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What’s Not a Cult but Seems Like One? People Spoke Up.

There are quite a few things out there that really do seem…well…culty, for lack of a better word.

And I’m talking about things that are definitely not considered cults…at least not yet…but hey, there’s always time!

What’s not a cult but really seems like one?

AskReddit users shared their thoughts on this subject.

1. The Order.

“In the Boy Scouts of America, there’s an honor society called the Order of the Arrow.

Just the name even sounds like one.”

2. Sell, sell, sell!

“Sales.

Anyone who’s been in sales knows there’s the weird sports/military vibe and it’s all about being all in on a product you barely understand. Also you’ll find weird acolytes of Grant Cardone, Tony Robbins, and all sorts of cheap self-help gurus that spew irresponsible levels of optimism that are supposed to hypnotize you into success.

In the end it just serves your corporate overlord because they exploit your optimism, then throw an endless supply of these bright-eyed (and often under trained) applicants through the grinder.

So yeah. Not a cult. But lots of cult elements.”

3. Interesting…

“Primerica.

Everything about it is “Does this improve your business?” I mean, it is to the point of “Who cares if the Earth revolves around the sun? Does that knowledge improve your business?” Your family, friends, S.O., if they aren’t a member, you shouldn’t spend your time with them.

Don’t have hobbies because they only distract you from your business. Having to watch what you say around them. Is there some big thing going on? Buy tickets for it, make sure you show up to it, buy as many tickets as you can, sell them to your downline, your friends, your family, go back and buy more tickets from your upline and keep selling them.

Big event out of state? Do all you can to make sure you are there. Don’t have the money? Sell your television, your video games, your collectibles, your family heirlooms, everything you have because it’s only a distraction and not as important as showing up to these events.

These events are only you sitting down in a room listening to company millionaires tell you how great the company is.

Leaving the company? Shunned. I have a friendship with a couple of former Primerica people. Those still in it refuse to admit that I exist.

Working on a book about my time there. Names are changed to avoid trouble.”

4. Gross.

“Kids sports in general.

I’ve seen parents curse out umpires in tee ball games. Parents rig teams in city run leagues so their kids are on better teams.

Every parent thinks they have the next LeBron James, Peyton Manning, or Bryce Harper. It’s ridiculous.”

5. GOOP.

“Gwyneth Paltrow and her goop psychopaths. B**ch is an absolute loon.

Now you could say she’s a genius for what she’s done but in a documentary about her and her “work” it’s like she’s oblivious to what she’s created and thinks it’s because she’s actually smart and a credited scientist. Idk how to explain it really but she hired someone to follow her around and throw fake compliments to her that are totally back handed.

It’s funny when you watch this thing. I cringed the whole time and said what the f**k a million times.”

6. Culty.

“Herbalife.

Somebody tried to convince me at gym to try it and I explicitly said no.

Those people are crazy.

Won’t leave you alone and get their entire families involved in it.”

7. Join us…

“My girlfriend is in a sorority and its insanely cult-like.

They have secret handshakes and songs that she refuses to show me, claiming “we all swore an oath” or something.

I tell her that I promise you some of your sisters have definitely told their boyfriends/other friends whatever secrets y’all have going on and it’s not that serious, but she is undeterred.”

8. Agreed!

“The American obsession with political parties.

As a non-American, idolizing your politicians and voting based on party and not policy is just weird to me.”

9. AA.

“Al**holics Anonymous.

Essentially encourages you to cut drinkers out of your life and members tell newcomers “we’re your new friends now”.

You hand over control of your life to a “higher power” but in truth you hand it over to the group and your sponsor.”

10. Escaped.

“Marathon runners.

The obsession, the way it governs your life — getting enough sleep, early nights on the weekend for long training runs, talking about it incessantly, etc.

Ex-marathon runner. I escaped the cult!”

11. He has a huge audience.

“Joe Rogan listeners.

I’ve expressed this out loud to groups of folks, some of which listen to Rogan.

The cultish vibe of it put me off to listening to his show a while back….and apparently now he’s irritating folks with Covid related stuff so I just don’t see myself ever listening to it.

The cult makes me feel like if I don’t want to try DMT I haven’t lived a full life. Like….what the f**k? Really?”

12. Definitely.

“Fox News.

They keep dropping bits into sentences like “you’re not one of THEM are you?”

Very culty behavior.”

13. Always seemed weird to me.

“Disney worship.

As much as I like some of their stuff, I can’t fathom why people get so rabid defending them. To me they’re just a corporation that makes entertainment but others… it’s a way of life and it blows my mind when you run across someone that’ll start cursing you out for criticizing anything the company does.

The same goes for their work culture in the theme parks. Never worked there myself, but from the friends I have that did, they talk about the whole experience as some bizarre fever dream of constantly having to smile, forced to sing songs during meetings, never allowed to break character, all so as not to shatter the illusion that it’s the happiest place in earth.”

Do you think some things seem like cults even though they officially aren’t?

Talk to us in the comments.

Please and thank you!

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People Share Their Favorite Meals That Take Less Than 5 Minutes to Make

I have two meals that I can make in a jiffy when I’m short on time.

One is a black bean and cheese quesadilla with a little dollop of sour cream on the side. And the other is a can of tuna fish with mayo, Crystal hot sauce, and a diced hard-boiled egg all mixed in.

Boom! Feel free to use those, brothers and sisters.

AskReddit users shared their favorite quick and easy meals.

Hopefully you’ll get some good ideas!

1. Boom!

“Oatmeal with a nut butter mixed in while it’s still hot .

Add fruit/crushed nuts too!

Good s**t.”

2. From Grandma.

“A very simple recipe my grandma prepared for me when I was a kid.

It’s basically scrambled eggs…but before adding the egg she would cook sweetcorn (from a can) with a little bit of butter, add the eggs and then when the eggs were almost ready, add small cubes of cheese and cook for a minute or until the cheese start to melt(she was using fontal, but any swiss or white cheddar will do). Just a little black pepper and salt.

Takes 5 minutes to do but it’s absolutely delicious, fill you up, not so unhealthy and I feel my late grandma with me.

I tried variations with chives or spring onions, paprika or other stuff. Still good but nothing as good as a simple “uova strapazzate con mais e formaggio”.”

3. Gotta love it.

“Naan bread and a tub of hummus.

Hummus is such an underrated food. It goes well with a lot of veggies and breads and chips or heck even cheese.

All the time I hear hummus being listed as one of those weird, gross foods when its actually an amazing snack, or a meal if done correctly.

It’s not really unhealthy, either, especially if eaten with veggies (celery and carrots go great with hummus).”

4. Yum!

“Tomato soup and add tortellini.

I like the spinach ones from Trader Joe’s and progreso creamy tomato with basil.

It really makes a decent meal.”

5. I might try this…

“Microwave dumpling soup.

Pick a broth, add (insert Asian dumpling here; mandu are good, but gyoza or wonton work too), add a fistful of fresh greens (spinach, arugula, cabbage, literally whatever you have on hand). Add hot sauce if you want it, a splash of soy if you have it, whatever you like in your broth.

Microwave three minutes; beat an egg while you do. Remove the soup from the microwave and drizzle in the egg very slowly. Congrats, you’ve hit most major dietary requirements and made a satisfying meal that’s as filling as you want it to be.

Peak tier for me is beef broth, a splash of dashi, a splash of soy sauce, a splash of mirin, a big spoon of sambal olek, about four or five mid-sized Chinese beef and vegetable dumplings, a fistful of baby spinach, and an egg.

Sometimes you have to microwave again for a minute if the egg ribbons don’t set.”

6. It’ll last!

“I like to buy a rotisserie chicken and use it for a lot of things…I probably make Quesadillas 2-3 times a week. A little roast chicken and salsa to your cheese quesadilla and you have a real meal in the same amount of time.

The trick is to use butter in the pan and to cook it on medium-low until the insides get melty, and then raise the heat to medium and get your desired tortilla crispness.”

7. I love these!

“Butter slice of toast

Rip circle shaped hole in middle of toast

Put toast in frying pan

Crack egg and put in the hole

Flip it after a bit

Eat “birds in the nest”.”

8. An old classic.

“Grilled cheese and tomato soup. Put tomato soup can in pot on low.

Add in equal amount of milk to soup(1 can of soup= 1 soup can of milk).

Cook grilled cheese as desired and enjoy!”

9. Sounds exotic!

“Ramen, picante beef hopefully, and several big drops of sesame oil.

Save some of the noodles w/o cooking them and sprinkle them on top.”

10. Something to think about.

“The high protein campbells soups with some buttered toast is a great hot meal ready in 3 min though.

