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People Talked About When Complete Strangers Did Something Nice for Them

I know we’re living in divisive times, but I believe that there are WAY more good people than bad people out there.

And I also think that most folks want to do the right thing and help their fellow Americans out, regardless of political affiliation, race, religion, or anything else that you can imagine.

And that’s why these stories of strangers helping each other out are so refreshing and positive!

Let’s check out some stories from AskReddit users about when felt the kindness of strangers.

1. Good Samaritans.

“I was 11 or 12 years old, and me and my family were going camping, but we wrecked on the interstate. The car flipped twice and landed on its side, and the camper was strewn all over the interstate.

A bunch of cars pulled over and people began lining up to help us get out of the car. They knew they couldn’t wait for the professionals to get us out of our car because they were afraid it would roll down the hill with us inside.

We climbed through the side window one by one (there were ten of us, me and my parents and my seven siblings) and they lifted us down to the ground. We were all in shock, but these complete strangers were just holding us and hugging us and telling us it would be ok.

They stayed until the ambulances arrived. It was probably one of the most comforting things I’ve ever experienced.”

2. A difficult time.

“I was going through a very difficult time because of life events. All of my friends turned away from me when I needed help the most. Someone referred me to a Church that might be able to help with food.

I broke down crying while telling the Pastor my situation. He excused himself and said he would be right back. He returned a few minutes later with several bags of food. All these years later, I still remember his kindness.”

3. A tragedy.

“We had a house fire. We all got out safely, but lost basically everything we owned.

My employer was a dress shop, and when they heard, they provided me with a whole new wardrobe from the shop. The Red Cross also helped my family to get clothing and other things that we needed.”

4. Snowed in.

“In college, living in a house by myself, got nearly 2 feet of snow. Had 2 days of classes cancelled, but needed to go in by the 3rd day.

Had no choice but to shovel the long driveway by hand. Started by the road (state highway so busy and edge piled high with salt-crusted snow/frozen slush). Someone driving a pickup with a snow plow was about to drive by but stopped and said “that looks like hard work, let me.”

He plowed the whole driveway, for free! Was done in less than 3 minutes, would have taken me all day!”

5. Making new friends.

“I was at a party and was sitting off by myself. I didn’t really know anyone and I have a really hard time talking to new people. This other girl comes up and starts a conversation with me and introduces me to her group of friends.

We are all still friends. I have trust issues and don’t make friends with people my age easily, so what this girl did helped boost my confidence and self-esteem ENORMOUSLY. I didn’t really have any friends before this except for one or two.”

6. All the small things.

“When I was probably around 10 or 11, I went into a coffee shop by myself (mom was outside with the dog) to get orange juice. They had freshly made orange juice at that particular place, so it was in bottles which the person working the counter would pour into a to go cup for whoever ordered it.

When the girl working there was pouring my juice, what was left in the bottle just perfectly filled he cup, leaving the bottle empty. I don’t know if this was a real policy or not, but she said “Oh, looks like the bottle ran out, so I’d better just give this to you for free! Have a nice day!”

I was super flustered because I was already anxious for having to order for myself so I just said thanks and ran out to my mom (she made me go back in to tip her haha). I don’t know why, but it still sticks in *my* mind after all these years, and she probably forgot about it by the next week.

I guess that’s the thing with doing small things for people; there’s no reason not to because it could affect them positively for a long time, and you won’t even think much of it.”

7. The long way home.

“In 2014 I walked from my home in the Netherlands to Santiago de Compostela in Spain, almost 3000 kilometers (between 1500 and 2000 miles, for the US readers). Time and again I have been struck with the kindness of people.

From people who, when I asked them to fill my water bottle, added some ice cubes “because it’s so warm”, to people who invited me in for a beer or a glass of wine in the shadow before continuing. Or even people who approached me in the street to ask if I had a place to sleep for the night, and invited me into their homes if I didn’t.

Or mayors of small villages who opened up the sporting facilities so I could shower and sleep there. Or people who let me set up my tent in their garden. I can go on for hours.

If the news media are trying to make you believe that the world is a bad or dangerous place, there is really nothing better to regain your confidence in humanity than to take your backpack and go on a long walk for a few months (I took 5 months; best adventure in my life so far).

Most individuals are okay; it’s when they organize themselves into groups that you have to be careful.”

8. These are for you.

“Once when I was crying on the side walk and a complete stranger gave me a bouquet of lilacs I calmed down immediately.”

9. Helping hands.

“When I was a teenager, I was on my way to my dad’s house and had to drive through the country to get there.

I was low on gas and I figured I could make it there in time to hit my dad up for some gas cash. I guessed wrong and my car died. So there I was, a teenaged girl, stuck on the side of the road, in the middle of nowhere, and it was getting dark. BTW this was in the 1980s, so no cell phones yet. I was really stranded.

A family pulled up and asked me what the problem was, and I explained. They lived on a nearby farm, and they had a fuel pump for their farm equipment. They brought enough gas in a gas can to get my car started, and then they insisted that I come over to their place to top off the tank.

They seemed genuinely embarrassed when I thanked them profusely, saying, “Ain’t nothing, that’s just the way folks are around here.””

10. You’ll always remember.

“I was about 8 and had my first phone (no cell service or anything just games and pics) and I went to Walmart. I had to go to the restroom so I put my phone in the cart and told my dad it was there.

He forgot and went to the restroom as well, and when i got back my phone was gone. We went to the management and they said that they haven’t seen it. By this time i was crying and we needed to leave. As I was leaving an older lady came in and was holding my phone.

She said that she had found it in the parking lot and she had guessed that someone dropped it so she would take it to lost and found. Well we said what happened and we realized that someone had tried to get into it and I guess they couldn’t so they just left it in the parking lot.

We tried to repay the lady but she said that she would have done the same thing for her grandchildren if she had any. I never saw the lady again but I will always remember her kindness.”

11. It’s on her.

“My cousin and I were at a trampoline park and he wanted to get some candy but none of us had any money.

The lady behind us paid for it. It’s random acts of kindness like this that make me smile.”

12. A very kind lady.

“There was a big storm while we were on a road trip and we stopped at a gas station to get food, and wait out the storm a while. We had made ourselves some cup o noodles but we couldn’t find forks.

Luckily this kind lady called Keisha, helped us and asked some Starbucks employee to get “us two babies” some forks. She was really nice, and I wont forget Miss. Keisha.

We could’ve just gotten over our social anxiety and just asked for forks our selves but I’m real grateful we didn’t have to.”

13. Pass it on.

“Last week I was coming home from a funeral for my 21 year old nephew. I was just numb. I decided to stop at the store and get something to eat later. I parked, ran inside and spent about 45 minutes looking and trying to shake the day away.

I went to pay for my item and found my wallet was not in my pocket! I left the item I was going to buy and ran out to my car, utterly freaking out wondering where/what my wallet, with everything in it, had gone. As I got to my car I saw the door was open and things were laying all over the ground. My heart sank. I’d been broken into. Did I leave the door unlocked?

As I got a few steps closer I saw a tall, skinny man standing there. Then I got scared. I was far away from the store and no one was around. The man called to me and asked if this was my car and I said yes? He explained that he’d been in his car, opposite me, when I had left and when I closed my car door the seat belt had gotten in the way of the door closing, and it didn’t close.

He’d gotten out to close it for me and then saw my wallet had fallen on the ground, and he saw a credit card laying there. He had stood there this whole time guarding it, making sure no one took anything and he was careful not to touch anything. He had just waited for me to come back. To say I was stunned and incredulous is an understatement.

45 minutes this man had just stood there, for me, a stranger. Everything I had was there for the taking and if he wasn’t such an angel he could have had and trashed my whole life as my driver’s license, some money, credit cards, my ATM card were all there.

