Was a Woman Wrong for Letting Her Dog Push Over a Young Child? People Shared Their Thoughts.

You never really know what’s gonna happen when dogs are around children.

That’s why both parties need to be responsible to make sure no one gets hurt. The most loving dog in the world might snap for some reason and bite a kid.

Or a child might do something to harm the animal. You just never know…

And a young woman took to Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page to ask readers if they thought she was in the wrong regarding an incident with her dog and a child.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for letting my dog push over a toddler?

“I (20f) have an 8 month old puppy.

He’s generally very well behaved, we’ve been going to a trainer with him since he was 4 months but he’s still an excitable puppy. I have him around young kids pretty often but I have them greet him properly first so they can play safely.

I take him for two walks a day which double as training sessions since he gets really hyped up outside and pulls/jumps which we’d like to stop even though he’s not particularly big and that means we’re frequently stopping and starting.

Today he started pulling near a local daycare, I stopped and he corrected himself so I gave him a treat and we went to head on when two young girls (2f, 4f) rushed over.

I knew them, they’re my neighbours and I generally get along with them so I paused to say hi, letting them know that my dog was okay to pat if they’d let me settle him down first since he gets a little excited and I didn’t want him jumping on them in case they got hurt. The girls seemed to understand but their dad came over and told them to “hurry up and pet the dog so we can go home”.

I tried to explain to him that I needed them to wait a second since he loves kids and if they wanted to pet him I just need to grab his collar and have him sit since he was still in training but he wouldn’t listen and told the girls again to “just pet him”.

So they did and my dog who was getting increasingly more excited about all these people immediately did what I warned and jumped up. The older one didn’t mind to much and let him lick her but the other fell over and immediately started screaming.

She didn’t seem hurt, just startled, but the dad immediately went off at me for having a “feral, untrained mutt” and told me I should never have my dog near kids before stormed off with his kids.

I did try and warn them but I love little kids and I feel awful about her being knocked over, especially since I probably could have grabbed him if I was paying more attention to my dog and less to the dad.

AITA for what happened?”

Here’s how people reacted on Reddit.

This reader said that the other dad in this situation is definitely to blame and that the guy is, quite simply, a d**k.

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Another person said this boils down to one thing: entitlement from the dad in this story.

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And this individual pointed out that the person who wrote the post tried but the father put his kids in danger by acting like this.

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Finally, this Reddit user said that the person who wrote the story was trying to do the right thing and he did everything he could in this situation.

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Do you think this woman acted irresponsibly?

Or did she teach this parent a lesson?

Tell us what you think in the comments!

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26 Police Officers Discuss the Calls That Almost Made Them Quit

There are some jobs that we like to think are more about calling and duty than a paycheck, and policing is definitely one of them. Every profession has its tough days, though, no matter how much you love your work, and even those of us who would give every last drop to the job have days when it seems like too much.

These 26 officers have good reason to feel that way – just read through these rough days and tell me you wouldn’t be ready for some relaxing in the shade afterward, too!

26. Women really do this?

Routine traffic stop for speeding.

When I got to the car window her top was down and her skirt hiked up and she was busy. She looks at me and says, “Officer I need help”.

I had to walk away, I was with a partner and he said let’s call for a lady officer. Which is what we did, Yes the driver was really cute, but we waited in our car and once the other officer arrived she told her to get dressed and decent and she stayed around to make sure the driver didn’t pull another stunt like this and we made sure she got her ticket.

This was back before car cams and body cams so we needed to have an extra set of eyes/witnesses in case she made a complaint.

Funniest thing was that at shift end when we went back to the squad room the Sgt. who must have heard the call we made said, “So I see you met ……. she has tried that drop your drawers trick with us before, good thing you rookies did not fall for it.”

25. A sad state of affairs.

“Not a police officer, but still technically law enforcement at the time.

When I was in the Coast Guard, I did a lot of drug and migrant interdiction down in the Caribbean. Chasing drug smugglers was pretty fun, but interdicting the migrants was always sad.

We would usually find Haitians or Cubans and the Haitians were always much worse off. It was pretty heartbreaking having to send them back after seeing the state they were in, and the state of country they were trying to leave. They would go through such great lengths to leave and we had to stop them. One guy tried to light himself on fire and others would try and injure themselves to try and get us to take them to US health care facilities.

The only redeeming thing about interdicting them was their ships were always very shoddily made and often times our act of interdicting them was also us saving them from a sinking ship.”

24. I wonder if she agreed.

I stopped a young man (early 20s) for speeding one night. His passenger was an attractive young lady whom I would guess at about the same age as the driver. Thinking I had caught a whiff of alcohol as he asked why I had stopped him and he seemed more nervous that what I would call normal, I ask him to please exit his vehicle and told his passenger to remain seated in the vehicle.

When the driver and I walked to the rear of his car I went through the normal traffic stop routine:”Sir, may I see your driver’s license, where are you coming from and going to, have you been drinking tonight, do you know what the speed limit might be on Olsen Road? Blah, blah blah. “

Then I must have hit the correct button when I asked him, “Sir, before I run a check on your license, do you have any outstanding wants or warrants for your arrest?” I actually thought he was about to start crying or going to have a litter of kittens right there on the side of the road, because he started saying, “please officer don’t write me a ticket, please I beg you officer.” Before I could advise him to calm down, he blurted out, “Officer I can not get another ticket this year or I will lose my license. If you will not write me a ticket I will let you___ my girlfriend.”

I must have now looked like the one going to have a litter of kittens because before I could form a reply, he said: “She is good officer, I promise she is.” The first thought that popped into my mind was this had to be a setup, and I started looking around for the Internal Affairs unit that I figured must be parked in the area.

Not seeing anything that looked out of place, I thought to myself this guy is serious, and he must have thought from the way I looked at him that I was gay or something because he then said, “Or I can give you a BJ”.

In my years on the street, I have been offered money, tickets to an NFL game, free merchandise at a local department store, but never anything remotely like this before. I just kept looking at the kid with a stunned look on my face and finally got my voice back, handed him his driver’s license back and told him to slow down, drive carefully and to have a good night.

I spend a number of years in the department after that night and never had anyone else try to get out of a citation by offering what he did. After he drove away and I sat in my unit, I thought I could have gotten him for trying to bribe a peace officer. But then I thought if he chose to contest the bribery charge, what jury would believe me?

