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Was This Woman Wrong to Tell Sibling Her Body Hair Was Standing in the Way of Love?

When it comes to people’s physical appearances, keeping mum is often the best and really only course of action. When someone you love comes to you asking for advice or opinions – or is lamenting a problem when you think their appearance might solve the issue – the advice to keep silent isn’t always the best course of action.

This woman and her sister have a condition called PCOS that affects their body hair, leading to a thick, dark covering that society often doesn’t expect to see on women. Both girls used to shave/remove it but recently her sister has decided she wants to live more naturally – which is fine.

My sister (22F) and I (26F) both have PCOS. As a result we have very thick, dark body hair and facial hair that can honestly rival some men’s. I personally choose to shave regularly because I can’t stand how it looks and feels. My sister used to shave but about a year ago decided she wanted to stop. Of course I support her 100% and think she’s beautiful! What she does with her body is her business.

When the sister posts pictures of herself on dating sites, however, she uses old photos from when she was clean-shaven. Her dates often leave in the middle or refuse a second meeting, leaving the sister wondering exactly what she is doing wrong.

OP thinks she knows why, but stopped short of saying it for some time.

However, there is an issue. My sister uses old pictures of herself back when she was shaving on dating apps. This has led to a lot of problems in her romantic life. She often complains she never gets a second date and sometimes people even leave mid-date.

I think this is kind of her fault because she’s being disingenuous about her appearance which is a sh%tty thing to do. I have always bit my tongue and just supported her about this topic until recently.

When OP finally broke down and suggested she update her profile pictures, because leaving them gives her dates expectations that are not being met, her sister flew into a hurt rage, arguing that the right person won’t care.

OP agrees, but doesn’t think that’s really the point.

The other day she was venting again about another failed date. She asked me why this keeps happening to her. I told her she should consider updating her profile pictures. She got defensive and asked why she would need to do that. I told her that it would probably help so people know what she looks like since she looks a lot different than when they were taken.

She started getting extremely angry and said that “a little body hair doesn’t make that much of a difference” and “the right person won’t mind a little hair.”

Again, our body and facial hair is very thick and dark, and (imo) definitely makes a difference. When I don’t shave, I get a full mustache and beard, and my sister is the same. The people she’s going on dates with aren’t expecting her to show up with a full mustache and beard because her pictures show her clean-shaven.

The sister and even their family think OP was shaming her, which she maintains she was not. She was only encouraging her sister to be herself from the start if she truly wants to find the right guy.

I told her that she’s beautiful but she’s giving people false expectations which is why she’s having bad luck dating. She should just be honest from the start and the right one will come along! But she was infuriated and said I was being unsupportive and misogynistic. She has refused to talk to me since and my family is now calling me an asshole too because they think I was shaming her.

My sister even posted on social media that “body hair is beautiful, the stigma attached to it is misogynistic, it sucks when your own family won’t support you.”

Now she’s wondering whether or not she was wrong to say anything at all, but she still feels like her sister is in the wrong – not because she’s being herself, but because she’s misleading people and then blaming them for her mistake.

Did I go wrong somewhere here? I love my sister and don’t think body and facial hair is a bad thing at all! But I don’t think it’s right to basically catfish people and then blame them for not being interested, and treating them like they’re horrible people when you misled them…

AITA?

The internet, of course, has some thoughts, so let’s hear them out!

The top comment pointed out that her sister is obviously not as ok with how she looks now as she thought, so there are probably some deeper-seated issues at play.

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She’s attracting the wrong people, not the right ones, and the sooner she realizes that she’s the one at fault there, the better.

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And I mean, no one really likes a liar.

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Deceiving people isn’t the way to start any sort of experience.

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No one likes having their time wasted, you know?

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There you have it! I have to say that I agree with OP on this one.

What about you? Drop your opinions in the comments!

 

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Was This Woman Wrong For TellingHer Fiancée She Used to Work as an Escort?

Honesty might be the best policy, but we all know that can get complicated when we’re talking about relationships that are important to us – relationships we really don’t want to lose.

We’re not all proud of our pasts, or sometimes we’re ok with them, but we expect that other people will judge the choices we’ve made previously – and that’s exactly the struggle this woman was having when she wondered whether keeping her former profession as an escort from her husband-to-be.

