This is How You Can Apply the Five Love Languages to Yourself

Writer Jessicah Pierre brought a lot of joy to people recently with her Twitter thread on the “love languages” and how we can apply them to ourselves.

The concept of the five basic love languages was first pioneered in the early 90’s by author and minister Gary Chapman. In his book The Five Love Languages, he outlined different ways that people prefer to show and receive affection.

It’s a framework that has dug its way into the culture as a helpful guide to recognize each others’ needs, but can it be applied to our day to day, even when we’re alone? Jessicah thinks so:

Here’s her rundown of each language and how you can apply them to yourself to improve your mental health.

1. Words of Affirmation

Talking to yourself isn’t crazy. It’s a totally normal way to process thoughts.

2. Acts of Service

You’d be surprised how much you might appreciate it if you help you out.

3. Quality Time

Don’t just rush around constantly.

4. Physical Touch

There’s an obvious NSFW answer here but this is good too.

5. Gifts

Treat yoself.

Basically:

When you lay it all out like that, it seems so simple. And yet, how often have any of us thought in these terms?

A very helpful reminder that we’ve already got a lot of the tools that we need to stay hearty and happy. Just gotta get ourselves to use them once in a while!

How do you take care of yourself?

Tell us in the comments.

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People Offer Advice About Things That Teenagers Should Try To Avoid

I have a 14-year-old niece who I’m constantly trying to give life advice to

Of course, she usually rolls her eyes at me and only half-listens, but I still try to do my part because I want her to stay out of trouble…

And we all know that teenagers can get into TONS of trouble.

So I guess the only thing we can do is still try to impart our infinite wisdom to them and hope they’ll take a moment to look up from their phones and listen up.

AskReddit users shared what things they think teens should avoid. Here’s what they had to say.

1. My ears!

“Really loud music.

The kind at a concert front row loud, because tinnitus really sucks.

And not only tinnitus. I damaged my ability to hear certain frequencies when I was a teenager by going to loud punk gigs. It makes it really hard to hear people speaking over background noise. Doesn’t sound too major, but it makes socialising in a pub or club or public place that bit more challenging. I guess I lost the frequency range that distinguishes speech from general noise.

When you’re a young adult, you do a lot of your socialising in such environments, so don’t add an extra challenge to your social life.”

2. Pick a direction.

“Avoid waiting for life to begin.

It already has.

Go in some positive direction, even if you’re not sure it’s the exact right one.”

3. That’s smart.

“Work on your credit skills (and subsequently self-discipline) immediately.

My advice is to get approved for any credit card you can with any limit, doesn’t matter. Then, use that card on ONE thing. Groceries? Fuel?

Something small and exclusive so you’re definitely able to pay it off in full every single month. A good credit score at a young age does wonders, especially considering your peers.”

4. Nothing is forever.

“My mom found her dream job in her thirties and my current stepdad in her fifties. Don’t be too concerned with whether the things you’re doing now is gonna be forever.

Do what you can to open doors for yourself but don’t feel forced to think you need to know with who or what you should spend the rest of your life with at this point. Time gives you time to discover more things.

Discover more things, and eventually you’ll find your way, even if you didn’t realize it. Stop thinking in today and forever. You got all the time to figure it out. Just get yourself a solid foundation and explore.

Except for drugs. Don’t explore things that you could get addicted to for the rest of your life.”

5. Be yourself.

“Stop trying to tailor your personality to appeal to each new person you meet. You’re not required to be everyone’s best friend. It took me so long to figure this out.

It wasn’t until my early 20s that I figured out how I like to dress, what I like to do, or what music I enjoy because I used to change according to other people’s tastes.”

6. Get ‘er done!

“Procrastination.

Not as big as the other ones but my God, procrastination can get so bad and affect you so horribly if you let it get out of hand.”

7. Find the good ones.

“Fake friends.

It’s honestly better to have no friends than people who gossip about you and make snide remarks to you.

I know everyone says this but you will find your people.”

8. Take care of those choppers.

“Avoid skipping the dentist.

Even if money is tight professional cleanings and preventive maintenance will pay dividends later in life.”

9. Don’t smart.

“Nicotine.

I’ve been smoking for 10 years (ever since I was 14) and nicotine is absolutely the worst drug and the hardest to cut out.

There’s no satisfying “high” to it, just cravings and dizziness. Any other drug would give you more bang for your buck.”