23. This doesn’t seem right.

“Click it or ticket seatbelt enforcement.

At least here in Kansas, depending on the amount of tickets written for seatbelt violations (and other, I believe driving under the influence are worth more ‘points’ on the scale”) the more money the state will give you to purchase equipment for your department. Sounds like a decent deal, right? Seat belts are an important piece of safety equipment, plus you can earn funds for better gear for your officers.

Departments get a little crazy over this one. Especially when they don’t get many tickets written because PEOPLE ARE FOLLOWING THE LAW. I know, because I used to sit and look for them, and when I couldn’t find anyone not wearing a seat belt for 2 hours and went off duty, I was told later that night I could no longer participate in click it because I hadn’t written any tickets.

Because people were wearing them.

Which is compliance, and ultimately the goal of the entire damn program to begin with. I told them fine, because the only reason I had signed up was because of the memo sent out that nobody had, and they were begging people to do it. I later was told I could come back and try it again, as nobody else had written any tickets either for the same reason, so long as we all realized that it’s up the the courts to decide if they had a seat belt on, and if you don’t see a seatbelt to write them a ticket even if they have one on when you get up to them.

Basically telling us to cite people who weren’t breaking the law, so they could put numbers down, to get money.

Needless to say I left that department shortly after.”

22. There’s a story to tell.

A police constable of my acquaintance was patrolling the MI in England back in the seventies and he stopped a car going (quite) a bit too fast.

He recognized the driver as Tommy Cooper. For the uninitiated, Tommy Cooper was one of the absolutely top comedians in the UK and his shtick was based around his persona as an incompetent magician.

Cooper said he was on his way to a gig and was running late.

He fast-talked his way out of a ticket as only he could and, as the cop let him go, he shook him by the hand saying ‘Thank you, officer, Thank you, thank you. Have a drink on me,” and pressed some paper into the policeman’s hand.

The policeman waved him off and looked at what Cooper had given him.

It was a teabag.

21. Oh. My. God.

A neighbor called me saying that they heard endless screaming coming from their neighbor’s residence.

I got there, knocked on the door and was completely shocked to see a pair of dismembered testicles on the ground. I was quickly withdrew my handcuffs and asked what was going on.

It turns out that the wife found the husband on the list of members on Ashley Madison.

Witnesses outside the home said they heard screams such as “Oh no! Get away from me! Please! Stop unreasonably castrating me!”

Still one of the strangest calls I’ve ever been dispatched on.

20. Neither of them will forget it.

I was driving home from my sisters place on the NY thruway and had a date coming over about the time I’d get home. So, I had done my hair and my makeup prior to leaving.

Unfortunately, I was running out of gas. I checked my ticket and realized I couldn’t make it to the nearest rest area. I also realized that I could make it quite easily to the rest stop in the opposite direction. So, as I drove along, I saw a “No U turn” sign right next to a paved lane that went from my side of the thruway to the other side. I looked in front and in the rear and saw no cars at all so I made a U-turn on that paved lane.

Just as I was up to full speed, I heard the siren behind me. I pulled over and the good looking highway patrolman came up to my car. He explained that he had seen me make a U turn and asked if I knew it was not allowed to make a U-turn on the thruway. I explained that I did know because I found the place to make the turn by the No U-turn sign. The officer asked why I had made the U-turn and I explained about running out of gas.

The officer is now shaking his head and almost laughing at the ditzy woman he was talking to. He obviously could not believe that i was being so honest and thinking I was definitely weird. He now asks me if I’m in a hurry. I replied that I was because had a date back in Syracuse and didn’t want to be late.

Now he’s totally flummoxed. He explains that the ticket i had just earned would cost a lot of money and that it was dangerous doing what I had just done. I said I understood and apologized. He then told me if I promised never to do that again, he’d just give me a warning and let me go home to my date. I promised never to do that again and he said god bye and I hope this date was worth it.

I am now 73 and have never again make a U-turn on an interstate/ thruway.

I don’t remember if the date was worth it.

19. Ungrateful much?

Got a call for a noise complaint at a frequent flyer’s house so we cruised out figuring the guy was inebriated and we’d pick him up on a parole violation.

We got to his house and he had literally blown off half of his garage and half of his arm trying to make dabs.

Turns out the guy thought he just had to burn a bunch of weed and it would melt down into oil so he gathered up a dozen propane tanks and somehow managed to turn his garage into a tinder pile.

The best part was he swore up and down (while he’s screaming in pain) that we only came out to “steal his stuff”

18. An innocent encounter.

When I was 19, I ran my car through a red light. I didn’t realize there was an officer not far behind, but when they put on their siren, I pulled over.

I was aware that I was very attractive to men, (only because I got whistled at wherever I went and was constantly being asked on dates – even by random strangers, and because guys I did know were regularly telling me they thought they were in love with me. I was also earning a lot of money as a model, but I was a university student and hated the whole modeling industry – I only did it for the money).

When the two offers pulled me over and one said something like “You do realize you just went straight through a red light, I batted my eyelids and said “Oh my goodness, I’m so sorry. I genuinely didn’t realize: (or something very similar). They both looked at each other. One said something like “Shall we give her a ticket” and the other one said something like “No – I don’t think so”.

I didn’t feel great about it, because I realized that I had just been manipulative. And I know a lot of men would say that this is an unfair advantage women have over them. But I was studying a lot about the lack of power women had suffered from over the centuries, and figured we should be able to use what little power we had.

They told me to be careful that I didn’t do it again, and I said something like “Oh, I promise I will be very careful. “ So, I didn’t get a ticket. Regardless, it did make me much more careful as a driver.

17. What was her reason, though?

Got sent to a street out the back of our sleepy little town.

Someone was using a chainsaw at 2am.

Not unusual because the properties are really big but this was being done next to another house (in a garage).

Turned out to be a lady chasing her husband around the room trying to jab him in the junk with the chainsaw.

16. Do we think this is real?

I stopped a car for speeding one sunny afternoon on a major 4-lane divided highway that had 3 teenaged young ladies in the front seat who were coming from a local swimming pool and were in the briefest bikinis. They were beautiful young ladies by any scale possible. I explained the purpose of the stop, after I had obtained the driver’s driver license and car registration and returned to my cruiser to issue a ticket.

As always, while writing the ticket I held it high on the steering wheel so I could also carefully observe the occupants of the stopped vehicle and noticed the driver and center passenger doing something involving the driver.

