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Was This Parent Wrong for Telling Son’s Friend the Truth About His Mom? People Responded.

To tell or not to tell, that is the question we’re going to ponder today…

Or, at least that was the question in this story from Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page from a parent who had to dish out some truth to her son’s friend about his own mother.

Ouch…this one might be painful.

Let’s see what happened.

AITA for telling my son’s friend the truth about why his mom doesn’t want him playing with my son?

“My son and his friend are both in the second grade.

We moved into the area in the middle of covid and my son quickly made friends with a boy in the neighborhood. For the first couple months it was fine – they got along perfectly, I put the house in order, and was able to work from home so childcare wasn’t an issue.

The problem was when my husband got back from his deployment. He was the one to pick my son and his friend up from school that day (my son insisted, because he wanted to show off his other dad the marine.) My husband was also the one who answered the door when Friend’s mother arrived. She was perfectly cordial, and then left with Friend in tow.

The next Monday my son comes home looking forlorn, and when I ask him what’s wrong he tells me Friend’s mother doesn’t want Friend to play with my son anymore. I ask her what the issue is and she says that she “doesn’t want her son to get the idea that ‘our lifestyle’ is an acceptable one,” and that she “doesn’t want him to get confused with homos**ual ideology.”

Lo and behold, a couple days later Friend comes up to me and asks me why she doesn’t want him to play with my son, and I tell him “your mom doesn’t like the fact that me and Curtis’s [not real name] other dad are two men who are married and in love.” He asks why that is, and I say “because she;s prejudiced.”

Later that night I get an angry call from Friend’s mom demanding to know why I called her a bigot to her own son, why I’m “pushing my ideology” on him, telling me that I’m “an influence that will push [Friend] away from God,” etc.

She posts this long screed on the Parents of Generic Suburban Atlanta Elementary School Facebook group about how we should solve disputes among the parents and not drag the kids into it.

I replied on the group asking what I was supposed to do, lie to her son? She claims that by calling her prejudiced I was “disrespecting her religious beliefs,” and then went into this whole screed about her first amendment rights.

I told her not to make her prejudice my f**king problem, and sure as s**t don’t make it my son’s problem. Then the admin for the Facebook group took down the post because the other parents were piling on on both sides and it was getting heated.

AITA?”

Now check out how folks on Reddit reacted to this story.

A reader said that it’s pretty clear the woman is planting dangerous seeds in her kid’s head.

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This Reddit user said that this particular mom might have a very rough road ahead of her because the younger generations just keep getting more tolerant than the ones before them and don’t stand for this kind of behavior.

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And this person agreed!

And they said this woman won’t be able to shelter her son forever.

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And lastly, this reader made a good point about people who believe that their kids are being indoctrinated at every turn.

False!

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Now we want to hear what you think!

In the comments, let us know.

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A Woman Asked if She’s Wrong For “Stealing” From Her Mother

And when we say “stealing”, we’re not talking about what you might be thinking of.

You’ll get all the details in a minute when you read this story from Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page, but I’ll give you a little taste: it involves some major family drama. Like, a lot…

Read on to see what happened…

AITA for “stealing” my daughter from my mother?

“I (28F) gave birth to my daughter Alyssa when I was 17. My mom and I have always had a difficult relationship and not long after I gave birth, she kicked me out and I went to live with my aunt while she raised Alyssa.

I went to college in another state after, and though I’ve seen Alyssa some since then, my relationship with my mom prevented me from being there for her. Since I graduated, I’ve managed to start a pretty successful business and my fiancée and I are currently in the process of purchasing our first home. I’m ready to be a mom now, and I really want to support my daughter.

I had originally contacted my mother and told her that I was ready for Alyssa to come live with me, but she said no. Because of this, I’ve decided to file for full custody of her. I’m fairly well established financially, and my mother has had some trouble managing her money since Alyssa was born, so my lawyer is pretty confident that I’ll get at least primary custody.

When I told my mother about it, she was extremely upset and told me I was a complete a**hole for trying to take away her kid, and that I had never wanted to be around Alyssa before. This is just not true, I’ve visited over the years and tried to send my mother support, but she’s never wanted me there.

I told her that this wouldn’t be happening if she hadn’t tried to keep Alyssa away from me all these years. I’ve talked to my aunt and my older sister about this, and they both think that I should let my mother keep Alyssa. I truly think she’ll be better off with me.

AITA?”

Now it’s time to do what we always do…

Let’s see how folks responded to this story!

This reader called the woman out: she definitely thinks that she is an a**hole.

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Another reader made a great point: how does the child feel about this?

Because this mom didn’t even bring that subject up.

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This Reddit user said that the woman is acting in a very immature manner and that she’s definitely in the wrong in this situation.

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Lastly, this person argued that now that she’s been able to enjoy some of her youth, she wants to waltz in and take credit for raising the child.

A**hole alert!

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13 People Discuss What Folks Say Is Bad For You but Is Actually Good

This promises to be an interesting discussion, don’t you think?

Because if we’ve learned one thing in the age of social media, it’s that everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, has an opinion about pretty much EVERYTHING.

Y’all ready for this?

