What’s an Underrated Ingredient to Go With Mac and Cheese? Here’s What People Said.

There are no two ways about it, mac and cheese is a delicious staple of the American diet and has been for a long time.

But when things got a little bland or overdone, what do you add to it to spice things up a little bit?

I don’t really get too adventurous except for occasionally putting a little bit of Crystal hot sauce in there to make things a little bit more interesting.

What do you think is an underrated third ingredient to go along with that delicious macaroni and cheese?

Here’s what AskReddit users had to say.

1. Do it!

“SMOKED PAPRIKA.

Once you discover smoked paprika finding new things you can add it to is the best.”

2. Spicy!

“Hatch chiles.

Green chile is actually underrated, unlike the other things here that are just rated.”

3. Yummy.

“Brisket.

Come to Kansas City.

All the barbecue places have Mac and cheese here.”

4. Boom!

“Hot Sauce.

Franks Red Hot and a little garlic powder is my perfect bowl of box mac.”

5. I like it!

“Old Bay seasoning. Do it.

Good morning, Baltimore!”

6. Do what you gotta do.

“Lobster Mac and cheese is fucking incredible.

But for us poors, black pepper is really nice.”

7. Okay, okay…

“I try a lot of weird mac & cheese combos (we call it Kraft dinner up here in Canada).

Here are my top 5:

  1. Butter chicken

  2. on french fries with cheese curds (a poutine of sorts)

  3. Chorizo

  4. Flaked tuna

  5. Wieners.”

8. I’ll try that.

“Broccoli.

Pretty much any dairy based pasta sauce can be improved with an addition of broccoli, especially jarred Alfredo sauce.”

9. Whoa!

“You mean besides the macaroni and the cheese?

Dry mustard powder.”

10. It’s healthy, right?

“Pesto

My favorite part is how it turns the macaroni green and I can convince myself it is now a vegetable and I am very healthy.”

11. Worth it.

“I sometimes put a can of Tuna in.

You get a bit of protein so it’s a little bit healthier, and it’s not too expensive.”

12. Very strange…

“Sliced apples on the side.

Now I know this is weird but hear me out. Apple sauce mixed into Kraft mac’n’cheese. I don’t think it works as well with other brands or homemade or anything. I’ve stopped doing it in favor of hot sauce but when I was little with applesauce was the only way I would eat it lol.

Try it and let me know how it is. My sister was the only person to actually give it a shot and she liked it, I haven’t heard of anyone else doing it tho.”

13. Now I’m hungry.

“Depends on what you want.

Need some crunch? Croutons, crackers, etc work wonders. Especially if they’re flavored/seasoned.

For meat. Bacon goes excellent. Or even some left over chicken if you have any.”

14. Umami bomb.

“Mushrooms – umami bomb incoming.

You can also try different types of mushrooms for varying textures, and prepare them differently for unique flavor combinations.

I love finishing off mushrooms in soy sauce.”

15. The lowdown.

“Tapatío for when you want the burn.

Sriracha for when you want to thin out the sauce a little.

Frank’s/Sweet Baby Ray’s for when you want the sauce creamy.”

Okay, now we want to hear from you!

What do you like to add to your mac and cheese?

Fill us in in the comments!

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She Got a Woman Banned From the Gym for Gross Comments. Was She Wrong?

Some people just don’t know where to draw the line…or when to stop talking.

And this story is a real doozy…

A woman took to Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page to ask if she was wrong for getting someone banned from her gym for making incredibly inappropriate comments.

Take a look at what happened.

AITA for reporting another woman for s*xual comments she made and getting her banned from our gym?

“I have been back to the gym now that we are zero cases in my area. I have been a member of this gym for over 3 years and I regularly work out with two other women. One of the women recently brought along her friend who is new to the area.

The four of us worked out together and everything seemed fine. The problem started when we got into the change room. The woman’s change rooms are open with one section of lockers and benches and one section for showers. The toilets are a completely different room not accessible by the change room.

This layout leaves very little privacy. The showers are all just against a wall with no curtain. This leads to seeing a lot of nude or half-dressed woman.

We all went into the change room together and the new woman immediately made some uncomfortable comments. The first thing she said was “I feel like I’ve died and gone to heaven” referencing the undressed state of woman in the room.

I always shower after a workout but the other two women live close to the gym and usually don’t. I went to shower when the others stayed in the change area. Because it’s such a small and open space, even in the showers you can hear the talking the change room.

As I showered I hear that the new woman was making comments about my body. I heard her say “She has my favourite body, flat ti*s and a fat *ss”. “Try calling her name, I want her to turn around so I can see her p*ssy” (I was facing towards the shower head).

The other two woman were laughing and encouraging her comments. I have left out the more innocuous ones due to character limit on the post.

I stayed in the shower until they left. On my way out I stopped by the front desk and asked if I could make a complaint. They took me to the back office and I told the manager, whom I know well, what had happened. She was understanding and told me that the woman would have her (brand new) membership revoked as her comments broke several of the gym rules.

I got a text from one of the woman the next day telling me that her friend had gotten her membership cancelled and was wondering if I knew anything. I was honest and told her that I heard what she had said while I was in the shower and had reported her.

I was called immediately and she seemed both angry and confused. She told me that the girl had just been joking around. That the comments were just to them and I wasn’t meant to hear them. She also called me a stuck up homophobic b*tch.

The other woman also sent me a long message about how disappointed she was in me and she didn’t think that I was “one of those”. She said in her message that I should have come to them before reporting to the gym and the fact I didn’t said a lot about my character.

The messages really have made me feel terrible. I feel like I’ve done something wrong.

Was I the *sshole here?”

This is really gross, if I do say so myself…

And here’s what Reddit users had to say about it.

This person said that this was harassment, plain and simple.

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Another Reddit user said that the woman did nothing wrong and that this shouldn’t be tolerated just because it’s between women.

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This individual argued that the woman was not wrong getting this person banned and she also isn’t homophobic.

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Another person didn’t think they were the a-hole.

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Finally, this reader argued that sexual harassment doesn’t have anything to do with gender and that the woman was WRONG.

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Now we want to hear from you.

What do you think about this situation?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know!

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These People Heard Truly Appalling Things From Their Therapists

It takes courage to admit to yourself (and your insurance company) that you would benefit from talking to a therapist, and it takes even more courage than that to walk into someone’s office and let them into your life, your mind, and your past.

Which is why is must feel like an incredible violation to have a professional say something indelicate and truly awful during your treatment – and no one should have to hear what these 12 folks heard in what was supposed to be a safe space.

12. Either way, you’re supposed to help.

“‘I think you’re happy being depressed.’

No, just dealing with the comfort in my sadness that comes from chronic, 20-year-old depression.”

—AwesomeAmanda523

11. That’s very rarely the answer.

“I was struggling with intimacy with my partner during a deep-depressive episode that lasted a couple of years. During this episode, I was coming to terms with a previous sexual assault.

The therapist I started seeing told me to ‘just do it’ with my partner, despite my sex-related trauma, and I stopped seeing her right then and there. I started seeing a new therapist who actually helped me, and now my partner and I have never been closer.”

—serenitybmahoney

10. Jealous, much?

“I have childhood PTSD and experience horrible anxiety attacks as an adult. I was wearing a nice sweater in the session, and we were discussing anxiety-attack coping mechanisms.

She very snidely said, ‘You should go shopping when you feel anxious. You clearly like designer things.’ I was floored.”

