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Woman Asks if She’s Wrong For Wearing White as the Maid of Honor

I know I’m preaching to the choir, but I’m just gonna tell you one more time: it’s probably not a great idea to mess with a woman on their wedding day…or in the months leading up to it.

Just trust us on this one, okay?

But, people are gonna be people and this woman made what some folks would consider to be a huge error in judgment…or maybe not…

Check out this story from the “Am I The A**hole?” page on Reddit.

AITA for wearing white as Maid of Honor while my friend is “the Bride”?

“My best friend Joy (28F) is getting married next year to her long time partner. Recently she started wedding planning and asked me (29F) to be her maid of honor—we have been friends for nearly 20 years and needless to say I was super excited.

Joy has started planning, and it’s been incredibly stressful for her. I have tried my best to be as supportive and helpful where I can, going above and beyond (daily discussions, fielding unwieldy family members, acting a buffer sometimes). I am prefacing with this because the next part is frankly bonkers and I am having trouble processing.

Last Sunday, Joy and I met with some of our friends for lunch (we are all vaccinated at this point). Since it was the first time seeing friends in a while and we were going to a nice restaurant, I decided to dress up a little.

It was pretty hot over the weekend so I opted to wear an old, white linen dress to our gathering (one I have worn many times). I thought everything was totally fine, but I noticed Joy giving me strange looks at lunch and only talking in short responses with me. I brushed it off as stress and when we got up to say goodbye, Joy left in a rush.

When I got home, I was had a bunch of angry texts from Joy saying she was disappointed in me and couldn’t believe I would try to “dull her shine during this special time”. I was confused asked her to elaborate. Apparently she was furious that I had dared to wear white while she was the bride to be.

I was FLOORED. I apologized (kind of) stating that I was sorry she was so upset, but that I wasn’t sure how my wearing white to a casual friends hang was a slight on her being a bride, nor how it was taking attention away from her. She flipped out and called me all sorts of names, and said she has no idea how she could have picked such an unsupportive and attention-grabbing MOH.

I snapped a little and told her that while I respected she was getting married, that did not entitle her on a monopoly on the color white and that while her wedding was the most important thing going on in her life, it was not the most important thing going on in other peoples lives.

Now I am aware that a bride generally wears white to wedding related events and the guests should not, but this brunch was not wedding related in the slightest. I feel especially sad since I feel that I have gone out of my way to help, and our past friendship has been very calm and loving.

My friends are generally supportive of me (a few think I should have somehow had the foresight to see this—apparently psychic abilities are another MOH requirement I missed) but think I should just try to make peace since she is clearly under a lot of stress. I do feel a bit bad, especially about the comment about her wedding not being the most important thing in my life, but am not budging.

AITA?”

Oh, my…

Let’s see what folks on Reddit had to say about this.

This person said that, given the circumstances, this woman is not acting like a jerk.

At all.

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Another reader said this is really a no-win situation for the woman and that she should just walk away.

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This Reddit user said she should give the bride a chance to apologize and if she doesn’t, maybe it’s time to walk away.

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And lastly, this person argued that the bride here is probably so overwhelmed with the planning of her wedding that she’s not really aware of how her behavior is affecting other people.

Good point.

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Woman Asks if She’s Wrong For Wearing White as the Maid of Honor

I know I’m preaching to the choir, but I’m just gonna tell you one more time: it’s probably not a great idea to mess with a woman on their wedding day…or in the months leading up to it.

Just trust us on this one, okay?

But, people are gonna be people and this woman made what some folks would consider to be a huge error in judgment…or maybe not…

Check out this story from the “Am I The A**hole?” page on Reddit.

AITA for wearing white as Maid of Honor while my friend is “the Bride”?

“My best friend Joy (28F) is getting married next year to her long time partner. Recently she started wedding planning and asked me (29F) to be her maid of honor—we have been friends for nearly 20 years and needless to say I was super excited.

Joy has started planning, and it’s been incredibly stressful for her. I have tried my best to be as supportive and helpful where I can, going above and beyond (daily discussions, fielding unwieldy family members, acting a buffer sometimes). I am prefacing with this because the next part is frankly bonkers and I am having trouble processing.