I thanked him 100 times and he kept smiling, like it was nothing. I told him he was my angel and he said, “just pass it on”.”

How about you?

Have you ever had a stranger help you out in a big way?

If so, tell us your stories in the comments. We look forward to hearing from you.

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People Share Stories About When Total Strangers Showed Them Kindness

I really hope that the stories you’re about to read will not only make you appreciate the times that a stranger has helped you out but will also encourage you to lend a helping hand next time you see someone who needs some assistance.

Do you think you’re up for that? I thought you’d say YES!

Here are some heartwarming stories from AskReddit users who got big helping hands from total strangers.

1. The race.

“I was running a 5k race by myself when I was 10. It was really cold and the road I was running on was covered with cracks.

There were a lot of people that were a lot older than me and I was scared and alone. I started the race fine but when I got near the finish, there was a part on the road that had a huge hole. I didn’t see the hole and I fell.

I was by myself and I was now hurt. but then a bunch of the other runners stopped and helped me up and made sure I was ok. They asked if I had someone with me and I said no so they ran with me to the finish.

My leg was bleeding a bit so they stayed with me until I got my leg wrapped up and I found my family. I won’t forget those 2 women and 3 men that helped me.”

2. Lost at Disney.

“Once, I was lost in Disney World because I was staring at some toys in a shop, and my parents kept walking. As soon as I noticed I was lost, an elderly couple came by.

I asked them if they had seen my parents. They said no, but they spent the rest of the afternoon helping me try to find my parents, even though that was their last day in Disney.

And to top it all off, once we found my parents, they bought me the toy I was staring at when my parents accidentally left without me.”

3. Pitching in.

“I have had complete strangers from the internet contribute toward my beloved dog’s surgery costs.

We aren’t out of the woods yet, but the kindness of those strangers will stay with me forever.”

4. You helped out!

“When I was like 7, I went to Utah for the first time while it was snowing! (I live in the dry desert so we don’t ever get snow) so me and my cousins went and thought that it was so “bad” to go and dust the snow off peoples cars.

So when we were in the middle of doing so, the garage opened. We all scattered and hid. The guy was equipped with something you would use to take the snow off a car.

But his job was already done, for we had done it for him. He saw our little heads poking out and we thought we were in trouble. However the guy said “hey! You saved me from being late to work!” And he gave us candy ?”

5. At the museum.

“Many years ago the Seattle Art Museum had a showing of Impressionist paintings from the Louvre. It was attracting massive crowds.

On the last day of the exhibit, I got there very early only to find the line already going around the block. After two hours, we were told that it would still be about four hours before we made it to the front of the line but that if anyone bought a season’s pass to the museum, they could go in right away.

The woman behind me (a stranger) decided to buy the pass, so she left the line and went in. I didn’t have the money for a season pass and was debating whether or not I wanted to wait another four hours or just go home. Then I noticed the woman walking back down the line, looking intently at everyone she passed.

She noticed me and said that she bought season passes for her and her boyfriend but he was out of town. So she gave me his ticket for the day and then she headed back into the museum before I could even thank her. It was so cool to be able to leave the line and walk right into the showing when I was expecting a four hour wait!”

6. I still weep…

“After getting away from an abusive relationship, I went to a local Catholic Charity to ask for clothing suitable to a job interview. I was encouraged to accept as much clothing as I wished so I would have enough for at least a week’s work.

As I chose the items, the woman left the room. When she came back she was carrying 4 bags of food for my son and I. That was 20 years ago and I still weep when remembering her kindness. I got the job. My son and I got back on our feet.”

7. Two nice people!

“I was at a Wal-Mart and I was in the check out line and I dropped something and I didn’t have a cart at all so I used my arms to carry everything.

This person comes and takes my stuff out of my arms and puts it on the conveyor belt and I didn’t have enough money on me so the person in the next lane over gave me a dollar to pay for my things.”

8. A good deed.

“When I was little, some older kids were bullying me.

A stranger stopped and explained why it’s not right to do that and said that it probably means that they have some trouble in their homes or something like that.

So they got embarrassed and stopped. I was and still am thankful for that.”

9. It’s on me.

“Someone paid for my food at McDonalds.

We also did it for the people behind us and the chain according to the cashier, went on for the whole day. That’s what one act of kindness can do.

Be kind today.”

10. This is awesome.

“It was last week when I voted early at FAMU in Florida. I’m in a walker after hip surgery. I asked the young man at the ballot box drop off station, while in my car, where handicapped parking was since I’d come to vote in person. He pointed down the road.

When I got to the lot it turned out it was on a steep hill. I got out of my car but decided there was no way I could get up the hill and down the road a block On my own and I was preparing to leave, massively disappointed, when there he came, having found someone else to take care of his station,, to help me.

It took me an hour to vote even though there was no line, and he was at my side the whole way. It was an awesome achievement for me. And it was only possible because of his spirit.”

11. Summer camp.

“I was ten years old, and I was at a summer camp.

For some background, at home I was being abused by an uncaring father who’s favorite thing to tell me was how stupid I was, how greedy, and what a bad person. A friend of mine was joking around and told me that I was stupid, which eventually triggered me into a panic attack. I was hyperventilating and crying in the middle of a large group, but one camp leader noticed.

She pulled me away from the crowd, had me take a walk with her to find a bench. She didn’t even know my name, but she pulled me in her lap and hugged me tight, rocking me and wiping my tears away when I finished. Every time my mind falls to the words of my ex-father, I instead turn my mind to her.

I will never forget that day, and looking back on it from a much better place and mental wellness view, it still makes me smile.”

12. Very wholesome.

“I was an older college student (in my 40’s) and didn’t have a lot of money. I was in the snack bar and wanted a bottled drink. I got it out of the cooler, counted my money, decided I didn’t have enough, and put it back.

Some younger college students saw me and insisted on paying for it. I told them they didn’t have to do that, but they wanted to. That was so nice of them. I have paid it forward several times since then.”

13. Support system.

“I was living in a new city & just made a great group of friends. Shortly thereafter my dad got sick & passed away. These women who were complete strangers 6 months earlier, all reached out to me & shared their experiences and support.

I was in my 30′ & felt like the only person in the world without a dad. 4 of my new friends also had lost their dads & knew just what to say so I didn’t feel so devastatingly alone. It truly was my life raft that kept me above water.”

Now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us your own stories of receiving help from total strangers.

Please and thank you!

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People Share the Financial Splurges They’ve Never Regretted

It’s important to be financially responsible, to save for the future and make good decisions with our money.

It’s also important to balance those responsibilities with having a little fun, rewarding ourselves for our hard work, and generally making the journey to financial security worth taking.

If you’re looking to feel better about your own relationship with debt and progress, here are 18 people who bought themselves something really nice – and didn’t end up regretting it at all.

18. If you like to work with your hands.

Spending hundreds of euros on broken musical instruments because they were pretty.

I have since bought spare parts and started repairing them.

I found my destiny.

17. Not a bad price for a changed life.

Just shy of $20,000 to go to Antarctica traveling solo (small cruise ship). More than I’ve spent on every other vacation I’ve taken combined.

Was one of the best trips of my life. It also gave me enough space and clarity to realize how toxic my ex was to me so that I could find the strength to leave not long after I got back.

I’ll always want to go back to Antarctica. The inner peace I found there changed my life.

16. It really is the little things.

My Couch. I moved out of my moms house last year (2019 so no covid) and I always wanted a good couch. I tested so much. I went to so many furniture stores. Looked at so many different models. And then choose mine.