—Anonymous

9. I don’t think he should be working with children.

“My mom had me go to therapy when I was 12 after my dad passed and I was in the room when it happened. I was a really shy kid and didn’t want to go, let alone open up to a stranger about an ordeal I didn’t even fully understand yet.

After I was not giving him a whole lot in the way of answers, he asked me, ‘Do you even miss your dad?’ Maybe examine your way of talking to a grieving child before blaming said child, asshole.”

—bcgt5922

8. Who would say that to a child?

“I was 10, and TWO different therapists said, ‘You’re the reason for your parents’ divorce.’ They failed to acknowledge my father’s abuse, saying I was the problem…nope.

I told my school about the abuse, and with a push from the Department of Homeland Security, my mom finally left after we were locked out of the house and left homeless. I may have gotten the ball rolling, but I am not the reason they divorced.”

—indyanna

7. Yeah that’s not how this works.

“Multiple therapists told me I was only questioning my gender identity because I ‘didn’t have enough strong female role models.’

I won awards for my contributions to women’s leadership and public service in college. In fact, seeing strong female professors in med school is part of what inspired me to come out as a trans man when I realized I couldn’t see myself as them.”

—Anonymous

6. Why would they want to do that?

“‘Have you tried seeing it from your abuser’s point of view?’ She literally used the word ‘abuser’ because the situation was that clear-cut.

Yes, actually, I’ve spent a long time trying to understand my abuser’s point of view, and had come here to think about my own feelings for a change rather than theirs.

Did not go back to that therapist.”

—GlamorousAnarchist

5. Since when is self-awareness a bad thing?

“I was 15 and I had a problem trusting men (I had extremely negative experiences with different men growing up, including my bio dad, my stepdad, a neighboring teenager, and my best friend’s stepdad). I had just moved, so I was meeting with a new therapist for the first time, and he told me that I was too self-aware of my problems and he wouldn’t be able to help me.

I guess it didn’t matter to him that I had spent the last two years working with my previous therapist to come to the realizations that had led me to be so self-aware of where I was struggling.”

—paulau4fbdfb725

4. At least she’s permanently out of the office.

“A therapist said to me, ‘I don’t think you’re doing badly enough to test you for anxiety.’ I was miserable, constantly stressed, and having complete breakdowns at least twice a week, and she completely invalidated that after talking to me for five minutes.

After I went straight to a doctor to get diagnosed, the therapist pretty much just said, ‘Oops.’ She got fired from the college shortly after because a lot of students had various issues with her.” —Anonymous

3. Not relevant.

“They said, ‘I think you would feel better if you got some of that weight off of you.’

Ummm, I’m here because my cousin raped me when I was a child, but thanks for letting me know that losing weight will solve all of my problems.”

—Anonymous

2. It’s not her job to make him a better father.

And this: “I was in therapy dealing with the fact that my father didn’t really know how to be one and was never there, which caused me to try to be perfect (which, SPOILER ALERT, isn’t healthy).

My therapist told me I needed to try harder and that if I found something my father actually cared about, he’d be a better dad. I explained that I had already emulated as much as I could from his high school years (soccer, choir, etc.), but she insisted I hadn’t done enough.”

—manningl428

1. Well they weren’t before then…

“An awful psychiatrist I was seeing discharged me and said, ‘Well, you’re not sitting in a corner rocking and crying, so you’ll be OK!’

Who says something like that, let alone a psychiatrist? I left crying!”

—lovecats1

I don’t know what I would say, but it wouldn’t be anything nice.

If anything like this has happened to you, share the story with us down in the comments.

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People Share the Creepiest Rabbit Hole They’ve Fallen Down Online

Like the infamous Alice, whose curiosity about the white rabbit led her on a series of misadventures – and into more than a few regrets – many of us who know better just can’t stop ourselves when the desire to know more strikes.

Even though we know for sure that the internet is a dark and wild place, full of people we never even imagined existed.

We fall down what are known as “rabbit holes,” where we can spend hours or days or weeks or longer obsessively researching and reading everything about a topic – no matter how taboo or appalling – before finally coming up for air.

Here ar 16 rabbit holes that people didn’t mean to fall down, and the jury is still out on whether or not they’re sorry.

16. Just say no.

A straightforward guy wrote down his experiences with heroin. Basically he wanted to try it for fun and he was sure that he had enough willpower to stop after that.

Well he was wrong. Probably someone can remember the name of the guy or the Reddit post, it’s fairly well known I believe.

15. Too close to home.

I bought my brother a taser from Amazon for his birthday one time.

Looking at some of the questions there was one asking if it hurt, the answer went something like “It does not I’ve tased myself in the neck 30 times.”

Very very interested in this I go to his amazon profile where you can see what else he has reviewed and he reviewed a katana and stuff like that of similar nature.

Still interested so I type his name into Facebook and find a profile with a picture of him holding his katana. The first thing I notice is that HE’S FROM MY CITY.

Second thing is there are soo many people posting to his Facebook saying he’s the devil and they can’t believe what he’d done and that they hope he rots and stuff like that!

EXTREMELY interested at this point I google his name and find news articles that he stabbed a guy in the chest in his apartment with a KATANA. Then fled and was later caught by police.

Turns out he was very delusional and really needed help. He’s now in jail, and according to the article looks like he getting the help he needs.

It was a very wild ride from just looking at the stupid questions people ask about products on Amazon.

14. Who would think this could possibly help?

Researching attachment therapy, as used on kids diagnosed with attachment disorders (aka holding time, compression therapy, coercive restraint therapy, rebirthing). I don’t feel like typing out the details but a quote from wiki and link is below. It’s messed up and has resulted in several child deaths and lots of long lasting trauma.

I have no idea why I kept reading and watching videos, etc., but I spent an entire night researching it. It was horrifying. Maybe I felt like I owed it to the victims to read their stories. I don’t remember.

“A central feature of many of these therapies is the use of psychological, physical, or aggressive means to provoke the child to catharsis, ventilation of rage, or other sorts of acute emotional discharge. To do this, a variety of coercive techniques are used, including scheduled holding, binding, rib cage stimulation (e.g., tickling, pinching, knuckling), and/or licking. Children may be held down, may have several adults lie on top of them, or their faces may be held so they can be forced to engage in prolonged eye contact. Sessions may last from 3 to 5 hours, with some sessions reportedly lasting longer.”

13. In need of a hook.

Blogs by people who are obsessed with losing limbs and/or having them replaced with hooks etc.

Some went through with “accidents” where they mashed their hands beyond repair in order to achieve their goal.

12. This makes me panic.

Cave diving accidents. They’re always tragic and sad and insanely common in the community due to the dangers of cave diving. But they have been to some of the most untouched areas of Earth and I kind of get the need to keep exploring even if it’s dangerous.

I read about a pair of blokes who realized their line had snapped and they were trapped in an air pocket with only enough oxygen for one of them to try and escape for help. Dude had to wait in the pitch black for hours not knowing if his friend had reached help or died along the way.

Scares the crap out of me, I can barely bring myself to swim under small stuff in safe swimming pools. I’ve never tried diving and I really don’t think I could conquer that fear.

11. Don’t Google alone.

Elan School. It’s pretty famous but for those who never heard of it : American school that lasted for 40 years that was as close to a concentration camp for children as you could get.

10. It seems impossible.

I have fallen down 2, both lasted about a week.

First was John/Jane Does who have never been claimed or identified.

Second was people who have disappeared without a trace. I feel this one tugged more on my emotional strings, especially stories involving kids. One that has stuck with me is a little boy who disappeared on a Scout hike, Jared Negrete. That is one of my greatest fears when I take kids hiking.

