Women Share What They Wish They Knew Before Getting Pregnant

If I’ve learned one thing from people I know who have been pregnant, it’s that every single pregnancy is different and each woman is affected in their own unique way by it.

And by that, I mean physically AND emotionally.

And we hope that women who haven’t been pregnant before can learn about what might be in store when they decide to have a child.

The ladies of AskReddit shared some insight into what they wish they would have known before they became pregnant. Let’s see what they had to say.

1. Painful.

“Your body produces a hormone called relaxin that helps loosen your pelvis in preparation for birth.

Some women get waayyy too much too soon and it loosens everything to the point you lose mobility and every day all day is painful.”

2. Having some issues.

“I wish someone would have warned me about the constipation.

Corollary: I wish someone would have warned me that “fiber supplement” does not equal “stool softener.”

Today, we’re at 26 weeks gestation.”

3. No joke.

“The stuff that stays with your body afterwards.

I developed allergies after I had my second.

My feet definitely got bigger.

Hormones are no joke.”

4. No magic involved.

“I wish someone had told me that no, your body does not magically go back to normal once the baby is out.

You have weeks of healing, either your ripped vag*na or cut open stomach, your bo*bs are still on baby mode and have a whole new set of problems now, pooping will be terrifying lol depression risks are higher, just a lot of stuff continues on after the baby.

I don’t know WHY people insist on visiting right after delivery. I am tired, I am busy with this baby, I am tore up from the floor up, please come in a month when I can at least have some sort of a routine.”

5. Cramps.

“I wish someone had warned me about muscle cramps.

I had to learn a new way to pop my ankles because every night I would pop them and get massive charlie horses in my legs that my fiance had to massage out.”

6. Wow.

“Hair loss! After I had my kid I lost a ton of hair.

I would pull fists full of hair during my showers. I thought there was something wrong with me because no one told me about this.

Went to Google, totally normal and it happens to everyone. It grows back eventually and you’ll go through an awkward baby hair phase.”

7. A lot of sickness.

“That morning sickness isn’t in the morning

And that I would be puking the whole time not just in the beginning.”

8. Had no idea.

“During labor the “water breaking” is not one rush of liquid.

It’s continuous and can occur for several hours. It’s horrendous and messy and incredibly awful to deal with.

It feels like peeing but you have zero control over anything and if you tense up then everything is much more painful and weird feeling.

Nobody ever told me that and I was VERY surprised to find out for myself.”

9. Sad.

“Miscarriage is ridiculously common.

I say this as someone currently carrying a dead baby waiting for the NHS to give me a surgical removal.”

10. Skin problems.

“How I’d get loads of random skin changes.

Skin tags, so many skin tags!

Moles growing into skin tags then dropping off, like WTF body

Sandpaper dry skin, which I still get from time to time, just this one patch on the back of my right hand

My facial skin changing from t-zone oily to t-zone flaky and never going back

My psoriasis on my scalp going away, this did come back but not as bad.”

11. That’s too bad.

“Nosebleeds.

When I was pregnant, I got nosebleeds every few days during the first and second trimesters.”

12. Cravings.

“That cravings aren’t just food.

I craved dirt, particularly beach sand. The smell of the beach was excruciating, I just wanted to shovel handfuls into my mouth.

I never ate dirt or sand and the craving went away when baby was born.

A friend of a friend told me she craved freshly poured asphalt so in a way I’m glad my craving was just dirt.”

13. Wow.

“From my mom: I paralyzed her from the waist down for a few hours because I decided to take a nap on her spinal cord in the third trimester.

The doctor’s response was “yeah you’ll be able to move again once they wake up.”

Pregnancy is pure body horror.”

Are there certain things you wish you’d known about before YOU got pregnant?

If so, please share your thoughts with us in the comments.

We look forward to hearing from you. Thanks!

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Celebrity Moms Who Aren’t Shy About Their Postpartum Bodies

For too long, celebrities who had children have pretended for the cameras that getting back into shape was quick and easy. That gestating, birthing, and feeding a baby somehow didn’t change their bodies in the same, permanent ways as the rest of us.

Now, though, with social media, and more and more women willing to celebrate the changes the years and experiences mark on our bodies, celeb moms are seizing the opportunity to just let their postpartum body heal while they appreciate it for what its given them.

11. That dark line down the belly does go away.

You and Cardi B might find you miss it one day.