AskReddit users discussed what people say is bad for you but they think is actually good.

Let’s take a look.

1. In moderation.

“Fat, as in in food products.

You still shouldn’t just gorge yourself on fattening foods, but our bodies can process regular fat in food. What it can’t process is the insane amounts of sugar that’s in practically everything, which is what makes people fat.

Your body doesn’t know what to do with it, so it just stores it away as the blubber we all cry about.”

2. The good stuff!

“Coffee, as long as you’re not packing it with a s**tload of sugar and cream and as long as you don’t have the genetic variant which causes your body to metabolize caffeine poorly.

There’s even been some robust meta-analyses on the subject.”

3. Only avoid it if…

“Gluten.

People give it up thinking it makes you fat, but actually, gluten free food has more fat in it. It’s just a protein, people.

The only people who should avoid it are people who have celiac disease.”

4. Gaming.

“Playing video games.

A lot of people seem to think that video games are a waste of time and cause violent tendencies, yet this is completely wrong. Video games are actually good for both children and adults. They help improve reflexes, hand-eye coordination, improve your memory, improves focus, and other benefits as well.

While too many video games can cause bad habits and lead to adverse effects, in moderation they are good for you.”

5. Get out of it.

“Quitting a toxic relationship.

Not all but some people stay in a toxic relationship thinking that it’s the right thing to do and it might help their partner to change. No.

Leaving is actually good for the both of you.”

6. Sober is good.

“Not drinking.

People for some reason assume you can’t have fun without al**hol but me and my friends have always preferred having a chill reunion and talking over partying.

I thought a**ohol was supposed to be generally a toxic substance but apparently not drinking automatically makes you a degenerate hermit where I live.”

7. Just go easy on it.

“Cheese.

I mean you don’t want to eat an entire block but if you shred an ounce or so over your salad or put some over your roasted vegetables it’s still good for you so long as you aren’t lactose intolerant or your doctor hasn’t told you to not eat it for some reason.

It makes vegetables more palatable and it’s a good source of calcium. It’s not completely negating the effects of eating healthy like I’ve seen some people claim, just don’t over do it and stick to the serving size since it’s a high calorie food group.”

8. MSG.

“Monosodium Glutamate (MSG/Ajinomoto)

Maybe you can’t technically say “good for you” but it’s a lot better for you than too much salt and you only need a fraction of the amount vs salt for the same amount of flavor.

The negativity associated with MSG is rooted in racism.”

9. Some people need to do it.

“Divorce.

It’s definitely stigmatized, but it is a really good thing. Sorry, I didn’t know my ex-husband would become a raging al**holic that refused to get help.

Things were good when we got married, he always liked to drink, but he wasn’t downing a fifth every day like he was at the end. I tried to help him, but he refused any treatment or therapy.

No one deserves to just have to suffer and live with that. I am very happy I got divorced, and have never regretted it.”

10. Give it a shot.

“Fasting.

A lot of people think it is bad for the body meanwhile there are a lot of proof that it has a lot of advantages for the body.”

11. Crack away!

“Cracking your bones.

It doesn’t cause arthritis like widely speculated and it’s just the release of gases from joints.

Chiropractors are actually great to see as they can treat back pain, migraines, whiplash and other conditions.”

12. Here we go again.

“Carbs!!

Carbs do not make you fat. Fat does not make you fat. Sugar does not make you fat.

Eating more calories than you use, day after day will make you fat. Doesn’t matter what the hell you eat.”

13. Builds character.

“Having your feelings hurt.

Obviously not on a constant 24/7 basis, but getting your feelings hurt helps you in the long run because you’ll be able to handle it better down the line, ideally.

If you’re constantly coddled and no one ever upsets you, then you step out into the real world with a very, VERY warped perspective.

And the first time you inevitably do not get respected the way you feel you deserve, you throw a childish tantrum even though you’re almost in your forties.”

Now we want to hear from you.

Tell us some more things people think are bad for us but are actually good.

Do it in the comments, please!

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What’s the Biggest Scam You Ever Fell For? People Shared Their Stories.

It always breaks my heart when I hear about people (particularly older ones) who get bilked out of all their money because they fell for a scam.

And it also makes me want to find the people responsible for those scams so I could have a few words with them.

Bottom line: there are a ton of scammers out there doing everything they can to try to separate you from your money.

What’s the biggest scam you ever fell for?

AskReddit users admitted their shame.

1. That’s too bad.

“There was a company advertising that they would help people wipe out predatory student loans.

Long story short I blew $800 on a company that got shut down by the Gov’t for fraudulent practices and was denied a refund.”

2. Talkspace.

“Spent $250 on Talkspace (got $200 back because I demanded a redund).

They (their therapists) waste a week of your time to reply once and reply with a canned response of, “oh that sounds stressful, how is your sleep schedule?”

I cannot stress enough how much of a waste of time and money that s**t was.”

3. Bummer.

“These people called me with one of HMRC numbers telling me I didn’t pay some taxes, saying they sent lots of letters to my old address to which I never responded.

I didn’t know they could make me see the number they wanted. After a quick check on the government website I saw that the number was the same and I believed them. I was 20 years old and living in London on my own.