Or oatmeal made with milk and peanut butter.

OR, budget allowing, cottage cheese/yogurt with fruit and toppings, yum.”

11. Do it!

“Tuna melt.

I once read a food critic saying that professional chefs all think that tuna and cheese should never ever go together but if you sit in a diner late at night when all the chefs have long finished service and had a few drinks, they’re all eating tuna melts.

It’s the ultimate sandwich for me.”

12. Late night delight.

“San Choy Bao

Get some pork mince (or beef) crumble it into a hot wok with either vegetable oil or sesame oil and let it stir fry.

Meanwhile chop a red onion, a chili and some peanuts if you have them add them to the wok and continue to cook, mix in some soy sauce or oyster sauce or hosin sauce, whatever you have.

And then eat in lettuce leafs

It might take more than 5 minutes, but won’t take more than 6-7 minutes and its a bloody good meal, you want it to be fairly crunchy so dont need to worry too much about cooking out the onion and pork mince cooks very quickly.

Its my go too meal if i get back late from work.”

13. Pile it on.

“3 bread slice club sandwich.

It makes me so happy.

I do salami, Turkey, ham 2 slices of cheddar cheese, mayo on all 3 slices, shredded lettuce and pepper.”

14. You don’t even need a plate!

“Sharp cheddar in a sourdough sandwich, microwaved to warm the bread and just start the cheese melting.

Eaten over the sink. Why waste a plate?”

15. Ramen and egg.

“Ramen and an egg, but not the traditional way.

Boil roughly half an inch of water (we want just enough water to boil the noodles, with very little water left over when it’s done boiling)

Smash up the ramen noodles, while still in the package (optional but cooks MUCH faster)

Open the package and remove the seasoning

Dump the noodles in

While boiling, crack an egg and whisk in a small bowl

Noodles should be done and almost all the water should be gone, if not strain out some.

Remove from the heat.

Slowly pour in the egg while mixing very quickly, try not to let the egg touch the pan.

Mix as much of the seasoning packet as you like (I prefer 1/2 – 3/4 because I usually add a salty component at the end.)

Add to bowl and top with some chives, thinly sliced, ripped up ham/salami and/or parsley. Leftover bacon or pancetta are fantastic crunchy components to dial up the texture.”

How about you?

What are your favorite quick and easy meals to make?

Talk to us in the comments!

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What Social Trend Annoys You the Most? People Spoke Up.

I really do enjoy some things about social media, BUT there’s no denying that there are some really annoying aspects about it.

Like influencers.

And people dancing in their kitchens for no reason.

And there are a whole bunch of other ones I can’t think I’m right now because I’m starting to get upset…

AskReddit users discussed the modern social trends that really annoy them.

Let’s see what they had to say.

1. Ugh.

“Family vloggers horrify me. The concept of exploiting your children’s lives for views is particularly awful.

And because it’s a relatively new concept there are no real laws around child labor or exploitation concerning it. There are youtubers out there right now who live in mansions worth millions of dollars that they got from shoving a camera in their toddler’s face and demanding them to perform for strangers.

I can’t even imagine the psychological repercussions this will have on these kids in the future.”

2. It’s true.

“Everyone has a right to have a voice on the internet but not everyone deserves a following / authority / influence.

Just because you paid off your car doesn’t mean you’re qualified to become a financial coach.”

3. Can I just buy this thing?

“You can’t just buy something now. Everything is a subscription.

First it was just Netflix, then it was dollar shave club. Now every TV channel is a separate subscription, every household item wants to send it to you over and over again. Nothing is released physically, so the only way to watch a movie or check out a new album is to pay someone monthly.

Services that were offered for free or one-time purchase are rescinded and now offered as subscriptions. It’s so obvious that everyone and everything just wants to milk you as long and for as much as possible. And people just buy into it willingly. I know people who spend like $200 a month on s**t that was free like, 10 years ago.

People are even offering themselves on a subscription base now. I can’t believe how cool everyone is with watching all their money disappear all the time.”

4. No privacy.

“In general, just the fact that people aren’t allowed to be private anymore.

All your devices hook up to the Internet. Your smartphone tracks you in God only knows how many different ways. Every business wants you to sign up for a rewards account, so they can harvest your contact details. Hell, even my PC and game consoles will rearrange my desktop just to show me advertisements.

And if that wasn’t enough, people give you strange looks when you tell them you have almost no social media presence: no Twitter, no Instagram, no Snapchat, no Facebook. Not to mention how people just get this confused look on their face whenever I get mad at them because they took a photo/video of me without my knowledge or consent and put it on their social media.

Honestly, it shocks me to see how little people care that privacy is disappearing.”

5. The answer is NO.

“Entitled social media influencers who contact businesses and practically demand free goods or services in exchange for exposure.”

6. Ugh.

“The “I’m going to disrespect my way to the top of the world” thing that Jake Paul is doing.”

7. Don’t answer that.

“Spontaneous facetime calls. I’m in my god**mn undies. Stop shoving cameras in my face.

And by that I actually mean when someone else nearby starts a facetime and assumes you want to be part of it.”

8. They’re not gods.

“Glorifying celebrities and treating them like gods.

I understand being a fan of someone, but you don’t have to create an entire livelihood around them or try to emulate them.

This is also how people get into positions of power when they shouldn’t be.”

9. I’m a great person!

“People recording themselves doing “charitable acts” like buying a meal or giving money to a homeless person.

I can assure you that person does NOT want their face all over social media so you can get clout for being a “good charitable person”.

Sure do a good thing like helping the less fortunate but you don’t need to record it and have their face all over social media.”

10. Not cool.

“Over-the-top pranks that involve staged violence or scaring passersby.

Seems like a surefire way to traumatize someone.

I have PTSD and it’s not fun.”

11. Too much work.

“Everyone on the internet requesting me to create an account with an email and password just to access a page.

No, Donny’s Discount Lawn Furniture, i don’t want to be part of your mailing list, or subscribe to your instagram or whatever else.

I just wanna check the price of a chair, and GTFO.”

12. Put the phone down.

“Driving while on a cell phone.

Driving has always been a little frustrating but now it’s gotten insane. My girlfriend and I can call out with at least 90% accuracy who is on their phone.

Abrupt Lane changes, 20mph under the speed limit, swerving, looking at phone and missing a green light for 5+ seconds, and – my personal pet peeve – stopping 50’ short of a light in a busy intersection during rush hour.

Not only is the use common, but the entitlement that comes with it is across the board. Someone waiting at a green light 5+ seconds, I do a short honk to alert them – they give me middle finger. Like, yeah, I’m the f**king idiot here (I can see you playing on your phone through your back windshield).

The other day I had a girl pull across two rows of parked cars in a lot and had to slam on my brakes to not smash into her. Instead of saying sorry, she got out of the car (still in the middle of the lane) while still on FaceTime to film me.

Like… it’s gotten so bad that I don’t see any real solution other than videoing all of these people/license plates and sending them to the local police.”

How about you?

What trends are you really not a big fan of?

Let us know what you think in the comments!

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This Person Got Revenge When Their Boss Demanded They Work Overtime for Free

You want me to do what, boss?

For free?!?!

In case you haven’t been paying attention, some employers out there like to do everything they can to take advantage of their workers.

And that includes asking them to work overtime for no pay.

Let’s see what happened in this story from Reddit.

You demand we work overtime for free? Enjoy trying to open the store with no employees.

“I’ve met Grumpy in Narcotics Anonymous. He volunteered there after they helped him and became my sponsor.

Seeing that I was trying to get my s**t together, he offered me my first job out of high school. Grumpy was the manager of a store for a company that sold everything you needed to build a house. From cement and bricks, to custom made cupboards. I started as a “loader”, filling the trucks that were making deliveries.

A little background for the company (it plays an important for later). When they started, back in the early 1980s, they sold everything you needed to build a brick and mortar home wholesale to professionals.

During their first expansion, they got a really good reputation for their prices of power tools, custom cupboards and landscaping (including custom made garden furnitures). The stores were basically big warehouses. In mid ’90s, they opened their doors to the general public, which accompanied by a rising tent of DIY, skyrocketed their sales.

That brought a second, smaller wave of expansion and the opening of the online store (first only with phone orders and later with a proper site). When I joined, they were doing a third shift on their business plan.

They had cut down on things that weren’t a big seller (like bricks and concrete) and were focusing more on the big sellers (custom made furniture, landscaping, tools and, for some weird reason, plumbing).