10. When the VMAs take a backseat to just getting through the days.

Katy Perry looking very real and I love it!

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9. Amy Schumer says mom comfort is key.

And honestly those underwear aren’t that bad.

8. Just in case you thought you could put those maternity clothes away.

Tia Mowry keeping it real about the post-baby bump.

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7 weeks #postpartum. Some #pregnant women after giving birth no longer have a belly after 7 weeks. While others it may take a little longer. Me, I’m the latter. I remember after giving birth to Cree, my belly didn’t all of a sudden go flat. I did have a C-Section, (as well as with my second pregnancy) and I thought something was wrong with me. I had seen in magazines the many women on the beach a few weeks #postpartum in a two piece. To be honest, it had to take time for me to embrace my new body. With this second pregnancy, I now have embraced that fact that I’ve housed a human being. A miracle. A life. If it takes a while for me to get back to my normal self, than so be it. This.Is.Me. And I love me. ❤ #momlife #motherhood #7weeks

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7. Your body can do wonderful things!

You get a reminder of that every day.

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It’s been 9 months since I’ve had Aydin. It’s also been 9 months since anyone, including my husband has seen my stomach after giving birth but here I am posting it for the world to see. Some might scroll by and think “ugh that’s so disgusting why would she post that” and that’s okay. But a lot of you will see it and feel a sense of relief. I constantly see perfect women on my timeline and some days it really makes me feel down. “Why did she not get any stretch marks after having her baby?” “How does she look so perfect and I look like this?” These are some of the thoughts that go through my mind. I would post photos that hid my flaws & made me look amazing, thinking it would make me feel better. I would get comments saying things like “It’s not fair you look so good after having a baby” etc… and it would actually make me feel terrible because I felt like I was making others feel bad about themselves when I myself felt the same way they did! I want to show you the imperfect side of Instagram so you know you’re not alone. It’s time to stop comparing. The day I found out I was pregnant I started using oils and creams religiously thinking it was going to save me from any marks on my belly. I checked every day to see if any had shown up. It was around 8 months pregnant I started to see some marks and by the end of my pregnancy I had TONS of marks & discoloration. I went from 98 pounds to a total of 150 pounds. I cried a lot but I cried even more once I looked at myself in the mirror after I gave birth. I don’t think I looked in the mirror again for weeks. So now 9 months later I’ve decided it’s enough of feeling bad about how I look. God gave me a beautiful child so why has it made me feel as bad as it does? It’s so unimportant. My child is happy healthy and I couldn’t ask for more. But social media has brainwashed so many of us into thinking our outside appearance is more important than it actually is. Ive decided to share this even though it makes me 100% vulnerable to all of you and your judgements. I’m here to show you that we aren’t perfect. We all have flaws, and here is one of mine. I want you to feel better about yours and not be ashamed. Whether it’s t

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6. Stretch marks are a thing so many women deal with.

Even Ashley Graham. No shame.

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same me. few new stories.

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5. Our bodies are ours.

That makes them great.

4. Nothing wrong with that!

Chrissy Teigen is a queen.

3. Even professional dancers out there preaching the truth.

It took time to grow that baby, it will take time to shrink your belly.

2. How cute is Catherine Giudici (of Bachelor fame)?

Before, after, in between!

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She escaped! #1weekpost

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1. It’s all about how you feel.

Stay off the scale.

 

If you can get your mind to this place, ladies, I promise those harried, crazy, too-fast first months will be just a little less stressful.

Share with me your favorite postpartum moment – I know it’s there among all of the rest!

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This Could Be the Most Hilariously Horrific Maternity Shoot Ever

When a person tells you they’re taking maternity pictures, what comes to mind is soft lighting, big, swollen bellies, blissful expressions, and a happy mother and/or couple, right?

Most of us don’t think about capturing the moments leading up to the birth of a new human being and figure it’s a great opportunity to really freak some people out.

Thank goodness we’re not all the same, though, because if we were, we wouldn’t have these amazing images.

Things started out normal enough, with some pretty photos of the two of them in a pumpkin patch.

Soon, though, things start to go, um, south.

The couple love Halloween and anything that involves costumes, so this idea was just a natural for them.

(By the way, we’re not going to show you the gory pics. If you want to see those, go here. But we will show you the aftermath.)

Husband Todd Cameron talked with Bored Panda about how the whole thing came to be.

“I had recently found an Alien Chestburster model at a garage sale and after putting it together and painting it, the photoshoot idea came to me.

