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A Mom Wants to Know if She’s Wrong for Stopping Breastfeeding After Her Baby Started Biting

Breastfeeding is natural, but as someone who did it for a collective 22-ish months, I promise you that doesn’t mean it’s always easy. There are challenges, from pain to frustration to supply issues, and once you think you’ve got it all figured out and you’ve settled into a routine, your beautiful little angel gets teeth.

My first baby bit me once or twice, didn’t like my screeching reaction, and quit.

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My second baby was a biter from the very beginning, and once he had teeth, he wouldn’t stop. I tried. I persisted through six weeks of bloody nipples and tubes of Neosporin before throwing in the towel around 9 months.

Through two kids, my husband voiced no opinion on my nursing. I wanted to? Great! I wanted to supplement? Let’s do it!

If he had been this woman’s husband, who thinks she should be nursing through biting baby that won’t quit, I doubt we would still be married.

She nursed their daughter for 10 months but is now struggling with biting. She’s had to take breaks from breastfeeding because of sore nipples, but is still pumping. When that’s too painful, she supplements with formula.

Or at least, she did before her husband HID THE FORMULA.

AITA for not breastfeeding my baby because she bites? from AmItheAsshole

Now, I probably don’t need to tell you that absolutely no one on this thread thinks this woman is any kind of a**hole.

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Many people think her husband is borderline abusive.

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Or that he should try nursing the little biting baby himself, perhaps.

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That she needs to assert herself, claim her body and feed her baby however is best for both of them.

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Many people encouraged her to stop feeling guilty, with reminders that nursing for 10 months is an amazing accomplishment and there is no shame in using formula to finish out her daughter’s first year.

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This guy needs to take a long walk off a short pier, if you ask me (and everyone on Reddit).

Men, do not do this. However your smart, loving, dedicated wife tells you she’s going to feed your kid, be supportive. I promise that, with all of the pressure to breastfeed, she’s considered her options carefully – or tried very hard to make it work – before making a decision.

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A Dad Wanted to Know If He’s Wrong for Putting His 9-Year-Old Daughter on a Diet

Yes. It’s fine (and great!) to teach children that food is fuel for our bodies and to guide them toward the choices that follow that mantra, but also…they’re kids, and you should also tell them that cake is delicious and it’s okay to enjoy those things in moderation.

And if your child is struggling to make good choices and is chubbier than his or her classmates?

Don’t. Say. Anything. About. Weight.

These are my personal feelings on the matter, but also, after reading through the responses to this Am I The A**hole post, the opinions of many women who wish they’d been raised in this manner.

AITA for putting my 9yo on a diet and ’emotionally damaging’ her? from AmItheAsshole

The post is from a dad whose 9-year-old daughter has “a belly,” so he decided to start cutting back her calories and taking her to the gym 4x a week.

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He thought she was fine with it (even though he admits she fussed about both changes), but when she broke down at a friends’ birthday party saying she couldn’t have candy or pizza or she’d get fat, her mother found out what had been going on.

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So, his 9yo basically has an eating disorder but he maintains that he only had her best interests at heart.

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The replies on Reddit, it should not surprise you to learn, were mostly telling this guy off for damaging his daughter’s self-esteem to the point that it could be decades before she can find her way back to a healthy relationship with diet and exercise.

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Another girl, another eating disorder, another man who thinks he has the right to make her feel like she doesn’t look “right” and needs to change to please him.

Excuse me while I go rage.

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A Woman Wants to Know If She Was Wrong for Leaving a Baby Shower Thrown by Her Creepy In-Laws

The time you spend pregnant and postpartum are some of the most vulnerable of our lives. We’re trying to care for ourselves, to care for another human being that depends solely on us, and the hormones swirling around combine with other physical changes to make our emotional states understandably fragile.

It can be a trying (but joyous!) time if you’ve got a great support system around you, so I can’t imagine what this woman has gone through with her husband and in-laws bizarre behavior.

She tells the Reddit forum Am I The A**hole that since she got pregnant her husband has been a bit too excited, and has all but stopped calling her by her name in favor of using “Mommy,” even though she’s asked him to stop.

His family, bizarrely, calls her by the baby’s name.