My first 8 months on the job was a dream. Grumpy was an excellent manager. Having started in the company roughly the same age I was and being promoted through the ranks, had developed a very distinct managerial style. His concept was simple: “if my employees are happy, they work better and provide better services, which leads to better sales”.

That meant that while Grumpy managed one of the inner city stores, meaning medium to small size compared to others, we were fourth in revenue nationwide and first in customer happiness.

And then the reason for his nickname stroke. While everyone called him Grumpy (a nickname he was kind of proud of), he was far from it. The reason was he had a medical condition that affected his nerves and had left him with a permanent frown on his face.

He had declined promotion due to that condition (knowing the extra stress would make his condition flair up, meaning he wouldn’t be as effective as he would like). His medical condition flaired up unexpectedly and Grumpy had to be hospitalized and be on sick leave for a time. HQ decided to not have one of Grumpy’s assistants be an Acting Manager for the duration, but bring in a regional manager to take over the store for the duration. Let’s call him Wilhelm.

Wilhelm was the exact opposite of Grumpy. He was younger than Grumpy (he was in his late 20s, Grumpy was in his late 30s), had a business degree and he hadn’t worked the floor at all.

He was hired from the beginning as an office drone and climbed his way to regional manager. The reason he was put in charge of our store had to do with the change of the business plan of the company.

You see, the change of focus had created a lot of empty space in the stores. A supermarket chain had approached the company with an offer to rent the empty space, especially for inner city stores.

The company had accepted and placed regional managers in key stores to help with integration. The thing is, the supermarket chain had a reputation of being bad employers. That was reinforced by one of our tellers, who had worked for them for three years before quitting to join us.

Wilhelm didn’t help also. His managerial style was based in only one concept: make more money in any way possible. He started by changing our schedule from monthly to weekly, raising the sales targets to unrealistic heights and always demanded more. In the first two weeks, six experienced people had left (four quitted and two fired) and replaced by young, inexperienced people that were easier to manipulate.

And then, the integration happened. The floor was the first to feel the problem. The supermarket opened its doors and was understaffed. Wilhelm started sending people over to “help” for four to six hours, while also demanding to work their regular shifts. If someone declined, he/she was written up. Two write ups in six months and you were fired.

Then Wilhelm came to “lay the law” in the loading bay. The loading bay was shared between the two stores. Wilhelm declared that we had first help the two guys of the supermarket unload their trucks first, because their products were “perishable”, and then started loading our own trucks.

That would throw our delivery schedule to the wind. The loading crew worked 05:00 to 13:00. We loaded first the trucks that had longer to travel, so they will be ready to leave at 07:00 at the latest (the company had a next day delivery policy for a 150 miles radius).

What Wilhelm declared meant we couldn’t start loading our trucks before 07:30 and they couldn’t start their route before 09:30. We said as much, but Wilhelm didn’t care. He said we had to do both jobs. When someone inquired about overtime, Wilhelm said no. He said we already made too much money with unsocial hours (05:00 to 08:00) and leaving “early”, so he wouldn’t approve overtime.

So, from a nice environment that you wanted to work for, we all started getting miserable. We lost ten people in the loading crew in a month because of the new rules. The new hires didn’t last long.

The floor was a mess also, started turning personnel faster than a dollar hooker. Anyone who is staying is either looking for another job, is afraid of unemployment or is too young to know better. The sales had a very small decline, but customer happiness is plummeting fast.

After almost six months, all the “Old Guard” that was left, was ready to quit. But our “savior” came back. Almost six months from the day he was hospitalized, Grumpy walks in the store to claim his rightful position.

He isn’t a knight in shining armor, riding a pure white horse, carrying a legendary sword. He is in a normal attire, slightly limping and holding a cane. We have a “welcome back” party and have a small glimmer of hope now he is back. We are informed that Grumpy will be on light duties for two weeks, before he becomes the manager again.

Despite Grumpy being back, Wilhelm still remains the regional manager, which means he outranks Grumpy and makes it very clear in private meetings with all of us. If he caught as complaining to Grumpy, we were as good as gone. Still, a few of us are planning to have a meeting with Grumpy after the weeks (letting him get his “sea legs” back). But another department had other ideas.

During his “Reign of Terror”, the only department that Wilhelm couldn’t control was the workshop. He knew that if he treated them as bad as he did to us, they would quit and the sales would go from a small decline to bottom of the barrel real quick (as I said, custom made furniture was the number one seller).

So, the head carpenter has a meeting with Grumpy on his second day talking about “the future of the workshop”. In reality, the guy spilled the beans on Wilhelm.

With the pretext of “catching up” with the changes, Grumpy has meetings with everyone, learning what Wilhelm had done and why we had so many new staff. You could feel he was getting angrier with every meeting. He had also had an eye opening meeting with the manager of the supermarket. Finally, the time had come that he is the manager again.

The Revenge

On his first day back as a manager, Grumpy notifies everyone of a mandatory meeting after the store is closed. He has a solution. So gather in the store after closing hours. And Grumpy lays out the plan.

For the next couple of days, nobody except him is coming to the store. If anyone calls us, we should direct them to him. Which we did, when we started getting calls about the store being closed.

Grumpy’s answer to the HQ was simple: the staff was working on a second job during their shifts, which is a breach of contract, so I had to fire them all and find new staff.

That caught HQ’s attention, because nothing of the sort was reported in the past six months. They asked Grumpy for evidence, which he happily provided with our written testimonies. Which brought a s**tstorm on Wilhelm.

You see, Wilhelm had an “arrangement” with the supermarket manager. He got a kickback from our unpaid labor for the supermarket and the manager offered the same thing to Grumpy. He also included that Wilhelm regularly declined to sign overtime, which meant that if any one of us went to the Labor Department, the company would get a really huge fine.

The Aftermath

Wilhelm quickly got fired. We all received calls to “interview” with the company for an open position. We all received severance pay for our “firing” plus most of the unpaid overtime (about 80% of it). Almost all of us went back to work with a small pay raise based on experience.

The company took a long, hard look on the supermarket chain and distanced themselves from them (they stayed until their lease was over, but no shared employees anymore and a lot of theirs jumped ship to our side). Next time Grumpy had to take time off, one of his assistants took over.

Two did a stellar job, leading to be promoted to managers in other stores. Grumpy brought back his usual managerial style, leading again to a rise of sales and customer happiness.

I left the job three years later for a better paying position, but I still remember Grumpy as one of the best managers I ever had.”

Now it’s time to see how folks on Reddit responded to this story.

This reader said it should be obvious to all employers that happy workers are better workers.

No doubt about it!

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This reader said just because you have a business degree, it doesn’t mean you’re going to know how to work with folks…or to manage them.

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Another person said the old adage that “anyone can be replaced” is outdated and backward. And it hurts companies in the long run.

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And finally, this Reddit user said that, unfortunately, as long as sales are good, bad behavior in the workplace usually doesn’t go unpunished.

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Now we want to hear from you!

In the comments, tell us about your bad work experiences.

Please and thank you!

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30 People Share Quotes That Changed the Way They Look at Things

Have you ever been down on yourself and out of the blue you saw a quote that made you snap out of your funk? And, on top of that, it stuck with you?

I love those kinds of moments!

And we all have the quotes that remain implanted in our brains forever.

AskReddit users talked about the quotes that changed the way they look at things.

Let’s take a look.

1. Always stay young.

“”When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.”

C. S. Lewis”

2. No one’s really paying attention.

“You’ll worry less about what people think about you when you realize how seldom they do.”

David Foster Wallace”

3. Use it or lose it.

“”Use what talents you possess – the woods will be very silent if no birds sang there except those that sang best.”

Henry van Dyke”

4. She’s right.

“”Socializing is just like any skill.

You need to practice before you’re good at it.”

My Mom, comforting me when I was struggling to make friends.”

5. I like this one.

“”We’re all going to d**, all of us; what a circus!

That alone should make us love each other, but it doesn’t.

We are terrorized and flattened by trivialities. We are eaten up by nothing.”

– Charles Bukowski”

6. Waste of time.

“”Worrying is a waste of your imagination.”

I saw it spray painted on a sidewalk somewhere.”

7. He’s pretty smart.

“Arnold Schwarzenegger said something like “you can either be a negative or positive person in life, but only one will get you somewhere” in an AMA once.

I am a pretty pessimistic person. When I read that though, it made me think about a lot of things like how my life and outlook is. I would say that single quote of his helped me evolve a lot about my life.

He’s right.”

8. It’s up to you.

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms- to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

-Viktor Frankl”

9. That’s life.

“”It’s possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not weakness. That is life.”