I had an idea for the general story and props needed, including carving the alien pod pumpkin and Nicole took care of finding out ‘out there’ wardrobe.”

Yeah… they went there…

The photographer, Li Carter, is local to the couple in Nanaimo, British Columbia, and they couldn’t be more pleased with her work.

The family friend had helped them with a number of funny shoots previously, from “The Big Lebowski 40th Birthday” to “Sasquatch Day,” so this couldn’t have come as too much of a surprise.

Todd Cameron added…

“The creepy photos took about an hour to shoot and, though chilly and muddy on the pumpkin patch, it was so much fun.

We just kept laughing at the absurdity of it and hoping the employees of the farm wouldn’t drive by to see us covered in blood.”

And look… a happy family! Haha… jeezus.

Thanks for the laughs, Camerons.

Good luck with that particular bundle of joy.

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Funny Quarantine Pregnancy Announcements

You might have heard before that a whole lot of babies are born about nine months after certain events: hurricanes, blizzards, and things like that.

Why, you ask?

Because people are trapped inside their houses and they’re GETTING IT ON, that’s why!

So you know that there might be a huge baby boom starting in early 2021 because of the quarantine that is keeping everyone cooped up at home. I mean, what else is there to do besides, well…you know…

Here are some funny quarantine pregnancy announcements that we think you’ll love.

1. Not enough protection.

And look what happened!

2. Meet the new parents!

Uh oh…here we go…

3. What’s it gonna be?

I guess we’ll have to wait and see…

4. A baby boy coming soon.

You’ve been busy, I see.

5. Tested positive for something else.

Even the masks didn’t help.

6. They weren’t bored at all!

In fact, they were pretty busy!

7. That belly’s not from too much food.

We all know what’s going on…

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He has made everything beautiful in its time. Ecc. 3:11 ❤✨ I have dreamt, & prayed for this very moment since God restored my view on marriage & family. Enrique & I are so excited to love, & raise this baby up to know the God that has been so good to us. There is truly no greater feeling in the world than to witness how God used our love to create our little human. I love this little baby growing inside of my womb with my WHOLE life. & we cannot wait to meet our little one & end this crazy year with a BANG! Going into my second trimester feeling blessed, & excited. Mommy & Daddy can’t wait to smother you with love baby. You are loved already so much by so many! ????? & Happy Fathers Day to the man that has taken such great care of me these past 3 months. I cannot express how grateful I am to you for being so amazing and taking care of me & baby H so well. There is no doubt about it that you will be the best daddy to our baby & I cannot wait to tell our baby how amazing you were to us both when they were in my tummy. I’m so excited for this season with you my love! ✨ #lilbean

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8. How do you think the cat feels?

Did you run it by her first?

9. Not all the time, apparently…

Bun in the oven!

10. Big brother to be.

He looks pretty happy about it.

11. Time to stock up on toilet paper!

And on diapers!

12. Well played, quarantine…

You got the best of us this time.

13. Couldn’t stay away from each other.

Coming soon to a home near you.

14. An imported product.

I see what you did there!

Now we want to hear from you!

How have you been spending your quarantine? With family? Solo?

Talk to us in the comments and give us an update.

Please and thank you!

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Funny Quarantine Pregnancy Announcements

You might have heard before that a whole lot of babies are born about nine months after certain events: hurricanes, blizzards, and things like that.

Why, you ask?

Because people are trapped inside their houses and they’re GETTING IT ON, that’s why!

So you know that there might be a huge baby boom starting in early 2021 because of the quarantine that is keeping everyone cooped up at home. I mean, what else is there to do besides, well…you know…

Here are some funny quarantine pregnancy announcements that we think you’ll love.

1. Not enough protection.

And look what happened!

2. Meet the new parents!

Uh oh…here we go…

3. What’s it gonna be?

I guess we’ll have to wait and see…

4. A baby boy coming soon.

You’ve been busy, I see.

5. Tested positive for something else.

Even the masks didn’t help.

6. They weren’t bored at all!

In fact, they were pretty busy!