9. Too sad for me.

There’s a doc called The Bridge, which captured 23 of the 24 suicides from the Golden Gate Bridge in SF in 2004. Apparently the bridge is wildly popular suicide site. By 2004, there had been more than 1200 suicides, with a 98% death rate. Anyway, it’s really dark and sent me on a little research expedition of the suicides.

Apparently, the 2% that survive say they instantly regretted jumping midair. And that starts to make you think about suicides and how much pain people are in to take that step, and YET there is a shock of clarity once they’ve done the irreversible.

Just reading about that desperation and sadness triggered so much in me, I really can’t go down those rabbit holes anymore.

8. An escape into fantasy.

A sci fi timeline pdf I found awhile back, I think it was on the world building sub. It was a timeline of humanity that started it off relatively normal detailing human evolution as they colonized mars and the stars beyond.

It descended into body horror when they came in to contact with a advanced race that for some reason I forget gene modded the majority of humans into non sentient species and seeded them across the galaxy. It then went into great detail with each of these species separately and their climb back to sentience.

It ended with one of the new humans that evolved back to sentience standing beside a original human skull. I haven’t been able to find it since but shit got dark.

7. I would like to never know more.

Reading about John Jones, the spelunker who got stuck upside-down in a narrow crevice at Nutty Putty Cave in 2009, scared the h*ll out of me.

Rescuers got to his feet, talked to him for hours, but just couldn’t get him out. Ultimately the cave was sealed with his body inside.

6. I, too, have fallen into this hole.

Deaths on Mt. Everest and how a lot of the bodies are still up there. This was a wiki rabbit hole I fell into after listening to the Casefile episode on David Sharp. Read not only about him but also green boots, this couple that got separated, etc. Due to the extremely cold temperatures, the bodies aren’t that decomposed so they still look recent even though it’s been years or decades.

t’s creepy and sad. Some bodies have been there so long they are used as markers for climbers. What is also sad is that there have been efforts to remove them, but doing so is extremely dangerous because of the altitude, temperatures, and uneven ground.

People have died attempting it in the past. Not sure if they’ve managed to succeed since I last read about it in 2018.

5. Gobsmacked.

My brother killed himself with a friend last Halloween while hiking Mt. Rainier. Their bodies were discovered by some hikers who proceeded to upload pics of their bodies to a gay death fetish site. I guess some info got out, but now every week I get people contacting me about his body, asking me if I have more pics or blaming my family for his death through whatever social media they can find (mostly his memorial page), it can be extremely mean.

It doesn’t bother most of my family much (we know how to deal with trolls and perverts), but it destroys my mom.

Never forget the purpose of the communities you visit. To you that celebrity site is just a passing curiosity, but this is a site with an active community that seeks out corpses to wank to, they are highly f*cked up at best, and are likely extremely dangerous considering some of these threats I’ve gotten.

4. It’s apparently a thing.

There’s this guy on Facebook that married his s** doll and has photos together of them everywhere at first I thought it was a troll account but the more I looked the creepier it got.

The dates on the photos dated back years and he showed off his dolls wardrobe and all the Possessions he had of hers and then… there were multiple “friend” accounts of different s^x dolls on his page that’s completely public but genuinely the weirdest part to me was that he lived on a farm in the middle of nowhere like imagine if someone accidentally ended up there…

I spent an hour last night looking for it and surprisingly it’s apparently more common than I thought wtf is wrong with people anyways I’ll look some more today because it was a viral share

3. It’s just a job.

Saudi Arabia’s leading executioner: Muhammad Saad al-Beshi. He mostly decapitates people with a sword. I watched/read interviews with him. I wanted to know if that sh%t haunts him. No, it doesn’t.

He’s already teaching his son to follow in his footsteps. His children also help him clean the blood off his sword. Then I started looking into what was considered Capital Offenses and other punishments used. Stoning is one. Certain crimes will get the beheaded body crucified.

2. Don’t Google it. You’re welcome.

The murder of Junko Furuta.

They weren’t even charged with murder, just “bodily injury leading to death”. They’ve all since been released.

The “ringleader” Hiroshi Miyano got 20 years. Since being released, he’s went back into gang activity and been arrested for fraud, but has managed to avoid any convictions.

Jō Ogura got 8 years. Since being released, he’s boasted about his involvement in raping and murdering Furuta, and he wound up serving another 7 years for kidnapping and torturing a guy he thought his girlfriend was cheating on him with. During that kidnapping (which lasted 4 days), he threatened to kill the guy and told him that he had gotten away with murder before. He’s currently free again.

Nobuharu Minato got 9 years. Since being released, he went back into gang activity and is currently on trial for attempting another murder.

Yasushi Watanabe got 7 years, and is the only one to have not reoffended since his release.

None of the family members who helped them house and hide Furuta were charged in any way, and several of them have actually tried to blame it all on Furuta.

1. What kind of curiosity is that??

Looking up pictures of people who hit the ground after falling from great heights. I looked it up mostly out of morbid curiosity.

Definitely would not recommend for anyone with a weak stomach.

As a true crime buff, I’ve fallen down too many of these that made it hard to sleep at night.

How would you answer this question? Tell us in the comments!

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A Man Asked if He Was Wrong for Telling Stepdaughter to Stop Using Period Products Because of Teenage Sons? People Responded.

This sounds like it could have possibly been an episode of The Brady Bunch…but maybe a little bit later, like in the ’90s.

Combining families always leads to some tricky situations and here’s another example.

A man asked people on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page if he was wrong for having a conversation with his stepdaughter about a touchy subject.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for telling my stepdaughter to stop using period products in the bathroom she shares with my teenage sons?

“I have been living with my new wife and stepdaughter for about 6 months now. She’s 19, almost 20, and I have three sons aged 18, 16 and 15. She’s a really good kid and she’s a good influence on my sons, I really enjoy having her around.

My wife and her daughter moved into my house and sold theirs. My stepdaughters father isn’t present in her life, nor is my sons’ mother. All four children share a bathroom.

My sons have never lived for a long period of time with a woman, nor have any of them had long term girlfriends. They had short visitation periods when they were younger but never longer than an hour, so living with two women has been unusual for them.

My eldest son, 18, came to me last week and told me that his stepsister disposes of her used sanitary products in the trash can they share, but doesn’t use toilet roll or sandwich bags to disguise what they are, and it makes him uncomfortable which I think is reasonable. My sons are teenage boys and don’t want to see their stepsisters period products on full display.

A few nights ago I went into the kitchen to grab a snack and she was there doing some work for university. My wife had mentioned that she knew she was on her period so I took it as an opportunity to have a word with her. I told her my sons were uncomfortable and asked her if she’d mind putting her used products in diaper bags or flushing them down the toilet.

She laughed and told me it was rich coming from a man who “sheds like a gorilla” and has produced “three skid marking sons” which I thought was just an unnecessary attack. I’ve been nothing but nice to the girl and it’s hardly a comparison. My sons shouldn’t be subjected to her unhygienic products if it makes them uncomfortable.

She went on to lecture me about how tampons can’t be flushed and that it’s bad for the environment if she uses diaper bags for every one which I think is just an excuse. I called her a scruff and told her that this was my house and that what I say goes.

I later asked my wife if she could have a word with her and she told me I was being ridiculous and that her daughter has had her period for ten years and knows what she’s doing. When I told her it was making my sons uncomfortable she said my sons needed to get a grip and turned over and went to sleep.

This is a genuine issue to me and she didn’t care enough to have a discussion about it. I asked my stepdaughter again in the morning and she did the same as her mother, completely dismissed it. Both of them have told me to stop being so silly but I don’t see how I’m being unreasonable when it makes my sons uncomfortable.