—Captain Jean-Luc Picard”

10. Believe people.

““In order to empathize with someone’s experience you must be willing to believe them as they see it and not how you imagine their experience to be.”

-Brené Brown”

11. Very true.

“Be kind.

For everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.”

12. Still remember it.

“”No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” –Eleanor Roosevelt

It’s problematic in that a**sive people may use words like this to “blame the victim,” but this quote opened the door for me to exit an abusive marriage, so I’ve always remembered it.”

13. Always changing.

“No man ever steps in the same river twice.

For it’s not the same river and he’s not the same man.”

14. From a survivor.

““Sooner or later in life everyone discovers that perfect happiness is unrealizable, but there are few who pause to consider the antithesis: that perfect unhappiness is equally unattainable.

The obstacles preventing the realization of both these extreme states are of the same nature: they derive from our human condition which is opposed to everything infinite.”

Primo Levi, Survival in Auschwitz”

15. Don’t get too comfortable.

““Comfort is the enemy of progress”.

I don’t know who actually said the quote but my Senior drill instructor said it in the beginning of boot camp and it definitely stuck with me.”

16. Don’t carry it around.

“”If you don’t heal what hurt you, you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you.”

17. We are special.

“”We are just an advanced breed of monkeys on a minor planet of a very average star. But we can understand the universe. That makes us something very special.”

— Stephen Hawking”

18. The big question.

“When having a difficult time making a difficult decision:

“What would you do if you weren’t afraid?””

19. You can get over it.

“”It takes a really long time to realize how truly miserable you are… and even longer to realize it doesn’t have to be that way.”

From Bojack Horseman.

It was the tipping point for me beating my depression. Going on three years depression free, it IS possible, keep holding on.”

20. Enjoy it.

“I don’t recall the quote exactly, but it goes similar to this: “Children make so much noise you can’t think, but when they leave the house forever, the silence is maddening.”

I have young kids, and this made me think about how they won’t be this age forever.”

21. Absolutely.

“”Integrity is what you do when no one is watching.”

My old hockey coach.”

22. Can’t hold on to it.

“”Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned”

– Buddha”

23. Interesting.

““Danger is very real, but fear is a choice.”

As someone who has a lot of irrational fears and is often paranoid/anxious, this helps me separate the difference between actual danger and when I’m just allowing myself to feel fear when no real danger is present.”

24. Yes, she was.

“”Bored people are often boring.”

My grandma isn’t always a nice person, but she was right.”

25. Get busy!

“‘Nothing will work unless you do.’ Maya Angelou

It really helps to combat procrastination.”

26. Can’t please everyone.

“My uncle once said to me, “life is too short to do things you don’t want to do.”

That’s when I stopped feeling guilty about not visiting people I really don’t care about or doing things that are expected of me that I really don’t want to do.”

27. I like this one.

“One of my dad’s favorites: “you won’t be able to understand illogical behavior with a logical thought process.”

Over the years it’s stopped me getting quite so frustrated at the behavior of others.”

28. Travel is important.

““Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts.

Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime.”

Mark Twain

Truly one of my favorites.”

29. Keep moving forward!

“No matter how many times I may stumble I will rise each time a better man.

The most important step a man can take is the next one.

It’s always the next one.”

30. A genius.

“”Look again at that dot. That’s here. That’s home. That’s us. On it everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives.

The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every “superstar,” every “supreme leader,” every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there-on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam.”

Carl Sagan, Pale Blue Dot.”

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14 People Discuss the Unsolved Mysteries They’d Like to See Solved in Their Lifetime

I’m obsessed with this kind of stuff!

And, just to be clear, I’m talking about the old TV show hosted by Robert Stack AND actual unsolved mysteries. From like, real life.

And there are so many to dig into!

What mystery would you like to see solved?

Here’s what folks on AskReddit had to say.

1. True crime mystery.

“It’s old news but I genuinely want to know who the Zodiac K**ler was.

It’s probably impossible at this point but I would love to know.”

2. Creepy.

“I was a little kid when JonBeńet Ramsey was m**dered and I’ve always wanted them to really figure out who the k**ler was.

They’re never going to figure this one out. Patsy passed away. John and Burke are never talking if they know anything.

The crime scene is too convoluted to make a definitive case. There are no more leads to follow up on”

3. Very strange.

“Shelly Miscavige. What happened to her? Is she dead?

Is she being held captive? She hasn’t been confirmed seen since 2007. Local police went to look for her because a missing persons was filed. They said they saw her and everything is fine.

However, the police were Scientologists. No one has publicly seen her that I’m aware of. Certainly no proof.”

4. Art heist.

“The theft from the Gardner Museum in Boston in 1990.

My gut tells me that paintings have been destroyed which is devastating.”

5. Hoffa.

“What actually happened to Jimmy Hoffa?

I have my own thoughts frlm my dad’s stories from working for a Mob owned construction company.

But I still want to know what happened.”

6. A really scary one.

“The Delphi m**ders.

What a f**ked up crime.

Those girls deserve justice, and their families deserve peace.”

7. From France.

“In Nantes, in France, in 2011, a whole family disappeared. The mother and the four children were found dead by gunshot wound under a concrete slab in the garden of the family house.

The father, Xavier Dupont de Ligonnès, is responsible for the m**der of his whole family (we are 99,9% sure of it). The mystery is not the motive but what happened to him.

It’s been 10 years and apart some proofs he fled away in the first few days (a picture of him at an ATM from a surveillance picture for example), no trace of him was ever found since.”

8. Down by the river.

“A 16 year old girl was found rolled up in a rug, deceased, down by the river in my county. Cops hid the truth that they were using her (a freaking kid) as a confidential informant.

Witnesses fishing down by the river that night saw two police cars stop in the location the body was found. The sheriff that was using her, investigated her d**th, tried to lay blame on her father, but the answer is still unknown.

That sheriff said it was a closed case even tho the father was never tried etc. Dirtiest cop I have ever seen and he got away with a lot of c**p. Would love to see the case investigated by an outside source and solved.”

9. Freaky!

“I want them to dig on Mars.

They only analyze rocks from the surface but I’m pretty sure that if you dig really deep, there are some dead Martian animals from 4 billion years ago when Mars had oceans and stuff.”

10. Spooky.

“The case of The Oakland County Child K**ler.

In 1976 and 1977 in Detroit’s wealthiest and safest suburbs, kids were snatched off the streets in broad daylight only to be found days later dead (after being alive that whole time!).

It was supposedly never solved, but there’s accusations of police coverups and all kinds of things”

11. Let’s go to the future.

“Cryogenic stasis.

If it were developed right now, I would say goodbye to my family/friends and hop right on in for at least 100 years.

Show me the future baby.”

12. What happened?

“William Tyrell.

I think the police know what happened, but are waiting on the final piece of evidence to finally charge someone with the crime.

I think there is a lot more involved than the story they have fed us about him being randomly abducted from the front of his home. His sister is the key to the whole thing.”

13. The children.

“Beaumont Children.

There are theories that it was Bevan Spencer Von Einem (he’d have been around the right age and general looks) but he totally denied it and his conviction was for the assault/m**der of a young boy whereas witnesses that saw “The Man” with the Beaumonts was overly interested in the elder daughter and most predators that are “into” that age range tend to have strong preferences for one gender or the other.””

14. Hometown story.

“I really want to see the disappearance of Sarm Heslop solved.

Why? Well it happened near my hometown which peaked my initial interest, and it just feels so freaking obvious that I just want it to be solved because if it’s not who I think it is I’m eating my own toes.

So basically, this woman, Sarm Heslop, a UK national lived with her US citizen bf, Ryan Bane, in some boat/catamaran off of the coats of St. John, USVI. On March 8th Ryan reports her missing, and soon searches are underway in both St. Thomas and St. John

The details:

Ryan claims they went to dinner, and both of them got back on the boat (Official)

The police say that they have no confirmation that they were both on the boat when Ryan said they were (Official)

At the time of her disappearance all of her belongings were still on the boat (Official)

He allegedly tried to point the finger at some local (black) men, and the suspicions were then directed to people on island, but that quickly fell short (Unofficial, but corroborated by many on island)

The VIPD doesn’t hold him in custody, says that they’re tracking him and knows where he is (official)

He’s out and seen publicly partying and having himself a ball (unofficial)

He also refused to help look for her/cooperate (allegedly he was being very difficult with questioning) (somewhat reported, but corroborated by Sarm’s friends and locals)

There was a nine hour delay in stating her as missing to the public and preparing a search (official)

He doesn’t allow the VIPD to check his boat, at all, despite him being a person of interest. The VIPD says they couldn’t search without a warrant and had to be turned back (Official)

Allegedly screaming was heard from their boat in the wee hours of the morning (He claims that he noticed her missing at around 2AM) (Unofficial)

He has had previous DV charges after being reported by his ex-girlfriend who states that he threw her on the ground and smashed her head into the ground during a fight (Official)

The last time I checked, he then sailed off from the territory and the FBI doesn’t know of his exact whereabouts (Official).”