She did it because she wanted to, it wasn’t scarring or horrible the way it can be for some, and eventually she just decided to move on and do something else.

I (35F) just got engaged. I’ve been with him for two years and he’s amazing and think he’d be a great father to my children. There is however a secret I haven’t revealed. About three years ago before I met him I briefly worked as an escort. It wasn’t long (about 4 months) and I don’t have some sob story about how I felt abused and exploited because frankly I didn’t.

Like any job it had its good and bad parts. I don’t have some dramatic story about escaping it, I stopped simply because I didn’t want to do it anymore. I didn’t require therapy or rehab, I just moved on and got a normal job.

OP knows that she is healthy and has no baggage from a previous life, and she’s been honest as far as her number of sexual partners. That said, she doesn’t feel quite right about keeping something from him for the rest of her life.

She’s worried it will impact the way he sees her, though, and asks the internet for their opinions.

I have been regularly tested and have no STIs, nor so I have any emotional scars from it, so I told myself it’s now no one else’s business because it won’t impact any other relationships. However it feels wrong I can’t share this.

He once asked how many s^xual partners I had and I simply said “a lot” and told him technically the truth: that I was prolific at one point in my life but no longer am and don’t intend to do so.

I’m still scared to potentially ruin a great thing if I reveal it but I’m also not looking forward to keeping this a secret for life.

AITA for keeping it secret?

As always, they’ve got plenty to give, so let’s hear them out!

Basically, a lot of people think she’d be better off finding out how serious of a partner he’s going to be now, and not later.

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It’s less about her needing to be ashamed, and more about what type of man she’s found herself.

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If it’s a dealbreaker, he’s allowed to call it off before paperwork is signed.

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The bottom line is that it’s complicated.

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They both deserve to know what they’re getting into, right?

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I think that she’s the a$shole, not because she was an escort, but because she allowed things to get this far without coming clean.

I hope things work out when she tells him

What are your thoughts on this one? Drop them in the comments!

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A Woman Told a Social Worker the Truth About Sister and Ruins Her Adoption Chances. Was She Wrong?

Families are tricky. Those of us with excellent parents and siblings and extended family are the lucky ones, though we often don’t realize that sometimes, family aren’t people you are proud to claim.

That’s the case here, with a sister who spent some time living with her sister and brother-in-law-, niece and nephew, and did not come out thinking highly of the adults in the situation.

They treated her basically like Cinderella – free labor and childcare, and demanding she pay rent besides.

I’m a 28F and I have a sister (36F) For the sake of story, I’ll just call Jane. Jane is married to “Bob” and they have two kids, boy and a girl. My niece and nephew are wonderful kids and no trouble at all. They fight as siblings do but nothing big. I love them. Now for about two years, I did live with my sister. It was a miserable time that really affected our relationship. She saw me as free labor, money and babysitting.

Even when I managed to get a small part time job, she demanded I hand over nearly half my pay or get out. It was hell as she took completely advantage of me. I moved out as soon as I could and we have little contact outside of family gatherings.

After OP moved out, the sister realized how tough it is to not have a free babysitter et al in the house, and OP has set some firm and healthy boundaries of her own.

Now after I moved out, she started complaining how “She has no help with the kids and never gets a break!” I babysit sometimes but I have made it clear, just cause I am off work, doesn’t mean I want an 8 hour day with my niece and nephew.

Then, the sister started talking about how she wanted to “get” a foster kid – a teenager, to live in the garage, maybe, and do all of the cooking and cleaning babysitting because they’d be so “grateful” to have a roof and a bed.

Y’all, my face right now.

Anyway she started talking about how she wanted to foster a kid. Not a kid but a teenager. I pressed her for more info on this. She wants to adopt a teenager so she has a live in babysitter for her kids. This is her logic: “I want a kid around 16 or 17, you know someone who may have been in the system for awhile. They can share a room with your nephew (she only has a three 3 bedroom house) or sleep in the garage. They can help me with house work, chores, cook and help me with my business.(She bakes and sells cookies)

Also babysit the kids so me and Bob can go out sometimes or have some alone time. They’ll be so grateful for a home and won’t complain. I won’t have to pay them at all. And then when they turn 18, I can just sign up for another foster kid! A teenager will be so much easier than a little kid, they will be grateful just to have a roof, food, siblings if they have been separated from their real ones and clothes.”