Last Sunday, Joy and I met with some of our friends for lunch (we are all vaccinated at this point). Since it was the first time seeing friends in a while and we were going to a nice restaurant, I decided to dress up a little.

It was pretty hot over the weekend so I opted to wear an old, white linen dress to our gathering (one I have worn many times). I thought everything was totally fine, but I noticed Joy giving me strange looks at lunch and only talking in short responses with me. I brushed it off as stress and when we got up to say goodbye, Joy left in a rush.

When I got home, I was had a bunch of angry texts from Joy saying she was disappointed in me and couldn’t believe I would try to “dull her shine during this special time”. I was confused asked her to elaborate. Apparently she was furious that I had dared to wear white while she was the bride to be.

I was FLOORED. I apologized (kind of) stating that I was sorry she was so upset, but that I wasn’t sure how my wearing white to a casual friends hang was a slight on her being a bride, nor how it was taking attention away from her. She flipped out and called me all sorts of names, and said she has no idea how she could have picked such an unsupportive and attention-grabbing MOH.

I snapped a little and told her that while I respected she was getting married, that did not entitle her on a monopoly on the color white and that while her wedding was the most important thing going on in her life, it was not the most important thing going on in other peoples lives.

Now I am aware that a bride generally wears white to wedding related events and the guests should not, but this brunch was not wedding related in the slightest. I feel especially sad since I feel that I have gone out of my way to help, and our past friendship has been very calm and loving.

My friends are generally supportive of me (a few think I should have somehow had the foresight to see this—apparently psychic abilities are another MOH requirement I missed) but think I should just try to make peace since she is clearly under a lot of stress. I do feel a bit bad, especially about the comment about her wedding not being the most important thing in my life, but am not budging.

AITA?”

Oh, my…

Let’s see what folks on Reddit had to say about this.

This person said that, given the circumstances, this woman is not acting like a jerk.

At all.

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Another reader said this is really a no-win situation for the woman and that she should just walk away.

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This Reddit user said she should give the bride a chance to apologize and if she doesn’t, maybe it’s time to walk away.

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And lastly, this person argued that the bride here is probably so overwhelmed with the planning of her wedding that she’s not really aware of how her behavior is affecting other people.

Good point.

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This Guy Made His Wife Choose Between Him and Her Best Friend. Is He a Jerk?

If you’re in a relationship, you know that there are certain people who can make your life…challenging.

And a man found himself in a complicated situation when he demanded that his own wife choose between him and her best friend.

Talk about picking a side, huh?

Read on to see what happened.

AITA For making my wife choose between me and her best friend?

“I (M 36) am preparing for my upcoming surgery at the end of May.

I have respiratory condition that I have been suffering from and my wife has been very supportive and accommodating of all my needs. She has endured so much by shouldering this burden with me and I can never describe how much supportive she’s been with everything that has been going on with me.

The problem is that her best friend’s wedding is at the end of may, specifically on the 27th and my surgery takes place the exact same date. Now 27th was not the original date of her friend’s wedding it was supposed to be on may 18th but got changed. Her friend informed us about it on short notice. And my wife wanted to go but it’s a 8_hour trip since the wedding will be held in the groom’s hometown.

My wife and I discussed this, and I bluntly told her I needed her there for my surgery. She told me that that’s her best friend and this will hopefully be her only wedding and she wanted to attend.

She asked if I could get a friend as my support but I just didn’t think this was right I was even puzzled that she asked me to get a substitute while she goes to her friend’s wedding. I asked if her friend’s wedding was more important than my health.

She argued that there was nothing wrong with it and I won’t need her since the medical team will take care of me. Then She said that by refusing I was making her choose betwen me and her best friend. We went back n’ forth on this argument and she insisted she wants to attend her friend’s wedding.

I told her she was being unreasonable and I never expected her to prioritize a wedding over my health. She loudly yelled “what do you want me to do?, I might lose my friend over this” then stopped talking to me.

