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Does Going to a Classmate’s Parents About Bullying Make This Person Evil?

Family dynamics are complicated in the best of times, and when we’re talking about blended families, things can be downright awkward and unbearable when growing pains – and opposite personalities – rear their heads.

These stepsisters don’t usually get along, but when OP found out that her stepsister was bullying a girl in their grade, Mia, she felt as if she had to do something.

She says she never thought her stepsister was a bully but she had the proof in her hands.

The situation at hand: My stepsister (17f) has been bullying this girl in our grade, Mia. Mia is a very shy person. We were never friends but were friendly until the bullying started and then Mia withdrew from everyone. I found out about the bullying over a month ago.

People described it as “not real bullying” but my stepsister has called her names and told her she doesn’t deserve friends. I found a note telling Mia this. I was pissed. My stepsister and I never had a good relationship (always fighting) but I never figured she was an actual bully, just someone who got on my freaking nerves.

OP went to Mia’s parents with the proof and the accusations, and they went to the school demanding serious consequences for her stepsister.

Her father is angry with her and believe the entire incident was motivated by her dislike for her stepsister (or maybe acting out against his remarriage, etc).

I ended up going to Mia’s parents with what I knew and the evidence of the bullying and now it has been brought up with the school and Mia’s parents want my stepsister expelled. My dad is pissed. He said it was so unbelievably petty and mean spirited to go to the girls parents over “sibling issues”. I told my dad nothing between us would ever be sibling issues, because we’re not siblings and my siblings (younger brother and sister) would never do that to another person.

My stepsister has been suspended right now but it looks like she’ll be expelled Thursday when the big meeting happens. My dad’s wife is freaking out and so are my stepbrothers.

It’s not only her siblings and parents who think she was wrong not to talk to her family or her stepsister directly first, leaving OP to wonder whether or not she really did the right thing.

With the exception of my siblings everyone seems to think I’m wrong for doing what I did, for not at least talking to my stepsister first. I feel like going to Mia’s parents was the right call because of how serious bullying can be for the person being bullied and even calling someone names can cut a person really deep.

But I never expected this kind of reaction. Life at home is very awkward right now.

AITA?

Bullying is bad, but it can be tough to know what is right when family is involved.

What does Reddit think? Keep reading!

This person makes a good point, that if the school believes it’s serious enough to expel the stepsister perhaps her parents should be more focused on their daughter’s actions than the reason for the consequences.

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There is a general sense that OP had a lot of courage, and no one is really telling her that.

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At least the internet people are here to give her a virtual pat on the back.

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People who have been there can vouch for the fact that any kind of bullying can have serious consequences.

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It’s very often a big deal to the person on the receiving end, after all.

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I have to say, I agree with OP taking decisive action, though if she had a better relationship with her stepsister, chances are she would have at least given her a head’s up first.

Either way, this Mia is lucky to have a good friend.

What are your thoughts? Do you think she was just trying to get back at her family?

Sound off in the comments!

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Does Going to a Classmate’s Parents About Bullying Make This Person Evil?

Family dynamics are complicated in the best of times, and when we’re talking about blended families, things can be downright awkward and unbearable when growing pains – and opposite personalities – rear their heads.

These stepsisters don’t usually get along, but when OP found out that her stepsister was bullying a girl in their grade, Mia, she felt as if she had to do something.

She says she never thought her stepsister was a bully but she had the proof in her hands.

The situation at hand: My stepsister (17f) has been bullying this girl in our grade, Mia. Mia is a very shy person. We were never friends but were friendly until the bullying started and then Mia withdrew from everyone. I found out about the bullying over a month ago.

People described it as “not real bullying” but my stepsister has called her names and told her she doesn’t deserve friends. I found a note telling Mia this. I was pissed. My stepsister and I never had a good relationship (always fighting) but I never figured she was an actual bully, just someone who got on my freaking nerves.

OP went to Mia’s parents with the proof and the accusations, and they went to the school demanding serious consequences for her stepsister.