OP was also horrified, and when a social worker came to interview her as a character witness, she told the the truth about why her sister was applying to be a foster parent.

I was horrified! Told her it was a horrible idea! She didn’t listen to me. She went on with it anyway. About a month ago, a social worker showed up at my apartment to ask me some questions about my sister. She had put me down as a character witness or something like that.

I immediately told the social worker why my sister really wanted to foster a kid and how she treated me when I lived with her. The lady thanked me.

The sister and her husband were denied, and when OP told her sister the truth about her conversation with the social worker, the sister just blew up.

Her family also thinks OP was out of line.

My sister called crying saying that she wouldn’t be considered for any adoptions or fosters. The social worker told her that they felt her home and her weren’t a good fit. She asked if I said anything and I told the truth. She went off on me, hung up and we haven’t spoken since. She has sent some angry texts.

A couple family members are on her side. They think foster kids are fucking dogs or something and would be so happy just to have a roof and would gladly do all the housework.

So AITA here?

I think we can all guess how the internet is going to feel about treating kids like dogs in a shelter, but let’s peruse these responses anyway, hmm?

OP did the right thing for a child in a precarious situations, so there’s no way she could be wrong.

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She might have saved her sister from an even more awkward moment in the future, too.

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Apparently this is a thing people do? What the heck.

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All kids deserve a helping hand, not just the ones who are little and cute.

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It makes me want to throw up, honestly.

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I hate that there are so many people in the world who try to take advantage of kids, and especially kids who have barely had a chance in life the way it is.

What’s your opinion of this situation? Tell us about it in the comments!

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An Employee Tells Co-Workers Not Everyone at Work Can Afford To Buy a House. Did They Act Like a Jerk?

It’s kind of interesting how sometimes you find yourself in a situation where people assume that everyone has a lot of money. Or even enough money to get by…

And, the truth of the matter is that not everyone out there can afford to buy a house.

A person took to Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page to share their story and to ask the readers on that forum if they were wrong for their actions.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for bluntly telling the people I work with that no, not “everyone in the office” can afford to buy a house?

“My coworkers are usually pretty good to work with. The average salary for them is around 100k+. I’m their administrative assistant and I make about $32k. Anyway some of the things they say are kind of weird.

For example this one woman was shocked that I’d never had any of my clothes tailored before. I think they just really caught up in their own reality you know? Like in their world everyone is beautiful and skinny and rich with purebred dogs and perfect white teeth.

I was helping organize and someone announced they finally bought their first house. The conversation continued on to them kind of being rude and saying like “I don’t get why people think no one can afford to buy a house, it’s not hard?” and someone was like “Yeah I can’t imagine being in my 30s and still renting, I’d feel like such a failure” and they all agreed.

I don’t usually get upset about the sh*t they’re talking about but I finally had it and was like “I’m 38 and rent, I don’t think I’m a failure”

One of them was like “Oh well we weren’t talking about you, it’s just that all these people always go on and on about how it’s impossible to save for a down payment.”

I was just like “Yeah, it is pretty hard.”

It was obvious the whole atmosphere in the room changed so I was like “Anyway” and got up and left to the main office to get back to work. Later on one of the other women in the office came up and was like “Hey I’m sorry about earlier I didn’t mean to offend you. It got kind of awkward in there.”

I said yeah, it was pretty awkward listening to them talk about how they’d feel like a failure if they were in my shoes. She said that’s not what she meant, she actually meant that it felt like I was trying to call attention to the wage gap like it was their fault, and that if I wanted to better myself they could help me figure out how to apply to schools and work my way up just like they did.

I said a kind of half-hearted “thanks.” It’s been weird in the office since then. I know money is one of those no-no topics but it’s not like it’s a secret that I only make what I make.

We don’t have HR and this really isn’t an HR thing.

AITA.”

Here’s what people on Reddit had to say about this.

This reader said that these folks obviously live in an echo chamber and don’t get a whole lot of exposure to other people.

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Another reader said this kind of attitude is why nothing ever really changes for a lot of folks out there as far as income goes.

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This Reddit user made it clear: this person was not wrong in their statements and the people in their office deserved to be called out.

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And this individual had a unique take on the conversation: it was flat-out condescending.

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What do you think of this person’s actions?

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A Woman Left Her Husband at a Clinic After He Pranked Her. Does This Make Her an A-Hole?