Its actually from Ikea. Three seats and long enough to let someone sleep on it. In a grey but I saw they were also having a black cover so I am thinking about getting that one. Extremely comfortable. I wanted a couch where you could chill out and love how fluffy it is without losing the ability to sit on it.

In some couches you are not able to lean on the back and still have a straight back. You can sit on the back board and the armrests. They are flat so you can also put a cup of tea on them.

Its also not too low so you dont feel like sitting on the ground (which I do strangely often compared to my love for this couch) but you can let yourself fall onto that damn thing! It also looks easy and simple.

So I dont want the suggestion of someone who tried a LOT of couches and happens to be me then buy the Vimle couch from Ikea.

15. A surprise pleasure.

I spent $300 on a mule. An actual living, 4 hooved, long-eared mule. We raise cattle, so a protection mule was a good excuse. But, really, I just fell in love with him. He’s huge and sassy.

He’ll steal your hat and run away. He’s got a Ninja mode where he can sneak up on you, just to breathe down your neck or startle you. He does keep the coyotes away.

However, he has proved himself priceless because he eats thistle. When we got the lease on the land for our cattle the pastures had been neglected and were in bad shape. Thistle is a spiky plant that spreads across the pasture, choking out grasses. Cow’s won’t eat it. It’s really hard to get rid of.

To our surprise, the mule cleared out nearly all the thistle in a matter of months. He would eat the flowers out of the center. He saved us an enormous amount of money and labor. We were able to avoid using chemical weed killers, which we really didn’t want to do. Probably the best investment in our whole cattle raising experience.

14. Confidence is key.

I’ve been a fat guy all my life. Like, really fat. Dressing comfortably was always my preference because being stylish just isn’t an option at my size. This was always a source of anxiety at any social event that required dressing up.

When I realized I had 4 weddings of close friends all coming up within the year, I decided to bite the bullet and get some decent “formal” clothes. I spent $800 on a suit jacket, $250 on two pairs of dress pants, a little over $300 for 3 shirts and 3 silk ties that were between $70 and $100 each. I stood for all my measurements and had everything tailored to my exact specifications.

Did a fitting and had a second round of alterations on the pants so they actually looked decent, even though I wore them under my gut. People were floored when I showed up to the first wedding. I received so many compliments and actual double takes. Being introduced to new people felt completely different. I felt impressive.

Some of those weddings were the best times of my life and it was due, in no small part, to how those clothes looked and made me feel. Some of those friends have big pictures from their weddings hanging on their walls, and I don’t cringe in embarrassment when I see myself in them.

Those clothes cost more than I had/have ever spent on clothing in any ten year period, and they were worth every penny.

13. Never underestimate something that deals with poop.

My Litter Robot.

Yes, I spent $600 on a cat shi**er, but my house never smells.

Also, I don’t have to scoop litter, and I only have to empty the drawer once a week.

Definitely worth it to me.

12. With his own two hands.

Finally found the motorcycle I wanted years ago but could not get. It was not running, but after around dumping $3,500 into it and doing a full frame up restoration and custom job on it.

I have the bike I wanted years ago, but better. Yes I did everything myself, full paint job Tank frame fenders everything. I also did a full engine rebuild, remade the wiring harness, everything was all done in house.

So I put a touch over 3K into a bike that is only worth about $1,500. on a good day, but hell it is mine and I built it.

11. Definitely got his money’s worth.

I spent too much money on a big treadmill for a very small apartment.

But I’ve ran 15-25 km on it every week for the past several years and it’s been incredibly helpful both physically and mentally.

10. This actually sounds lovely.

$120 for a towel heater.

I will never dry off with a cold towel again.

9. Happiness is priceless.

Art work.

Can I always afford it? No.

But my walls are full of original, 90% local art.

They make me happy to look at, I’m sure I made the artist happy too.

8. This is just the best story.

I went to a Renaissance Fair with my husband and some friends. It was his first time, and he’s a pretty introverted person, so while he has fun watching everyone else dress up and act all goofy and old-timey, he doesn’t really participate.

When we went to buy our first beer, the wench tried to sell him on one of those big mugs that looks like it’s carved out of wood but it’s just plastic. It cost $100. Yes, you get free refills, but we were not planning on drinking $100 worth of beer that day.

I could tell by the look on his face that he wanted it- he looked like a little kid at Disney World. Without thinking, I whipped out my credit card and dropped $100 on a shitty plastic mug.

All day, he walked around proudly with his mug. He even took some big gulps and cheered “huzzah” once or twice. This might not seem like much but for my quiet, gentle giant, it is huge. I manage the finances in our relationship and I am CONSTANTLY cracking down on wasteful spending, so I think we were both amazed I made such a dumb purchase.

Four years later, we still have that mug. He gets a big grin every time he sees it and teases me about my irresponsible impulse. And every time I see it, I just think about how much I love that big galoot…

7. You can’t put a price on beauty.

$800 for a front seat helicopter tour of Kauai for me and my wife!

Totally worth it!

6. Hours of entertainment.

Lego Death Star.

5. They bring people together!

board games, they are expensive, but they bring much joy

4. Experiences, not things.

I spent $3000 for my wife to meet the backstreet boys and get front row seats.

It is the best thing that has ever happened to her and the smile on her face after the show and look of pure bliss in someone who suffers often from anxiety was worth every cent.

3. Neither of you will forget it.

A quick 7 day trip to Maui in February a couple years ago with one of my teenage daughters. Work was grinding me down and I needed a break.

My wife and the rest of the family couldn’t go, they were working or in school. The tickets were expensive, $850 each for bare-bones economy narrow rock hard seats, it was a 12 hour flight that was packed to the brim – I was getting bedsores by the time we arrived.

We rented snorkeling gear and a car, and spent every day from dawn to dusk snorkeling, sitting on the beaches and hiking in the mountains; we did the Hana road, the Seven Sacred Pools and the Haleakalā volcano national park at sunset, and took tons of photos. We ate spam musubi for breakfast, poke and somen noodles for lunch and loco moko for supper. Slept like babies with the windows open wide in the cool nighttime breezes.

The best way to blow $5,000 EVER. So much what I needed at that point in my life.

2. Now that’s an apology.

I got into a stupid fight with my brother, so I found a game he had pledged on kickstarter (Space Haven) and saw that for 360 dollars I could write a premade character bio that would randomly show up.

So I pledged it and wrote a character bio with his name and made him a flaming asshole. I have never played this game and don’t want to.

1. If you use it every day, good decision.

GE Opal nugget ice maker.

Dang thing cost more than my car payment but, man oh man, I love nugget ice and I use it the heck out of it every day.

I need to get better about picking and choosing my splurges, but I don’t plan on not making any, either.

What’s your favorite expensive purchase? Tell us about it in the comments!

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People Think It’s High Time We Stopped Feeling Insecure About These Things

One of the hardest things to deal with is finding a way to love yourself – and all of the ways society says you’re not good enough definitely don’t make it easier.

“They” say we should feel insecure or self-conscious about so many things, but what if we all just…stopped?

Not about the important things, maybe but these 13 people have some ideas of stuff we could definitely stop making feel badly about like, today.

13. It takes all of us.

Their jobs. If you clean/fix sewerage pipes, then thanks for your service. Someone must have the balls to do it.

There are few people more responsible for the clean, relatively disease free, safe, modern world we live in than sanitation workers.

This includes janitors, street cleaners, garbage workers and anyone who cleans up after the rest of us.

I have as much respect for them as I do fire fighters and EMTs.

12. There is power in silence.

Being quiet.

“You never say anything” is such a weird way to both draw attention to someone and give them nothing to work with.

i understand being quiet is not a “meditation” for everyone, but damn. not having endless mental chatter is wonderful. not having endless verbal chatter directed AT YOU without room to respond is good, too.