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What mysteries do YOU want to see get solved?

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This Person Wonders if They’re a Jerk for Asking Their Friend to Pay for Their Dog’s Surgery

If you happen to have pets, then you already know that vet bills can be astronomical.

And this situation involving a dog from a person on Reddit seems like it might just end a friendship.

Let’s see what went down…

WIBTA for asking my friend to pay for my dogs surgery after she almost k**led him?

“One of my good friends came to my apartment to go out together one night, let’s call her Lauren. I also have a 20 week old puppy.

Lauren is notoriously messy when visiting. She will go through her clothes, my clothes and just about everything to find an outfit to go out. However, now that I have my puppy I reminded Lauren when she first came in the apartment to please keep everything off of the ground and out of reach of my puppy.

I told her that he will chew/eat anything left on the ground, so for anything she cared about & for my puppies safety, to keep it up high.

Lauren continued to have her clothes and miscellaneous items from her bag sprawled out everywhere. So instead of reminding her after the 2nd or 3rd time, I just started putting her items in another room and closing the door for her to pick up later.

While getting ready Lauren decided to take a shower and she brought her own shaving razor. When she mentioned shaving, I told her to be careful because my puppy had tried to get ahold of my razor before, so be careful.

Long story short, I crate my dog and we go out. I come back and he is having bloody diarrhea and squealing. At 4 AM, I rush to the emergency vet. They tell me he’s probably constipated and to monitor him. I questioned this but didn’t know what he could’ve ate yet, so I take him home and watch him closely.

After coming home and making sure he is okay. I do a quick sweep of my house and try (emphasis on try, there were crop tops, socks, etc. flung all around my room) to find all the items she had left around my apartment. Lauren picks up her stuff and leaves.

The next day when I am taking a shower I notice she left her razor on the ground by my shower. It looked a bit off so I sent her a picture and asked if a part was missing. She says the bikini shaver of it is missing and seems unconcerned. I tell Lauren I think my puppy may have ate it.

So I go to my local vet to have another checkup and they take X-rays. The vet tells me he indeed ate the razor and that he needs to go to another vet over an hour away for emergency surgery, or he would not make it through the night. Of course, I rush there and they do the surgery.

Later I text Lauren that he is having surgery because he swallowed her bikini razor. Lauren tells me she is sorry for leaving it out and didn’t ever mean for this to happen.

We are good friends, I would like to still be. My question is would I be the a**hole it I asked her to cover part of the costs from his surgery?

My puppy is obviously a bit at fault here for eating it, I’m at fault for not searching my apartment well enough after she made a mess, but I believe she is at fault for leaving a razor out where he could get to it after being reminded SEVERAL times.

I’m not intending on asking her to cover full cost, but would I be the a**hole for asking for anything?”

And here’s how people on Reddit reacted.

This person doesn’t think the writer of the post is in the wrong at all for asking her friend to help pay the bills for the dog.

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Another reader couldn’t believe that the friend didn’t offer to pay the whole amount!

I think I agree!

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This Reddit user said the person’s friend is obviously not a responsible individual.

At all.

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And this reader went so far as to say that they might’ve dodged a bullet with this “friend.”

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Lastly, this individual made it quite clear and simple: this is not how real friends treat each other.

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What Quote Changed the Way You Look at Life?

The best time to plant a tree was 50 years ago. The second best time is now.

My dad always used to say this when I was growing up and I never had a clue what he was talking about until he explained it to me.

Basically, it means that you should get started today and stop putting things off if you want to get them off the ground and rolling.

And I think those are words to live by!

What quote forever changed the way you look at things?

Here’s what folks on AskReddit had to say.

1. Words of wisdom.

“I had a professor in college he called it the 10/90 rule.

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.

Changed my life.”

2. Kindness.

“Honesty without kindness is brutality.

Kindness without honesty is manipulation.”

3. Can’t please everyone.

“You might be the sweetest peach on the tree, but some people just don’t like peaches.”

This helped me get over my lifelong desire to be liked by everyone, and allowed me to focus on becoming someone I actually liked.”

4. Don’t worry about it.

“I’ve had a lot of worries in my life. Most of which never happened.” – Mark Twain.

Found it on a workbook for anxiety disorders.”

5. I’ll entertain it.

“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.

Aristotle.

And yes it isn’t the real quote but elementary school aged me internalized that thought and I have applied it to everything ever since then.”

6. Helped out.

“If you look for the light, you will often find it, but if you look for the dark, it is all you will ever see” – Uncle Iroh, Legend of Korra.

Has helped me through some dark times in the past, just looking for that small bit of good in a heap of bad.”

7. Nobody’s perfect.

“And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.”

–John Steinbeck, East of Eden.”

8. Let it go.

““Let go or be dragged”.

An old Zen proverb I heard at a meditation class.

Really changed the way I let myself worry about things.”

9. You’re always with you.

“My grandfather once told me, “no matter where you go, there you are”.”

We refer to that a geographical cure — which doesn’t always solve things — so sometimes you have to work on yourself so you don’t repeat your mistakes.”

10. Take care of #1.

“Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.”

This helped a lot with my guilt and burgeoning martyr complex.”

11. From Carl Sagan.

“One of the saddest lessons of history is this: If we’ve been bamboozled long enough, we tend to reject any evidence of the bamboozle. We’re no longer interested in finding out the truth. The bamboozle has captured us.

It’s simply too painful to acknowledge, even to ourselves, that we’ve been taken. Once you give a charlatan power over you, you almost never get it back.”

Carl Sagan.”

12. We’re all replaceable.

“Graveyards are full of irreplaceable people”.

That quote helped me stop going down the path of working myself to death because “my job needs me”.”

13. Courage.

“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow.” -Maryann Radmacher

I came across this a long time ago, at a point in life that I really needed this lesson. It’s okay if I feel sad and resigned, if my depression beat me for today and I wasn’t able to function. I didn’t fail, I’m not weak, I will try again tomorrow.”

14. Change your language.

“If you’re trying to break a habit, don’t say ‘this is the last time I’m doing it’ to yourself. Instead, say ‘this is the first time I’m not doing it’.”

15. Good one.

“When people show you who they are, believe them.”

– Maya Angelou.”

16. It helps.

“That mountain you’ve been carrying, you were only suppose to climb.’

Really helped me overcome a lot of traumatic experiences and difficult chapters in my life.

I hope it helps someone else out there.”

17. Just do it.

“Dear Abby’s response to a writer thinking of going back to school but worried that she will be 40 by the time she got her degree –

“How old will you be in four years if you don’t get your degree? You are going to be 40 anyway with or without your degree.“

It reminded me that letting age stop me from my plans was just silly. Also, working at a community college and seeing so many people going back to school in their 30s, 40s, 50s and thriving, the quote really spoke to me.”

18. Live it up.

“Some people d** at 25 and aren’t buried until 75.”

– Ben Franklin”

19. Be kind.

“The axe forgets; the tree remembers.” —Zimbabwean proverb.

People don’t forget how they were treated; that’s why it’s so important to be kind.”

20. I wish you well.

“Just because you lost me as a friend doesn’t mean you gained me as an enemy.

I still want to see you eat, just not at my table.”

21. Get through it.

“Your kid isn’t giving you a hard time, they’re having a hard time.

The only way out is through.”

22. Some good ones.

“Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be.”

“It’s no use wasting time worrying what other people think about you. No one is thinking about you.”

and

“Remember to take care of yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup.”

Been living up to those ideals recently and I feel I have just started living.”

23. You got this.

“I understand there’s a guy inside me who wants to lay in bed, smoke weed all day, and watch cartoons and old movies. My whole life is a series of stratagems to avoid and outwit that guy.”

– Anthony Bourdain.”

24. The writing life.

“The first draft is just you telling yourself the story.” – Terry Pratchett

I’m not sure why this quote struck me so hard, but it completely changed the way I approach writing. Just get your ideas down in run-on sentences and asides to yourself and loads of [???] at parts you haven’t figured out yet.

It took me more than 30 years to realize that a first draft isn’t just a rough version of the final draft. It’s a map for yourself, and no one else.”

25. Love.

“You cannot convince people to love you. This is an absolute rule. No one will ever give you love because you want him or her to give it. Real love moves freely in both directions. Don’t waste your time on anything else.”