Her father is angry with her and believe the entire incident was motivated by her dislike for her stepsister (or maybe acting out against his remarriage, etc).

I ended up going to Mia’s parents with what I knew and the evidence of the bullying and now it has been brought up with the school and Mia’s parents want my stepsister expelled. My dad is pissed. He said it was so unbelievably petty and mean spirited to go to the girls parents over “sibling issues”. I told my dad nothing between us would ever be sibling issues, because we’re not siblings and my siblings (younger brother and sister) would never do that to another person.

My stepsister has been suspended right now but it looks like she’ll be expelled Thursday when the big meeting happens. My dad’s wife is freaking out and so are my stepbrothers.

It’s not only her siblings and parents who think she was wrong not to talk to her family or her stepsister directly first, leaving OP to wonder whether or not she really did the right thing.

With the exception of my siblings everyone seems to think I’m wrong for doing what I did, for not at least talking to my stepsister first. I feel like going to Mia’s parents was the right call because of how serious bullying can be for the person being bullied and even calling someone names can cut a person really deep.

But I never expected this kind of reaction. Life at home is very awkward right now.

AITA?

Bullying is bad, but it can be tough to know what is right when family is involved.

What does Reddit think? Keep reading!

This person makes a good point, that if the school believes it’s serious enough to expel the stepsister perhaps her parents should be more focused on their daughter’s actions than the reason for the consequences.

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There is a general sense that OP had a lot of courage, and no one is really telling her that.

Image Credit: Reddit

At least the internet people are here to give her a virtual pat on the back.

Image Credit: Reddit

People who have been there can vouch for the fact that any kind of bullying can have serious consequences.

Image Credit: Reddit

It’s very often a big deal to the person on the receiving end, after all.

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I have to say, I agree with OP taking decisive action, though if she had a better relationship with her stepsister, chances are she would have at least given her a head’s up first.

Either way, this Mia is lucky to have a good friend.

What are your thoughts? Do you think she was just trying to get back at her family?

Sound off in the comments!

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Person Asks if They’re Wrong to Take What’s Legally Theirs if It Hurts Someone Else in the Process

Laws can be confusing, especially when you’re young and older relatives – who you’re supposed to be able to trust to guide you in times of trouble.

Too many times, though, the opposite happens. Someone gets taken advantage of, and the only recourse is to bring in more lawyers, who inevitably widen the rifts that were put there previously.

For this kid, it all began with the death of his father. His mother is suffering from dementia, and so in her stead, her family “inherited” and then sold their family home for a ridiculously cheap price.

My father passed away a few years ago and my adopted mom (who is old and has dementia) relatives sold my father’s and my mom’s house for half of the value with everything inside in a rush sale.

I did not know the law that time and was told by my moms relatives that my father had no WILL so everything automatically went to my mom and her family.

Then OP found out that the law actually says that a person’s children, not their spouse, inherits the property, which means the house was his to keep or sell as he saw fit.

He confirmed this with an attorney, who confirmed that OPs fears were correct and this family had taken advantage of his lack of experience.

I came across an article that in that country that when a person dies with out a will their heirs/children automatically inherit the estate. The estate can not be sold with out all heirs agreeing. If it is sold the sale will be void. I have contacted a lawyer and it was true. I can get the house back by simply showing my birth certificate, also because my mom has dementia she is not capable of doing a sale.

After the lawyer went to talk to OP’s mother the family got wind of his inquiries and intentions, and all hell has broken loose.

The lawyer went to meet with my mom on my behalf to ask a few questions about the sale of the house. Her relatives heard everything then started attacking me online and making nasty post about me how I was going to kick a family out a house because of pure “greed” that I already have a house in USA. I’m greedy to have another house. They threathen that they will get the new owners to sue me etc.

They’ve brought up the fact that, if OP takes the house back and wants to sell it for full price, he will be evicting the people who bought the house.

My mom’s relatives don’t work and used the money of the sale of the house for their own benefit, so not only will they have to return all the money , the new owners of the house will now have to look for somewhere else to live, which they can no longer afford a house because the house was sold for half of the market value, and that is what they will be getting back?