Even though she expressly asked her mother-in-law to not throw her a party, she did it anyway, using a “gift” from her son to trick the woman into showing up. They groped her belly, ordered a distasteful cake that she couldn’t eat (because her husband wasn’t “allowing” her to eat dairy or processed sugar “for the baby”) and when she said she wanted to leave, he said she was acting crazy.

She left anyway, calling a cab and going home before letting him know she was fine, and even though only 30 minutes had passed, he had called the police.

Now, he’s angry and the in-laws want him to divorce her and sue for full custody and she’s not sure if she overreacted.

No one – no one – thinks she’s the a**hole here.

Largely because she’s being mentally and emotionally abused by an entire family.

I mean, who does this kind of thing to somebody who’s pregnant?!?

The advice to get out of there, live with her family and talk to her doctor, seem very valid to me, a woman who has been there (not pregnant, thank goodness).

She hasn’t posted any updates, and I join everyone else on Reddit hoping that she and the baby are okay.

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A Woman Asked If She’s Wrong for Wanting Her Infertile Sister to Host Her Baby Shower and People Had Some Thoughts

The subreddit Am I The A**hole has grown in popularity over the past several years, and is a home for every potential jerk out there wanting to know if they done a friend or family member wrong.

In this case, I give you a woman who started casually dating her sister’s ex-fiancee, proceeded to get knocked up, and wants her infertile sister to host the shower.

The sister, for some context, had to go on antidepressants after finding out she would likely never have children, and it’s unclear whether the news precipitated the breakup.

Here’s the original post…

AITA for asking my sister to throw my baby shower party when she is suffering from infertility from AmItheAsshole

Yikes. That’s a lot to unpack.

There’s pretty much nothing redeemable about her entire story, and when her sister told her to go to hell… I just about cheered.

Guess who else did?

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The entire damn internet! That’s who!

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Many people on the thread suspect the post is fake.

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honestly, I really hope they’re right because… yeah. Wow.

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Everyone, though – EVERYONE – thinks she’s the a**hole.

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I mean, you think she’s the asshole too, right?

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Yeah you do.

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But hey… if you don’t, please elaborate in the comments. I want to understand. I really do.

Because this woman is about to have one heck of a hard few years, and she’s got nobody to blame for that but herself.

#truth

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People Are Divided about Whether a Woman Should’ve Called Police After She Saw a Toddler Alone in a Car

The subreddit Am I The A**hole is a good place to go if you want to weigh in on various moral dilemmas or, alternatively, to feel better about yourself for not having to post on it.

This post, about a woman who saw a baby (toddler) sleeping in a car at a grocery store as the mom walked away, caused so much infighting and controversy that the moderators had to take it down. The tweet – and responses on Twitter – remain, though, and honestly, no one can agree.

The original poster (OP) saw a woman walking away from a car with a sleeping toddler in it, chased down the mother just in case she’d forgotten on accident, and was stunned to hear her say she was only going to be a minute.

OP argued that she shouldn’t leave the baby, even for a minute, but the mother dismissed her concerns as someone who couldn’t understand because she wasn’t yet a parent, and went inside anyway.

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Then, OP hemmed and hawed for a few seconds before calling 911. The police arrived just as the mother returned from the store – she was gone less than 10 minutes – and went into hysterics at the thought she might lose her baby.

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So, was she wrong to call the cops? Should she have ignored the situation? Watched the kid herself until the woman returned?

Twitter is split, honestly.

Some people thinking you never, ever leave a kid that young alone in the car.

And that makes sense, right?

Definitely NOT the asshole.

Others thought maybe the mother was right, and the OP just didn’t get it.

But are they stretching a bit?

I mean, should you ever just leave your kid unattended in public?

Most thought that her concern wasn’t misplaced…

…but calling the police and potentially upending an entire family was out of line.

She could have simply watched for 5-10 minutes and made sure the mother returned. No harm no foul.

I’m split, honestly – as a mother yes, I’ve been tempted to run in and grab ordered and paid for takeoff from a shelf and leave the kids belted and locked in the car, but I understand why someone would be concerned.

That said, the weather wasn’t hot, it wasn’t cold, and the mother said she’d be right back.

What do you think? Would you have waited? Told the mother you were going to call the cops? Done what OP did?

Tell us your reasons in the comments!