I think I handled this badly and acted in ungrateful manner but I think she’s the one who doesn’t understand the difference since my surgery is an emergency and if her best friend is a good friend then she’d understand, right?.

So am I wrong for what I said?”

Now it’s time to take a look at what Reddit users think of this story.

This reader said that the wife needs to be there for him during his surgery. No questions asked.

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Another reader said not only would she not be there, but she’d also be really far away.

Unacceptable!

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This individual posed a good question: how would the wife even be able to enjoy herself if she knew her husband was going through that kind of surgery?

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Finally, this person had a different take and said that the wife has been through a lot and that no one is an a**hole in this situation.

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Is This Woman Wrong for Not Giving Her Late Wife’s Ring Back to Her Family? Here’s What People Said.

I think that I’d be pretty eager to honor a friend or family member’s wishes after they passed away…even if it meant there would be some conflict…

And that’s exactly the situation a guy who shared his story on Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page finds himself in after honoring his late wife’s wishes.

Let’s take a look to see what transpired.

AITA for refusing to return my late wife’s ring to the family”

“I (F30) married my wife (F36) a year ago.

We had been together 6 years, married for 1 before she passed away. It has been a really rocky time for me and I am still struggling but getting there, day by day.

My wife had been close with her grandmother when she was growing up and when she passed away her grandmother left a beautiful ring which had been in the family for generations. My wife used this ring to propose to me and it also became my wedding ring.

I have worn it everyday since she gave it to me, and it is truly my most precious item from her. It feels like she is with me always and when I look at it, it brings my heart some happiness to remember our time together. My wife even spent money on the ring to get it restored as it had a few cosmetic faults, but by doing this it more or less doubled the value too.

It is very unique and shaped like a snake with a diamond in its head and rubies for the eyes, the diamond was cracked and the blue enamel needed repairing which she did before proposing.

My BIL has now decided to propose to his girlfriend and he wants to use the snake ring as their grandmother wanted the ring to be used as an engagement ring for when one of her grandchildren wanted to marry, a first come first serve situation, although, it was never really expected her granddaughter would be doing the proposing it was always assumed the boys would offer it to their gfs but my wife got there and did it first and that was that.

It was never really questioned either as my wife and she had been so close too. Nobody had any objections at the time as the ring was still within the family and neither of my BILs were anywhere near getting engaged.

I refused to give the ring back and now I have caused a huge rift with my family in law. My MIL and BILs are all calling me an AH as they want the ring to continue being part of their family and to be passed down in the generations as it was expected to.

I am distraught, my wife and I were not big sentimental gift givers and this is honestly the only thing she was truly proud to gift me, it was a huge deal for us and meant the world to both of us.

My family in law have also thrown in my face that the grandmother wouldn’t even have wanted me to have it since she was Russian and would very much be against a same s** couple.

This really hurts and feels like a low blow as although it’s definitely true I was accepted my my family in law. The grandmother had long been gone before I met my wife. They are now saying that it should go to the boys as she intended.

It’s all got really nasty and I just don’t know what to do. The family have even offered to buy the ring off me for the full value of the ring with the repairs but I refuse. It is the only thing I have of my wife and parting with it feels like the only piece I have left of my broken heart being taken away.

AITA?”

Wow…what a story.

Now let’s take a look at how folks on Reddit reacted.

This person said that widows aren’t expected to return their rings. Plain and simple.

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Another reader argued that the family is acting horribly in this situation and that the woman who wrote the post is, at the end of the day, the rightful owner of the ring whether they like it or not.

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Another Reddit user said that the woman’s late wife would undoubtedly be ashamed of her family for acting this way.

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And lastly, this reader said that the woman’s family is actually dishonoring their late daughter with their behavior.

I think I agree…

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This Mom Refuses to Eliminate Princess Things From Her Daughter’s Life. Is She Wrong?

Some kids just don’t want to grow out of their princess phase, huh?

But who thought it would lead to conflict within a family?

Hey, people are weird! But I’m sure you already know that…

Take a look at this interesting story from Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page and keep reading to see how people reacted.