11. And forget trying to apologize.

Making any kind of mistake.

Social media has created an illusion that everyone has to be perfect.

10. This is a good one.

The way someone laughs.

This world is cold and unforgiving. Laughing makes it all a little less heavy. Who gives a f*ck a what it sounds like?

I’ll never forget in high school when I was laughing in Spanish class. The girl in front of me turned around and went, “ew girl, you got an ugly laugh” and EVERYONE started laughing with her.

It’s been 15 years and I’m STILL self-conscious of my laugh because of that.

9. I feel this in my old bones.

Aging and the unavoidable physical changes that come with it.

8. College isn’t for everyone.

Trade school/gap years- college right after hs isn’t for everyone. even Some of my smartest friends- top of my class should’ve taken a gap because they burned themselves out getting 95-97% avgs throughout HS.

I never should have jumped into college. I went for something I was talked into (because it paid a lot), was miserable, changed majors, still wasn’t happy. Graduated with a degree, 13 years ago, that I never used.

I didn’t know what I wanted to do. I needed time to figure it out. And money isn’t all that matters.

7. It’s called hormones, folks.

having acne, it doesn’t mean you’re dirty or don’t wash your face.

it’s simply a skin condition some people get and some people don’t.

6. It just means you need time alone to recharge.

Being an introvert doesn’t mean you can’t have fun with people.

5. Can I get an amen.

Needing mental health treatment.

Even if that treatment includes medication.

I get so many weird backhanded comments when people find out I take psychiatric medication.

I hate that people think of it as the “easy way out” and view me as giving up or being weak.

4. Everyone is different.

Your choice of career.

Another one: not having having a dream career.

3. Everyone should have access to that space.

Exercising in public. To me anyone giving it a go, no matter their physical ability, deserves praise!

Honestly from my experience most gym rats are the most encouraging to heavy people. A few of the guys I used to “work out with” (just be at the gym the same time every morning) kinda made it a point to say small comments to this very heavyset guy that worked out at the same time as us in the morning “you got this brother.”

“Keep up the good work man” “you’re looking good man.” This guy’s face always lit up and he always pushed harder when anyone encouraged him.

2. Learn to say “I’m sorry.”

Being wrong. It’s okay to be wrong, just be open to learning. Instead of doubling down or getting angry.

People would be a lot smarter if we could all just admit when we don’t know, or when we have been wrong about something!! There is always room to grow, and it’s more than okay to change your mind.

1. People can’t help it.

Baldness. It doesn’t seem to be as common for it to happen naturally with women, but for men and women, it can be a really sore subject, especially if it starts happening at a fairly early age.

You could be in control of every other aspect of your life, but if you start losing hair early, it can take the wind out of your sails.

I vote we all make an effort, what do you say?

What’s something you wish you could stop feeling badly about today? Tell us in the comments!

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Small Town Residents Share Their Darkest Secrets

People who don’t live in small towns tend to romanticize them.

A place where everyone knows everyone else, the kids can still play together until dark, and there are like, pies sitting on windowsills or something.

People who do live in small towns, or who have, know that along with the friendliness and the charm, they can have a dark side like everywhere else – and these 16 little places have their secrets.

16. Just horrible.

A freshman with aspergers was being abused by his family at home. He was a problem child and got in trouble on purpose but no one went too hard on him because of his home life, he was a well loved kid at school and in the community. One day just before Holiday break in December he was really sick but his mom sent him to school anyway. Locked him out of the house.

He decided to try and get into one of the empty houses down the street, through the chimney. Now this kid was the size of a 2nd grader, but he was too big to fit through since chimneys taper down thinner.

Mom never answered her phone when the school reported him missing. Went a whole day without reporting her kid missing. No one knew what happened to him.

It was about a month and a half before we knew what happened to him. We all thought he ran away, was alive somewhere, maybe went to his sisters house. Nope. Dead in a chimney.

The schools organized an entire week of counseling and such, they wore pink for a day and handed out little pink ribbons on pins for him since his favorite color was pink. Everyone was hit really hard by it.

That’s how our small town started 2020. It hasn’t gotten any better as you can see. So weird that its almost been a year now..

15.  I’d say that qualifies as dark.

About 10 years ago a lot of homeless people disappeared and when the police did the investigation they found out a guy was kidnapping and eating those people.

Police found his hideout and found a half eaten body and bones from another person. People don’t like to talk about it but everyone knows what happened.

14. Talk about eccentric.

We had a crazy rich guy from the 1600-1700s who saw people robbing a grave one night so decided that when he died he would be laid to rest in the roof of a barn behind his house.

He believed he’d only be dead for 30 years so requested that they lock the barn and put the key in his coffin so he could get out but nobody could get in. He requested that whoever inherited his house, fortune and belongings would have to give them back to him when he resurrected.

He did actually get his wish but of course he was never resurrected, people stole his bones and his house is a dentist now.

13. Kids will be…terrible.

Oh I have a doozy. Short version: popular kids in high school run a secret towel fight club and accidentally kill one of their friends in the house of a local politician, who proceeds to bury the story.

Towel fight club: tape towels over your hands and beat each other up. It’s supposed to be just boxing but it sounds like they got out of control and hardly could call it that.

12. What a horrible human being.

This was around 15 years ago, but there was a Sheriff’s Deputy that was seemingly a really cool guy. Friendly, cracked a lot of great jokes, etc. He was working at the local high school as a School Resource Officer and was apparently almost universally well regarded.

Well, it turns out that he repeatedly raped a 14 year old. He told the boy that he’d kill his parents if he reported the officer. I don’t remember all the details, but I believe this went on for weeks or months before it was found out and the officer was arrested and eventually went to prison.

11. My heart.

This is a sad one to me. There was an older couple here who ran a halfway house for troubled kids who’d recently gotten out of juvie, they fostered a few as well. They were loved in the community, wonderful people.

One of them had an older brother who was a gangbanger in the nearest big city. During a visit, he snuck his 15 year old younger bro a handgun. Younger bro ended up holding up a local gas station and killed three people. One of them was my friend’s cousin.

The foster parents lost whatever credentials they needed to do what they did, the kids went back into the system, and the giant house has been abandoned since around 2009.

10. He wasn’t alone.

Ours was a football coach and history teacher.

When he was coaching, we won almost every game. When he wasn’t, we lost most of them, so I had to assume that meant he was a great coach. I had him for 2 history classes and even though his jokes were mean and inappropriate, we loved it and learned a lot. He had the highest test scores out of all the history teachers in our school.

A little over a decade after I graduated, he went to jail for sexually assaulting a 15-year-old girl. I wish I could feel like justice was served, but we had several male teachers who regularly made inappropriate passes and gestures towards the female students (starting at age 11) like spanking us and making us sit still while they gave us awkward massages. He was not one of those teachers…

9. At least they fixed it.

There’s a half submerged submarine from the war in the bay where I live, you can walk out to it when the tide is out. In the late 80s somebody cut open the hatch (one of the only visible parts left sticking out the sand), climbed in at was having a look around.

The tide came in and he drowned. If I remember rightly the whole hatch was filled with cement, then welded shut to stop it happening again.

8. Truly tragic.

Two sisters got picked up by a group of men.

Both were raped and thrown off a bridge that is 45 minutes outside of town.

One sister survived but Later in life went back and jumped off the bridge.

7. All too common.

The town I was raised in wasn’t exactly small, but here’s the one “dark secret” I know: my hometown was where lots and lots of sports players had their mansions. And so of course, their wives and children were out and about in the community a lot.

Every single sports-player-wife in that town was (is?) heavily addicted to opioids. Every, single, one. Opioid addiction is obviously an epidemic all over the country, but among the rich wives in the town, it had a 100% ‘infection’ rate, so to speak.