7. That belly’s not from too much food.

We all know what’s going on…

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He has made everything beautiful in its time. Ecc. 3:11 ❤✨ I have dreamt, & prayed for this very moment since God restored my view on marriage & family. Enrique & I are so excited to love, & raise this baby up to know the God that has been so good to us. There is truly no greater feeling in the world than to witness how God used our love to create our little human. I love this little baby growing inside of my womb with my WHOLE life. & we cannot wait to meet our little one & end this crazy year with a BANG! Going into my second trimester feeling blessed, & excited. Mommy & Daddy can’t wait to smother you with love baby. You are loved already so much by so many! ????? & Happy Fathers Day to the man that has taken such great care of me these past 3 months. I cannot express how grateful I am to you for being so amazing and taking care of me & baby H so well. There is no doubt about it that you will be the best daddy to our baby & I cannot wait to tell our baby how amazing you were to us both when they were in my tummy. I’m so excited for this season with you my love! ✨ #lilbean

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8. How do you think the cat feels?

Did you run it by her first?

9. Not all the time, apparently…

Bun in the oven!

10. Big brother to be.

He looks pretty happy about it.

11. Time to stock up on toilet paper!

And on diapers!

12. Well played, quarantine…

You got the best of us this time.

13. Couldn’t stay away from each other.

Coming soon to a home near you.

14. An imported product.

I see what you did there!

Now we want to hear from you!

How have you been spending your quarantine? With family? Solo?

Talk to us in the comments and give us an update.

Please and thank you!

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Funny Quarantine Pregnancy Announcements From People Who DEFINITELY Haven’t Been Social Distancing

What a strange time we’re living in. I never would have imagined in January that this is what 2020 would have turned out to be like.

A worldwide health crisis that shut down the economy and forces people to stay away from each other? Get out of here!

But here we are…

At least there are some positive things coming out of this awful situation. Like new additions on the way! I guess it’s pretty obvious that these folks HAVE NOT been social distancing. Hey o!

Let’s take a look at their funny quarantine pregnancy announcements.

1. The one where we were quarantined…

A little Friends reference for good measure.

2. You didn’t stay 6 feet away!

And look what happened!

3. Good things coming out of the lockdown!

A new addition on the way.

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??❣WE HAVE A TRAVELICIOUS SURPRISE ?❣? #babynews . ?We're so superrrrr happy and exited to announce that at least one good thing came from this corona quarantine/ temporary world trip pause; . ➡ We're EXPECTING our 3rd travelicious BABY? (during our world trip) in January 2021! ⬅ . We feel so blessed ? that this little travelicious adventurer is becoming to be part of our full-time travel family adventure! . We're feeling so lucky that we can give all our time, attention and love ? to this little baby? during our travels around the world?. If everyting goes by plan, the first country to explore in "real life" with this mini travelicious baby will be ?? Australia ?! . Untill that time we keep on travelling?⛴?, exploring and making memories for the rest of our lives as family of 5 ?‍?‍?‍?+? (because our baby brother/ sister in mums belly is already travelling with now ?). So excually, the trip we're making to Iceland?? at the moment, is our first family of 5 adventure! ? How cool is that?! ? #yay . . . . #babynews #babyannouncement #baby #soblessed #sohappy #weareexpecting #newbaby #ontheway #newfamilymember #traveliciousbaby #worldtrip #pregnancyannouncement #pregnanttraveler #preggotravels #announcement #babyannouncement #blessed #coronababy #pandemicbaby #covidbaby #covid19pause #worldtrippause #quarantinebaby #newadventurer #baby3 #zwanger #zwangerschapsaankondiging #zwangeropreis #familyof5 #happytravellers

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4. They look like they’re having a great time.

Mom…not so much…

5. You have all the essentials ready.

Hopefully, by December you won’t need all that stuff.

6. Here’s a plot twist.

It’s the last one, we swear!

7. We weren’t bored at all!

In fact, they were pretty busy.

8. Straight outta quarantine.

Here’s a new one for ya!

9. Social distancing from the womb.

That’s one way to stay safe.

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Life is full of surprises… #BabyLeal #CoronaBaby

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10. Baking more than cookies…

Something’s cooking in the oven!