– Cheryl Strayed.”

26. Stupid is as stupid does.

“Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity” – Hanlon’s Razor.

Not everyone’s out to get you, there are a lot of stupid people in the world.”

27. Always do your best.

“I visited Pearl Harbor this week and the one that struck me was: “There were many acts of heroism that day, not all of them recorded.”

It reminds me that even when nobody is watching, it’s still important to put forward your best.”

28. The deal.

“The pain I feel now is the happiness I had before. That’s the deal.”

C.S. Lewis”

29. Still think about it.

“Honey, I hope it’s the worst thing that ever happens to you.”

From my dad when I was complaining about something. He probably didn’t intend for it to be deep or anything but it puts things in perspective. I think of it all the time.”

30. Get out there and explore.

“A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.”

John Shedd”

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Ex-Racists Talk About What Changed Their Views

I’ve seen a few documentaries about people who used to hold hardcore r**ist views and how they completely changed their minds and decided to dedicate the rest of their lives to helping other people and spreading messages of peace and love.

And I think that if guys who used to be that into a r**ist subculture can do it, there’s hope for everyone out there.

AskReddit users who used to hold r**ist views talked about how and why they changed.

Let’s check out their stories.

1. A big lesson.

“The Army forced me to live with black people.

Turns out I didn’t h**e anyone, I was just afraid of what I didn’t understand and had some very stupid notions passed on to me from my dad and his dips**t friends.

I will forever be grateful for the opportunity to understand a greater sample of people than my tiny hometown afforded me.”

2. Changed for the better.

“From birth I was raised to be r**ist in a ra**ist household in Virginia. I was ignorant. I used the “N” word, antisemitic, h**ophobic, r**ist language everyday.

My immediate family and extended family all share the same ignorance. At family gatherings if one of my older cousins let slip they were dating someone new, the first question would be “Is s/he white?” Followed by laughter, but the question was serious.

Then I started middle school. 6th grade. On the first day of class I set down my backpack against the classroom wall (like every other student) while we found our desks and had a small Meet & Greet w/ new classmates. I made sure to only speak to the kids (white) whom I knew from elementary school.

Our teacher told us to take our seats. I’m 42 yrs old and I remember this like it was yesterday. I picked up my backpack, found my desk, before I could open my bag the girl behind me told me she liked my earrings, her Mom wouldn’t let her get her ears pierced until high school.

Then I heard another voice from further behind me say, “Ms. Kay, this isn’t my backpack”. The backpack sitting on this girl’s desk was identical to the one sitting next to my desk. We both opened our backpacks and realized we’d grabbed the wrong bag.

Internally I rolled my eyes in disgust, this girl was a “N”. But I was taught to never let it show. So we met each other to quickly exchange. Her smile was beautiful. She wore glasses the same shape as mine. She wore her hair in a pony tail, just like mine. In our back to school shopping we picked the exact same backpack and we picked the exact same Nikes (pink/white).

Her name was Jacinda. I found myself genuinely smiling back to her, and giggling like young girls do. That day she asked to sit together during lunch, and we sat beside each other for lunch every single day of middle school. She was my very first best friend. Jacinda taught me about her Sunday School classes (my family never attended church), we talked about everything important in the life of middle school girls.

She wasn’t allowed to attend my birthday parties, and I wasn’t allowed to go to hers, but we always celebrated together at school. I loved her so much. When it was time to go to high school I continued in public school and her parents chose to homeschool her. I thought homeschooling was the coolest idea. Jacinda was (is) brilliantly intelligent.

God, she was going to do great things for this world. Long before the age of social media, we lost touch sadly – but I still think of her often. After meeting Jacinda I never used another r**ist or derogatory word. Meeting Jacinda changed my life for the better.”

3. Small town in Iowa.

“I grew up in a very small town in Iowa. Couple of hundred people. All white.

So I guess I was raised not to discriminate against people that were different from me because we were all the same. Once I got older and moved to the city, oh yeah. R**ism is alive and well in Iowa.

I didn’t fall into that trap. I didn’t understand it. Ended up in Alabama. My best friend was black. We just had the same sense of humor and liked the same things. I credit him with my kids being non r**ist. He would crack jokes about racial things and they would be shocked.

As they got older they just rolled their eyes. Funniest thing was one of my daughters date shows up and he opens the door and introduced himself as her dad. He moved to Michigan. I miss Charles.”

4. Quickly realized.

“It’s simple really.

I was raised in a r**ist family. Growing up I was kinda r**ist.

Once I actually spent time with people of different races I quickly realized how stupid that is.”

5. Just plain dumb.

“My dad has some pretty xenophobic points of view and that definitely rubbed off on me when I was younger.

Meeting actual people of color through my teenage years made me realize I was being dumb.”

6. Just jokes…

“I grew up thinking I was not a r**ist. I didn’t think badly of blacks or Hispanics. But r**ist jokes didn’t hurt anyone.

Then I moved to an area with about a 90% Hispanic population. The little things that weren’t r**ist, were. The “How many Mexican” type jokes were hurtful and I felt bad. So I stopped.

The easy same thing with blacks , Asians etc, etc. was about the same time.”

7. Poisonous ideas.

“I was not raised by r**ist parents but you can’t help growing up with r**ist messages all around society and tending to believe some of them. I had ideas about indigenous people, Muslim people, all sorts of poisonous ideas.

When I got into my early twenties I started to make good money and began traveling, and all of my r**ist notions disappeared with that. Nothing made me realize how similar human beings are regardless of race, than traveling.”

8. Native people.

“I definitely had some r**ist ideas about native people in my city growing up. There are a lot of native addicts and vagrants but it’s very much a result of a system that’s rigged against those communities.

I didn’t know any of that growing up so when I saw a group of drunk, native people in the park or something, I was generally unimpressed or even frightened.

And I definitely applied those feelings to all the native people I came across. It’s hard to change those reactions but we can all identify the bad reactions and try to curb them.”

9. No indoctrination.

“Grandfather on one side would drop jokes with hard Rs, grandmother on that side would talk about how (whisper) Mexicans were ruining South Dakota long before complaining about illegal immigration was mainstream.

Father wasn’t nearly that far gone, but after one failed relationship with a Chinese woman he encouraged me to marry a white woman, and my mother once vehemently objected to my sister having an openly gay man as a roommate.

So where did it all go wrong? Basically, I traveled to different places and met different people. The town where I grew up had a pretty large Indian population, and I had an Indian best friend growing up (he was also a bit r**ist at the time, frankly).

Went away to Boston for a summer, and through some random set of circumstances found myself going to a black church for the summer. They were just like the white church I had been going to, one kid wanted to grow up to be a programmer just like I wanted to at the time, etc etc. Went off to California for school and was exposed to a wide variety of people.

Hispanic roommate and Hispanic RA freshman year… one was an a**hole, one became a good friend, and I realized it had nothing to do with their ethnicity. Made a good friend sophomore year, and he later came out to me, and either I wrong the whole time about Josh or I was wrong about whatever leftover prejudices I had about gay people.

Now I’m married to another Chinese woman, one of my best friends is black, another is gay, one of my daughter’s best friends is Hispanic, and I’m still here in the bluest part of CA.

There was no liberal indoctrination in college like conservatives are always b**ching about. There was just meeting people and realizing that whatever reasons I had for disliking them or distrusting them from the beginning were false.:

10. Helped you understand.

“When I was going into college I was ignorant, bitter, and certainly not on a good path.

I had a roommate in college who was a person of color, who really helped me understand and put into context a lot that I had been ignorant about.”

11. Dismantle your thought process.

“My situation was complicated growing up. My father was the son of an Italian immigrant with Egyptian roots and he was so ungodly r**ist towards anyone not considered white as he considered himself white.

The thing is, my dad has dark brown skin, dark brown eyes and black kinked curly hair. He looked EXACTLY like the people he was r**ist against. And he hated Arabs…. all Arabs…. and he is part Arab. This was so confusing. He also hated gay people, Muslims, “commies” and any type of alternative lifestyles.

My father hated black people the most. He told me if I ever brought home a black boyfriend he would disown me. He told me, as a small child, that if I misbehaved I would be sent to live with a ****** family in the ghetto.

He was equally misogynist and held onto a strong patriarchal mindset.

I admit, as a kid I repeated his words. All the other kids did too on my neighborhood so I thought he was right. It wasn’t until I was literally in my 30s did I realise the internalized r**ism I still held onto.

All my partners and friends were white my entire life. I felt unsafe near a group of black men. It was only until I moved to northern Europe that I realized that I am not considered white here and experienced r**ism myself and oooooo wow what an eye opener.