I know because one of my friend’s mom was the hairdresser for basically every single one of those wives. I was homeless my senior year of HS, and one of the sports player wives heard about me from her, and she gifted me an iPhone. That phone was pennies to her, but I still wish I’d expressed my thanks more, because that wife died of an overdose not long after.

6. A bit of a bungle.

This is more comical than dark.

A house burned down in this small town of 600 population. One block from the fire station. It being a volunteer fire department, nobody was at the station. They tried to get the pumper truck out, but one of the volunteers had run it into a brick building the week before and it was still at the shop.

We’re still undecided whether the house owner burned it down for the insurance. Strange that there was nothing valuable inside.

5. Only one reason to go there.

Our local pizza place was a known KKK hub.

Everyone knew it, and still to this day, if you Google “[town] kkk” the first thing that pops up is this pizza shop.

They had some nasty-ass pizza too.

4. We may never know.

15 years ago, the local District Attorney called his longtime girlfriend and told her he was taking the day off from work and that he loved her. He parked his car in town and went for a stroll past the local shops. He hasn’t been seen since.

His car was found where he had parked it the next day – he had left his cellphone in the car, but his keys and wallet were missing. Later that year, his laptop, sans its hard drive, was found under a bridge at a nearby river. The hard drive was eventually discovered by a local woman walking along the bank of the river, but it was too damaged to recover any data from.

Interestingly, investigators discovered that someone had done a search on his home computer for “how to wreck a hard drive.”

Did he jump from a local bridge, did he encounter someone whom he had prosecuted who did him harm, or did he escape his life to start a new one?

3. It’s hard to blame them.

About 30 years ago a local 8 yo girl went missing during the annual carnival downtown. After a few days they found a suspect that was seen near the girl right before she went missing.

The guy confessed to her horrific murder And rape and torture. He was the kids next door neighbor and friend to the kid’s dad. ( I’ll spare the details but it was really bad). He was convicted and sentenced to 40 years or so.

After 8 years he was paroled and returned to the same house with his parents, right next door (laws were a bit different then) to the family of the girl and former friend.

About a week later the man never showed up at his parole office. His parents filed a missing persons report.

Rumor has it that several friends of the victims father took care of him. If you talk to them they just say that they are sure that he won’t be back.

2. One wild ride.

I don’t know if it’s considered a dark secret, but we had a soldier die under some extremely questionable circumstances.

They said he was high/drunk/experiencing mental distress and raided a nursery (the plant kind). They claimed he was attacked by wasps and ran.

He called 911 several times and claimed that someone was chasing him, and was trying to kidnap him. In the last 911 call, he said everything was fine suddenly.

Just 14-15 minutes later, he was struck by a woman who stopped and called 911. He was ran over 2 more times, and died. The autopsy showed no signs of bee or wasp stings.

The connection to the nursery is due to the fact that it was just up the road from where he died, the place was ransacked, pizza eaten, money taken. But his wallet and phone were sitting on the counter, undisturbed.

HOWEVER! The family was not ok with that explanation, especially because he had previously texted that there were some problems with the “local boys” since the soldier wasn’t from this part of the state. So the family had a private investigator look into it. They analyzed the 911 recordings, and found several instances of other people talking in the background, though most of it couldn’t be made out. Except one. In the 911 call where he told the operator that everything was fine, a male voice could be heard saying “Tell her”. And the nursery? There was no DNA, no fingerprints, no footprints that lead back to the soldier, even though his phone and wallet were there in the building.

A lot of people, his family included, think he was killed by some of the local guys there after they got into a fight about something. They chased him down, and caught him. He was able to run again after the final 911 call, and was hit by a driver while trying to get help. And the police in the county covered the entire thing up because the boys involved were connected to the department somehow. Of the three drivers, none were charged for hitting/running over him. I think only the first driver stopped, but it was discovered that one of the other drivers was connected to the department either through family or friendship.

It’s a crazy story, but you can look it up. Just search Austin McGeough. I wouldn’t be too surprised since there is a lot of shady stuff happening in small town police departments, including covering up rapes that officers commit. I really hope his family gets him justice.

1. Sometimes juries get it right.

Guy owned a bar, across the street from his house, where he lived with his wife, daughter and granddaughter of 5.

He had a contractor working on the house, Grandma who took care of the child during the day, thought it would be no big deal leaving the child sleeping while she went quickly to the market.

Next thing… is the Grandpa sees the contractor running to his car and leaving the house. Curious he went home to find out what happened, only to find his granddaughter crying with blood between her legs.

After the grandmother came back… he left the child with her, went back to the bar, got his gun, and threw the keys to one of his regulars asking him to close the bar because he had to kill someone.

When he arrived at the contractor’s home, he wasn’t there. He then spent the next 2 weeks surveying his home 24/7. Until the rapist probably thought the cost was clear… and returns home. Grandpa sees him… breaks the door, kill the guy in front of his parents, then leaves… going directly to the precinct where he surrenders his gun and makes a full confection detailing everything.

He was tried for premeditate murder… prosecution had all the evidence… testimony from his friends and parents of the rapist… the murder weapon… his confession. It’s was a close and shut case. Jury voted 7-0 not guilty. (In Brazil there’s 7 jurors and you only need a majority to convict, and not unanimous like the US)

These stories should all be movies or books, I swear.

If you’re from a small town, share your secrets with us below!

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Veterinarians Share the Worst Pet Names They’ve Ever Heard

It’s definitely a pastime to make fun of ridiculous, made up, not-pronounceable baby names for human beings, but what about the things people choose to name their pets?

What about those poor dogs, cats, bunnies, and other animals out there with truly terrible names?

It’s high time we bring their plights into the light, and these veterinarians are on the front lines – so let them reveal 22 truly awful names.

22. Spelling is hard, to be fair.

The vet tech entered Popsicle’s name as “Popcycle” and I have never been more offended.

My cat doesn’t even have pedals or anything for riding what the hell.

21. That would inspire questions.

Envelope.

Envelope is the name of the cat in the Sir Charlie Stinky Socks books.

They are my son’s favourite books at the moment!

20. It’s sort of an apt name for a dog.

My old neighbors apparently thought it would be a good idea to let their 3 year old name their dog.

The dog was named Dump Truck.

19. Somebody didn’t think that through.

So I’m not a vet, but I’m deeply involved in the horse world. There’s a “discipline” called halter, and many of the horses are genetic atrocities to begin with. They’ve been bred to the point of uselessness.

When naming quarter horses, many breeders like to create a registered name that incorporates the parents’ names and bloodlines. So, somebody bred together the stallion Kid’s Classic Style and the mare Lookin’ Touchable. The best name that the breeders could come up with for the foal?

KidsLookinTouchable.

Yeah. That’s the best they could come up with.

18. Delicious.

In the South, I was in a waiting room with someone who brought their chicken named Tikka.

Like chicken tikka.

17. But why, though? Ew.

Sexy – for a chihuahua.

Just made the whole consultation very awkward.

16. But…you know what, never mind.

Raccoon.

Our daughter was three when she named the all black cat.

I still have no idea why she named him that.

He does appear a bit chunky like a well fed raccoon now.

15. Not very creative, huh?

I lived in the Marshall Islands for a few years and I noticed that all black male dogs are named “lakilimej” (black boy), all white male dogs are named “lamoujouj” (white boy), all brown male dogs are “laburaun” (brown boy), and all black and white dogs are named “oreo”

14. He earned those titles.

Not a vet but I took in a cat from a family named Lord Whimsalot III.

Yes, there were previous Lord Whimsalots. We nicknamed him whimmy.