AITA?”

You know that the good folks of Reddit were going to have something to say about this!

This person said that the stepfather was an *sshole, no doubt about it.

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Another reader said that it’s up to the man to have a talk with his sons about menstruation. Plain and simple.

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This individual said that this guy needs to get over it and do the right thing. Don’t be a jerk about it!

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Another Reddit user remarked that the man’s behavior is definitely s*xist and that he should really be ashamed of himself.

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And finally, this reader said that this guy is definitely an *sshole and that it’s just a part of life. Get with the times, man!

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Okay, now it’s your moment to shine.

In the comments, tell us what you think about this father’s actions.

We can’t wait to get your take on the situation. Thanks a lot!

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Woman Asks if She’s Wrong for Calling Out Her Friend for Getting an STD

Some things are just off-limits during conversations…even if that dialogue has turned into an argument.

And a woman shared a story on the “Am I the *sshole?” page on Reddit asking whether she was wrong or not for calling out her friend about her s*xual behavior.

Let’s see what happened…

AITA for telling my friend she got an STD from sleeping around?

“I was hanging out with a friend of mine and a group of her friends. We were all talking and having drinks, and the topic of dating comes up in conversation.

For some background information; I’ve only had one boyfriend (I’m 24) we dated for 4 years, and broke up about a year ago. I’m mostly a loner. I’m fine with being single right now and have no interest in dating at the moment. My friend knows this.

She starts lightly teasing me in front of her friends, pretty much calling me a spinster. She “dates” a lot. Every week she tells me about two or so guys that she’s slept with. This kind of started a pile on, where everyone was teasing me, and giving me unsolicited advice. I tried to placate it, but she kept bringing the conversation back to me and my (lack of) a sex life.

Eventually I got really heated, and just said “so is your crotch still burning or is that cleared up? What did they say about that? Was it guy 104 or 105 that gave it to you?”

Like three weeks ago she called me crying to take her to the clinic because she had painful itchy blisters on her groin, turned out to be herpes. I did it without judging her at the time.

She quickly stood up and left the table. I tried to follow her to apologize and she went off about me outing her to her friends. She was telling me how I was the only person she trusted, and she couldn’t believe I would act that way. I tried to remind her how she and her friends were dog piling me, and she said it was just jokes, I didn’t have to react that way.

We are obviously not speaking right now. Was what I did justifiable self defense? I know I probably wouldn’t have done it without liquid courage.”

Here’s how folks reacted on Reddit.

This person said that everyone involved in this story sucks. Plain and simple.

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Another reader said that everyone is at fault here, but the woman who wrote the post is the bigger *sshole.

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Another reader argued that the woman went way too far with her comments about her friend.

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And this Reddit user made a good point: medical issues should never be used against someone.

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Finally, this person said that the woman made the wrong choice by making the woman’s issues public and that she is clearly immature and untrustworthy.

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What do you think?

Was this person wrong or justified in their actions?

Talk to us in the comments and share your thoughts!

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Should a Person Propose in Public or Private? These 14 People Say It Probably Depends.

You would probably think that marriage proposals would be as unique as the people making and receiving them, but in the past couple of decades it seems to have become some kind of grand gesture, one-up your friends competition to see who can do it up the biggest – and often the most public.

This person thinks they should go back to being private moments between the only two people in the equation who actually matter, if for no other reason than some people are uncomfortable with a big moment like that taking place in front of others.

Private proposals is way better than public proposal from unpopularopinion

And you know, if you’re the one doing the proposing…what if they say no?

These 14 people are weighing in, so let’s find out if this is actually an unpopular opinion at all.

14. That’s something to consider.

I definitely agree with you, but in the case of OP’s argument (I don’t think they’ve come to this conclusion but it’s something I thought of when reading their title), you could make the case that a large number of people see the relatively few public proposals, and think “oh that’s so sweet I wish something like that happened to me,” which falls into the “I only actually want that in a very specific scenario with a very specific person under specific circumstances” that a lot of other “romantic gestures” fall into.

13. Take it from someone who has been there.

I said I wanted to marry my ex fiancé. He proposed in a semi public location and I was embarrassed and had the gut reaction to say no, but said yes. We ended up breaking up a few months later, but he thought he was doing it right. The whole situation was awkward , I hate attention on me and he did it at a busy mini golf course (we used to go mini golfing on every trip we took). I didn’t want random people seeing or congratulating us, so I said yes really quickly and tried to get it over with as quickly as possible.

Next time I get proposed to, I know I’ll be saying yes but I really hope there aren’t a bunch of random strangers around.

12. I’m going to need to see the data on this.

But if you compare the number of public proposals to private proposals, you will find that this actually is a popular opinion.

11. When you’re all mature and stuff.

15+ years ago I was having a beer in the living room with my now wife:

Me: So when are we getting married?

Her: I don’t know…

Me: We should do it this summer, at [beach I grew up on].

Her: What do you mean? We can’t, just, get married….

Me: Sure we can! C’mon, it’ll just be you and me and we’ll get married and it’ll be awesome.

Her: Oh my God! We’re going to get married!!!!

10. There are many more options.

I’d assume private is the more suitable because you can do a lot of stuff in private. Like set up your whole house or take them somewhere beautiful like a mountain range.

9. Most people do talk about it ahead of time.

Another opinion tagged on to yours. Proposals shouldn’t be a “surprise” if you’re surprised that your SO proposed I ask you…what did you think was going to happen? How has this never come up? I understand if the way they proposed is a romantic surprise but if you’re with a person long enough the future, marriage, family, all that shouldve come up

8. It’s all about the likes.

Yah. And they’re plastered in social media. Even the ones I’ve seen on social media are usually pretty intimate settings with close friends. I think only the most vain people prefer super public proposals.

7. You’ve gotta know your partner.

Its all about expectation. Taking your wife to see a zombie movie really only works if your wife likes zombie movies or wants to be scared. If she doesnt like zombies and being scared, then all you have done is just scared her and she will be upset with you. In the same way a proposal is about expectations.

Often enough, a good proposal is never a suprise. The couple has gotten intimate enough that they talk about kids, marriage and long terms plans. They know that they want to get married, the proposal is just a way for the partner to cement it. In this way a proposal only works when the wife expects it, just like taking her to see a zombie movie.

6. As long as you’re on the same page…

And if they say no then it would just be embarrassing and awkward to you.
I think the trick here is to make sure the person you’re proposing wants to marry you and you’re not just asking them in the hopes you’ll surprise them into wanting to do it.

5. Is anyone ever REALLY surprised?

Agreed my girlfriend and I have been chatting about for a few months, now basically we have an idea where we want to get married and have an engagement ring just need to get it professionally cleaned and sized. I find it mind blowing how people don’t know about their SO’s proposal thoughts.

4. A good rule to live by.

Yeah, the actual proposal can be a surprise, but the answer shouldn’t be.

3. He just couldn’t wait. I love it.

Not sure that this is unpopular. But that being said- my fiancé (he proposed LAST NIGHT- still in shock), had a plan for a small proposal with my family.

But he ended up coming to my office after my work day and said he couldn’t wait anymore. It was so perfectly intimate and I wouldn’t have changed a thing.

2. This feels very gross.

A lot of the times this is done by manipulative people who feel like the publicity will make sure the partner says yes.

1. Those shouldn’t be done with an audience, either.

Oh…marriage proposal. For the first line or so, I thought you meant proposals to investors or to the planning commission or something.