AITA for refusing to eliminate Princess stuff from my daughter’s life

“I’ll probably get judged for all this but I’m pregnant with a guy I’m not dating. He’s nice and wants to be there for the kid so we are on friendly terms. So far, we’ve had no issues until I met his parents.

I met them on Saturday, everything was going great until baby shower talk came up. I was talking about the theme and his mom said “Son, did you tell her about the Princess thing?”

He didn’t. Apparently his brother has a daughter from another relationship named Princess that he’s not allowed to see. It’s a sore subject for him and he lives with the grandparents so he’s around often. They have requested that we don’t do any themed events, buy any clothes, decorations, etc with the word “Princess” on them. It’s just “too hard” for the brother.

I may be the a**hole here because I don’t even have strong urges towards Princess stuff. Much prefer soup colored baby rompers. That said, I’m incredibly annoyed at this request and told them absolutely not—if I see something cute that says Princess or my kid wants Princess stuff, I will buy it. This upset his parents and started saying “really? You’d rather cause someone pain than put down a d**n Princess shirt?”

I’m not trying to cause pain but expecting me to restrict Princess from all things sounds completely unreasonable to me. I’m not particularly girly but even I went through a Princess phase and l love the children’s books “Fancy Nancy” so I’m sure I’m bound to stumble on some Princess stuff.

This is why the brother can’t see the kid: He gave up his rights so the kids step dad could adopt her and he’d be relieved of child support payments. They promised he’d still get to see the kid. After all was said and done they stopped letting him see her.

My baby’s dad believes he could see her if his brother put in effort but he doesn’t and just sulks about it instead.”

Okay, now it’s time to dig into the responses from folks on Reddit.

This reader argued that there is a middle ground that can be worked out here.

Let’s hope so…

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Another person said that something with the family just seems a little strange and maybe the family shouldn’t be trusted.

Just a thought…

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This Reddit user stated the obvious (at least in my opinion): everyone now has to avoid princess stuff because of this?

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And finally, this reader thinks that this really doesn’t even need to an issue if they’re not going to be seeing each all that much anyway.

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Was This Guy Wrong for Not Telling Friend That His Sister Has an OnlyF Page?

I think that it would be pretty weird to have this kind of information about a friend’s sister and NOT tell them, but that’s just me.

I’m talking about OF pages, where people pay to see revealing photos and videos of people.

Hey, we all gotta make money, right?

But the guy in this story is in hot water for not telling his friend that the guy’s sister had an OF page…let’s see what went down.

AITA for not telling my mate his sister has an Only Fans?

“Me[22m] and my mate[22m] have been mates since we were kids and have always been real tight.

We’re pretty open with each other and there aren’t any secrets in our friendship up until now. Not gonna lie, he’s the golden child of his family and recieves a bunch of support from his parents. His sister is 21f and she cops it bad. They treat her like s**t. Her and I get along well, she’s like the annoying little sister but we’re cool and get along.

About a month ago ago I was on OF because reasons. I came across a profile and clicked on it. Didn’t recognise the name or anything but when I looked at the pics I saw a tattoo I DID recognise that belonged to my mate’s sister “Belle”. There were also other identifying features.

I s**t myself and instantly clicked off the profile. She’s got a fake name on there but there were a few things that identified her. I never would’ve clicked on her profile if I’d known it was her and I wanted to I guess respect her right to be anonymous on the website. I thought about things for a few days and eventually messaged her the following with the intention of helping her out:

“Hey (Belle), this is really awkward for me and I hope you understand that I’m coming from a place of concern rather than anything else. I came across your OF the other day when at first I didn’t know it was you. I clicked off once I realised.

Just a heads up, I could identify you from your tattoos and (other detail) and I’d hate for your anonymity to be compromised if you continue to post since you have a fake name and all.

I’d suggest blurring out these features but if you’re not bothered by this then keep doing what you’re doing, just thought I’d touch base to be safe. I hope you’re doing well and again, I hope you understand that I’m just looking out for your safety. See you soon!”

She replied and was thankful that I pointed that out. She thought her tattoos and other features weren’t unique enough to identify her and she told me that she’ll make a change change. I saw her a couple days later at a party and she gave me a hug and things are back to normal.