When I had completed the ticket and had returned to the stopped vehicle’s door, I began to explain the cost of the ticket, the points that would be assessed to the driver’s driving record and the right to appear for trial in court to contest the ticket. Because of my observation, I was a bit more alert than normal as I was doing this and prepared for any possibility.

I was in mid sentence of my explanation when the driver sort of moved her upper body and both tops of her bikini fell down complete exposing her entire chest area. She could have been a Playboy centerfold!

But without changing the cadence of my sentence, voice volume, tone of voice or any change in my facial expression and body language I said, “This ticket may be paid by check mailed to the address indicated here (pointing to it), and young lady your bikini top has fallen and you might wish to fix it, and the ticket cost $30 and is a one-point violation.”

I continued on with my “spiel” as she quickly “fixed” her apparel failure while her face, and those of her friends, became so red with embarrassment they would have been used as the red light on the front of a fire engine en route to a fire! The ticket was paid!

For a couple of years afterward, as this young lady matured, each time she saw me, off duty or on duty, she would blush and quickly turn away. She was married and had two beautiful daughters. I was in a local grocery store when I heard an, “Excuse me Mr. Wright” and turned to find her standing there with her 2 young daughters. She introduced them to me explaining that officers were their friends. It was one of those moments that are golden in the memories of old officers after retirement!

I will admit that at the moment it occurred, it took all my years of Marine-instilled self control not to react to the apparel malfunction!

15. That can be arranged.

I got dispatched to loud music one night at an apartment complex. I arrived and could clearly hear Snoop Dog being played while I was standing in the parking lot. I banged on the door for well over a minute to no avail.

I open the door to find two stoners high out of their minds. Guy was laying on the couch while his friend was laying on the floor. I see clear as day a pound of weed on the floor next to the guy. He was hugging it like Tom Hanks hugged Wilson.

He looks up at me with a look of pure disgust and says “No, don’t take my kind bud.”

Alright pal.

14. This apparently is a thing?

There was a club where the male patrons were known to use.

The only women there were entertainment girls. We were driving down the street and saw a car pull out of the parking lot and roll through the stop. We did a traffic stop. I walked up on the driver’s side and as I was approaching, I saw it was one of the entertainment girls, so I was just going to give her a warning and head back to my car.

But as I was walking up she was kind of wriggling around in her seat, which made me a little cautious, so I slowed down. When I reached her window, she smiled up at me and said, “Hi deputy.” and then she looked down at her crotch. She had hiked up her short skirt and pulled her panties to the side.

I told my partner he should check out the VIN and walked back to our car. He raised an eyebrow, walked over to look at the VIN. He saw what I saw, came back to the car and said,

“Unusual place for a VIN”

13. The “Lady Gaga Program.”

Received a noise complaint at 230 AM. We went to make contact with the individual and when we arrived, the house was shaking to music that was so loud, you couldn’t understand the lyrics. We knock repeatedly with no response.

After shining our flashlights into the window, he sees our lights and walks past the front door into the garage. At this point, we are concerned for our safety because we have no idea why, or what, he went into the garage for.

He opens the door slowly, steps into the door way revealing this 60ish yr old man in nothing but his tightie whities looking like Walter White. He begins to apologize and follows up with “the Lady Gaga program is almost over anyways.”

Myself and the other officer can’t control our laughter, we ask him to turn it down and leave in tears.

12. It’s funny *now.*

Not sure if the guy in question actually tried to get out of a ticket, but at one time back in the day some colleagues & I were trading “war stories” in the break room at our office. One mentioned a fraternity brother when they were both pre-law at the U. of I. (name withheld to protect the clueless) who was pulled over one night in the wee hours on a stretch of I-57 near Champaign-Urbana.

The kid had apparently dropped some “windowpane” acid and was on the verge of suddenly going from Wonderland to a potentially very bad trip.

The state trooper walked over to the driver, examined his license and registration, noticed the guy was both terrified and spaced out, and gently asked, “son, do you have any idea how fast you were going?” Now, the speed limit was still 55 back then but the kid was freaking out over the possible consequences of confessing to his actual speed and gulped, “uh, sir… 75?” The trooper leaned in further and said, “son, here…on the freeway…in a 55 MPH zone…you were doing…twelve miles an hour!”

My friend was called, picked up his slow-tripper roomie, took him back to the frat house and sat with him till he “came down.” The trooper was laughing so hard (and had the keys anyway till my friend arrived) that there wasn’t even a written warning!

11. What a mess.

Officer for over twenty years in one of the largest cities in the U.S.

Neighbor called to report loud music and yelling in the apartment above his.

The tweaker inside fired at us through the door then got himself in the head.

He blew his jaw into pieces and the bullet went through the roof of his mouth and took out his eye before going through the ceiling.

He survived.

I got paid a lot of overtime.

10. The proof is in the…pudding?

On night, around 2 AM, I just completed assisting a motorist with a flat tire on H-1 Freeway west bound, when a white Ford Mustang blew by me at a high rate of speed. I chased the car with lights and siren on, clocking it at 120 mph.

As I caught up, the car slowed and pulled over. The vehicle belonged to an Army officer and had one occupant, a young lady in her 20’s.

After receiving her drivers license and other documents, she was apparently the spouse of the vehicle’s owner. I asked her why she was traveling at such a dangerously rate of speed. She said something like Oh, officer, I just started my period and I didn’t want to stain my shorts! (the shorts were white) She spread her legs wide as she could while she was talking!

I looked down and pointed my flashlight in the area of emphasis. I replied, well, miss, you are too late for that! Since there was no evidence of Driving While Intoxicated, I wrote her a ticket.

She was lucky, I could have busted her for reckless operation of a motor vehicle.

Anyway, that for me, ranks as the most inappropriate action by a motorist on a traffic stop.

9. Why are people?

I’m an officer, and a musician.

There’s a nearby town with a few bars on the edge of town. It’s a great area for live music venues because it’s out in the sticks and not many houses to bother. However, there’s this ONE prick citizen who drives around to all the venues on weekend nights with a sound meter and checks the level at the property line and calls if it’s 1db over the limit.

The local PD usually doesn’t respond, but it’s still a nuisance. When I’ve played there, the owners/managers warn our sound engineer to check levels.

It’s just a jerk move… you could have a gunfight in one of these places and it wouldn’t drown out the TV in the nearest house.