I’m not sure what kind of a person would pull a “prank” like this, but the world is filled with a lot of strange people.

And I can’t wrap my head around why anyone would think something like this would be funny…but the world is a strange place.

And this woman got put in a very weird and terrible spot thanks to a cruel prank played by her husband…but she wants to know if she was wrong for how she reacted about it.

Here’s what happened:

AITA for yelling at my husband then leaving him at the clinic after his prank?

“Me F28 and my husband M34 have been married for a year. Before I met him I got a dog named Ollie (A German shepherd) that was originally my sister’s but she passed away and I immediately took him to live with me.

My husband adores Ollie he sometimes jokes that he’s married to me only because of Ollie. He likes making jokes and doing pranks but some of them are downright nasty. He’d always get me worried by lying saying Ollie ran off when he was hiding him in a place I didn’t know about.

He knows how much worried and stressed out those pranks make me but he says my reaction is priceless and worth the yelling/lashing afterwards.

Ollie needed to be taken to the veterinary clinic for a check-up. My husband said he’d handle it. During the second visit to get the results. I received a call from my husband and his voice sounded like he wasn’t okay. I asked what was wrong. I got really worried after he said it was about Ollie.

I was starting to shake I kept asking what was going on and he told me that Ollie’s been diagnosed with cancer. He said he wanted me to come over to the clinic as soon as possible because Ollie was with the vet.

I couldn’t stand. I started asking is that why Ollie lost weight lately? And such. I rushed to the clinic and found my husband standing near the entrance with Ollie. First thing I noticed was him laughing hysterically telling me that I really bought in to his lie.

I was confused he said it was just a prank Ollie is perfectly healthy and handed me the results to check. After I checked I lost it. I lashed out at him. Ngl I called him awful names and his face suddenly turned red like he didn’t expect me to react that way.

He argued that I made it a big deal “obviously” and was being mean to him over a prank that didn’t even last an hour. I kept lashing out I didn’t give him a chance to keep talking I took Ollie and the keys then I left. I arrived to the clinic in a taxi. I left him at the clinic while me and Ollie went home by the car.

3 hours later he came back and was upset. He usually laughs even in serious situations but this time he didn’t. He argued that I shouldn’t have left him like that and that I overreacted. Said he was trying to make good memories to look back on and laugh at but I was unnecessarily overreacting. He stopped talking after that.

Just wanted to mention that this started months after his father’s passing. His family said he never mentions his dad nor keep anything of his although they were very close.

I never met his father but they told me he wasn’t suffering from anything and his death was sudden and my husband had a hard time processing it. This could be the reason for his behavior.”

Here’s how Reddit users responded.

This person made it clear: this was abuse.

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Another reader also said that this is an abusive relationship and that her husband needs some help.

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This reader said that this is gaslighting…”trying to make good memories”? I don’t think so…

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Another reader pointed out that the husband needs some serious help.

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Finally, this Reddit user said there’s no doubt about it: this woman’s husband is a huge *sshole.

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So what do you think?

Did this woman act like an *sshole, or is she in the clear?

Talk to us in the comments!

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Is It Bad to Tell a Friend That You Don’t Care if She Likes How You Look?

I like to say that one of the best days of my life was the one when I truly stopped caring what other people think – and while that’s true, I do think that some people’s opinions matter.

If you trust someone and their thoughts on certain matters, then of course, you might care what they think about a certain topic. Everyone else, though, can suck it.

This woman is wondering whether or not she was wrong to tell a friend she didn’t care about her opinion on clothes, though, and the backstory is that her friend and roommate is super into the body positivity movement – to the point where she’s not afraid to police where her friends go to the doctor or buy their clothes.

I (24f) live with 2 other women Claire (23f), and Joan (24f).

Joan spent most of last week helping her boyfriend find and move into a new flat, so we haven’t seen much of her.

Joan is a bigger girl (a UK 22) and is very into the body positivity movement, in particular the health at any size movement but to a dangerous and quite toxic degree (ie she recently complained about discrimination to our GP practice after a nurse told her she couldn’t have the combined pill due to her weight).

One if her major bugbears is when brands only sell straight sizes (6 to 16/18) it is her opinion that if brands don’t sell a larger size range that they should be boycotted, and anyone who buys from them is approving of their size exclusivity.