13. Some kids just have a knack.

One of my boys wanted to name one of our dogs Meat Stack.

(My son was 6 when we adopted the puppy).

Same kid wanted to name his brother Turtle Flower when he was born.

Needless to say he is not in charge of naming things in our household.

12. You might want to stay away from that cat.

There was once a guy that was selling his black cat. He called it “Ustaša”.

Ustaša was a group of soldiers from Croatia in the 1990.

They are taboo today because of the crimes/things they did.

11. I hope no one wants to eat it.

Old neighbor lady had a cat named “face”

because it had a beautiful face, she said.

10. Someone took their parenting role seriously.

Ex gf was a vet nurse.

She came across a cat in the system called Horatio Bradshaw Roadwork.

9. Is there…a story?

My brother in law named his cat Salad.

8. See, that’s a good tale.

My cat’s name in John Hinckley, Jr., because he was a stray that stalked me for a year and killed things to give me as offerings.

7. I refuse to believe they realized what they had done.

Clitsy.

I kind of hope they let their toddler name the cat, and the toddler just made a silly sound.

When I was little I apparently wanted to name our cat “tit” because I thought it was a nice name.

6. I actually love it.

My roommate had a dog called Taquito and we once had to go to the emergency vet at night because it was having trouble breathing.

The dog goes in with the vet and maybe half an hour later a vet’s assistant comes out, goes straight for the latino looking couple at the other end of the waiting room and just asks them “taquito?” They were looking sooo confused and slightly offended, especially since the assistant kept repeating it when they didn’t answer.

My roommate was slow on the uptake with it being the middle of the night and just being frozen on the spot by the awkwardness of the moment, but she finally spoke up and said “Taquito is my dog”.

No one looked at each other for the remaining time we were there.

5. Sometimes people are hard to love.

Mom owns a vet practice so had a lot of these.

Best/worse pet parents named their cat D.O.G. and their dog C.A.T.

James Bond was my favorite doggy (Pekinese). He was hilarious.

There were so many Mittens, Fluffys, Spots and Buddy’s they got lost in the sea of animals.

Worst story was a rescued golden retriever who was so malnourished they nick named him Pancake. Sadly, Pancake’s kidneys were done so he dies 2 days after he was rescued by the local animal control. The two days I got to feed and spend time with him made it all the harder to realize he could have been saved if his family had let him go instead of leaving him chained up in the yard before they left.

I hate people a lot of the time.

4. Don’t Google it.

Vet tech here.

Worst one was hands down “Tubgirl96.”

It was a name given to a sweet, young adult female cat.

The owners thought they were funny.

3. Kids are brilliant.

My first pet that I can remember getting was a fish when I was about three or four years old.

I named him Clock because I happened to be looking at a clock when my mom asked what I wanted to name him

2. Noooooo stop it.

I’m a vet.

Senior year in vet school, all the students meet in the morning to review what’s coming for their service that day (surgery, internal medicine, onco, etc) and pick cases.

On the roster one day was a dog named Ni**er. This was rural Washington in the ’90s, so not the most enlightened place or time.

We had one Black student in our class – a smart and fiery woman. After some gasps from the students, she claimed the case and set about to read up on it.

The people and the poor dog showed up, and this student went in to get the history. I can only imagine the looks on the owners’ faces.

The student said the exchange went something like this:

Vet Student: “Hi, I’m Future Dr. X – I’ll be working with you today. I see your dog is named Ni**er. For today, let’s just go with Lucky.”

I can’t recall how the rest of the case went, but this was a proud moment for our class.

1. You gotta stand up for your dog, man!

My dogs name was Freddie.

The vet put it in as Freddy.

I felt so ridiculous, and never told them ‘that’s not how he spells his name.”

What is wrong with people, y’all? I mean, come on!

What’s the worst pet name you’ve ever heard? Share it with us in the comments!

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People Who Got Surprised By Their DNA Results Share Their Stories

Most people who decide to spit in a little tube and send it in to be analyzed just think it would be fun to find out what countries our ancestors hailed from – if the stories our parents and grandparents have always told are correct.

Some people who are adopted or who suspect they haven’t been told the whole story about their conception or heritage, might do so with a few more hopes.

Then there are people like these 14, who went in expecting a bit of fun and ended up with whole new families instead.

14. Is…is someone going to tell her?

My cousin took a test and goes on and on about how she’s almost completely Irish. Our grandpa was German.

I’d heard from my mom as a kid that my aunt’s biological father was probably her friend’s father.

I’ve looked the family up on Facebook and my aunt looks just that friend.

My cousin seems to have no idea of any of this.

I don’t think my aunt does either.

13. That’s an understatement.

Same here. At the age of 60, I discovered who my real father was and that I have 9 half-siblings.

He was a bit of a dog!

My father and I chatted a lot until he passed away last year.

One of my sisters lives nearby and we’ve spent quality time together.

12. Gonna have to find a new brag.

My ex-husband’s family were proud of their Dutch heritage and claimed to be one of the founding families of the historically Dutch Holland, MI.

His ancestry results didn’t show any Dutch ancestry.

Instead, he had primarily English/Irish ancestry.

11. A happy ending.

Not me, but a friend never knew who his father was (mom had a weekend fling in college and never contacted the guy after) and his wife helped him use ancestry.com to try and track him down. My friend reached out and the guy was obviously surprised, but flew across the country to meet him.

They have a great relationship now, the dad attended his wedding, and they try to get their families together a couple times a year or so

10. Sacre le bleu!

One of my best friends has a very French last name and her family was always very proud of their French heritage.

Until her dad took a DNA test and found no French in their background

9. This sounds awful.

A friend discovered that her father was not really her father.

Her mom had an affair and she was the result. It tore her family apart.

Her “father” did not know he was not really her father.

Note: she was 45 years old when this happened.

8. No one wants to hear that.

That my father is a registered sex offender (parents are divorced).

7. A brother!

Not me, but a family friend.

He did the test and found out he had a half-brother. Turns out his dad had an affair a while back, and that kid was a product of that affair.

6. People never change.

My dad and Aunt found out they had an older brother!

Long story, my grandfather had a fling before he met my grandmother, never even knew he had a son, went and lived his life and some near 60 years later, BOOM!

Ancestry test, here you go!

So another really good story from this one.

5. Aww, I love this story.

A full 100% older brother. My mother got pregnant by my father before the were married. Scandalous in 1960. So, with my father’s knowledge of the situation, mom left town, and lived with my aunt until the birth.

Mom gave the baby up for adoption, and then returned home.

A couple years later, she married my dad and had three more children together, including me. Fifty five years later, after both my parents had died, my aunt let it slip that me and my siblings that were not the only children of our parents. To paraphrase from Star Wars, there is another.

My sister took a DNA test, and a couple of year later she got a hit. Soon thereafter, we met our new big brother and his family (wife, kids) and have become quite close.

4. This is all very mysterious.

So, I did the health DNA one 18 months ago because I wanted to see if I had the breast cancer gene, as there is several incidences on both sides of my family. Got my results and became very confused, it claimed I had no Italian despite my father’s grandma literally coming over from Sicily in 1920.

It took me a few minutes to realize what that actually meant. My parents have been together since my mother was 14, I was born when she was 17, and my father joined the military and married my mother. Called my mom and she literally said “that’s interesting.” Then she asked me not to talk to my father and she would explain everything the next time I visited. She did not, and just refused i talk about it.

Honestly, I was just shook. I did not see it coming and it was never even presented to be a possibility to me. My sister ended up doing a DNA test and it showed that we were half siblings. I went no contact with my mother 4 months ago, due to this incident and several others.

I haven’t told my dad but I realize at some point the truth is going to come out, my sister matched with some of my fathers relatives while I did not so if anyone checks that shit, they’re gonna be asking questions.