I began to dismantle my entire thought process and honestly, I am so repulsed by my father now I can’t even speak to him without feeling disgusting inside. He’s really old now and much more calm and probably won’t live more than 10 years. I have not returned to my birth country to see him in almost 7 years because I am so angry at him.

Because of his r**ism I missed out on friendships, relationships and understanding cultures different from my own. I am making up for it now as the immigrant community that I live in is amazing and supportive but I will never get back that lost time and I will never know fully the extent of damage that my hateful words may have done to people who didn’t deserve it.”

12. Changed your mind.

“Joined the military, left home and experienced cultures around the world.

I was severely lacking in cultural awareness due to growing up in a small town surrounded by openly r**ist people.

Luckily, my children are able to grow in a completely different environment than the one I did.”

Now we’d like to hear from you.

Do you know anyone who has changed their radical views like these people did?

If so, please tell us about it in the comments. Thanks in advance.

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28 People Tell The Stories of Their Most Cringeworthy Days at Work

The Office is an extremely popular television show because it’s hilarious, but listen – none of us would actually like to work in that office, right? Michael Scott is cringe enough to watch on television; can you even imagine having to deal with him in real life?

I’m sure some of you have had similar experiences, because it these 28 stories are enough to go on, it seems like there’s a lot more cringe going on in the workplace than we’d like to admit!

28. I would pay to see this video.

“We had mice. Boss man was terrified of mice and a total skinflint who didn’t want to pay for an exterminator. His big idea (I s*%t you not!) was to give me cotton to put in my ears and a blow horn.

He then opened the back door, closed all other doors in the little shop, and I had to attempt to herd mice out of the store with a f****** air horn, with cotton balls sticking out of my ears.

I tried to explain why it wouldn’t work, but he essentially told me not to worry my pretty little head over it, and that was my entire afternoon. Most ridiculous s*** I’ve ever done at a job ever before, and ever since.”

27. This…takes a turn. Be warned.

When I was in my early 20s, I was working at a restaurant with the world’s nicest and most innocent group of guys. One weekend, we threw a bachelor party for one of the waiters who was marrying his HS sweetheart.

Beer! Strippers at someone’s house! Crazy!

We all hooted and hollered when the strippers tore off their clothes and walked around the room to each guy. We whistled and giggled when the bachelor got a personal show with whip cream. Good times!

As the girls were ending the show, they asked if anyone had any requests before they packed up. One of the cooks, who was at least 20 years older than most of us, walked over and had a serious, five-minute conversation with the girls. He then turned to us and said that we all had to cough up $300 if we wanted to see something special.

Without hesitation, we handed the money to the girls and sat back in anticipation for what was sure to be a lovely show!

He laid down on the floor and both girls p%*sed and s*%t on him for the next five minutes. Guys were gagging. The bachelor started crying. I screamed in terror. One guy walked over to them and yelled, “Why, Why, Why???” It was if the devil himself, in mere seconds, had snatched the innocent souls of 15 naive idiots.

The show ended in silence. The girls freshened up and left with their “ride”. The cook slid on his jacket over his soiled clothes, walked out into the cold night and never returned for his shifts.

26. This cannot be true.

“It was this guy’s last day with the company, and the managers brought in a cake for everyone to share. A very nice farewell gesture.

Except he wasn’t moving to a new city or leaving the company for a new job. He had gotten fired. The managers literally fired this guy, then called everyone into the kitchen and said “Okay, today is Steve’s last day with the company, let’s have some cake!”

Most oblivious, socially awkward, tone deaf moment imaginable.”

25. The DD always sees some stuff.

Just recently went to my girlfriend’s vet office xmas party at the owner’s very nice house. The party is known for everyone getting extremely wasted.

I’m driving so i stayed relatively sober, my gf on the other hand did not. She was already quite tipsy off of all kinds of mixed drinks. I head to the bathroom down the hall for 5 min, come back to realize she had taken 3 shots (2 is her total drinking limit). Fast forward about 10 minutes and she’s absolutely sloshed.

She requests to go to the bathroom and starts asking everyone the quickest way to get there like we’re about to go on a road trip or something. I escort her carefully and let her do the business. While waiting i got caught up talking to a bunch of coworkers and kinda forgot she was in the bathroom.

About 15 min later she comes rushing out saying we have to leave because she does NOT feel good. I inform everyone we are going to head out when i hear someone yell, “Oh F**k” from the bathroom hall.

Turns out in that 15 min, my girlfriend managed to completely break the toilet in half causing the plumbing pipe from the wall to explode as well which started flooding the room. As an added bonus she decided to start throwing up at the front door as well.

Lets just say i sobered up real quick.

Anyways, the folks were super supportive of it, even though they had to replace the flooring plumbing, and the toilet. Didn’t even make her pay anything. The owner also posted pictures on facebook of his broken toilet and said it was the best party they’ve had in awhile.

24. Not exactly a class act.

“After a successful project, owner of the company invited everyone out to lunch (about 12 employees) at a nearby restaurant by the office. Little did she know, the place was very expensive, so she bounces early before the check comes, stating that she had a client call.

She gives us money to pay for her meal and takes off, leaving the rest of us to figure out the check. It also turns out she didn’t give us enough money to pay for her potion of the check so someone had to throw in a few extra bucks to cover that.”

23. Per your request…

I work with a woman who cc’s her boss on all emails.

Her boss follows up on all of the emails 5-10 minutes later.

They looks like this:

Woman: “Hey Ganglebot, we’re starting this new thing so can you send us X, Y and Z when you have a chance – thanks!”

Her boss, 5 min later: “Ganglebot, as per [woman’s] initial request, we need these things to move forward. In our previous meeting on May 4th, at 2pm you indicated you could send these to us. I ask you to please send these along ASAP as our initiative depends on good information. Please confirm receipt and indicate when we can expect these documents.”

22. What is “proper warehouse clothing?”

“I used to work graveyards. Once a month I was required to come in on Friday afternoon for a staff meeting at 1PM. This was essentially forcing me to come into work at 3AM for regular people, just so I “felt included in the warehouse”.

Also, since I did not work Friday/Saturday nights, it was essentially having me show up on a normal persons Saturday at 3AM. She had the gall to yell at me for showing up in my pajamas, and not proper warehouse clothing….”

21. It’s always best to clarify.

I was offered a job at another location. I told my boss about it and my current company offered me a raise to stay. I took it. It’s been 2 months and I haven’t seen the raise in my paycheck yet.

UPDATE: I emailed my boss and asked for an update. They assumed I understood that the raise would begin at our new fiscal year which starts July 1. So it will be in my next paycheck.

20. A true Michael Scott move.

“A few coworkers and I competed in a local Office-themed trivia contest. We came in second place, and one of the prizes was a “World’s Best Boss” mug. We brought it into work and displayed it proudly like a trophy in one of our offices.

My boss–who was not involved in the contest, has never seen The Office, is not friends with or well-liked by any of us, and is a huge idiot–saw the mug in someone else’s office and just took it.

None of us could figure out where it had gone until we saw her drinking out of it.”

19. So very petty.

Lately whenever the mother of one of my students tees off the father (they divorced >4 months ago) he will send all three of their kids in mismatched clothes with shirts that have some variation of “I love my Dad” or “Daddy’s kid”.

I have not seen the same shirt twice and believe mom throws the shirts out and dad just keeps buying more.

18. The awkwardest of awkward moments.

“I had a boss who got a promotion to senior manager. The very next day he pulled into the parking lot with a BMW 1-Series. No one on my team even knew they made a 1 series (cheapest possible BMW/badge car). He gets out wearing a BMW polo and a white BMW hat. He offered to take me to lunch in it.

He jumps on the highway, adjusts his BMW hat and says to me, “I don’t exactly do 60 in this thing!” does a little triumphant laughter and starts going 80. There was a cop on the bridge above us. We were immediately pulled over. I will never forget the look of defeat on his face.”

17. The secret is out.

I manage all the tools, parts, and materials for a small electrical company. We have a ton of little fittings, couplings, and such that are very small and have multiple parts. We recently let one of our journeymen go, and I’m in the process of clearing out his van.

Turns out he was hoarding tens of thousands of fittings in his van, all mixed together with absolutely no organization. To top it off, at least 60% of them were completely disassembled before being just chucked in to drawers, boxes, and bags along with mixed bolts, nuts, fasteners, etc., so it is now my job to take these collections of assorted hardware and dump them out, separate them, and reassemble as many as I can before restocking them in my already overflowing shop.