8. A lucky moment.

I was patrolling around about 3 in the morning and noticed a car parked in the middle of the road with it’s lights off in a residential neighborhood. I kind of figured whoever was in the car was probably passed out so I went to check before I got up to the door of the car this female opens the door rushes out and pulls off I think it’s called a tank top.

She was waving it around and I notice another car stop.

The person in the other car asked if he could be of help and I just asked him to stand there as a witness while I tried to get her shirt back on her because I could see you where this was going. He stood there and watched and I got his information when it was all over and had her locked up in the car and asked him if he would be a witness if necessary and he said of course.

I could see that she was probably going to say that I took her shirt off and to this day I thank God this guy came by.

When I went to a deposition later on of course that’s exactly what she said. The witness who had stopped in the car to render help just happened to be the state’s attorney. When her lawyer saw who the witness was he immediately moved to settle the case.

By the way she received two years for obstructing an officer and lying under oath. how lucky I was to have this man driving by at the same time this was going on.

7. That does sound noisy.

I went to a noise complaint recently, it ended in a double homicide.

Guy heard his mom accidentally shatter the oven door and snapped, did her in with a FN 5.7. Neighbors called in a noise complaint and thought it sounded like gunfire. Guy talks to them in a fake British accent, then get super agitated when they ask him about the noises.

Guy leaves the house and goes to a different county, where he stabs a guy about 20 times and steals his car. Guy comes back to his house the next day and neighbors let us know, and the SWAT team surprises him as he steps out back for a smoke.

Guy confessed the whole thing.

6. That’s one reaction.

I stopped a car on a 4 lane highway late at night.

The driver was an inebriated woman. A man was with her. After I dealt with her I had her stand at the back of her car and I was talking to the man who was still in the car. I looked back at the woman and she was standing in the middle of the left lane.

Traffic was coming and I rushed over and dragged her to the median then she went limp and just sat on the ground. When I tried to get her up her limp arms just flopped up over her head so I got a good grip on her and started picking her up and her arms flopped up again and I pulled her shirt off.

It was up on her arms then I pulled it back down over her. I guess she was willing to end it all just to get out of a DUI ticket.

5. I guess he was on a mission.

Responded to a house for a complaint of loud music around 11pm.

My back up gets there right before me and as i’m getting out of the car, shots are heard from the back yard.

We called for more units and made our way to the back of the house where we had to look through a 6 foot wooden fence to the back yard. We didn’t find anything or anyone once we got back there. So we circle around a few more houses just to make sure someone didn’t get hurt in the area.

Once we get back to the front of the original house, the back ups had arrived and we made contact with an older guy on the front screened in porch. He was sitting in a chair with his arm up on a small table to his side. We notice that right next to his arm is a loaded 44 magnum revolver. We draw on him and start giving him commands, and he throws obscenities at us. We can’t get to him because he’s inside of this porch.

He gets up and walks inside of his house. We all retreat to cover positions. About 20 seconds later, he opens the door with a rifle in his hand and shoots at one of us.

You can probably fill in the rest. There were 8 of us there.

4. You gotta love people.

Now I wasn’t giving out tickets for much of my service and my specialty was never giving out tickets, but the most inappropriate thing people regularly did was to nominate someone as a great mate who who get them out of the ticket and make my life heck, if I didn’t withdraw the ticket immediately.

These proclamations usually went something like this:

  • Chap:”I know so-an-so and once he finds out what you’ve done your life will be heck unless you take this ticket back.”
  • Me:”Yeah, I known so-and-so for 5 years (followed sotto voce) and I in all of my dealings with him I’ve only ever thought of him as an utter arsehole. (normal voice) Here’ your penalty notice sir (explain how to pay).”

Afterwards I usually speak to the officer whose good standing is being abused.

Once, though, one chap said, “I know Sergeant Savage and once he finds out what you’ve done he’ll make your life hell unless you take this ticket back.” Me:”Yeah, I known Savage for ages and my life is pretty much heck anyway. Do your best sir, here’ your penalty notice (explain how to pay the penalty notice:”

I mean?!? how dumb was this dude!?!? I was wearing a badge with my name printed on it. I’d never see the driver before or since.

3. Sounds like quite a party.

Forth of July, we get a noise complaint. Big crackdown on fireworks at the time so we had to respond to every one of these calls.

Get there and find a family having a party and setting off fireworks in the street. Give them a warning and leave. Call comes in again within an hour, go back and give another warning

This happens again before, on the fourth call, a supervisor comes too. He gets to the door prepared to give the homeowner a summons. Instead, the wife slams the door on his leg. That’s when all hell breaks loose.

He calls for the wife and husband to be taken in but before anyone gets cuffed, the entire party (over 40 people) start streaming out of the house and a full brawl ensues. Someone calls 10-13 (radio code for all units) and the entire precinct responds.

It takes almost an hour to wrangle everyone up and 30 people got locked up.

2. She probably doesn’t agree.

I stopped a woman with three kids in the back one Sunday morning on her way to church, or so she said.

I asked for her license and registration and proof of insurance and she said it was in her purse in the backseat.

OK, now she had on a pretty short skirt to begin with so instead of just reaching back and getting her purse, which she easily could have reached, or having one of the kids hand it to her, she unbuckles her seat belt, turns around in the seat, and bends over the back of the seat.

Now everything was on full display and she knew exactly what she was doing and so did I.

She got the ticket and I got the show. A win/win if you ask me.

1. A slow response.

Called in to the location station about a alarm going off on the apartment next door. They said if it was fire the fire trucks would arrive.

It was going off for 2 hours so I went and checked it out. It was a pump alarm so I was an annoying person and kept calling the station until some one came out.

Officers make the fire people come. Turns out a small electrical fire that taken the whole system off line and was still smoldering.

The building had serious wiring and fire suppression issues.

I’d hate to think what would of happened if I wasn’t a pain in the neck.

I’m telling you, any job that involves dealing with the public is going to have these days!

If you’re an officer, did and of these sound familiar? Let us know in the comments what you could consider your own worst day!

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People Admit Why They Stopped Going to Church

I haven’t been to church in a long time. Many years, actually.

I grew up in a Catholic household and I didn’t have a choice whether I was gonna go on Sunday or not: it was a requirement.

But I eventually just stopped going after I became an adult…and I don’t think I’ll ever go back. I guess it’s just not for me…

AskReddit users talked about why they stopped going to church.

Let’s see what they had to say.