WIBTA for possibly kicking them out?

This has him wondering whether this makes him a jerk, and so he’s asking Reddit.

Here’s what they had to say.

The first comment reminds OP that he’s not in the wrong here, and sad that the outcome may be, it’s not his fault.

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Several people pointed out that the people who got such a “great deal” on the house probably sensed something fishy was afoot.

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Also, this is not how family is supposed to act.

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He should place the blame squarely where it belongs.

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OP can always give the family legitimate options once the dust settles, after all.

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I’m totally with the commenters here, even though I would be feeling guilty like OP, too.

What about you? Would you have similar qualms or no? Tell us about it in the comments!

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Woman Wonders Whether She Was Wrong to Snap and Call Her Boyfriend an “Insecure Little Boy”

Relationships can be hard, my friends, I’m not going to lie. It can seem impossible to find that other half, the one that matches up with us, challenges us, supports us, and loves us despite all of our many flaws.

I think that’s one reason it can be hard to see right away – or admit, perhaps – when the person who initially seemed to be a good fit keeps showing edges that don’t match up at all.

Things snuck up slowly on this woman, who earned a liberal arts degree to her boyfriend Tim’s IT diploma. They’ve been together and happy, while she searched for a career path that satisfied her and him climbing the IT ladder.

Tim and I met in an English literature class our junior year of college, and we’ve been together the ten years since. While he ended up going into IT, I stayed in the liberal arts track and ended up doing non-profit work after college when I realized I didn’t actually want to be a schoolteacher. Just to say that we always assumed he’d out-earn me by a considerable margin, though when he made more I always insisted we split things evenly to avoid potential resentment down the road.

Now, she’s bounced around long enough to find not only a job she loves, but one that pays even more than he makes at his cyber security job.

I’ve had sort of a non-linear career path, but ended up switching to the corporate world. To make a long story short, my liberal arts degree and time doing non-profit work gave me a lot of skills that enable me to really excel professionally in some more niche areas. I recently started a new job as a consultant, making way more than I’d ever anticipated.

When I got the offer, I told Tim that the pay was “amazing”, but he didn’t ask about the actual amount and I didn’t want to be braggy about it, especially since I was fairly sure it was above his current income.

He’s just thought to realize that she’s making quite a bit of cash, and is making comments that show it’s obviously bothering him that her English lit degree has managed to snag her an awesome job.

He’s telling her she “cheated the system” to make himself feel better (I guess).

Well we just put in an application for a new place, and in the process of having to submit our paystubs it’s become obvious that I make roughly 30% more than he does now. I expected him to think that was cool, since he’s a feminist and has always been super supportive of my career. But instead he’s started to make increasingly harsh jabs about how I “cheated the system” to get where I am, that no English lit major makes more than a cyber security professional without cheating somehow.

He makes three ridiculous points about her “cheating,” two of which hinge on her just “being female.”

Also, I don’t think it’s called nepotism when your sorority sister recommends you for a job.

His major point is that I got my first job out of nepotism, which set me up to “trample” more qualified people who didn’t have the same advantages. It’s true that I got my first post-college job after being referred by a sorority sister, but it was for non-profit work making 22k/yr, not exactly at somebody’s daddy’s firm.

He also points out that at my first corporate job, I snagged a big promotion after volunteering to take on starting up the company’s diversity/equity/inclusion program, and I’ll admit that were I a white man, it’s highly unlikely I would have been able to be the face of the eventually high-profile diversity program.

Tim also notes that I was awarded a small college scholarship for being a “promising female writer”, when no such scholarship existed for males.

Except she didn’t cheat the system, and his ongoing “jokes” about not only her, but other women who are getting what they deserve (in a good way), pushed her over the edge and she’s wondering if she’s gone too far.

But all that said…I still don’t feel like I cheated the system, and it makes me angry to listen to him “joke” about it, especially since I grew up blue collar and worked fulltime while going to school fulltime to afford my degree.