I gave them 1000£ and never felt so stupid in my life.”

4. Could have been worse.

“Not too bad I lost 35 bucks. I fell for those stores on Instagram.

I was just getting on it so I didn’t know most were scam stores. Because I followed some small retailers that I already bought from.

I thought it was the same thing. Website was or looked legit but I never got my boots.

Smart too because I got it from them because they were 15 bucks cheaper. Not some crazy amount that made you question it.

Luckily I paid with PayPal. It could’ve been worse if they had my credit card information.”

5. Ugh.

“My former best friend and his dad cheated me out of my money to invest in their company.

When I asked for a contract, his dad said, “Between true friends, words aren’t necessary.”

When they started making money, I asked for my money back, and they said they didn’t owe me a thing.”

6. Scammed!

“There was a company advertising that they would help people wipe out predatory student loans.

Long story short, I blew $800 on a company that got shut down by the government for fraudulent practices and was denied a refund.”

7. Oh, no.

“Right after my dad died I got a call from a number I didn’t know.

They left a voice mail saying they needed my social security number so they could pay out a life insurance policy to me. I was 21 and super inexperienced with stuff like this. So I did what any real adult would do. I asked my mom for advice.

She told me it was legit and to give them my SS number. I had a weird feeling about it but if my mom said it was ok then it must be ok. I did it. I called back and gave the guy that answered my SS number.

I never got a check but my mom suddenly did from a policy my dad “forgot” to take her off of even though they had been divorced years before.

She did give my 10k but I’m 100% positive it was worth way more and she had something to do with it all. We don’t talk anymore for various reasons including this one.”

8. VIP.

“I went to buy a Rolling Stones ticket from a scalper years ago (i know, i know) and he talked me into a VIP Backstage Pass. He said that’s all I need!

Free food, booze, all the perks. He insisted the sticker was all I needed to get in, no paper ticket necessary.

So a few hours later I go to the show, obviously can’t get in – it was a VIP pass from the night before. There was no date on it, just a different shape.

I try every single gate hoping someone won’t notice/not care and finally try the media entrance. The nice lady ushered me right in, I took an elevator up to the main concourse and I was free as a bird. I didn’t have a seat obviously but I snuck down to the floor and ended up having a great show.

Still feel burned by the stupid f**k to this day though. I’ve seen him at other shows (nice neck tattoo of a fish, you fu**in’ pr**k) and I always f**k with him.”

9. Felt like an idiot.

“It happened while I was at work in a grocery store (no longer working there for unrelated reasons). Overworked, stressed out of my mind, and probably had some form of sleep deprivation going on at the time.

Answered a customer service call for Western Union during a very busy time and had a severe lapse in judgement that resulted in me doing a transaction over the phone (the biggest thing they drill into our heads NOT to do).

I thankfully didn’t get any further (only one transaction went through rather than several) before things clicked and I hung up on them horrified. Reported it asap for damage control and spent the next few days praying that I wouldn’t lose my job for it (transaction over the phone = fire-able offense).

Thankfully, since I didn’t have a problematic work history my boss was able to save my job with the only caveats being retraining and a note being on file for at least a year. Huge self-esteem and mental health loss though, felt like a gigantic idiot for months afterwards.”

10. A hassle.

“I was in Rome walking around when a guy came up to me and handed me a rose saying it was a gift. I took it, and then he demanded money.

I refused to pay, and tried to give it back (should have just placed it on the floor). Long story short, my friend saw me from across the plaza arguing and came over.

The guy wouldn’t leave me alone, so my friend paid him off. I felt so bad.”

11. Phishing.

“An email something like:

“You’re paypal has been accessed from an unknown source, click here to update your password.”

It looked official and asked for me to login to update my password. When I realized the website didn’t allow me to view my profile I panicked. I then spent the day taking the nessassary precautions.

Lesson, always go to the website yourself and don’t click links in emails.”

Have you ever been scammed before?

If so, please tell us all about it in the comments.

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What Do Folks Think Is Bad For You but It’s Actually Good? Here’s What People Said.

It’s kind of funny how trends catch on and everyone seems to get really into them…and then a little while later, most people wise up and realize that maybe that thing wasn’t so great, after all…

Life is weird.

What do people think is bad for us that is actually good?

Let’s see what folks on AskReddit had to say about this.

1. We all fail.

“Failure.

I used to get punished for failure as a kid. Bad grades? Punished. Made any kind of mistake? Punished.

This is a horrible way to raise a kid because instead of learning to try until you succeed, or ask for help when you can’t succeed without it, they lie and cover up failure to avoid punishment.”

2. Gotta face it.

“Feeling painful emotions instead of distracting yourself from them.

Yeah, it’s not good to face them all of the time, but ignoring them all of the time isn’t really good either.”

3. It’s necessary sometimes.

“Quitting or knowing when to quit.

This one, 10/10. I just quit a job that shattered my mental and physical health. It was the competitive, well-paying “dream job” that I wanted more than anything when I was just starting out in my field.

Left it all behind for complete uncertainty, but an uncertain future is better than a certain and miserable future. As scary as it was (and is), quitting was the best and bravest thing I’ve ever done.