1. Can’t make it.

“My father lost his job and the only work he could get involved travel, which meant he couldn’t make the Sunday service. Even though my parents gave to the church monthly, all the support we got was ‘prayers that he found a job closer to home’.

As a teen I was also asked by church elders why father thought making money for his family was more important than attending the church.”

2. Very awkward.

“I moved to a new city for university and was doing a bit of church hopping with a religious roommate to see if we could find a church we liked.

At one of the churches I had a “once you see it, you can’t unsee it” moment where I suddenly thought… this is a cult. The church we went to was a really boisterous hallelujah type place and it was very overwhelming so I had gone to the bathroom to try and avoid a full blown panic attack.

When I was in there a few ladies crowded me and were saying I should take the panic as a sign that the Lord was flowing through me. Like… no this is anxiety, it’s a physiological thing.

They really, earnestly believed that I was being touched by Jesus and I couldn’t help but feel like they were brainwashed. It was so awkward and off-putting I lost my faith and haven’t really gone back since.”

3. Bad experience.

“The priest I confessed my sins to was a kiddie diddler and fled the country.My sins were hella tame compared to whatever he had going on behind the scenes.

I didn’t feel cleansed. I couldn’t in good conscience be associated with a religion who refused to protect its own children.

So those hypocritical sickos can all f**k off.”

4. Scandalous.

“My spouse was raised catholic, she’d go to church at least once or twice a month, and would feel guilty if we didn’t go for longer than a month.

Then the scandals happened and she’s had zero interest. She still has her faith in God and Jesus, but has none in religion as an institution.

Which is pretty much where I always was.”

5. Not into the teachings.

“I started to realize the teachings of the church weren’t Biblical. Every Sunday the pastor would talk about righteousness that was really nationalism, and being free from those who are filled with sin, but very specific sin.

We had divorcees in the church and overt racists, but not gay people or former inmates. There were teachings of love, but it was very clear that love was only meant for certain people.”

6. Wasn’t accepted.

“I never felt truly accepted. Everyone was super friendly but it seemed that I couldn’t be accepted in their bubble.

I also felt I didn’t need to go to church to be a religious person. I’ve also been bullied in a church retreat when I was in grade school.”

7. Words of wisdom.

““You don’t need the church to be faithful to god, your body is the church. As long as you to talk to god on your own time and it’s genuine you’ll be fine.

Besides, the church is only there to collect money but when you need money for rent, food, clothes or anything else they’ll tell you ‘it’s god will.’ F**k those thieves.”

My grandmother.”

8. No evidence.

“The moment I realized that in the absence of miracles the proof of Christianity is supposed to be in the lives of those who follow it.

The avg person I saw in church generally was no better than the avg non believer.

So where is the evidence of there being anything to it?”

9. Rather be elsewhere.

“I’d rather spend my Sunday mornings elsewhere.

I also had a hard time the first Sunday after the 2016 election. The person reciting the “prayer needs” said something about the “new era” and I was not a fan of how they said it.

Made me realize that I wasn’t sure I was in the right place anymore.”

10. Messed up.

“My church growing up was kinda messed up. Southern Baptist.

We brought an African American friend to Wednesday night “youth group” and the youth pastor took him aside, told him to leave, and asked him not to come back. That’s just a tidbit into how things operated there.

In college, I just didn’t have time and was kinda turned off from my childhood experience.

I moved out of the south and was invited to a more progressive church by some friends from work. I went but the ritualistic aspects of it—singing, reciting scripture, standing, sitting (I guess bc I was away for ten years) just felt creepy. Also, the people there seemed fake and it felt more like a yuppie social club.

I still consider myself a Christian but have my own personal sense of spirituality and religion. The externalizing of it just feels weird and full of pretense to me.”

11. Toxic environment.

“Because it was a toxic environment full of people who thought they were better than everybody else because they went to church every Sunday.

Despite the fact that they’d beat their wives, get drunk and abuse their children, lie, cheat, and steal. It drove me away from religion all together. Now what’s going on with my brother’s church only reinforces my position.

They’re so quick to preach love and kindness but don’t bother to actually be loving and kind unless it benefits them in some way.”

12. Lots of reasons.

“I hated having some preach AT me telling me my role in life according to the Bible.

I decided I didn’t want someone determining my relationship with God and what it should be.

I got tired of people believing their interpretation of the Bible was the only correct one.

I don’t think it’s a great idea to base morals solely on THE most edited book in all of history.

There are a lot of churches with big scandals like stealing from parishioners, or just being downright super controlling.

It feels like a lot of churches (people too) use the Bible/religion as an excuse to spread hate.

I feel like all religions have something to teach us and are just as valid as the current mainstream ones.

Anything they don’t agree with is, ” the work of Satan” while everything else is either God’s will/test.

Cherry picking what they want out of the Bible.

There are more nit picky reasons, but those are the main ones.”

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Woman Asks if She’s Wrong For Wearing White as the Maid of Honor

I know I’m preaching to the choir, but I’m just gonna tell you one more time: it’s probably not a great idea to mess with a woman on their wedding day…or in the months leading up to it.

Just trust us on this one, okay?

But, people are gonna be people and this woman made what some folks would consider to be a huge error in judgment…or maybe not…

Check out this story from the “Am I The A**hole?” page on Reddit.

AITA for wearing white as Maid of Honor while my friend is “the Bride”?

“My best friend Joy (28F) is getting married next year to her long time partner. Recently she started wedding planning and asked me (29F) to be her maid of honor—we have been friends for nearly 20 years and needless to say I was super excited.

Joy has started planning, and it’s been incredibly stressful for her. I have tried my best to be as supportive and helpful where I can, going above and beyond (daily discussions, fielding unwieldy family members, acting a buffer sometimes). I am prefacing with this because the next part is frankly bonkers and I am having trouble processing.

Last Sunday, Joy and I met with some of our friends for lunch (we are all vaccinated at this point). Since it was the first time seeing friends in a while and we were going to a nice restaurant, I decided to dress up a little.

It was pretty hot over the weekend so I opted to wear an old, white linen dress to our gathering (one I have worn many times). I thought everything was totally fine, but I noticed Joy giving me strange looks at lunch and only talking in short responses with me. I brushed it off as stress and when we got up to say goodbye, Joy left in a rush.

When I got home, I was had a bunch of angry texts from Joy saying she was disappointed in me and couldn’t believe I would try to “dull her shine during this special time”. I was confused asked her to elaborate. Apparently she was furious that I had dared to wear white while she was the bride to be.