I reached a breaking point yesterday when he made a crack about how the new/first woman on his team is an obvious diversity hire. I told him that his jokes about women cheating the system to get ahead aren’t funny or “guy-talk ribbing” as he says, they make him sound like an insecure little boy. He told me I was being a naïve Karen and we haven’t really talked since yesterday.

Did I go too far?

I’m going to let Reddit say what I’m dying to scream out here, yeah?

This first person really breaks down all the reasons she’s way too good for him, and I am here for it.

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Toxic seems to be the word of the day.

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She needs to go find someone who is actually a feminist and who isn’t intimidated by her confidence and success.

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It’s so seriously his loss and if he’s smart at all he’s going to regret acting this way some day.

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She hit the nail on the head, actually, calling Tim insecure.

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I hope this woman read all of these comments, printed them out, and left them on the coffee table when she packed up and left.

Too harsh? Tell me why you think so in the comments!

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Woman Wonders Whether She Was Wrong to Snap and Call Her Boyfriend an “Insecure Little Boy”

Relationships can be hard, my friends, I’m not going to lie. It can seem impossible to find that other half, the one that matches up with us, challenges us, supports us, and loves us despite all of our many flaws.

I think that’s one reason it can be hard to see right away – or admit, perhaps – when the person who initially seemed to be a good fit keeps showing edges that don’t match up at all.

Things snuck up slowly on this woman, who earned a liberal arts degree to her boyfriend Tim’s IT diploma. They’ve been together and happy, while she searched for a career path that satisfied her and him climbing the IT ladder.

Tim and I met in an English literature class our junior year of college, and we’ve been together the ten years since. While he ended up going into IT, I stayed in the liberal arts track and ended up doing non-profit work after college when I realized I didn’t actually want to be a schoolteacher. Just to say that we always assumed he’d out-earn me by a considerable margin, though when he made more I always insisted we split things evenly to avoid potential resentment down the road.

Now, she’s bounced around long enough to find not only a job she loves, but one that pays even more than he makes at his cyber security job.

I’ve had sort of a non-linear career path, but ended up switching to the corporate world. To make a long story short, my liberal arts degree and time doing non-profit work gave me a lot of skills that enable me to really excel professionally in some more niche areas. I recently started a new job as a consultant, making way more than I’d ever anticipated.

When I got the offer, I told Tim that the pay was “amazing”, but he didn’t ask about the actual amount and I didn’t want to be braggy about it, especially since I was fairly sure it was above his current income.

He’s just thought to realize that she’s making quite a bit of cash, and is making comments that show it’s obviously bothering him that her English lit degree has managed to snag her an awesome job.

He’s telling her she “cheated the system” to make himself feel better (I guess).

Well we just put in an application for a new place, and in the process of having to submit our paystubs it’s become obvious that I make roughly 30% more than he does now. I expected him to think that was cool, since he’s a feminist and has always been super supportive of my career. But instead he’s started to make increasingly harsh jabs about how I “cheated the system” to get where I am, that no English lit major makes more than a cyber security professional without cheating somehow.

He makes three ridiculous points about her “cheating,” two of which hinge on her just “being female.”

Also, I don’t think it’s called nepotism when your sorority sister recommends you for a job.

His major point is that I got my first job out of nepotism, which set me up to “trample” more qualified people who didn’t have the same advantages. It’s true that I got my first post-college job after being referred by a sorority sister, but it was for non-profit work making 22k/yr, not exactly at somebody’s daddy’s firm.

He also points out that at my first corporate job, I snagged a big promotion after volunteering to take on starting up the company’s diversity/equity/inclusion program, and I’ll admit that were I a white man, it’s highly unlikely I would have been able to be the face of the eventually high-profile diversity program.

Tim also notes that I was awarded a small college scholarship for being a “promising female writer”, when no such scholarship existed for males.

Except she didn’t cheat the system, and his ongoing “jokes” about not only her, but other women who are getting what they deserve (in a good way), pushed her over the edge and she’s wondering if she’s gone too far.