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I’ve been baking more than cookies lately❤ . . Some may have noticed I kind of have been quiet on here… honestly the first trimester was beyond difficult and I have been nauseous CONSTANTLY (and royal icing was the only thing that made it worse!) ? I am finally feeling myself again! . It has been killing me keeping this a secret from most. Because honestly the journey Keithan and I have been through has been tough. For two years we have tried for baby #2. Between both of us on fertility medicine, doctors telling us it was not possible, and countless negative pregnancy tests, we just did not think it was possible. December 2019, I accepted Raegan would be our only child. She is perfect in every way possible and I didn’t want my lack of conceiving to get in the way of my happiness of what we already had. . . As most of you know, we built a house and moved in January 2020. We spent a few months settling in and working on a lot of home projects and “trying” was far from on our mind. By mid March, Keithan says to me, “hey, when should we start trying again?” As to which I replied, “let’s wait after March, because I don’t want another December baby.” And surprise! I found out I was pregnant a few weeks later… WITH THE SAME DUE DATE AS RAEGAN! . . We are beyond ecstatic and overwhelmed with so much joy and happiness. We feel so blessed ❤

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11. Oh, well, you tried.

And now you’ll be rewarded!

12. All wrapped up in a nice package.

How exciting!

13. More protection was needed!

But we call that a blessing!

How have you been spending your time during the quarantine?

In the comments, give us a life update.

We look forward to hearing from you! And we hope all of you are doing well and staying safe!

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Funny Quarantine Pregnancy Announcements From People Who DEFINITELY Haven’t Been Social Distancing

What a strange time we’re living in. I never would have imagined in January that this is what 2020 would have turned out to be like.

A worldwide health crisis that shut down the economy and forces people to stay away from each other? Get out of here!

But here we are…

At least there are some positive things coming out of this awful situation. Like new additions on the way! I guess it’s pretty obvious that these folks HAVE NOT been social distancing. Hey o!

Let’s take a look at their funny quarantine pregnancy announcements.

1. The one where we were quarantined…

A little Friends reference for good measure.

2. You didn’t stay 6 feet away!

And look what happened!

3. Good things coming out of the lockdown!

A new addition on the way.

View this post on Instagram

??❣WE HAVE A TRAVELICIOUS SURPRISE ?❣? #babynews . ?We're so superrrrr happy and exited to announce that at least one good thing came from this corona quarantine/ temporary world trip pause; . ➡ We're EXPECTING our 3rd travelicious BABY? (during our world trip) in January 2021! ⬅ . We feel so blessed ? that this little travelicious adventurer is becoming to be part of our full-time travel family adventure! . We're feeling so lucky that we can give all our time, attention and love ? to this little baby? during our travels around the world?. If everyting goes by plan, the first country to explore in "real life" with this mini travelicious baby will be ?? Australia ?! . Untill that time we keep on travelling?⛴?, exploring and making memories for the rest of our lives as family of 5 ?‍?‍?‍?+? (because our baby brother/ sister in mums belly is already travelling with now ?). So excually, the trip we're making to Iceland?? at the moment, is our first family of 5 adventure! ? How cool is that?! ? #yay . . . . #babynews #babyannouncement #baby #soblessed #sohappy #weareexpecting #newbaby #ontheway #newfamilymember #traveliciousbaby #worldtrip #pregnancyannouncement #pregnanttraveler #preggotravels #announcement #babyannouncement #blessed #coronababy #pandemicbaby #covidbaby #covid19pause #worldtrippause #quarantinebaby #newadventurer #baby3 #zwanger #zwangerschapsaankondiging #zwangeropreis #familyof5 #happytravellers

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4. They look like they’re having a great time.

Mom…not so much…

5. You have all the essentials ready.

Hopefully, by December you won’t need all that stuff.

6. Here’s a plot twist.

It’s the last one, we swear!

7. We weren’t bored at all!

In fact, they were pretty busy.

8. Straight outta quarantine.

Here’s a new one for ya!

9. Social distancing from the womb.

That’s one way to stay safe.

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Life is full of surprises… #BabyLeal #CoronaBaby

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10. Baking more than cookies…

Something’s cooking in the oven!

View this post on Instagram

I’ve been baking more than cookies lately❤ . . Some may have noticed I kind of have been quiet on here… honestly the first trimester was beyond difficult and I have been nauseous CONSTANTLY (and royal icing was the only thing that made it worse!) ? I am finally feeling myself again! . It has been killing me keeping this a secret from most. Because honestly the journey Keithan and I have been through has been tough. For two years we have tried for baby #2. Between both of us on fertility medicine, doctors telling us it was not possible, and countless negative pregnancy tests, we just did not think it was possible. December 2019, I accepted Raegan would be our only child. She is perfect in every way possible and I didn’t want my lack of conceiving to get in the way of my happiness of what we already had. . . As most of you know, we built a house and moved in January 2020. We spent a few months settling in and working on a lot of home projects and “trying” was far from on our mind. By mid March, Keithan says to me, “hey, when should we start trying again?” As to which I replied, “let’s wait after March, because I don’t want another December baby.” And surprise! I found out I was pregnant a few weeks later… WITH THE SAME DUE DATE AS RAEGAN! . . We are beyond ecstatic and overwhelmed with so much joy and happiness. We feel so blessed ❤

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11. Oh, well, you tried.