3. Surprise!

My dad has a cousin living in Utah. The family has always lived in Pennsylvania.

For the timing to work, his grandfather hooked up prior to coming to the US in 1918 or his grandmother had a kid and gave it up when she was like 14.

Either way, that kid would have been my Dad’s aunt/uncle which we never knew about.

2. More family to love!

Not me, My wife

A few years ago my wife and I both took the 23 and me test. One of her matches came back with 23% which is high for someone non-family. She messaged him and they started talking. He was about 10 years older, said he was adopted and the only thing he knew was some basic biological info. From his age that would have put her mom at 14 but her mom never said anything about it. So the two options were her mom got knocked up young or Grandma had a secret love child.

So she asked her youngest Uncle who said when he was a kid he remembered his sister going away for a few months because she was “sick” and the family just pretended it never happened. He also said that before his mom (my wives Grandmother) passed she told him all about it.

So my wife now has a Brother, a sister in law and nieces and nephews.

1. Well that’s insane.

My son is my 4th cousin.

(We adopted him as an infant from an agency.)

Fun to find that we are actually related!

These kinds of stories are so fascinating, don’t you think?

If you’ve got one to toss on the pile, please do so in the comments!

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People Who Grew Up Poor Discuss the Unwritten Rules They Had To Live By

If you grow up with no money, you are instilled with a different set of codes and rules than people who were more fortunate.

Some things that relatively comfortable folks took for granted seem totally foreign to them and there were certain things that they just had to deal with because of their situations.

People who grew up poor talked about the expectations and unwritten rules they had on AskReddit. Let’s take a look.

1. Hide it away.

“Hide money or it will be “borrowed.”

Also, don’t get attached to anything because if it’s any good it’ll be sold in a yard sale, and if it has any value it will be pawned.

I got the same CD player for three Christmases and birthdays in a row…out of pawn for birthday, pawned again a month later, out of pawn for Christmas, pawned again by March, etc.”

2. Hmmm…

“I am the second of 8 kids of high school dropout parents.

“It doesn’t matter of you don’t like the (food, clothes, shoes, toys etc) take it, say thank you and be appreciative.”

“You can do anything you want, as long as it’s free.”

“You will survive. If someone needs it more, let it go.”

“Never tell anyone you are hungry or need something, it makes you seem weak and needy.”

“The second you become working age, 10+. You will help with bills. You have no choice. Your money is everyone’s money.” Which is fine, until you realize the new tattoo mom has and dads new tv.”

3. On the down low.

“Keep your aspirations to yourself.

Telling anyone in your household/social strata about your plans to get out and do better may be met with bitterness and downright ridicule. People will call you uppity for wanting to go to school or stupid for having a career goal that isn’t modest and local and vaguely dead-end.

People will tell you that you have no common sense simply because you refuse to see the world in terms of pure survival.”

4. Be proud of yourself.

“Stand up straight and speak with confidence.

It was so easy for people to look down on the poor kids, so we made it just a bit harder for them.”

5. How sick are you?

“Going to the doctor isn’t an option until your fever is sustained at 104, a bone is broken, or the tooth rotted and won’t fall out on it’s own.

I am in my late 30’s with full insurance and still have a hangup about going for medical care.”

6. It’s all a secret.

“Never tell your friends that you couldn’t afford food or give them any clue about what it’s like at home.

My mother used to ask me if I told anyone how we live and that’s when I started questioning our situation.”

7. Hunger.

“Not eating lunch because it you either “just ate breakfast” or “dinners only a few hours away you’ll be fine”.”

8. Don’t waste anything.

“Nothing wasted!

Mum had a dish called mixed-up stew which was basically a little mince beef, mashed potatoes and any leftovers from the fridge.

Good menu planning – she never called it that but one meal led to the next with last’s night leftovers included. Failing that, she always had a soup on the go using bones from chicken, dried barley and, yet again, leftovers.

Thing is they were all delicious, but that could be me just remembering her fondly.”

9. That sucks.

“We weren’t allowed to do any kind of extra curricular activities.

So, no instruments, no joining any kind of sports or Girl Scouts or anything that required an upfront investment for uniforms or the season.”

10. Embarrassed.

“We were very poor growing up.

You never ate the last of anything without asking first. Portions were small and limited. When I was 11 I was invited over to a then friend’s house. I was floored by their house and furnishings. Very opulent compared to mine. Lunch time came. Her mom had set the table for sandwiches. Everything laid out, 3 different breads, all sorts of meats, condiments and fruit.

At my house lunch was a sandwich with white day old bread with peanut butter and jelly. Sometimes we would have those land o frost thin sliced meats. We were only allowed 2 slices of the meat per sandwich. So, at this friends house, I make my sandwich with one slice of ham because it was way thicker then the stuff at home. The mom kinda freaks out…”what kind of sandwich is that? You need to put more on it, thats not enough.”

I explain that’s what we do at home. They were horrified. Ended up sending me home with a “care package” of food. My parents never let me go to her house again because they were embarrassed I told them we were poor.”

11. A tough one.

“You never brought the field trip permission slips home because you knew better than to make your mom feel guilty.

She couldn’t pay the $5-20 fee to let you go.”

12. Sounds miserable.

“A/C was only for company.

I lived in South Florida and didn’t know I could use the air conditioner without having someone over until I moved out of my parents’ home.”

13. Advice from Dad.

“My father was constantly driving these two things into my head since I was old enough to remember: 1). Hard Work will set you free 2). You WILL NOT get anyone pregnant.

He never meant that hard work would make you rich. He meant that if you’re willing to work hard, you can always work some sh*t job that puts food on the table, and you’ll be so exhausted by days end, you can rest. In my father’s eyes food on the table and a good night’s rest was all a person really needed.

The pregnancy thing was totally about shame. He grew up in the deep south with a Baptist preacher father. My father was around 6-7 in the early 1950’s when his oldest brother (15) got a girl (18) in the church preggo. The resulting shame and shunning from the community that ensued drove my father’s mother to suicide.

I’m sure to some degree he blames his current life on the pregnancy that he had nothing to do with.”

Did you grow up poor?

If so, what were the unspoken rules that you understood and that were expected of you?

Please share your stories with us in the comments. Thanks!

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16 Things That Really Bring Out The Worst In People

We usually like to talk about the moments that bring out the best in people.

Those are the times when humans are lifting each other up, and we really shine.

There are two sides to every coin, of course, and there are just as many (if not more) instances that can quickly bring out the very worst that human beings have to offer – and 16 of those moments are listed below.

16. It can go to your head.

Power.

See it all the time in the military.

Just because someone is placed in a position of power doesn’t mean they’re going to be a good leader.

15. A horrible attitude.

People get real stupid when it comes to their kids. The “my baby can do no wrong” attitude when your child is f*cking sh%t needs to stop.

This is the worst, my family is friends with a group of families who’ve known each other for a while. We went to one of their birthdays and the youngest kid ran up and licked the birthday cake???

He was also overall being a little sh%t and everyone was laughing and all like “haha, that’s just his personality!” I got so pissed I wanted to leave.

14. Strike a balance.

Lack of control in ones life can lead to lashing out at partners/family/friends.

It can cause depression and a whole host of problems if you feel you have little to no control of the things in your life.

13. Even if it’s not worth it.

Scarcity.

Ugh. This 100%. It’s bad enough with concert ticket resellers but the scumbags will do it with anything. There’s a new Lego Bonsai Tree set my girlfriend wants and its her birthday soon.

It’s sold out. Everywhere. But there are 100s of them on eBay at inflated prices.

The top one has ’19 sold’ on it.