I have to agree with OP, personally, but if you’re sure your partner loves to do it up big, then go for making a splash.

No skin off my nose.

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People Respond to the Question, “How Long Do You Wait for a Red Light to Change?”

I think the answer to this question has a lot to do with individual personalities and our aversion to risk. For some of us, breaking rules makes us break out in hives but for others, it’s a thrill.

So, when you’re sitting at an intersection and the red light doesn’t change, and doesn’t change, and…doesn’t…change, how long do you wait before you technically break a law?

These 12 people are confessing, and as I predicted, their answers are all over the board.

12. Make sure you tripped the light…

This is not an answer to your question but it reminded me of something that more drivers need to be aware of. I wish driver’s manuals touched on the importance of pulling all the way up to the stop line. Most people don’t know that there are sensors in the pavement just before the stop line that trigger the lights to change.

These sensors work the same way as the ones at drive throughs. They sense the weight of your car. When a car pulls up to the speaker, the employee gets a beep in their headset so they always know when to take your order. I used to work at a drive thru and some really light vehicles would not trigger the beep. It was usually a small motorcycle (the bigger ones were not a problem). After a while, they’d pull ahead to the window rather annoyed that no one was taking there order.

I’d have to apologize and explain that their vehicle was to light to set off the sensor. Lol. At an intersection, if there are no cars on the stop line across the road and no pedestrians pushing the walk button, the traffic lights will not change. You will sit there forever and probably run the light eventually. You’ll notice this at night when there is little traffic.

During the day, you’ll rarely notice because there is constantly another car or a pedestrian triggering the lights to change. I’ve been stuck behind someone who stopped short of the stop line a few times. It can get a little frustrating. Spread the word ?

11. Only a first time driver.

This happened to me decades ago. I was seventeen. I’d had my full license for a year, and had driven on a learners permit with an adult in the car for almost a year before.

I had an after school job about 10 miles from home (we lived in the suburbs of DC.) There was no direct bus service from home or my school, to work, so I drove myself.

For months, there was no traffic light at a particular intersection where I had to make a left turn from a heavily traveled secondary road onto a four lane divided highway. The intersection was just below the crest of a hill to the left, making it difficult to see oncoming traffic. At night, it was easier, because you could see the sweep of someone’s headlights coming, once they rounded a curve on the other side of the hill and before you could see their car.

The county decided to put in a traffic light at that intersection. For almost three weeks, the light was not turned on. Then, it was turned on, but set to flashing red on the smaller road, and flashing yellow on the highway. This meant it was still treated as a stop sign for the smaller road.

A friend lived near my job and would often came home from work with me on Friday afternoon. I would drive her back to her house, usually after dinner. On a particular Friday in October, the light was still on flash when we left for my house, but when I took her home that evening the light had apparently been turned on. It was solid red for the feeder road, and green for the highway when we arrived at the intersection.

Luckily no one came up behind us. We waited 10 minutes (we timed it) before I made the decision to treat the light as a stop sign.

After waiting for a clear space on the right, and making sure there were no cars or lights visible from the left, I made my left turn onto the highway and proceeded east.

Immediately after doing so, a car zoomed passed in the west-bound lanes at a very high rate of speed. My friend remarked that she wished a cop was around because ‘that guy’ was clearly speeding.

About two miles down the road, east-bound, I was pulled over and given a ticket by a cop in an unmarked car. The ticket was for running a red light.

Because I was under eighteen, I couldn’t just pay the ticket, I had to go to court, and a parent had to go with me. I had told my dad what happened. He said, only I could explain it to the judge.

I went prepared. The judge first asked the policeman to detail why he gave me a ticket. He said as he was driving west on the highway, a car popped out, ran a red light and turned left in front of him,

When called, I admitted I had run a red light, but asked if I could explain why.

In short, I said this – “I had driven that route at least five days a week for the past year and a half. The light in question was newly installed. It been set on flash for weeks, but only that evening when I came to it, it was solid red. I had waited for more than ten minutes, then decided to treat is as a stop sign.

The judge had a chalkboard in the courtroom. I asked if I could diagram the intersection. I drew a curving highway, pointed out the crest of the hill, and explained that if the officer had been traveling at the speed limit at the time I made my turn, he could not have seen me pull out of the intersection without me seeing his headlights coming from the left first.

The judge addressed my dad who said I’d never been in trouble, and to the best of his knowledge that I was a conscientious driver.

The judge dismissed my ticket. He told me if I ever came to a light like that again, I should wait all night rather than run the red light.

The judge also said, in open court, that he personally knew that intersection and if what I described was true, the officer (who was present) should pay more attention to his own driving.

The next time I met that particular cop, he was driving a marked car. For at least a year after the red light incident, he made it a practice to pull me over every few weeks or so, just “to check my license.”

10. Just read the manual.

I think (not 100% certain) that every US state has a driving manual that states what to do for an inoperative light.

The standard circumstance is to treat it like a stop sign and go when it’s safe to do so.

But there are things to consider in determining whether a light is actually inoperative.

Watch the lights to confirm any change in cycles, including changes in cross traffic lights. Wait several minutes. Some lights can have a 5 minute delay. It’s maddening, but I’ve seen it happen.

Make sure the light is not red because of a nearby railroad. This happens a lot in my city, and a train can make the red light last for a minute or so even after the train has passed.

Do not call 911 unless you’re reporting an accident. 911 dispatchers need to address emergencies, not traffic regulation. You can call a non-emergency law enforcement line. In the US, 411 is the number to dial for information services. It’s automated, so just ask for the police department of the city you think you’re in. Again. Do not dial 911.

If you get pulled over and ticketed for running a red light, do not pay the fine. Instead, go to the hearing and explain what happened. Most judges will drop it.

I knew somone who ran a red light because it was at an intersection where several people were loitering. The area was notorious for waiting for cars to stop at a red light, and people would go so far as to break a window in order to rob the driver. My friend slowed to make sure there wasn’t any side traffic, then she ran the light. She did call 911 to report the gang at that intersection, and that was an acceptable use of 911 services.

Be patient. Be diligent. Be cautious. Be safe.

9. I would never wait ten minutes. Lol!

Over 35 years ago this happened to me. And I got a ticket, tried to fight it and lost.

Myself and 3 friends where headed home on Main Street at about 12:30 am. As we approached the last light on the south end of town it was red so we stopped and waited, and waited and waited. With no other traffic in sight the light stayed red for us for over ten minutes. We even tried stupid things like backing up a few car lengths and pulling forward again. When that did not work one of my friends got out the passenger side door and started jumping up and down in the other lane like it had a pressure sensor. Obviously that did not work. So after being stuck at the red light for over 15 minutes and had not seen one other car I decided to drive through. I was not even half way through the intersection when the police lights came on. Sitting part way down the block in the dark was a cop just waiting for someone to go through. As he lectured us on being safe and the entire time he had us detained we kept referencing that the light still have not changed. All he said was it did not matter.

When I went to court to contest I explained the entire situation to the judge he said he was aware of the broken light and had spoken with the police officer, who was not in the court room, and informed me that I could have turned right and made a U-turn and turn right again. I agreed that was an option but I explained I was in the left lane and that would have required me to make a right hand turn from the left-hand lane. He said it was safer than going through the light. I said there was no traffic for miles and the police officer had been waiting for someone to go through the broken light.

At that point I realized nothing I said or did was going to change the out come. So I said I have nothing else to say and was fined double the ticket for …. As the judge put it “wasting the courts time”

8. I’m off to read my rule book.

How about when it is actually legal to do so?