While that roommate was out of town, OP and her other roommate bought cute sundresses from an “unapproved” retailer – someone who doesn’t sell plus sizes – and planned to wear them for an at-home tea that might lift their spirits.

Earlier this week to cheer ourselves up Claire and I each ordered a dress sundress from House of CB, living in Britain in March that may seem a bit hopeful but they are pretty and a girl can dream of summer!

They arrived Friday night, and Claire and I decided that on Sunday we’d have afternoon tea and wear them (it would also act as a distraction from the fact it was mother’s day and we couldn’t be with our mums). We text Joan to see if she wanted to join but she declined.

Then the third roommate came home, asked about the dresses, and then began shaming the other girls for supporting that retailer.

Joan came home during the tea, and all was fine at first she had a scone and chatted away until she asked about the dresses, we told her they were House of CB and she looked them up, then she said “why the f*ck are you guys supporting somewhere like this?”, we said “what?”, and she started ranting about the sizing (XXS to L+, UK 4/6, to 14/16).

OP told her in no uncertain terms that she didn’t care whether or not the roommate approved of her dress, and that the last thing anyone needed during a pandemic was more people trying to steal their joy.

Which… I definitely agree with.

I told her to calm down, and that the dresses are pretty, she told us that she was appalled at us wearing them, then started ranting.

I stopped her and said that her opinion on clothes sizing does not affect me and should not affect if Claire and I are trying to find some happiness in these times, that we should be allowed to shop wherever we want and that she needs to stop obsessing over it.

The roommate stormed off and declared she wasn’t speaking to the other girls unless they returned the dresses, leaving OP to wonder whether or not she was an a$shole for stating her opinion.

Joan then stormed off to her room, and is still refusing to speak to either of us.

Only texting us once to say “I’m only talking to you if you send those dresses back and apologise”.

Are we the a**holes here?

I know weight and clothing is a sensitive topic, and I know that she has a thing about it, but I don’t see why that should affect what Claire and I are allowed to buy and wear, however I am aware I was a few cocktails in so could have been a bit more sensitive about it myself.

I’m only really questioning it as her reaction is so extreme.

So, was the roommate’s reaction extreme?

Reddit, of course, is weighing in.

This person pointed out that you’re allowed to have your own moral guidelines when shopping, but to try to force them on other people is gross.

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There was plenty of (warranted) snark to be found.

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Pretty much everyone said they should keep the dresses (if they like them).

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It’s almost like she doesn’t want to have any friends.

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Everyone deserves to feel fabulous in their clothes, no matter the size!

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This could probably have been handled a bit more delicately, but in the end, she wasn’t wrong.

I hope the friend wises up and realizes that she won’t win anyone to her size by bossing people around – yeesh.

Drop your thoughts in the comments!

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This Guy Doesn’t Want to Give Any Money to His Pregnant Ex. Is He a Jerk?

I have a feeling that this story is gonna contain a whole lot of drama.

Which is good if it doesn’t involve you, I suppose…

A man in his twenties shared his story on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page because he’s having some inner turmoil about a situation involving his ex girlfriend…and some money…and a baby…

Let’s take a look.

AITA for not giving money to my pregnant ex?

“My ex (25f)and I (27M) were together about 6 months but during that time we were free to see other people.

Things weren’t working out so we broke up. Over a month after that she finds out she’s pregnant and tells me baby is mine. But I already knew she was seeing other guys so it was also possible the baby isn’t.

She got mad that I was having doubts but I said if we got a paternity test and it showed I’m the dad then yeah I’ll 100% be involved.

My Ex didn’t want that and she’d rather wait until after the baby is born to get a test done so I said that’s fine, it’s her choice. But I won’t get myself involved unless I know the baby is mine.

Like I already know I could be set up for child support if I start helping out now and then later it’s revealed I’m not the father. (I live in the US and have heard this stuff happens a lot)

I’d rather not even risk it you know?

She’s about 8 months now and I have started saving up money, reading up some books, making shopping cart lists of baby clothes and furniture to buy incase I am the father so it’s not like I’m not preparing for this at all.

So right now money is tight with her since I know she’s only working part time. She doesn’t have the money for a baby bassinet or clothes because she practically lives paycheck to paycheck.