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A Guys Asked If He Was Wrong for Fat-Shaming His Teen Daughter on Her Birthday

I think I know my answer to this question that someone asked on Reddit, but I’ll let you make up your own mind.

A father took to Reddit’s “Am I the Asshole” page to ask about how he treated his teenage daughter about her weight. Read the man’s words and then decide how you feel about this situation.

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Here is the full post from Reddit:

“This happened a few months ago. I just learned about this subreddit and thought this would be a good place to ask about a point of contention in the family.

My daughter is overweight. Not anything too drastic, but she is around 5’4 and 155 pounds. So she could stand to lose a few pounds. I’ve been concerned about her weight for a long time. None of it has been helped by my also-overweight, enabling wife.

On her 19th birthday, in August, we went on a hike in the state forest. She complained about it literally the entire time. She didn’t like that it was hot, she didn’t like the incline, she didn’t like the mosquitoes. I still encouraged her and pushed on, I think she was satisfied with having exercised at the end of it.

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But, while we were driving back home, she knew that we would be driving past a Dunkin Donuts. She wanted me to stop so she could get herself a “birthday donut.” I said no. She was upset about it, saying she just wanted a donut and she’d just done this long hike to please me on her birthday. I argued calmly that she didn’t want to undo all the work of the hike by getting a donut. She said the one she wanted is 350 calories (which I doubt is true) and would fit into her day. I pointed out she’d probably be eating cake later. We didn’t stop and she sulked about it on the whole ride back. When we got home, she told her mother, who of course sided with her and went on a rant about how our daughter’s birthday shouldn’t be a time I’m preaching healthy eating.

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I am trying to protect her health at every turn, when she spends most of her free time with her mother. Am I really the asshole for not wanting to stop and get her a fatty donut after a nice hike?”

People weighed in on the situation and it was pretty clear that basically NO ONE was on this guy’s side.

“You’ve got to be fuckin kidding my man. On her birthday, you forced your daughter into an activity I suspect you knew she would not enjoy, and then denied her a 75 cent treat. Beyond that, you didn’t even pretend you took the hike for time together, or– God forbid– her enjoyment; you made it clear that your focus for this event was getting her to exercise. You’re a huge asshole.”

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“This is completely the wrong way to go about helping someone lose weight.. One hike is not going to make a difference in the larger picture of health, but this memory is going to be burned into her brain. Health and weightloss is an ongoing lifestyle change and one doughnut has ZERO impact on her weight.

As someone who spent their teens slightly overweight, it was my relationship WITH food that was the problem, I was an emotional over eater, no matter how much I wanted to slim down. My parents withholding something like a doughnut only drove me to eat in secret and form unhealthy habits. such as binge eating. For teenage girls, their relationship with their body easily becomes a societal reflection of their self worth.

You say she “sulked” in the car home, she was probably filled with lots of shame and self hatred that she was fighting with her dad who clearly views her as fat. If you really want to help your daughter, which you seem to care about, you need to change your tactics.

Depriving her of one doughnut is not the solution, working on life long healthy patterns is. For me, I dropped weight in university when I found an activity I liked to do with friends and learning to cook my own food, so that when I wanted a something tasty, I could make something myself rather than grabbing and downing a bag of chips. You’re not wrong to want your daughter to be healthy, but weightloss is as much about mental health as physical.”

What do you think about this situation? Does the dad have a point or is he WAY off base?

Let us know in the comments!

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A Guys Got the Silent Treatment from His Fiancée After Spending $5k on Surgery to Save His Dog

Relationships can be tricky and that goes double for the moment you realize that your money is now our money. That means you need to discuss before you make decisions with it.

A fact that Unsurebigbig3 found out the hard way after he shelled out $5k for his dog’s cancer treatment without discussing it with his bride-to-be.

She got angry, he’s upset – no one is happy.

What do you think about the situation?

My Fiancée isn’t speaking to me after I used “our” money to help my dog. Not sure not to fix this? from relationship_advice

Now, I love dogs as much as the next person, and if I had the money sitting in the bank to save or extend my pupper’s life, you’d better believe I would use it. And the fact that she’s thinking more about the money than the dog’s life makes me absolutely dislike her.

That said, we’re only getting his side of the story, here, and there are red flags on his end, too – like the fact that he didn’t include her in the decision, and that he takes the time to point out that he saves much more money than she does.