Back in NH, just about all of the traffic signals are ”on command” – they have a default configuration where they yield a green light to one set of traffic, and only change when they detect a vehicle waiting at the light.

They detect vehicles via inductive loops placed into the road, and they are usually placed right before and up to the “stop lines” at the intersections. (Which screws up people that like to pull past the lines, because they may not be detected and will be waiting a long time for that light to change. But I digress.)

Anyway, these loops are often tuned for automobile traffic and are sometimes not sensitive enough to detect a motorcycle waiting at the light. Or they might not be placed correctly due to construction error, repainting of lines that move them sightly, obstruction in the lane (like a manhole cover), etc.

NH has (or had last time I checked) a law/regulation that allowed a motorcycle to “run” the light if it does not change within a “reasonable” amount of time. If there was no other traffic present, the light would usually change within 10 seconds.

Had to do it a few times in the past. Never got ticketed, nor would I have expected to.

7. If you want to get technical about it.

The average traffic light in America cycles every 120 seconds. Some 10 or 20 seconds longer, many much shorter.

Personally I will wait 4 minutes. If the light hasn’t cycled by then it’s malfunctioning. Treat it as a 4 way Stop sign and proceed with caution. Especially if drivers going the other way are starting to go as well. A little caution and courtesy and people can work it out until a Cop comes and pulls out the “Pickle” and resets the light.

No Cop would write a ticket for that that I ever knew and my department had 2000 sworn Cops. I also am Certified in 3 States and know of nobody who would (that said there is no accounting for the dicks of the world…know what I mean?). So never say never. Highly unlikely. Especially if traffic has backed up a bit and it’s obvious what’s going on isn’t just you being impatient. If you wanna be super safe look at your car clock and actually time out 4 minutes. Then you can say I pulled up to this light which was already red and sat here from 2:04 to 2:08 and nothing happened.

BTW…if you want to know what a “Pickle” is I will tell you. At every intersection with an Electric Control device (a light instead of a sign) you will find on a pole a metal box the size of a College mini fridge. It is called a “Traffic Box”. Cops are given a Traffic Box key to open it. Inside is a remote control on a cord that looks like the cord from the old phone you used to have in your kitchen. This remote is called a “Pickle”. It has buttons that allow you to control the Traffic Light manually. Cops use it to over ride the cycle and clear out traffic when there is a jam. You let the problem road run and run for 5 minutes or more then every once and awhile let the secondary road run a bit to clear out the few people waiting to cross the intersection. It is a very effective way to clear out a big traffic jam at an intersection.

6. Someone’s full of opinions.

Many many many years ago I went for a “ride along” with a policemen. (I write scripts) Anyway I was not to “Interfere in anyway.” At about 3am in the morning we came up behind a car stopped at a red light that never changed. We could see miles in both directions. Finally the car went through the light and the policeman turned on his lights. I became very vocal at that point. I remember saying something about “What, is it against the law to show a modicum of intelligence?” along with a continuing tirade of other opinions. The officer reminded me of my commitment and I shut my mouth.

After he came back to the car I was totally silent. After a while he made a comment to the effect that wasn’t I going to ask if he gave the motorist a ticket. Sarcasm being one of my strong points I said, “So, did you reinforce their opinion that all cops are idiots?” He didn’t answer. After a long silence I apologized for the crass comment and did ask if he gave the motorist a ticket. He did not.

He might not have stopped if I had not been in the car, then again he may have given the ticket if I had not been in the car.

5. They’re still cowboys in Texas.

The answer is probably different from one state to the next. In Texas, it’s written into the state traffic code that if a traffic signal is not working, it is legal to proceed with caution when it’s safe to do so.

The tricky part is this: many traffic signals are triggered by some type of traffic sensing device. In some places it’s a camera-like device mounted overhead, but in most places, it’s a wire loop embedded in the pavement that senses chances in the magnetic field they generate. These can be really problematic for motorcycle riders, especially if they’ve done some street maintenance that involves adding a layer of asphalt without replacing the magnetic loop. The loop will still work fine for cars and trucks, but once it’s too deep in the asphalt, it won’t register the presence of a motorcycle, particularly a more modern one with an aluminum frame instead of a steel frame. There just isn’t enough ferrous metal in a motorcycle to trigger a magnetic loop that’s embedded too deep in the pavement. In the state of Texas, state law requires triggered traffic signals to be able to detect and respond to the presence of a motorcycle, but I have encountered many signals that will not. You could be stuck there for a very long time before a car or truck comes along behind you to trigger it. So technically, the signal is not working as required by Texas state law. However, the cops may well be completely unaware that it’s not functioning properly because it still works just like it’s supposed to for cars and trucks. So they could easily ticket you if you run one on a motorcycle because they may not believe you when you tell them the light is not working properly.

I have, on more than one occasion called city hall where I live to complain about tripped lights that do not detect my motorcycle. Their standard response is “those magnetic loops are not designed to detect a motorcycle,” which is a load of crap because the office where I work is a gated complex where there is a magnetic loop in the pavement controlling the exit gate, and it’s never had a problem with my motorcycle. After arguing with them that they are wrong, I finally quote, chapter and verse from the state traffic code that these lights MUST be able to detect a motorcycle. When I threaten legal action based on state law, they finally do something…..but instead of repairing the magnetic loop so that it functions properly, their answer has always been to change the light so that it’s timed instead of being triggered by traffic.

4. So you’re just supposed to sit there forever?

In my state (New Jersey) the basic philosophy in most precincts is that running a red light is running a red light. If a cop sees you running a light for any reason, you will be ticketed. If your excuse is that the light was broken, they don’t want to hear it. This actually happened to my office manager some years ago. She fought the ticket, and lost. Had she taken time to document that the light was nonfunctional (with a video, for example, or a series of time-stamped still photos) she might have had a shot. But I doubt it.

You have to keep in mind that the vast majority of traffic citations have nothing at all to do with traffic safety; they are revenue generators — an easy way to raise cash without raising taxes. Cops have quotas (oh, yes they do), and roughly 90% of the tickets they write are complete BS. Be especially careful of motorcycle cops — that’s coveted duty, and if they don’t write a minimum of 20 tickets (an entire book) per shift, they get busted back to patrol cars. Nobody writes BS tickets like motorcycle cops. Cynical, but true.

Should you encounter a frozen red light situation, common sense says if 5 or 10 minutes elapse and the light is still red, treat it like a 4-way stop sign and proceed with caution. But if you’re in the Garden State, make really sure there are no cops around — and no stoplight cameras on the poles — before you run the light.

An alternative strategy is to make a right turn — which is always legal, unless you’re in New York City, or there is a sign prohibiting right turns on red — and basically go around the block.

3. Every situation is different.

Are the lights red in both directions? They are supposed to blink, but if not, I’d wait a couple minutes and then treat it as a four way stop.

But if only my side lights stay red, it requires more thought. The traffic affects my choices.

If possible, turn right on red, then find a u turn or turnaround location to get back to the intersection and continue.

But often, you won’t be in the right lane of a multi lane road. Turning right from the left lane, especially a left turning lane, could be a traffic law violation too. As well as being dangerous if traffic is present.

When traffic is present, even the right turn can be a problem. If there are vehicles waiting behind you, the situation also gets complicated.

You could try calling the local police, and get advice or wait for assistance.

But that will take time, and would waste police time if you could safely pass through the intersection during a break in traffic.

I would usually wait through about three normal light cycles, about three minutes. I might go a little earlier if there is no visible traffic, especially late at night, and more especially in big city where unruly pedestrians might take advantage of a stopped vehicle.