Fast forward, somebody else identified her and had been collecting images from before I messaged her up until now. They sent them to her parents. Nobody knows who this person is,they remained anonymous.

Belle’s parents ripped into her and my mate went on a huge rant on Facebook, calling her all kinds of names. I didn’t comment anything other than, “You need to loosen up, mate” but a lot of our friends are on his side saying that they’d be ashamed if she was their girl.

He came over for a few drinks and began to unload on me. I didn’t really react and just kept telling him to calm down. He asked why I wasn’t so surprised and I shrugged and said that a lot of girls have OF now and that it’s no big deal. Eventually it came out that I knew. I know I should’ve kept my mouth shut, but he was suspicious that I kept defending a ‘s**t’.

My mates have booted me out of the group chat now and say that I broke bro code.”

Oh, boy…now it’s time to see how folks reacted on Reddit.

This reader said that the guy didn’t do anything wrong…but whoever sent those pics to her parents is a big-time jerk.

No doubt about that…

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Another Reddit user made a good point: no one should ever call their sister that dreaded S word.

I can’t even imagine…

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Another person made a great point: this guy isn’t concerned about his sister, he’s worried about his own image.

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Lastly, this individual talked about how strange the reactions from the brother and the parents were and how they had a hard time relating to people like that.

Amen!

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This Mom Refuses to Throw Her Daughter’s Ex Out. Is She a Jerk?

Family relationships sure are complicated…

And we’re about to hear a story that has an unusual twist when it comes to parent-child relationships.

A mother shared a story about a sticky situation she’s now in with her daughter and her ex-boyfriend.

Read on to see what happened.

AITA for refusing to throw my daughter’s ex out?

“My husband (48M), “Tom” and I (42F) have 3 kids. About 3 1/2 years ago our oldest “Taylor” (17F) started dating Rob (19M). I know they were young but Rob is a really nice kid and treated my daughter well.

right after they met Rob’s parents got divorced. As a result of this, his dad moved to the other side of the country and his mother began to struggle with mental health. his 2 younger siblings went to live with grandparents but they did not have room for Rob so he was going to go to live with his dad. He was devastated to leave his hometown, Taylor, and his friends.

Taylor and Rob asked us if Rob could move into our in-law apartment. We spoke with Taylor privately and asked if Rob was pressuring her into allowing him to move in and she said no it was her idea.

We also told her to think really hard about it because once we agreed to take him in, we would be responsible for him and that would mean he would be staying as long as he needed. She thought about it for a few days and then said it would be okay no matter what.

She is usually a level-headed kid so we thought we had made the consequences of this decision clear. We thought it over for a bit and after setting some ground rules agreed to allow him to live in the apartment.

The apartment is a fully separate unit with its own utilities and kitchen, bathroom. The unit is separate but does have hotel-style adjoining rooms set of doors. We decided not to charge Rob any rent or utilities in exchange for following a certain set of rules.

In the beginning, Rob was not allowed to have guests to the apartment, including Taylor. We did not let him set up the living space and instead they would have to use the main part of the house to hang out together. Rob was always welcome to have meals with us and we treated him like another member of our family.

Rob is now finishing up his first year of a local college and Taylor is a senior in high school. 5 months ago Taylor and Rob broke up and she starting dating “Joe” (18M) almost immediately. Since the breakup, Rob usually stays in his place and only occasionally comes over to help my husband with various household chores.

A week ago Taylor came to us and told us that Rob’s presence is making Joe uncomfortable and that we need to ask him to leave. We said no to kicking him out but we said we would set up some new rules that would make everyone more comfortable.

We said that from now on Rob would use the living space in the apartment and would have to call before coming over. Taylor said Joe is still unhappy about this and the only thing that will make him happy is for Rob to be gone.

I might be TA because I told Taylor that this was obviously between her and her boyfriend and the solution is not tossing someone out on the street.

She got even more upset with me and said I was ruining her senior year and she might end up dateless for prom if Joe breaks up with her.”

Now this sounds like a sticky situation to me…let’s see how people responded.