But all that said…I still don’t feel like I cheated the system, and it makes me angry to listen to him “joke” about it, especially since I grew up blue collar and worked fulltime while going to school fulltime to afford my degree.

I reached a breaking point yesterday when he made a crack about how the new/first woman on his team is an obvious diversity hire. I told him that his jokes about women cheating the system to get ahead aren’t funny or “guy-talk ribbing” as he says, they make him sound like an insecure little boy. He told me I was being a naïve Karen and we haven’t really talked since yesterday.

Did I go too far?

I’m going to let Reddit say what I’m dying to scream out here, yeah?

This first person really breaks down all the reasons she’s way too good for him, and I am here for it.

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Toxic seems to be the word of the day.

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She needs to go find someone who is actually a feminist and who isn’t intimidated by her confidence and success.

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It’s so seriously his loss and if he’s smart at all he’s going to regret acting this way some day.

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She hit the nail on the head, actually, calling Tim insecure.

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I hope this woman read all of these comments, printed them out, and left them on the coffee table when she packed up and left.

Too harsh? Tell me why you think so in the comments!

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A Guy Told His Neighbor Off After an Argument. Was He Wrong?

It’s starting to sound like the Hatfields and the McCoys on social media lately!

Every time I turn around, I feel like I hear about another story of neighbors gone wild.

And here’s another one! So hang on tight…

It comes to us from Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page…let’s take a look at what went down.

AITA For telling my neighbor to get f**ked when he told me to remove my doorbell camera?

“So lately, there have been a number of burglaries in the area I live in.

My wife and I were among those who got burglarized and most of the stuff we lost were packages and electronics. My wife and I both work long hours so we’re not home most of the time and despite taking precautions, we still are concerned for the safety of our belongings as well as other things.

So I decided to get a doorbell camera which frankly has become a necessity and it’s cheap to buy ($199) and easy to install. And so far we were able to catch a number of thieves in act (to my surprise some of them I knew personally and were from the area) which helped lot in getting our stuff back.

Onto the issue: So my neighbor and I were discussing this with few other neighbors and I showed him a video that was taking by the camera to explain how we were able to identify the individuals who tried to steal stuff. I was fastforward-ing the footage but He suddenly freaked out and pointed at his wife who was at the door to visit my wife.

I was confused when he asked how long I been keeping this video/and if I made copies of it. He then proceeded to tell me it did not feel right to see his wife being recorded by the doorbell cam and the fact that I didn’t get rid of this part since it had nothing to do with catching the thieves made him uncomfortable.

I apologized for any misunderstanding and promised that it had nothing to do with his wife we had few people stand at our door who were shown on our cam so I wasn’t just his wife. He cut the conversation and left. Then came back in the evening to ask for how long I will be keeping this camera. I asked why and he said he wasn’t sure about his wife being recorded and asked me to remove it.

I said no then he suggested I install one inside but I still said no. He got all p**sed and said that I was acting inappropriately and mean after he came to me with his concerns expecting me to understand that he doesn’t want me having ‘footages’ of his wife. I told him his wife can stop coming over if he was so worried but he went on about never telling his wife what to do or where to go.

He insisted I remove the cam but I told him to get F-ed and never bring this up again. He left and got others involved, they told me I should be more considerate of my neighbor’s feelings and understand where he’s coming from but I stood my ground and refused to remove the camera.

My wife thinks I was being a jerk to our neighbor and his wife and have some respect for them but I don’t think I was being disrespectful. Was I?”

Let’s see what Reddit users had to say about this.

This person said that this guy is not an a**hole at all and that it’s his right to have a security camera on his door.

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Another reader thinks that something sounds a little bit fishy about the neighbor and there’s possibly some other reason that he doesn’t want this guy to have a camera on his door.

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This individual said that you never really know how people will react if they think they’re being filmed or photographed…

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And finally, this person said that it’s possible that this couple might even be in hiding.

Could be…?

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How do you think you would have handled this situation?

Talk to us in the comments and let us know?

We can’t wait to hear from you!

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Is This Man Wrong For Holding a Grudge Against the Friend Who Outed Him as Poly? People Responded.