Motorcycles don’t always trigger the road sensors, so they can run into this situation more often. But very large vehicles like buses and trucks have another problem.

Doing a u turn or finding a location to turn around is often impossible. On a highway, the next intersection could be miles away. Turning right from the left lane could risk hitting other stopped vehicles in that direction, and the intersection layout may make it hard to do the turn without crossing the oncoming lane, and its traffic Island.

I’ve run into this problem at a highway intersection where there is a light after the ramp. Traffic backs up because you are waiting, and you know you can’t safely do anything other than turn left as planned or go straight. Your vehicle will hit something if you turn right, crossing the median if nothing else.

The only safe thing to do is wait until there is no traffic, and proceed carefully through.

2. You’ve gotta stand up for yourself.

This actually happened to me on a Thanksgiving morning some twenty years ago. I waited and waited and waited at a red light at an exit from my neighborhood. The main street was virtually deserted. After waiting several times more than what I knew the cycle of the light to be, I once again looked for traffic in both directions, saw zero cars in motion and pulled out making a left-hand turn…

And immediately got pulled over.

I explained to the officer how I had waited an unreasonably long time at the light, that I come out at that light every day and know how long the cycle is, that it was Thanksgiving morning and I was in no hurry to get anywhere, that I had used every safety precaution before making the turn, etc. He wrote me a ticket.

So I went to court. When they finally called my name, the officer and I stood facing the judge. The judge asked me what happened and I said exactly what I told the officer. The judge turns to the officer and said, “Is that what he told you?” The officer said it was. Then the judge asked him why he had given me a ticket at all and dismissed it.

I had to take the ticket to the administrative counter. The clerk there looked at the dismissed ticket and said, “The judge must be in a good mood today.” I replied, “Or maybe it was a ticket that should have never been issued in the first place.”

I knew I was right, but that in no way means anyone ever agrees with me. I was really surprised at how it turned out, considering the purpose of the police force of this small town was to generate revenue to pay for the police force to generate revenue to pay for the police force…

Eventually the small town was unincorporated and the police force was disbanded, but I’m still here and still feel vindicated.

1. It’s almost like he was waiting for someone.

In Indiana they recently passed a law called the stale light law where if you sit through one full cycle of the light and it doesn’t change, you can them proceed with caution. When I was about 22–23 I was on my way home from work on my crotch rocket. I’ll admit I took the long extra time way home and went for a ride at night. I only had my permit which you’re not supposed to ride at night, your also not supposed to have a passenger and you’re supposed to be wearing a helmet.

It was about 11:30pm and I my defense I did get off work late that day. I pulled up to a turn lane and say there in the past for about 4–5 minutes before someone pulled up behind me and the light turned. This time however I was tired and ready to go home and shower as it was a hot day and muggy night and I’m not a small guy so I was sweaty and stinky. I sat there for about 45 seconds to a minute then I went.

Sure enough there was a sheriff sitting in the church parking lot. He immediately hit the light and siren on me. I was only 2 streets away from home and still had my work shirt on. He asked me where I was going and I told him. He said well you ran the red light. I acknowledged that fact and told him I’ve sat numerous times at the light waiting. He told me with a permit I couldn’t be riding at night. I told him I just off work. He told me I had my helmet but it wouldn’t do me any good strapped to the side of my bike(he’s right).

Mid conversation he got a call and told me I was lucky he did and if he hadn’t my bike was going to be impounded. He told me to get home, in not so nice of terms. He put his car in reverse, hit the lights and sirens and burned out. I was lucky. The next day I went and got my endorsement.

I’m probably somewhere in the middle, myself, but there’s nothing worse than being stuck at that light behind someone who is less of a risk-taker than you are!

What’s your answer? Lay it on us in the comments!

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People Discuss Whether or Not They Would Watch a TV Show Where Rich People Live on $15/Hr

There are all kinds of reality television shows out there. There’s something for everyone, and most of us have at least one guilty pleasure.

Why not, then, have a show where rich people tried to live on what’s being proposed as a minimum wage? It’s bound to be funny, and you never know – they might learn something.

Would you watch a TV show where rich people have to live on $15/hr? from NoStupidQuestions

These 17 people are weighing in on whether or not they would watch!

17. Can they find their own bootstraps?

What about a show where rich people started off homeless and race to earn a roof over their head. Have to compete in mental illness and socioeconomic obstacle challenges?

16. So they DO learn lessons?!

There is already a program like this on BBC. I can’t remember what it’s called. But it takes families who are wealthy and ones living in poverty and switch them. It’s very entertaining, but not like “ha ha” or outrageous like US reality programs. It’s actually more real reality.

Most of the time the rich family admits that they really had no idea how hard it was to live like that, and often they offer to help get the poverty family a better job and stuff. One even funded the startup costs for the husband in the poverty family to start his own business, and that made a huge difference in their life.

15. A few people made this suggestion.

Nah $15/hr is too generous. Make it $7.25 and I wouldn’t miss an episode.

14. They can never really know what it’s like.

This might backfire. It’s like the song “Common People”. They have no real risk because they can go back. Part of poverty is the constant anxiety that if something goes wrong (the refrigerator breaks, the car crashes, you lose your apartment, you need a minor but expensive surgery) it is disastrous.

They wouldn’t have that. They would still think in the end “well they can just change to a different better job” or “they should just go to college”.

13. But no overtime pay, friend.

I would watch but let’s throw in closing and opening shifts back to back as well as mandatory overtime.

12. It’s not funny because it’s true.

I’d rather watch a show where rich people got to live on $7.25.

Sometimes they can even make them be a single parent. With no maternity leave or healthcare. And no affordable daycare in sight. With no family around to help. Boy those were the days…. not. I guess I should have pulled myself up by my bootstraps but unfortunately the straps broke and I couldn’t afford to replace them.

11. And it’s not fun.

This was asked countless, countless times and the real answer is no, it would be way too artificial, because they do it for fun. They can be more risky, they can cheat, but even if they dont, they dont have that pressure of knowing that if it goes wrong they still have to live the rest of their lifes… is just a show and after its done, they still have their money.

Its the same way as when you do tourism…. its entitled and ignorant af to claim you know how living in the country is, because you dont ,even if you do the same stuff

10. They still have a way out.

I would totally watch it, but it’s kinda like The Last Temptation of Christ… I mean, they know they’re going back to their real life, so the true despair that those who live in poverty will never set it.

It’s a whole different thing when you know you have a way out

9. Maybe they could do it this way…

What if they don’t get a way out?

If they can’t get to the end of the week without skipping meals/skipping bills/postponing a repair or medical appointment/you get the idea, they have to keep playing until they do or quit. And if they quit, they have to forfeit one of their homes to the poor family.

You’ll never erase their perfect comfort in this world but we can make them pay for it, at least.

8. Eat the rich.

Not in the slightest. I’m not interesting in watching rich people throw us an entertainment bone only to go back to being mega-rich once it’s over.

Not to mention the fact that they’ll likely just make more money from being on the show and continue to not give a f*ck about people on the bottom.

I don’t want to be a part of giving those people any more money or good press.

7. Maybe six months.

Not unless it was for a full month or more. If they aren’t paying rent, buying all their own food or going to food banks, riding the bus or driving a completely busted PoS that needs mechanic work they can’t afford, and ditching everything else they own in order to genuinely experience poverty for at least a month, then it’s a worthless stunt designed to gain them PR points, and I would refuse to acknowledge it in any way.

6. Because everything is a competition in America.

If you could somehow make it competitive, we could call it Wage War. Who has the best life at $15/hour? And it can be an entertaining PSA that will help us continue to change opinions on a livable wage.