10. It’s good for you.

“Lack of sleep. It doesn’t make you cool.

Go to bed early and enjoy full 9 hour night.”

11. They can hurt you.

“Avoid taking out large loans.

Any loans if at possible, though thats difficult if you go to college. Buying a brand new car at a young age is a bad idea.

The majority of your small paycheck will be going toward that loan and the insurance.”

12. Let it all out.

“Suppressing emotions.

It’s okay to feel sad, angry, anxious, etc. don’t be made to feel bad for feeling this range of emotions through your teenage years.”

13. Avoid at all costs.

“Adults trying to be to friendly/date you.

You’re not mature for your age, people their age don’t want to be with them or around them for a reason.”

14. Not worth it.

“It’s cliche as hell to say, i know, but drugs. Absolutely avoid drugs. Drinking too.

It is easy for a full grown adult to use a drug and get addicted before they are even aware there’s a problem, so it’s stupidly easy for a teen to get form a runaway addiction that can last years if it doesn’t out and out kill you from an accidental overdose. But even if you eventually were able to break the addiction, the changes it made to your brain chemistry could he permanent.

That’s exactly what happened to my brother. He got hit by a car at the age of twelve and his dumb *ss doctor put him on percocet and that was all she wrote.

From then on it was an ever sinking sh*t fest of one OD after another with more and more delusional behavior and psychological damage to the point now that at 28 he literally has the mind of a 14 year old cause the drugs never let him grow up properly.”

How about you?

What do you think is some good advice that all teenagers need to listen to?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments!

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What Should You Do in Your 20s to Avoid Regrets Later in Life? Here’s What People Said.

Life should be about constantly evolving, constantly learning, and constantly trying to improve yourself.

You go through a lot of peaks and valleys during this interesting ride, and sometimes you just have to experience things firsthand for them to really sink in and force you to make changes.

BUT…I have to admit that if I could do it over again, I would’ve done some things differently in my twenties so my thirties would have been a little bit easier.

But we all live and we learn…

Check out these words of wisdom for twenty-somethings from AskReddit users.

1. Important.

“Learn how to budget. Even if it’s just a simple excel or google sheets file with one column of income, and one of expenses.

When you see everything you buy in a month next to each other, you realize where you can save money pretty well.”

2. Do it yourself.

“Learn how to be independently happy.

I wish someone could have screamed this in my face with a megaphone whenever I was about to do something codependently stupid in my 20s and early 30s.”

3. Good advice.

“Don’t smoke.

Don’t drink every day

Exercise

Eat healthy.

Save your $ and invest.

Don’t marry crazy regardless of how good the s*x is.”

4. Go for it.

“Take chances.

Someone you fancy? Ask them out.

Want to try a new education path or hobby? Do it.

Have trouble with anxiety/self worth/past crappy experiences? Get a good therapist and work on it.

Your 20s are the time you get to figure out who you are.”

5. Very true.

“Protect your hearing!

Wear ear plugs at concerts and don’t always crank up the music in your car.”

6. Goals are good.

“Make sure that if you have a relationship with someone you actually nail down the long term goals and agree on them.

Like kids. How exactly will that work? Marriage? Find your deal breakers and take them seriously.

From 20-30 the time really flies and you don’t want to miss it.”

7. Be active.

“Exercise.

Even lightly once a week. Just do something. Stretch too, yoga is great.

Some won’t try it because of the stigma, but just do it at home with YouTube videos if you want to.”

8. Do it!

“Learn how to cook and eat healthy.

You’ll save money and your body will appreciate it.”

9. YOU DO YOU.

“Live your life the way you want to, not the way your parents tell you is “best”, and not the way society “expects” you to. Unless that actually lines up with what you want.

I spent way too much time doing what I thought were the “right” things or the “best” things and I was actually miserable.”

10. Something to think about. 

“Don’t get married until you are able to be fully self sufficient. If you get married thinking the other half will “complete you,” you are dead wrong. Make sure you know who you are.

When in school get jobs in different fields that interest you. This will help you figure out what you really want to do.

Realize you aren’t stuck anywhere. You can change, you have time.

Have fun! You’ll have plenty of time to be miserable.”

11. Discipline.

“Create discipline.

Find what your goals in life are and set steps to achieve them. Create a minimal workout regimen that you must do (walk, push ups, swim, pullup bar by bathroom, whatever).