She started asking to let her borrow money for baby stuff but I’ve told her no. Far as I know she doesn’t have other family she’s close to and friends are the same as her with money.

But I already said I’ll start giving her money and helping out once I know her son is mine. Otherwise I’d rather not get involved. I’ve even told her to reach out to the other guys who could also be the dad’s but she said one is even more broke and the other she hasn’t been able to contact.

So for right now seems like I’m the only one actually able to offer financial support.

We have a couple mutual friends and I’m getting sh*t from them because they know I have the money to help out. She could be the mom of my kid so the least I could do is provide.

They say they would if they had the money, since I do have the means and this baby could be mine I should already be helping.

They have a point. The baby could be mine and I’ll be happy to help out…once I know he is in fact mine. But everyone else is seeing it as I’m being too cold and inconsiderate.

I don’t think I am but want to know what others believe…

AITA?”

Here’s how people reacted on Reddit.

This person stated the obvious: this guy doesn’t owe her any money until she can prove he’s the father.

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Another reader said that this man needs to insist on a DNA test and not give up a cent until it’s proven that he’s the father.

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This individual argued that this whole situation is very suspect and that if it’s not his kid, it’s not his responsibility.

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Finally, a person said that it seems like the woman has latched on to him because she knows he has some cash. And it’s pretty telling that she has refused to get a DNA test…

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Okay, now we want to get your opinion.

In the comments, tell us what you think about this situation.

We’d love to hear from you!

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A Woman Asks if She’s Wrong for Calling Out Her Father as a Bully and a Bad Parent

If you don’t regularly read Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page, you should be.

People post all kinds of interesting, personal stories about drama that has gone down in their lives and they ask Reddit readers to give them the straight dope: are they being *ssholes, or not?

Here’s yet another tale from the AITA page. Let’s take a look.

AITA for threatening to expose my father to the society he keeps?

“My(22F) parents divorced when I was 5, both of them had remarried within a year of that and both have families of their own.

At the moment, I am working part-time at the library of my uni where I’m also pursuing my Masters. I’m living in a flat with a couple of other flatmates. I make ends meet but generally I’m a bit skint.

I never had anything but barely cordial relationships with my parents individually, my father used to be some kind of a bully in my childhood and my mother was at the best disinterested in my upbringing. My parents are being much better at parenting the second time around, I have half siblings on both sides.

I’m particularly close to my half brother James(15) (on my father’s side) and we share quite a few common interests. On several occasions though, I’ve seen father being rather unkind to him because he seems to think James is “too wet” and not manly enough.

The last weekend I was invited for my father and his wife’s marriage anniversary celebrations at his house and James came out while at the dinner table. There was only the immediate family and a few guests invited but our father decided to throw a wobbly and started berating him in front of everyone present. The guests all appeared flummoxed and very uneasy, nobody came to his aid and James was on the verge of tears.

I was really p*ssed off (and I’m not good with my temper) at my father and told him he had lost the plot completely after a few good years, that he’s been a bully to everybody around him and he doesn’t get to keep his appearances up as a good parent in front of his friends if he cannot treat his children right.

This lead to huge row in front of everybody with James crying and my father screaming at us some more and threatening to throw him out, at which point I told him I’d gladly take him in if he wishes to rather stay with me.

I left with James that day after ringing my flatmates and they were more than happy to accommodate him. He has since returned to my father’s house but he stated he preferred staying with me and taking the bus to his school.

My father and step mother are livid and are not talking to me since the incident but my extended family and people I know through my father have been bombarding me on social media letting me know how much out of line I have been.

AITA?”

Here’s how folks responded.

This person said that this is not those folks’ business and they need to respect boundaries. And that this young woman did the right thing by sticking up for her brother.

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This person said that perhaps the woman’s brother thought it would be safer to do this in public…they might be right about that.

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Another Reddit user said that it’s clear that the younger brother lives in an abusive household and is probably afraid…and that the woman’s extended family is pretty terrible.

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Finally, this reader said that the younger brother might have chosen a better time to come out but realistically, the father was going to be rude about it no matter the time and place.

And they added that James will most likely be leaning on her for a long time due to the family’s bad behavior.

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What do you think about this woman’s actions?

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This Man Banned His Sister From Seeing His Kids. Was He Wrong?

Have you ever heard of someone banning their own family members from seeing their kids?