Not sure where I’m heading, but I know what I’m choosing to leave behind, and I know I don’t want to go back in that direction–and that’s a good enough start. 🙂 Take care of your current selves and take care of your future selves, quitting can be an act of courage.”

4. Let it all out.

“Crying.

It’s very healthy and a natural reaction to emotions but people think it makes them weak and vulnerable.”

5. We all need it.

“Alone time.

I’ve had countless times when I found myself alone and wanted to do so.

It is perfect when you need to reflect on yourself and your life and find some answers.”

6. A good thing.

“Going to the Psychologist.

Fortunately, many people are starting to open their minds to it.”

7. Release.

“S** and mast**bation.

You can avoid a lot of health issues by doing those.

It also helps a lot with depression and anxiety as it releases a lot of endorphine and dopamine.”

8. Works for some people.

“Being single.

Not being attached/responsible for other human lives gives you the ultimate freedom to risk it all and do what you actually want.”

9. Bring on the salt.

“Salt/sodium

It’s one of the most common electrolytes that people consume, and in the case of those with iodine-deficiency, iodized salt is a safe effect way to supplement iodine into your diet, and prevent goiter. Salt often gets vilified, because it can, but not necessarily will, elevate your blood pressure.

Electrolytes are necessary for the electrochemical processes in your body to operate. Not enough electrolytes can cause organ, nerve, and metabolic dysfunction, leading to coma, seizure, and cardiac arrest.

The misconception is that salt causes high blood pressure/hypertension, which is false. A possible effect of consuming salt is a temporary elevation of blood pressure.

Doctors recommended following a low-sodium/salt diet, if you already have hypertension or if you’ve undergone heart surgery, because they don’t want you to risk increasing stress on an already stressed heart, or unnecessarily stressing a recovering heart.”

10. Time to relax.

“Not being busy. Not constantly hustling or trying to do it all.

Not living for the weekend.

Down time can be a good thing.”

11. Take it easy.

“Not sanitizing everything.

If you sanitize every surface you touch, it destroys your immune system, as well as causing issues due to the chemicals used to sanitize things.

Just wash your hands, counters, and other surfaces when they’re dirty, or after sickness.

Use normal soap, and it’s all good.”

12. Gotta have a balance.

“Taking a break from exercise every now and then to focus on my mental health.

Being mentally fit is more important to me than being a gym fiend.”

What do you think?

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13 People Admit the Legal Substances They’re Addicted To

I have this debate with older people a lot, but they are just absolutely horrified that marijuana is now legal in so many states across the country.

But ci**rettes and al**hol? Hey, those are no big deal at all!

And yes, as you all know, those are perfectly legal if you’re of age.

It’s just kind of funny how the stigma of things being legal or illegal influences the opinions of people out there.

People on AskReddit admitted what legal substances they’re addicted to.

Let’s take a look.

1. Still calling to you.

“Potato chips. Salt and vinegar especially.

I can eat entire family bags of them in a sitting. I’ve been making serious efforts to cut that out lately, I’ve been chip free for almost a week.

And yet the crisps call to me…”

2. Good stuff.

“La Croix.

Specifically passion fruit and coconut flavors.

I go through about 3-4 12 packs a week.

This s**t is expensive too.”

3. Might be overdoing it.

“Diet Coke.

Hands down.

It’s a problem.

Or maybe it’s not.

Brb, getting some Diet Coke.”

4. Your babies.

“PLANTS. I talk to mine every single day and want to always grow more and more and more and more of them. My plants aren’t even mine!

Most are my friend’s. Him and his bf are gonna come get them when it gets warm but actually I might fight them now cause they’ve become my babies.”

5. Hello, old friend.

“Flaming Hot Cheetoss 🔥 .

They’re terrible I know, but I’ve been eating them longer than I’ve known most my friends.”

6. Mary Jane.

“Marijuana.

Yes, I have been using more than I should.

Yes, you can abuse it.

No, it is not good for you in these quantities.

No, it is not easy to kick the habit.”

7. I love them!

“Cheez Its.

I used to go over to my best friend’s home growing up and eat all their Cheez Its.

Every year for my birthday, Christmas, and any big event in my life, her parents would buy me a box.”

8. Do the Dew.

“Mountain Dew.

No, I’m not addicted to the sugar. Or the caffeine. I have tried substitutes. If I don’t have a Mountain Dew for about 48 hours, I will get MEAN.

I’ve lost a lot of weight and kept it off for like 6 or 7 years. One of my friends told me I’d probably lose another 5 or 10 pounds if I could stop Mountain Dew.”

9. Rare, but delicious.

“Lilikoi flavored Hi-Chews. You can only get them at this one chain of stores in Hawaii.

Luckily for me, as someone who lives in CA, my girlfriend’s sister lives in Honolulu and sends me boxes of them a few times a year. They’re heavenly. Kicks the s**t out of a Starburst.

Honorable mention to Sour Mambas. I really like fruity, chewy candy.”

10. Doesn’t sound very pleasant.

“Red pepper flakes. Every time I eat pizza, I have to sprinkle a lot, knowing full well it will burn coming out.