Create a diet you want to adhere to. 21 meals a week? You can only do fast food/unhealthy restaurant 4 times or so many desserts a week or so many unhealthy snacks a day.

Read! Read whatever interests you, and always try to find unbiased (yeah right) articles or at least read the side you disagree with too. Open your mind to feel empathy and know others live in this world.

Learn a little more than basic math. Learn an instrument or a couple songs on bass/guitar/drums. Get into at least 1 sport. Last, but not least, learn another language, more if you can.”

12. It’s harder to make friends as you get older.

“Seek out and/or retain social friendships.

College is over, and you probably won’t see a lot of those people very much anymore.

Don’t be afraid to look around for meetup groups or events in your area to meet new people.”

13. Let them know.

“If you don’t want to get married to the person you’re with, tell them.

It’s far better to have some hurt feelings now than to have severe regrets and a lot of legal fees later. Just listen to your gut.”

14. A black hole.

“Don’t get into credit card debt!

if you must get into credit card debt (life can be cruel sometimes), then know the best ways to pay it off over time and set a schedule for yourself. Then stick to it.

The minimum payments will kill you in the long run, but sometimes it’s the best you can do, and that’s okay. Credit card “debt” can save people from being homeless, take care of a medical emergency, help get more time with their kids, etc.

Sometimes it’s okay to but one thing that will help your mental health, too. Just know your limits and stop at one. Then make a plan to pay it off the way that works best for you and do it.”

15. It’s okay to change your mind.

“Always know that change is an option. Many people, myself included, start down a path and think that since I committed to that path, it’s the only path for me.

Don’t get caught in that thought process.

If a choice (career, location, relationship, etc) doesn’t feel right down the road, know you can make a new one. It may be uncomfortable at first, but you can make it through (and likely for the better).”

Now we want to hear from you.

In the comments, tell us what advice you think all folks in their twenties should hear.

Please and thank you!

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People Discuss Good Habits That You Should Get Into in Your Twenties

Words of wisdom sure are great…

The only hard part is getting younger folks to actually listen to you when you try to give them advice about how their life might be a little easier once they get a little bit older.

But, you have to admit, you probably weren’t listening to many folks who were older than you when you were in your twenties because you already knew everything, right? Sure…we all did…and I’d like to go back and confront my 25-year-old self and smack him about a few things, if we’re being honest.

What should people do in their twenties do to avoid regrets later on?

Here’s what AskReddit users had to say about that.

1. A good tip.

“No unprotected *x.

One side of my family learned this the hard way. The kids are just terrible as well. Just for your own sake, absolutely no unprotected s*x.

Unless you just so happen to have roughly 40,000 dollars just floating around and genuinely think you’re ready.”

2. Go see the world.

“Travel, live abroad.

I was traveling around taking odd jobs between 23-28 and had a blast and had great memories with ppl from all over.

If I die tomorrow I can rest assure I had a hell of a ride back in the days.”

3. Get outside.

“Find and maintain hobbies that makes you active outdoors!

Nothing soothes the soul like being in nature!”

4. Do it while you’re young.

“If you yearn for adventure, go now.

You are young, your body is strong, and your obligations are few. Go now.

It’s so much easier to drop everything in your life for a 6-month hiking trip and then slide back into regular life when you’re 25 than when you’re 35.”

5. Interesting.

“If a job pays good money but it doesn’t fulfill you, STAY THERE!!!

I’m 50 and I’ve left good paying jobs because I wanted something better or more “fulfilling”, only to find it was never there. So I’ve jumped from job to job pursuing that “kick *ss” job. Instead I should have invested more time and effort into the decent jobs I had and built up a better portfolio.

All jobs will suck or parts of those jobs will suck. If you can pay your bills and take care of your family then it’s worth putting up with some BS.”

6. Keep working on it.

“Find a skill-based activity that you can work on and improve at over time.

Piano, calligraphy, jiu-jitsu, golf, whatever.

It’s good for humans to have something they are constantly working on improving.”

7. A good idea.

“Take care of your mental health, see a psychiatrist and a therapist if you need to.

Don’t be afraid of the stigma.”

8. You’re gonna need ’em!

“Take good care of your teeth.

Two adages to remember:

“Brush your teeth in the morning to keep your friends. Brush your teeth at night to keep your teeth.”

And

“If you ignore your teeth, they’ll go away.””