And now you’ll be rewarded!

12. All wrapped up in a nice package.

How exciting!

13. More protection was needed!

But we call that a blessing!

How have you been spending your time during the quarantine?

In the comments, give us a life update.

We look forward to hearing from you! And we hope all of you are doing well and staying safe!

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A Father-To-Be Figured out How to Have Date Nights With Wife While She Was Stuck in the Hospital

The arrival of this previously unknown illness has upended society in ways most of us never could have imagined just a few months ago. One of the populations it has affected in major but unforeseen ways are the women who are and were pregnant and/or about to give birth.

Hospitals are no longer places of refuge. It’s rough getting a health professional to come to your home. Partners, if they are allowed into the hospital with you at all, are only allowed for the birth. People are being sent home as soon as possible, and I can’t imagine how scary that might be for a first time mom.

Posted by Bob Conlin on Friday, May 22, 2020

In this case, a woman with complications was ordered to bed, in the hospital, until the birth of her child. Her husband, of course, was not allowed to visit (though he would be allowed to attend the birth).

Posted by Bob Conlin on Friday, May 22, 2020

Shona Moeller and her husband, Bob Conlin, were thrilled to have made it to week 29 in a rough pregnancy, even if it meant she had to be stuck in the hospital, in bed, for the duration. Still, he wondered if there wasn’t a way to lighten her mood, and for the two of them to stay connected, even though they couldn’t actually be together.

Posted by Bob Conlin on Friday, May 22, 2020

So Bob, crushing this husband thing, found a way for the two of them to still have a date night.

He sits 40 feet below her window with food, drinks, signs, and sometimes his mother or hers, just so Shona knows she (and their precious baby) are not alone.

Posted by Shona Moeller on Sunday, April 26, 2020

Things aren’t idea, but with a baby who had less than a 1% chance of survival after Shona’s water broke at just 5 months, the couple feels lucky despite it all.

Posted by Bob Conlin on Friday, May 15, 2020

They work together as relationship coaches, so this has been an opportunity to practice what they preach, and to show the entire world what it looks like to support your partner through thick and thin.

Brings a tear to your eye, doesn’t it?

More of these stories, please!

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A Black Mom Is Pregnant for the Fifth Time and She’s Not Here for the Haters

There are families all over TV who are celebrated for having a ton of kids. There are teenagers on cable television having two and three children before they’re old enough to drink. Religions push people into not using birth control with the argument that humans are meant to populate the (overpopulated) earth.

But listen, when black or brown people hit the town with their broods that include more than two or three littles, the judgment is quick and harsh.

They couldn’t possibly afford all of those children. They couldn’t possibly be a nuclear family? They must be a drain on society!

No.

And Leslie Lewis, a black mother of four and curator of the popular Instagram account @TheLewis_Show, just couldn’t keep quiet when people began to make snotty comments on her pregnancy announcement for their latest addition.

Leslie is married to her husband, Joe, and together they have two sons, two daughters, a scruffy dog, and one on. the way. They are ridiculously cute, usually in adorable, matching outfits (even the dog!), and she has a strong following – but the haters were ready to pounce on her post about #5 joining the crew.

“So, I don’t usually publicly address the Negative Nancys and Pouty Pauls that find it necessary to judge my life choices. BUT a number of ppl have been commenting and even having the nerve to send me DMs regarding my pregnancy… ‘I thought y’all was done?’ ‘How can y’all afford 5?’

Listen here! I am a married ADULT! I have one baby daddy (This post isn’t by any means intended to shame OR  offend anyone whose situation is different). I don’t appreciate getting messages about birth control and questions like ‘How did this happen?’ SEX…Sex is how it happened.”

Her post has grabbed 65,000 likes and tons of comments in support of her decision to speak up, more than a few of whom mentioned the divide between how large white families and large families of color are treated.