Some folks hold grudges and some don’t even waste their time.

But I think it’s safe to say that this guy DEFINITELY against a friend who betrayed his trust.

And he took to Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page to ask the fine folks there if he’s wrong for doing so.

Here’s what happened…

AITA for holding a grudge against the friend who outed me as poly, even though he thought he was doing good?

“I’m polyamorous.

My wife, Lisa, has a boyfriend (Jeff) and I have a girlfriend (Natalie). The four of us hang out together, we’re all consenting but I don’t advertise that I’m anything other than traditional monogamous with my and Lisa’s friends.

Enter Kevin, a not-so-close friend of Lisa’s who happened to see me out with Natalie ~2 years ago. He assumed that I was cheating on my wife (fair) and tried to right that “wrong”. If he’d just gone to Lisa and said it to her, she’d have clarified the misunderstanding, no harm done.

Instead, he talked in private with several of my friends to “gather evidence” on me. Every time, he told our friends that I’m a cheater, low life, monster, etc – one friend was approached on Facebook messenger and screencapped Kevin’s conversation. Kevin said, I quote: “Help me take down that f__ing b**tard”.

Then Kevin finally heard from Lisa that she approved of my relationship with Natalie, and I was forced to come out as poly publicly to shush the rumors I’m a dirtbag cheater. So, thanks Kevin.

I’ve been clear: If Kevin is invited anywhere, I’m not going. I still hate the guy’s guts. I’ve been the butt of every joke and called a cuck a hundred times since everyone knows that my wife has a bf.

Kevin demonstrated genuine hatred for me, I refuse to ever consider him a friend again, even though Lisa insists that Kevin “thought he was doing the right thing.” I refuse to give the dude another chance.

AITA?”

Now let’s see how people on Reddit reacted to this story.

This person said that the man’s friend Kevin might have a thing for his wife and that’s why he spoke up about this.

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Another reader said that the whole matter really could have been handled pretty easily.

Why all the drama…?

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This individual said that Kevin definitely DID NOT think he was doing the right thing and he went straight to the rumor mill.

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Lastly, this Reddit user said that while Kevin definitely blew this situation up, everyone is to blame here.

And they said that the guy who wrote the post dug his own pit and he needs to accept responsibility for his actions.

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Do you think this person had a right to hold a grudge?

Or are they overreacting?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments. Thanks!

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A Man Told His Fiancée He Didn’t Like Her Wedding Dress. Is He a Jerk?

I don’t know if it’s EVER a good idea to tell a woman you don’t like something she’s wearing…

And if it’s the wedding dress they picked out? Forget about it! Here come the fireworks!

Take a look at this story from Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page and keep reading to see how readers reacted.

AITA for telling my Fiancee I don’t like her wedding dress?

“So my fiancee and I are getting married in 9 months.

She’s been dress shopping with her girls for months now. She found the dress she loved and bought it, and was too excited to keep it a secret. She showed me pics of the bridesmaids dresses and I told her they were pretty, they match my groomsmen suits really well.

Anyway, she brought her dress out and asked what I thought. I specifically asked her if she wants the God’s honest truth and wants me to critique the dress or if she knows she loves it and just wants to show me. She said she wanted my opinion.

She put the dress on and came out of the bathroom and I would be lying if I said I wasn’t a little disappointed. She’s a beautiful woman and looks incredible in anything of course, but the dress completely dwarfed her and didn’t really fit the wedding theme she has worked so hard for.

She wanted a foresty, magical and whimsical, type theme. Flower crowns on the bridesmaids etc. But she chose a super sparkly dress with a HUGE skirt, which looked nothing like the simply, body hugging sexy dresses she had been repeatedly showing me. She picked basically a huge Disney princess dress and I just didn’t like how it looked at all.

I was honest when I told her I didn’t like it and I was surprised she picked it because it just doesn’t seem to match her and I just thought it was too much poof and sparkle. She got really quiet and stormed back upstairs, and then stormed out of the house and went to her Moms.