This reader doesn’t think the woman has done anything wrong, but they opined that maybe the kid should have more access to the common spaces in the home.

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This reader said that the daughter is worked up because of her new boyfriend, not because of the living situation.

And they added that the daughter just isn’t acting rationally.

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Another individual said that the family is helping this poor kid out and agreements so made. So it looks like Rob isn’t going anywhere.

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Finally, this reader could relate to Rob’s situation because she went through some similar things when she was a teenager.

She has a lot of good advice for this family regarding their situation.

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A Pregnant Woman Refused to Let Her Mother-in-Law in the Delivery Room. Was She Being Unreasonable?

I find it to be so strange when I hear about people who want to be in the delivery room who aren’t either the mother or the father of the new baby.

Like…why would you want to be in there?

And why would anyone let you in?!?!

But, here we are, friends…

A woman shared her story on Reddit and asked if she was wrong for the way she reacted. Let’s see what happened.

AITA for telling my husband that if MIL is in the delivery room that he can’t go?

“Okay, so this is an issue that I can’t deal with

I(28)am six months pregnant. Me and my husband have been discussing who can be in the delivery room.

I told him my mother was going to go obviously and he said he would want his mother to be there. I would be fine that but the hospital will only let 2 people in.

I told him if she went he won’t be able to go. He said he was expecting me to get rid of my mother and and let him go but I told him that wasn’t happening.

We’re now in an argument and he said he going to go to his friends house. It’s been 2 days and he still hasn’t returned. He isn’t answering my calls either. Now I don’t know where he is.

AITA.”

Hmmmm…now let’s take a look at how Reddit users reacted to this story.

This person said that the woman who wrote the post was not to blame for anything.

AT ALL!

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Another reader said that they can’t believe why this woman would stay with a man who treated her this way.

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This individual argued that women (and probably some men) should have a plan to get away from someone if they ever need to and they need to keep an eye on all the red flags that might pop up.

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This Reddit user said that who will be in the delivery room when the time comes is completely and totally UP TO HER and no one else.

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A Random Twist of Fate Helped This Woman Get Revenge on Her Brother

If you love a good revenge story, you’re in luck!

Because a young woman who has a strained relationship with her twin brother finally got some serious revenge on him and she shared her story on Reddit.

Let’s check it out!

Fate helped me get back at my brother.

“I originally posted this in two parts as it was unfolding on r/relationship_advice, and a couple people told me to post it here. I didn’t know this sub existed but I’m happy it does. So…

My brother (23M, we’re twins) is so mean. He’s constantly doing messed up stuff to me (23F), but the worst thing happened five years ago.

I got my first boyfriend when I was 18 and a senior in high school. I know we were young, but I really really really loved him. We’d been dating for ten months when my brother randomly decided – for literally no reason at all – to make up a story about how he “caught me cheating” and tell it to my boyfriend.

He planned it all out, he came up with details – he made it sound real. And because he’s such a scarily good liar and a master manipulator, my boyfriend believed him. No matter what I said or did to prove it wasn’t true, he believed my brother over me. My brother kept up with his act the entire time and refused to admit he was lying.

At one point I thought I’d finally gotten my boyfriend to believe me, but then he broke up with me a few months later and confessed it was because he was still convinced I’d cheated on him and he couldn’t move past it. He said, “the worst part is that you won’t just tell me the truth” and not to sound dramatic but that still haunts me; I want to cry every time I think about it.

And I still miss him to this day. (Also, I think it’s important to note that my brother has never once apologized ! He’s so insanely mean that he just thinks it’s funny. I even asked him once if he’d consider hitting my ex up and telling him the truth for my peace of mind and he just laughed at me.)

I never got over what my brother did, and I always told myself I was gonna do the exact same thing to him one day. He’s dated several girls since high school, but he’d never been serious enough about any of them for me to consider tricking them.

I knew it wouldn’t hurt him like he hurt me if I just tricked one of his flings or something. But he finally got his first serious girlfriend last year, and after thinking about it for a looong time I decided I was gonna do it.