The sensation is like I’m trying to s**t out the sun.”

11. A lot of people are like this.

“Video games. Sometimes it feels as if it’s as destructive as hard drugs. I’ll stop for weeks at a time but can never quit completely.

When I binge it feels like I’m wasting away my life and falling into a self destructive hole.”

12. A tough one.

“Nicotine.

I actually quit ci**rettes for a few months (was hell first few weeks) then suddenly bought a pack few days ago when was feeling really off, finished it then promised not to get back to it.

Aday later got news of a cousin passing away, so here I am sitting with my brand new pack. If you don’t smoke, dont start.”

13. Time for rehab?

“Trader Joe’s Peanut butter filled pretzels.

Two bags a week, would be more but I have to limit how many I buy.”

Okay, it’s confession time.

What legal substances are you addicted to?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know!

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People Talk About Things That Are Considered Wholesome but Are Actually Toxic

I’m gonna go ahead and just say it…

No, I don’t have children, but I think people who use their children as tools and pawns on social media to get likes and try to become “influencers” are honestly kind of sick.

But a lot of people out there think it’s wholesome and cute…and that’s just plain weird to me.

AskReddit users talked about what is considered wholesome but are actually toxic.

Let’s see what they had to say.

1. Not healthy for them.

“Unfortunately, many people do think that feeding their pets on demand is loving them.

The rationale tends to be that depriving pets of food at any given time is neglecting or abusing them.

One of my aunts thought this way with her previous pup and had a significant wake-up call when said dog’s vet told her that he had weight issues and other concerns once he reached his middle years because she was overfeeding him.

She was, understandably, upset and has since realized the value of scheduled feedings.”

2. Totally toxic.

“Kids having lemonade stands to pay for cancer treatment, etc.

Any of those stories about children working to pay for a family member’s medical costs, pay off their friends’ school lunch debt, etc. is absolutely NOT wholesome.

That is not something a child should have to worry about.”

3. Gross.

“As a former homeless person, I can’t put into words how annoying the people who film themselves handing out food for a viral video with some emotional pop song overlaid on it are.

It’s 100% “look at me, look how cool and HELPFUL I am” while honestly not giving a real d**n about the homeless.

It’d be one thing if you’re putting your fame and money back into funding a shelter, or true change and volunteering and charity efforts but not just dropping $20 on some McDonalds meals to drive around LA filming strangers sleeping on the street for a bit.”

4. Outdated.

“Dating advice that includes relentlessly pursuing a woman who has made it clear that she doesn’t like you.

Lot of the blame for this is old rom coms that basically show that stalking a woman will always end up with love.”

5. Stressful for animals.

“Every so often I’ll see a ‘cute wildlife’ photo that is very obviously staged, probably to the stress of the animal/s in question.

It’s absolutely fu**ed up, but because people keep sharing them on social media, some a**holes out there will keep on essentially torturing animals just so we can go ‘Awww!’.””

6. Run for it!

“”We’re all just one big family!”

If anyone tells you this in a workplace setting, run.

They’re only like a family in the sense of the most toxic parts of one that exploit you.”

7. Not always a good thing.

“Supporting someone no matter what choices they make.

You can love someone to the ends of the earth, that doesn’t mean they will 100% be right all of the time, no matter how much you love or admire them.”

8. Can it!

““Good Vibes Only” postings.

Let people experience real emotions, Sarah, not insta-perfect emulations of surfer chill.”

9. Very weird.

“Proposing in front of a crowd.

Puts a lot of pressure on the person being proposed to.”

10. People can be upset.

“Toxic positivity.

Like when someone’s having a really hard time and you tell them to stay positive or try to look at the bright side.”

11. Sad state of affairs.

“School fundraisers.

If the government can’t give schools enough funds, then everything is wrong.”

12. Agreed!

“The general idea our society and culture have of “relationship goals”.

Not being able to eat/sleep/think/function without your partner is not healthy.

Being obsessed with your partner is not healthy.

Looking to your partner to complete you or make you feel whole is not healthy.

Changing who you are for your partner is not healthy.

Looking to your partner as the person who is responsible for your happiness is not healthy.

Being two people, supporting each other’s goals and individuality is healthy.”

13. Annoying.

“When people who are super spiritual and love love love all the time judge and ridicule you for not being in a good mood or for needing space.

“You’re ruining the vibe” “this isn’t a hostile environment”- gaslighting is wrong and these people do it ALL THE TIME! I call them “the love police”.”

What do you think about this?

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We can’t wait to hear from you!

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Deaf People Open Up About What Their Inner Voices Are Like

If you’ve never experienced it, how would you know?

That can apply to many things in life, but I’ve often wondered what deaf people “hear” in their heads.

Inner dialogue? Silence? I really have no idea.

But that’s about to change.

Let’s hear what deaf people had to say about this on AskReddit.

1. Thinking in sign language.

“My mom is profoundly deaf and I asked her this same question (totally not a stupid question!)

She said she thinks in ASL.

I have caught her signing to herself just like I sometimes talk to myself.”

2. Imaginary world.

“For the first 5 years of my life i was technically deaf.