I was FLOORED. I apologized (kind of) stating that I was sorry she was so upset, but that I wasn’t sure how my wearing white to a casual friends hang was a slight on her being a bride, nor how it was taking attention away from her. She flipped out and called me all sorts of names, and said she has no idea how she could have picked such an unsupportive and attention-grabbing MOH.

I snapped a little and told her that while I respected she was getting married, that did not entitle her on a monopoly on the color white and that while her wedding was the most important thing going on in her life, it was not the most important thing going on in other peoples lives.

Now I am aware that a bride generally wears white to wedding related events and the guests should not, but this brunch was not wedding related in the slightest. I feel especially sad since I feel that I have gone out of my way to help, and our past friendship has been very calm and loving.

My friends are generally supportive of me (a few think I should have somehow had the foresight to see this—apparently psychic abilities are another MOH requirement I missed) but think I should just try to make peace since she is clearly under a lot of stress. I do feel a bit bad, especially about the comment about her wedding not being the most important thing in my life, but am not budging.

AITA?”

Oh, my…

Let’s see what folks on Reddit had to say about this.

This person said that, given the circumstances, this woman is not acting like a jerk.

At all.

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Another reader said this is really a no-win situation for the woman and that she should just walk away.

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This Reddit user said she should give the bride a chance to apologize and if she doesn’t, maybe it’s time to walk away.

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And lastly, this person argued that the bride here is probably so overwhelmed with the planning of her wedding that she’s not really aware of how her behavior is affecting other people.

Good point.

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Woman Asks if She’s Wrong For Wearing White as the Maid of Honor

I know I’m preaching to the choir, but I’m just gonna tell you one more time: it’s probably not a great idea to mess with a woman on their wedding day…or in the months leading up to it.

Just trust us on this one, okay?

But, people are gonna be people and this woman made what some folks would consider to be a huge error in judgment…or maybe not…

Check out this story from the “Am I The A**hole?” page on Reddit.

AITA for wearing white as Maid of Honor while my friend is “the Bride”?

“My best friend Joy (28F) is getting married next year to her long time partner. Recently she started wedding planning and asked me (29F) to be her maid of honor—we have been friends for nearly 20 years and needless to say I was super excited.

Joy has started planning, and it’s been incredibly stressful for her. I have tried my best to be as supportive and helpful where I can, going above and beyond (daily discussions, fielding unwieldy family members, acting a buffer sometimes). I am prefacing with this because the next part is frankly bonkers and I am having trouble processing.

Last Sunday, Joy and I met with some of our friends for lunch (we are all vaccinated at this point). Since it was the first time seeing friends in a while and we were going to a nice restaurant, I decided to dress up a little.

It was pretty hot over the weekend so I opted to wear an old, white linen dress to our gathering (one I have worn many times). I thought everything was totally fine, but I noticed Joy giving me strange looks at lunch and only talking in short responses with me. I brushed it off as stress and when we got up to say goodbye, Joy left in a rush.

When I got home, I was had a bunch of angry texts from Joy saying she was disappointed in me and couldn’t believe I would try to “dull her shine during this special time”. I was confused asked her to elaborate. Apparently she was furious that I had dared to wear white while she was the bride to be.

I was FLOORED. I apologized (kind of) stating that I was sorry she was so upset, but that I wasn’t sure how my wearing white to a casual friends hang was a slight on her being a bride, nor how it was taking attention away from her. She flipped out and called me all sorts of names, and said she has no idea how she could have picked such an unsupportive and attention-grabbing MOH.

I snapped a little and told her that while I respected she was getting married, that did not entitle her on a monopoly on the color white and that while her wedding was the most important thing going on in her life, it was not the most important thing going on in other peoples lives.

Now I am aware that a bride generally wears white to wedding related events and the guests should not, but this brunch was not wedding related in the slightest. I feel especially sad since I feel that I have gone out of my way to help, and our past friendship has been very calm and loving.

My friends are generally supportive of me (a few think I should have somehow had the foresight to see this—apparently psychic abilities are another MOH requirement I missed) but think I should just try to make peace since she is clearly under a lot of stress. I do feel a bit bad, especially about the comment about her wedding not being the most important thing in my life, but am not budging.

AITA?”

Oh, my…

Let’s see what folks on Reddit had to say about this.

This person said that, given the circumstances, this woman is not acting like a jerk.

At all.

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Another reader said this is really a no-win situation for the woman and that she should just walk away.

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This Reddit user said she should give the bride a chance to apologize and if she doesn’t, maybe it’s time to walk away.

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And lastly, this person argued that the bride here is probably so overwhelmed with the planning of her wedding that she’s not really aware of how her behavior is affecting other people.

Good point.

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This Guy Made His Wife Choose Between Him and Her Best Friend. Is He a Jerk?

If you’re in a relationship, you know that there are certain people who can make your life…challenging.

And a man found himself in a complicated situation when he demanded that his own wife choose between him and her best friend.

Talk about picking a side, huh?

Read on to see what happened.

AITA For making my wife choose between me and her best friend?

“I (M 36) am preparing for my upcoming surgery at the end of May.

I have respiratory condition that I have been suffering from and my wife has been very supportive and accommodating of all my needs. She has endured so much by shouldering this burden with me and I can never describe how much supportive she’s been with everything that has been going on with me.

The problem is that her best friend’s wedding is at the end of may, specifically on the 27th and my surgery takes place the exact same date. Now 27th was not the original date of her friend’s wedding it was supposed to be on may 18th but got changed. Her friend informed us about it on short notice. And my wife wanted to go but it’s a 8_hour trip since the wedding will be held in the groom’s hometown.

My wife and I discussed this, and I bluntly told her I needed her there for my surgery. She told me that that’s her best friend and this will hopefully be her only wedding and she wanted to attend.

She asked if I could get a friend as my support but I just didn’t think this was right I was even puzzled that she asked me to get a substitute while she goes to her friend’s wedding. I asked if her friend’s wedding was more important than my health.

She argued that there was nothing wrong with it and I won’t need her since the medical team will take care of me. Then She said that by refusing I was making her choose betwen me and her best friend. We went back n’ forth on this argument and she insisted she wants to attend her friend’s wedding.

I told her she was being unreasonable and I never expected her to prioritize a wedding over my health. She loudly yelled “what do you want me to do?, I might lose my friend over this” then stopped talking to me.