We live in different places now so I had to do it all online. I used a different method than he did; I contacted his girlfriend pretending to be “the girl he’d been cheating with”. I made up an elaborate detailed story like he did to me and even photoshopped “proof” and stuff.

I made my story even more believable than he made his. And exactly like he did to me, I went as far as denying it even to him because I knew he might use my texts/calls to prove to his girlfriend that it isn’t true. He knew I was behind it, though, solely because the girl I made up doesn’t exist and there’s no one else that would do this. But I kept denying it.

His girlfriend wholeheartedly believed me, and my brother kept calling and texting me and begging me to “give it up” (even though I still wouldn’t admit it was me). He was manipulating me and arguing that it’s “different” because I was younger when he did it to me and my relationship “wasn’t serious”.

But my relationship was serious, and like I said, I still miss my ex. My brother really, really messed me up. I have empathy though (he doesn’t) and I was starting to feel bad for his girlfriend because she’s innocent. I was kind of regretting everything and thinking that maybe I should tell his girlfriend the truth (for her sake, not his).

But then….

His girlfriend asked me a question which led to her admitting that she’s “been suspicious of him for a long time”, so I pried a little bit and encouraged her to look through his phone. She told me she couldn’t because she didn’t know the passcode and he wouldn’t give her access to it.

I guessed a few passcodes I thought it could be and gave them to her under the guise of “seeing it once but not being sure which one I’d seen” (that was kind of dumb but I couldn’t think of anything else to say and she didn’t question it). She got in because it ended up being the same one he’s had since 2012 when our dad got us iPhones and made us use the same passcode. Idiot.

Anyway, low and behold….it turns out my brother actually cheated on her and my set up was the reason she found out. He’s been talking to and hooking up with multiple girls for pretty much the entirety of their relationship.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I’m not surprised, because he’s a terrible person and cheating seems right up his alley, but I’m shocked at the same time. I literally can’t believe things worked out this perfectly; it feels like a dream or something. The universe loves me.

I hate to revel in his girlfriend’s misery, but I was feeling guilty about her being collateral damage, so I feel like this is the best possible outcome. My lie ended up being the truth – well not exactly but you know what I mean – so I didn’t scar his gf or leave her with permanent damage for no reason.

All my interference did was speed up the process of the truth coming to light. In fact, my brother may have been able to hide his cheating forever if not for me. He probably would’ve just manipulated his gf and/or refused to give her phone access forever. She hasn’t broken up with him and I’m honestly not sure if she will.

Idk how relevant that is but it attests to how manipulative he is. He screws people over all the time but somehow always gets his way anyway. It’s honestly infuriating and scary.

Anyway, I’m still not going to admit to my brother that I’m behind it all, because there’s no point. That would just get me in deeper trouble. I got a comment on my original post that said “deny til you die baby”…and that’s exactly what I’m planning on doing lol.

Life’s crazy.”

Life sure is crazy…and here’s how folks responded on Reddit. And I think it’s pretty unanimous that her brother is a major creep.

This person said that she needs to go further to protect her privacy online.

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Another Reddit user said that she needs to tread very carefully because her brother might try to escalate this situation to an even higher level.

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Another individual stated the obvious: her brother is a real piece of s**t.

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And finally, this person might have hit the nail on the head.

The guy actually sound like a full-blown sociopath.

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People Share the Questions They Were Asked That Secretly Broke Their Hearts

Being alive is full of highs and lows.

Actually, I should say BIG highs and HUGE lows.

But sometimes you have to keep those lows and heartbreaks to yourself for the sake of the feelings of others and your own.

You just never know what someone out there might ask you on any given day…

AskReddit users talked about when someone asked them a question and it secretly broke their heart.

Let’s take a look.

1. That’s bad.

“I finally got out of an abusive relationship after many years.

When I finally did my mom said, “you’re a hard person to like and nobody else will love you. Do you really think you deserve better ?””

2. All alone.

“We had some kind of talent show in elementary school and and all the parents sat in the gym and watched us.

Everybody had someone there except me, so this kid in my class asked where my family was and I just shrugged my shoulders and he asked “Doesn’t anyone love you?” and I had to excuse myself and cry in the bathroom, because I knew he was right, nobody loved me.