9. Avoid the big ones.

“You will make mistakes. Don’t let that hold you back.

Just try to avoid the big ones (I.e. things that will land you in jail, marrying for the wrong reasons, having kids with a dumb*ss).”

10. Put yourself out there.

“Date, date, DATE!

I have some friends who are in their late 20’s and its a struggle to have them try to meet people. Not saying its pivotal to date, but its good to know how work with other people who’ve been in relationships.

And recovering from a breakup seems like a good life experience prior to 30.”

11. Words of wisdom.

“Learn what kinds of problems you like to solve and build a career around that. Don’t build a career around tasks. There’s always going to be things you don’t like to do. If you’re solving a big problem the crappy tasks are easier to endure.

Learn good work ethic and develop good habits: be clean, show up on time, be rested, etc.”

12. Own it.

“Don’t blame things that are out of your control before you’ve taken care of things that are under your control.

As an example, if you are obese but also don’t eat right, don’t exercise, don’t get good sleep, smoke, and drink too much alcohol, then don’t blame genetics for your obesity.

After you’ve taken care of those other things, if you are still obese, then you can talk about your genetics.”

13. Do it your way.

“Don’t live your life by the subtle pressures and expectations of family and society.

I lived my life way too long doing what other people told me was right. Women don’t get an education unless it’s to meet a husband, have your babies before your 30, build your life around your family, always do what your elders tell you to.

Now I’m a closeted 36 year old divorced single mother who’s husband left her for someone younger and more pliable, with no education, no friends and a family who looks down on me because I am CLEARLY built wrong.

Live your life on YOUR terms. Take into account the advice of those who have more experience, but ultimately it’s your life and your choice.”

14. I like all of this!

“Life is short.

When you’re 20, it feels like 40 is really far off (after all, that’s twice as long as you’ve lived). It’s not. It’s right around the corner and even then, you’re only half way thru your life.

Take care of your body. You’re tough now, but all that abuse will catch up with you.

Drama is a success killer. If anyone (ANYONE!!) has a habit of starting drama, drop them from your life now. No one is so important that they are worth being dragged down into that pit.

Live off of less than 80% of your take-home pay if possible. Take 10% of that, drop it into savings and another 10% and put it in investments.

Have a plan. Doesn’t matter what the plan is and it doesn’t matter if it changes, but make a plan. Don’t just go through life day-to-day aimlessly doing what feels good in the moment. Decide what you want and go get it.

You will stumble (some people will call it failure) but as long as you keep moving forward, you’re in better shape than most.

Eat twice as many vegetables as you are now. I know you think you’re eating enough, but you’re not. And drink some water, for hydro’s sake!”

How about you?

What advice would give to people going through those difficult years?

Tell us what you think in the comments. Thanks!

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People Share Three Words of Advice They’d Give to Their 18-Year-Old Selves

To be young again…

When a lot of us are 18-years-old, we think we know everything and we believe we know how the future is going to work out for us.

Of course, the older you get, the more you realize you didn’t really have much of a clue at all. So what would you say to your 18-year-old self if you could go back in time and give three words of advice?

This is the tweet that got the ball rolling.

Let’s see how people responded!

1. Oh, Jason…

Young love…jeez…

2. You can do it!

This is coming from Bill James, a great writer!

3. It’s a good thing.

And everyone can use it at one point or another.

4. That would have been nice.

If you could just do it over again…

5. It’ll all work out the way it’s supposed to.

So don’t sweat the small stuff.

6. Put the bottle down.

It’ll catch up with you at some point.

7. Don’t EVER give up.

Always keep moving forward.

8. It’s not for everyone.

But it is a good idea for other people…

9. Get out of that house!

Sometimes, you just gotta go.

10. Just say NO.

It’s usually a pretty bad idea for most folks.

11. If it’s a bad situation, get out of it.

And don’t look back.

12. Don’t get involved in online drama.

It’s not worth it.

13. You have certain gifts for a reason.

Use them wisely!

Now we want to hear from you.

If you could go back in time and give your 18-year-old self only three words of advice, what would they be?

Tell us what you think in the comments. Thanks!

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What Three Words of Advice Would You Give to Your 18-Year-Old Self? Here’s How People Responded.

Do you remember what you were like when you were 18?

I was pretty sure things would flow very smoothly and I’d be well on my way to…well, I don’t know what exactly, but I was sure I’d be on the fast track to something.