12. No consequences.

Anonymity. Putting a mask on, being on the internet, or otherwise concealing one’s identity. People do some very f*cked up things when they know they won’t be held accountable.

This reminds me of when Instagram introduced the Questions Sticker to the Stories part of the app in 2018. People thought they could ask questions anonymously, but the app shows you who asked the question.

I’d like to think that hundreds of friendships were broken that week when the feature was implemented.

11. We’re still tribal in our genes.

Not being accepted by other people. Social contact and validation is no different from food or water.

Yes, people can starve on validation too.

That’s why simple things like greeting strangers in the street, or always saying ‘thank you’ are so critically important.

10. Widen your circle.

Echo chambers.

It is easy to dehumanize people who are different than you when you never spend any time interacting with them.

9. Desperate times…

Desperation.

When I was a kid, prolly like grade 5-6, my mom thought it’d be a cool present to open a bank account for me with some money in it already. I was super excited to have my own card like a big kid.

My dad wasn’t in the best place at the time. My parents had divorced because he was going down a spiral of drug abuse, and my mom didn’t want me exposed to that. I saw him on weekends, but lived with my mom.

Fast forward to my birthday, and my mom put 100$ into my account, which was a HUGE amount for a kid. Went to make my first purchase, a game for my xbox360, card declined. Weird. Check my balance, -25$. Found out a week later my dad had stolen the money from my account to fuel his addiction.

He was usually the nicest, most caring, and funny guy out there. But when he got desperate, he’d do some really sh%tty things.

8. Right up there with power.

Money. The moment money is involved, a person’s true nature comes out, and most of the time it won’t be pretty.

This reminds me of all the people who lost their money due to lotteries because so many people thought they deserved some of it till the actual winner had nothing left.

7. You have to face it.

Unprocessed trauma from childhood. As someone that is struggling with mental health, I’m only now beginning to understand why I do a lot of what I do. When our needs for love and acceptance aren’t met, we seek out soothing behaviors that numb the pain.

It’s really easy to end up in midlife with no real idea what it means to be happy and feeling no connection to others. As you begin to work on your issues, you find that the soothing behaviors are no longer as soothing because you know why you’re doing it.

So, you’re stuck with the emptiness that you’ve always felt and no way to get out of the feeling.

6. All kinds.

Pain.

But at the same time it can bring out the strength you never thought you had, too.

This 100% it seems like pain can literally and figuratively make or break you. I have many people in my life with chronic pain. You’d be talking and they’d suddenly go quiet, or politely excuse themselves and later you find out they were in agony.

On the flip side, I’ve been waiting in the ER and heard people screaming and cursing at doctors for symptoms that the person I was with was feeling tenfold. Of course pain is subjective and all that, but definitely so is the response. I’m not as saying those that lash out in pain are nesseccarily bad either.I guess…

I just wonder what the threshold is? What would turn ME into a thrashing ball of pain and fury instead of the graceful martyr. Hope I never find out…

5. Especially this game.

League of Legends.

Something about that game makes people go ape-sh%t.

4. No love left.

Former Legal Assistant here.

I’m telling you, you don’t ever see the worst in someone until you’re in the middle of a nasty divorce fighting for custody of your children.

It’s horrendous how evil some people can be to someone they once loved.

3. We just want to chill, man.

Traffic, the after work rush home is the worst.

Everyone is tired, has generally had a bad day and will do anything just to get home and relax.

I-4 in Tampa is basically mad max fury road but with regular cars.

2. Backed into a corner.

Being challenged or “ganged up on.”

My mother will freak out whenever she feels like either of these happening to her and she starts screaming. At those points, it’s pretty much best to walk away and ignore her.

Though she likes to say I’m “running away” from her. I’m sorry, I didn’t realize that I needed to interact with your tantrum.

1. It’s hard to overcome.

Ego.

I definitely agree with these, and think that stress is really at the root of most of them.

What brings out the worst in you? Confessions in the comments!

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What’s Better? Wireless or Wired Headphones? People Shared Their Thoughts.

I haven’t taken the big leap to wireless headphones yet, so I feel like I should remain a neutral observer in this debate…

But other folks sure have thoughts about it!

What’s better, wired or wireless headphones?

Here’s what AskReddit users had to say.

1. Overrated.

“AirPods are overrated.

You have to charge them. You have to keep track of many components (both pods, case, charger). You can easily lose them or drop them into an endless abyss that is the subway grate in the sidewalk.

Not wired headphones! You never have to worry about if they’re charged; they’ll never die mid-run! When you drop them, they’re not likely to fall somewhere to their death, and they’re harder to lose!!

Maybe this is the poor grad student coming out on me- but wired headphones have my vote any day!!”

2. That’s a big one!

“Main advantage of wired is that people see them and don’t try to talk to you.

Well, most people don’t…”

3. One person’s opinion.

“As per me, AirPods are earphones and not to be considered headphones.

Now when it comes to technical headphones which go over your head and cover your ears fully, wired will always give you better quality. But for easy of use and flexibility wireless are the boss.

I have a sony xm3, never felt the need to go for the wire. Yes, I’m not a true audiophile though.

Coming back to AirPods, they suck and ae just for making a statement. Any pair of quality headphones would beat the shi*t out of AirPods or any other wireless earphones.”

4. That can be painful.

“Main advantage of wireless vs wired imo:

No snagging on random knobs, corners, even my own hand sometimes.”

5. Some advantages.

Aa good set of wireless over-ears like a pair of Marshall’s can last a long time on a charge.

Bigger batteries, no case to keep track of.

Can be great for use with these headphone jack-less phones.”

6. Not a fan…

“Never liked any type of earbuds as I find them extremely uncomfortable to wear.

For my gaming I prefer wireless as it lets me stay on voice chat if I have to run to the fridge or let the dogs out.

Like someone else said here though, they have bigger batteries so unless you forgot to charge them you shouldn’t have a problem with them dying unless you are on a 24 hour plus marathon.”

7. I’ll take the wired ones.

“I paint murals.

Day one of AirPods they fell out of my ears into a paint bucket. Corded ones have been going strong for years.

It’s definitely situational.”

8. For the music lovers.

“It’s a fact that wired headphones produce superior acoustic quality.

You don’t see music producers rocking AirPods in the studio.”

9. Wireless all the way.

“I use my wireless earbuds with everything I do: Brushing my teeth, cleaning my room, working out etc.

Which is all a lot easier to do with wireless. I’ve been running with wired ones before and they just fall out.

Also, Audio is always much clearer. And battery life should last a while + charging is super quick.

I agree that AirPods are overrated though. My earbuds are made so that they don’t fall out your ears when exercising. I think you just need to buy the right ones.”

10. Good point.

“You gotta also consider that Bungee effect, when your cellphone falls and wired headphones save the phone from total destruction.”

11. No more wires.

“After buying wireless headphones both gaming and AirPods for phone usage I will never ever go back.

Wires are so annoying and you can charge both at night or whenever you’re not using them.

There isn’t a single disadvantage that would counter just the fact that you have no bloody wires.”

12. I’ll take both, please.

“I like to keep both. While I do prefer the wireless as they’re very convenient, I sometimes do forget to charge them.

So having the wired ones as a reliable back up is nice, though they can get in the way of things and you’re overall more restricted in movement, especially during jacket season.”

13. One last thought.

“I held off on wireless headphones for quite some time.

But the reality is AirPods are super convenient (easy to switch between devices, you can get up and walk around without carrying your device, no cord getting tangled up).

In terms of sound quality, voice quality and avoiding the hassle of having another device to charge… yes wireless are definitely better.”

Now it’s your turn.

Tell us what you think in the comments: wireless or wired headphones…

Let the debate begin!

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