I think I handled this badly and acted in ungrateful manner but I think she’s the one who doesn’t understand the difference since my surgery is an emergency and if her best friend is a good friend then she’d understand, right?.

So am I wrong for what I said?”

Now it’s time to take a look at what Reddit users think of this story.

This reader said that the wife needs to be there for him during his surgery. No questions asked.

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Another reader said not only would she not be there, but she’d also be really far away.

Unacceptable!

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This individual posed a good question: how would the wife even be able to enjoy herself if she knew her husband was going through that kind of surgery?

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Finally, this person had a different take and said that the wife has been through a lot and that no one is an a**hole in this situation.

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Is This Woman Wrong for Not Giving Her Late Wife’s Ring Back to Her Family? Here’s What People Said.

I think that I’d be pretty eager to honor a friend or family member’s wishes after they passed away…even if it meant there would be some conflict…

And that’s exactly the situation a guy who shared his story on Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page finds himself in after honoring his late wife’s wishes.

Let’s take a look to see what transpired.

AITA for refusing to return my late wife’s ring to the family”

“I (F30) married my wife (F36) a year ago.

We had been together 6 years, married for 1 before she passed away. It has been a really rocky time for me and I am still struggling but getting there, day by day.

My wife had been close with her grandmother when she was growing up and when she passed away her grandmother left a beautiful ring which had been in the family for generations. My wife used this ring to propose to me and it also became my wedding ring.

I have worn it everyday since she gave it to me, and it is truly my most precious item from her. It feels like she is with me always and when I look at it, it brings my heart some happiness to remember our time together. My wife even spent money on the ring to get it restored as it had a few cosmetic faults, but by doing this it more or less doubled the value too.

It is very unique and shaped like a snake with a diamond in its head and rubies for the eyes, the diamond was cracked and the blue enamel needed repairing which she did before proposing.

My BIL has now decided to propose to his girlfriend and he wants to use the snake ring as their grandmother wanted the ring to be used as an engagement ring for when one of her grandchildren wanted to marry, a first come first serve situation, although, it was never really expected her granddaughter would be doing the proposing it was always assumed the boys would offer it to their gfs but my wife got there and did it first and that was that.

It was never really questioned either as my wife and she had been so close too. Nobody had any objections at the time as the ring was still within the family and neither of my BILs were anywhere near getting engaged.

I refused to give the ring back and now I have caused a huge rift with my family in law. My MIL and BILs are all calling me an AH as they want the ring to continue being part of their family and to be passed down in the generations as it was expected to.

I am distraught, my wife and I were not big sentimental gift givers and this is honestly the only thing she was truly proud to gift me, it was a huge deal for us and meant the world to both of us.

My family in law have also thrown in my face that the grandmother wouldn’t even have wanted me to have it since she was Russian and would very much be against a same s** couple.

This really hurts and feels like a low blow as although it’s definitely true I was accepted my my family in law. The grandmother had long been gone before I met my wife. They are now saying that it should go to the boys as she intended.

It’s all got really nasty and I just don’t know what to do. The family have even offered to buy the ring off me for the full value of the ring with the repairs but I refuse. It is the only thing I have of my wife and parting with it feels like the only piece I have left of my broken heart being taken away.

AITA?”

Wow…what a story.

Now let’s take a look at how folks on Reddit reacted.

This person said that widows aren’t expected to return their rings. Plain and simple.

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Another reader argued that the family is acting horribly in this situation and that the woman who wrote the post is, at the end of the day, the rightful owner of the ring whether they like it or not.

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Another Reddit user said that the woman’s late wife would undoubtedly be ashamed of her family for acting this way.

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And lastly, this reader said that the woman’s family is actually dishonoring their late daughter with their behavior.

I think I agree…

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This Mom Refuses to Eliminate Princess Things From Her Daughter’s Life. Is She Wrong?

Some kids just don’t want to grow out of their princess phase, huh?

But who thought it would lead to conflict within a family?

Hey, people are weird! But I’m sure you already know that…

Take a look at this interesting story from Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page and keep reading to see how people reacted.

AITA for refusing to eliminate Princess stuff from my daughter’s life

“I’ll probably get judged for all this but I’m pregnant with a guy I’m not dating. He’s nice and wants to be there for the kid so we are on friendly terms. So far, we’ve had no issues until I met his parents.

I met them on Saturday, everything was going great until baby shower talk came up. I was talking about the theme and his mom said “Son, did you tell her about the Princess thing?”

He didn’t. Apparently his brother has a daughter from another relationship named Princess that he’s not allowed to see. It’s a sore subject for him and he lives with the grandparents so he’s around often. They have requested that we don’t do any themed events, buy any clothes, decorations, etc with the word “Princess” on them. It’s just “too hard” for the brother.

I may be the a**hole here because I don’t even have strong urges towards Princess stuff. Much prefer soup colored baby rompers. That said, I’m incredibly annoyed at this request and told them absolutely not—if I see something cute that says Princess or my kid wants Princess stuff, I will buy it. This upset his parents and started saying “really? You’d rather cause someone pain than put down a d**n Princess shirt?”

I’m not trying to cause pain but expecting me to restrict Princess from all things sounds completely unreasonable to me. I’m not particularly girly but even I went through a Princess phase and l love the children’s books “Fancy Nancy” so I’m sure I’m bound to stumble on some Princess stuff.

This is why the brother can’t see the kid: He gave up his rights so the kids step dad could adopt her and he’d be relieved of child support payments. They promised he’d still get to see the kid. After all was said and done they stopped letting him see her.

My baby’s dad believes he could see her if his brother put in effort but he doesn’t and just sulks about it instead.”

Okay, now it’s time to dig into the responses from folks on Reddit.

This reader argued that there is a middle ground that can be worked out here.

Let’s hope so…

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Another person said that something with the family just seems a little strange and maybe the family shouldn’t be trusted.

Just a thought…

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This Reddit user stated the obvious (at least in my opinion): everyone now has to avoid princess stuff because of this?

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And finally, this reader thinks that this really doesn’t even need to an issue if they’re not going to be seeing each all that much anyway.

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Was This Guy Wrong for Not Telling Friend That His Sister Has an OnlyF Page?

I think that it would be pretty weird to have this kind of information about a friend’s sister and NOT tell them, but that’s just me.