I couldn’t hear anything.

I remember thinking by closing my eyes and imagining the thing I wanted to think. So I would close my eyes and see my own imaginary world.

I can still do it but only in complete silence. It’s a trait I will forever hold but I’m not mad at it.

It can be very helpful in some situations!”

3. The inner voice.

“I can hear my own voice in my head, or the version of it that I hear, but the inner voice thing only happens when I am thinking about conversation or actively thinking about that voice.

Most of my thoughts are images or words and ideas without a voice attached.”

4. Reimagining images.

“Before I got surgery for my cochlear implant/before learning ASL, I don’t exactly recall knowing about any “mental functionalities” like using a thinking voice.

Most of my mental uses were re-imagining images in visual thoughts (if I wanted a hotdog, I’d visualize a hotdog). Besides that, my dreams were like silent films (and 95% still often are silent even after my surgery to help me hear).

After that and being able to hear for some years, at some point, I developed an “inner voice” which just… doesn’t have any clear vocal sound to it? Yet, at the same time, kind… of… does? Kinda weird/hard to explain.

It’s a jump between “muffled ‘speaking’ sound as I think” and “hollow echoes” for my normal thinking voice, and when I read fiction with characters, for those who have pre-set voiced I re-imagine them in my head as to how they would act it out and it would ‘sound’ just like the tone I’d hear from the media they’re from.

For the stories that aren’t adapted into any audio format, I make them up in my head and try to make them sound distinct if I felt like it, haha.

My friends (non-CI) have told me they either don’t mentally see/”hear” anything at all and have no idea the concept I’m trying to explain or they visualize floating hands signing to them in their mind space. I don’t think in the latter at all, except when there are signs I’m trying to remember/reference.”

5. Deep and high pitches.

“Naturally we can’t even describe what it sounds like as we don’t really understand sound in the way you do.

Maybe the basics like deep and high pitches but the difference between notes or octaves are something only understood through theory (i.e. reading about them).

We don’t understand what makes a singer good but we for sure know how to tell if it’s a good beat (provided it’s loud enough to feel).

As such, speaking for myself here – my inner voice is more literally like thinking. A mixture of instinctual understanding and the words that describe the meaning I want to express.

I am a writer so words are quite colorful to me. They convey a myriad of imagination. I also am a philosopher so I admire and observe closely the metaphysics at play here.

Words can occasionally come out in English as it is best expressed through English. Some come out as sign language as there are sayings that only make sense in sign language. It’s a blend of both as well as the raw emotional output that form my thoughts.

Also, there is the silence in between the thoughts. Depends on how much you pay attention I suppose.”

6. Raised in a hearing world.

“Was born profoundly deaf. Wore hearing aids from 6 months old and replaced it with a cochlear implant at 15. I only have one, don’t hear out of the other ear unless I opt to get another one for bilateral hearing. I was never taught how to sign.

I was raised in a hearing world. People don’t even realize I’m deaf most of the time until they see the implant. I’m a bit of an outlier I guess. I’m not involved in the deaf community though I do have a couple of deaf friends who both talk and sign.

My voice sounds a lot cooler in my head than what it really is, probably the same for most people.”

7. How you’re raised.

“Deaf profound here, did surgery on right ear at 2, later left ear at 14 or so, I have inner voice whole time.

Never ASL, I learned basic of ASL in high school. So not surprised, consider I started hearing sound when very young. Its a good question.

I supposed its related to how we was raised, if we was raise ddoing ASL, then we might ASL in our head, otherwise it’s a voice.”

8. Interesting.

“Born profoundly deaf here. Used hearing aids for the first 20 or so years of life, and also used American Sign Language.

Since I was able to use hearing aids and get a general idea of what words and phrases sound like, my inner voice speaks. However, when I dream- it’s a combination of both spoken language and ASL.

Sometimes my dreams are even subtitled! Growing up watching tv with the captions and subtitles on all the time had an effect I guess.”

9. Thinking in ASL.

“I’m profoundly deaf, grew up with deaf parents.

ASL is my first language, “mother hands” lol. Anyway, I noticed that I often think either in ASL or written English. Sometimes English words have no ASL signs for some English words, basically untranslatable so I often think in English words if no ASL sign are available.

Sometimes it’s more abstract. But very often it’s ASL in my mind. I also have an inner voice where I sometimes have a conversation with myself in ASL.”

10. Adapted.

“I asked my niece this.

She said she had an inner voice but it was more a feeling than a voice. She described it as feeling the vibrations from loud music.

When she had her surgery, and she heard voices for the first time, her inner voice.”

We’d like to hear from more deaf people.

If this means you, please tell us what your inner voice sounds like.

Talk to us in the comments, thanks!

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What’s the Scariest Fact You Know? People Responded.

In case you haven’t been paying attention, the world can be a pretty scary place.

And I’m talking about the natural world, the actual human beings walking around, all of it is kind of terrifying.

You ready to get scared?

People on AskReddit talked about the scariest facts they know.

Let’s get weird!

1. Sounds painful.

“If a bear attacks it won’t k**l you immediately, it’ll just start eating.”