So, what do you think? Was he wrong? Was she?

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Do they both suck?

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Most people tend to fall on the “you both kind of suck and you probably need counseling before marriage.”

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I can get on board with that, though I do also question marrying someone who is going to use the silent treatment as a fighting tactic…

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Because you’re probably hoping to marry an adult and not a psychological child.

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What do you think? Should he marry her? Should she split? Are they going to make it?

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A Bride Wants a ‘Deeply Meaningful’ 5:30 AM Wedding and Wants to Know If Guests Are Allowed to Be Mad

Weddings used to be deeply personal events before they became industrialized soirees that cost literally tens of thousands of dollars and also became some kind of competition to see who can use the most Pinterest pins.

All that aside, when you invite guests to an event, it is generally accepted that one should take societal norms into consideration. Norms like sleeping.

You can see the dilemma for this bride-to-be, who says that watching the sun rise is a tradition for her and her fiancee. Frankly, that’s cute!

But a 5:30 A.M. wedding? Less cute.

AITA for wanting a sunrise wedding? from AmItheAsshole

She wants to spend their wedding celebration with her friends and family and her special daybreak tradition…but some of her guests are less than enthused at being asked to be up and wedding-ready before daybreak.

So, the bride took to Reddit’s Am I The A**hole subreddit to find out whether she was being unreasonable, or whether her guests were just jerks looking to ruin the romance.

Most people weren’t really ready to call her TA (The A**hole), though they did have some suggestions for tweaking her plans just a bit to make everyone a bit happier.

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Others thought ESH (Everyone Sucks Here), her for asking and them for refusing her request.

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And still others were ready to defend the Your Wedding, Your Rules philosophy to the death.

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What do you think? I kind of agree that maybe a private sunrise ceremony could be the best option, or maybe just invite people but make it clear you won’t be mad if they choose not to show up so early.

Tell us what you think in the comments!

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A Woman’s Neighbors Are Mad at Her for Running Early in the Morning

It’s a little appalling how much free time people seem to have.

And that they seem to choose to spend that free time complaining about the people who live around them in their neighborhoods.

Because here’s the deal – you buy a house in a neighborhood, you get neighbors. People living their lives, doing their thing, whatever, while you do the same a few doors down.

This woman, who posted her story on the subreddit Am I The A**hole, wanted to know if she was a jerk for running before she goes to work in the morning (usually around 5am). Her neighbors had let her know they thought she was, since her route woke many of them up before they wanted.

AITA for running through neighborhoods in the early morning, making security lights come on and dogs bark? from AmItheAsshole

The were upset not because she was being loud, mind you. But because their dogs, their security lights, their video doorbells were being set off by her running past.

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Yeah. They wanted her to stop living her life because their own stuff was inconveniencing them.

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You probably won’t be surprised to hear that most people on Reddit took her side – she should continue to run whenever she damn well pleases, because not everyone can afford a gym or change their workout schedule at will.

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Do better, people. Or you know, go live in the woods. I’m sure the critters will be super amenable to staying away from your dogs and security lights.

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A Woman Kept Her Personal and Professional Lives Completely Separate, but Years Later Wonders If She Was Wrong

A lot of us prefer to keep a good line between work and home, if only to keep ourselves sane and to be able to focus on one without the other creeping in.

That said, it’s a bit odd to work somewhere for nine years and never reveal anything personal to the people you work with every day.

It’s also a bit weird if, when they learn you’ve been holding out on them and go cold, you feel as though you’ve lost friends.

AITA for hiding my personal life at work? from AmItheAsshole

Because if you were so intent on being extremely private, why would you believe you had friends at work?

Anyway.

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This woman’s personal life was outed by a new (nosy, by her account) employee, and now she’s wondering if she was wrong, since her co-workers are miffed.

Most people fall either in the NAH (No A**holes Here) or YTA (You’re the A**hole) camps and I have to say I agree.

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You aren’t the asshole!

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But… she’s KIND of the asshole…

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It’s complicated…

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Her coworkers definitely aren’t in the wrong feeling slighted (aside from the snoopy one, but that’s really a different question).

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Melinda! Stay in your lane!

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Personally, I think it’s her business how she wants to conduct herself at work, but she can’t expect people to be friendly if she’s clearly demonstrated not wanting to be friends.

Just sayin.

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