But, as you know, life has a funny way of working out and, for me, it’s taken many turns and detours that I couldn’t have seen coming.

It’s all good, but I still wish I could go back in time and give my 18-year-old self some advice to make things a little bit easier, which I’m sure a lot of you do, too.

This tweet was thrown out to folks and it got them thinking…

So let’s see how they responded!

1. It doesn’t always work out.

Sad, but true.

2. This is great advice.

We could all use a little bit more cash in the bank.

3. You got this!

And don’t let anyone tell you any differently.

4. Get out of bad relationships as soon as possible.

They’ll just get worse.

5. Make the move.

It’ll be good for you.

6. Definitely not for everyone.

If you know it’s true for you, just don’t do it.

7. It ruins many lives.

And it costs a fortune.

8. Things will look up.

So keep moving forward.

9. Get that degree!

And get out into the world!

10. This is very important.

Help each other out.

11. Always trust your gut.

Believe in yourself.

12. You don’t always have to be in a huge hurry.

Good things come to those who wait.

How about you?

What would you tell your 18-year-old self if you could go back in time?

Share your thoughts with us in the comments. Thanks!

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Take a Look at this Interesting Life Advice From Women

The more experience we have in life, the more we learn.

The more we learn, the more we wish we’d known back when we hadn’t lived very long yet. It’s inevitable, it’s a part of life. You only get good at a game by playing it, and if you’re kind, you’ll help some newbies find their way as well. There was plenty of such life advice flowing from one particular Twitter thread kicked off by user @GayatriiM, who wrote:

There are endless replies, and a lot of common themes. Here are some of our favorites.

15. “Treat the other as just a human”

We cannot expect perfection.

14. “Boundaries are super important”

You can’t be all things to all people.

13. “What angers you controls you”

Don’t hand over the reigns.

12. “Keep learning all the time”

You’re never going to know it all.

11. “Give importance to self happiness”

You’re only one person.

10. “Indulge yourself”

You’ve only got this one life to live.

9. “Choose your battles wisely”

Otherwise you might get drained.

8. “If you are kind to yourself…”

A glass can only spill what it contains.

7. “If you are happy…”

Remember what you can and can’t control.

6. “Relations change”

Nothing is set in stone, that doesn’t mean these things aren’t meaningful.

5. “Build your tribe”

You can be civil without being close.

4. “Say no sometimes”

If you do everything, that will be expected forever.

3. “Live in NOW”

The past is the past.

2. “Be the fulcrum”

We are, at the end of the day, very simple machines.

1. “Pain is overrated”

You’re not here to suffer for someone else.

I know these were written specifically for people in demographics I don’t fit, but still, SO much feels universal. Be good to each other, but also be good to yourself.

What piece of advice would you like to pass along?

Tell us in the comments.

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People Discuss the Life Advice That Has Made a Difference

A lot of advice is a dime a dozen and not that helpful, but every once in a while in life you’re smacked upside the head with GREAT advice that you hang on to forever.

Maybe it came from a parent, a sibling, a boss, a teacher, or even a complete stranger.

When you hear it and it sticks with you, you know it’s valuable.

Check out the best advice that AskReddit users say they’ve received.

1. Can you live without them?

“My grandpa told me this after I had moved into with my girlfriend and said living together was coming so easily:

It’s not the person who is easy to live with, it’s the person you can’t live without.

We’re married now.”

2. This is good.

“My dad told me a story about a time he bought some firewood. He paid for a cord of wood, but the guy only dropped off half a cord.

When he went to the guy’s house to confront him about it, the guy pulled a gun on him, so my dad left.

“The lesson,” he taught me, “is that when you are dealing with crazy people, always leave them feeling like THEY owe YOU. That way, they will go out of their way to avoid you.”

I have used this advice several times in my life.”

3. Seems pretty true.

“Nobody has any idea what’s going on.

A lot less people actually have their sh*t together than you might think, but in reality everyone is just really good at faking it. Usually, they may have a true grasp of one or two things at best.

That advice made me a lot less anxious about doing things like trying new hobbies, giving presentations, or applying for jobs I know nothing about, because I know very few people are actually qualified to judge my performance.”

4. I like this one.

“My step-dad once told me:

If there is a problem and you know the solution, you can solve it, so stop worrying about it. If there is a problem you can’t solve, then there is nothing you can do, so stop worrying about it.”