I’m sure it happens all the time, I’m just glad I’ve never had to deal with anything like that in my own life.

But let’s see how things like this transpire with a story from a man who took to the “Am I the *sshole?” page on Reddit to see if he was wrong for banning his own sister from seeing his children.

AITA for banning my sister from seeing my kids after what she said?

“Let me make it clear, I completely understand that having kids is not for everybody. I respect this and have no problem with it.

I (37M) have five children, (10M), (8F), (5M), (3M) and a five month old son, all of whom have only recently met my sister (33F). She’s a wonderful person, but has always been a bit of a free-spirited person, and likes to be in several other places besides home.

Obviously, she’s only really seen them through SKYPE calls, but they seemed to really be hitting off. And then, a few days ago, my mom sent me pictures of texts she’d exchanged with my sister, in which my sister called my kids ‘brats’ and said that she cringed throughout each a DJ every call because the kids, apparently, were just so terrible to talk to.

I sent the texts to my sister to see what she had to say. My sister asked what I wanted her to say, that she just telling the truth. I told her that, if that’s just how she felt, that she was no allow to see the kids in any way, shape or form.

Now, my mom’s on my back, saying that she had wanted us to talk about it like ‘civilized adults’ and that I’d overreacted. She told me that my sister had a right to her own opinion, and she was just exercising that right.

Is she right? I can kinda see both sides of the argument, I guess…”

Here’s how folks responded on Reddit.

This person believes that everyone is wrong in this situation, especially the man’s mother.

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Another reader said that the whole family seems to be acting immaturely and that venting is normal among people who trust each other.

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This Reddit user said that the man who wrote the post is indeed the *sshole in this situation and that he overreacted.

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This person made it clear: this is all Mom’s fault!

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Finally, this person doesn’t think the man or his mother is wrong here, but the blame all falls on the sister.

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Do you think this guy is wrong?

Or is he justified in his actions?

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A Woman Told Her Younger Sister It’s Time to Grow Up. Was She Wrong?

Some people just have to learn lessons in life the hard way…but this time it might be a little bit different.

And you’re about to read a story from a young woman who had a confrontation with her younger sister and set her straight about how things are gonna be from now on.

But she clearly has some guilty and asked folks on Reddit’s “Am I the *sshole?” page if she was wrong for what she said.

Let’s take a look.

AITA for telling my sister I’m not her mom and it’s not my job to keep looking after her?

“I (21f) have a sister (18f).

My parents put me in the worst position of being her keeper/caretaker when we were kids. I was expected to help her with homework, help her with friend problems, if she was in trouble with a kid they would ask me to speak to the kid or an older sibling if they had one around my age.

I was responsible for walking her to and from school on my way to school. My mom would make me late sometimes because she was running late and I wasn’t allowed to leave without her (I was in a different school to her). It was so bad when we were teenagers. I got the job of explaining periods to her, the job of looking after her when they weren’t home (and that was a pretty regular thing with them).

When I moved out I distanced myself from all of them. I didn’t want to be responsible for her anymore, and I didn’t want to end up having them push her to live with me. And she wanted everything. She wanted me to cook for her, buy clothes for her, take her places, help with homework and other school stuff. She would also want me to sit and listen to her vent all her problems.

So anyway, she moved out of our parents house and cut them out of her life and then she reaches out to me and says she needs me to help her out. She was struggling to pay rent, struggling with school, struggling to grocery shop and she wanted to move in with me or have me come over every day to help.

I told her she needs to figure stuff out for herself. She told me it was my job to help her. I said no. I said I am not her mom and it’s not my job to look after her. That it should never have been my job.

She’s p*ssed and one of my friends thinks I was too harsh since I’m the only person who ever really took care of her. They think I should at least try to get her up and running and teach her to be independent.

AITA?”

Let’s see how people responded on Reddit.

This person said that neither the woman or her younger sister were *ssholes in this situation, but it was actually the parents who are to blame for this whole mess.

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This reader said that the whole story is sad and that the younger sister is not at fault here…and neither is the woman who wrote the post.

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Another person said that the younger sister might be better off learning the hard way and figuring out some things on her own instead of relying on her older sister all the time.

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But this person thinks that the younger woman is in the wrong because she still expects her sister to do everything for her.

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Now it’s your turn to sound off.

In the comments, tell us what you think about this situation.

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