I’m talking about OF pages, where people pay to see revealing photos and videos of people.

Hey, we all gotta make money, right?

But the guy in this story is in hot water for not telling his friend that the guy’s sister had an OF page…let’s see what went down.

AITA for not telling my mate his sister has an Only Fans?

“Me[22m] and my mate[22m] have been mates since we were kids and have always been real tight.

We’re pretty open with each other and there aren’t any secrets in our friendship up until now. Not gonna lie, he’s the golden child of his family and recieves a bunch of support from his parents. His sister is 21f and she cops it bad. They treat her like s**t. Her and I get along well, she’s like the annoying little sister but we’re cool and get along.

About a month ago ago I was on OF because reasons. I came across a profile and clicked on it. Didn’t recognise the name or anything but when I looked at the pics I saw a tattoo I DID recognise that belonged to my mate’s sister “Belle”. There were also other identifying features.

I s**t myself and instantly clicked off the profile. She’s got a fake name on there but there were a few things that identified her. I never would’ve clicked on her profile if I’d known it was her and I wanted to I guess respect her right to be anonymous on the website. I thought about things for a few days and eventually messaged her the following with the intention of helping her out:

“Hey (Belle), this is really awkward for me and I hope you understand that I’m coming from a place of concern rather than anything else. I came across your OF the other day when at first I didn’t know it was you. I clicked off once I realised.

Just a heads up, I could identify you from your tattoos and (other detail) and I’d hate for your anonymity to be compromised if you continue to post since you have a fake name and all.

I’d suggest blurring out these features but if you’re not bothered by this then keep doing what you’re doing, just thought I’d touch base to be safe. I hope you’re doing well and again, I hope you understand that I’m just looking out for your safety. See you soon!”

She replied and was thankful that I pointed that out. She thought her tattoos and other features weren’t unique enough to identify her and she told me that she’ll make a change change. I saw her a couple days later at a party and she gave me a hug and things are back to normal.

Fast forward, somebody else identified her and had been collecting images from before I messaged her up until now. They sent them to her parents. Nobody knows who this person is,they remained anonymous.

Belle’s parents ripped into her and my mate went on a huge rant on Facebook, calling her all kinds of names. I didn’t comment anything other than, “You need to loosen up, mate” but a lot of our friends are on his side saying that they’d be ashamed if she was their girl.

He came over for a few drinks and began to unload on me. I didn’t really react and just kept telling him to calm down. He asked why I wasn’t so surprised and I shrugged and said that a lot of girls have OF now and that it’s no big deal. Eventually it came out that I knew. I know I should’ve kept my mouth shut, but he was suspicious that I kept defending a ‘s**t’.

My mates have booted me out of the group chat now and say that I broke bro code.”

Oh, boy…now it’s time to see how folks reacted on Reddit.

This reader said that the guy didn’t do anything wrong…but whoever sent those pics to her parents is a big-time jerk.

No doubt about that…

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Another Reddit user made a good point: no one should ever call their sister that dreaded S word.

I can’t even imagine…

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Another person made a great point: this guy isn’t concerned about his sister, he’s worried about his own image.

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Lastly, this individual talked about how strange the reactions from the brother and the parents were and how they had a hard time relating to people like that.

Amen!

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This Mom Refuses to Throw Her Daughter’s Ex Out. Is She a Jerk?

Family relationships sure are complicated

And we’re about to hear a story that has an unusual twist when it comes to parent-child relationships.

A mother shared a story about a sticky situation she’s now in with her daughter and her ex-boyfriend.

Read on to see what happened.

AITA for refusing to throw my daughter’s ex out?

“My husband (48M), “Tom” and I (42F) have 3 kids. About 3 1/2 years ago our oldest “Taylor” (17F) started dating Rob (19M). I know they were young but Rob is a really nice kid and treated my daughter well.

right after they met Rob’s parents got divorced. As a result of this, his dad moved to the other side of the country and his mother began to struggle with mental health. his 2 younger siblings went to live with grandparents but they did not have room for Rob so he was going to go to live with his dad. He was devastated to leave his hometown, Taylor, and his friends.

Taylor and Rob asked us if Rob could move into our in-law apartment. We spoke with Taylor privately and asked if Rob was pressuring her into allowing him to move in and she said no it was her idea.

We also told her to think really hard about it because once we agreed to take him in, we would be responsible for him and that would mean he would be staying as long as he needed. She thought about it for a few days and then said it would be okay no matter what.

She is usually a level-headed kid so we thought we had made the consequences of this decision clear. We thought it over for a bit and after setting some ground rules agreed to allow him to live in the apartment.

The apartment is a fully separate unit with its own utilities and kitchen, bathroom. The unit is separate but does have hotel-style adjoining rooms set of doors. We decided not to charge Rob any rent or utilities in exchange for following a certain set of rules.

In the beginning, Rob was not allowed to have guests to the apartment, including Taylor. We did not let him set up the living space and instead they would have to use the main part of the house to hang out together. Rob was always welcome to have meals with us and we treated him like another member of our family.

Rob is now finishing up his first year of a local college and Taylor is a senior in high school. 5 months ago Taylor and Rob broke up and she starting dating “Joe” (18M) almost immediately. Since the breakup, Rob usually stays in his place and only occasionally comes over to help my husband with various household chores.

A week ago Taylor came to us and told us that Rob’s presence is making Joe uncomfortable and that we need to ask him to leave. We said no to kicking him out but we said we would set up some new rules that would make everyone more comfortable.

We said that from now on Rob would use the living space in the apartment and would have to call before coming over. Taylor said Joe is still unhappy about this and the only thing that will make him happy is for Rob to be gone.

I might be TA because I told Taylor that this was obviously between her and her boyfriend and the solution is not tossing someone out on the street.

She got even more upset with me and said I was ruining her senior year and she might end up dateless for prom if Joe breaks up with her.”

Now this sounds like a sticky situation to me…let’s see how people responded.

This reader doesn’t think the woman has done anything wrong, but they opined that maybe the kid should have more access to the common spaces in the home.

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This reader said that the daughter is worked up because of her new boyfriend, not because of the living situation.

And they added that the daughter just isn’t acting rationally.

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Another individual said that the family is helping this poor kid out and agreements so made. So it looks like Rob isn’t going anywhere.

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Finally, this reader could relate to Rob’s situation because she went through some similar things when she was a teenager.

She has a lot of good advice for this family regarding their situation.

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