5. Just enjoy it.

“The meaning to life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple.

Yet everybody rushes around in a great panic as if It were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves”

6. They’ll notice.

“When you find a place you like to work in, make yourself indispensable.

I’m a waitress and for the last 3& 1/2 years I’ve worked in a place I love to be in. There is no job there I turn down. I clean the toilets, I can run the potwash, I’ll do the hoovering.

If cuts ever have to be made, my name will not be on the list.”

7. Just go for it!

“There comes a time when one must risk something, or sit forever with one’s dreams”

8. You gotta go get it.

“I’m a 45 yo woman.

As a teen my dad told me to go after what I wanted… College, jobs, clubs, a guy I was interested in, any goal.

He said if we all just sat around and only took the opportunities that fell into our laps we would all be miserable, so don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. Rejection can be survived, but there are some regrets from which you’ll never recover.

This has served me well professionally and relationship wise. My amazing husband only asked me out because I made sure he knew I was interested.”

9. Words to live by.

“Hard work beats talent, when talent doesn’t work hard”

-College professor in my life drawing class when I got frustrated about not being as talented as other students in class, I buckled down and got my B and beat the class average by the end of the quarter.”

10. Don’t be an idiot.

“You are an idiot to focus on things you cannot change, instead of working on things that you can change.

That changed my life a lot.”

11. Use it to your advantage.

“The reason a lot of us experience anxiety is because we are idle or unhappy.

The best advice I ever got was from a random stranger. “Anxiety some times isn’t a bad thing it’s our bodies way of telling us to get in gear, and to press forward to give our life meaning and fulfillment” I went back to school quit my old job and it actually worked.

I have been Anxiety free for 2 years.”

12. Thanks, grandma.

“My grandmother was walking with me down the hall when I was in 3rd grade and noticed I was walking with my head down. She said, “always keep your head up high, and your shoulders back”.

I’ve done it ever since, and to this day I get compliments on how well I carry myself, and how much confidence I exude.

Every time someone says that, I’m taken back to that moment in time with my grandmother.”

13. It’s true!

“Every day you’re either getting better or you’re getting worse.

And the choice is yours.”

14. Do it the right way.

“If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing well.

That was my dad’s consistent line when I was growing up. Now I’m a thirty-something father, relatively successful in life, and that line is the consistent theme for me.

If I’m going to put effort into doing something, I will do the best job that I am capable of doing. Everything from home renovations, work projects, cooking a meal, to reading bedtime stories. Giving less than my best effort to the task at hand is doing myself a disservice, and the people I am working for.

That’s not to say everything has to be perfect all the time, sometimes your best effort is just getting the job done. But half *ssed attempts at anything mostly just lead to disappointment, and more work when you have to re-do the thing.”

15. Be positive.

“Go a week without complaining about others and yourself.

Actively stop yourself for a week and see how your outlook changes.”

16. It’s just the way it is.

“The world doesn’t care about you and it’ll leave you behind unless you try to make something of yourself.

The world isn’t cruel, it’s just apathetic.”

Do you remember the best advice you ever received in your life?

If so, please share it with us in the comments.

We look forward to hearing from you!

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People Share the Best Advice They’ve Ever Received in Life

Depending on who your role models were when you were growing into adulthood, you might’ve received great life advice when you were a kid in school, or maybe at your first job, or maybe from your parents.

Heck, maybe you even got great advice much later in life.

It’s different for everyone and it’s good to remember that you can get some nuggets of useful wisdom at any point.

What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?

Here’s what people on AskReddit had to say.

1. Good advice.

“I was in a pretty negative place in college, being quite cynical and sarcastic and really insecure with myself, so much that I was ragging on friends and generally trying to build myself up by putting other people down (you know the type, the friend who thinks he’s busting chops but really is kinda just being a d*ck).

My well-liked, popular roommate/friend noticed this and sent me this little bit, which I always hang onto:

“Immediately stop picking on peoples weaknesses, do what I do, expose their qualities and strengths, it makes them feel good about themselves and you too for noticing. When you make people feel good when you’re around, they are going to remember that feeling whenever you show up, you’ll be well received and missed often. Plus don’t you want your friends to feel good about themselves?”

It made me re-visit the way I’d been treating people around me.”