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HAPPY MONDAY ??????????? I first off we want to send a huge Thank You! To all of you that responded to our Yahoo Article. We received so many positive responses and over 3k DM’s, I wish I could respond to all of you personally, but I just don’t have the capacity. Some of them were so touching and a lot of you mentioned, “It’s not about race”- and I’m realizing that some people truly believe that but, unfortunately, because of that pesky systemic racism and oppression in our society ITS ALWAYS ABOUT RACE. From the comments about the Duggar’s, John and Kate plus 8, and the Goslings etc… it had us thinking. Reality TV, these networks and production companies would feed off the drama of a single parent household, or Joe being married to 4 different women ( but he lightweight is with all these hair changes and mood swings ?) and had a bad past. Y’all want me to be fighting on TV so bad, but as a family we refuse to be portrayed in that light. Sell our soul to the devil for a contract. No ma’am or sir. We don’t want to be on TV that bad. We believe the right doors will open at the right time and you all will tune in to the love and light we will continue to portray! BRING BACK The images of BLACK FAMILIES ✊?? that was me yelling out loud my thoughts while typing this caption.. as I scrolled through our pics I realized, we are what ppl want to see but it’s too strong of an image to see on TV. We don’t have any real drama going on, damn it! Me:Joe let’s make some shit up to give the ppl what they want! Joe: F*** that! Me: My N!€€@ ✊? #TheLewisFamily #marriedwithchildren #Sf #Influencers #Real #BlackLove #TheCoordiNatedFamily #OldNavy #Blue #Yellow #HelloMonday #FashionFamily

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“Tell ’em sis! The Duggars captured 2.3M viewers. Now when brown and black families have large families, folks and their microaggressions assume we are exploiting the system,” said one person.

“This is definitely a ppl of color issue. No one questions white women when they have large families, hell it’s encouraged but ppl are always policing our brown bodies,” agreed another.

When Leslie spoke with Yahoo Lifestyle, she said that one woman’s comment in particular encouraged her to speak up.

“The last straw was when another woman felt the need to send me really hurtful messages assuming I must be on welfare and how I should be on birth control, etc.”

Leslie would like to use her platform and her influence to help normalize the idea that people of color, and working-class families across the board, are allowed to – and always have had – larger families.

“I have learned to use my platform to uplift families and women of color, and to use the criticism as fuel to meet and exceed my personal and family goals! Maybe one day we will get a reality show since there’s no families of color with multiple kids on TV that people can relate to.”

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“We see pictures, we say goals, Bish I’m who they trying to be! – ~Cardi!”(who else started head- boppin?! Lol ?) Real Talk .. Modeling your life after someone else’s will never work, especially when it comes to your relationship. I believe it’s a huge mistake to compare your partner to anyone else, that’s right ladies, not your brother, father, uncle, best friend…ANYONE. You have no idea what your favorite couples have gone through behind closed doors, what pain and dark moments they had to endure. Even the most beautiful “perfect” couples have made countless sacrifices and compromises to ensure the success of their marriages. We have been together for almost 2 decades, no one can imagine what Joe and I have been through that got us to this point in our relationship and it’s not over! It’s like your favorite songs, you play over and over but never realize the amount of studio time it took to polish it up. Love is so much more than a word, it is a multi-layered commitment to another person, I like to use Live Over Various Events,L.O.V.E…see what i did there? LOL. It’s a shitload of time, giving, FORgiving, learning, growing and patience. Joe can attest to my resilience, my support, my love, my cries, my laughs and my crazy psycho Cancer moments that he’s gotten used to…mostly. I have learned to get through his ignoring moments, being less affectionate than what I’m used to, leaving all the water on the bathroom sink and all the clothes on the side of the bed ? Send Help! This shit just didn’t happen over night, we are not a ‘one hit wonder’. We are the real thing, and after 18 years, we are still learning, evolving, and loving US. Every couple has to find their own groove and this is ours. #AnsweredPrayers #MyFamily #MeetTheLewis’ #HappyMonday #Message #BlackLove #CoordinatedFamily #BabyBumpin #Pink #Burgundy #Mauve Photo: @acktionemmages ?

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I don’t know about you, but I’d definitely be on board to watch these cuties (plus the little girl that’s coming soon!) run around being adorable and changing perceptions all over the world.

Do you think she was right to call out the haters? Why do you suppose people of color have to deal with more judgment surrounding a decision to have many kids? Let’s discuss in the comments!

Or, you know, we can also just talk about which of her family’s outfits are the best, but that road would be long and winding and never end, I fear!

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