s glad my sister gets welfare, but he doesn’t think anyone else should.” – MentalHygienx
The Argument
“Saw this small argument between two people that happened some years ago online in a comment section. The topic was ‘Is Christianity slavery?’”
“One of them argued that it was and brought up their own personal experience as one of the reasons for it. Saying that they were forced to go to church and that you have to have blind faith to follow the religion.”
“In response, the other person, who argued that Christianity wasn’t slavery, brought their experience. Saying that they had found more freedom in themselves by following the religion and that faith is not blind belief, but rather an act of volition which would generally be based on evidence.”
“In response to that, the one arguing that Christianity was slavery said something along the lines of, ‘You bringing in your personal experience doesn’t make your argument valid.’”
“When I read that I just facepalmed.” – Far-Sheepherder-8256
Zero Tolerance Policy
“My favorite example is zero tolerance in schools.”
“It applies stringently to students, and not at all to faculty.” – All_Your_Base
Proponent Of “Family Values”
“Not really a single instance, but a guy I’ve known for a long time is very vocal about ‘family values,’ ‘the sanctity of marriage,’ and complains about people having multiple children by various ‘baby mamma’s.’”
“He’s on his third marriage. He’s fathered six children..two with each of his three wives, has two step-kids, and his latest wife is just about the same age as his oldest daughter.”
“He’s all but disowned her, her brother, and his oldest step-son. But he’s all about ‘family values.’” – gogojack
Selective Charity
“There is a chapter of ‘holy rollers,’ christian bikers at the end of my street. Across from their clubhouse is a convenience store that I go to daily.”
“A homeless woman named Betty comes to this store in the afternoon to get out of the sun and hopefully get a few handouts. Typically, if Betty is there when I show up I’ll grab her a big bottle of cold water and a few snacks.”
“One day I stopped by the store to grab a coffee before work. Betty was there and was asking three of the holy rollers if they could spare some change or possibly a cigarette from one of the bikers.”
“They started teasing her about her clothes and told her to get off her ass and get a job and walked across the street to their clubhouse. As usual I went in, got her a triangle sandwich and cold water and gave her a couple of my smokes.”
“Pretty hypocritical of those that supposedly follow the word of jesus to turn their back on a sister in need. I’m not religious and I do a better job of helping the less fortunate than many religious people do.” – PleasurenPain702
Drugs Of Choice
“Relative won’t get a COVID shot, because of fears that persist about what’s in the shot, but has extensively traveled through SE Asia doing shrooms, heroin, cocaine and pharmaceuticals and will take any drug offered to her.”
“Afraid of COVID shot but spiked her skin with an unknown needle in Thailand. Oki doki.” – [deleted]
Talking The Talk
“An aunt of mine has endless photos of herself in Buddhist temples and monasteries, says how she learns the sutras and chants on behalf of her very ill mom. She even claims to have taken certain vows and has achieved some sort of rank in the religious order. Sounds like a virtuous lady right? Nah.”
“She neglects her own mother and cooks up sob stories to get money from her. She claims to be poor and unable to put food on the table and sacrifices her own health to feed her kids etc. Then, the same aunt will post about eating at fancy restaurants and getting food deliveries sent to her house almost every day.”
“At the same time she talks about being a good Buddhist and how she is forbidden to tell lies and curse/scold others. This very same aunt, when confronted with her own lies will threaten suicide, she has been threatening to end herself for 2 years but sadly isn’t unalive yet, and say that ‘You are making me kill myself! If I die its your fault!’”
“If you continue calling out her bs. She also goes to different temples to eat food that’s supposed to be for those who are less fortunate and has been gently chided by the monks and nuns several times.”
“Then she will smear the name of that temple/monastery where the monk/nun chided her and say how they’re faking their faith, looking down on the unfortunate etc.” – Cuddlyevilporcupine
Outstanding Debts
“My FIL is the poster boy for hypocrisy. The latest instance was criticizing my SIL for not telling her husband about borrowing money from me and my SO when he doesn’t tell his wife about his: gambling, smoking, getting fired, getting a much larger ‘loan’ (since he’s made it clear he isn’t paying it back) from us, the reason behind why his granddaughter refuses to invite him to functions, etc.”
“At least I know SIL will pay us back.” – DNA_ligase
The frustrations in these examples are relatable.
How are we to respect those whose actions contradict what they say and impose on others, especially if it’s someone we’re supposed to look up to, like a leader or a parent. It’s definitely a challenge, that’s for sure.
Depending on the circumstances, maybe calling them out on their hypocrisy is an option.
What do you think, folks? Have you ever been in a position where you called someone out for being hypocritical and it backfired?