2. It’s yours to use!

“”Use your vacation hours, and don’t be afraid to call in sick every now and then either”.

No need to work like a dog and ignore your benefits to please a boss who doesn’t notice. Vacation/staycation days are gems that everyone should take!”

3. The way you say it.

“It’s not what you say, but how you say it.

Changing the way one phrases things can have an incredible effect.”

4. A good fix.

“My current boss says something as a joke that has helped me a lot more than he realizes.

I am a mechanic but am not always the most confident (even when I know what I’m doing).

He says “only one way to fix it, fix it.” Weirdly enough it always makes me focus and remember there’s no secret trick he knows that I dont, just got to do it.

Applied that to other areas of my life and it helps so much more than I would have thought.”

5. Aim high.

“Marriage shouldn’t be a 50/50 split.

It should be a 60/40 split where both are trying to be the 60%.”

6. He was right.

“During my first internship, I was super keen to please my supervisors and was an eager little brown-noser. Anything they would ask me, I would respond with an enthusiastic yes and rush to do that, even with mindless things like, typing out someone’s meeting notes, going out to buy office stationery, and even served coffee to some guests a couple of times, no matter how much I hated doing it.

Two months into the internship, the boss called me for a catch-up and bluntly described me as ‘servile’ to my face, and said that with my attitude, I would never grow professionally.

He said, “it doesn’t matter if you’re an intern or a manager, if you do not get over your habit of wanting to please everyone, you’ll never learn or achieve anything of value.” Though I was shaken then and even hated him a little bit, I eventually came to realize the truth in his words.”

7. Don’t worry about it.

“Don’t worry about whether or not you “belong” somewhere, or if you’ll fit in.

Do your part, respect and support others.

If you do that and people don’t accept you it’s their problem not yours.”

8. Be kind to yourself.

“When you’re being too harsh on yourself, imagine if the person with those issues is one of your friends.

Treat yourself like you’d treat that friend.

That helped me be way kinder to myself than before.”

9. You do you.

“Do your future self a favor.

This relates to prepping for the next day (clothes ironed, lunch packed) to saving money to making healthy choices.

It makes for easier decisions and a better life.”

10. Own it.

“”Pick a failure.”

Sometimes the only options available involve some sort of failure. That’s ok. Just pick one, own it, and move on. There’s almost never an instant, magic solution without long term consequences.

That rare time there is, learn to really embrace it.”

11. Words to live by.

“Don’t be an idiot.

It changed my life. Whenever Im about to do something, I think, Would an idiot do that?

And if they would, I do not do that thing.”

12. Be wise with your money.

“Save your money and always live within your means.

As someone not working now, having some stashed away has kept our family afloat.”

13. People REALLY aren’t paying attention.

“Nobody’s looking at you.

They’re worrying about how they look.”

14. It’s okay to say NO.

“Learn to say no.

This is especially helpful for codependents. Any kindness you pass onto others will be far more genuine if you’ve taken care of your own needs first.”

15. Sounds like a smart guy.

“I went to work in construction right out of high school.

Before my first day my grandfather told me, to be successful, keep your ears open, your mouth shut, and constantly outwork the person next to you.

I lived that advice and it has served me very well.”

How about you?

What do you think is the best life advice you’ve ever received?

Talk to us in the comments!

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People Share Advice They Thought Was Useless Until They Tried It

A lot of people think that they know everything and so they can’t be bothered to actually take any advice. About anything. Ever.

I used to have a boss who would never listen to any of us employees even when we KNEW the things we suggested would save us time (this was in the food service industry). It was enough to drive all of us crazy.

He eventually came around and took our suggestions and guess what? They worked!

Let’s see what folks on AskReddit had to say about advice that sounded useless until they actually tried it.

1. Clean it up!

“Life is really much easier if you clean your workplace/room.

I clean my room often and it makes me feel calm and clears my head.”

2. Get on a schedule.

“Stick to the same sleep schedule on your days off that you follow on days when you have to be somewhere at a specific time (like school or work days).

I spent my whole life sleeping until noon on weekends, thinking I was storing sleep in some imaginary sleep bank. I recently started waking up early on weekends, and now I don’t have trouble waking up when my alarm goes off during the week.

Plus I have all this extra time to do stuff because I’m not sleeping all day.”

3. Drink up!

“You’re not hungry you’re thirsty!

I would eat a big meal and wonder why I still felt hungry.. It is because I wasn’t drinking a glass of water with my meal.