2. Horrible.

“If you have FFI (fatal familial insomnia) you will experience progressively worsening sleeplessness.

Your inability to sleep eventually turns into total insomnia at which point you’ll die. People who have this rare genetic condition will all die.

It’s inevitable; most people within a year of it’s onset… scary to think about.”

3. Scary plants.

“There’s a plant that grows in Australia called the Gympie-Gympie , touching the plant will result in an unbearable pain because of the small needles on the plant.

The pain is so unbearable people and animals k**led themselves because of it.

There’s also a plant called Hogweed that can cause severe burns and blisters that can scar you for life.”

4. Very strange.

“Totally blind people don’t see black, they don’t see at all.

For some reason that’s always frightened me.”

5. Yikes.

“Fun fact!

Being flayed (skinned alive) by a skilled tor**rer meant that you’d be likely to survive the ordeal. Believe it or not dying of shock, or blood loss wasn’t guaranteed.

Often people survived hours, or days with no skin. In these cases what finished them off was hypothermia.”

6. Can’t be stopped.

“Prion diseases exist.

They’re not bacteria or viruses, there isn’t an infection, per se, to attack.

They’re basically an alternate form of protein, and we can’t stop them.”

7. Frightening.

“A brain aneurysm can hit you any time, anywhere, with next to no warning.”

8. A little weird.

“All communication in the United States is controlled by fewer than 10 companies.

All major news in the US is controlled by 5 companies, including Disney and Comcast.”

9. Messed up.

“In certain parts of South Africa, girls are more likely to be r**ed than learn how to read.”

10. Be careful.

“You can have rabies for years before it even shows symptoms.

Then one day you get a headache and it’s a death sentence from there.”

11. Impressive.

“A moose can swim about 16 feet/5 meters underwater, which is why orcas are natural predators of them.

Imagine you’re diving underwater, suddenly there’s a moose sitting at the bottom eating sea grass, then it gets eaten by an orca.

That would be terrifying.”

12. Oh, great.

“Your skin is not 100% attached to your body.

With enough air pressure beneath the skin, your body will become a balloon with a solid core and it will be excruciating before the embolism k**ls you.”

13. Scary and true.

“Rose West is, alongside her husband Fred, one of the most infamous serial k**lers in modern British history who k**led several lodgers in her house. And if not for a single mistake, she would’ve gotten away with it.

When they were finally caught, all evidence actually pointed to Fred being the sole culprit and she shifted the blame onto him. Either out of a fu**ed-up sense of loyalty or despair for being betrayed, Fred committed suicide in custody which seemed to end the idea of bringing him and his wife to trial, relegating any other investigations into figuring out what crimes Fred had committed.

The police were still deeply convinced that either Rose knew more about the murders than she was letting on or she was a direct participant, but she was a tough egg to crack. The police tried every angle conceivable but she always deflected the blame onto Fred and there was never a crack in her story – too well rehearsed. She knew what to say, when to say it and they couldn’t trip her up.

However, while investigating both her husband and her own backgrounds, they discovered that Fred had a daughter from his first wife… and the police confirmed that not only was this girl one of Rose’s victims, Fred has an iron-clad alibi for when she died because he was in prison.

And when they confirmed that another victim found was the girl’s mother, the police had a clear motive – Rose k**led her step-daughter and told people she was back to living with her mother, and had Fred k**l his first wife to keep her quiet.”

Now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us what you think is the scariest fact you know.

Please and thank you!

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People Talked About Their “I Told You So” Moments That Still Make Them Laugh

You can’t always prove someone wrong, but when you do, it’s a good feeling.

Especially if that person is a real jerk who needs to be put in their place.

And we’re about to sink our teeth into some good stories like that right now.

Folks on AskReddit shared their “I told you so” moments.

Enjoy!

1. Here’s a piece of my mind.

“My newborn baby was projectile vomiting after every feeding. I took her to the doctor several times, always ended up being sent away with suggestions to try a different formula.

I tried like 4 different ones, no change. The 4th or 5th visit, they sent me away again with the same recommendation even though I pleaded with them to figure out what was wrong with my baby. I left the office and drove to the ER instead. She ended up having emergency surgery that day.

The surgeon said she would have starved to death (or maybe dehydrated?) had she gone much longer without the surgery. I gave the doctors in that office a piece of my mind.”

2. Thief!

“Lawyer here.

Fired a partner who I found some real irregularities in their spending habits vs. what they were making after he couldn’t provide a good answer to where it came from.

Other partner left and started a new firm with them because they disagreed with my decision and refused to look at the evidence.

Turns out he stole 500k of a clients money, got disbarred, and is now facing prison time. I told her to look at the evidence and she didn’t listen. “

3. Don’t go that way.

“My sister and I were out sledding when we were kids at this place with a really steep hill. I had unknowingly gone down a sled path that had a jump in it, and when I landed it really hurt my back. So when I got back up to the top of the hill I told my sister “don’t go that way, the jump really hurts”.

She called me a baby and didn’t believe me that it really hurt so she decided she would go down that path on her sled. Well, she hit the jump and didn’t get back up, turns out she fell so hard she had broken her leg. When we finally got her back up the hill and to the car, I got to tell her “I told you so”.”