I had tried to keep it a secret and I was terrified that everyone at school would know.”

3. Not cool.

““Can you imagine how bad it would have made us look as parents if you succeeded?”

Told to me by my mom as she was taking me back home from the hospital after my s**cide watch.”

4. Brutal.

“I was having fertility problems and couldn’t get pregnant after 4 yrs of trying.

A child once asked me “Do you think there just aren’t any babies who want you to be their mother?””

5. Heartbreaking.

“”Is this what a real family look like?” My best friend grew up in a rough neighborhood getting beaten up by his dad and abandoned by his mom.

He knew very little of normal family interactions, hygiene habits, morals (he was ok with lying, stealing and some more) and had almost none of the common sense you’d expect from a 14 yo boy. Still, he was a funny and rather charismatic SOB and it was basically instant friendship.

After spending a lot of time in our house (initially 2-3 days a week, getting to whole months during some tougher times), he got a pretty good hang of all the family and the “living in society” thing. Simple stuff like being kind, not stealing, washing his clothes and using deodorant. When he asked me this question, some months after meeting my parents and sisters, it broke my heart to the point I cried like a baby in front of him.

Now, almost 10 years later, he calls my parentes “Mother” and “Father”. He’s getting a major in History and wants to teach. Unfortunately he still struggles with some psychiatric conditions, like depression and anxiety, but is under treatment and getting better.”

6. By yourself.

“I was at Coldstone with my friends who are married. I ordered my thing and went over to the cashier and they asked me “Are you alone?” and for some reason it just cut deep.

They didn’t mean anything by it, but in that moment I realized that I felt so alone, even surrounded by friends. Then I had ice cream and felt better.”

7. Felt like crying.

“”Wait, aren’t you going to hit me?”

I worked as a music teacher, and had a 15 year old student who originally came from an African country play a passage incorrectly on the instrument repeatedly.

We only had one instrument of the kind she played, so I reached out my hand and asked her to hand me the instrument over to show her, when she saw me playing, she asked me that question with genuine confusion, and I realised what hell her school life in her home country had been.

She not only thought I would hit her for not playing correctly, but also that she deserved it.

I felt like crying when I got home that night.”

8. Left out.

“”Why don’t they talk to me?”

She was an outcast in hs and I guess I kind of was too even though some of my friends weren’t. She was nice enough but because she was poor and had ill fitting clothes and anxiety. Other kids didn’t know how to talk to her and some of them were mean.

Last I checked she was selling Avon and in a bad relationship. I really hope she got out, I’ve lost contact with her since then.”

9. Depressing.

“I don’t really have any close friends. It’s depressing.

On my 25th birthday, my husband and I went to dinner and we happened to run into my husbands co-worker and his wife, so we sat together for a couple drinks.

My husband said it we were out for dinner for my birthday. We were making small talk and the other guys wife asked “where are your friends at?”

I felt so embarrassed. My face gets red and my heart sinks every time I think about it.”

10. Hahahaha.

“We were watching the movie The Martian.

About 3/4 of the way through my GF turns to me and asks if this really happened.”

11. Kids are cruel.

““Are you a boy or a girl?”

This was earnestly asked to me on the playground when I was 13. I was very chubby, and had grown out my hair (my dad had a cool ponytail, and I wanted to be like my dad). But puberty hadn’t really kicked in yet, so I guess I looked pretty androgynous.

I told the girl that asked I was a boy, and she nodded and walked away, returning to a friend who then cheered in triumph, I guess they won the bet.

That messed with me for a while.”

12. Oh…

“I moved away for almost a year. The day I moved back to my home town, I excitedly went to my old martial arts dojang to see if I could sign back up.

Long story short, I loved these people like family. Upon entering the building, I was glared at and cold shouldered. I went back outside, thinking maybe I interrupted something. The head instructor came out and I greeted him enthusiastically. He said, “Oh. You’re back…?”

He turned around and left. I had two other heartbreaks in a similar fashion before I decided I had more self worth than what these people rated me for and moved on.”

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Have you ever had an experience like this?

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