Now if I notice I am hungry after eating normal portions I have a glass of water and wait 5 minutes before I continue eating.”

4. It’s good for you!

“Practice gratitude.

Grateful people are happy people.

This includes just saying ‘thank you’ any time someone does something. Everyone likes to be acknowledged for something, even if it’s something small, and just making other people a little happier makes you happier.”

5. A lifestyle change.

“I suffered severe insomnia for years.

Someone told me I should get up an hour earlier, go for a 30 minute run in the morning, then do yoga for 15 minutes before showering and getting ready for work. Seemed ridiculous, but I decided to try it for a month.

Haven’t suffered insomnia since. Have way more energy, sleep better, feel better. It’s amazing.”

6. Ask yourself this question…

“Before I do anything I ask myself, “Would an idiot do that?”

And if the answer is yes, I do not do that thing.”

7. Good tip from Mom.

“My mom told me to spend good money on the things that separate you from the ground: tires, shoes, mattress.

I finally bought good not cheap shoes and life was SIGNIFICANTLY better. They last so much longer and my back and posture improved too. She’s not wrong about tires and a mattress either.”

8. EVERYONE should go.

“Going to therapy.

I’m a guy. I’m emotionally stable, so I thought it was a pointless idea. Went with my ex-gf, in order to work out problems in our relationship (mostly on her end).

I learned so much about myself and got some amazing life advice. 10/10”

9. They can sense it somehow…

“Stop chasing girls.

Most times now they notice me as an individual, not as someone begging for a girlfriend.

They can smell the desperation coming off you. When I gave up and worked on personal projects, I found a lot more success with women.

That said, you still have to be in an environment that leads to talking with people. Giving up doesn’t mean to sit in your apartment and mope, it means to not have getting a girl as the goal for the day while you’re out and about.”

10. All the good stuff.

“When you are sad eat healthy, do a lot of sports, and try to take in fresh air under the sun.

It works incredibly well.

It probably is something purely chemical, so it is definetly worth a try.”

11. Just get started!

“If you want to write a novel, just start writing.

Don’t plan, just get words on paper.

“You can’t edit a blank page.” Is the best writing advice I’ve ever gotten.”

12. So addictive.

“Drink less caffeine.

I didnt realize how much it affects my mental disorders (anxiety, depression, ADD) until I started drinking less, and realized I function way better when I don’t have a soda or two every other day.”

13. It really does work.

“Changing something about your appearance to gain confidence/self-esteem (getting a haircut, going to the gym).

I thought it was a cop-out piece of advice and then I got a haircut and I felt so comfortable in my skin and at peace that I remember the exact moment it happened.”

14. Baby steps.

“Trying to lose weight?

When going somewhere in your car, try and park as far from your destination as you can, when you can.

I read this tip somewhere else when I was at my heaviest and really trying to lose.

Every morning instead of taking the first spot available at work, I’d take the farthest one back. I had to trek a bit to just get to the door, then through the office and upstairs to my cube.

It felt good whenever I did it, and it put me in this mode where I wanted to do other healthier things throughout the day.

I went from 385+ to 220 in about a year and a half after I started adapting those baby steps (among many other baby steps, of course!).”

15. Don’t put it off.

“If it takes less than 5 minutes, do it immediately

I do so much less housework on weekends because of this.”

16. This is important.

“Show up.

You don’t have to be the best worker or friend. Just being the one that shows up it will mean a lot to everyone.

I got this advice from a Redditor on a post similar to this. It has help me a lot. I never participated in shit because I felt like wasn’t wanted or needed. Turns out a lot of people are self absorbed or flaky and the simple act of just being the one who shows up is monumental.

Show up to the moving party Show up to your kids events Show up to your company picnic Show up to the HOA meeting Show up to your awkward friends open mic night.

When you show up for other people they will start showing up for you.”

17. Do it every day!

“I saw a video of a Navy Commander talk about why making your bed as soon as you get out of it is so important.

The first thing you do when you wake up is stand up and get out of bed. If you make the bed, you have accomplished a task. You have succeeded. The first thing you did today was succeed at a task.

Take that with you and use that success to fuel everything else you have to do for the rest of the day.

Repeat tomorrow.”

How about you?

Have you ever taken some advice after fighting it for a while and it turned out to be great?

If so, please tell us about it in the comments!

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