16. Childish behavior.

“One morning my boss walks out of his office asking if anyone wants the other half of this huge bran muffin he had for breakfast.

Everyone there said they were fine and the boss went back into his office.

Later, around 12, an employee comes in for her shift with a box full of doughnuts to share with the office. Everyone came up and took one thanking the employee for bringing in the treat. The boss was visibly mad that everyone went for the doughnuts and no one wanted his half of his bran muffin. He was just a big grump for the rest of the day.”

15. There’s never a simple fix.

A third party keeps insisting that an individual worked for my company. They did not. We have searched everywhere. We have punched in every variation of their name, birthday, social security number into our system. Dude didn’t work here, and “Well this other woman says he did” isn’t an argument.

ETA: As much as I appreciate all the replies, this is not my first rodeo as an attorney, and I wouldn’t be complaining if this had a simple fix like “tell them to f**k off” or “stop replying.”

14. Was his name George Costanza?

“My manager tried to get the nickname he had chosen for himself to catch on. The nickname in question was “Hollywood”. He would introduce himself to new workers/visitors/etc. as Hollywood, one of us would say “no one calls him that” and he would just be like “well…. everyone calls me that.”

13. Sounds like time to find a new job.

Bar manager and 20% of the staff quit. Owner hasn’t hired anyone. It’s been 3 months.

No one can take unexpected days off or call in sick and inventory is at an all time low. (Except the kegs. So. Many. Kegs.) We keep running out of f**kin everything. I (and others) have offered to help over the summer and nothing has come of it.

The restaurant is expanding and we need more employees but my boss is too focused on having us dust (during construction), replacing glassware with crystal, and setting up public accessible training courses to bother with actual management.

Oh, and communication is non existent, so I regularly show up to work and have no idea where s*%t is or what the new procedures are.

12. I bet she drove something sensible, too.

“As a blizzard approached, he offered to drive home anybody who needed a ride because he’d just bought a new “badass” Hummer H2 that “could drive through anything”.

And hour later, he and three of my coworkers are sitting in his new SUV in a snow drift on the side of the road, waiting for the wife of one of them to pick them up.”

11. That guy is a mess.

It’s my bosses birthday, not a lot of folks respect her. I’m new to the department and was asked by Don to collect money on Friday to get her flowers. He was going to bake a cake and bring it in. He was sick yesterday so didn’t come to work. I collected a measly 19$ from others, awkward af because no one even likes her, topped it up with my own 10 to get a decent bunch of flowers, bought yesterday evening and brought in this AM.

Don is in and says “I couldn’t find the money you collected, do you have it” I said “I used it yesterday to buy the flowers, wasn’t that the plan?”

He replies with an attitudey “well no…”

I ask why it matters and he says “well I couldn’t bake the cake because I was sick so I don’t know what we’re going to do now if the money’s used up, we can’t get a cake now”

Another girl nicely chimes in that she will run out and grab a cake and don’t worry Don it’s all fine. Don’s a snippy guy so I don’t bother asking him how I was to know he’s too ridiculous to go get a cake himself.

Others are running around asking me if I’ve seen the money because apparently Don’s making it well known that I was supposed to collect money but no one has seen the envelope (obviously, I took it yesterday), then I have to explain that I used all the money so I look stupid.

Keep throwing in that I was doing exactly as was asked of me but jeez, Don, would it kill you to communicate your change of plans to people???

10. What would possess a person?

Our payroll manager got trashed at a Christmas party a few years ago and started insulting people and telling them that they weren’t worth how much they were getting paid (while quoting the actual salaries).

She was fired the next day, but didn’t even remember what she’d done.

9. And don’t forget the TPS reports.

Everything is done in an improvised fashion even when it’s identical to something we’ve done a hundred times before. They refuse to create any kind of system or structure for doing anything and it drives me up the wall. Every single time, every question, every form, every action, everything, needs to be run through a hundred different people and approached as if it’s a brand new thing, even if it’s routine paperwork we do multiple times a week. It’s the most incredible waste of time.

Let’s say I traveled from Phoenix to Tucson and I need to be reimbursed for gas.

I’ll go pull out the exact same piece of paperwork I used last time. I’ll fill in the extremely basic blanks that I did last time. Name, travel date and time, mileage, gas receipt, sign and date. Submit the form.

A day later, I get an email. Oh hey here you put “Tucson” but you need to put “Tucson, Pima County, AZ.”

Make the change. Ask if there are any other changes. Nope, looks good. Resubmit.

A day later, I get a phone call. Oh hey here you put “Jay J. Jameson” but you need to put “Jay Jonah Jameson.”

Make the change. Ask if there are any other changes. Nope, looks good. Resubmit.

A day later, someone pops in my office. Oh hey here you put “Pima County, AZ” and “Jay Jonah” but it needs to just say “Tucson, AZ” and “J. J. Jameson” oops.

Make the change. Ask if there are any other changes. Nope, looks good. Resubmit.

It finally goes through.

Two weeks later, I travel from Phoenix to Tucson and need to be reimbursed for gas.

I pull out the final version that finally went through last time, just two weeks ago, after all the changes. I change nothing except the date/time and attach the new gas receipt.

A day later, I get an email. Oh hey here you put Tucson, AZ but now it just needs to say Tucson. Oh hey here you put Phoenix but you didn’t include the zip. Oh hey here you put J. J. Jameson but it needs to say J. J. Jameson Jr, Esq. Oh hey here you put that it’s 113 miles but we decided to start rounding to the nearest five so it should should 115 miles. Oh hey here you put 115 miles but an hour ago we decided it needs to be rounded to the nearest ten-thousandth of a mile. Oh hey we decided to do away with zip codes on these forms.

Every. Single. Time.

8. No one wants to see that.

First year at the company. Married CEO all over an employee pretty much in front of the whole company. Awkward AF. Both really trashed.

The fact that they didn’t start making out in front of everyone was a Christmas miracle.

7. If you’re good, I guess you get away with it.

I have a vendor who gives me the same answer every day that I email him: “Let me check and get back to you.”

His shipment has slipped by over two months at this point and it’s driving me nuts.

He’s doing the same thing to other people in my office on other projects. He’s on a quick list to be blacklisted, but unfortunately, the clients love his stuff.

6. That escalated quickly.

When I used to work for a large corporate law firm – a guy and a girl who both worked in the accounts team got in an argument. One thing led to another, and the girl threw her glass of red wine over his white shirt.

Without missing a beat he just grabbed her by the throat and started choking her.

This was just off the side of the dance floor, in front of 300+ staff.

5. Just hang on.

“Do this task. What do you need?

– I need 30 computers and 20 USB3 flash drives.

– Here’s 15 computers and 7 USB2 flash drives.

– What? I need 30, where’s the other 15? And these flash drives won’t do, the system won’t even work with those.

– Budget cuts, sorry.”

Later…

“How’s this task going along?

– Everything is set to go, but as is it won’t fulfill the task.

– What’s keeping you from doing the task?

– I need 15 more computers and 20 USB3 flash drives.

– Ok, we’ll order more ASAP, they’ll be here in two years. Make sure everything’s running by September though.”

Are things like this everywhere or is it just at my job?

4. Actually appalling.

We had a “Mardi Gras” themed holiday party. One guy decided to bring his saxophone and be a “jazz man”. Normal enough, right?

Well, he also thought that to be a “jazz man,” he needed to show up in bl**kfa*e.

3. That’s the kind of thing that makes people go mad.

Girlfriend took the time off in advance to see a best friend she hasn’t seen in two years for literally one day.

Work is currently telling her that they’re scheduling a mandatory employee meeting everyone needs to go to or else you get fired.

Keep in mind there is barely anything important that ever gets announced at these.

2. When it’s all caught on camera.

I worked at Maccas and we had a work party. Some of the crew volunteered to run the night shift while the rest of us went 10pin bowling and drank scrumpies. I was a manager, so I got to see the camera footage the next day…

It was of me, walking around the restaurant and kitchen with my pants down, shaping my b**ls to look like a brain and making people look at my taught scrote. There were also brown-eyes and squashed-rats, which is where you press your d**k and b**ls up against the glass. That was me in the drive-through window. I woke up horrified and knew I was in trouble.

There was a small fallout. I miraculously didn’t get fired; no one formally complained.

My punishment was to wash car windows as they went through drive thru on my day off and donate the tips to the Ronald McDonald House charity.

1. Insecure much?

“My boss makes me walk 2 meters behind him because I’m tall and he’s short.”

Man, I have so much secondhand embarrassment from this post, y’all! Argh!

Do you have a story that would fit on this list? Share it with us in the comments!

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