Texted me saying she couldn’t believe I would say I didn’t like it and what a d**khead I am and has blocked number. This is our first major fight and I’m just so annoyed because I ASKED if she wanted a real opinion and she said yes.

AITA for telling her I don’t like the dress?”

Now let’s see how readers reacted to this story…

This person said that the guy is not an a**hole…but he’s an idiot. Ouch. That hurts.

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Another reader came up with a whole plan on how to dissolve the situation.

Let’s hope that maybe this works…

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But this Reddit user said that he shouldn’t lie and that he needs to put in a little bit of legwork to try to let her down easy…but no lies!

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And this person also thinks that the man shouldn’t lie but that he needs to find something specific about what he likes about the dress to make her feel a little bit better.

And if she still wants to wear it, just live with it! Happy Wife = Happy Life!

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What do you think about this guy’s actions?

Was he rude or just speaking his mind?

Sound off in the comments! Thanks in advance!

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Person Asks if They Were Wrong to Let Their Mother’s Hospital Bills Go Unpaid

Family can be a tricky thing for a lot of people. Society says that we’re supposed to be close with our families, to support them when we can, and to love them unconditionally, but life (and human beings) are too complicated for blanket statements like that to really apply.

This guy’s past really isn’t complicated – it’s just horrible.

He was the youngest child, and when his father found after five years that he wasn’t biologically his, they were cast out into a small apartment.

His mother and siblings blamed him for the whole mess, basically because he existed.

Shortly after my fifth birthday my dad found out that I was not biologically his, he immediately threw me and my mother out of his life which now looking back I can’t really blame him. It would be a nightmare to raise someone who was a constant reminder of your wife cheating.

Shortly after that, we moved from a mansion to a very small apartment and my life has been absolutely lonely and horrible since then, the love that my mother had for me disappeared in an instant and she and my half siblings(constantly blame me for being the reason for the divorce)have hated me since, I was constantly told by my own family including my mother that they all wish that I would die and would have never been born and things like that.

I try not to get my half siblings words get to me since they were kids as well, but it still hurts to this date.

When his mother got remarried, things did not get any better. He became like their Cinderella, doing all of the chores and being left at home while they took extravagant vacations and their expensive electronics piled up.

My mother married my stepdad when I was 10 and he and his kids, my step-siblings, have made it very clear they didn’t like me and things got even worse, I was given the smallest room, no new clothes or things, and constantly ignored if not being bullied by my family. Both my stepfamily and half siblings went on great and fantastic trips and were given all the latest gadgets and everything as well while I was left behind.

It actually came to the point where no one had wished me even a happy birthday since I was 8 years old. I had no friends at school as well, I was that ’quite’ kid who was always isolated and left out of everything.

He got out on his own, getting a scholarship to college, finding a woman he loves and having a child together. He’s going to therapy and generally happy with his life.

I(27M now) managed to get a full ride to dream college and am now financially quite secure. I now have very good friend and an amazing fiancé with whom I have a 3 year old son and her family has adopted me as one of their own.

My finance also convinced me to go to therapy for which I am very grateful as well and I am basically doing great in life and have moved past everything.

Enter his mother again, who is struggling with cancer and needs help paying for treatment.

He told her no.

Recently my mother contacted me a few days ago saying she needed my help (money actually) cause she has cancer and I firmly but politely refused her saying that while I sympathize with her situation, it is not my responsibility and she should lose my number and never contact me again.

I am now hounded by my stepfamily and even my half siblings that I shouldn’t refuse and my response was pretty much the same and have blocked them as well.

Yesterday my mother called me from her friends phone this time ordering me to pay since she has sacrificed so much for me to which I replied, “You never sacrificed anything, you gave away everything you had cause you just couldn’t keep your legs closed.” And hung up on her.

Now his siblings and other family are giving him a hard time, saying he’s awful, etc, but he doesn’t feel like he owes her anything.

I have blocked them all’ and now just keep receiving messages calling me an asshole among other things from new numbers which I promptly block, but now occasionally I feel quite guilty, what my mother did was horrible yes, but no one deserves to die for such things.