4. Time to get chewed out.

“I work at a US Navy shipyard.

My worst “I told you so” moment was when a submarine had multiple issues with sanitation/collection tanks and the piping that led from the showers and toilets to the sanitation/collection tanks. Documented and pointed out the same problems over a 12 week period. Supervisors and the tank area manager didn’t give a d**n and pointedly ignored my reports.

Undocking day was approaching and the Captain of the sub wanted the boat out on time. So they moved up the tank closure schedule. So tank closing protocol requires several signoffs: one from a qualified civilian inspector, one from a qualified Navy Hull Technician sailor, and one from a qualified Navy Engineering officer.

That tank in question failed all three concurrent inspections. Undocking got pushed back by 30 days until all problems found were corrected.

Daily operations estimated costs were north of $10,000/day. Factor in the mandatory overtime and rework required and we were looking at maybe triple the daily cost. This is just people’s pay, I didn’t get to see the material cost overrun but I know for a fact that a lot of the materials got shipped in or fabricated in-house overnight.

Needless to say, a lot of people on General Schedule pay got chewed out by the then-Shipyard CO in private.”

5. Scandalous.

“My best friend started dating my ex wife (ten years after the divorce and he checked if id take issue even though he didnt need to) anyway when we divorced it was because she was cheating on me while I was in Afghanistan.

He goes out of state for work and told me she started acting off not answering calls quick to hang up starting fights when hes home or going to parties rather than spend time with him.

I pointed out this is what she did to me almost exactly and stated that if he confronts her on her s**t she will probably with out provocation accuse him of cheating and more to the point most likely because she is actively cheating cue thirty minute monologue of how shes grown up and shes not that person now shes just used to not having to answer to others or having a real relationship in year.

Three hour later he calls because he went to pick up some weed and there she is bl**ing the seller.”

6. Don’t touch that!

“Was picking beans with my sister and mom. To this day I still don’t know why the fence was electric but it was. I touched it and I got zapped.

It wasn’t too bad but it hurt. I jumped away and my sister saw me, I said that it was an electric fence. Of course she just thought I was pranking her. I was trying to tell her the whole time we picked beans but she didn’t believe me.

Right at the end she touched the fence and she didn’t see it coming at all… Her face was just like, “Oh shi-”

Loved the car ride home, “I told you… Idiot.””

7. Gotta get it checked out.

“Had a weirdly dark freckle. The color of chocolate.

I showed spouse and he called me a hypochondriac and if I go to a doctor, I’d be wasting their time.

I went to the dermatologist. It was melanoma.”

8. Take that, Mom!

“Since I was 14, my throat got itchy when I ate apples.

I told my mom but she thought I just didn’t want to eat apples and forced me to eat them.

Went to the doctor’s office and got a test for allergies. Turns out, I’m allergic to apples, peaches, and many other fruits.”

9. Don’t drink and drive.

“In high school I was at a party where everyone was getting drunk.

I had come with two friends and near the end of the night this one guy there was losing everyone into his van to get late night food. He swore he was not drunk and there were so many people in his car, including the two people I came with, it was not a battle I was going to win.

But it seemed like an obviously dumb situation; bunch of underage kids packed into a van driving around in the suburbs at 1:00 in the morning. I told my friends that this wasn’t a good idea and they need to get out of the van and come back gone with me (my house was within walking distance). They acted like I was a party p**per for a sec but then they got out.

Next day I find out the guy driving ram a red light and got t-boned by a truck. The one kid in the back almost died and everyone got banged up. The friends I pulled out of the van were in the backseat along with him.

Not saying I saved their lives but… I really may have saved their lives.”

10. Just do it!

“I spent months telling my mother to get a dash camera, I even sent her a link to a cheap one on Amazon so she would at bare minimum have something.

Some time later she got a new car and in less than a week she got into an accident (she was fine), but because she couldn’t prove that the other driver was at fault their insurance company would only pay for some of the damage (car was totaled).

The worst part is that she still hasn’t gotten a d**n camera…”

11. Tried to warn you.

“I once owned a dog who was very stubborn and independent. She lived a feral life in the mountains as a young pup, and I feel like that played a role. She felt more like a roommate than a pet.

She was having heart trouble when she got older so she had to get a chest scan at the vet. These two men came out to get her, so I gave them a heads up that she would absolutely dislike being flipped on her back and held there for the scan (flipping a dog on it’s back is putting it in a pretty submissive position).

One of the guys interrupted me and basically said they were professionals and I had to just let them work. They snapped a muzzle on her and took her to the back.

A few seconds pass, then I hear a crash and a few yells. One of the guys who took her comes out and sheepishly asks for my help.

It turns out as soon as they flipped her on her back she kicked out of their arms, unclipped her muzzle, removed it with her front paws, then made a mad dash for freedom.

I caught her roaming around the back of the vet’s office and she was perfectly well behaved while I held her for the scan. I felt bad for two guys she escaped from, but I had tried to warn them.”

Have you ever had an “I told you so” moment?

If so, please share them with us in the comments.

Thanks a lot!

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