5. That’s how reality shows work.

People working for the show will intentionally let rude/asshole customers in and the supervisor will be an asshole (to make the experience realistic).
Everything will be manipulated so, uh, it’ll be realistic?

How about just reading Nickel and Dimed? Or watching the first 30 Days episode, or anything better than shitty “reality” shows?

4. It’s like a game you can’t win.

Would be better if they weren’t guaranteed hours and go from having a 40 hour week to a 12 hour week to a 8 hour week to a 30 hour week.

All at different times during the day too so they can’t get a 2nd job.

3. Maybe it would fly.

I watched Undercover Boss and laughed my guts out at how clueless they were, so yeah, this show sounds like a winner.

2. No one can survive…the customers.

Why “simulated”? Let ’em work an ACTUAL minimum wage job. ($8.55/hr here in Ohio) Make sure it’s customer-facing and that there are plenty of local, feral Karens in the indigenous population.

Hells yeah I’d watch it. I’d binge watch the entire season in a day.

1. Ridiculous is one word for it.

Hasn’t this already been done with Paris Hilton in the 90’s? I remember her saying that she thought people that worked fast food just did it for fun and didn’t know it was their actual job.

It was ridiculous and I’m sure a show like that would piss me off.

I think I would check it out.

Would you tune in? Tell us why or why not in the comments!

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People Shared Their Hacks for Forging Ahead When Life Gets Hard

It was Martin Luther King, Jr. who said, “If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” To me, this means that no matter what life throws at you, you have to remember that the future is where you’re headed, so there’s nothing to do but shake loose of the past and head forward as best as you can.

This can be tough to do, and while I do believe everyone should have their fair chance to wallow, once that’s done it’s time to put on your big boy pants or swipe on some lipstick (or both) and put one foot (or knee or elbow or hand) in front of the other until you can run again.

If you’d like some advice on how to get that done from some folks who have been through the wringer, these 12 unique perspectives just might serve as inspiration.

12. A popular tactic.

This is a real tactic and works well. I always tell myself I have to do 2 things everyday.

Depending on the day, it could be just getting out of bed and feeding myself.

On better days, it’s getting some work done and doing dishes.

Just committing to 2 things sounds simple, so it helps keep me to it.

11. That’s the way you make it.

My career. I feel like I’m flying now but holy smokes did I start off as a slow crawl though…

10. It really happens faster than you think.

Exercise.

A couple months ago I was crawling, now I’m walking.

Doubt I’ll ever be flying, but at least I’m stronger than I was.

9. It’s a major accomplishment.

This is extremely minor, but I completed a 5k. I’m not a runner. In fact I hate running. I have short legs and small feet. I’m slow and overweight. I did train, albeit not much.

I started the race by running until I was out of breath (1/2 mile in). Then it was intermittent walking and running until the end. I was the second to last person to finish, but I didn’t care. It was one of the best highs I’ve ever had. It felt good to accomplish something I always told myself I would do someday, but never worked up the courage to try. I was proud of myself.

8. You do it because you have to.

This is going to sound stupid to most who haven’t been through it but my (ex) husband of 17 years cheated on me with my best friend. It’s all so cliche. We had two preteen boys that he didn’t want anything to do with.

Somehow I kicked him out of the house. Didn’t accept his fake apologies. And then watched my run turn into a walk, then a crawl. I dragged us through every day. It happened the last two weeks of school and I still went to their end of the year award programs and smiled even though neighbors were whispering and I hosted birthday parties minus a parent and I taught one to drive.

I am not completely sure how I was strong enough but I brought us all forward in those dark days. I wasn’t going to let this affect them. And now, even with their dad living three miles away with his new family and acting like they don’t exist, I crawl, with them on my back.

7. Terrible to have to do it alone.

When I was 22 I lost my leg due to a suicide attempt and becoming an amputee as a result of my own stupid actions was extremely difficult but I decided I was going to keep living and really see what I could do with the time and resources I have.

I always thought I was too stupid and ugly to do anything with my life but once there wasn’t much left to lose I got my shit together stopped being a victim and now I’m 25 going to school, clean and sober, no friends or girlfriend or family really but I’m content being alone with my thoughts and I think my prosthetic looks pretty badass.

6. How can one person go through all of this?

My wife died June 2015, I lost my job the same moment she passed because I was her in home caretaker for 3 years because she was in a persistent vegetative state, I got addicted to methamphetamines again after 22 years of sobriety, my service dog of 10 years died, I survived an attempted murder from two people with rebar and wound up with brain damage and a broken neck.

I got evicted because I couldn’t afford any more to live in our town home, I walked away from 30 years of memories because I had no where to store anything, I spent two and a half years homeless living on the streets and in shelters, and the majority of everything that happens to me happened in six months.

I finally got on social security for schizoaffective disorder that I got from using drugs after my wife died, and I finally got a home again back in September. The point is I got through it all because I kept moving forward.

5. It’s not stopping, it’s just a pause.

I rode my bike across the US. Most of it solo.

In the middle of Missouri, I just … had enough. I stopped on some guys lawn and just cried. He came out and asked me what was up and I explained how far I’d come (started in San Fransisco) and that I was just done.

He told me to ride into town (I think Springfield?) which was only 10 miles away and take a few days off and rest. Which is what I did, because hey, one more day wouldn’t matter, and the worst that would happen is that I’d pack it in and go home.

Well, a day of rest seemed to be exactly what I needed. I spent a whole day (or most of it, anyway) in blessed air conditioning, ate all the food, drank all the water, and was more or less ready to go again.

I took a few more one-day breaks between Missouri and Williamsburg, VA which really helped me out.

So yeah, one step back, two steps forward.

4. You never know where your path might begin.

Graduated high school in ’01, tried the 4yr university thing. Was really depressed and didn’t go to class much because of it. After the first semester dropped out and enlisted. 3 years later I’m medically discharged.

Worked multiple shit jobs wile attending CC, find a somewhat decent job while nearing the completion of my associates, then the recession happens. Finish my associates while spending a year on unemployment. Unemployment runs out and I decide to hold off on trying to transfer to finish my 4yr degree.

Get a job at gas station, month later promoted to assistant manager, 8mo later, I’m store manager. Year later leave for a contractor position at a bank doing ATM support. About a year later im hired on as an employee. 5.5 years later im in a new salaried role doing data analysis and finishing my degree.

3. May he find someone to lean on one day.

Living tbh.

My parents never believed (and still don’t) that depression is a real thing, so they never got me help when I was younger.

I’m 30 now and still crawling on.

2. One thing each day.

After my mom died, I set a single goal to do something productive each day.

For awhile it was getting out of bed. Then it was brushing my hair. Then it was cooking something to eat.

As each little thing graduated from my “thing” for the day to just habit, I would add a new thing. It took awhile to be functional again.

It really did feel like I was crawling when everyone else was running.

1. It’s the same way I write novels.

A while back I was trying to make an app, learning from scratch it was hard to find time around work, friends, girlfriend etc but I had the mantra of if I’ve only got 10 minutes then do 10 minutes.

The actual 10 minutes didn’t achieve much but it kept it in my mind and when I had a spare couple of hours, I was in the mindset to do that couple of hours and over the months my project gradually grew and grew

Eventually I got out of the habit and the app got less and less attention so it never got finished. I’m furloughed right now, maybe its a good time to get crawling again.

People are really so strong when they need to be, don’t you think?

What’s your own personal example of a moment like this? Share the story with us down in the comments.

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