So, reddit AITA for refusing to pay my mothers hospital bill even though it may lead to her death?

What does Reddit think? Let’s find out!

Short answer? He was abused his entire life and he doesn’t owe the people who hurt him a gall-darned thing.

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Apparently she picked the wrong kids to favor, since the rest of them can’t afford to help.

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Monsters don’t deserve forgiveness, and they don’t deserve your hard-earned money or mental health, either.

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Don’t be afraid to legally put your foot down, either.

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Family doesn’t mean you have a blank check to treat people however you want.

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I have to agree with all of these people. It’s never cool to wish death or ill will on anyone, but this woman made her bed.

Anyone who treats their own child like that gets no sympathy from me.

What are your thoughts? Drop them in the comments!

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A Boyfriend Cut Off His Girlfriend’s Diet Soda Habit Until She Finds a Job. Was He Wrong?

I know the title sounds bad, but relationships are tough and financial stuff can be even tougher, so let’s hear the man out, shall we?

These two have been dating for around three years, and when they got together (and moved in together), they were both working.

She left her job because her boss was mistreating her and he supported the move, assuming she would find something else right away.

I (26m) have been with my girlfriend (27f) for over 3 years, and we’ve been living together for almost 2 years of that time.

Not long after she left her job. This was before Covid so it had nothing to do with that; she just couldn’t deal with her boss anymore.

I supported her leaving the job because her boss really was mistreating her.

I do OK financially but I’m not making a ton of money in my career yet, but I thought she’d hit the pavement right away and start looking for something else.

She didn’t even look, and since then has had a ton of excuses as to why she’s not working. This has put financial strain on their relationship – strain he’s bearing alone and having mental health struggles because of.

Well, that didn’t happen. For the first few days she just hung around the apartment. After those few days I asked her if she was going to start looking for something else. She answered “Really? I just quit my job. Can you just give me a week or two to catch my breath?”

After that whenever I asked she began to cite anxiety and depression as the reason she couldn’t look for or take a job.

While I’ve tried to be supportive and understanding it’s been hard as we’ve more or less lived paycheck to paycheck while I’ve often felt anxious and depressed myself but having had no choice but to go to work.

The pandemic relief didn’t apply to her, though she used the situation as yet another excuse as to why she’s not able to go back to work.

Once Covid hit she tried to get relief but was denied because she’d already been out of work too long and her unemployment had nothing to do with the Pandemic. She then began to use Covid as an excuse why she couldn’t work.

Things came to a head when he went to go grocery shopping and told her ‘no’ when she asked for more Diet Dr. Pepper. He has no problem with her drinking it, but informed her it’s a luxury item and not in the budget.

He’s still providing for her basic needs all alone, but feels like he has to draw the line somewhere.

She feels like he’s controlling her.

This brings us to a few days ago. I went to do some grocery shopping and my girlfriend asked me to pick up a case of Diet Dr. Pepper for her. She is addicted to the stuff. To her credit, she doesn’t drink or smoke or eat much junk food at all; Diet Dr. Pepper is basically her only vice. But she’ll easily drink 6-7 cans of it in a day.

Anyway I refused to buy it for her. I told her on the way out the door “Nope, that’s a luxury item. I’m not paying for that.” Long story short when I got home without the DDP we got into a huge argument. She accused me of “financially controlling her.”

I told her that from now on I would only provide for her completely basic needs but that if she wanted any treats beyond that she’d need to get a job and pay for them herself.

AITA?

What does Reddit say? Is this guy the a$$hole? Let’s find out!

This first commenter feels like she’s taking advantage of him – or she needs professional help.

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I think we can all agree it’s not about the Diet Dr. Pepper. Not really.

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There are ways to do what she did but still behave like an adult.

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To put it bluntly.

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This is definitely not what they discussed.

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I think I agree with OP and the majority of the commenters, here. There’s nothing wrong with quitting your job and a loved one supporting you while you find a new one…as long as you’re actually trying to find a new one.

What are your thoughts here? Share them with us in the comments!

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